Everytime something happens, for example; my windowwas open today because my room was boiling from all the heaters being turned on (My father turned them on) and my mum accused me of smoking? I repeatedly told her I haven't touched a cigarette and she didn't believe me one bit -later on my father came in and said that he had opened the windows. Today my mother and I had a petty argument so I went to my room to avoid any further complications and the wifi suddednly stopped working, so she stormed in and accused me of blocking her from it, and I proved her wrong that it just crashed and she walked out without even apologising. I know this sounds over dramatic but it's constant and i'm just giving a couple of examples and i'm getting sick of it. I walked into the room to get my RE book and on the way walked into one of her tops causing it to fall down and she called me back to apologise for DROPPING A TOP. I ignored her and she shouted -repeating the same, therefore I turned around and simlpy said 'Where was my apology? After you accused me of something I hadn't done?' Simply because I said that she is refusing to take me to school tomorrow and is being immature. Which is fine as I can provide my own lunches and get there by myself, but I can't stand being in a house around her when she frequently is accusing me.

I am 30, with an awesome husband, and 2 awesome little girls (4 and 2). We make good money and have a good size house, thats kept pretty clean and kept up. I feel like I'm pretty on the ball with most things.. BUT i have this pressure on me all the time to stay perfect and be perfect. I always have this thing tapping on my shoulder saying... you are a bad mom, you suck at being a house wife.. you ant keep up with laundry... your backyward looks like ****.. you have toys everywhere... you are lazy... you need to get things done faster. i have come to realize that this is due to my parents. They are helicopter and they are also "their way or no way" They have always put pressure on me for the dumbest things. I talk to my mom on the phone at least once a day... and she will as me EVERY day if I called the plumber to fix my faucet outside. to the point where it makes me feel as thought she is judging me if i haven't. She always tells me what to do around my house. when to take my kids to the dr. She gets mad everytime i miss a phone call as if I'm the most irresponsible person in the world. my parents always notice when there are dishes in the sink.. and will give me this passive advice on how to get dishes done faster. Its this constant reminder of things that i need to get done... and its not THEIR HOUSE!!! i have started to feel as though its feeding at me in a negative way and giving me anxiety all the time... i always feel like I'm not good enough at anything.

Please don't judge, I'm at University and have a job. It was my first time taking a tablet and it will be my last most likely. But half way through the trip I started to remember when my dad walked through the room, randomly used to kicked or punch the dog. I also remembered how my granddad(not his dad) used to always happen to be up at my house on a Friday, ask if I wanted to come stay at his and my gran's on the weekend, he'd always say I would be helping walk his dogs. In the car he would say "we're now away from your dad, peaceful weekend for you". If I said horrible things about people he would say "don't end up like your dad, say nicer things". As a child my dad knew I was gay, I saw the resentment over it and he was nice to my brothers, but not too me. My grandparents saw this and took me away from the house as much as possible. I'm on good terms with my father now, he's calmed down, apologised for how horrible he was and he grew to love the dog. But it upsets me now remembering what he used to be like and I feel pity for my dog.

When I was married to John, my mom thought of him as the son she never had. Mom's favorite thing EVER is to go out to a restaurant for dinner. So once a month we would take her to Sizzler or Golden Corral for a meal which she really enjoyed. I though these "dates" would end with our friendly divorce. I was wrong. For the past year John has been taking mom out to dinner once a month as we used to do. Mom did not tell me about this until recently. She said she knew I was trying to get on with my life without John so she did not want to remind me of him. She said there is one difference now than when we went out to dinner. He takes her to Ruth Chris or Mortons for a steak, her favorite meal. She told me they are the best meals she ever had in her entire life. I checked the prices of these restaurants and they should be great for the prices they charge. Mom gets her hair and nails done before each of these meals and is VERY HAPPY for a long time after each of these meals. I am not sure how I should feel about this. I want mom to be happy and John doing this for her makes her very happy. However he is my ex and if I get married again which I plan to do soon, will it be awkward for him to continue to do this if there is a new husband in the picture for me. Can I ask my mom to not tell anyone that John is doing this for her? Please give me some advice on how to handle this?

I want to move out for college but my mom isn't supportive of my decision. She says we don't have enough money but I think that's bullshit... There are scholarships and financial aid and if I end up with loans then I'll pay them off eventually. It's like she wants me to stay in my four wall room for the rest of my life. I'm 18! Everyone I know is moving out and going to uni and I got accepted into one but my mom isn't supportive of it either! I feel like I'm stuck in this rut where I know what I want and I can see it but I can't reach it because my mom holds me back. Don't say she's just worried about me or money or whatever because she's not like other moms she's psycho. I'm not kidding she needs to be put on meds or something. All I want to know is... Can I move out? I know this is a weird question but do you think I can go on my own? I'd be practically running away. My mom says she's not going to give me my car or phone or money. The way she treats me can't go on for much longer... If I live here even for two more years I'm going to legit kill myself. I cannot stay here anymore... I've even though about sugar daddy's it's gotten that bad.

