My husband and I have been together for the past 2years, and recently got married 8 months ago. We have a 1 year old together, and everything seemed about dandy and fine, arguments here and there about certain situations things. Well anyways we recently moved into our new home, because we were going through financial hardship in the past, because he lost job and now with this new job he doesn't make enough to provide because I forgot to mention he has another kid a 6 year old he has to pay child support.long story short. My husband had told me once in an argument he wasn't ready for non of this and that it was best we get a divorce.we moved past that, but now in our new home I started noticing sudden changes like he started worrying about his appearance he started resenting love and affection towards me when brought up he denied and say we are just busy people, we'll my gut feelings and our free time did not say or see finally brought up again, and he told me he loves me but right now he's not sure if he knows how to love me or can even love me! he tells me our relationship moved too quick. He wants me to go with my mother if I choose to because it be to awkward for us to be around each other at home, I said I would be out his life for good first thing after workand he said ok and then he says I don't want to fuss or make asceneaboutit when you leave tomorrow and I said don't worry I don't fight for someone who isn't there for me anymore and his last response was yeah I know.

Im 23 ... im in a relationship for 4 years with lots of ups and downs...although we had many problems,we overcame all of them together.. I love him so bad and I know he has strong feelings for me.. I want to spend rest of my life with him actually I can't live without him..I don't want to talk about it to make him uncomfortable or feel like I wanna stick to him but I like to show him indirectly that im ready to be his wife.. Can you help me please and give me ways to make him mine forever(marriage)?

I still love her and she wont talk to me. She has a new partner but wont even be friends with me. It hurts me so deeply. Separation seems to be a theme in my life. i have separated from others or been separated due to circumstances, never to speak to them again. this time hurs the most because she can talk to me, she has my contact info and even knows where i live...but she wont even reply to my messages. My first love... I cannot eat and all I see in my mind is her beautiful face and her soul and personality influences my day, its like she is here but she obviously doesnt want to be near me and it hurts. I hope for a day when we can reconcile but i have no idea when or if that will ever happen. What if it never happens will i always see her in my mind ?

My marriage is bad, for many years now, but we've stayed together for our son (almost 7 years old). Together we rent a house in a decent neighborhood where he goes to school and has his friends. Apart we would each have to rent a small apartment, hoping we could afford one in the same neighborhood where he goes to school and has all his friends. If we couldn't, then not only would his parents be divorcing, he'd also lose the rest of his stability, ie, same school and friends. My husband and I fight 99 percent of the time, and even when I try to control it, my husband doesn't. He'll also fight with our son which causes more arguments with us. I know that's not good for our son, but neither is losing everything he has. Marriage counseling is not an option at this point as we literally cannot afford it and honestly are too far gone for that. At one point a public argument ensued because my son was throwing a fit about not wanting to eat a specific thing (what kid doesn't?), and after my husband and I bickered about it, causing him to go to the car, my son asks me, 'when can we leave daddy?' (he has friends whose parents are divorced). But on another occasion when I said out of frustration, 'I cant do this anymore, I can't live with your father!' He says "no I don't want to live away from daddy". I shouldn't have said that in front of him but I was so upset at that moment. My point is though, those words indicate he wants us separate but doesn't at the same time. What is best??

We have been married for 16 years, we are in our early 40's but he was never that sexual dude or crazy to do it daily. He was also very "quiet" in that aspect and I was fine and accepted him like that. But c'mon now I feel myself more sexual hungry than never. Now, I don't feel attracted to him anymore, no like it was. Several things disgust me (little things during the day and the routine)... I don't know if i am in a toxic relationship or what? A fact is we don't love each other anymore. We care for each other, we don't really have long conversations other than "how was your day?" And simple questions or complaints about our day.

My wife is 6 months pregnant with our son. It's our first baby. Whenever she gets her ultrasound she cries she wishes her mom and dad could be here to see him. She lost her parents a few years ago. Me her brother and her aunt are the only family she has. When she goes to her ultrasound she feels lonely. How can I comfort her ?

