I need help, my wife has anxiety and I get that. I work as a mold, fire, and water remediation tech. This job requires me to work long hours at a moment's notice. I realize she wants me and feels I put my job before her. But I don't know how else to get her to realize she's driving me nuts. I have to go out of town for I don't know how long. No more than 2 months. And I can't get to sleep because she won't stop crying about it. I never get the sleep I need Because of the 'i hate your job speeches' they get old. And I seriously have been known to work 80 hours in a 7 day period. When I go out of town I'll be working 80-100 a week that means very little sleep

He comes around today and I asked if he wanted some coffee, then i said, oh wait i don't know if we've got any coffee beans to put in the machine now that Harrod's no longer visit me daily. he is a scum trying to cut off my alimony payments just because i have "more than two million dollars" in assets.

My inlaws are Mormon and my husband and I are not. We just had our baby girl about a month ago. They want to give her a blessing at their church, something they do with all babies in the church. my husband is ok with it just to get them to leave us alone about it but I feel like they re trying to make decisions about how to raise my child. I want to tell them no but I don t want to seem rude. Help?

I'm not able to find anything online for quite this situation, but my fiancé and I will be gone for basic training and tech school next year and his ex wife now doesn't want to keep their daughter during that 6ish month time. While I understand that choosing to have children can make some things a little inconvenient, we kept their daughter for 9 months when she moved WITH her new husband to his basic training and stationed location because... It's his daughter. She's now back home, and they have week on week of custody. We obviously can't just reschedule his training and school for week on week off or just decide not to go, does he need to find a caregiver in town for all those weeks or is she legally responsible for her child since he's gone on military business?

My husband works in the food service industry, as a supervisor/chef for a culinary company that works exclusively with fraternities and sororities. He works 14 hour days 7 days a week, sometimes going an entire month without a day off, and he even brings work home with him at night, which takes him hours to finish sometimes. Anyway, he refuses to take any kind of break in order to eat because he says it decreases efficiency and he uses the time he could be eating to get work done. As a result he is now 20 lbs underweight and he looks and feels miserable more and more each day. I'm at my wit's end at what to do--I've tried everything from coaxing him gently to straight up yelling at him that he needs to put food in his body. He's a grown man and should be taking care of himself, but at the rate he's going he could drop dead without warning and it worries and upsets me every single day. What should I do?

just wondering

I've always heard that a woman's past is none of his business. What about a man's past, is it any of her business?

Sometimes when i get on facebook i see "people i may know" and some of them are my husbands exs. It doesnt help that they are much prettier than me! I have the urge to creep on them and I know this is weird! I always feel insecure because they are way prettier. ugh..

like it's so boring. like whenever we're cuddling in her bed I start feeling her up and she says oh not tonight and I've been given the same excuse for the last 3 weeks. I don't even get a bj if hj out of it! I GET NOTHING! she's becoming extremely boring to be around So should I just get up and go home the next time she gives me that stupid excuse?

Where still married just live in different house holds and she s on welfare..

Me and my lover both have a child from previous marriage. We agreed that we are only going to use each other for sex since we had really bad experience. We basically gave up finding love. Our kids don't know what we are doing. I don't want my daughter thinking she'll have a new mom or her daughter thinking she'll have a new dad. So what we do is not mention it. Neither of us neglect our kids. It's just something we do in our spare time because we have sexual needs.

I have been married 4 years to a man I once loved more than I ever thought possible but over the last year that has slowly started to change, I feel I've become less attracted to him and I have become distant towards him, He owns his own business which requires him to travel frequently so I am putting most of it down to that. I have a feeling he senses my change towards him from the way he looks at me and he keeps buying me gifts that I tell him I don't want or need. I love when he is away and I dread when he is coming home - no wife should be like this with their husband and I feel awful but I cant help it. He is very hands on with me which is starting to annoy me. He told me today he booked next weekend away for us, I had to pretend to be happy about it but the truth is I'm dreading being alone with him. I don't know what has caused me to go like this with him, He hasn't done anything wrong, I do love him but I don't think I am in love with him anymore. Its driving me crazy all I can think about is packing a bag and running away and being free because I know if I was to leave he wouldn't make it easy for me to leave. Any advice would be appreciated.

