I have these husband and wife friends. She is a very hot woman. Now I met them a couple years ago and I'm sure they were married several years before I met them. They just had a baby not too long ago. Now how could her husband resist not having sex with her right away? Her husband is a very religious man. Now if I were in his shoes I would be on top of her right away. How was he able to wait to have sex with her?

He says That's a man secret.. He dont tell that to a woman.. a woman can try to act as that woman even when she not her.. certain qualities will show... that's a hint for you... lol What exactly is he saying? Is he joking or is he serious?

I know alcoholics can have mood swings and say mean things but so do people with dementia. Isn't divorcing an alcoholic just as mean as divorcing an Alzheimer's patient? @Anonymous---But alcoholism is a severe mental disorder just like Alzheimers. @Robert----It has a lot of similarities with Alzheimers. Obviously the difference is Alzheimers patients cannot recover, some alcoholics can, others cannot (alcoholism is like cancer that way). Alcoholics have mood alterations they cannot help like Alzheimers patients though. We have to remember it is NOT them, it is their disease.

She even immitates me when I stutter. He just got engaged to her and they will marry next spring.

Why can't kids have equal relationship with both parents?

I have been married for 11 years and my husband controls how we have sex. It really sucks because his sex drive is so low its crazy. We have sex once a month {actually started tracking it} on the one day when the wind blows and he thinks about it. I tried not giving in when he starts but then I feel like if I dont we wont have sex again for a while so I just give in. We spoke about it and he is stressed because we dont have a lot of money and things are tight all around with us. Im 5 1, a dancer, in good shape and love to have fun. So im full of energy and life

I love caring for others and making them happy even babies. I enjoy cooking and cleaning and helping others out with stuff I can help them with. I'm a caring person and I even care about my Dad and help him out when I can .( my siblings don't do that and not a caring person like me ) I'm 25 and married . I was thinking about mothering cats but I don't know if that's enough . I don't want to make a mistake having a child .. does it sound like I'm the mothering type ? Or is all this caring normal for woman who aren't mothers .

I went to college . my husband and I are living 3 hours away from each other . He likes living with his parents. We both love each other very much . Being long distance from each other is hurting me emotional a lot ! It hurts soo bad to not be around my husband everyday . I can t even eat turkey sandwich because my husband eats turkey sandwiches and I make them for him sometimes. Anything reminding me of hubby hurts me . If we don t talk everyday I m more hurt . If we do talk at least 3 times a day I feel better . I miss him soo much . Is it suppose to hurt me this much ever single day to be away from hubby ? I m 25. Hubby is 27.

And if the father does sign on birth certificate, does it mean he has visitation rights over the baby? If I don't list his name, does he have any rights at all over the baby? He wouldn't be able to prove it's his baby right? We were just dating, it's not like we were married or sth, so he can't prove he's the biological father right? P.S: We aren't together anymore Edit: I intend to keep him away from my child, at all costs and legal mans

How many kids do you have now? How did they change your marriage? Kinda freaking out at my impending parenthood and worrying since everyone says kids change everything?

I am a guy and i am sleeping with a married man. However, it is a strange situation, i initially felt bad about sleeping with him but i have talked to his wife and she said 'My husband loves his men, he had a long term boyfriend before me and him married and lasted into the marriage, and there has been other men since then' So she clearly knows about it and is ok why? She has had affairs with men too as well, and has shown interest in me, i also like women. The husband isnt interested in a threesome with me and his wife and they dont share a bedroom, if they like sleeping with others why isnt he interested in sex with both me and his wife? Is all this a bad idea? I mean is this an open marriage?

My gf has twice in the last few weeks when texting either turned off the back light on her phone or put the phone to her chest when I look over at her when she is texting what does that mean?

many men I know say they want to be with someone who doesnt leave the house much and doesnt work so they have someone to take care of them. I think women can work, have kids and take care of their husband my mom did it.

