Family: Question: Do I really have to become like my parents ?

Question: Do I really have to become like my parents ?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 01:01 PM PDT

We all know the saying : " The apple doesn't fall far away from the tree ".Well , right now I am 16 years old and I do not want to become like my parents AT ALL.Don't get me wrong , they are good parents , they love me and I love them too but the thing is that both of them have things that I really really hate about them.My dad is like one of those old fools that came back from the 2nd world war and love ordering people and are trying to be strict whilst being naive and stupid.He is actually a really cool person most of the times but sometimes he starts acting like that.Not to mention the fact that he is fat , and the last thing I want to be is a fat guy hitting my wife and calling everyone names.Right now I am 178 cm tall and 62 kg but he also used to be thin as young and although im pretty skinny , I do have a bit bigger butt and thighs , does this mean that my fate is becoming fat too ? Does that mean that I'll end up hitting my wife , calling her names and being extremely angry.Keep in mind that he is rarely like that , he is usually a pretty cool person I love and they always buy me things that I want , they tell me that they love me and they do and I do too.

Question: Por favor sólo denme consejos sin juzgar.?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:50 PM PDT

Tengo un bebé de dos años y vivo con mi mamá me separe del papá de mi bebé antes de que naciera me maltraraba y no quería trabajar. Mi mamá me dijo que me echaría la mano. Este año según voy a estudiar pero las cosas se han complicado nos la pasamos en pleito es casi del diario por todo se enoja; Mi papá trabaja fuera y ella quisiera irse con el yo pienso que esa es su frustración, pero siempre casi estamos peleando y la verdad me estoy cansando me dijo que estudiará ya que lo que pagan es muy poco y ella quería que criara a mi hijo pero ahora ya no me deja ni criarlo a como yo creo que es mejor para los dos. Ya no se que hacer si me voy de la casa todo se me va a complicar ya que para lo que pagan me va a alcanzar a luchas para la guardería de mi niño no tengo quien me lo cuide ayudenme me aguanto o que hago? El padre de mi hijo no me ayuda ni con un bote de leche ya se caso y será papá nuevamente no lo quiero pedir ayuda a él. El y su madre son el mismo diablo

Question: What is it like to be far away from your parents for the first time?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:43 PM PDT

Like going away to college, etc

Question: How can I be a good step-father to my step-son?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:42 PM PDT

Basically, I grew up without a father because he was an alcoholic. I met a great woman with an 8 year old whom I love dearly. I have a soft spot for the kid because his father is not active in his life either. Although him and I spend time together, he sometimes to push me away because he's afraid I'm going to take the place of his father. What can I do to show him I'm just here to show him love and be a support in his life like every male should have? Thank you.

Question: Why does brother care if house is kept?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:41 PM PDT

My brother lives five hours from me but wants to help me and my other brother out financially to keep house. My mom just passed away and he helped pay property taxes and other things the last few years. It sounds like my brother is afraid that if we sell the house we cannot get it back. My brother would have to pay well to keep house since I lost my job and $1,300 a month of my mom's social security will be lost. Why does my brother care if I keep the house and if he isn't paying enough to keep house should I tell him?

Question: Is it normal to have deep hatred towards your own extended family?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:21 PM PDT

I dont hate my parents just my mom side of the family. I sometimes just get so angry I curse and damn them all to hell in my head full heartedly. Even when I'm calm I still hate them. I sometimes wish they were all dead. I have always thought even when I was a kid that my mom's siblings and their kids are all a joke and a circus act. Even a death of one of her sibs doesnt faze me at all Is it normal to feel that way ?

Question: Why does my mom make fun of my mother in law?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:21 PM PDT

My mom is educated and retired from the healthcare industry. She was never married/adopted me. My husband and I have been married half a decade and my mother in law rarely worked, as she had 3 boys to raise and her husband made a good enough salary I guess. Yesterday, my husband's bro's girlfriend was showing me some cute shoes she had, which I was not familiar with. My mother in law remarked that she has a pair and that the mall has a store for the company. My mom said she had a pair as well(when I texted her about them) and automatically came back with "well just have Terri take you then!" I did not say anything, other than that Terri said the mall has this brand's store. Today- I bought a pair of the shoes at the outlet store and my mom made a nasty comment of "well, guess you bought those because Terri has them!" I said "no, actually Joe's girlfriend showed them to me!" She did not act like she believed me. No matter what I do- my mom has a nasty remark about my husband's mom. She refuses to be in the same room with the in laws and will not share holidays with them. She even influenced me to make hateful remarks to their faces before. What makes her act this way? My husband's sister died at birth and my MIL never had a daughter. My mom has made several comments like "terri wants to use you to replace her dead daughter" My MIL is very young looking for her age/very thin. My mom is obese (over 300 lbs) and old.

