Family: Question: Feeling held back and powerless?

Question: Feeling held back and powerless?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 01:21 PM PST

High school is coming to an end and there are so many things I've been meaning to do that, due to circumstances, I've not been able to do. I want to get my permit, I want to find a job, I want to make friends, I want to volunteer... My mom doesn't have a job but I still follow her time. I've been telling her I should get my permit. She agrees but whenever I bring it up or ask about getting the manual she promises we will but we never get around to it. I've resorted to online "cheat sheets" but they don't cover everything. I have no one else to take me places and I'm not allowed to do those things on my own. I'm fully prepared but my mom never is. Same thing with finding a job. I tell her all the time that that's what I want to do. I've been doing research and everything. But, we never get around to do it. We never get around to do anything. I feel held back, powerless, and unproductive. And these are just two examples of this happening. I am not blaming her. But, it seems that the things I want to do for myself are dependent on someone else's time. She's barely ever busy which is why I don't understand and am becoming frustrated. I've been having all of these plans in my head since the summer, but I'm still in the same place. I've tried talking to her about it but to no avail. What can I do?

Question: I'm SO mad I'm shaking?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 01:10 PM PST

I have never been this angry, I don't even know why we got in this fight. My little sister and I are fighting because first I confronted her about always taking my clothes without permission. Simple enough. No the little brat (she has anger problems) starts literally screaming. I'm not just saying screaming like yelling, I mean full out screaming bloody mary, voice cracking that she hates me, i ruin her life, i never understand her. Now she's used to me just giving up and walking away when she screams so she thinks when she screams like she does that I'm just going to leave. Today was the last straw and I screamed back at her just as she did to me. This obviously caught her off guard, no one has ever gotten me as angry as she just did. I don't even care about the clothes, the fact that I am five years older than her and she thinks she can scream at me like that and STILL continue doing what I told her not to because she raises her voice and I go in my room is something I'm not going to accept any longer. What gets me mad is that she thinks she is always right, if she does something wrong and I scold her or tell her not to do it again she screams again and says I'm downgrading her. What do I do? I'm shaking because I've never been this angry, how do I get her to stop?

Question: Does my sister "need" our father to step in as a parent?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 01:06 PM PST

I will start this off by saying my dad is childish and lazy. He put in the least amount of effort possible to parent us; making us watch tv all the time, buying toys, occasionally going to our school functions, but never taking us anywhere or letting us play outside. If we had a problem, we had to take it to our mom, because he just couldn't deal with us being "difficult." He also had anger issues and would verbally abuse us if we made him angry. My parents have been divorced for years, so even though my mom knows what my dad is like when he's angry (and has heard our stories for years) she still likes to think he's trying his best and is somehow worth keeping in our lives. Two years ago my sister and I moved out of his apartment to live at my mom's house full-time. We now see him for an hour on sundays. Now, my sister is having emotional issues, depression, suicidal, wants to run away, etc... and my mom and stepdad believe my dad needs to step in and help. I have no idea how he would help; he couldn't even "help" when we scraped our knees, when I had trouble in school. He can't even take care of himself. And if we told him any of this, he would assure us that none of this is his fault and he has no idea how to help. Right now I'm in between wanting to completely end contact with him (because frankly I don't deserve to have him in my life) or call him and tell him to step in as a parent. What do I do? Oh yeah, forgot to mention I'm an adult and don't need a dad, but I'm not sure about still keeping him in my life as family. I still get upset when I think of how he screwed up our lives, but my sister is still in high school and needs to be parented.

Question: How do I apologize?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 01:04 PM PST

My mom made me stay home instead of going to school because I'm sick, but I sneezed all over her and her cup of tea. She got mad and walked away. How do I apologize?

Question: Landlord stole from me?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 01:04 PM PST

I came home today and found that a memory card and a few games for my Vita were missing. I'm sure my parents didn't move them and we had an inspection today. What should I do about it? I really need them back.

Question: What to tell a grieving family about their gay relative ?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:58 PM PST

A friend recently passed away and his family discovered (by accident) that he was gay. Several of my friends knew this, but the family did not. They feel sad because he didn t confide in them (they have said they would have supported him). I m trying to think of what to say to them to ease, not only their grief, but their sense that he didn t share it with them. Thoughts ?

