I recently had a wedding, and I live a good distance away from most of my friends and family. I had asked one of my close friends from college (room mates), who has kept in contact through the years, to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. I paid for her dress, her meals, transportation to the venue among other places, and I paid her stuff that she needed to buy that she couldn't carry on the plane. What did I get in return? She called me a dumbass while I was looking for my car keys (instead of helping me find them of course), she didn't give a toast, she left my reception early to go party somewhere else that night without even telling me or waiting for me to get back to the hotel (keep in mind there is alcohol and dancing at the reception, plus I NEVER get to see her) and didn't tell me she was leaving early the next morning so I didn't even get to say goodbye, and she didn't even get me a small gift or AT LEAST a card (It's not about just "getting a card". She forgot to get her other gift that my grandma bought for her. I was so upset because we are almost age 30 and she acts so immature and selfish still : / Then her first text to me a couple days after the wedding was "where is my stuff I forgot?" Really? So I feel a little used, and I was wondering what the next steps should be in regards to our relationship. After voicing to her that I was upset about her leaving so abruptly, I'm wondering if I should waste more time trying to be friends with someone who is so immature.

After the main funeral reception is over?

My fiancé doesn't want me to invite my brother to the wedding. She simply does not like him. I obviously want him there. We have been through a lot together. What should I do? How do I get around this and make them both happy?

The traditions of a wedding: something old something new something borrowed something blue; throwing the bridal bouquet; throwing the bride's garter - when and how did all this develop thru the years?