She only confessed after long tym after the doctor gives the report that she can't get pregnant anymore due to the past effects.

Ok so I've told part of my story before on here to those who remember. I tried to get my hussy of a daughter in law a minivan to replace her sexy sedan that is red and she uses to attract men outside of her marriage. She refused to take it and they wouldn't refund me, so I gave it to my granddaughter the demon as a present. I thought that she would appreciate my present. But no, she said a minivan? Really? However, she did reluctantly take it. Now that I injured myself and cannot get a taxi uber since they do not assist you in and out of a their vehicles, I need my granddaughter to actually do something to pay me back for my gift and overall generosity. I simply asked my granddaughter if she would be so kind as to drive me back and forth and to help me. However, I absolutely refuse to get into the car unless she has it in pristine condition when she picks me up and drives me around town. I cannot be seen in a car that has even a tiny layer of dust on top of it. That would be humiliating and so low class. She said she doesn't have time to clean it and that it is already clean anyway. That she is busy with her boyfriend and exams. How is it that she has time for a boyfriend she shouldn't have anyway at 17 because he might tempt her into fornication, but she doesn't have time for me the matriarch of her family. I told her if she doesn't come and have it in perfect condition, I will either cancel my drs appointment and it will be her fault if I miss something serious that could save my life as its my annual checkup as well as the check up to check on my healing progress on my injury. I said that or I could attempt to walk back and forth, and it will be her fault too if my injury is worse and I possibly die because of my weakened and elderly matriarchal state. My hussy of a daughter in law who raised her to be a selfish demon told me that I had no right to make such absurd demands and that they didn't owe me anything for a present that I insisted that they take. SO who is right, them or me? I personally really believe that they owe me an apology over a nice cup of tea or something. Whos with me? I've never asked this question before anon. I've asked other questions talking about getting my daughter in law a car, but never about this, so please stop lying. I am serious.

My husband is really soft to women. Doesn't matter who, it could be anybody whether he knows them or not. It seems as though every time we separate in public places(stores and such), when we come back together I'll catch him talking to women. It makes me a little jealous because he is so friendly. It happens a lot. Never with men unless I'm right in front of him. Today I had been on another end of the store and was calling him to see where he was so we could grab a few more things. He doesn't answer. So i call again and he says where he is and I walk over to that side of the store. Lo and behold, guess what I see him talking to a woman, and they are very close. So as soon as he sees me he breaks away and tells her something about an oil filter type....I'm tired of it. When men talk to me most times they try to get with me so I keep my convo short and sweet because I respect my mate. If he were to see the same things he would be upset as well soooo, should I be upset?? I am.

This may sound weird, but Im not sure if my husband is gay. I never thought he was until after 2 bitter ex's that he has kids with and who has been acquainted with each other told me he is...one ex is so mad that we are married she tried to fight me in front of our house and yelled out."thats why you married a fag and he suck better dick than you and me" and said it in front of kids..mine and hers. Its been a rumor for a while but I have searched high and low and no evidence...he had hemorrhoids and was doc told him not strain...but from time to time i find little pieces of tissues on the bathroom floor that came from his behind...i approached him and he said he uses it so that his undies dont get stained...he was FURIOUS that I brought it to him and accused him of possibly being gay. He has had several gay dudes approach him in the past and has told me the stories. So now when the topic comes up I get uncomfortabe...he always has to make a comment if a dude look gay.."yeah you know that dude gay". And I think to myself 'WHY the need to comment all the time'. its gonna destroy my marriage. I haven't had any clues other than rumors...I cant figure this out.

I feel like my parents are the only ones who aren't divorced.