Question: How do i fix this rut i am in?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:57 PM PST

so my parents get on my nerves all the time they are always picking on me if its not about my grades ( i try really hard in school but still get only high 70's) and they say im getting fat and my hair looks bad and im a pig (because im disorganized because i have ADHD) and it brings me down and sometimes i feel a little depressed because it sucks going from a hard day at school to an even harder day at home and im trying to get a job because im 16 and i would like to pay for my own car because my parents can not afford to buy me one because neither are currently working and financial issues have been getting me down and im constantly bring compared to other people like my brother he is the 'golden child" because he is the first child and my parents always talk to eachother about how gross i am and just what a failure i am and my life just feels cluttered with so many things and i get called gay by my mom because i have never had a boyfriend even though im not gay just how do i get out of this life rut i feel like when i move out everything will start looking up for me but im in highschool so i cant move out for a while

Question: When Puerto Ricans put down white on census does it mean they are Spanish?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:51 PM PST

Question: What more is love than caring for another? Any lessons to share?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:27 PM PST

Question: Does he like me? Wants more?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:04 PM PST

I reached back out to a guy i went on a date with months ago just to hook up. (its been almost 2 years since i have done it). Since i reached out we have done it 6 times (in the past 2 months). All times he is cuddling with me A LOT (too much) and playing with my hair, kissing me on the forehead a lot, pulling my tight close to him to fall asleep and holding hands. He always asked me to text him when i get home and he would text me again the morning after asking how i slept/woke up/made it to work. One time i left in the middle of the night without saying goodbye. He texted me the next morning "Hey! You snuck out on me :)" like he was disappointed. He texts me every few days asking how i am doing. He finally called me. The past 2 times were more passionate and when i was leaving he pulled me in and said to cuddle for 5 more minutes. He told me he loves my smile and that he can't last long with me in bed. He does text me throughout the week even early morning to ask me how I'm doing. Kisses me when we meet and say goodbye. Now he has mentioned that he wants to hear about this class I'm taking over wine and cheese at his house. Sometimes he goes through periods of alone time. He's a doctor and busy, i work in finance and am busy. Hes 33 and I m 24. Is this a normal hookup? I think im showing signs that I'm not interested in more The only thing we haven't done is go out on a date date or not had sex when we hang. I haven't mentioned it.

Question: My life is a disaster and I need some advice please.?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:54 AM PST

Hi, well I just really need to rant here and I want some advice. I'm a seventeen year old female, throughout my whole life I've been mistreated and lied to about everything. As a toddler I was taken by CPS for issues that I do not know of as everyone has lied to me about "what really happened" my mother got me back and my brother remained in the foster home that he is to this day. Growing up was good until I reached thirteen, my mother had a job but she started to bring in men from dating sites in the household. I didn't like them, they were rude and mostly just wanted her for sex. I grew up fast, I only had my laptop, I stopped going to school which forced me to get homeschooled. So we ended up moving into a house, we got evicted, we went to live with my grandma, got a apartment, had to move cities, her boyfriend was abusive emotionally to me so I went to live back with my grandma using my mothers permission and I've been here ever since. Recently my mother came back a few months ago with her now husband that she has recently flewn town from. She got married to him after two months of being with him, mind you. I've dropped out of school forcefully as my mother stated she will not allow me to go to a new school. I have a long distance boyfriend. I have social and physical anxiety, I don't go outside, I have no friends, I've lived on metro my whole life. I feel as if I'd be better off dead, my grandmother is always worried about clothes, food and money. Ugh..

Question: My parents wont let me spend MY OWN money on a more expensive keyboard and mouse... Even though its my own money...?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:28 AM PST

Why will they not let me go for a more expensive option if I have the cash to do so? In the long run, it will be cheaper because they will last longer... They don't know the benefits of the keyboard and mouse, or the amount of research I have done to conclude the two products...

Question: I want to find out what is going on with my cousin but i don't want to pry. Should i try and talk to her when i see her on thanksgiving?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:24 AM PST

I used to have a close relationship with my cousins. I see them less often as they already started their families and i am the youngest of us three. The oldest, who is four years older than me, have been posting rather hateful and vague comments about her own family! I don't have social media so maybe she feels I have been fake towards her. But she's the one that will opt out of family events but complain like we didn't invite her. I'm not sure what terms i am on with her since i see her maybe once every couple years. I want to find out why she has distanced herself away from her own family. Why she thinks so poorly of us now. Considering it will be a step forward if she does come to our house for thanksgiving, how can i address her about this issue?? I don't want to pry but i want to show her family will always be there and that i will be available if she needs to vent rather than starting **** online with your own cousins!

Question: I hate my mom, she hates me, but still wanna ctrl me! im an adult, what should i do?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:21 AM PST

Question: My Mam wants me to fix a car I don t even get to keep? Am I selfish or is she ?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:54 AM PST

My Mam bought a car so could learn to drive, I pay petrol and she pays insurance, I don t get to keep it tho shenwill sell it when I get my own car. I ve been driving 1 year now and 2 months a go I was doing a uturn this guy crashed into me while trying to over take me in a park lot before this I checked my mirrors and started the turn then pressed call on my phone to ring my Mam so it looked like I was on my phone. i wasn t fully insured so I had to pay for my own car because I m a learner. My Mam and everyone I told this story knew it was the guys fault. How ever two months later I had a huge fight with my Mam and now she wants to sell the car first. Now that s fair enough it s her car she can do what she likes if she can t afford it anymore. BUT the dent in the door isn t fixed yet. originally I said I d pay half for the door because it s 500€ and i got to drive it but now if she s going to sell it why should I pay 250€ to get the car fixed. She said it s because the crash was my fault and she lent me the car and I broke it so now I have to fix it. I make 60-80€ a week because I m in secondary school so I can t work much, I pay for all my school books, trips, clothes, social life and anything else that involves money apart from house bills. The car will be worth about 2,500-3,500€ when it s fixed so if my Mam will get the money back for it, but I ll have just lost 250€. I ve had this conversation with her twice now and she still thinks I should pay. Advice anyone?