Question: Why won't my mom buy me alcohol?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:20 PM PDT

There's a party coming up in two weeks and I was invited. Everybody else will be drinking and I want to fit in. My parents let both my older siblings drink when they were my age but won't let me. How do I get them to

Question: I'm tired of my parents fighting all the time and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:07 PM PDT

My dad is always the one starting the argument with my mom, for silly reasons. He always insults her and it breaks me. She doesn't work because she's look after my baby brother so she stays home a lot and my dad calls her lazy and useless wife, sometimes he abuses her physically and I feel like calling the police but she keeps telling me not to. And well I don't know what else to do and I hate seeing my mom cry everyday. I think she doesn't want to divorce because she's worried it will affect me and my younger brothers but I just want her to be happy. I don't know who to talk to about this because I don't even have any trustful friends, nor close cousins my age, I don't have anyone and my younger brothers are too young to understand

Question: What to do if you regret a threat made to your kid?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:58 AM PDT

I'm a 35 year old mom whose husband died 3 years ago. My oldest daughter 13, is a great kid and rarely in trouble, but the past month or so she's gotten in trouble multiple times for not doing her homework. I talked to her to see if there was an issue, but its really just that she hates science and thinks the homework isn't worth enough. So next I tried taking things away and grounding her, but she doesn't really mind grounding (she likes to read). Meanwhile, not being used to me having to be "on" her, she's taken an attitude. Finally, the week before last, I threatened to spank her. The second I said it I was questioning myself, I haven't done that in 3-4 years, and it was always only as a last resort. But I also was at my wits end and knew she was a wimp about pain. Her eyes got big as saucers and she has done homework since, so I started thinking maybe I was smart. But now, today, I found she didn't do her homework again and tried to hide it from me. On one hand, I feel I need to follow through. Consistency and always meaning what I say has always been my strength as a mom. On the other hand, she's 13. Thoughts?!

Question: How do I manage how he is?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:50 AM PDT

Hello. I am a twenty-five year old male, with a twenty-three year old boyfriend (Yes, we are homosexual). We have been together for three years now, after an accidental interaction with each other. I wouldn't say our relationship is necessarily the greatest, but we make do and seem to be mutually accepting of one another. My issues when it comes down to it, is he can be extremely feisty, almost childish when he wants to be. He desires to fight over every little issue and has a tendency to slap, pull hair, or even bite when irritated or irate. During sexual intercourse, he is always fussy with how I handle him and to what extent of movements I make on him. He desires pain and harsh natured intimacy, which I refuse to give to him and it usually results in him being forceful in his wants. He can go from being content, to being angered in less than a few seconds. For instance, last night he asked me to cuddle with him in bed and two minutes later was slapping my chest and telling me to stay away from him. He was abused as a child, physically, verbally, and sexually; having a difficult time in showing his emotions and tends to have misplaced aggression or anger. I do love him with all of my soul and he is the very beauty of my world, but his mood swings and his behavior can be something obsessive and often times sudden. I need help in understanding why he is like this and while I have no interest in changing him, I do need help in learning how to manage his mood swings.

Question: Am I over reacting?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:39 AM PDT

I just went to the restroom and I peed and some pre *** came out and I pull up my pants and there was still some Pre C on the tip of my penis and some on my leg. I feel like somehow when I I touch around that area or my penis or even ny boxers I feel like even if the pre *** dried that residue would still be there even the smallest partice of it I feel would be on my hands and spreading to everything I touch and then but my biggest fear is spreading it to my friends and my girl anf them spreading it onto their younger siblings and my girls little siblings and I DO NOT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN but I feel like thats what would happen if I came in contact with them.Then I would feel super guilty cause I have OCD and would feel so guilty that I woukd tell hrr this story and that shr would be disgusted with me even though I didnt wwant that to happen. So am I right or over reacting?

Question: Please help what does this mean?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:33 AM PDT

My finals are near and my dad wont let me study for them. He keeps making or bringing food for me and later makes me walk a lot twice a day.. If i dont walk he shouts at me What do i do?

Question: Is it too bad that I don't care anymore ?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:30 AM PDT

My parents are currently separated,not divorced,yet.My father's been living next door (at my grandma's)so we get to see him often.Basically he's always been a careless irresponsible jerk, and last summer he decided he was done with us, he said my mother was pushy and he wanted to take a break,which is,in other words neglect us and relive the single life again at the age of 47.I was hurt and i tried to convince him to stay,but he played the "your life will be better without me" card. He doesn't take the blame well, whenever someone tries to confront him he's like,that's the way I am and you're right am the one at wrong (another way of giving the finger).Ever since she kicked him out, (after a massive fight and confrontation where he was being a jerk), my mother has been pushing me to convince him to come back. My relationship with my mom has always been shaky, the neglect from my father's side made her stressed out and upset and she made her punching bag for years, thus making me the insecure troubled 17 years older that I am today. Am not the kind of person to express my feelings,so I've dealt with things by acting normal,I thought that way i wouldn't be adding pressure to her.She thinks am selfish,careless and self-absorbed because I gave up on trying to "fix" my dad and am not acting like i need him around. . Honestly I have baccalauréat next year and I want to accept the fact that my dad left,focus on school and move on with my life.Does that make me a heartless *****?

