Its a day and night difference before and after an incompatible marriage and I am battling to find myself again-after an episode of protest, denial, depression, loss of career path and motivation. I have resigned to fate and am beginning to accept my situation hoping that I can make or break my life but I am so lost. I feel like I am stranger to myself now. I am not sad anymore but waking up I am not the same as I used to be. I just dont care about anything and live life looking forward to nothing. I watch a lot of TV and get lost in it or I spend time on things of momentary happiness. Has anyone been in my shoes?

I've got his email, is this bad? And am aware of danger. He seems decent. Someone, please answer thank you. :)

I've liked him for about a year but not said anything bra cause he's a year above and way to good looking for me, only a few friends know and today there was a really big shuffle and everyone was talking about something and then I found out about how he was severely beaten up (no deatails) I was so shocked upset and worried, as he was hospitalised and I still am. But my exams are the next day, how can I concentrate when he's the only thing one my mind.

Is it okay to do favors for a coworker?

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So, i have these girl in my school (about 5 of them) and every time they see me, they cover their nose and say "eww" or something like that. I am trying to ignore them by talking to my friends, BUT my friends are getting along with these bullies really well and don t mind that i am being bullied. I know that my friends are not the best, but i don t have anyone else. Can someone help? Thanks in advance.

I used to work in a corporate office. During my 7 years there, one of my co-workers kept repeating everything I said regarding my taste in women and who at the office I think is pretty. Apparently since I appear socially awkward, he treated me like a 4-year-old who said something adorable, as opposed to keeping it confidential, i.e. locker room talk. Eventually, everyone knew that I was "in love" with the office manager. But my co-worker obviously fabricated what I said. I felt so violated, as if the entire staff had read my diary. It really hurt me how he betrayed my trust. Well, 4 years ago, I was laid off. Despite my dismay for my co-worker, we are friends on Facebook, and have been since before my termination. I've been contemplating sending a friend request to the office manager for the purpose of job references. She was fired 2 years before me, so there's no hard feelings, as she obviously wasn't the one who did the boss's dirty work. But since we have many mutual friends, I don't think it's a good idea to send her a request, because the rumors will continue about us if I do. I know I shouldn't care what they think, especially because I don't work with them anymore. But I don't like the idea of ex-co-workers possibly snickering behind my back if they see I'm friends on Facebook with the office manager. Perhaps if she and I remained NOT friends on Facebook, then those rumors of me being in love with her will come to a hault. Any suggestions?

I was seeing a really great guy. It has been a really long time since, I have met anyone who struck my interest. Sweet, nice caring. We were hanging out a lot. then it sorta backed off a little and we had a great weekend together. Sunday my anxiety started kicking in. Monday, I was covered in hives. I had cancer a few years ago and this week, is the closing of that chapter.. So, my anxiety has been high.. SUPER high.. The guy I was seeing, just doesn't think the timing is right. I guess my idea of slow and his idea were different. I don't really know how much slower we could go, we are 28/34. Just hanging out and enjoying life. He told me that trying again is for sure an option once stuff slows down and things calm down. I haven't talked to him in a few days. I honestly miss him. I use to get butterflies in my belly, knowing that I would see him. IDK what to do now? I really want another shot with this guy. But, I don't know what to do. I haven't done the crazy stuff like blow his phone up or anything like that.. I just am going on.

So I went to give a breastfeeding cover back to my former IBCLC for her to pass on to another mom in need. we were kind of close for 2 years she was a big support to me though my 1st 2 kids. I have a almost 3 yr old and 2 year old and about a week ago I found out I am pregnant with twins. I told her and she look very shocked (almost didnt have any works, face went a little white) but right away she said," WHAT!? You pregnant with twins, Oh my gosh! How do feel about that?" Then I said, "Im still in shock" and then she said she said (as she was kind of laughing and took deep breaths) "Obviously Im in shock too, Wow good luck with that!" Then she had an apt and had to go. so my question is what do you think she is feeling and thinking? She didnt say congrats and did she mean well when she said :good luck with that" to me it just seems it wasnt good.

Yo quiero seguir saliendo con él y pasar él rato pero nada más , y no se como decirle lo que quiero. Es que su esposa esta en otra ciudad y él esta aquí en mi ciudad y nos conocimos en él trabajo y pues me invito a salir, y las cosas se dieron pero quiero que ocurra mas seguido. Como le diré?

