How would u punish me. I don't do homework or chores. I don't listen to my parents. I'm disrespectful towards them. And I have all d as grade whys in school.

I have a 17 year old cousin I met last year. My dad and his brother were estranged for 35 years and after my grandmothers death they came together ( for financial reasons). I'm 24 and I clicked with my cousin right away. We didn't let our parents drama get in between missing years. Anyways when we met them it was sort of a lie. I've never had a good relatioship with my parents. Its gotten to the point where I haven't seen or spoken to them for 10 months. I moved and changed my number. Since then my cousins family has been begging me to rekindle. But that's impossible my dad physically/verbally abusive. My mother lies, steals, and breaks my belingings intentionally if she feels like she cant control me. I have no desire to have them in my life. she used to show up at my work to yell at me causing me of theft. I always tell her to file a report but she finds it a few days later. She once tried to sue the workers in her apartment for stealing her necklace which the case was dropped she had no proof. 10 years later she finds it behind the bed frame under the box spring. My cousins family doesn't understand this. My parents made a great impression on them and I can tell they think I'm the problem. I don't ssee why I have to be the one to make effort to rekindle when I don't even want any affiliation with them. How can I explain to them this relationship is too broken to fix. They both need medication.

Been shy around girls most my life. I'm 18 and kinda been sheltered from them. Never was I allowed to have posters of hot girls on my wall like other people and therefore, was kinda left out. We get Victoria's Secret Magazines in the mail and at first, I was nervous about being seen just flipping through the pages of one. The girls are pretty. After awhile, I loosened up and begin openly looking at the mags and even to the point of changing the computer background with these girls. It's my moms computer but I use it more. It has a big screen monitor. Never was I told I'm not allowed to have girls on the background so I took it as it was not a problem. Then I moved to this cute girl. . She is so cute https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgL7XL6QzQ92ggUDgFUujF79jh7GsH73G7CuzRKW02et5SIaOkU5-80xDgZRZ8pAu1YASi-ZunKxAjQFkRbczH_-9HaLFD3JBpVEHPeD3FAGouU8LASvqf1TAG6nlILmSof7uwhVEwKZXE/s1600/cc_Jaclyn_Swedberg_05XL.jpg https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixra96MWkI6SIJu7du0Ac1S3woXdOFDvVmUK3iPmfOTfMyBiTx2YrSMyfm9kuVHmE0mDAQ_PkgROhX7VNzFNMVouYJjkTI6u9PhzdnvhKX-OJCMZTo2VdbO3Hfp019eMDbFO1PWzXq360/s1600/cc_Jaclyn_Swedberg_03XL.jpg https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj8D8YnU-gboTOnLgilxMh1UGdYtoQi1v9869A_t7cHmzyuLksGW3bb48Tmwv-6kAS0O7QTtL7gqh_sHaaU0nZRlRZRt27sF0HaHiX8qthR-crVzs7hy2sKoO-P-_BD8zlo-rPBdsvdffo/s1600/cc_Jaclyn_Swedberg_09XL.jpg This is my favorite picture of her. She is hot!! What kind of pose is this called??? https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjM-LzykEVuywe_LtCk-Niu6tLASfNUVC0V2EDKnqN2aRT64Aww_CVPzihkv2WvUEos07c8IELJk3RkHAI0E9ad2D0Y6F8cOmRymmK1VJvXNPQuTZzOeDoo5_PvrQRT4jNYEJfYd4cJAMc/s1600/cc_Jaclyn_Swedberg_10XL.jpg https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg246hRl2m2n0fel-EVrzfy292M-NI-RPOYNyqzPSgwcqMF2cQgczfCd9KkuzIdQUMAvrKjOZ_G_W6hB2FEAX4MiSJGEB2eajlemGPjCVbIPfbN_YXvP2pQe5T2SqJ88AHaLlpwkm2nE10/s1600/cc_Jaclyn_Swedberg_24XL.jpg

I'm 13 and I woke up with my onesie half way unzipped I know I went for he bathroom at like5:20 and woke up at 5;30 for school and I also know I unzipped it in the middle of the night to scratch my leg do you thing that maybe I only half way zipped it when I scrathched my leg or when I went to the bathroom WHAT IF SOMEONE ELSE UNZIPPED IT AND RAPED ME??? I'm SRRY IM just very paranoid ;-;