Question: Prevent family violence?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:53 AM PST

what is the difference between a support group and a support system

Question: Will my lack of relationship with my parents cause a lack of relationship between me and my future children?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:49 AM PST

Question: What is wrong with he use to be sane?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:48 AM PST

his name is Danny and we were friends since we were 4 and he got raped when he was 16 years old I help him and his family is ducked up his father wants nothing to do with him and his mom is a smack head she's a weirdo she does not care about Danny it was his grandparents that brought him. about a mouth ago we were drinking Danny tried to hit me I put him down till he calmed down then I walked out his door he tried to push me against the wall I put him down he banged his head I dragged him back in his house and I went home we fell back in the next day then he came to my house in a bad mood said he went to his dads house his dad told him to F*k off and they ended up fighting. and me and Danny went to his house he started breaking things and doing weird stuff and we ended up arguing he tried to hit me when my back was turn I put him down he bit me so I hit him we police arrested us and he says it was my fault and the last time I seen him I went to his house he was smoking weed with school boys and I told him I was going home then he started shouting gtf and calling me names he followed me and he was jumping about the school boys were laughing and him he jump in front of me and started shadow boxing then he hit me I lost my temper and punched him up and done I feel bad but it was in self defence I told him to leave me alone he betrayed me for no reason I have stop him from being bullied and I helped him when he got raped I was the only friend he had he's got issues

Question: Should my six yr old attend school where I work or in our neighborhood (so he has some local friends to play with)?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:33 AM PST

Question: How to let go of things?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:23 AM PST

I suffer from anxiety and OCD and find it so hard to let go of things. Due to my illness my sister and I are always getting into arguments and she always ends up swearing at me and even though afterwards she apologises I just can't let go of the situation. I think and think about what happened and how she swore at me and I just can't forget. I then will say something else to trigger her of and she will get mad again. I really don't know how to control myself better. I'm 25 and she is only 20 so I know I should try and be a better person but my illness holds me back

Question: Is it weird to do things with your parents?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:15 AM PST

Me and my parents do stuff like 2 or 3 times a week. Go places I mean. Restaurants or movies or things happening in our city. But my mom has been coming less cuz she got babies so now it's me, my dad and my cousins daughter and sometimes grandma and uncles. And my friends asked me to come out today and I said I couldn't cuz I was doing stuff with my family. And they said it was weird and one said we are like the Brady bunch. But we aren't like them. Is it really so weird? My friend said he hasn't been in public with either parent since 2012 when they went to a museaum cuz apparently vacations don't count as public Sometimes I'm forced to do family stuff but mostly I like it. Cuz its places I coukd nt go with my friends cuz my parents have more money than I do They families isnt monsters they're normal

Question: I want to see my brother's Penis?!?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:05 AM PST

I saw him busy masterbate while he was watching TV. He saw me and froze all he said was that I should not tel mom and I saw how hard his Penis was and now I just want to see it. He had this strange surprised smile grin on his face. as if he was waiting for it or maybe not. I don't to blackmail him just make him show it to me that's all. I'm 11 and he is 13.

Question: How to stop being a target of disrespectful behavior by guys and my family? I'm constantly being told negative things.?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:57 AM PST

I've simply NEVER had a boyfriend before! I already know I'm not attractive and my personality isn't interesting for a guy to take interest in me. I would describe myself as a bit shy and quiet. Even if I ever displayed a subtle level of interest in a guy they would start acting odd with me and avoid me. Personality wise ppl would describe me as easy going and amicable. Anyway, I gave up hope already that I would one day meet someone. However, guys are very disrespectful even when I keep to myself. For example, i was on an escalator one day, by myself, minding my business and this one guy further up in front of me saw me, nudged his friend, pointed at me and they both start laughing with each other. I felt so terrible the whole day someone would go out of their way to do that. Men constantly use words likes unattractive and ugly when they refer to me. My friend's boyfriend referred to me once as the "heavy friend" even my family says What man would ever want me. If a man takes interest in me its because I'm LAST option or its men in their late 30's to 40's who are married or whatever. How to avoid being a target of disrespect and maltreatment. Besides the fact, what else is wrong with me that I could prevent this from continuing to happen. I don't like being made someone's personal joke. I just don't understand anymore why me?! I'm tired of it! I do try be someone that ppl wouldn't be ashamed of. This is what I look like. https://www.instagram.com/luna_songz/

Question: I have a question about my life?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:47 AM PST

I know that I should be talking to my family, but I need some opinions please. I have a younger sister and she's about 12 years apart. My mom is single and working almost everyday usually. So there's been a struggle. I'm at a college and I have a few more years to graduate. Once I graduate, I am wanting to go to another state to go to grad school or med. But there's a problem, I don't know how my sister will be taken care of. She will almost be a teenager. But I must find a place to be on my own. I've been secluded in the house for many years, there are not many opportunities for me. What should I do??