I'm 14. My parents divorced about 2 years ago, and they're both with new people. My mom's better off at the moment because her and her boyfriend are happy. My mom has this house. And I currently live with her because my dad lives at his girlfriend's house in Orlando (which is quite far from where I am) he only sees us for maybe an hour or two every other day and he keeps crying. It's hard to explain, but basically going to re my dad at his house isn't gonna happen. He's unemployed at the moment. I hate seeing him cry and the worse part about today was that for the 4 minutes I was here, I ignored him while I was on my phone and he brought be my present and all I said was thanks. You can rant about how ****** up that is of me. But that's not the point atm.

I'm 17 in high school. My junior year is about to end. I attended a public school for the first semester but im finishing up this 2nd semester online. So im basically at home doing my school work. I have been employed at Wendy's since November of 2015 and I still am. Yesterday I had a job interview at Tropical Smoothie and I got the job. I plan on keeping both jobs so that I can get more money and get closer to buying a car (my mom said she's not going to help me get one). She thinks it's a bad idea to work 2 jobs. My dad doesnt live with me but he also thinks it's a bad idea. My mom does take me to work at Wendy's and she complains about having to take me when it's literally 5 min away from our house. I just don't know why they think it's a bad idea. Summer is almost here so I'll have a lot more time to be working 2 jobs. And since my mother complains about having to take me all the time, i'm trying to get a car! I tried paying her for gas money one time but she refused to take it because she wants to know all the exact calculations of how much I owe her all together. One of my coworkers had 2 jobs and she was attending public school! So if she can do that, then I'm able to do that as well, especially when i'm home-schooled. I would greatly appreciate if I can hear some of your guys' opinion about this. Please don't say how I should just be focusing on school and how i dont need 2 jobs. It's almost summer so school will not be in session.

I recently put my step father on my facebook, and his photo is of him standing in front of the great wall of China, and he is politically a liberal and a was a hippie when he was young. And now succesful business man. I just started my facebook and put on my step dad, my faternal aunt, a friend, and my sister. Then I get this post from my sister, or it came through as a 'like' of kind of a cute smilng young army woman, with a gun straped across her chest. Its said 'support the troops' with a **** you Obama emblem. My sister was a in the army, and her husband, and is a short cute blonde. I have seen the photos. Shes a good person and is friends with my step dad. But this was not funny. I know she had to select only some people to get that 'like' because she has teachers and lots of other people as friends. WAS that a form of CYBER bulling??? The nest day my nephew is trying to friend me on facebook. Like trying to trying to say sorry by connecting me with family member. She is my sister. And has been trying to mend bridges from being a bi*** growing up. I'm the liked one of everyone growng up. I would apreciate it.

My sister is only 12 and she doesnt believe in social media. She thinks that its a waste of time and i really admire her for that. But my mom wants her to be "popular" and always says "all the popular cool girls are on instagram! So why arent you?? Youre missing out." I think thats ridiculous. My sister told her she doesnt want to and my mom continues to pressure her. She even spoke to my sisters friends and told them to convince her. Usually i dont get involved but this just seems sooo ridiculous and i cant just stand by and watch. I also told my mom why i think social media is bad (even though i have it but i dont use it as much). She said "youre right! Can u talk to your sisters friends and tell them to get off social media?" And yet she still pressures her! So many mixed signals like wtf. Idk what to do i feel bad for my sister but my mom is literally going to end up forcing her (i wouldnt be surprised if she demanded her password so that she could make sure my sister was actually using it!)

My mom is always on me to study, take notes on what i do in class and study for SAT on this website. I do my homework and sometimes i have a lot on it. When she asks me what i am doing and i say "english" and she says, "still" i get mad because when i check her on it she gets defensive into saying I am not rushing you and blah blah blah. It is getting quite annoying/

I am 16, and I cannot deal with it. I fit into my mom s clothes, and she fits into mine (No I am not overweight) She has no job, so she s never too busy. She literally has not showered in a good 2 years or more. She borrows my clothes and wears the same outfit for 1 week at a time. When all the dirty laundry is washed, I will still smell the dirtiness of the clothes she has been wearing, that is how dirty she is. She never flushes the toilet, always has dandruff in her hair, and even has used my hairbrush. I had to throw it away and buy a new one because it looked like an avalanche in my hairbrush. I love my mom but I wish she would be clean. Our house is super clean however, and everyone else in the house is as well, including me, but she never showers and it makes me mad. I dont want her borrowing my clothes, but she has personality disorder, so if I tell her she can t borrow them, she will flip out on me and ruin my stuff (Yes she ruins people s things when she s mad at them) I don t understand because she s very pretty, but if she would clean herself up I would have no problem with this. I m not ungrateful or anything it s just that I m always around her.

I have been a bully, she came to live with us and she never talks to me she just stays in her room on her phone and only comes out for dinner or in the morning to get ready for school, she's 12 and I'm 17, we used to be so close and whenever she would come over she would always come to my room and talk to me, but now she just stays in her room on her iPhone which I gave her, when she was going to move in with us I thought we were going to be closer because she hadn't came to our house in ages instead she was always at nanas playing with our Aunty who is 16 years old, and then when she moved in with us she really didn't want to because she wanted to live with Gina but after much persuading from my mum she moved because if she lived with us she could still go to her current school but if she lived with Nana and She would have to move schools. And in the holidays she would stay with Gina the Intire holidays and then come to my house for a day and then the next day Gina would come over and she would be so excited to see her, I am a Jealous, so then sometimes she would over hear me talking about how I hate her and want her to move back to Hastings (were her mum lives) and how I can't wait till nana picks her up.