I dated this guy back in college. We started talking as friends recently, and I found out he is married. I told him I was really happy for him. A few days went by, and he asked to meet me for coffee. The conversation started to escalate, so I just stopped talking with him. I thought we could've been friends like we used to be, but I don't think he is willing to be just friends. Why do some married men think that single women are so desperate we'd take any guy?? married or not?? Single people have more options. Why would a single person go for a married person just to be held back from someone that they can have a real life with? That's like settling for a hot dog when steak is also an option.

I had sexual relationship with a married coworker for mine. I found out she was married when we were going to have sex at her place for the first time. I saw wedding photos and decided to cancel out on her. She threatened to file sexual harrassment so I gave her what she wanted because I got scared. This went on for a few weeks. I got a new job and left her. Sadly, she found where I work and told me she can easily get me fired at my new job if I don't do as she says. Knowing her, she hates losing. She loses her mind when things don't go her way. If I tell her husband, she will twist the story and turn it against me. I turned her down and she told me she is giving me one last chance or else I will be out of work.

Every time I go out with a friend, he cops an attitude and relentlessly texts me whenever I am out, asking me when I'm coming home. Tonight I met a new coworker (she's a female) and she offered to take me out for drinks with her and her friend. I told me husband about my plans, so he asked me if he could meet her. He didn't know she was a female until I introduced her to him. He wants to meet ALL of my friends and know where I am at ALL times. It's annoying. One time he was waiting outside on the balcony waiting for me to arrive.

We ve been married 2 years now. We are young, 24 and 23. I know life happens, we have a 15 month old girl and I m about to have twin boys. But from the start I ve been going along with whatever he decided and giving up quite a bit for promises that I haven t seen fulfilled. I am a down to earth person who just enjoys day dreams.I know when my expectations are too high, so I understand things like not being able to have the big pretty wedding and opting for a court house wedding. I ll wait for a vow renewal. But when are promises no longer good enough? Since we got married things have been rough. He s used to a much nicer lifestyle than me, but I m not used to going without or being in debt either. So over the course of time that life kept happening, and he promised to work hard, I haven t gotten even a little bit of help from his side to pay the debt he has promised to take care of. He simply tells me not to worry, that it will be taken care of, asks me to bear with a year or two of hard life so he can do whatever to make a life for us later. I m sick of waiting on him to make good on all these promises. Half the time he s unemployed and I don t see him trying to get anything done. I feel NO motivation from him to get anything done either. His excuse most of the time is he s trying not to be stressed out by all of it. 2 years, not nearly enough results. When should I not feel guilty for saying I don t trust him to support us? I already cant say he s trying his best.

My wife was watching a movie last night that upset her. It was about 3 young girls who were abducted for 10 years. It really scared her but she was so addicted she couldn't stop watching it. She said this man kinapped the first girl he raped her he bought her a puppy but she tried to escape he killed the puppy right in front of her. Then he got her pregnant he wouldn't let her have the baby he hit her until she lost it. The next girl he got he did nothing but rape her. The third girl he didn't really do nothing to her. He raped the girl while her mother was dying I don't think she knew until she escaped. This was a true story it happened in our state. She said she can't trust men anymore she wants to take a break for a while she doesn't know if she can trust me. She wants to move back in with her aunt. She said after we have this baby we're never having sex again she doesn't want anymore kids. We did have sex this morning she was crying because she was scared. She had an awful time sleeping last night. She called her aunt to come over and stay. She slept with her I slept on the couch. She's doing better tonight but that is one movie she's never watching again. She's still not sure about sex or having more kids. How can I help her feel better ?

He gets very upset if I work later than I m scheduled and if I go out with friends it s a fight. I ve lied several times just to get out. It s awful and making me depressed. Am I a selfish asshole?

He was cheating on me with her and right when I fond out and left him he seemed to get into a relationship with her. Two months later she somehow got my number, and called me just to say that they both got tested and havent got their results yet but the doctor said something was weird about it when they got tested...which makes no sense to me, but whatever, I said thanks for letting me know. She told me I should get tested. She was impatient and kind of rude the whole time, so that was a sign her calling me wasnt out of the kidnness of her heart but rather she wanted something else out of calling me. Keep in mind I never knew or spoke to her ever before this.

just curious but its killing me to know, thanks !

