Family: Question: How do I act to my boyfriend whose mom is sick with cancer?

Question: How do I act to my boyfriend whose mom is sick with cancer?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:32 PM PDT

My boyfriend has been treating me like crap lately; his mom is very sick with cancer and she's losing a lot of weight. It is just her and him, his dad and other family live really far away. He is under a lot of stress witness all of this and taking care of her, doing everything for her all by himself. He even gets guilted and blamed because of course she is going through hell herself and misdirecting her own anger. No matter what I do, comfort him or leave him alone, he's mean af to me. Made me cry today. I'm going to stay at his house for 3 weeks (starting next week) because his mom will be away in some treatment and she recommended I go there to be with him that time. I feel selfish for feeling emotional with all thats going on but I also have my own troubles in my life. He says he wants to marry me and is so grateful to have me but how should i behave? I guess just take it and don't talk back? Everything I do or say he questions me, is rude, is easily annoyed or thinks I have an attitude when I don't. I literally screamed and started crying and threw my phone today cause I am damned if I do and damned if I don't. Always getting yelled at and complained about. What are some things I can do or say to comfort someone who doesn't want to talk about it but also doesn't want to be left alone? It seems like he just wants me to be happy-go-lucky, don't argue just good, clean fun kind of person, but also be deep and listening? I don't know. Please help!!

Question: Should i ask my Grandparents for a loan?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:28 PM PDT

Alright i'll try to make this as short as possible. My aunt has a year to live which has caused my mom to go into a severe deppersion and develop her own health issues so she is not working anymore. My dad does not have a college degree and quit his job six months ago and can't find a new one and probably won't. I'm 16, i make 10.50 an hour at a amazing store and around 900$ a month. My grandma is very wealthy, my dad has asked her for fincial help and she refuses. I need a car to get to school and work and am thinking of asking my grandma for a loan. I've asked my mom to do a co-signed loan but she doesn't want to. It would only be 5000-6000$. I would pay her back with interest like any normal bank loan. My grandma and i are close but not the ideal closeness. She's says no when my dad asks for money for things for ME. But i think if i ask her myself and make a deal and am not just taking money she might be willing to work with me. Is this too far or too rude? I need a car for real reasons and would take any amount and pay her back but 5000$ is my ideal. A car loan with that amount for two years would only be 130$ at most a month for me. My grandma spoils my cousins and gives them anything they want (she is paying for my cousins entire college tuition at colorado college a very expensive school) and i feel if she denys me we will have more personal issues and it will affect our relashonship more then it already has. I get decent grades a B student. Thank you.

Question: I lost my mother and sister. I remember my mom sweating in the casket. Did the SUN or the LIGHT take my mom and sister?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:25 PM PDT

Question: Does my sister have a point to be mad at me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:25 PM PDT

So today I walked into my sisters room and she was on Omegle. Keep in mind she is only 12 and she tends to do stupid things. I yelled at her because she kept fighting back and she said it's not a big deal. My mom heard and she came up asking what was wrong. I let my sister explain and she lied to her and said something about it being because she took something of mine. I told her "I'm not taking part in your lying." And then she was forced to tell her the truth. My mom didn't even yell at her or anything she just reminded her that she's not allowed on social networking and then she got mad at my sister when my sister yelled at her for not understanding or whatever. Am I in the wrong? She called me a F**king *****. I'm just trying to protect her and after the Amanda Todd story I'm not letting her do that....

Question: What do I do if my Dad has bad manners at my aunts and so she doesn't want to have me back?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:15 PM PDT

My Dad RSVP's that he and I would be coming to this party but that my Mom and sister would be unable to come due to a baby shower they are attending. But the baby shower they are going to is the following weekend. So I expect (knowing my Dad) my mother will come with us to my aunt's party but my Dad won't give a head's up with the guest list change (my sister probably wont come). I can't get involved but if my aunt is bothered I am afraid I won't be asked back either as she won't want to ask my Dad since he is rude and so she will feel weird asking me and not my Dad and thus I will miss out forever. This event is in three weeks. What do I do? My parents dont have the best manners this way, my Dad's siblings are more polite and my Mom's siblings are very formal

Question: Is my mom about to kill herself?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:12 PM PDT

She always says she should kill herself and says she's gonna kill herself if I move out or anything. She has sleeping pills if she chooses to. She's downstairs right now setting up her will with some people and often talks about death. The other day she's like "who's gonna carry my casket at my funeral?" Is she going to? She says she's gonna kill herself for like 3 years, but her setting up her will and life insurance recently is kinda creeping me out. She's 57 btw and I'm 15

Question: How do I get my mother to let me see my Grandpa? He is an alcoholic so we are not allowed to see him?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:10 PM PDT

I want to meet him because all my cousins know him even if he is moody, but my Mom is mad at him so she uses us and wont let us see him. How do I get her to let us see him even if he is a grouch sometimes when drinking? I don't want him to die and feel guilty I haven't met him except once.