She always finding a way to blame stuff on me and yells at me for the smallest things yet she not like that with my other sisters and brother

Well my dad isn t abusive or anything like that. It s just that whenever I have to talk to him about anything or tell him anything I can t. At that moment I get afraid of his reaction coz my dad quickly gets angry . I can t openly tell him about anything and because of that I never tell him anything I just tell my mother who conveys it to my father. So I wanted to ask is there anyway I can come over this fear and talk to him personally

He's such an idiot. He made my friend leave just cuz we was playing GTA5 online too loud. But we had to be loud cuz we was arguing with another player on the headphones. This other player was acting like killing other players (him) was illegal. And he was yelling at us all, saying he's gonna come to our houses irl and kill us. And this guy is like 40 and plays GTA. We can hear his wife and kids in the background and he's always telling his kids to stfu. He don't have a job neither cuz he's always on the game. So we was just insulting him about his loserness. And then my dad made my friend leave and made me turn off my game. Cuz he said he's tired of telling us to keep the noise down cuz the babys are sleeping. He could of moved them to another room!! But he was just being awkward, saying they'll wakeup if he picks them up. No they wouldn't. He's kicking people out of my house all the time. Imagine I toad his friends to leave. I said that and he said it's not the same cuz he owns this house and pays the bills yada yada big long speech. It's not like I asked him to let me live here or to pay my bills. He chose to when he decided to have a kid. All I ask is that he doesn't embarrass me like that in front of my friend and like 10 other people on my game who could hear him. Can I get him arrested for ruining my Sunday. I don't want to go to school tomorrow now since Sunday was ruined He ruined my Sunday in other ways too. Like he made me clean the kitchen and main bathroom. Like brushing and mopping and wiping stuff and everything . then accused me of breaking a pipe I'm the bathroom cuz he took a shower and water leaked from somewhere all over the floor and he's blaming me

ok i am a car enthusiast, i love cars, speed, accelerating out of corners, and i floor the throttle and rev my engine every time i can. anyway i burn a lot of gas which is why i ordered a debit card to pay for my gas, its coming in 5 days but the problem is in the past week i drove a lot and had a lot of fun on the road ( you know down shift from 6 to 3 and floor it) and i fueled twice this week, my parents saw the credit card record and found out i fueled twice in 5 days. they think i am going ti strip clubs or something. what should i do? i am sure as hell they wont believe what i just told you

I'm 16, turning 17 in a couple days, and my mom is pretty much heartless and has very few redeeming qualities. Sometimes I feel sorry for her, considering how horrible her childhood was (I won't go into a lot of detail about it, though) but the things she says/does consistently are unacceptable. She doesn't hit very often but she throws temper tantrums like a child when things don't go her way and insults and attacks those around her, yet when someone calls her out she usually gets angry and denies it. She has ruined so many experiences for me because of it. It's never her who's in the wrong, it's always the other person. She hardly ever apologizes for anything, and when she does, it's too late (the last time she apologized to me was for something she did 3 weeks earlier, and it was because I called her out on it). Just today, I was helping my little brother look for something, and she told me to look in a certain place and I told her I already did, then she screamed at me like a psycho. Then she told me to "SHUT THE F*CK UP!" repeatedly. I felt like pulling a Walter White and screaming "F*CK YOU!!!" (I did that once, and I got in HUGE trouble). And she very clearly favors her other kids more than me (she says it's because I'm older, but she lets them get away with things that she never let me in a million years, and even then she's awful to them often) and she's insensitive and selfish to pretty much everyone and yet she wonders why others don't like her. What do I do?

My father got remarried and I spent all weekend glued to my uncle who I haven't seen since I was a kid. When we were having breakfast at the hotel buffet the day after the wedding, I asked him "When did you change your name?" My uncle had changed his name legally a long time ago and I just happened to ask him about it when he was paying his bill for his breakfast. He looked at me strangely, like he was thinking, and after I realized I was not getting an answer from him (it indeed was a personal question), I asked if he was offended. He said 'Not at all.' and became his happy self again. When we went to say goodbyes, he said "I have a present for you," and handed me a 50 dollar bill. I don't have a job and sometimes my father will randomly give me 20s just so I have a little cash. So when I saw that 50, I thought he was giving me some spending cash like my father does. I thanked him well for it. But as I was traveling home, I kept thinking over why he went silent earlier. I had said the word 'change' and had fumbled over my words when I asked him about his name change, and think he could've mistaken me asking him for cash. Or is it a present like he said it was? Should I ask him about it or leave it well enough alone?