This way, husband won't pester her for sex all the time. He can get it from other people while she can do whatever she wants to. Whats the issue here? what the heck is marriage rules? That sounds funny. And wife isn't interested in divorce. So then you start hiding money in a marriage. "As a grown man, he doesn't need her permission to watch porn." : yeah but she complains about it a lot, then she would call husband a pig or maybe threaten with divorce. Right? So reading some of the answers, especially "J", its always the man's fault because he isn't caring for her needs.

Assuming that Husband does everything of being a great husband and father. The wife is never interested and continues to make excuses. Even husband has discussed with her (and recommended counseling) about his concerns but she flat out rejects him, calls him demeaning names for his needs. He feels hurt by this. This may be an immature attempt but does does ignoring the wife, sleeping away from her and giving her silent treatment (only when children aren't around so they don't notice the marriage issue). Will this help her realize how wrong she is when he is rejected? Because she is simply interested in being a mother rather than a wife and I do not want to financially support someone who doesn't appreciate me. would she take notice and actually do something about it? would this strategy work? I don't think I am a bad lover and she's been very pleased in the past. She herself said it several times that it was a good round. I don't know about physical attractiveness though. I don't have a beer gut or anything, fairly slim to be honest.

im not doofus!!

Is it when you are in love with another person outside of your marriage but you don't do anything physical about it?

Long story short I met a really good dancer social dancing who soon became my salsa partner. We would go out dancing on weekends to practice and get better. I really enjoyed spending time with this person. Sometimes we would hang out outside of dance also but always as friends. He knew I was married. There was a period of time where things weren't going well with my husband and we were hanging out. He knew this and tried to kiss me. I rejected his kiss. Not once, but twice. I was in such a vulnerable place and I feel so guilty that it got so close! The second time I said no and turned he ended up kissing me on the cheek and finally backed away. The thought of that haunts me! YUCK. I feel awful about myself for not reprimanding him. I just kept saying "I can't." I shouldn't have even said anything about mine and my husbands situation. Is there such a thing as almost cheating? Do you think I emotionally cheated? Was this situation my fault? Now that I look back on it I feel as if I could have indirectly been leading him on the whole time but I've always had guy friends and I guess I was a little Naive. I didn't like him. I liked that he was a great dancer and this is the only reason why we got so close as friends in the first place. I feel so dumb because since nothing happened I felt like he could still be my friend. After processing what happened I told him we couldn't be friends anymore. He didn't seem to understand why and he thinks this situation wasn't all his fault.

My husband talks to his father everyday and to be honest it really irritates me. He only lives an hour away and see him once a week. i guess that's not enough because my husband will usually spend 15-20 minutes talking to his dad on the phone. A couple of times they have talked for an hour. I always knew they were close, my husband made him a groomsman in our wedding. But this is pushing it if you ask me. I'm close to my mom, in fact we live in the same city but I don't talk to her everyday and only see her once or twice a week. I feel like this is straining our marriage because I want to spend as much time with my husband as I can, but I can't do this if he talks to his dad. It would be another thing if they texted or his dad lived far away, but like I said his dad only lives an hour away, all they do is talk and it's really taking away precious time from my husband. How can I convince him that talking to your dad everyday is not normal for a married man? Especially when your dad dosen't live that far away.

Me and my wife are very happy together. Married 10 years no kids. We feel as if we are just going through the motions anymore with work, etc. Every day the same. We have an opportunity to move to an island with some similar friends from Boston. Should we just do it? No job, no security, just up and go? Find a job when we get there? Take life by a leap of faith and just...go? I've never done anything like that before. I've been conditioned to always have a job, never move without having a job, etc. I have money saved up, but probably not enough. Just wondering if it's a good idea?

Our sex life has been dull lately and I am looking to spice things up. So I am thinking of having a foursome with my husband, his brother and his brother's wife. Plus I have a small crush on his brother and have always wondered if his penis is bigger than my husband's. So is there a way I can convince my husband to do this? I want to be spontaneous and adventurous.