Question: My Mom boasts of being estranged from her father, is this normal (boasting of this type of thing)? What's is wrong with seeing an alcoholic?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:09 PM PDT

He is an alcoholic and she doesnt let us see him. She boasts of things like how we dont see him and how she feels she did the right thing when her brother tells stories of how he still drinks. She also boasts of angry dreams she has about him and how she had a dream of kicking him in the back. So is this normal and is this anger good or is she crazy like I think? Also what would be so bad if we saw him? What is wrong with seeing an alcoholic?

Question: My brother was arrested and now my parents want me to go get give him bail, what should I do as I dont want to waste my time on him?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:03 PM PDT

Parents are out of town and brother has been arrested twice before

Question: Is it normal to hate your parents?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 02:03 PM PDT

And I don't mean like teenager "I hate you you're ruining my life." I mean like actually hate everything they do

Question: I need advice with getting my kids back that was tooken away by dcfs?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:59 PM PDT

my 2 kids was always tryin to have sex and feeling on each other private parts ages 9 and ten my daughter told me she learned the behavior from by her dad house she saw her aunt having sex and they be watching porn and this been goin on for years soo i tried talkin to them letting them know that is wronfmg and thwy should stop and this behavior continued for sometime it got so bad my daughter would try to have sex with her 4 year old brother...btw my daughter tols me her grandfather would feel on her private and tell her how pretty she is..i confronted the grandmother about it then dcfs was called and said i abuse and neglect my kids went to court and jailed they was taken away from me cause they found marks from wen i whipped them i know there are other ways to discipiline a child but other ways was not workin...soo wen i told the judge what my daughter said bout her grandfather they say they talk to my kids and that i was lying smh but i need help on how to go by getting my kids back before my son impregnate my daughter or her grandfather i just know my kids goin grow up being wild if they continue to be by they daddy and grandparents

Question: Adult Adoption?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:40 PM PDT

I am an adult (25yrs) living in India with my husband. I was kicked out of my home by my parents when I was 17. I have childhood autism and even though I communicate okay, I never stopped craving to be part of a family. Is it possible to be adopted by a family at this age?

Question: Can my daughter go as my guardian?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:22 PM PDT

Question: How do I respond if my mother gets nervous about my manners but I am doing nothing wrong when we're with family this weekend?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:14 PM PDT

We are going to be with my Mom's extended family this weekend and my mother is a nervous wreck around her family. As a kid I was learning disabled and she was overly protective and even withheld me from family time sometimes. Now as an adult I love family events all the more because of that. We are going to a baptism this weekend for a cousin's son on Sunday and a funeral on Saturday on my Dad's side of the family. She is pretty relaxed with my Dad's side of the family but when with her family she will be nervous. So how do I react when she starts squeezing my leg everything I say and saying "Noah, be careful" or "Noah, your talking" and all the reminders that were protective when I was 6 but not necessary at 28? And no I don't live in her basement, I live on my own.

Question: What do I do if my drug addicted brother relapses when he gets out of jail and dies and my family is mournful and won't move on?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:14 PM PDT

Sure it will be sad if he dies but I will want to move on, knowing my mother she will not want to. I am an adult so live on my own but how can I move on and celebrate life at family time if my mother is dragging everyone down through no fault of her own if the inevitable happens (I anticipate he will relapse again)? It is not my mother's fault so I can't be mad at her but at the same time I can't have family time and holidays be ruined for the first 5 years after my brother's death. So what do I do if the inevitable happens so I can live life when my mother does not want to through no fault of her own?