Question: What did I do wrong?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:22 AM PDT

I am 16 years old and haven diagnosed with very severe depression and moderate bipolar. I have been in and out of the hospital for years but it s been about three years and I have been clean. My step sister is 13 days older than me and she hates me. We used to be very close but now, she hasn t talked to me since the 7th grade and we will soon me going to 11th grade. We live together! She won t even look at me! My step mother always takes her side. When I don t even know what I did wrong! She spreads tumors about me at school and tells my step mother lies and things I haven t even done. She s one that doesn t have to try with anything she does. Me however, I have to try very hard and my parents never notice. I m honesty about to snap again. My dad says he is on my side, but if he was, I feel like he would have done something by now. I don t know what to do, I m just about to give up again honestly. I don t know what I did wrong, my dad say I did nothing wrong, but why am I treated like this. My step family hates me. I just live in my room because I am ignored at home and school.. And it hurts.

Question: I think my mom is having an affair?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:19 AM PDT

About 3 years ago i failed a couple of math tests at school,My mom made me take private lessons with a guy that i didn't know,she told me he's an engineer but he could teach me basic math,i still don't know how my mom met him either,my mom is a widow since 6 years,ive overheard her talking to him in the phone a couple of times in a whispering voice which is weird as usually my mom speaks in a loud voice always,I used to hang out with him as i didn't have alot of friends back then (i was 13 now i am 16)she used to call him love or dear in the phone,alot of times she used to tell me she was going out with him to fix her car at the mechanic which made me suspicious,we used to go out with him when my mom needed to buy stuff from another town for example,he used to talk to me about sexual stuff in his life which i found weird,hecs married and he has 2 kids,i can't stop thinking about it and don't know what to do,my dad is dead and i have a sister and 3 uncles,please help me

Question: My best friend is kind of a bastard? How should I word what to say to her...?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:18 AM PDT

It's way too obvious that she tries to act cool. Also she tends to blame her mother a lot for what She does. She treats her mom like complete ****, though sometimes has a good side. And most to, I can almost say, all of their fights when I'm over quite a lot, is her fault; treating her mom unkindly. It is blatantly obvious she is the bad guy in these situations. I know her. She's stuck up, prideful and arrogant. I'll tell you the biggest **** that bothers me. We smoke together sometimes and every time she's high, she exaggerates it and literally act out like the stoners in the comedies. A little is okay, a little is normal. Too much is, well, too much. And exaggerative. Purposely. Maybe she's just happy to be stoned like she says. Ok. She constantly takes pride in the fact that, her mother suspects or even knows we do this and directly blurts out we're high or makes "jokes" about her mom smoking mj or being high when she does something like cough or anything really! She CONSTANTLY does it. And though we have our rights, our parents don't know. One: MINE would flip (I live at home still.) I'm not sure her mom would exactly care too much about her daughter being into that stuff, but I don't need her to know about my private life. She does it every single time her mom is around and we're high or even not! It gets on my nerves. She needs to...swallow her pride or something...I mean tell me what I could say to her stupid arrogant ***.

Question: Why can't I work effectively?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:08 AM PDT

I stay at the dorm on weekdays and on weekends, I go home. Me and my friend go to the library sometimes and I can't remember anything I tried to learn in a library. I can't study at home because my brother always yells or runs around the house and sometimes they have an argument with my mom. Whatever I try to do, I can never seem to achieve anything. I want to become a medical doctor. I don't want to lead a life of failure. Ps: I'm 16 and I live in Turkey

Question: Im starting to have serious thoughts of hurting myself?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:07 AM PDT

One of my sisters got pregnant when i was 13 (she was 18), my father doesnt talk to neither of my sisters. Because my father thinks i might make a similar mistake to my sisters' he cuts off my privelages. My mother just sits there watching. Starting to get sh*t results in some ofmy exams. Still a virgin (even at 16). When i was young (6ish) my family moved from london to turkey (also a shitty idea). Whenever i ask something from my mother she tellsme to ask my father, i ask him and he always says no. Give me one reason to live on and maybe ill be that little bit happier. (Btw i am currently 16)

Question: Is my friend being abused??

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 11:02 AM PDT

I dont know where else to ask without calling and my phone is broken so I cant call until later. my friend has been telling me about some of the things her parents do as punishment and some of them sound like abuse. She has said that her father slaps her across the face and that last night her mother got mad and her and threw hot water on her, She said it burned badly but did not blister and after her mom threw the water on her told her to clean it up. when she tried to talk to her mom about it all she says was it didn't blister. she is adopted and has been with them all her life so when I say mother/father I mean her adoptive father and mother. She is so used to it she does not think its abuse but it doesnt sound right to me. Is it abuse?