My 2 year old daughter stays with her mother (my ex) and she has sole custody.. when I went to pick her up her mother (grandmonther) told me her husband found her coat on a train but they washed it.. I asked her twice just to make sure I heard what I heard, and she said "yeah isn't it cute" so I left it alone.. when she got to my house me and my fiance played with her until she got tired nd went to sleep.. the next day I put her clothes back on and took her home.. there was nothin wrong with her or no marks on her when she left my house but when she got home my ex told me she had bed bug bites on her and liquid was coming out of them.. first thing came to my mind was her coat cuz there was nothin on her when she got here and when she left. Long story short my fiance told me that can be look at child abuse and neglect.. I never seen anything on her when she got here or when she left.. can I please get help cuz I don't want to go to jail for something stupid like this.. I checked my whole house and nothing. I been here since October and I haven't been bit by anything.. please stupid comments or answers cuz this is serious

My room was messy when I left for my dads over the weekend. I had my art supplies out everywhere because I was looking for a specific paint tube that I couldn't find. I didn't have enough time to clean my room AND do their chores before I left to go to my dads for the weekend. My mom freaks out and says shes cleaning my room and throwing away everything that's out. That's hundreds of dollars worth of my art supplies that I've paid for. That's years of paintings and drawings that I was building up for a portfolio for university. All gone. My dad thinks it's wrong. I don't know what to do. I'm so angry and hurt. I this me being crazy, or should they have not thrown all that I loved and have been working on. All of which they knew I loved and worked hard for. Found the trashbag full of everything I had. Some of its broken and some of my art is destroyed but its better than it all being gone. Trash picks up on wednesday so Im going to leave it until right before trash picks up so they dont know that I took it back.

i hear bla bla the mother spends it on her. That 's not true my mother was a single mother she bought me clothes a computer , toys , food, shoes, my dance/cheerleading lessons, bought me a bike. My mom put all that money towards me. Being a single parent we give up our time and freedom. We have to pay day care. It makes me sick guys say we spend money on us on us. Being a single parent you nearly have Be money left!!! I mean I'm the same way my daughter comes first swimming lessons clothes food . I shop at the Salvation Army just so my daughter get what she needs not all woman use child support for them!!!

My mother is staying at our house for a few day while her home has some remodeling work done on it. My husband and I are enjoying every minute of her stay. She has a great personality and is joy to be around. Working gals, can you imagine how it feels to have bacon and eggs and home made biscuits ready for you when you get up in the morning. And then have a hot home made meal ready for you when you get home from work. At the dinner table one night, I reminded my husband to lock the bath room door when he takes a shower, something he normally does not do. I said to mom "Wouldn't you be embarrassed if you open the bath room door and my husband was getting out of the shower. She said "Yes, I would". There was a long pause then with a BIG LAUGH she said "Unless he was really hung". Mom and my husband had a BIG LAUGH about that. OH MY GOD. I almost fell out of my chair. My mom must be losing it. I did not know she even knew what it meant for a guy to be hung. Should a 44 year old mother even be thinking in terms of guys being hung?

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My husband and kids and I never go on vacation. We booked a cruise for next year the other day, which leaves us over a yr to pay it off. I recently began speaking to my estranged biological grandmother who can be very judgmental and lives in her apt and speaks to nobody. I mentioned my vacation next year and she accused me of bragging and said that I really should not be spending $ on a trip and really need to save that $ for a rainy day. Is she right? That I don't need a vacation? We have not had one in years.

I'm really sad and idk what to do plz help

I was visiting my husband's mother and I ask her to see his baby pictures. She gave me her family picture album to look at. In it was pictures of her being crowned Miss YYY (the name of our state) 22 years ago. Was she ever beautiful them as she is now. She had never told me about this and neither had my husband. None of her friends know about it either. It was quite an honor so I asked my husband why she never told anyone about it. He said she was embarrassed that she could not fit in the dresses she wore when she was crowned Miss YYY. She had a gorgeous figure then and now. It turns out she is only 1 dress size larger now than when she was 20. What a remarkable feat for a woman in her 40s that had 3 children. She has a birthday soon and I would like to give her a party to celebrate her birthday and being crowned Mis YYY and invite all her friends. I think they would like to know and would be very happy for the honor she has received. However the LAST thing I want to do is cause her any embarrassment. Gals, please give me your thoughts on how and if I should proceed with this. I will not do this if she does not want me to. I will ask her permission before I do it. Would you be embarrassed for your friends to know you were crowned Miss YYY 22 years ago. THANKS FOR YOUR ADVICE.

My parents marriage is the really classic one where my mom budgets and my dad does whatever she says. They've been having arguments and threatened to divorce a few times. Afterwards they were telling me not to worry...but now they keep mentioning it and arguing anyway.... But I'm not naive. I've read so many divorce horror stories online...I love to research so I looked everything up becuz of their arguments. So I know already. My dad CAN'T cheat. He CAN'T leave. My mom would get so much money from him, including alimony. And she knows the law really well so god only knows how she'd make my dad suffer with debt and everything. And my mom can't leave or cheat since she doesn't work... So should I sit down with the both of them and just tell them everything? I know it's not my business but i feel like they think I'm an idiot. They told me they stayed married for love. I believed that before but now now..I. see myself as more mature now. I feel insulted they think I don't know.

I eat at my towns McDonalds every Sunday and every Sunday it is filled with Grandparents with their little Grandchildren. At least im assuming these are Grandchildren. But isn't it common sense by now that high fat, high sugar, high sodium, low nutrients foods are the last thing a growing 5 year old needs? And yes I do eat here, and I know what I'm eating. All these Grandchildren know is that it tastes good. But there are also conditions like Type 2 Diabetes to worry about. And Type 2 Diabetes has been on the rise on children.