Question: My Mom is bitter and spiteful to others in her family but not to us kids, so do I have a right to be mad at how she hurts the family?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:09 PM PDT

Even though she is nice to her three kids since she abuses her siblings

Question: If there are two family reunions the same day and I can't be at both since they are 5 hours away which do I go to?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:07 PM PDT

Question: Negative dad?!?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:05 PM PDT

My dad is really short tempered. He always shouts. Ever since I was a baby. I've never lived a day (well obviously since I was a baby I didn't know he shouted) that he hasn't. He argues with my mom for nothing. He argues with me and my siblings. For absolutely nothing. I'm already depressed and he makes me feel even shitter. When my mom told him I'm depressed he said no she's not she's just being stupid. The other day I was eating around 10pm because my head was hurting baring in mind I have an eating disorder and rarely eat anyway he shouted at me saying its late to eat. He's so bloody hypocrital. He eats whenever he bloody wants. Ugh I've had enough of it. Its like he purposely tries to make NY life ****. I rarely ever argue back because if I do he shouts at my mom saying she's raised them like herself. He's even cheated on my mom and we still accepted him back. He's pathetic

Question: Family is making me anxious??

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 12:44 PM PDT

It feels like they are waiting for me to mess up just so they can say told you so. I didn't go into college today. My sister comes home about 6pm. The first thing she says is "did you go into college today?" when I said no, she gives me a disapproving look, and rolls her eyes. She then starts accusing me of using her makeup, which I am not. My mom allows all this to happen and says nothing. She has mood swings, where she will get crazy angry and it gives me a knot in my stomach and makes me nervous, as she is unstable, but refuses to go see a doctor. My dad is depressed and lives elsewhere in a one bed apartment. The whole situation makes me so anxious and uneasy. I don't feel I can let my hair down, without feeling judged or ridiculed, or someone making some nasty remark. I got into an emotionally abusive relationship, just to get away from my family, because I can't stand them and their stuck up ways. My self esteem is in the toilet. I am sick of walking on eggshells, feeling disrespected, judged etc...I won't drink infront of them or I feel they will just see it as another thing she does wrong. I have this feeling I always have to be perfect or I could be kicked out. It is exhausting. I can't afford to move out and have 3 years of college left? Any advice?

Question: I think my dad might kill me for messing up his car?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 12:39 PM PDT

I was driving my dad s car today (mine is messed up because they put the wrong antifreeze in it) and I was parked in a parking lot and in a spot near a metal pole I couldn t back out of the spot because a person was in their car waiting for me to pull out so they could pull up, and I hit the pole scratching and denting the front bumper. I m really scared to go home because my dad is an angry man who gets mad at the smallest things, so I m afraid to tell him about what happened because he d just yell at me and hit me (I m 19, but he won t let me get a job) and I m afraid he ll kick me out of the house with no money because he s just so temperamental about really small things. What should I do????

Question: I am 14 and 5 8. My dad is 5 8 and mum is 5 1. Have I fully grown?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 12:31 PM PDT

Question: Is there anyway to handle a 17 year old who is just disobedient?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 12:29 PM PDT

My little sister is 17 she does whatever she wants, she is verbally abusive to my mother and if my mom tries to spank her or hit her for being a complete pain in the rear she hits back she leaves for all hours of the night. She doesn't listen what so ever. Can she get put in juvi or like a detention center or something.

Question: Que actos tiene se acerca un parecido a brad pitt y a angelina jolie?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 12:22 PM PDT

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 11:51 AM PDT

Hi well I'm 17 years old and I work at wendy I have around 4 months working there. I just came from 3 days vacations because we had this church event in another state. We just found out my uncle my mom brother has terminal cancer and he has 1 month left. All my family gonna go see him and I really want to go see him for the last time. They are just going for 3 days he lives in Minnesota and we live in Illinois. Should I ask my work for another 3 days.

Question: What do I do about my brother beating his girlfriend?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 11:35 AM PDT

My brother beats up his girlfriend when they get into fights, like the littlest fights. He told me that it's okay for him to do it and I shouldn't worry about it. My brother has full custody of me and my younger sister and i'm afraid he'll try to hit us next. My mum and dad live in the UK and i've only been in the states for about 6 months. I'm sure it's illegal for men to hit women here.. What should I do?

Question: My brother doesn't let my parents see his children unsupervised.?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 11:29 AM PDT

My brother has two little boys and they are my parents; only grandchildren. His wife won't let anyone see the boys unless she is there. They get one visit a month for three hours and his wife is never more than 5 feet away. She does this to her parents too so it isn't personal. It is very hurtful to my parents but my brother says he can't go against his wife's wishes. Any suggestion on how to help my parents and help the boys be able to bond with their grandparents on both sides?