My 11yrs old son is going to spend the weekend with me for the first time, it seems like he fear rats a lot, as he was terrified by small rat outside the house, and he doesn't know, that I actually have a rat problem INSIDE my house as well, and the house becomes a play zone for rats once the night approach, so should I tell him from now or let him get surprised

I Was really pissed off this morning and I yanked the towel in the bathroom really hard but I heard a pop and the towel rod was pulled out of the wall. It looked pretty bad, some of the stucco was torn out. I feel pretty stupid for doing that, and I know my dad will find out soon. My brother shot and broke a light outside and never told my dad, my dad made him work his *** off lol. Sooo how should I tell my dad? Should I tell him? I'm sure he'll see it sometime and my brother saw me break it, so how should I approach him?

My son is pretty successful. He is great in sports, is a cadet, and is spoken highly of by his commanding officer and peers at the cadet corps, but when he is at school with regular kids, he gets angry and annoyed with them all the time. He says that he would rather be with the other cadets or the wrestling team or the girl he is seeing. He thinks everyone else are idiots. If every else are idiots, then he must be the ******?

He tells me that he will take me fishing ever since 2012 and hasn't. Well he told me he would take me to a dirtbike race which is tomorrow and said he can't cause he is helping me save money for my birthday party,birthday dinner and my birthday presents. But he is taking himself fishing today. But is going without me. The dirtbike race cost only like 10 dollars and 20 for both of us. The fishing cost more money. I want to tell him out I feel but I'm to afraid to and that he will yell and me and be mean to me. I don't want him to get mad at me. What should I do? I feel like telling him that I want his love and attention. But I'm too scared to.

I'm 15 years old and my mom keeps doing things without my consent. For instance, my mom is going to schedule some consular meeting thing because "of all the change" that's been going on. She says "I need someone to talk to" about this stuff and to be honest, I couldn't care less about all the change in my my life. She always does stuff like this. I'm happy how I am now and with my mom making me go to this stuff it's really getting on my nerves. Don't try and tell me that she's my mom and she can do whatever she wants (Not literally). Because I feel like I should be making my own decisions at what I want to do. If I feel like I need to go see a consular then I'll tell her, but I don't need to right now and that's the problem. She's going to be wasting her money on that when I'm going to get nothing out of it. I can make my own decisions now. I know what's happening and I know that I am mature enough to stand up for myself even to my mom. Any advice? counselor* And it's not just the counselor meeting, it's other stuff too.

My son is 14. He dont like finshin he dont like huntin and he dont like big trucks. He dont like sports or football. Instead he likes cookin channel what a sissy. He dont burp or fart in public or at home. He dont walk around the house in his underwear. He dont chew tobacco either. He dont like to hang out with me he likes to hang out with his momma instead. He dont like to fight whats wrong with him.

I am 25 y/o and I know to some that may not sound that young but I am dating a man one year younger than me who has a 3 y/o daughter from a previous relationship. I have never dated a man with a kid and I never thought I would but he has been talking recently about meeting his family and vice versa. I am nervous about telling my family, particularly my parents. I come from, not so much a religious but just TRADITIONAL family. What is the best way to bring it up? Note: they do not know I am dating anyone right now. Any advice will help. Thanks! ***Also, note that they are polite so they would never say anything nasty in front of him.. but what do I do if they make negative remarks about him having a kid when I tell them? I already know how they are going to feel about it. We have a cousin about my age who is doing the "Stepmom" thing right now and they don't exactly have the nicest comments on her situation...I can only imagine how they'' feel when they find out their daughter is headed in the same direction.....

I live with my mom and I'm 16. She works part time but manages to OWN a home big enough for us and my two brothers, and we own seven dogs who are also maintained very well. She has 2 cars. My oldest brother has a job so he helps a little with paying rent, he owns a car. My other brother helps a little at my moms office, he owns a car. We aren't poor for sure, we vacation a few times a year. I'm not trying to brag PLEASE DONT BE RUDE, I'm just bored and curious.