Question: How can parents choose to miss out on their children's lives? how can they justify it?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:43 AM PST

Being a mother, I can simply not understand it. I would live in an igloo if it meant being with my baby. My daughter's dad (whom I was married to when she was born- we split when she was 9 months) says things like "well when she is 12 maybe she can stay with me for a week" She is 2 right now! How on earth can he justify not really being involved for the next ten years? I know he loves her, but I just can't wrap my mind around it

Question: My family and friends keep thinking that I should get a girlfriend, but I can't, and besides I won't. What do I do?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:36 AM PST

Not only do I have bad people skills, but I know fully well that dating and marrying isn't worth it if you're broke and you still have grad school ahead. As a grad student I know it'd be stupid to date when I most need to focus on just passing classes and working hard to get at least a half-decent job since most women worth their salt wouldn't date a broke grad school guy anyways, especially a guy who wants to be a professor since professors are considered low on the food chain anyways. Maybe they're desperate for me to date since I've always been single and a virgin by choice. So what do I say to them? I'm tired of them trying to say I should date and that being single, and probably not keeping any pets either, means my life will be miserable.

Question: Help my parents are gonna send me to arab military school.?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:21 AM PST

Im a 15 year old male and my parants found out i watch porn the other day. my dad broke my phone and my TV an my ps3 so i have nothing to do. i pretty much lost their trust. they say that they will send me back to algeria and go to military school. i dont wanna go please help!!!!

Question: Where to take my sister tomorrow for her birthday??

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:57 AM PST

My sister is turning the big 10 tomorrow. Its important to get because she realize that this is her first and last going into the double digit. She doesn t want a part, she just wants to be with her family which is 4 of us. My sister, little brother, myself and my boyfriend. She doesn t want to go to the cinema, bowling or chuck e cheese , ( we do that a lot)... We live in NJ. So were next to NY. But I don t know where to take her or just yo do something special at home. Any suggestions.

Question: 13 year old girl, fed up living with her father?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:57 AM PST

I turned 13 a few months ago and there has been so much tension between me and my dad, I have an older brother and a little sister. My mother is no longer in my life. My dad is just so protective of me, always asking me questions, doesnt allow me to where certain clothes and absolutely hates it when I wear makeup. He says that I don't need makeup because I am beautiful as I am, but he has to say that because he's my dad. There was a sleepover party last week Wednesday at this boys house, and his parents were there and there was a few girls and a few boys (we're all best friends) . He refused to let me stay over, he said I can go to the party but I couldn't go and I ended up getting a bit angry and swearing, which was a bit silly but he grounded me for 2 weeks and stopped giving me pocket money. I got my first period 2 days ago and I don't even know what to do, where to buy pads or tampons. Luckily I already have a few pads because they gave us free ones during sex ed, However, they're running out and I don't even want to tell my dad firstly because it's too embarrassing to tell him I got my period, I don't think he needs to or wants to know and secondly because I have not been talking to him properly for the last few days. I asked him yesterday if I could skip school because I don't feel well but he doesn't believe me

Question: Does my dad verbally abuse me?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:50 AM PST

My dad brings me down. He owns his own business at ipaintfish.com and he owns it from our kitchen table. We can t even sit down and eat there anymore! He says he makes $60,000 a year and I will never make that much, I will live in a trailer park and be f***ed. He yells and cusses at LEAST 5 minutes EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!! I don t have anywhere to go, if I tell my mom it s likely my dad will find out and I am afraid he will hurt me, and I don t have anywhere else to go to ask if it is verbal abuse. I also don t want to tell anyone because he provides food water and shelter. He says he bought my computer (the one I am using right now) but my grandmother (his mother-in-law) bought it for me along with my mom. They don t get along. Speaking of that, he sneaks blaming of her into a lot of things. Like when our oven was getting fixed, we found a bent thermostat. He said Oh, yeah, my mother in law must have done that when cleaning the oven. . She never even cleaned our oven ONCE! And I know it because I remember the second we bought that oven to the second he said that, nowhere has my grandmother even used the thing (except for the stove). Is this abuse/verbal abuse ?????

Question: What is a good age to stop kissing little brother on lips?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:50 AM PST

kind of a silly question. but my cousin and I were talking about it. I'm 17 and my brother is 5. I still kiss him on the mouth every now and then. I don't think it's weird necessarily because that's a form of affection. but I do think there's a certain point where you stop? I stopped kissing my mom on the mouth around 12 or 13. my dad never kissed me on the mouth. so idk.. what do you think?