Question: My cousin'hair color looks funny on her.. do I tell her to dye it back?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 10:48 AM PDT

Please look at the pics... my cousin (26) is pregnant and dyeing her hair because she is "bored". She bleached it last night and today in the morning dyed it a red color. She asked me if it looked good on her but I think it looks funny, horrible... i kept laughing because she looked funny with her hair bleached last night... since I know better because I always dye my hair, i told her it was too much and it doesn't go with her skin color... please tell me I'm right and it doesn't look good..

Question: Can my father change the property Name of the house?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 10:19 AM PDT

My parents are divorced and my mom and dad share a home that is under both of their names. My dad wants to take his and her name off and put my name on it only Can he do that without my mothers apporval? The main owner is my dad by the way

Question: Wtf is my brother's problem?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 10:03 AM PDT

So about 30 minutes ago I was practicing guitar while singing and my brother suddenly yelled at me and from the tone of his voice he's really mad. He's literally a bum and has no job and he just drinks beer and eats all day. He finished collegedon 2013 and has never gotten a job ever since, not even once. His belly is big now and he hasn't been taking care of himself because he got depressed and I think until now he still is. His reasoning is that he doesn't want to be a slave/drone in a 9-5 job and he said he has no motivation to even work because it's just all pointless since we're poor. He even said, "Why the hell would I work? I don't have a plan to have kids because my genes are inferior." For months now he started treating me poorly since July, we used to be really closed though. He used to be very supportive of me but I can see in his eyes whenever I approach him he gives me that hateful look but I didn't do anything to him. He would walk away when I'm nearby. He said to me before he's jealous of me because I started having my passions and hobbies since I was in high school. He said he wish he was talented like me but every time I bring up the idea of me teaching him guitar he refuses, he says he's too old. I'm 20 and he's 26. What should I do :<

Question: If it's ok to indoctrinate kids with religiosity, shouldn't it be legal to beat them too?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 10:00 AM PDT

Beatings would instill a better message than "God" ever could

Question: Should I quit school for one semester ?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 09:55 AM PDT

Hi I'm a senior 18 yr old I've asking my parents to get a car ever since I was a sophomore and they kept saying until we have enough money They waste 250 every week on fixing my stepdads car . I really need to feel some freedom I feel like a prisoner . I used to work but they made me quit saying they got money for the car while they opened a restaurant with it . I want to work a semester save me some money for a car also my sister told me that she could help out with buying a car for me . So would it be a bad thing if I quit school for a semester and return next year ? Please suggest something My family doesn't even want me to hang out with friends all they want is to go to school and come back home . Am tired and I've tried everything that I could .

Question: What should I do? I was supposed to take my 89 yr old mom to pain doctor today but she did not answer phone or come to the door?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 09:49 AM PDT

She still drives but the garage does not have windows and I can't see if car is in it. I have a key to the front door of the house but the screen door is locked from the inside and I can't get in. Don't know if she is gone somewhere or if the door should be broken open. Advice please.

Question: My wife's family day my wife isn't allowed to attend get fathers funeral after he dies?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 09:49 AM PDT

Question: Why are my parents so retarded?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 09:46 AM PDT

I applied for sevral jobs with a night shift and got called by 2 and then set my college schedules at day so i could work at night And today all of the sudden they tell me that i cannot work at night because they will not sleep and stupid retarded **** -_- now i have to re apply with a day shift and change my schedules for night but i can't switch my schedules anymore cause we already started how the **** am i supposed to work now? They are so moronic and retarded they always change their minds and i have to listen to them because i still live with them but i'm sick of it i want to work at night so i could wake up in the morning then go to college ... College at night is just **** for me i wont understand anything i would be more focused And my dad says: " no one in the history of our family worked at night" like we even have a family they all don't speak to each other and **** i dont give a **** about anyone tbh i just wanna do what is right for me and my parents act like i'm a girl and they scared of me to get raped eventho i'm a GUY -_-

Question: Is there a free volunteer program that travel around with groups with food and a place to stay ?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 09:38 AM PDT

21 year old trap in her home parent treat her like **** make her do everything Force her to quite school when she turn 18 and make her work at there restaurant for free she has no money no place to go if her parent catch her she is done for . She has no diploma or GED

Question: My dad threatens my little sister saying she has no where to go?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 09:37 AM PDT

Whenever my dad gets in a mood and he starts lecturing my little sister he always says to her that she has no where to go but her home. That Noone would take her in which is completely untrue. He said that of she ever tried running away he would force her to come back. My older sister had to move out at 16 because it was so bad. He's not as bad as he used to be but I worry about my little sisters being there because his temper is still rocky. I'm concerned that if I report him DSS could get involved and thats the last thing I want for my sisters. Is my dad threathing my little sister by saying that?