I left my ex-wife because she was very angry and was on medication for her mood swings. This was many years ago. I remarried and my 1 son and her son and daughter all live together. We have managed to create the best for of a family as we can. But my ex has never remarried and tries sneaky ways to break us up, I have restricted my ex to emails only and have blocked her from both of our phones. I also will only respond to her email 2 days a week. I heave learned over time whether I am nice or mean she will continue to try and break us up. So now I just dismiss whatever she says to or about us. But my wife can not. She gets hurt and wants me to fight with her about what she says. I have to deal with my ex due to our son who is 12 now. I just wish I could get my wife to ignore someone I can not change. We share a joint email account we both use so she sees what she emails and twice a week I will respond calmly if I feel I need to. Mostly I don't even bother. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. I know that if I can't change someone then I have to change how I react to them, but my wife just cant grasp that idea.

i feel like a bad person. should i feel bad about this?

My husband cheated with a woman from our church for about 9 months. he walked out on me and literally abandoned me during this time. he recently got a breakdown from his mistress and now he wants me to all over again with him. he is jealous, loving and provides for me and our children. I can't forgive him deep down inside. I am somehow looking for a person I can love and cheat with them to be squared up

I truly loved that man. I even married him. He woke up and suddenly didn't want to be married anymore, so we got a divorce. I feel like over him but I can't believe I got a divorce. I thought we would work out. How do I get over this bad feeling? We don't have any kids together. I haven't talked to him for weeks. He's suddenly out of my life after being in it for so long...what could I do?

So i'm dating this guy, and i've been with him for a pretty long time now and i know i love him, i really do, there is just one problem we are both dealing with. He has an ex, they are still married and are trying to start a divorce, he also has a 3 year old son and she is a colossal *****. We both want him to be a part of his son's life and I want to be a part of his life too, but we also want him to get divorced, the only problem is, I work at taco bell and he works at hardees, while she on the other hand doesn't have a job but relies on her family and her boyfriends money. Unfortunately we live in tennessee and you can get away with a lot of bullshit around here, and i've done research on lawyers and divorces, and i'm just so afraid we are never going to be able to afford this divorce or a lawyer. I'll be honest, that tears me apart because i love my boyfriend so much and he hates his ex because she ruined his life for four years, the only thing good is his son and she barely lets him see him, and I will admit i am jealous of her because i'll never be my boyfriends first wife or the mother of his first child. The point is that we both hate her and want them to be divorced and i'm scared we will never be able to afford it and I want to eventually marry him and have my own kids with him one day but Im having doubts it won't happen because it's just so expensive for us.

My ex-husband and I have been divorced for almost 3 years. He is currently not paying child support, because he lost his high paying job, due to a drunk driving conviction. This wasn't his first offense for drunk driving either. He doesn't have a drivers license, and his car was impounded. He can't afford the fees to get it out of impound. He moved back in with his mom, and they live about 1.5 hours away. My ex-husband is demanding that I bring out kids to him on his visitation weekends. I told him no. He has to find a way to come and get our kids. I have to work 2 jobs, just to give our kids the basic necessities. I'm not going to drop everything, just to bring our kids to him. If he can't find a way to come and get our kids, then he's out of luck. I'm not bending over backwards for him. Missy, I was meeting him at a police station halfway between his home and mine. He made the decision to drive drunk. He lost his license, and his job. I'm not going to bend over backwards for someone like him. If he wants to have our kids on his weekends, then he has to figure out how to meet me, and take our kids. I'm not willing to help him. He screwed himself in the end.

if you are not happy with your wife be a man and tell her? Why lie when you are hurting your wife by cheating? Why can t a man be a man? If you are man enough to cheat, lie and steal then why can t you tell her the truth? Why lie? Why do men lie and say they are living in a sexless marriage when he is not? If he is having sex with his wife 3 times a week and cheating on her by having sex with another woman 4 times a week than how can he say he is living in a sexless marriage? Is it for poor me suck my di&k and feel sorry for little bobby joe your wife is not having sex with You everyday, it s ok Joe why don t you just go and find a hooker and cheat on your piece of chit of a wife who was never good enough for you but she is good enough to have your kids, cook, clean and do your laundry but she is not good enough to keep your pants up. Tell the truth after having 4 Kids,I worked out to get my body back. the fattest ugly lady to be his hooker. If you choose to sleep around behind your woman s back why can t you tell the truth why must you take your secret to your grave when you know we always find out the truth. I just pray when people cheat there is a special place in hell for them or when they become to old to take care of themselves they sit in their own feces and urine and they died a slow and painful death and every time their wife s name comes up and every time they hear the girls name they had his 5 minutes of fame the longer he suffers.