Question: How do i cope with leaving a bad environment I'm stil attached to?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:59 AM PDT

How do i cope leaving a bad environment I'm still attached to? I'm graduating college and am finally moving out of the dorms, question is where, so i havent found a job yet. To fix my depression i want to leave the state and start new. But I don't want to be lonely. And it hurts to face the facts that my family doesn't give a f**k about my mental well being and take advantage of me. The thought that i have no resources from them hurts. I respect their decisions but their attitudes and things they say and do create a negative environment, not a supportive one. It all hinders my ability to reach any goals i have. Im afraid of being a wreck and being depressed again by living with my parents... but it's such a dramatic change for me to stop talking to my mom (although she is a negative influence too) and just leaving since i've never had a job and i would want to move out asap If i notice negative environment in my parents house. I dont trust my family. How do i cope with this. Fake friends fake family, i feel alone and like I'm bitter thinking everyone i meet will be fake but these really are just facts I'm trying to accept but it's depressing. i feel like I'm an idiot with inevitable feelings for people when no one else feels such things. I could use some advice. How do i cope with leaving And how do I cope with bitterness

Question: Am I right or are my Asian parents right?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:47 AM PDT

My birthday was on Friday, and on Sunday I got a nose piercing. I knew my parents were against it, but I liked it and got one. When I got home, something unbelievable happened. My mom was screaming and crying about what she'd done wrong and literally went into a crazy mode. She threw bags at me and tried to attack me and told me to leave and then when I packed she said don't go. Long story short I'm now kicked out, living with my grandparents. They took the car as well, along with most of my clothes. What should I do- are they making this extreme? I defended myself saying it was my body and my choice. I don't believe that here, especially in America, people will judge as hard as they do. I can also take it off anytime for a job, it's just something I like.

Question: My parents put parental controls on my computer?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:33 AM PDT

I'm 16, and my parents last night took my computer away to check my grades. They then, decided to do more than just check them and looked through everything on my computer. Now I have time limits. Why do they do this. Please don't say some bs like they love you, I want actual answers.

Question: My mom died but I don't care?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:30 AM PDT

All she did was abuse me and drink. I'm so relieved she's gone but I keep getting told I'm wrong.

Question: Should I stay with my mom..?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:21 AM PDT

okay well my mom is sort of...angry in a manner of speaking. Every now and then my mom just gets angry at everything and she yells and just gets pissed...she says stuff like Im a lame *** ***** and that I don't give a **** about life and that she thinks after Im 18 that Im not gonna **** with her...but honestly I think she's right...because if she keeps pulling **** like this I don't see any reason why I want to stay with her...I mean she always yells at me and gets mad at me just for being sad because I'm dumb and d yesterday she got mad at me because I'm too skinny and none of my pants fit me so I tried them all on because I thought some fit but I was wrong and she yelled again...and she took my phone and looked through my texts and says I have a demonic spirit because sometimes I do sexual rp on instagram when Im bored and she described it as "yea so sometimes I get a laugh out of reading them cuz its like hella descriptive like 'im gonna chop your head off and **** your corpse' he needs to write books about that **** but not in text messages" and she yelled that while we were riding in the car with my siblings while they laughed I didn't care that they laughed just that she didn't care enough to keep it to herself...and that she didn't think about how i would make me feel when she called me a demon...then while she was buying me clothes I was silent cuz I was sad and then she was talking to my brother and said "fine he can keep acting like that he just won't get his phone and there are hospitals we can take him" she talks like Im sick for doing rp and I just don't know if I can stay anymore

Question: My parents dont allow me to do sht?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:19 AM PDT

I am 16 and i asked to go on a school trip thats going to happen 1 and a half months away and my parent say no (even if its out of my own money). This is funny because i got the same answer to when i wanted to get a new phone "out of my own money", and the same for a laptop, and even a ******* mp3. The wierdest of all was on my birthday they game me 150 quid and they said you can buy anything you want with it. Its like a mechanism, whenever i ask my mum for somthing she asks me to ask my father and i automaticly get the answer no. Im ******* tired of this. What good id giving your son money on his birthday if you wont ******* let him use it?!?

Question: I don't want to go on holiday with my family?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:14 AM PDT

Before I get all these answers saying I'm ungrateful, etc. hear me out. I'm 18 and live with my dad (51) and brother (14), my mum passed away two and a half years ago. My dad earlier today booked a two-week holiday to Bulgaria whilst I was at school. Don't get me wrong, I'm not ungrateful or anything like that, but I feel like I'm too old to be going on family holidays like this and since I'm not interested in going that I'll just be a burden the whole time. My dad's always aware that I'm not keen on family holidays anymore, as I always say to him that I'm not particularly interested, but he still goes on and does it. Like I said, I feel like I'm getting too old to be going, but at the same time I know that if I didn't go it would only be my dad and brother going and they'd be bored without me. What should I do? I know I'll be completely miserable when I'm there (I'm not into going to sunny places, plus I feel I'm too old for this sort of thing).

Question: Was this a homophobic act on my part?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 10:03 AM PDT

I'm 24, straight, and have several gay friends. I've never found myself to be homophobic at all. I'm a former college swimmer and still swim in the mornings before work. Today, after swimming, in the shower, I ran into an aquaintance I know is a lesbian. The gym has wide open showers (around poles) and it really freaked me out to run into her there. I said high briefly, awkwardly (and I'm worried obviously) crossing my arms over my breasts as we talked.....and then I hightailed it to the locker room to get dressed without having really taken my shower. Intelectually I'm not bothered that she's allowed to use the locker room, and I know she kept good eye contact the entire time we chatted, but somehow KNOWING she was a lesbian and I was butt naked.....it made me uncomfortable. When I called my sister on my way to work she chastised me for being homophobic. And a colleague just agreed with her. Am I horribly insensitive and don't even know it? Am I crazy? To be clear, I've used open showers in college (I was a swimmer) and since, and I'm not massively modest. And it doesnt even bother me (in the least) that I'm sure MANY lesbians have seen me. This isn't me thinking they all are really checking me out, I don't think that. It's just that today, standing there buck naked and nowhere to hide, surprised to be face to face with someone I KNOW likes girls, I panicked and freaked out. And also to be clear, I didn't make a beeline past her to the door. I crossed my arms across my breasts (but I was still otherwise nude) and talked to her for a few seconds (hello, how are you doing, etc), then I left acting like I was finished with my shower (even though I wasn't)