Question: Why would a girl do this to another for?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 09:25 AM PDT

Hi I am very bi curious and I'm also looking for just a friend. I have a boyfriend who doesn't care so just letting u guys know lol for the sorry. ANYWAY I have noticed this girl keeps staring at me. We look very similar and we seem to have the same style in clothes. It seems EVerytime I leave to go to the bathroom she gazes at me and She's right by the door and she doesn't look away she just stares so I stare. And when I leave she sits there staring. I would t think anything of this since people stare UNTIL she tried talking to me today. I went to go the bathroom and as usually she's doing her soul piercing staring at me she almost looks nervous but not really but if I could describe anything it would be that. Then when the professor was done with her lecture I'm leaving and see her just staring at me. She gets up too and behind me she says very loudly I guess to get attention " I LOVE YOUR SHIRT" I turn around and say thanks. Me and my boyfriend are talking and idk how she was behind us he whole time because we were walking B pretty fast and she's behind me and slips behind my boyfriend and I as he holds the door. Me and my boyfriend are standing and I'm showing him something on my phone and I look up and she's walking away staring at me and that's the first time I KNEW she looked nervous and could spot it's she was a good amount. Away for us and had to turn her body to look at me. should I start staring at her too?

Question: I feel like I'm drowning. What can I possibly do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:49 AM PDT

I'm 21 and at the verge of giving up everything, I don't know what to do anymore. Little bit of background information here. I live with my mom and four siblings while I go to school and work part time. Here recently things have been getting out of hand with my mom, and i'm not sure if our relationship is toxic or not. I dont know where to even start I love my mom.. However, nothing's ever been normal. Every time my mom is stressed out she lashes out; screaming/yelling occasionally, as well as guilt tripping everyone else. Example: I didn't agree with a rule she was setting down, I tried to be polite and tell her that I didn't agree with it and was trying to find a solution, and it turned into a full blown fight with screaming and yelling and her telling me to either follow her rule or get out. This is how it always is when we fight however. My mom isn't always like this either, sometimes she's really cool about things. I's just times like these when I wonder if it will ever get any better...and I don't know what to do. Should I move out and risk losing my family, or should I stay and risk losing myself, my sanity, and m relationship with my fiancee?

Question: My grandaunt died and my so dad dad disown own me and my sister and tryou to abuse me?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:45 AM PDT

Question: Should I ask my parents to get a big brother? I really really want a big brother and it's driving me crazy.?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:37 AM PDT

Question: I don t think I ll ever have a relationship with my stepdad?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:32 AM PDT

I ve know my stepdad since I was about 10 and now I m 17 this past summer him and my mom got married. I m the oldest out of 4 kids. The last two kids are his and my brother (11) they have a great relationship with him...he says because I m overgrown is it possible that I make him feel uncomfortable. Should I just settle and leave things be?

Question: Teen mother.. depression.. toxic relationship.. family problems?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:29 AM PDT

soo.. mmm i got pregnant when i was 14 by a guy who i though would be there for me.. but guess not. and my mom made me move to mexico at 15 so i had my baby here, im now 21 and currently living at my moms .. it is hell she complains about using electicity and cable ( i help her pay them) and the pay here is so bad there is no way on earth i can aford to fix my daughters papers and move back. i have suffered depression since we moved back and i know my daughter needs me i give her everything i can i knpw i have to be here for her. but im just done.. i worked full time and went to school full time for 5 years and im just done trying to please everyone i try to please my mom dowhat she tells me. she gets in between my parenting if i say no she says yes. i feel so alone i have thought of suicide but i cant leave my daughter im just done with everything i wish i just didnt wake up one day.i dont know what to do anymore

Question: Should I disown my parents?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:25 AM PDT

I am 23 years old and I am sick and tired of my parents telling me what to do. They keep saying I should go back to school so I can get my degree and higher paying job. I currently work in the office at a warehouse where I make 22 an hours with NO college education. So why in the world would I spend 50,000 dollars on college and be in debt most of my adult life. they also keep telling me that should find a boyfriend and get married. Like I am only 23, just stfu and leave me alone. It just goes on and on and I am sick of it. So how do I go about disowning my parents?