My mom and dad both teach, so of course they are liberals. I love my parents, and I think they are good, smart people, but I think they are totally clueless. I don't even understand why they are so liberal. I am not sure they do either. Every time I try to talk about it they get angry and disappointed. I told my mom that I was pretty sure that most Muslims are antisemitic, and she went off "proving" to me that they were not. Then when my folks were upset about how our healthcare premiums were so much money now, I asked them if they were mad about Obama Care, because that is when they got so expensive, and we can't even go to Mayo Clinic where my doctor is, we have to go to this filthy downtown hospital which is disgusting now. And they like explained how that wasn't it. It was something else about the insurance company. So I rolled my eyes, and my mom got really angry again. I don't think Obama cares about people like us. I don't think Hilary Clinton cares about people like us. I don't agree with Donald Trump very much at all, but I completely do agree that he cares about people like us. And I think this is a good start. I don't care what my teachers or my parents keep telling me. I may not be politically smart, but that doesn't mean people should tell me what I can think. But I don't want to argue either. Should I just nod along with my parents and my school teachers, and then just start voting as soon as I can the right way? I am not a troll! I just don't want to say who I am because I don't want people to know what goes on in my family. It's personal to me! And Anne, at least I know it is spelled "homeschooled" not "homeskooled" You guys are really mean for no reason. Nothing I have said insults anybody. If you think I am a troll, then don't bother answering I guess.

She is like obsessed with Nancy Reagan. She shook her hand once at an open house at the White House as did we (Easter Egg Roll). My mother now is like obsessed on memorializing Nancy Reagan like it was her grandmother or something. My mother left me a message hysterical the day Nancy Reagan died and I was like "it is a First Lady Mom, it is not one of your kids". So she now has 14 Nancy Reagan images in the first floor of her house (it was 3 before Reagan died). How do I get her to get over this obsession?

I am 14 and I feel like they, mainly my mother, are wrecking the family. He has apologized for what he did (he misled her about finances to keep her relaxed) but she won't forgive. She never forgives unless it is one of her kids messing up. How do I get rid of this anger. They are almost divorced and they separated in September. My mother also continuously bad mouths my Dad. I am raised to believe Christian so I am not supposed to be angry, how do I get rid of this anger. I don't even want to be around my Mom right now.

What should i do.. Should i tell my parents that i know? Im 16 and i really dont know what to think about it.. Im shocked, i nevet expected that. My brother is 12 and hes really close to my parents and if he found out he would probably be rly upset.. I dont know what to do...

But my mom and dad said thay could not. Is it a frequency only children can hear? Im 13 Is there somthing wrong with my brain? I could only hear them outside or by a open window

I live in a different state than the rest of my family. I have been consumed by depression and anxiety, the feeling that I'm all alone. I am very pregnant and have two daughters, a five year old that I sadly do not have custody of and a four year old. I ask if my oldest daughter will hate me because I desperately want to move back home.. I have wanted this for years. But have not because I couldn't stand the idea of leaving her. I would skype and call everyday but I don't feel like that's enough. she needs her mom. however I don't feel like I am the best I can be for any of my children when I am haunted by these emotions. If I was to move away I would have family support, but I cant leave her. I'm so conflicted please help

My grandmother has cancer and she doesn't live good so we are expecting the worst, my mom and uncle are fighting and have been for years they don't talk and I really miss my uncle. How would I get them to reconcile

I went shopping with my sister at the mall for some new clothes. After we got home and were looking through what we had bought, my sister took out her new bra and said "I want to get a mans opinion on how this looks". I thought she was just going to take it in the living room and show it to my husband. Instead she went into the living room, pulled off her blouse and her old bra and put on the new bra and asked my husband how it looked on her. He immediately got up and left the room without saying a word. Was my husband being rude to my sister for not answering her question and just leaving the room? What do you think?

I'm just curious. And I'm trying to decide how to pay rent if I don't go to college yet. I'm 17, so I have to figure this out soon! My family doesn't have health insurance, I don't have a car and I'm not on my parents' insurance...and if I go to college they won't pay it. I'm fine with buying my own stuff and paying for college.... My older brother has disabilities so he gets a few hundred from the gov every month, so he's self sustaining in a way...so he 'pays' our parents about 300 a month. So there's food costs I guess. My bro and I have been wearing the same clothes for years since we're both small...but we buy new clothes sometimes. Have I missed any expenses? I'm thinking of just paying for my food and clothes if I keep living with them. I might eventually get a scooter or something, but I will pay for all of it of course.