Again my wife is on this trip where she thinks that there are certain things she's just not suppose to do. Tonight she walks in room I was in and asked me if I was going to go pick up here son from work? I told her was there something wrong with her picking him up. She thinks the gas in her car is so valuable and mine isn't. His job is 4 miles down the road. She has always had this thing to where women shouldn't be out after a certain time cause it's just unsafe. She then walks away in a huff cause now she can't just put on her pj's and crawl into bed while I stay up late and go get him. A few minutes later she comes back into the living room and asks me was there a problem with me picking up my clothes in the morning? We usually just throw our dirty clothes on a pile in the floor and she usually picks them up and takes them to the laundry room. Granted, when the alarm goes off in the morning she runs straight to the shower and I'm the one making up the bed every day and then placing all 15 or 20 pillows back on it. I'm not just making up my side, I make the whole bed but now she has a problem picking up all the dirty clothes which usually is just a pair of pants or a shirt and some socks. Is she just being lazy to get me to do the things she doesn't want to do then play the woman's card like "it's just not safe for me to be out after a certain time." She doesn't have a problem leaving the house in the morning in the dark to go to work 16 miles away but going 4 miles down the road is unsafe for a woman to be out by herself.

Since I have dated my husband he didn t get hard unless I stimulated his penis, it hasn t bothered me but now it does, I m getting verry insecure, I know im beautyful and he loves me, I know he loves my personality aswell and the sex is great but I can t take it anymore I m worried now Golly me look we are newly weds and I don't know much about sex therefore I'm asking I only had one other guy and that was when I was much younger after that I saved my self for marriage so please no judgement

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Yesterday after an eventful week at work. My husband asked me how my day was, and I told him it was rough, and I explained that my boss is being difficult and exercising her power more than usual, she is usually nice but lately she has been bitchy and difficult. I also, told him that I have co-workers that I trust and we all talk and that they have had the same experience with the same boss. My husband proceeded to give me advice saying don't trust anyone, don't say a word about your grievances. I acknowledged that he is right but these particular friends I trust, and they share their grievances so I am not worried about them, but he still kept saying "don't trust anyone. I maintained that they were cool, he then said but you also said your boss was nice and now look she flipped. I explained that she is different I have never had a re pour with her than I do with my two co-workers so I would never share my grievances with my boss either way we have never had that type of relationship so I am clear who to trust and not to trust. The whole point was to address how my day was to give me the opportunity to vent. So i asked him how did this turn from me venting to being badgered about how I view people. So he got angry and said don't talk to him anymore about it if he can't give advice. I don't get where his frustration came in. And this seems to always happen when I am venting he starts to debate with me about how I feel. What is your advice about this situation?

My wife and I have been married for 7 years. I paid for her to go to nursing school and as well become a nurse practitioner. During this time she was working for about 2 years of it. She is out now and making good money. I provided for her and paid for her school while she went and she is now making similar to what I make. I am an engineer who has always wanted to be a doctor.. so I decided I want to make the step to med school since we are financially stable with her new job. She outright refuses to let me pursue this dream. What can I do? I'm a biomedical engineer. It's a common prerequisite to med school

Hey! Right now im in a situation I dont know how to deal with. Me and my gf got married on Sept. 15 2016 after she got divorced on August 2nd '16. She and her Ex were together for 7/8 yrs. I know thats a long time and they probably went through a lot together and also created memories so I cant really be selfish there. Everything has been good after we got married. She didnt talk to him or anything like that and I was about to get my trust towards her back. But yesterday I found out that she emailed him behind my back. Telling him that she misses him and working out and that he will always have a part in her heart and that she will always be here and that shes sorry for hurting him (she cheated on him with me) and that she still wants to be friends with him. But thats not all..she also created another email to contact him hoping I wont find out. I kinda understand why shes doing it behind my back because every time she would tell me that she feels like messaging him just to see if hes okay or even after she did I always got really mad to the point where I didnt wanna talk to her. So im kind of at fault too cause shes scared to talk to me about it. But my trust kind of faded again. I really dont know what to do. We already talked and she said shes going to stop but I dont have a good feeling about it. Can someone give me some advice besides leaving her? Cause thats not going to happen! Would you allow ur wife/ husband to stay friends with her ex? Or let time pass first?