Question: Is my daughter ungrateful?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:46 AM PST

So, I am traveling to see my 25 year old daughter and her family for Thanksgiving; they live appx 1000 miles away. She has known I was coming now for about 3 1/2 weeks. One day she sent me a text and asked if I was staying at her home. By this time I was 2 weeks away from my visit to see her. She tells me she has an air matttress that has a hole in it, but I could sleep on her couch. Im insulted to say the least and it has put a damper on my trip to the point where I am thinking about canceling. I am staying for 6 nights and cant understand why the couch is even an option that she would let come out of her mouth. She has a three bedroom with only two bedrooms occupied and the other is just a room filled with toys. She has told me on two occasions she would look for the hole, but forgot. When she finally took the time, now a week away from my trip, she said she couldnt find the hole and would have her fiance help her locate the hole. Its now thursday and I fly out Tuesday...haven't heard anything. Any thoughts?

Question: Last night used my mom s card to buy her a necklace locket without her knowing. and it was 90 DOLLARS?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:42 AM PST

btw im 13 and I put her email by accident so she'll get a email about it :(

Question: Trying to find out if my uncle has left a will?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:30 AM PST

Question: I don't like living with my dad,,,i feel uncomfortable what can I do?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 08:04 AM PST

Question: GF Is making Holiday planning a nightmare!! Help!!?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:27 AM PST

I have been with my GF for just about 2 years. both me and her fam have a dinner with guest on Christmas eve and opening presents @ 12pm. my family after presents turns on some music and starts a party. her family calls it a night after presents. my mother is the most difficult person on earth and dreads me leaving the family on days like this. (last year she cried when I left) gf parents are more understanding they are great and easy to work with in these situations. LAST YEAR: basically as soon as I got done with my dinner plate I had to excuse myself from my family and all our guest that were still eating to leave with my gf and go to her house. This was the first time I had to to this and it SUCKED! I didn't want to leave at all. Usually the people that are over with my family are friends that are home from college just for Christmas and that's the only time I get to catch up with them. friends that ive known since I was 5 years old. nobody was a fan of us leaving but we left. went to her place and opened presents. I love my GF family they are awesome. but the entire time I was upset I had to leave my house. so around 1:30 in the morning I drove the 35 minutes back to my house. most of our guest were gone and the party ended a hr later. The plan 4 this year? the same exact plan!! please help with ideas. I feel like if im not married I shouldn't be forced to do this. am I wrong? what do other couples do in this situation? me not seeing her fam is not a option for her.

Question: My mom hurts my feelings?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:25 AM PST

Every time she opens her mouth it s to tell me how no good I am. I fell back asleep for half an hour, and she yelled, cursed, and threatened me. She said she was done with me and everything I do because she said if I had trouble sleeping the night before it s because I chose to. She said she hopes she has a stroke and dies so I can live with the guilt of making her stress by having to wake me up. I should note I texted her and asked if she d wake me up in a half hour. I had a plate from breakfast, and she saw that and threw it on the ground. I asked her not to and she dug everything out from under my bed holding up a tshirt saying my filth (in an otherwise spotless room) is to it s max. I am writing a school report and asked if we can do this another time and she took a water bottle and poured it on the ground. She still tries to tell my 30 year old brother what he can and can not do. If I ask her to calm down she raises her fist and tells me "You may think I m a horrible mother, but I m so much better than any other mother in the world." After all of this I ll be really upset and she realizes and she takes my phone so I can t tell anyone what happened. Then she expects me to always immediately forgive her, or it starts all over again. I met a great aunt for the first time on the phone last month, and last week she was yelling at me and stopped to call my aunt to ask if I ever get mad at her when she yells at me. My aunt was really confused because she only talked to me once. I couldn't finish it all, but is this normal? When I hear her voice or coming near me I get so nervous. I told her this so we can figure out what the problem was, but instead, she made me pack a suitcase so I'd know how easy it'd be for her to make me leave. I'm 17 by the way. I love my mom, and I know I make mistakes, but to her my life is a mistake. I try not to do anything bad.

Question: I ground my stepson for 1 week he sneaked out??

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:15 AM PST

hello my name is James Adams and 2 years now i have a new wife and a stepson anyway my wife is out of the country for a lot of time ( 7 months) and i stay with Matt my stepson (he is 16) anyway last friday he bullied a kid at school and got detetion.i got really angry and told him that he was grounded for one week, he wasnt allowed to leave the house,and that including his friend's party.He got really angry.Yesterday was the party and my son sneak out of his punishmennt.When he got home i send him straight to his room. i am thinking to ground him for 1 month and his grounded terms will be not allowed to get out of his room no outings no phone no computer,tv no video games a lot of chores no deserts how that looks in u is gonna understand his wrong??I must punish him like this?? please tell me

Question: Good Presents For An Outdoors/Hiking Lover?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:11 AM PST

Hi! Christmas is approaching quickly, and I'm looking for a gift to get my dad. He loves hiking (we live near the Appalachian Trail, and he's always in the mountains) and anything outdoorsy, really. He also loves to cook and exercise (lifting and distance running.) He hates frivolous "stuff", so I'm trying to find him something that he'll use that's still personal. Any tips?