We were marrried in a christian church which doesn't require an annulment but I believe we are to soon for a divorce. No children and no assets but she has alot to lose since I paid out for all the citizenship documents that are currently in processing. Help and prayers please!! I have evidence of her naughty conversations and her admitance in some emails. She admits to plans th cheat and every kind of sexual deviancy available. Evidence she talked to him while she was with me in special monents. Evidence she thought of him during sex Evidence she would run off with him in a second I think fraud fits and I don't think she would fight this cause she has no money and she knows I have this info and thinks I have a lot more

My wife and I moved to a new city for my job. We are 6 hours from her family and 4 hours from mine. She left her job when we moved and has been unable to find work in our new city. I can see she's becoming depressed and complains of not knowing anyone in town/not having friends here. When we first moved she was applying to jobs left and right. It seems like lately, she has absolutely no interest in applying for anything and when I ask her about it she has some excuse as to why she hadn't put in any job applications. When we do go out to social events to meet people I can tell she's very uncomfortable telling people she's not working. I'm starting to worry she doesn't want to work or is depressed. Any advice? What do I do? Financially she needs a job I'm not making enough to support both of us comfortabley

I am so sad this has transpired. It makes me ill. He has tried before to take pictures, asking first and I have declined. I said what if they get out? His answer, well if they did, it would only be of your other body parts, not your face. No one would know. That leads me to believe he may have posted the secret nudes he took of me. I am so sad about this as I thought he was better than that. I used reverse google image and could not find anything, but there are so many voyeur forums out there. They are disgusting. These poor women don't even know their pictures are posted on these porn sites. Even sons taking pictures of their moms. It's unbelievable. As of now, my fiance doesn't know I know about the secret nude photos. I am trying to weigh my options as to what to do and get my ducks all in a row first and not act irrationally. What would you do first before confronting your fiance. Keep quiet until you have everything in order. like financially, getting an apartment, etc, if you decide to leave??

I enjoy having someone to share the good and bad times with...someone to set and achieve goals with and someone to laugh and be 100% comfortable with. I do not enjoy having to answer to anyone and having to tell them everything I am going to do before I do it. I miss being able to walk out the door without having to explain where I am going and when I will be back.

I found out my husband has been visiting his former mistress's FB!!? Does trying to find out about her - I saw his activity log - mean he still wants her? They had an on and off affair for years I just found out about. Have been apart for 2 years but because he got fired from his job and doing temp work now, I think he's embarrassed so doesn't want to see her until he gets a permanent job. Am I right to be mad that he's checking her out again? ( He doesn't know that I know. Please comment only on his level of interest or if this means wanting another affair.)

My husband cheated on me and I found a way to make him PAY for it ALL.. And not by cheating on him too.. But by racking his credit up by going on a shopping SPREE at Neimen Marcys and Macy's and Bloomingdales with HIS credit card til it Max's out.. Then when the house bills come I won't pay them at all.. So before he knows it the electricity , heat and gas will all be off and he won't even have the money to pay it because I racked up his credit to the max and spent all the money in our joint bank account to get an apartment. (I put my sisters name on the lease so he can't claim to own half of it) I'm sorry but I believe in getting your hands on his cash and spending to to the last dime for all the hard times of his scheming, lying and cheating on me!! I'm sorry I don't believe in just "getting a divorce" and letting him be.. If someone wasted 15 years of your life you'd be irate and would want to get even too don't even lie. If you say you wouldn't then you aren't normal.. We've been together since we were 15, and married since we were 18. I could've done a lot of things with my life that I wanted to do if I wasn't married but I married him because I thought he loved me and wouldn't hurt me like this.. I'm planning on running up all of HIS credit card bills and paying all of them about a month too late.. I know it's a shame we have to play these games.. But I want to buy the pain away... That's my way of getting back instead of cheating