I am 15 almost 16 years old and I have always had exceptional grades and I have never done anything to lose his trust. I know he was a bad kid when he was my age and has a right to be worried about me but I need some space and some trust. My best friend who's family is very close to mine just recently told me that her mom knew about my dad reading my texts, but now I'm not supposed to tell him because then my friends mom is worried that it would make things awkward between her and my dad. I have already talked to my mom about it and she had no idea but completely agrees with me. I want to tell him because I frequently get in trouble for being disrespectful and rude and it's all just pent up anger for his lying to me. I'm stuck between hurting a relationship between mine and my friends parents and staying mad at my dad and letting him lie to me constantly. What do I do?

I am a 22 y.o. female, and I feel trapped, as I have been living with my parents, on and off, my whole life. I went to college out of high school for a year, and went back again after taking a year off to work for a semester. The rest of the time and currently I have been working and also taking online classes. The thing is I would love to move out, and I really cannot stand living with my brothers much longer, one of whom is almost 24 and the other just turned 18 (and graduates high school in May). My parents are mostly paying for my college, although like I said, I have worked to help out a little financially. I also finally bought a car back in August after saving up from working. And then, I decided to go on a vacation with my extended family and brothers this summer, which I can't cancel now because plane tickets have already been purchased. I would love to move out, but my parents don't think I can afford it. I really have no one who lives close to me who can be a roommate with me. And like I said, my brothers who share a room, constantly are annoyed by my presence and I feel disliked by them and my cousins. I just really would love to move to a different state or something, but again, my parents think I need my degree first. I understand it is expensive, but I feel emotionally unstable and abused at home because my parents constantly yell at me, as do my brothers. I tell them how I feel and it just gets worse. I cry almost daily about things in my life. My dad and I constantly get into fights (verbally). But he then always says, "You can't afford to move out!!" But one of the main reasons is because of him! My mom would like for either me or my older brother to move out, even. I really am beginning to hate my life more and more each day. I feel emotionally trapped and as if my parents are greatly disappointed in me for not finishing at the college they went to. But they still want to control me by keeping me at home for at least another year and a half. I try to be grateful, as I have been told how hard it is once you're out on your own. But my younger brother just tells me, "You're an adult. Move out." And I'm like, "..............." And he even told me that I shouldn't have decided to go on the expensive vacation this summer, even though other family members (extended family) pushed me to. I feel weighed down by everyone's expectations and opinions of me, and as if everyone expects me to care how THEY feel my life should be going. I literally cry all the time thinking about this, and nothing changes when I talk to my parents about it. They just say that it's too expensive and that my yelling back (after feel hurt and pushed around by everyone else, even to the point of my brothers using physical force on me when I "annoy them" by talking "too much", etc.) that I am "verbally abusing" everyone else in the family. But they won't let me move out. I honestly hate myself so much and wonder why I was even created. I also forgot to mention I have a health problem that prevented me from going back to a real campus (rather than online) that makes me even more nervous around people, etc. Any help, please!? I really can't take this much longer! I should clarify...I don't want my parents to pay for me to move out. They won't let me move out, period. Also, I AM paying for my own vacation this summer. That's another reason why my parents think I won't be able to afford to move out eventually. I would love to be able to move out to get away from the unstable environment I deal with on a daily basis in my home, created by them thinking they should control me for several years more (i.e., ideally until I find a husband, in my dad's opinion.)

Yesterday this stupid biitch waitress was like straight hitting on me in front of my mom. She was flirting and my mom was like "she likes you, you should get her number i want grandchildren" That pissed me off and its stuff like that why i hate women. I wake up today and she tells me her neighbor across the street keeps asking about me, and she wants me to talk to her so she can have grandchildren. I've asked a similar question to this before but most of the answers just basically I need to ignore my mom or move to another country. I am Hispanic, so it isn't that easy. My mom is putting huge pressure on me to reproduce. Like ad i am typing this she is saying things like she wants me to have a junior. But as i mentioned in past questions i really hate women. I have sex with women but that is all I see them as is sex. i do not talk to them and I do not like being around them. I do not like their personalities or the things they do. I just use sluts for sex until they get a boy friend. I do not know how to break it to my mom that i do not want to date and much less get married, and I most likely will never have a kid. I do not trust women, I do not even like them. I do not know what to do if i break my moms heart and tell her i hate women and do not want to get married she will be hurt for ever.

Well i have a 7years older sister. My mother died when i was 9 and she took carr of me from then. We were close. But from last year our relationship got bad. She is a single mom, and i hava been looking after her son for the last two years. Few good job invites came but i had to give up because there was no one to look after her son and also i do all the houseworks so i had no choice. From last year she started to meet a 5year younger guy and they started to date. But from then she started to change little by little. She started to come late then she started to go with her boyfriend for few days. Her care for his son became less and also her attitude changed in many ways. 2days ago she came back home after 3 days and i got angry. I told her to break up with that guy and she said she won t. So i told her harsh words and hit her with pillow. She cried and went out with her son. But now i feel somehow guilty? What should i do?

It is my Mom I am referring to as I love her but her bitterness at my father and her alienating me from him did great damage to me. I am an adult now and would like to forgive her but can't seem to be able to and she still insults him though not as much. She says she had her reasons and would still alienate me to this day, even knowing it caused me great anxiety and regret even now as an adult. Yet I do feel I should forgive her because she is my mother and is otherwise a good mother.