My professor is a ex cop, and a hospice minister. He works with death and dying a lot. Im not sure if he has a problem with me but i do tend to over analyze stuff. our first personal convo was after i failed my first test. He brought me to his office and checked the answers. We chatted and everything seemed fine. Then I noticed he never looked at me or in my direction. When I raise my hand it seems like he MAY ignore me. Than one time when I asked a question I swear he had the body language like he didn't want to look at me. Before that happened I asked him if i could email him a joke that i read in a book that was related to a personal experience he had that was funny. He emailed me back saying it was funny. I didn't reply. Then one day before i left he was telling me all these great things about our class and at the end of our convo i said by the way i really enjoy your class i has taught me a lot of things i didnt know because i was planning to go into the hospice field too. Then he kind of brushed me off and said something like ok then turned away and started doing something else. Does it sound like im hitting on him? He just seems cold towards me sometimes but with these two other girls he is friendly towards and seems naturally comfortable around. Or do you think im just over analyzing it. He said old women are always hitting on him and tell him he is attractive. So not sure if he has a big ego. he is married thats why im asking in this section. It wouldnt let me type out but my friend said either im over thinking it or he thinks I'm hot and he is trying not to have inappropriate thoughts about me I forgot to say today he was looking at my row and i looked up at him and he quickly said there are some seats missing as if to maybe say i wasnt looking at u. So when i asked to question he seemed angry i asked and was pretty short with me

When we broke up he ended up dating the girl he cheated on me with and I didnt hear much from him for a year. Not even a few months ago I heard that my ex and his gf broke up. He tried talking to me again and I told him we could speak as friends but that I was dating someone else. I guess he didnt know I was seeing anyone and it set him off. After that he attempted to bring up the times we had with each other to see if I'd take him back. When he realized that wasnt working he told my friends that the reason he and his gf broke up was because he and I slept together. IDK how but he even got her to agree. So of course the guy I was dating says he wants some time apart to think about whats going on. My ex came to my apartment I basically told him to f*ck off and that I hated him and he ensured there was NO chance of me being with him. He started crying saying he didnt want to live if I really hated him. He tried apologizing for the cheating and lying and said if I wasnt going to be with him he'd kill himself. Now I thought he was bullsh*tting so I told him I didnt care what he did. But he pushed into my house and grabbed a knife from my kitchen. He literally cut from his elbow to his wrist pretty deeply. When we went to the hospital he told them it had been an accident and I was too shocked to say anything else. The cut wasnt deep enough to kill him but nurses said he was lucky. I do still care about him and I dont want anything bad to happen to him but I dont know what to do. I feel that bringing it up to professionals at the hospital would do no good because he is going to deny it that it was anything other than an accident. I have tried talking to the counselors available at my university but since he's not a student there they cant see him and the only advice I got to try and work things out with him. I ask on here because right now a lot of my friends arent talking to me because of the lies he told them. I dont really know where else to look for advice.

she is still alive, her friend saved her. me and her were friends all through school, she was really controlling and pessimistic but I know its because she was afraid of losing me & she wasn't in a good place, I stopped talking to her, its been a year and she tried talking to me, made me uncomfortable but I still talked to her, a month later she texted me saying she saw me & my gf at the mall and I freaked out, my parents would rather kill me themselves than to have a lesbian child, so i told my girlfriend who opened a group chat between us 3 and told her to keep her mouth shut, she got defensive saying she could care less who I dated and was making conversation, then it got heated and she threatened to show my parents the video camera(she works at the mall security) because we started this, I was silent until this point and told her to please not do this, then she said she had a bad day and she was sorry for lashing out. While it was heated my girlfriend stated that I didn't want to talk to her at all, she then private messaged me and told me to be honest and I said maybe we could talk less but still talk. that was less than a week ago, My girlfriend said she and her talked about why she hates my girlfriend and my girlfriend says there isn't any hard feelings and that she'd leave me alone. In the note she said she still doesn't know why I hate her and why I couldn't be honest when she tried to talk again, she said how much I meant to her, is it my fault? she sent the email on her birthday and five days after that whole argument.