Question: Does this really happen to guys?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:13 AM PDT

I've only had sexual expirences with 6 guys 2 of which, I hardly count. The issue is, they couldn't get hard (or they did get hard but continue to get soft when trying to perform) and they blame it on the wearing a condom or of being tired. But is that really the case, just make me feel self-conscious. Thanks.

Question: My brother is an alcoholic, should I let my kids around him at family holidays as many others will be there?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:03 AM PDT

I dont want my 3 kids to miss the whole holiday (up to 21 others will be there). We'd be the only family not participating. However, when my brother is drunk he curses about politics and sports and he also gets angry at his kids like their dogs. He has on two occasions gotten snappy with my kids when drunk. Only two times have my kids complained. My kids are 11, 9, and 5. What should I do? My brother is almost always drunk but his wife acts like nothing is wrong which I know is common in alcoholic marriages (my late father was an alcoholic). It agitates me tremendously and wrecks my day because it reminds me of how my Dad was. @Jake----and will my kids mind it just being the 5 of us, their cousins and grandmother wont be there?

Question: Am I unfaithful not to have seen my two great-uncles who recently past through my home town one of whom is close to us?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 08:00 AM PDT

There is one we are close to and I tried to see him but when my Dad saw him I said "can I come" and my Dad said no because the lunch was already set up and it was some other people with reservations but he'd send my regards and let me know if there was another time I could see him. My Dad didn't help me get info on where he was staying (he being the great-uncle) and so I didn't get to see him. Also, I didn't want to bother my Dad by asking more then twice (my Dad is impatient when I do but forgets easily). That was last week and so I didn't see him. I emailed his son but didn't hear back but the son has only met me a few times when I was a kid (I am in my 20's now). That great-uncle we are close to. Another great-uncle on the other side of the family we are not close to. My grandmother (his sister) has tried to reach out over the years but he is non-receptive as his wife has control over him and pulls him away from his family. So he was in town but only saw the sibling his wife is close to. I have only met that great-uncle at a reunion held every two years through the 2000's decade and at two funerals. So was I unfaithful?

Question: Who was in the wrong?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 07:17 AM PDT

I had to fire this babysitter, I had watching my 3 and 5 year old recently. I fired her because she was very stupid. I had her since March, my 5 year old was in the restroom at our house by himself while she watched my 3 year old. He is a 5 year old!!!!! She told me he came out of the bathroom laughing and said he pooped on the floor as a joke. She came upstairs and got me, I was studying as I'm in college my husband and I are 40 and 45. I cussed her out for interrupting me and told her she will never amount to anything and will never work for anyone again. She refused to clean his mess up, saying he needs to and it is not funny. At first my 5 year old was laughing then started crying when she told him he has to clean it up because she refuses to. I got in her face, she pushed me away I threatened to call police but instead got my husband to come home and we fired her. Why is she an immature woman? She is 17 or 18 I forgot which one. She should be more mature than that. What would you have done? Maybe she's retarded... When I was her age, I had my own home already, I was a CEO and did not do babysitting jobs anymore and she doesn't. I feel bad for special people. Babysitter said she tried to get my son that is 5, who is too young to clean up to clean his mess up but he started screaming and is when she got me.I refused to give the stupid babysitter cleaning supplies and I hugged my son after she made him cry. I hold grudges. I have been giving this womans number out to people, her name and picture too. I have been telling everyone how horrible she is, and to never hire her for any job. So, far, it is working, I think. I don't see how you people think I was being rude. I was simply standing up for my 5 year old son!!!!!!

Question: How do I address my mother's cousin's daughter?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 06:20 AM PDT

Not the name obviously, to all the weirdos out there. Do I address her as my "cousin"?