As I've mentioned before, my brother and I are both members of a particular dating site. We talk all the time about who we've met and who we'd like to reach out to. I tell him all the time about the girls I'm chatting with and he keeps complaining that none of the girls will talk to him or it takes them a week or more to reply to a message. He feels that if he sends you a message 2 days is long enough to expect a reply. After that then he looses interest in her and talks bad about her. He's always wondering why I have so much success and I tell him that these dating sites are geared for the woman and for every woman on the site they're probably getting 100 or more messages daily. They just can't reply to everyone the minute they come in. He doesn't add them to his friends list or try to chat with them. His msgs are simply like "Hey, you're cute, HMU." I told him that no woman is going to reply to that. I told him to look at their profile and see a recent status and reply to that. That lets the girl know that you did look at her profile and not just her profile pic. He said that sometimes the girls will reply but it'll be like a week or more later and by then he's lost interest and won't talk to them. He feels that if he sends you a msg on Sunday, by Tues you should be ready to go out on a date. He has very little patience when it comes to stuff like this but he's always complaining about not meeting anyone. He literally said that no woman is getting that many msgs to where she can't reply for a week. The bad thing is that some of the girls I'm telling him about that I've met and become friends with he said that he messaged and they never replied to him. He said that he's not going to wait days to talk to a woman. He must think that he's the only guy on these sites and that the girls should be picking him and not the other way around. Is he just that naïve when it comes to dating? I'll chat with a girl for several weeks to build up a comfort level before asking them out whereas he doesn't want to do that. If he messages you then he's ready to go on a date. Plus, he' sonly hitting up the women who are online at the moment. But these girls usually log in and are off within a few minutes. It's not like they're logged in all day. I do not mind sending offline messages to girls I see but he only wants to chat with those who are online at the moment.

I'm tired of being alone with our newborn at night. We are 34 and too old for that crap.

I am a mother of 2 & i have been physically abusive towards my oldest child. I have had no patience with her & lash out in anger. I have always suffered from depression and anxiety my own mother who didnt raise me was abusive to my sister and i want to break the cycle. I am a good mother otherwise i just have anger problems. Im a SOM and never get time away from my children which causes stress. I know this behavior is unexcusable but its so hard for me.i have overspanked her and i used to use harsh force when picking her up that have left marks.i have cried nyself to sleep over it because i hate myself for doing it. My husband has recently found out about the abuse and has told me he doesn't trust me with the kids and that our marriage is over. I have promised that it will nevet happen again but he doesn't believe me. He is the love of my life and i want to save ny marriage and fix things with ny child. I have prayed for strength and help with my anger and this is day 2 and i have not had anger at all. I know i can do this for i can do all things through god but how do i mend my relationship and is it possible? My oldest child is 4 and loves me so much she is very defiant as most kids are but i am praying she doesn't remember this abuse as long as it never happens again. I am trying to not worry about my marriage and focus on my kids but i cannot let my marriage go. I guess what i am asking is,how and can i fix my marriage and how can i ensure this will never happen again

My husband went out with his friend to a bar tonight for his friends birthday, I did not go as I had a prior engagement with some personal my side of the family stuff that I had to be present for, and the fact that I am pregnant. When he came home he proceeded to tell me about his night and that some girl at the bar had tried to flirt with him. This upset me a little but I didn't fret over it, till he told me that this girl then bought him a drink, and he accepted because "it was a free drink so why not". Then she had asked what he does and he said he told her that he is in the air force and has a baby on the way and a wife at home. All I could say was "oh". I was in too much shock to be mad in that moment, now he's passed out and I can't sleep for wanting to hunt her down and punch her.. no he does not wear a wedding ring because of his job in the air force, it is a hazard for him to wear one and he will get written up for it.