Question: Is it bad to distance myself from my parents?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 09:57 AM PDT

I'm almost 26 and feel like they try to control my life especially my Mother. She always bring me down and want everything her way. I just want to find myself and live my life and make it on my own and branch out. I just want to cut contact with them for a while

Question: Me and my mother have a bad relationship should I cut her out my life?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 09:39 AM PDT

I moved back in with my mother, I was not making enough at my old job. My mother does not have a job she just with through a divorce. I paid what I can on bills, everytime I brought food when I came home it was gone. each day she asks me for money causes she doesn't work, she took money out of my bank account with my permission. We argue daily over me not letting her drive my car her license is suspended. I saved up money to move out she asked me for most of my money she was about to lose her apartment because she has no job. I give her the money but it stopped me from being able to move out. Now I have a girlfriend things are going good we are about to get a place together. My mother still doesn't have a job and she told me she doesn't want to work but I can only do so much I'm not rich. This week I had to call out of work to pay the electric bill I told my mother I needed the money to get to work and she told me I don't care how you get to work I paid the bill. I'm ready to move out I have alot money coming back from my taxes I will use it to move out. My mother still driving my car with no license when I told her she could not drive it no more she started breaking all the plates in the kitchen and called me a bad disrespectful son. I feel emotionally drained I can't take her craziness no longer, my mother is toxic it has to be her way Or no way our relationship is unhealthy should I cut my mother out my life once I move out this week and start a life with my girlfriend

Question: Why do I always make the same mistakes over and over again?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 09:37 AM PDT

I have always lied in order to not get in trouble "with my parents". The main thing i lie about is playing video games. The thing is i love to play and so do my friends. But my parents hate it when i play. I become a different person and when they take it away from me, i tend to do sneak it. Idk why but i just don't know how to control this desire. I see my friends play games a lot and i also see myself as kinda getting behind on this thing that i like so much. But idk what to do, i lie all the time and i try to sneak all the time. My parents are losing their trust in me, i may have even lost it already. They are getting tired of me, and i think they see me as a failure. I'm a fool, can someone please help?

Question: If I see my adult alcoholic brother drunk somewhere should I notify my parents?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 09:12 AM PDT

Or am I just being a gossip since he is an adult now

Question: Me and my mother have a toxic relationship should I cut her off?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 09:10 AM PDT

Question: Brother keeps taking my computer mouse; Help!?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 09:03 AM PDT

I am online schooled ; I have an office downstairs (In a classroom area). I leave my laptop downstairs because it is hard to get to the plug and I don't feel like moving it up and down the stairs every day. My brother, a year older than me broke his computer mouse on a vacation and keeps stealing mine. I went to my mom about the 3rd time and she told him to quit it. He will stop for about a month then he takes it again! My mom keeps telling him to stop taking my stuff. I woke up this morning to do school, and found my mouse missing, told my mom then went into his room and found it at his desk. I've even went to him and asked him to stop personally; face to face; but he doesnt stop! Im about to freak! This darn boy wont leave it alone! What can I do to keep him from taking it?!?!?! And I cant put a lock anywhere around it because its downstairs, doesn't have a door and my "Office" / Classroom is where the dining room should be, my little brother, me , and older brother all have a classroom together with desks. My mom doesn't want me to work upstairs, I get distracted easily. How the heck do you hide a computer mouse... I keep using it EVERY DAY. and he steals it at night while im asleep. I go to sleep around 2AM... Plus, knowing myself, ill end up loosing it..

Question: Im 18 and want to move out and my parents are stressing me about it?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 09:01 AM PDT

My parents will not realize that I'm growing up and need to move out and be an adult. Me and my boyfriend have more than enough money saved to move out and he has a great job. They are constantly downing it and saying we can't do it when we've added it up multiple times and we 110 percent can. They constantly make me feel bad about wanting to leave saying why you wanna leave so bad and all this whenever I really just want my privacy and to be on my own whenever I've told them this. They have us in a camper in their yard for free to try to not get me to leave. What should I do? I wanna leave and they keep holding me back and I'm honestly to the point of tears now because I'm so stressed out about all of this.

Question: Is it wrong that my parents are cousins?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 08:59 AM PDT

Please be serious

Question: Is using violence the only effective way to stop haters?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 08:48 AM PDT

When I was a kid I had my school in another country because of my father's work,I used to have the highest grades plus I was stranger to them so I have been harassed and mocked by them. My father's advice is to Ignore them ,I did but sometimes I just explode and make a big fight. Later,I went back to my country and joined an engineering school and start lifting weights.I thought it is over by now, but same harassment and mockery , happened from my family,friends and even my father ! about every thing I do in my life. Some of them said "you are nothing", "I'm better than you",or" you won't succeed"....etc I don't care much about what they say , I only get angry because they have no respect whatsoever to say stuff like that and belittle me. I did not do anything to hurt them. Is violence the answer to stop them and restore my dignity ?