My sister was dumped my her husband of 10 years for a woman much younger than she was. The house sold and she had to move but her apartment would not be ready for 2 weeks so she is temporally staying with my husband and me. As expected she is depressed and has a very low self esteem. Trying to help her I asked my husband to tell her she is still beautiful and appealing to men. He did not want to do it but I insisted and that was what he told her. BIG MISTAKE. She thought he was flirting with her and she has been flirting with him ever since. He has been trying to avoid her but it is hard when she is living here. He wants me to tell her to back off. His is not interested in her in any way. I think he should tell her so I will remain good friends with her. Please give me your opinion. Who should tell her? My husband says the faster she leaves our house the better.

My mother and I haven't been talking for more than a week and it's pretty unusual, because she usually calls every day. I know that she is "butthurt", and I kind of feel sorry for her, but I don't feel guilty. However I don't know if I should or not. Basically my mom and I have very different political views. I don't care about it at all. I just don't talk about it to her. We won't persuade each other, it leads nowhere but quarrels. She also likes to pull her "parental authority" (I'm 29 ffs). She even does that when I say a certain actor is good looking and she thinks he is not! So yeah, it simply makes no sense to talk about it to her, but lately she kept pushing it, despite of me stating that I do not care about her views and I'm not talking about politics. So last time she visited me because she wanted me to do her nails because she had a job interview. She arrived and after 10 minutes she started "the politics" again. After a while I told her: 'You know, it will be great if you get that job'. She was like: 'Why?' And I said; 'because you'll stop tiring me with this. You always have to bring up politics.' She jumped up, snapped that she could do her manicure on her own and ran away. On the one hand I don't feel responsible, because I expressed several times that I had no desire to talk about politics, but she kept on going. On the other hand, I kind of feel sorry for her, since she is unemployed and most of the time I was her company. She has friends, but they work, so of course they have less time for her. I work from home, so to her this means that I'm always available. My father works a lot, so I usually help her with the garden + she always wants me to go with her whatever she does. She doesn't take "No" well. Her unemployment is not an issue, she enjoys it, and only went for the interview because a good friend organized it for her. I'm not even sure why I feel so sorry for her. Not for what I said, but still.

So i fear my mother my might have the onset of dementia. she says she doesn t however she doesn t seem to remember much anymore. Or she doesn t listen. I feel she never listens however i had that feeling growing up threw out my whole life. so at what point do i assist with her health issues. Long story short i don t know when the timing of me stepping in. My mother lives with me and can do basic things like fend for her self. she gets tired quickly when she does tasks and if she over does it she is out for a few days. . Like i said she lives with me and she uses money from the gorvernement to help pay for some of the household needs. sometimes i feel she does this to be lazy and not work but she is in her 60 s and i m really not sure at what poitn to step in . i feel people or familys with children know when as they care for something . however i have no children so i really have no clue. my mom isn t that bad off. at least i don t assume. she knows how to feed her self and do basic things mainly she is on the phone all day and wants tv. she doesn t have many friends just a handful and most of them are just family her sisters. I have asked her sisters the samequestion and konw one knows. i am not a good care giver i m not home enought to be a caregiver. so at what point do i step into her health care and take over is it when she tells me to. she never will she don t want to put me out. so i have this on going battel in my head of when to care for my mother. who i love

Okay my Moms fiancée kids are a nightmare. He has two boys and every since the beginning they have been so rude. They were 16 and 10 when they got together and they would say awful things like the f word and the d word for a mans private. Just really foul stuff. The oldest one still says things to me and my Mom that are rude. The other day he came in and said some girl gave a guy head he knew and then someone got gang banged. Am I the only one that finds this disgusting? Is it okay for a guy to talk this way infront of me and my Mother?

