I wa invited to a wedding by my best friend today and it takes place tommarow. The event and reception will be inside her pulbarn and the weather will be about 65-70 about the whole night. She said to dress casually because it is a "redneck" wedding but I still don t know what to wear. Help please!

My fiance and I were high school sweethearts & have been together for 10 years. We were planning to get married a few years ago, but some family issues came up & then I got sick. We live in TX, but were from IL, so basically all of our friends & family are up there. I am finally starting to get better & we are so sick of waiting to get married, plus I really feel like its been laid on my heart that we need to make it official. However, I am still in no position to plan an actual wedding and reception, nor do we have any funds to do so even if I were better & since I never know when I am going to have a good or bad day I cant really afford to fly ppl in or travel, so we have decided that if it would just have be us for now & then as I get better we can have a formal celebration. I am a little heartbroken that I am sacrificing the big day, but beginning my marriage officially is more important. My concern now lies with how to handle things in the most appropriate & thoughtful manner. Is everyone going to think I'm tacky for saying our vows now & having the celebration and maybe some formal type of ceremony after I am well enough to plan it?? I want to eventually have a big beautiful dress, and have friends stand up with me (even if we wouldn't call them bridesmaids) and still do a very weddingish type of reception with many similar components, so we can share that experience with our loved ones, but I am so concerned ppl will think I am tacky, or somehow selfish.

Is a cocktail/ finger food reception for a wedding instead of a dinner/buffet tacky? I am trying to figure creative ways to save as much money as possible. It'll be 70 ppl, and thought that a elaborate spread on 3 large tables and ppl just go up and grab a plate and serve themselves as they please throughout the night? Is this tacky or no? The finger foods will be exquisite, elaborate, and vast. Edit: a lot of you depend your answer on the time of day, it will be around 7-8, and all the drinking and dancing taking place from 8-midnight. The finger foods will be hearty, like stuffed prawns, spring rolls, etc.