And that woman is NOT your wife? ...but it IS your wife that spots you? Stumper?

Just curious? How did you tailor Bosnian men from Tuzla to resemble you 5 years ago? :P Are they getting the idioms wrong coz they're aspies or coz they're Bosnian? :D

Am I wrong to believe that when you get married two lives become one in ever aspect? My husband has this thing to where he feels that we should still have our own sense of privacy. He hates when I look over his shoulder to see what he's doing on his cell phone. He gets aggravated when I hear him typing on his laptop and I ask him what he's doing. He was in school working on his master's so all the typing then could be contributed to school work. Now when he types I wanna know what he's doing. He usually sits on the love seat which is across from where I sit and the constant clicking makes me wonder. Tonight we were on the bed watching TV and I noticed him on his phone and it looked like he was texting but I didn't recognize the text screen he was on. When I asked him about it it was like he busted a gasket. He absolutely hates when I ask him what he's doing, what he's typing, or who he's texting. Granted, no, he doesn't do me that way cause he feels that my phone is my phone and what I'm doing is no concern of his. Me, on the contrary, like to know what he's doing or who he's talking to. He went into the other room and has been in there for a few hours now. When you get married does that mean that we, as a couple, still have private things we keep from our spouse? Do I not have a right to ask what he's doing? Several years ago I snooped through his phone and found out that he had cheated on me. Again, that was several years ago and we went to counseling to work on it. I'm not ready to move past it but most people have told me that if I'm trying to make the marriage work then I've gotta get past it. Especially since it was several years ago. No, I'm not ready but my husband says that I can't keep crucifying him over something that happened so long ago. Is it time to move on and get over it? What you guys don't seem to understand is that I was hurt by him and even though he apologized in counseling and has apologized several times since, he says that he's not going to keep apologizing for the same thing. How is that fair to me? He betrayed my trust and hurt me. Yes, I do feel that ne needs to be an open book but he says that the "open book" theory only goes so far. Several years down the road that open book has to close. Should I not expect him to be open on everything now?

Hey guy I married a girl back in may 2014. She was the greediest person I've ever met after the wedding she asked for new wedding ring one thats fancy enough for her she asked for Cartier ring I told her Im sorry I couldn't ford it. She acted like she was angry but then she sayed shes sorry. Every day I lived with her was a hell she always wanted money she always wanted more at last she wanted me to buy her a car and 10000$ watch and to buy her a LV bag after I couldn't take it I divorced her. After the divorce I tried to get her back but she refused I got herinated disk from the depression that I had from her Im 24 years old only. I've divorced her in may 2015. Last July after I got with another girl my ex wife went to the court asking for money from me like Compensation the judge decided that I should pay her 5000$ although I didn't do her anything. Guys Im loosing my mind I lost like 35k in my first wedding for her expenses and honey moon and she thinks that it wasn't enough.

First a quick history. She lied to me on several occasions about different men and treated me like crap. To make a long story short she said she'll change and I forgave her. Fast forward a few years and for the last couple of days I've been getting this gut feeling she's up to it again. I decided not to spy on her FB and social media accounts (despite my fam and friends telling me to) and to just let it go. Well today we went to a restaurant and saw a guy friend of hers that I saw her embrace before (she didn't know I saw it) and tried to avoid this guy. She tensed up and tried to avoid eye contact with him. She seemed really worried so I asked what's wrong? She said nothing but I knew it was because of the guy. He was looking at us on and off, but eventually spoke to her. She pretended not to notice him and acted surprised when he spoke to her. During the brief convo he never spoke to me and she never introduced me as her husband after being asked what's new? After he left she looked very worried and I asked her about it. She lied again about the stuff I already knew. I was hurt and upset, but I got this weird feeling of relief. The gut feeling went away and now I'm like wow she's at it again. Leaving her would be easy now if it came to that. Should I be this relieved?