So I notice I was being verbally abusive to my kids their little 2 and 4 and I was getting alot of anger rage and sad and crying for no reason i was a mess. So I started realizing this was not normal for me to be screaming at them and hitting them for no reason. I research and realize I was dealing with depression. I don't want to be hooked on pills so I got in the gym and started working out and the kids will be in the gyms kids center for 2 hours and that will give me a break from them to relax. And I just stated doing alot of activities with them and taking them to the park instead of being home all day bored and them nagging all day. And it has worked I get more tired tho like alot but atkeast I see the kids happy and I'm not messing them emotionally. But if notice my 4 year old isn't just so close to me anymore. I don't know if its because he doesn't like me anymore. Or if its because his grandma started living with us and his obbsess with his grandma. He does want to sleep with me sometimes and still wants mom but its just like mommie don't touch or don't kiss me leave me alone go away and I get sooo sad and makes me wanna cry is this normal for a 4 year old boy or is it because i was such a horrible mom for his 4 years of life. I love him so much I just want him to be happy. I stoped screaming and just being calmer and I see the difference with him And I don't hit him at all I punish him. What can i do to make my 4 year old closer to me.

Im the middle child. I have elder sister and younger brother. Actually we used to have a maid for a long time but now she quits about 2 years ago. So, we have to do all the chores by ourselves. But, now seems that I had to do it by myself like wash dishes, fold the clothes, sweep the floor, throw rubbish. My other siblings won't bother to do at all unless I tell them to do by yelling at them. This is so unfair. In other case, my sister won't bother all the chores if she have things to do like assignment or exam coming up. I mean like she could take a break for a while to do it but she won't even care if there a mess in front of her. Im so stressed and feel unfair. I talked to my mom about this but she not exactly tell her to help me. Sometimes, I wonder if my mom actually know that im the one who done all the chores because I did it before she come back from work. *do My sister won't do it even she had nothing to do. If she have free time, she'll just play with her laptop or phone. In the end, im still the one who did it. I still do the chores even when I have assignment and exams. When I get out from my room and went to kitchen, it's a mess. I tried to leave it for one day to see if someone at least gonna take care of it but none. I feel so angry because Im the only had to this. It's so unfair.

Whenever my parents go with their friends to watch a show or a party, I have to stay at home and "babysit" my younger sister(even though she's 14, ugh.) Oh, and I'm a 17 years old girl. Okay, so one time, my mom said that she was going to wake up early(because she has to go to work at 9:30) and make spaghetti, which is one of my sister's favorite dish. Turns out my mom overslept and woke up at 9, so she just went and bought my sister a hot breakfast from mcdonalds. Then, my sister, out of nowhere, wakes up and dumps the ENTIRE thing into the garbage can. She used lots of napkins to cover it up so I could tell that she did it. I wasn't happy about this obviously. I mean, there's lots of kids who wake up everyday to no goddamn water, and this girl's going to dump food in the garbage just because she didn't get what she wanted?? The same thing happened when she got a pineapple birthday cake instead of an ice cream(the store didn't have any ice cream cake.) She dumped the birthday cake into the garbage can. She said that "if she planned something and it changes, she'll become distressed." Sometimes, she'll even get meltdowns where she'll just hit herself, stuff, or destroy things. crazy. When we go to malls or restaurants as a family, it's freaking hell. I mean, she'll talk the loudest out of everyone, she'll run around the mall bumping into people without saying sorry, AND she's 14?! how mature. I hate talking to her because she just rambles on and on and on and on about nonsense(like where european countries are in relation to each other or how stupid religious people are.) Not once will she ever let me talk. Just rambling about nonsense. She also doesn't get along well with other kids. Sometimes, she'll hit kids who are younger than her. She literally threw a tv remote at her younger cousin once and didn't apologize at all. She's also very very very socially awkward. If you combine napoleon dynamite and peter parker, you'll get her. She'll ask someone, "So, ugh, do you like to ugh, like.. read books and stuff?" while they're reading a book. Even more disturbing, she has this thing where she'll tell me to lay down on a bed or a couch. Then, she would put her ear on my chest to, as she calls it, "hear my heartbeat." What is wrong with this girl? Also, she, suprisingly, makes good grades. I heard that she never gets in trouble at school, and she actually made THE highest score on her end-of-the-year English and math test in 4th and 5th grade in the entire school district. Around the house, she's really hyper, but at her relative's house or at school, she's really shy and quiet. I went to her band recitals at school before. She didn't talk to anyone. Oh and she didn't went to prom. ha :P

I'm a 22 year old female and I have a difficult relationship with my mum. She's very catty with me and never passes up an opportunity to bicker or put me down. My younger siblings have noticed and said there's a feeling of competitiveness between us. I'm the oldest of my parents' children. I feel like the more I am becoming my own person making my own decisions the worse our relationship gets. She tells me I think I'm better than her because I don't always take her advice. She also makes comments about how I don't care about her or try to keep in touch but the thing is, when I call or text she'll hang up as quick as possible or not reply to my messages so I can hardly keep spamming her with messages. I feel like she doesn't want me to be grown up because she likes to have a say in my decisions so she tries to put me down or make me feel guilty for trying to be my own person. She goes so far as to tell me I should end my relationship, she tries to ban me from having certain drives and she tells me to have a different career and when I don't she starts an argument. What do I do?