Question: What should i do?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 08:46 AM PDT

my step father likes to use me for his own pleasure he is in jail for a while now and i am in foster care and my mom is in a rem home we are working on reunification of me and my mom they don't know dad is in the picture because they aren't really married but have been together since i was 6 and i am 15 now so i consider him my dad i love both my parents and don't want daddy in jail but i don't know how to make the abuse stop

Question: What can one do, to see beyond your parent's judgement?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 08:45 AM PDT

My sister and I compete against each other every year to be the one that our parents are proud of. They're really strict, they expect us to be the top of our class. My sis and I get along but we do have a competetive feeling to be better than the other. I think my parents (mostly dad) are to blame for this because they get mad at us for the smallest things.. It's unacceptable to make a grade lower than a 95 to them.. But we make them anyways. This year so far my sister (11th grader) is an honor student with a GPA of 3.8- something.. I am an AP student (10th grade) with a 3.6 GPA. I don't play as many sports as my sister so i have no excuse for having a lower average.. Last year I took all PreAP classes and my GPA was a 3.7 so my parents are gonna kill me for than minus one point and make me study for the rest of summer now. I did slack off a lot this year and have been careless.. But they're so rude

Question: My parents are very abusive! What do I do?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 07:34 AM PDT

Okay so My parents had me at a very young age.. My mom where waaaay younger than me dad. My dad is flips out every time I just say one bad thing ( my whole family is abusive on my dad side) he calls me dumb ***** and all types of words... He found my page on facebook and I almost died literally my mom told me just dont do it again.. As time went past it just recently dyed my hair ( just a little patch ) and my mom called me a dirty ***** and that im dumb and im a stupid ***** and everything.. I cry everytime they call me it and I want to go to a different family or something I do not like my family..

Question: Why my half-sister is so mean?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 06:51 AM PDT

She always mean to me because she always say things to me like "Your feeling your so handsome" or "Your skin is black ewwwww" and she's an adult now but I think she is a pittle bit immature and I don't know why she always mean to me and I think some people says I'm handsome and some says I'm average looking and some says I'm ugly but they are just a little bit of people. I don't feel I'm super handsome I know that I'm average looking and I'm only 13 so I don't worry about my appearance but sometimes I fix myself "or often lol". And one time, she beat me up when I used her lotion without her permission. And my mom is working so she is not always not present and my dad is working in another country so we are forced to live here with my mean half-sister and my grandma. And my grandma don't are about us and I feel that she don't love me too. And my mom and dad know what's happening here but we can't go back home right now because of some reasons and I saw my mom is fighting with my grandma and half-sister. And I think they don't want my mom and my mom did that because she observed the wrong treating of them to us. And they said is we should pay them monthly so that they will love us and we do nothing. And more stories is happening here but it was a long long story that I can't type. But I hope someone will help me in my situation. I always cry and I'm thinking of killing myself but I'm forcing myself to don't because that was a sin to God and my love ones will miss me. Help!

Question: My father abandoned us last yr when i was 19 im 20 now can my mother still get child support im not employed and she supports me?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 05:19 AM PDT

Question: Should I continue to attend my nieces sporting events?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 05:15 AM PDT

I get grief from not going, however I'm always ignored by everyone there. She is 14 and never acknowledges me when I am there or ever.

Question: Please help with family embarrassment, read below?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 04:53 AM PDT

My mother died when I was 12. I am close to her family. My two siblings however seldom see them other then our grandparents (who have now died). So I live near Chicago and I see the uncles and aunt and their kids about 4 times a year (they all live within an hour). My two siblings live elsewhere in the country but come to town several times a year. They have not seen any of my mother's family since my grandfather's funeral in 2012. So I feel really embarrassed by this. How do I get over being embarrassed by this? I feel like I am probably judged for my brother and sister's actions. They always see my Dad's side of the family at Christmas, Summer, and if here on Thanksgiving but only I see my mother's side. There is no feud or anything but it is just for some reason not a priority of theirs.

Question: MIL and I supposed to talk about "he said she said" drama. Here's the outcome. Help!?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 04:44 AM PDT

It always felt like she didn't want me around a niece of hers and she always spoke very badly of her. Apparently I told the niece something bad about MIL. She came to my house but she didn't come alone. She approached me with her other DIL who has always been nice to me but catered to MIL. We said how we felt which I had a straight face the entire time and she only began to cry when my husband walked in the room and with the third party witness there she gave her input and seemed to be non biased. She was somewhat neutral but MIL would make statement turn to her and say yes or no? To validate her comment. Then when I thought I felt better about the situation my stomach turned and I had this gut feeling about idk what. I disregarded it because I know it means a lot to my husband if I just get along. Whether I'm being paranoid I'm unsure but after the things that happened I feel like I should listen to my instincts. I can't tell my husband this or he will feel bad. I feel like there's too much drama surrounding me and only from this person. I've never had this feeling before. It's emotionally mentally &physically draining. I have even scheduled a counseling session to see if I'm the root problem. I feel like I'm the crazy one. I have recently began to doubt myself and have scheduled appointments for evaluations etc. I'll do anything for my husband and our kids but I need to know whether I'm being paranoid or if I have reason to feel the way I do. Please help.