Question: Why is this?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:09 AM PST

Why does this always happen to me? It's nothing bad it's just weird. I'm a girl/17. Like ever since I was very little I'd always feel an attachment to some people, it wasn't just any person, it'd just be someone I meet; and right off the bat when I met them I'd feel something special towards them. Like in 2nd grade, I was so in love with my teacher (Mrs.Marback) like I always wanted to be around her and tell her I loved her and always wanted to just show her she was special to me. Or another example, I had a new principle (mr.simon) at a new school, I just had a special feeling toward him. I wanted to get recognized by him and be around him and just make him proud, show him that he had a big impact on my life. I met my moms friends dayla and I just loved her so much, always wanted to be around her & have her attention & show her I really cared for her. My last example, I met my hairstylist a year ago (Johnson) he just met so much to me the moment I met him. Why is this?? Why do I feel this special feeling toward certain people I meet? Like they feel special to me right away and I don't know why. Help?

Question: How to deal with a rude sister?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:08 AM PST

hi, these days my younger sister is changed towards her attitude. She's driving me crazy every single day ! I can't stand it anymore! she disrespects me and treats me worse everyday , whenever we get into a fight she acts innocent around my parents and says it's my fault , she also keeps teasing me and making me so mad ! she laughs for ridiculous stuff and laughs so loud in the bus ! she is also kind of selfish and doesn't really care about me at all! Yesterday i got so mad when she insulted me with really bad words since we got in a fight over the laptop cuz she wanted it all for herself and didn't believe me when i said i need it for homework! sometimes we even hit each other and then she starts screaming and crying at the same time! my parents are always by her side just cuz she's younger ! i would really appreciate it guys if you could help me with this situation. thank you :-)

Question: Which do you think is a better response to end boyfriend blackmailing me? ?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:03 AM PST

He is harassing me me saying if I don't give it back or give him money he will ask my mother, and tell her everything. This is what I was going to say, No1...This relationship is over. I threw it in the river behind your apartment. I have nothing to do with that way of life anymore. I have spent thousands supporting your addiction, which you drag others into, including me. My mother is now aware of everything and what occurred on Saturday night. Don't disrespect my mother further than you already have, worrying her and driving her around erratically in the car to find your fix. Stop contacting me. No2...I threw it away as I was running for my life away from you. I have no part in that life anymore. My mother is aware of everything that has happened including Saturday night. She is not going to be disrespected further by being involved in drugs in any shape or form again, after Saturday night. Leave me and my family alone. No3... talking for over an hour in Italian in front of me when I have told you many times to stop disrespecting me this way. To eat continuously behind me and hand me a few pieces of food like I am a a dog My mother is now aware of everything and what occurred on Saturday night. Don't disrespect my mother further than you already have, worrying her and driving her around erratically in the car to find your fix. She is not having anything to do with drugs or money to do with drugs. If you have any better response please let me know

Question: Is it healthy to do holidays with your ex husband/wife and ex in laws?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 06:58 AM PST

Is it healthy to do holidays together with your ex wife/husband and former in laws if you have since remarried and the person you remarried is a much better parent to your children and your ex constantly yells at you and tries to control you?

Question: What is wrong with my mother?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 06:45 AM PST

my mother...... -has always been incapable of holding a phone conversation even though her hearing is fine. she will just say what she wants then say i gotta go and hang up on the person. -will cause problems between my siblings and i and say we said bad things about one another when its a lie -will cause problems between my step dad and i and say we said bad things about one another when we didnt -will harass us to spend time with her but when we do she only wants to do what she wants to do and talks only about herself never asks about how we are doing or genuinely cares -will demands i come over to her house on my one day off to spend time with her only to watch her ignore me because she will either watch tv or sleep and not even talk to me or do anything with me

Question: A mature question?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 06:32 AM PST

If a 21 year old girl said "i will date you but nothing serious" does that mean she wants to sleep around??? i know this question is too straight forward but let's be honest here

Question: Is my mother's behavior normal or not normal?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 06:27 AM PST

I need an answer from people who feel they have a "normal" relationship with their mothers- I'm testing a theory about my mother's mental health and need to know if her behavior is normal or not normal. So about 3 mos ago she gave me a curling iron that she didn't really like because it came up in conversation that I was going to buy a curling iron as I don't have one. (this part is normal) Well, it turns out I didn't really like the curling iron either so I went out and bought one that I liked. I put the curling iron she gave me away until I decide what I want to do with it. The one I bought I put out in a basket where I keep my hair dryer. Keep in mind that my mother doesn't live with me so she won't be seeing this until she comes over at Thanksgiving with the rest of my family. My mother is a very detail-oriented person so I know she'll notice...but this is where I question normality- I also know she will get mad at me. Would a normal mother get mad at something like this? Just the facts that I'm even asking this question and expecting her to get mad throws up red flags. But I just need to know from others. Would any other mother act like this??? I actually expect my mother to accuse me of being ungrateful just because I don't have the curling iron (she didn't want-and that she gave me) out on display with the one I bought for myself. Oh, and because I even went out and bought one for myself- she will consider that a personal attack.