Mothers generally enjoy telling others of their children s accomplishments. However, what if you had a child that grew up to be a failure in life? Would you question your Parenting, if they grew up to be living in poverty, and obese(an obvious issues alert? The reason I ask is because I find it sad that any Mother never really gets to "brag," about their child. While I know one Woman who is very nice, Her daughter grew up to be very fat, toothless, lives in poverty,and has not even visited the town next to Her! A true "townie." How could this Woman not question what She did wrong when Her child turns out to be what most people would see as a loser? Not to mention, the son(Brother) drank himself to death. It appears that this Woman was a terrible Mother! Any ideas, opinions, thoughts on this sad case?

Eg: My nephews call me uncle, so what does my first cousin once removed call me?

I'm 19 years old. My mom abandoned me as a baby and I was raised between my dad and his parents, my grandparents, for the next 8 years. My dad (and I call him that loosely because he wasn't a very good one at all) then ended up doing some pretty horrible stuff to me. Called me a waste of his time, said he wished I'd died while my mom was pregnant/been stillborn and allowed his ex-wife to slap me for refusing to get her a beer from the refrigerator. My grandparents ended up with custody of me after that. They were great and I am so thankful they were in my life. Honestly, they are my parents. They've inspired me so much and I hope I'll be as good a parent to my future kids (that I hope to have one day) as they were to me. So now to why I'm asking this. My dad got married some time in the last 3 years. When his wife became pregnant and reached out to me, apologized and said he would love for us to build our relationship up. He said he would do anything and knows his wife would love to meet me, etc. He also said he wanted his new child (baby girl) to get to know their big sister. I do accept he's changed, from what I've been told and from the way he spoke. But I have no interest in ever having anything to do with him again. That includes his wife and kids. My aunt said I should be more receptive to him because he's changed and because I want kids in the future and they'll deserve their grandfather. She also said it's not fair to his new daughter and possible future kids. I'm just here to get some opinions. I don't think they'll change my mind, but I would like to get opinions anyway.

I dont know anything about mortgages or renting or vehicles or ANYTHING about adulthood and I'm almost hyperventilating right now because my parents arent there for me and I dont know how I'm gonna survive when I dont even know how to talk on the phone without fear..... help

Basically I m a 21 year old woman in a relationship with another woman. I live with my mom at the moment and she has said that she will never approve of my relationship and sexuality. So because of that I m moving out and she s throwing a fit about it being all butt hurt saying I m burning bridges and what s gonna happen if I need her help etc. She said I m not treating my family right but my dad supports me and all she s mostly done is discourage and guide me to live my life the way she wants me to live it so I don t really feel too bad about moving out from her house and decreasing contact. I don t think I m choosing my relationship over her but rather I m choosing freedom over her haha. At this point there s no way to part on good terms so I m wondering if what she s saying is correct that I m selfish and misguided and should be filled with shame for "taking her for granted and disrespecting her". If it helps, I m Asian and Asian families really emphasize the whole honoring your parents and basically living with them till you re married type deal.

everyone has someone they look up to a family member singer model or whatever but is it ok that you look up to only yourself? no one is going to love myself as much as I do so I don't really have any reason to look up to anyone else I get ignored a lot I talk to myself a lot in my head if I said what's on my mind loud I know I would get yelled at. plus I can't vent to even my own mom because even she ignores me but when my brother talks about his problems she is there for him and that is not fair. so if I can't look up to her why look up to anyone else? accept me.

My mom had me when she was young. My dad was smoking weed and shooting up other drugs and drinking a lot. When I was one, my mom gave him the choice of me and my mom or drugs. He chose drugs. My mom wouldn't let me see him until it was court ordered once a week when I was six. He was paralyzed from a car wreck. I know getting in a wheel chair is hard, but he still made absolutely no attempt to see me or talk to me. When I would go to his house, I would stay with his parents instead because most of the time he didn't know or care that I was there. I remember being around 8-10 years old and he would make plans with me and I would be excited, but he would cancel everytime. One time we were supposed to go camping and he was supposed to pick me up after school. He forgot. The next summer, we went camping and he got drunk, was smoking weed, and called me a *****. He would yell things at me for no reason. He tries to pick fights with me every single time we talk. My best friend knows all this. She still says "but he's your dad." But apparently it'd be ok to hate him if he did this and wasn't my dad? It doesn't matter if he's my biological dad or not, he's a jerk. She says "At least he tried to talk to you." He does, but he tries to pick fights every time. Is it bad I hate my dad? Is my friend right?