Question: I resent my mom for making me break up with my boyfriend. How can I forget this?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 04:28 AM PDT

I have not seen a therapist because I don't ever have free time. I resent my mom for making me be who I was. When I was 17 I was dating this guy, he was perfect for me. He loved me a lot. I loved him a lot too but I didn't know how to show it because I was so damaged inside from the emotional abuse I lived at home. I hurt him a lot because I wanted attention but he was giving me attention but I was so messed up. He asked me to marry him and I said, "No." I was scared. My mother always said bad things about marriage. She described marriage as a world of suffering. I was so scared. I hate her for teaching me that marriage is the most awful thing that can happen to a person. I fear compromise so much. I've been in so many relationships and I always break up with the guy when I feel things are getting too serious. My first boyfriend got married and he is happy. He has a beautiful child. They have a happy marriage. People can have a happy marriage. She never told me that there was such thing as compromise, and communication and trying and working things out. I feel lied to. She has changed a lot and now that I am 23 she talks about me getting married some day. But I resent her so much. I have never loved any person like I loved my first boyfriend and I feel unable to attach to any other person. I need mature adults to help me. I need suggestions of how to get over this. It's not easy. Please be gentle with your answers as feel destroyed inside. Think before you speak.

Question: What does it mean if a guy keep drawing you?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 03:59 AM PDT

So this guy from different school keep drawing me. What does it mean? He seem like a nice guy

Question: My Mum, dad and brother died in a car accident last week, I don't know how to deal with it?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 03:55 AM PDT

Mum and dad were the most kindest people I had ever met, they wouldnt hurt a living sole. My last words to my mum were 'I hate you' and my last to my brother and dad were 'I hate you guys too'... After that they left me at home and drove off. I went along the rest of the day waiting for them to come home, and they never did, that was when I received a visit from the police and their words struck me... My last words to my family were terrible, I didn't want them to die, I never told the how much I loved them ever in my life, but there's no use in saying it when they can't even hear me.

Question: Is leaving school for family reasons reasonable?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 03:34 AM PDT

My grandma has cancer and tumors and the doctor said he doesn't know how long she has to live so my mom wants to leave in the next two days to Japan (because that's where she is atm) but I have school and I have a test this week for P.E. I can retake it during summer if I fail P.E but what about my other classes? Would the school let me go because of this? Also my brother has two weeks left of college and if he leaves now he has to retake all those classes so he needs an opinion of if he should stay or come with us.

Question: Moving out today. Nobody knows?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 03:26 AM PDT

I'm moving out today and my family doesn't know. I didn't tell them bc it just wouldn't go well. If I talk to them and they don't like what they hear they will cut me short and walk away. So I decided to just leave. I'll leave a not and all. But how do I do it when my dad could be home and my sister is home all day? Please help. I'm gonna be with my boyfriend and he wants to know what time to get me

Question: My brother being a dad to me!? And I hate it how do I get my brother back?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 01:40 AM PDT

I'm a 13 year old girl, and my dad passed away before I was even born, and I lived with my mom for my hole life, I also have an alder brother how is 25, 3 and a half months ago my mom passed away, My brother took me and became my legal guardian. So for the last 3 months my brother want from a brother role to a 'dad' kinda role, and I hate that sooo much! He can't just be my friend anymore, he always tells me what to do! He makes rules, and gives me a bad time?! And when I ask why is he doing all of that? He says it's for my own good?! Like what is for my own good cleaning? All of my life we had a cleaning lady! Doing chores? I never did does kind of things! And whan I ask why does he has rules? He says that it's his house, his rules. I j want my brother back!

Question: Questions related to cellphones for kids?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 01:16 AM PDT

I have aan assignment related to statistics and data mining, and i chose the subject of the surbey to be Kids' Use Of Cell Phones. So are there any brilliant ideas of questions that could be useful? Thanks in advance.

Question: Do you think my life storie is interesting? i told my guidance counselor in school, and they said i should write a book.?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 01:12 AM PDT