I've been dating a guy for 7 months and he's 33 and ready for marriage. He refers to me as his future wife and told me he was going to propose this year (we've had numerous discussions). He calls me his soulmate and said he's never been in a relationship like ours. He feels as though it was fate for us to meet and has told everyone in his life about us and I've met all his family and friends. He just left on a trip and told his mom to "take care of me" while he's gone. I was on his Macbook on the web when imessage started coming through. Texts with a girl from a different state started appearing and she reached out to him a week ago asking how he's been doing. He responded telling her everything in his life is great and he couldn't be happier (I wasn't mentioned, it was brief). He also asked her how things in her life have been & asked "I hope and trust you are doing good and are happy as well?" and she said "yea I am I'm just focusing on finishing school and the weather in my state has been beautiful" and he said that was nice and that the weather in his state is nice too and warming up. They dated long distance and he really liked her. He told her last summer they should try to be more serious in a year when she's done with school (hence why I think she's reaching out) so why is he responding to her? I'm confused and sad and don't want to bring this up during his trip. (I'm meeting him in Europe in a few days) and I don't want to ruin our time. Should I be worried? She also never responded to his last text message about the weather and it's been a week. Why would he continue the conversation and comment on something so irrelevant like the weather? He was upset when I was texting an old coworker who he thought was clearly interested in me and I was responding to him as a friend. He said how we're building a foundation for a marriage and that shouldn't be acceptable.. so why would this be acceptable? It seems like he's not thinking about me and my feelings

My family is from Louisiana we have a plantation in Baton Rougue and it has been in my family for many generations. My grandparents are giving it to since they are moving to Virginia. I just found out yesterday and I am wanting to move in to the plantation with my girlfriend. I am going to tell her today the only problem is she is black and I don't know how she would feel about moving into a house that my family owned slaves on for generations. As a black girl would you have a problem living in a house that had a history like my plantation house?

I know that it may sound kinda crazy and confusing but I'm 16 and I'm in love with a married woman who is obviously older than me. I've been in love with her for 2 years and first i thought that it's just infatuation and I tried to hide them but they got stronger and stronger as the time passed and now I just can't ignore them.I really don't know if she likes me or not I mean she stares at me and then she suddenly look away when I look at her,I asked for her number last year she told me that she'll give it to me but she never did but I'm so confused and I just can see her for 2 more weeks and I don't know what to do I'm so afraid to talk to her im afraid of rejection and she's married and all that stuff I came up with the idea of writing a letter for her and tell her everything but I'm afraid and I really don't know what to do please help me😦

Say your co-worker has done a lot for you throughout the years, she has trained you, helped you out at work whenever in need and now she would need your help with minor repair in her house (something that you as a guy could do in a few mins) because her husband is not home to help her and the maintenance person hasn't helped in spite of repeated calls and requests. Would you help her?

I started a new job and there is one guy there who seemed to be interested in me. Then after two weeks he sheepishly admitted that he was married after a co-worker mentioned his wife. After that I wanted nothing to do with him so I gave him the cold shoulder and avoided him. But he kept making eyes at me kept showing up when I would ask someone else for help. If he outright asked me out I would say no but I don't know what else to do but ignore his no-verbal actions. I look away when he try to meet eyes. There are other married guys at work but they don't act like this. I don't know why my ignoring him is not enough it has been weeks and he isn't getting the message that he and I are not going to happen. This is hart to explain but he keeps trying to find way to connect with me and I keep avoiding it. I never ask him for help but when he over hears or notices me asking someone else he comes over. I wish he would just go away and get another job.

Yesterday, my crush & I were both in a mood &I he started reading me about other girls. Long story short, I overreacted ignoring him, calling him annoying & he told me "You can't get mad at me it's my birthday tomorrow." I told him I don't care, & he said "I was joking about other girls, you know that." He tried to be nice about it I ignored him & he told me he'd call me but I ignored & he left upset. I called last night, the phone call was 2 seconds! He put it to voice mail. I sent him a happy birthday text & an apology but he's still upset. Please help? I want to be with him on his birthday... :(

My friend met a guy on a date site. They really are attracted to each other and get along well. He is very anxious to have sex with my friend even though he has only known her for about a month. He lives at home with his family and my friend lives with her family. He has asked her if she wanted to be sexual with him in his vehicle. My friend wants to get to know him a little bit longer first before jumping into anything sexual. Should she have a talk with him regarding waiting and maybe arranging to be sexual in a more romantic setting. He usually wants to meet in his car and kiss. They have met each other three times. He wants to get physical right away. Should she have a talk with him regarding this?

He suffers from cerebral palsy and he's 9. I've had a crush on him for a while. I want to massage his private area. I don't think it's wrong because I'm only 17 plus I'm a girl. I'm not a pervert. I just have crazy hormones right now. Would I go to jail because of some weird laws? I know it's wrong to have sex with him, I'm talking about massaging. WHO THE HELL PUT THIS IN VIETNAM TAXES CATEGORY

is it sin as per religious.. however she is also intrested..