Question: My Step daughter constantly talking about her biological mother?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 06:16 AM PDT

step daughter s life since she was 3 now 10 we ve continuously had issues with her mother. Her mother cheated and got pregnant by another man and left my current husband years ago. The 2nd she found out he moved on and happy she wasnt. Throughout the years she has tried anything and everything to make sure he s miserable. I have always respected the situation and have been more than nice.While she was smaller she would mention her mom Just simple things like "my mom goes to that store I always responded positively. I never speak badly of her mom in front of her or when she s around about four years into our relationship it got pretty bad she finally admitted that her mom doesn t like me and is always talking bad about me this came about because her mother called my husband accusing me of doing somethingmean to her which was an lie we couldn t figure out why she lied about it so my husband asked her she basically told my husband that she wanted to make your mom happy by saying that. This is what led up to her admitting that her mom does not like me and he s always talking bad about me. Things settled down nothing crazy has happened but over the last 6 months no matter what I do she is relating it to her mom and at this point I don t know if she s trying to piss me off or she s trying to get me to like her mom even though I ve never shown I don t like her. I m really confused at this point if she s with me for 6 hours one day she will talk about her mom about 20 times

Question: My mother destroys the Christmas holiday season each year by keeping us from extended family, how do I get over this hurt?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 05:55 AM PDT

She is uncomfortable due to bad memories from her childhood but the people have all changed and are nice to all of us now so I don't see why we should need to miss out when they are all nice now. @Carlos----No she is not, she is just having bad memories of some personality stuff that went on when she was a kid, I have asked her over the years. She was barked at a lot but everyone has mellowed since. Also her big brother was a bully but is an adult now

Question: I hate my sister?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 04:23 AM PDT

Sometimes I really just despise her. She gets good grades in school and because of that thinks she's all that . She brags and makes it look like she is the only one that matters. She is rude and obnoxious. She gets everything she wants. The other day she got an iphone just for good grades. I still have an old samsung. Is it wrong for me to hate her?

Question: Why is my bestfriend acting bitchy?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 03:25 AM PDT

I don't know whats wrong honestly. Last year another girl came in between us and it did cause some damage to our relationship... Anyways that's all settled now. Why I think she might be pissed: So the guy I used to like, liked her and asked her out. I was totally fine with it as I already knew he was gonna ask her out. She said no even though i told her she could have said yes but she said it was against "girl" code. Anyways after that the guy that i used to like and I started talking a lot, people starting thinking that we were dating and liked each other (I have no feelings for him anymore at this point). Gradually we turned into bestfriends. Whenever I talk about him, shes always like "yeah, we get it you love him he loves you congrats! Dont rub it in my face". I have a feeling that she likes him JUST cause he asked her out (yes she is very desperate). What she does to me: She treats me like her servant, today she told me to hold her phone so she could climb on the soccer nets. I said no cause i wanted to climb on them too. So she was like "Fine bi*** why the f*** you so rude?". She always calls me fat and ugly and then says "jk" at the end now. She has this really bitchy expression around me, and she basically just treats me really bad. (PLEASE HELP!!)

Question: SOLE CUSTODY QUESTION, ANY ADVICE?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:33 AM PDT

Greetings to ALL! I would like SOLE custody, no visitation rights at all for my daughter born 6/2015. BACKGROUND: -Her other parent does not call nor ask how she is doing nor is concerned about her well being -Makes plans then breaks them hours later constantly rather he gives me $100-150 every other wk for expenses. -He lives in Philly, PA, I live in Delaware. I do have a vehicle as he does not. (I have made NUMEROUS trips for him to see his daughter but I now REFUSE to waste my gas, time, and energy for someone who has not made one trip to DE, even if its just to meetup at the mall to spend time w/ his daughter.) -He smokes (BOTH kinds, I already know what you're thinking) and has a pet (which she is allergic to pet hair & breaks out in red bumps all over her chest and face if comes in contact w/ it.) -He works FT during the week ONLY but has not seen her in 2 1/2-3wks, before that 2 1/2months before that 3wks, before that 1 1/2month, and so on and so on. (Sorry I write EVERYTHING DOWN). REASON: -I have an extraordinary job opportunity to move back to AZ where I previously lived before coming back home to DE due to pregnancy complications to have my daughter. I have already set up a consultation with a lawyer for later next week. I am sick of being nice and accommodating to her other parent who has proven to be an inconsistent factor in her life time after time. I am at my wits end at this point. *ALL ADVICE IS WELCOMED, BUT PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL!*THANK U IN ADVANCE!*

Question: Should I take the blame for something that i was not trying to do?