how to be a older sister to two sisters that act like brats

Ok so please no negative responses, this may seem trivial, but I'm curious to see if any other parents have dealt with this....my husband and I have been married for 8 years and had our first baby almost a year ago. She is first grandbaby for my inlaws and second for my parents. After we said I do, my mother in law (MIL)started asking to be a grandma. When we announced our pregnancy after 7 years of marriage, my MIL bought herself a dozen grandma shirts and kept calling herself grandma. Closer to my due date, a friend of my MIL told her she was too young to be a grandma (she's 60 BTW) so my MIL tossed her grandma shirts, ordered tons of nana ones, and started calling herself nana. My mom had been a nana for 4 years and that's what I want our daughter to call her (my mom is 45 BTW). I think it will be confusing for our daughter to have 2 nanas and I think my MIL is being ridiculous. She now obnoxiously says nana a hundred times to our 9 month old daughter everytime she sees her and when my husband says grandma, she says she's too young to be grandma.

I am going to graduate from high school next month. I applied out of state school. Because I didn't want to live with my dad anymore. He often beat me up and my mom. That's why I really want get out of the house. I'm 17th he beat me curse at me. Lucky I got accepted out of state school. My mom don't want me to leave because my boyfriend lives in the same state. Mom thinks if my relatives figure out we live in Same state they will talk about things about me. My mom told me if I go there she will forget I'm her daughter. What am I suppose to do ? I'm really stuck. Please someone give me an advice. Please

He tried to hit me and chased me, so I ran and locked myself in my room and called the police. They made my parents let them in, and went upstairs to my room and made me come out. I told them my dad tried to hit me and he was drunk, they did a test on him and had him arrested. He's back from jail now, but my mom is so angry I called! and my uncles and cousins are too. but WHY? He was threatening my mom too and my sibs were terrified. He gets drunk a lot but he usually doesn't hit...what else could I have done? My dad's not mad though. He was crying and said he hated me... I think everyone hates me. What's wrong with them?! they never tried to help us or stop my dad from yelling and screaming at us btw. why get mad now?

Dad's been going through some health problems and there's a lot of other stuff going on in my mother's life. The trouble is she unloads all of it on me. I'm willing to listen some but it seems like she expects me to be available to her every waking moment of the day. She'll just walk into my room and start talking at me, no matter what I'm doing. I've tried to tell her that it's getting overwhelming for me and she just goes on about how hard it is for her and can't I give her some sympathy and don't be so selfish. At this point her troubles are the first thing I hear in the morning every day and the last thing I hear at night. I even started going to bed early and reading in bed for an hour, but she figured that out so now she comes in after I've gone to bed to talk because she knows I won't be asleep yet. I want to help her but it's setting me on edge having her interrupt me constantly with what's going on with her. I feel like I'm being expected to be a live-in therapist. It's taking me away to where I have a hard time concentrating on my own work because I'm worried and struggling dealing with her. How do I make this stop?

He is using Make a Wish foundation to get a cruise to Italy for his whole family. He is claiming his son is very I'll...in truth the boy has had 2 heart surgeries and is living a normal life, plays baseball, sports, doesn't have restrictions etc. Even worse, they can afford vacations they take 3 per year. And it wasn't the boys idea for a cruise at all! I think this is bad as actual sick kids whose parents can't afford it should get that money. Am I being judgy? They just got back from China, if he was a sickly child they never would have gone.

Lately my brother has been living with me because his house was on fire. I felt bad for him so I let him stay. But the thing is he keeps eating all my food... I keep giving him limits, but he keeps "mishearing" me. (Like instead of one CAN of soup, he thinks I mean one GALLON of soup ect) how do I get him to stop?

I always wanted a twin for many reasons so I can vent without bein pushed away or ignored the twin could be your best friend to but I always wondered what it's like to have one because some probably fight a lot??