Question: Does he serve to go to prison?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 06:01 AM PST

My stepdad's always been good to me and spoiled me, but then he touched me and I reported it but I recanted because I was told to by my grandmother. He feels really sorry because even though I recanted, they still convicted him. I don't want him to go to prison...

Question: Why am I so happy?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 05:14 AM PST

As most people I believe we do have spans of happiness before something happens and we get upset, I did used to have such cycles of happiness. It was like a week of happiness before 2 days of being unhappy and another week of happiness in a cycle. But now, I feel like I m just so happy. Like even talking a walk to school I feel so happy. I look at the grass and feel happy. I meet people in school and feel happy. I look at my family members and feel happy. I have never been so happy before. And this happiness have lasted for quite a long time. It s as though I have taken crystal meth or something I m so happy I can t fall asleep, I m just so happy sometimes I talk to myself. I see no evil in people, even if I see evil in people some characteristics of them convince me that they re not. Could it be that because I am in a school where there are short hours of studying and low stress levels that I am this way? Or could it be that I ve developed a new way of treating myself that I feel so good? Could it be because my puberty have ended?

Question: What can I get my mother in law for by her birthday?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 05:13 AM PST

I haven't had the time to go to the store because my son's been sick and I've been back and forth to the doctor. Today that I didn't go to work because I have the day off, it's her birthday and she worked. So it gives me plenty of time to get her something. But she is so picky. I was going to give her a pair of earrings but she already has a pair that my sister in law gave her. She is picky on clothing and I already gave her a little jewelry box with a ballerina and it's cute. She has my picture in there with the ballerina. I don't want to give her anything exaggerated but something unique she will like. She will be 54. I'm just not good at gift giving.. I was thinking about giving her new slippers and a robe because hers is old but my sister in law already got her that. Yes, she always gets to her first.. so is the paid of earrings a good idea? Any advice would be helpful.. thanks in advance. Have a nice day today.

Question: Funny teenage years (or not)?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 03:52 AM PST

When I was 14, my mom wanted to get my ears pierced. I said no... she says, you are. So I punched her in her mouth, she flew back, and I said.. You want to try again ? I'm not getting my ears pierced because I said so, and if you touch me, I'll knock your head off. She gets up off the floor, goes into the bathroom, cleans her mouth out... etc etc.. She tells me to get out. I was gone for 36 hours. She calls me back on my cell phone, says she wants to talk to me. She says to me... You're a grown up man now... you go do what you want you do... But you better go out there and bring home a paycheck or money, because I don't support grown men. I asked her if there is anything else to talk about, about life between now and until I'm 18.. She said "no there isn't, you go do whatever you want, without any support or advice from me and without letting me know about it because I don't want to hear it anyway".. And when you're 18... I want you out of my house... In fact... if you decide you got the balls to leave before then, and you can... I want you out right then and there... And when you're in this house... you keep your grown man *** in the garage. That's how I ended up finding my dad. Is she right though about what she did about 15 years ago ?

Question: Why do people make fun of me for living with my parents?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 03:22 AM PST

I'm 21 and I have a job. I support the family with my dad

Question: My friend's dad ground me?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 03:20 AM PST

So, i live with my friend and his dad for 2 years because my dad is in prison and my mum had left us when i was nine (i am 17).So my friend's dad is a very good person and appricate that, but yesterday i got suspend because i had skiped school with my girlfriend.He told me that he is responsible for me after i live with he for 2 years and he said that he is sorry but i will be grounded for 2 weeks.Can he punish me ??? I mean he is responsible for me?? Can he punish me?? ps: my grounding terms are not allowed to get out from my room no tv chores ps: i am little mad but i love him like he is my father i dont know is fair?? please help

Question: Why is my mother such a hypocrite?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 03:14 AM PST

Yes, I know that every person is sort of a hypocrite because we only view life through our own eyes, but I feel like my mum has a special talent of it. Here are some examples: She'll yell at me and call me worthless, and then when she's calmed down she'll talk about how I shouldn't be angry/yell at her She tells me all my friends are better (even though most of them are in lower sets) then tells me I should make friends with better than me. She tells me I'm fat to get me to exercise, but then tells me I have to eat as much as I could She tells me my english sucks but she can't understand a health notification form that I had no trouble understanding when I was in year 4. She tells me I should be multi-talented but berates me for learning the drums and guitar etc... And it just frustrates me so much because when I try to tell her that she'll just explode and start yelling some more. And I'm just so sick of it. I get that everyone's a little hypocritical, but my mum's double standards are all over the place here.