so in 24 years of life. i have only had 2 years of somewhat true happiness. literally when i hit 3 i got molested by a babysitter, and my life went to crap. we moved from place to place because my dad was in the army. i got molested in germany. then eventually my mother cheated on my dad when he went over seas. she had my little brother. then later on she cheated on him again with a different guy. had my other little brother. both of the illigitamate fathers were drug addicts by the way. when my dad left her, we all moved to with the second drug addict. he was abusive to her, and everyone else. eventually my brothers, and i went to foster care. my brothers, and i were separated. after i moved from house to house i finaly ended up with my dad, he dropped me with my grandmother. then came back and took me from school one day. went to albany, then eventually louisiana. on the whole thats a pretty boring story. let me fill in the gaps. one thing was the reason i got moved around to so many houses in foster care. was beacause none of them new how to deal with a chronic masturbating 8 year old. i have been masturbating since i was 3 after i got molested. another thing was my dad was actually a crossdresser. which is why my mother was looking for other men.my father, and mother were also pretty abusive towards me as a kid. they would both beat the crap out of me with a belt. talking about dark bruises. my father was mentally abusive to. when i was 4 he taught me a life lesson by smashing my favorite toy. years later i found out he was using my toy box from when i was a kid to keep his ladies clothes in. when i was a teenager he threatend to beat himself with a baseball bat, and tell the cops i did it. i can give countless reasons why he is a terrible person. there is a lot more to my story, but i dont feel like writing it all on here. what do you think so far interesting or boring. i am 24, and live with my grandmother in georgia. with one brother. the other one lives with hi crackhead dad, and my mom.

Question: Why is love so cruel and evil?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 01:01 AM PDT

I have noticed that love can be useless sometimes, people want to kill other people because they hurt the ones they love etc. love can also be super protective and jealous, like I am seriously having to deal with this attitude with my family members because they want me to be "happy" because they think I am a "good person" which is pure bullshit, I have done plenty of bad things in my life just like everyone else, plus they aren't doing anything to make me happy they're just getting me really upset and pissed off by being so damn protective all the time, why?

Question: My mother is sick in the hospital and I'm not sure if I should just allow her to pass on.?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:53 AM PDT

My mother and I have had a pretty horrible relationship my entire life because of her severe gambling addiction. For the past five years, it has been consistent that we are not speaking for months at a time because of her being upset that I moved away from her or me because she ruined our family's life through gambling. So about two months ago, I received a call from her doctor saying I needed to take her to the emergency room ASAP. My mother has stage 3 to 4 kidney failure, congestive heart failure, and just so many more problems. She is basically blind in one eye now too. Looking at my mom struggling to breathe while sleeping made me realize that I needed to leave the past behind, forgive her, and help her as much as I could so I quit my job to help her when I can (I have a part time job now and school full time). Last week, she went into the hospital because she has a severe leg ulcer. This morning her roommate sent me a message and said that my mother is no longer allowed to come back to live there when she leaves the hospital. She isn't on the rental agreement and lives there rent free. Now my mom is officially homeless because I rent a small room and her and I won't be able to get our own apartment until september. i'm scared if she finds out, she will give up on life. For the first time in our lives we actually have a loving mother/daughter relationship and we're excited to live together again. I dont want to lose her. what should i do? no family can take her either.

Question: Why is my mom suddenly not abusive?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:27 AM PDT

I mean, this is a good thing for me but this always came to my mind. I am a Korean girl and my mom (early 50s) was both emotionally and physically abusive. Or at least I am pretty sure. She would slap me, beat me, throw things at me (such as dished and books) keep me at knife point, etc. She would also give me so much trauma daily, since I was about 9 years old, I m pretty much used to it. She even threatened to kill me and drove the car pff the road, running into a pole. But suddenly, this all stopped. The emotional abuse continues but the physical part goes on and off...why is that? Does it have something to do with her health? 1) Am I or was I being physically and mentally abused? 2) Is she going to be abusive again? Is it a seasonal thing? 3) This is not a troll so please answer.

Question: My Aunty has 7 kids, she asked my dad for some money to buy her kids some dinner....?

Posted: 25 Apr 2016 12:26 AM PDT

And so my dad gave her money but found out later that she also asked his other sister for money, so she got money from both my dad and my Aunty, why do you think she's lying about needing money?

Question: I'm Muslim in love with an Israeli Jewish girl please help?

Posted: 24 Apr 2016 11:49 PM PDT

My girlfriend is Jewish from Israel And we live in Memphis. She wants me to tell my parents but I'm scared they'll disown me. We live together and we both have jobs and she wants me to propose to her and tell my parents. She's told her mother and Father and they were pretty mad at first but now their ok with it. Please help me how do I tell my parents we just want to start our future and have Muslim babies. ALLAH bless all of you

Question: Hi everyone. I am 19 and I am paying R4000 a month. To rent from my parents, but they still ask me to do chores. I feel it is unethical.?

Posted: 24 Apr 2016 11:44 PM PDT

Not only that but my stepfather sees our rent as worthless. My mother doesnt defend me or anything. Please give advice?

Question: Was this a catfight that I was in?

Posted: 24 Apr 2016 11:43 PM PDT

On March 30th, I wound up in a physical altercation with another woman. Her name was Marie. Amyway, we were both punching each other in the face, but to be honest with you, I probably punched her in the face the most. Then, when she was on the floor, I grabbed her by her hair and started dragging her. She then started screaming. So when she got up, she punched me in the stomach, punched me in the face and when I fell to the ground, she attempted to grab my hair, but I got up and so I punched her in the stomach, punched her in the face and she then fell to the floor. So I grabbed her by the hair again and dragger her and she started screaming again. So when she got up, she charged at me and we started grappling with each other. She then punched me on the back 2 times and then I threw her to the floor. She didnt get up permanently this time. So was this a catfight that I had??? If so, who do you think won and why???