My boyfriend is thinking about joining the Air Force, I m a senior in college and he just graduated and is thinking of joining the Air Force. We ve been together since my freshman year of college and says that he for sure wants to marry me and I m confident in our relationship. I met a woman in my class my freshman year of college who was a military wife and said to never get married to man in the military , it s like being committed to someone but single and those words stuck with me and makes me so nervous about him joining. We plan on getting married once I graduate this spring and start our lives and he says this will be a good way for us to be stable but I m very confused. I m very close to my younger brother and parents and I couldn t imagine leaving them behind just for him to always be away, I m very confused!!

she says she has changed but I don't believe her, do women like this ever be trustworthy? @dave--she might have spunk but can you trust her, most say no :(

I had an affair with a married woman and got caught. My wife told me to leave the mistress alone but I haven't. My ex-mistress and I occasionally text and meet for lunch. I am not in love her, I just like her company when together.

My husband has a child with a woman he dated before he met me. She is 3 years old now, and he has been paying court ordered child support on her since she was 6 months old. He has also had visitation with her since that age and has since gotten her every other weekend and split holidays. When child support and visitation was established, the court also established the child to have her name changed to his last name, because the mother had previously given the baby her own last name. The mother willingly signed the petition to have the childs name changed, and my husband currently has a copy of the new birth certificate with his last name as the child s name. The mothers maiden name was completely removed from the child s on the new certificate. However, now the mother is saying its too big of a step to change the child s name, and she isn t ready. So the child s name remains with her last name on her social security card (which does not match the new birth certificate) and she is aware of this fact. Can my husband push to have her change the child s last name on the SS card to match the birth certificate? And if so, how?

I want kids before I turn 40. I'm in my late 30's. I also I want to go back to work. My hubby and I want to possibly buy another new home with our limited budget. I feel stuck! I feel like I'm cramming so much stuff in all at the last minute. What do I do?

Like if your names is Mary Louise Jones and your hubbys name is John Johnson, can you change it to Mary Louise Jones-Johnson or do you have to omit something? ??

My wife has been in prison for the last 2 years, and she has 13 more years left of her prison sentence. I have needs too and they don't even allow furloughs or congecal visits... I get so desperate sometimes and need a womans touch.. I have been patient enough ... I have tried watching porn and pleasured myself but as we all know it doesn't even compare to the real thing... What should I do? Idk if I can wait another 13 years to get sex... I have NEVER cheated on my wife but a man has needs ....

My husband & I have been married for 20 yrs & we have had our ups & downs, but this yr everything has come to its peak. My husband I have expressed we still love each other, but my husband states that he needs to find himself. Is there any suggestions to aid us on how to help him with trying to find himself? We have children with the 19, 16, & 11; anyone who has children know that they can addstress on a marriage. I know once we are past this stage & are left with us, we can make it.

Im 23 year's old... im in a relationship for 4 years with lots of ups and downs...although we had many problems,we overcame all of them.. I love him so bad and I want to spend rest of my life with him..I don't want to talk about it to make him uncomfortable. Can you help me and give me ways to make him mine forever(marriage)?

or should I just give up since I'm past 40 and it still hasn't happened. My dad used to always tell me when I was in my twenties that I would be married before 40 but he was wrong.

Me and my wife were watching a movie it was about a girl who was abducted in our state for 11 years. She just saw the part where the guy raped her the first time. She said she doesn't want anymore sex. After we have our baby she never wants sex again. The guy bought her a puppy and killed it right in front of her. She said she's gonna have nightmares tonight. He also kidnapped another girl. She's so upset she wants to throw something at the tv. She's shaking really bad she wants a divorce. We've only been married for 4 months. How can I calm her down ?