I am a guy and I am the youngest in my family and no I don't need anyone to protect me from anything but my brothers feel that they need to protect me. Well anyway my brothers are so annoyingly protective of me. When ever we are at church I am not allowed to misbehave or talk when the pastor is preaching but they do it all the time. When I want to date they make sure I don't do anything dumb with the girl like lose my virginity which I want to. If I get a bad grade they always lecture me about it. If I am not active they make me go run or play sports even though I am not obese anyomore. Why are they like this?

Early on in my life, my father was crazy and abusive to my family. He fought (physically) with my mother a lot. He developed some kind of mental issues after they got married and the two of us were born. He later committed suicide when I was 10 years old. He literally left a $50 bill to his name, a wife and two kids with a house and a ton of bills. She didn't have a job at all, having been a stay at home mom. He spent his years playing around with this and that body shop and various jobs that didn't go anywhere. My parents were so broke when I was born that I barely have any photos of me as a baby and toddler. They couldn't afford the film. He was pretty unproductive financially and otherwise in life. A sorry father who showed me everything that I shouldn't be if I am ever a father and definitely everything I shouldn't be if I am ever a husband. My older brother moved out early on and eventually ended up getting married to this lady with a silver spoon in her mouth. She grew up having everything handed to her. He makes about $7K per month after taxes, but she's blowing through all of his money and he's so blind that he can't see that. He doesn't do squat for his mother, but always calls her when he needs a favor, like his kid watched. Otherwise, he has little to no contact. He's so materialistic and has become a totally different person. All of my family that I know are different. My grandmother is a disaster. Mentally ill on a lot of levels. She's 80 years old, barely gets about $750 a month in social security (didn't work enough in life) and mooches off from my mom (her daughter). She never owned her own home and raised my mom and her two brothers in crazy situations, moving them from place to place every year, etc. She spent over two decades "cutting grass" with a push mower as a cash-only freelance type deal, basically. My uncle is about the same age as my mother, in his 50's. All that he has on his mind is buying junk cars that aren't worth anything and finding a way to "sleep in" his vehicle so that he can save money on rent. He has no desire to do better in life. My grandmother (his mother) didn't have the desire to do better. My mother has spent most of her life working in retail jobs that were low paying. Now in her upper 50's, she has little retirement saved and doesn't make $10/hr. Every single one of them all share a common goal: wanting no growth or scared of growth. I get so tired of them sometimes. I make $13 an hour. I'm very open to learning and grasping everything that I can. I'm fascinated with the various cultures and people of the world. My family are racist bigots who hurl racist rants around all of the time, regardless of the fact that just a couple of generations back there was a Native American on my grandmother's side of the family that married an American. I feel so out of place from them. Like I just want to get away from them because nobody seems to want to do ANYTHING in life to improve themselves. They're all scared and living in a shell. They try to limit me by thinking they can tell me who I can date, who I should marry, be friends with, etc. Do you think it is wrong for me to feel this way? I'm essentially holding my mother up financially, whereas many people turn to their parents. Mine turns to me. With the exception of my brother (who may as well be just as broke, because he can't manage his finances), nobody else in my family wants to get above the poor-little-me mindset and seek better jobs. They just like to complain about being broke. When I try to help them, they try to be controlling and tell me what I should do in life and such. The more they do that, the further away from them I feel. There's a big world out there and I desire to learn as much about it as I can.

So I was babysitting my little brother, and we both love Spongebob. So, I put on Spongebob, and we both enjoy the episode. When my mom comes into the house, she yells at me for letting him watch Spongebob. She told me it is inappropriate for someone his age. I am so confused about why she thinks Spongebob is so inappropriate. So you have any idea why it's inappropriate? Doesn't sound ridiculous? It's not like I would know if I would get in trouble, becuase my dad lets us watch it.

I was not raised by my birth mother and I've never lived with her. She has a very unstable life with an unstable man that she's been with for many years (ironic). They're constantly going through some financial crisis and going to homeless shelters, etc. I don't know much about their day to day life, but she makes it a point to call me just about every day and leave a message (that goes to the blocked voicemail box). I'm saddened by their situation, but I'm in my late 20's and Now I have my own family and can't give her money or assist her in paying bills anymore. She seems to lose every job that she gets and I've worked very hard to get to a "more comfortable" place in life (without her: I put myself through school and excelled at many things, etc.) Why does she continue calling me? What should I do?