My husband & I have been together for 4 years married for 14 months. We were separated for 3 months. When we were separated I thought we were going to get back together bc we talked everyday. I got tired of waiting on him to come back. I told him if he dont come back that I was moving on. He didnt respond . After crying all day everyday for 5 weeks. I hooked up with someone and felt horrible that was a big step & I was not ready. I just missed my family & felt guilty. We got back together. I told him that I wanted to start a clean slate so that incase we do find out it won't be a surprise & cause a arguement. He agreed. I told him. He said he didnt do anything to me. He rubbed it in my face for months. I end up finding out that my husband picked a woman up from minnesota drove her all the way to atlanta to take her to his ex step mom & uncles house to try to start over with woman. I was extremely furious bc he rubbed what i did in my face for months & pretended like he didnt do anything. I confronted him & he still lied. I actually talked to the woman & she sent me their converstations. He finally admitted it. We separated bc I dont want him to think its okay to lie to his wife. We ended up seeing each other to try to talk about 3 days ago. I asked him to bring my dog whom i havent seen & I miss extremely. He wouldnt being her bc his father. His family does not like me & cause problems. His dad said disrespectful rhings caused a fight havent talked in days. Idk what to do.

Since a great many people are single and finding a partner just seems ever more n more illusive, what are the chances that arranged marriages are/were actually a good idea. Remember thats how marriages started out: Parents picked out which girl or guy you were to marry based on their friendship as parents, their political standings, economics, genes, societal class, how nicely u matched etc etc and to be honest, even though the 2 getting married weren't "in love", they were saved from many differences of views which lead to separations in todays relationships. Plus the idea of being in Love has truly not been true coz love is like a fever that you catch and a few years or even months later, you're totally healed or u catch the same fever from another person. Then the one u once "loved" becomes your greatest adversary whose voice or even footsteps drive u nuts. So why don't we create a 21st century kind of arranged marriage arrangement? How would that look? how could we do it? Wouldn't it be fun?

For about six months, me and my wife talked about doing a MFM threesome. We planned it out in our heads how it would go down. Fast forward it happened earlier today. Once it was the other man's turn to have sex with her, after being penetrated, she suddenly starts moaning (really different than with me) talking in Spanish (she only talks in English any other time), I haven't heard her speak any type of her native Spanish language in FOUR YEARS (which was the day we FIRST MET) until today. It's like she let this other guy take over. I didn't wanna look jealous or insecure so I held my tongue. After I was done, She allowed him to do anal and throat gag her (for about two minutes) and slap her face, choke her neck till it turned red she even let him ejaculate onto her face and even got it in her hair and nose. I was shocked as hell. I have asked her REPEATEDLY in the past to let me try these things with her but she ALWAYS dismissed it. I HAVE NEVER seen her behave like this, it was as if I wasn't even there and I started to feel left out and got irritated. She even swore in her language as well. She has NEVER done or let me do ANY of these things to/with her. They kept going for like an HOUR AND A HALF until they were both sweaty after I was finished.  Hearing that from the kitchen made me cringe. Was I wrong for not saying anything or stopping it from going too far?? Would any of you guys out there be pissed at or no?

She is a friend he s known for 6 years or so, they are genuinely just good friends, I trust him with her, but our relationship is in marriage counseling right now. We are getting better because of it. We ve been married for 9 years. I came home one day to hear him on speaker phone with her, I didn t think much of it. I overheard him talking smack about me about our marriage issues, the girl s boyfriend and his issues how my husband is admitting to feeling "stuck" in our marriage and said things like I was crazy, and other hurtful things he never admitted to me or our therapist. I ve always been secure that he loves me but now I m not so sure. But she seems to be a real crying shoulder for everything. He half-truths about a lot of things, he dramatized certain things in his story regarding me. Lied about he and I having sex only once a month (we have it at least 2 times a week!) Sounds like he is trying to get closer to her by playing victim or something, I dont know. But it s all a pack of lies. Basically it all came down to I cannot trust him and how he truly feels about me. He s a two-faced liar. She seems to have a ton of relationship issues herself - the friend is in an emotionally abusive relationship and I agree she needs to get out . because of violence and substance abuse.

We get along great and I do lover her but I want like 2-3 kids between myself and my wife. OUR BIOLOGICAL KIDS, but she at 30 doesn't want to have more children...