Question: If my Puerto Rican grandparents are list as white, could that mean they are Spanish?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 03:03 AM PST

Question: Where to store my belongings while jogging?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 02:39 AM PST

So the things I need to take with me are my keys (to get back home after that), my cell phone, a pack of hankies (I've got a runny nose), an inhalator (I've got asthma and don't leave the house without one). Not all my jogging clothes have pockets and even if they do, I can feel the stuff bulk up the pockets and cause discomfort while moving. Not to mention I hear my keys jingle at every step which is annoying. Any suggestions? Update: Any *cheap* suggestions?

Question: Is there any hope for my violent brother?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 02:22 AM PST

I dont want to go into detail, but toi cut a long story short, i used to be violent and homophobic. One night i beat up homosexual man and when his female companion stood up to me i raped her. I was convicted and sent to prison. Ive been out a few months and im disturbed at how like the old me my brother is. He constantly resorts to violence at the drop of a hat, he is extremely homophobic and he has no respect for women. I try to tell him that violence is never the answer and that homosexuals and women are as deserving of respect as anyone, but he simply wont listen. I fear he will follow in my footsteps and end up hurting or even killing someone. Is there anything i can do to show him that prison is the easy part and the true pain comes when you understand the harm you cause?

Question: How do I get my mom to change her mind about making me wear a dress for the hollidays?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:45 AM PST

I need to get my mom to stop buying me dresses that I won't even like. The story behind this question is that I am a 12 year old transboy who has started transitioning earlier this year. I've come out to my mom, but the only time she ever calls me by my perferred name is to just clear my absences for school. Since Thanksgiving is coming up, my mom decided to bring up an agreement she made with me from six years ago, which was when I first started to only wear masculine clothing. I had forgotten about that and thought she moved on from what was done when I was six years old. When she first mentioned it, I just ended up tearing up and staying quiet the rest of the time I was aroumd her. She's brought it up many times this month and it's just had an impact on me. I feel lile she's trying as hard as she could to get me back to being her "little princess" that she even ended up buying me a book called "Always My Daughter, Now My Friend". I just want her to stop thinking that because I'm a minor, she can have me like a doll and dress me up how she wants to and thinks I have no feeling toward it. I usually put people's happiness before mine but that has a consequence. Obviously, I want my mom to be happy and proud of me. I just want her to stop being proud of me for someone who I'm not and thinking of me as just a doll with no feelings. Sorry for any misspelled words, my phone doesn't have spell check.

Question: Why does my mum always make me feel so worthless?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:33 AM PST

My mum always just puts me down. Don't get me wrong, we have our good times, we have the times when we go shopping and we're laughing at some lame joke, but whenever she gets mad, she just makes me feel like a piece of crap. She always starts talking about how I'm stupid, comparing me with other kids and telling me how dumb I am (even though this particular kid she was comparing me with was actually in a math class lower than me) and telling me all these horrible things. She usually tells me that all I am is a burden, and how I'm as unworthy as my grandmother, (on my dad's side) and how if she went back in time she would definitively not have me. She'll consistently tell me I'm fat, but get mad at me if I don't eat. And also, she would sometimes just tell me to kill myself because at least that'll save the money they're spending on my tuition. Every single time that this happens, I'll just break down and cry. I'm sometimes a pretty emotional person, but the fact that your parents (who are supposed to be the ones who love you unconditionally) are the ones who made me want to kill myself more than anything else. Usually, a few days after, she'll go back to normality, and act like nothing happened. I can't move out because I'm only 13, and I feel like every single thing she says to me just makes me feel more and more worthless, and sometimes I even wonder whats the point of living if even my mother hates me.

Question: I'm 18 yrs old PLEASE help ):?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:20 AM PST

Ok, I'm a 18 year old guy, I would appreciate any responses.. When I was 15 years old my dad died so me and my mom moved 500 miles away from home to the beach. I left all of my family, only my mom and 3 out of 5 siblings live here, I've made a new life, but I feel lost and really miss my family of 30+ people. I want to move back, but being that I lost my dad, the last thing I want to do is leave my mom! What makes more sense to you? Move back to my home town, but leave my mom, or stay here? I love it here, I have the beach, but like I said I feel lost, and I miss my family! What would you do? Please respond

Question: Why do certain people feel special to me as soon as I meet them?

Posted: 18 Nov 2015 11:02 PM PST

Why does this always happen to me? It's nothing bad it's just weird. I'm a girl/17. Like ever since I was very little I'd always feel an attachment to some people, it wasn't just any person, it'd just be someone I meet; and right off the bat when I met them I'd feel something special towards them. Like in 2nd grade, I was so in love with my teacher (Mrs.Marback) like I always wanted to be around her and tell her I loved her and always wanted to just show her she was special to me. Or another example, I had a new principle (mr.simon) at a new school, I just had a special feeling toward him. I wanted to get recognized by him and be around him and just make him proud, show him that he had a big impact on my life. I met my moms friends dayla and I just loved her so much, always wanted to be around her & have her attention & show her I really cared for her. My last example, I met my hairstylist a year ago (Johnson) he just met so much to me the moment I met him. Why is this?? Why do I feel this special feeling toward certain people I meet? Like they feel special to me right away and I don't know why. Help?