A girl i know was rapped by her half brother twice. The first time she refused to say anything because she didnt consider it rape because they were both drunk. she was 15 and he was 21. Although her sister reported it nothing was persued. The second time was back in december of 2015. She is now 17 and got pregnant around the time of the second rape. When this second time happened he was not drunk and she was barely tipsy. She woke up with him inside of her and she pretended to still be sleeping because he keeps a gun in his room and is over 6ft tall and very buff as she is only 5'5 and small. He is a white male. She waited to officially report until yesterday.

Just looking for advice, we bought a house a few down from my wifes family, not my 1st choice. The husband messaged me in a very angry way stating I had violated his trust among other rude comments. I find this odd as my wife told them were going to look at the house and they even invited us in the there house to look at it as you can partially see the backyard from there house. I am at a loss for words as to how to respond as our offer was accepted and he told me to basically go away.

My mom thinks I have a brain of an elephant. She critizes me on everything I do. She expects me to be the best and it bothers me sometimes. It makes me feel really stupid

So i ask the girl i like how she felt about me and she says, " i didnt know you and i were ever talking ". Then i reply " thanks i can move on now. You play for me attention, i hate you untill the day i die" I feel like that last line was not needed but i was mad and heart broken. What can i do to get over this heart break? Thank you for your time on my question

I feel shame that through my existence my parents divorced. I feel like my cousins are better than me because their parents stayed together including the ones who have an alcoholic Dad, my uncle. How do I overcome my shame about indirectly causing my parents to have to divorce?

They are divorced and she tells us everything. Some tell me now that I am 20 that mothers are not supposed to do this after a divorce (I was 8 when they divorced). I hear why he lost jobs, his sex life, his lack of love for his wife, how he didn't love us kids or he would have treated her better, how he went to jail at 19 for drugs, and among others things how he is racist. I have learned in the last four years of getting closer to him that he does love us a lot, he did not have any affairs, he is not racist, and he only went to jail for one or two hours for booking. The only wrong doing was work attitude and personality conflicts with my mother (to which she shares the blame) So my question is how can I confirm who is right, Mom or Dad. My mother has since refused to back down on any of her claims accept that maybe he does love like extended family (but she still says it is not paternal love). My step-father has tried asking my mother to not bad mouth him to us. So how do I get confirmation? I am 20 and have been close to my father since age 16 but before that believed everything my mother said and even gossiped with her.

Just one more thing black people have ruined. Save your old 20's people!

My dad has been doing this since a few weeks ago. If I'm doing anything on my phone around him, he'll pretend that he's looking at something else but look at my phone screen. I also come home to my room rearranged (like things on my dressers on the floor, drawers open etc.) and he's the first to get home. What should I do? Should I confront him?

Hi some of u have read my past posts I am the user of this account that my mom uses to get advice on what to do anyway just so we stop getting the same answer she has 4 daughters and two sons thanks

She knew exactly that he was a lecherous alcoholic who touched little girls, yet she allowed my sister (who is darker complexioned than myself-a fact that kept her from the molestation - he was racist as well) stay with him and my turn-cheek alcoholic grandmother for entire summers. My aunt refused to allow her daughter to stay with him. Why wouldn't my mother try to protect me like that? I want to bury this issue, but how?

Clean I have tried to kill my self and she said If u do I will have u sent to a mane talk hospital she has grabbed my hair and threw my down stairs she has threatened to punch me in the face.... And I just wanna kill my self I don t feel wanted she is making me clean my room which is a mess she made in my room... But when it comes to my brother that s 16 he is perfect never gets yelled at or anything they do everything for him I feel like I wanna kill my self I have cut before and I m to last end

I've wanted a baby for so long. If I go to the doctor today and find out I'm not pregnant I'm going to be crushed. I want a baby so bad. I'm starting to cry just thinking about it. I don't want to wait anymore to have a baby. I'm so upset. I want a baby so bad. A child of my own. I want a family of my own. I don't have a family because they disowned me and gave me up when I was 15. What are some ways I can cope if I'm not pregnant? What's your advice?