I am 16 years old I got in trouble in school it wasn t me there was mutliple students. My parents got mad and I said sorry to them but I guess it doesn t matter. I work at a place in Colorado that is four miles away so I had to walk there and back at 9pm. So far it s been three days I had one meal a day because at work they would give me dinner. All my money goes into my savings account so I can t buy lunch at school or anything. What do I do please help

I know this seems bad but I won't do visit without child support. This sounds mean but before you have been a single mom and paid for everything rent food clothes and no state aid worked your butt off. Then the father makes really good money so why can't he pay. I feel like if you love your daughter you would pay. Plus it cost $500 for round trip to visit her father we live in different states .

My daughter is visiting from out of state. We had planned to see her Aunt today. Last night she had to use our computer to send in a paper she had completed for her online class. (Apparently this teacher only opens up submissions on the due dates? So she can't send it in earlier.) Well, our computer broke & she was unable to use our computer. She went to her Aunts house to print it there & somehow the computer started to upgrade to a new "Windows operating system" my daughter ended up getting stuck there for 3 hours waiting for this upgrade because my sister & her husband had to leave to go out so they left her there. I told her this morning her aunt sounded really mad at her. I also mentioned how her best friend is likely mad at her too because she cancelled plans with her. My daughter, sister & I had planned to all meet today and walk our dogs. I injured my back so I can't walk out dog. She's angry at what I said & now refused to go. I told her she's ruined the day which she did!!!! Now I can't bring our dog because my daughter won't come & I'm going to look like an idiot in front of my family when my daughter doesn't show up!! What do I do? Tell my sister my daughter is a self entitled brat?!?

Please state your age if speaking from personal experience.

I was 13 year old, and she was 7-8 year old. She kept spying on me, later imitated me, and she talked about me to her parents like how I ate a chocolate bar in the morning (I was pmsing or had my period). Her mother was stingy, sick, and their parents argue a lot. She later imitated me, and insulted me. Called me fat 20-30 times. She has issues at home.

We already know how it affects the immediate family like parents, grandparents, children and grandchildren. But how does suicide affect the extended family, people we are not so close to? How does it affect uncles, aunts, cousins, nephews, nieces and the in-laws? What if there is sibling rivalry or jealousy or hatred going on in the family?

My mother loves the opportunity to brag that she left out father to protect us kids from having to have a relationship with him. Yet, I did have a relationship with him when I was old enough to decide on my own (age 15) and so I got close to him the last 15 years of his life. He had alcoholism. So my question is this. I would prefer that if it is a person I know or someone that knows my Dad's extended family that my mother not talk about how she left him and felt she had to protect us. Yet, as recently as yesterday my mother was bragging about this and saying if it was now she would do the exact same thing even though she understands addiction as a disease now (back then she claimed it was all a choice). My half-brother, my mother's son from her second marriage, is now a 23 year old drug addict. This means the subject of addiction and thus my mother's bragging has come up a lot lately. It makes me feel great shame when she says this because it makes me feel like I was the reason she divorced (it was her that had the problem with his drinking, not me). So how do I get her to stop this but tell her politely? She (my Mom) is someone who any correction is taken as "I hate you Mom" when that is not what is being said.

I'm fourteen years old (yes, I know I'm young) and I'm in a bad situation. I'm homeschooled and I hate it, but I can't do anything about it since the school years almost over (I'm going to public school next year). My mom is an alcoholic, my dad never talks to me, and my sister is emotional abusive. I have no friends and no way to make friends either. So pretty much I have no one. My sister makes me serve her and every day is hateful to me by saying I'm disgusting, that I'll die alone, or something like that. She spends all day in her room and tells me I'm needy and that I'll never have friends. Every night my mom drinks until she passes out. I don't even talk to my dad. Sometimes at night I'll scratch myself or bang my head against the wall because I don't know what to do. I want to leave, sometimes I even think of suicide but I don't think I would ever kill myself. No one would care anyway. I can't talk to my parents about anything because they never listen to me. Plus I see them, especially my mother, not even fit to be parents. As a parent you should help your child, and they don't help me. Whenever I ask my mom why she didn't enroll me in school (she said she would) she brings up my weak spots and things I'm self conscious about. I just can't handle my life being like this. I want to live with my grandparents, but how in the world would I be able to tell them?

Hola! quiero saber si esto es un delito y en que categoria entra esta situacion: En la escuela hay un administrativo muy joven y medianamente guapo con el que me e involucrado fisica y "sentimentalmente" sin embargo esta persona lo hace continuamente con las estudiantes de intercambio, otorgandoles ayuda necesaria a su llegada para despues salir con ellas y por supuesto acostarse con ellas, por diferentes medios me he enterado que continuamente por la facilidad de acceso que tiene a los datos investiga a las chicas que le gustan y les comienza a escribir cosas "raras" mostrando atencion y procupacion para ganar su confianza, ¿Esto es un delito? Tomese en cuenta que el es un funcionario publico en una universidad! El registra y recibe a todos los estudiantes de intercambio, puede saber los datos de quien se le pegue la gana con total facilidad! y es verdad que cada uns toma sus decisiones para involucrarse con quien quiera pero a mi consideracion el se aprovecha de la situacion y necesidad de las chavas porque como bien dice el "se van" no queda prueba alguna de que el se mete con estudiantes, supongamos que lo hiciera con la verdadera intencion de conocerlas para intentar algo bien; todos tenemos derecho, pero este cabron lo hace para "pasar el rato" aprovechando todo el contexto, de que manera podemos ponerle un alto? estoy conciente que las chavas tienen parte de responsabilidad por aflojar pero me parece q es un abuso de puesto lo que el hace, no me parece etico!