Posted: 04 Oct 2016 01:18 AM PDT

At my Aunt s dance company she has a floor that had a lot of weak spots. If you land on the wrong part of the floor the floor boards will become uneven. The cost of the floor was very expensive, thousands. Sometimes I would jump up in the air and land on the floor boards wrong and then they would become uneven. My aunt says that people have told her that I have been purposefully breaking the floor boards. I have only attemped to break the floor boards once after I had broken it for the first time because I wanted to see if could happen again and it could. So after I realized the ground could break, I was being as cautious as I could, but it just kept happening. One day I was at dance class and I ran across the floor and jumped mid air because I had just had coffee and I a little bit hyper and when I landed the floor the floor board became uneven and my aunt had seen it happen. She became very angered by this as she had thought I was breaking her floorboards on purpose (which I was not). That night after dance class my mom and my aunt got into very big and loud argument that almost ended in a fist fight because of what I have done. I do not know whether or not to take the blame and apologize for breaking the floor boards purposefully (which I did not do it was an accident I swear on everything you can swear on) or stand up for myself and stick to my word that I was not trying to break her expensive dance floor.

Question: Got grounded by my brother?! Help!?

Posted: 03 Oct 2016 08:20 PM PDT

My older brother is in charge of me while our parents are helping my grandma and staying with her for a month. He is 25 I'm 14 I get my grades online and it happened while my parents were gone, so they told him to check it he expects A's and B's. I had a C and D. I knew I was in for trouble. When I got home I was on my laptop. and he asked me to pulled up my grades I lied and told him the system was down. He got his phone out of his pocket and pulled up the website." why are you lying again?" "No" "GET UP " I got up and he pulled up the website and told me to enter my info. I did as I was told because I knew he was already pissed for me lying. I looked at my grades and saw the C and D. I started to explain. " Shut up.. What the hell are you doing everyday when you go to that school" " I am trying I swear" " We are going to make sure you try harder, by taking your stuff away" I started crying. " I am tired of you. You are going to feel it now." He took away my phone away, and grounded me for a week. He said I will get my phone back when my grades will get better, even if my parents will be home by then. Why does he always act like a parent I hate it!

Question: Is there a way to mend my relationship with my sister We fight like cats and dogs and i love her but she said i was dead to her?

Posted: 03 Oct 2016 08:19 PM PDT

Im 13 shes 14

Question: RANDOM GUY COMES TO LIVE WITH ME?

Posted: 03 Oct 2016 08:18 PM PDT

About a week ago I went to Disneyland. I met Mickey Mouse there and invite him to stay with me and my parents in my hotel. So when it was our last day there, we were packing up to go home, and he just assumed he was coming with us, so I had to buy him a plane ticket. it's been two days, and I don't know why he's still here. he sleeps in his costume and rarely takes it off. At dinner he rarely talks and always stares at my 12 y/o sister. He trashed my room yesterday looking for "something", h wouldn't tell me what. the reason we let him stay with us is because we signed up for this online care volunteer sight and he told us he was assigned to live with us. But, we didn't know that he was gonna dress up as mickey mouse. yesterday he asked to sleep in my sister's room instead of the attic because it is "too cold" (keep in mind he wares a big furry suit to bed). His favorite singer is Macklemore and he is always blasting his music on the speaker he took from my room. He is also trying to persuade us to buy him a phone. oh and he also smokes in the house, and offered a cigarette to my sister. he also makes up buy his cigarettes. Apparently his name is Mitch, so, when he's not calling himself Mickey Mouse, he's calling himself Mitchey Mouse Update: Update: I'm keeping this question anonymous because he is aware of my yahoo answers and always looks for me. I am scared.. should I be? Update 2: Update 2: my parents don't think it's a big deal, but I told my 23 year old brother who's in college about this and he thinks I should run away and leave my parents.

Question: Ten year old won't take a shower?

Posted: 03 Oct 2016 08:11 PM PDT

My little sister refuses to take showers and baths. Its not that she is afraid to, she is just lazy. She neglects all personal hygiene in general. This includes brushing teeth, washing her face, changing her clothes (including her underwear) and brushing her hair. I try to get her to take care of her self but she always says ask mom. I do and my parents say she has to, but never really put their foot down. They tell me that its not my business. It is because she is the baby in the family. All of my relatives take showers everyday except for her. My mom also says she isn't old enough for deodorant even though she asked me if I wanted it when I was 8 or 9. She honestly needs it. She plays sports and gets really sweaty but doesn't bathe after words. She has actually gone more than a month without bathing/showering. She smells pretty gross and I'm also worried that if her habits don't improve she will lose friends because of this. Is this behaviour acceptable at her age?