I got an iPhone 6S in September. It is my 2nd phone. Lately I have realized, them literally seem like my parents are out to get me and my phone. The last time I lost my phone was because I left my lunch box at school, and then I was laying down while playing a game on my PS4. This naggy type punishment has started in late 2015, and it is getting to me. I am 14, and I am starting to need my phone a lot, and I know not being social is bad for me, and so do my parents. HELP!

So I m a senior I graduate in a little over a month but I don t know what I want for do after. I want to start work right away or go to trade school but my family is making me go to college, but I think I m wasting my time and money because nothing interests me. I refuse to work in an office so that gets rid of a bunch of jobs. I live in nj now but I want to move to Cali, and move away from everybody but I want to get a good job before I go but I don t even know what I want to do. You might ask why? The answer is simple My dad is an asshole who owes my alcoholic mother over $30,000 and if I stay here I am going to kill myself I need to leave

My niece is 17, she turns 18 in early October and is planning on leaving home after Christmas and getting her own apartment with a friend. I have come down to help pack (without being asked keep in mind) and I told her to throw her teddies and dolls in the garbage and she refuses, I tried hiding them and planned to dispose of them but she found out and has kept them in her bedroom, she plans to keep them, I have told her she is far too old to have a teddy bear on her bed and she says "I don't care what you think of me" I am shocked! She is nearly an adult and she she won't grow up! What can I do? You can't bring teddies and dolls with you! I HATE TEDDIES!

So this morning my mother was just screaming at me for no reason. I asked her nicely to stop yelling because she was giving me a headache. Then she came up and tried to hit me but I pushed her away. She said that she was going to beat the s**t out of me. Should I contact police or someone? I am scared she is going to hurt me even worse than she already has. (I m 14, by the way)

Every weekend he talks to me about football and its statistics, knowing full well I hate it, i always have, always will, then i get angry about it sometimes, because it is exceptionally hard to pretend to like something you hate, then he asks me why I am angry about it, I tell him why, he gets angry about it too, he has gone home after I told him all this and next weekend it will be like a reset button all over again. I encourage his interest but he has to accept that I simply do not like it.

People keep telling me to go to clubs and have a social life but I don't want to. I have 4 best friends and they completely agree with me that I don't need a social life because we all have each other. The reason I don't go to these night clubs is because I'm 14 and I don't want to do inappropriate things like I know other people have done in the past from my school. Yet people always invite me to those things and when I tell them I don't like going to those places because I respect myself they don't simply understand and tell me I'm exaggerating when I have actually seen pictures of people behaving inappropriately and doing things they shouldn't at their age. How can I make people understand and stop them from inviting me to lewd places like that? They always tell me I'm weird for not going to places like that, so how can I make them understand it's my own choice and that I don't need to go to places like that to have friends.

His graduation starts at 2 and I have to be at prom at about 5. His college is only about 20 minutes from my house but I m afraid that it won t be over in time. What should I do?

My father and I have a very strange arrangement. He has a strange foot fetish and can only get off after he gives someone a foot rub. My father offers me 100 dollars cash to give me a foot rub, usually lasting around 3-5 minutes. He then goes into his room to relieve himself. My father owns a successful concrete company and is very good to my sisters and I. Would you let your dad rub your feet for 100 dollars? (Sometimes I just let him do it for free it feels nice)

I want to be a barber and my mom shouts at me like crazy she doesn't even know what job I should have yet she still shouts at me she is finacally broke due to my father being in a stroke we live of social welfare I really want to be a barber since I was a kid what should I do?

Especially my little brother and my dad...i just hope they ******* die Auld Lang Syne : soon. i need to get money first Plebs : 17

My birth mom left my little brother and i when i was 4 and he was 2 because she was on drugs. I remember being on the phone with her for the last time and as my brother and i cried for her not to go and leave us my dad took the phone and hung up.... that was the last time i heard from my mom and that was 16 years ago. i grew up wondering where she was, what she was doing, if she ever got clean and had a family of her own. well as i grew up i always heard stories that she was in the newspaper for thinking bugs were under her skin and she was in a bad car wreck. but luckily when i was 6 my step mom came into the picture and she adopted my brother and I and she married my dad. but there was always a part of me wondering if she was still doing drugs because she left us and if that was a way to numbing the pain? fast forward 16 years and So I was at work last week when i get a message from my fiance saying she found my birth mom on facebook and in a panic i told her to send me the link so she did and as i was scrolling through i noticed she has a 10 month old son/my half brother, and not really thinking I messaged her saying I'm glad you finally get to be a parent its the most amazing feeling in the world and that im truly happy for you, please take care of my little brother. i wasnt planning on replying to her if she replied back to me but what she said back brought back so many memories and i almost broke down at work, it was along the lines of yes being a parent is the most amazing feeling in the world and leaving you and your brother haunts me everyday, i wasnt the mom i planned to be and i left my babies. there wasnt a day where i didnt think about you guys but i know me leaving was the best thing for you both. and i replied to her that i forgave her... .i wanna hate her so bad but at the same time i wanna help her stay clean for her to finally live the life everyone deserves for her and my baby brother.. anyones thoughts?