I am a gym rat so I'm usedto being singled out by men. Most back off when I tell them I'm married. I wear a wedding ring. However, the older men seem to be more persistent and they linger. There's an older gentleman who wants to play a racquet sport that I really want to play alone. It seems he is not getting the message. In what ways would you politely decline unwanted invitations? He's planning to bring his racquet and just play with me :'( . It's not because of his age. I love having my headphones on and just hit it. I'm in my world when I play.

So unhappy and miserable that the other person seems like some horrible curse put on you? I am talking about your love life, not family.

My boss is so lazy :( We have a team of 4, he is the marketing director, 2 of us are graphic artists, and 1 is the promotions coordinator. He usually approves everything, and since he has marketing experience, he usually comes up with ideas for our events/promos. Now, he's been leaving it up to us, saying he's busy (but he's ALWAYS on Facebook, Youtube, making personal calls for literally hours). When we ask him for approval on something, he gets annoyed and says we need to decide then we can run it by him, but then he shuts all our ideas down saying "What the he** kind of ideas are these? I can get my 5 yr old daughter to come up with better ideas! ! It's common sense!" :( (his actual words, I'm not kidding, I voice-record him just in case) He also leaves pretty much all the ads up to us, and gets mad when they're not what he wants. Even the wording. He'll book newspaper ads and not know what to advertise, so when I ask him he gets mad and says it's up to me...(mind you, we have tons of things we could advertise: new stores, promotions, sales, closing stores, job openings, etc...it's a lot of responsibility to cho... (PLEASE READ UPDATES FOR CONTINUATION, I had to break it down to meet the word count) ose one...)...he even lets us decide on all the wording (he hired us knowing we don't have experience with slogans or journalism) so I make an ad and he gets upset, saying "How could you not know how to advertise or word this?! Geez!" and go back to scrolling through Facebook...so this seriously wastes a LOT of time. Any questions like "What is the verbiage, color scheme, main (PLEASE READ OTHER UPDATES FOR CONTINUATION) (CONT) objective of the ad" makes him mad. Then he goes and calls his best friend and they chat for like, an hour. He gets mad when we ask questions and blows them out of proportion. For example, if a person paying us to hold an event in our space asks for ten chairs for a concert, my coworker would ask my boss "Can we allot 10 chairs for this event, and the remaining for this other one?" He would blow up and say "10 Chairs? Really? (PLEASE READ UPDATES FOR CONTINUATION) For a concert? Use your freaking head! Would you want all the crowd members to stand? Really?! 10 chairs is what, half of a row! Do you not have any common sense?" And my coworker would say "Oh orry I'm just asking cause that's what they wanted...but I can put more chai--" then he'd say, "NO lemme go SHOW YOU that you're WRONG!" He also gets mad when we follow his instructions. Someone won a car for one of our promos and I had to take a photo of her. (PLEASE READ UPDATE FOR CONTINUATION) She wasn't excited at all, so the pic looked sad. I submitted the picture to my boss for him to give to the newspaper, and he told me it looked ok, and just told me to add our company logo on it. I asked him if he wanted anything else added, and he said just that. So that's what I did. I added it in, and sent it back to him. He then got angry saying "This is SUCH a sad picture! Look at it, it's TERRIBLE! Why do you think adding in the logo would make it any better?" (PLS READ UPDATE FOR CONTINUA and I say, "I'm sorry I thought you said to just add the logo and nothing else." and he said, "Seriously?? This makes people want to just jump off a cliff. How can you not be creative enough, add something to make it look better!" and I ask what to add, since I'm not too sure what he means...and he said "ANYTHING! Use your graphic designer brain for Chr***'s sake!" and I suggest, "streamers? Balloons?" and he just gets mad. (PLS READ UPDATES FOR CONTINUATIONS) So I apologize saying I thought it was just the logo but I'd be happy to add in more elements. And he's like "Geez I know you were following my instructions but you gotta use your freakin' brain to know when NOT to follow my instructions!" We also do a ton of weekend events, and we USED to rotate the weekends between the 4 of us, but he would never show up for ANY of them. When he (PLS READ UPDATE FOR CONTINUATION) does, he goes up to take his daughter to watch a movie or go eat out somewhere, or chat with his friends, or watch football in the office. He promises he'll be there to help but never shows up, leaving us to panic and carry all the slack ALL THE TIME. So we're working like 50 extra hours a month cause he's not here, and we're all dropping like flies. It's just such a hassle and has made me super sick in the last few months :( Me and our whole team actually. (READ UPDATE FOR CONTINUATION) I feel as if he's not managing at all, leaving every single bit up to us and doing so many personal things at work. Everyone at the office really doesn't like him (except the Big boss who thinks he's the greatest ever), but the HR manager who is also a whole 'nother story, prohibits us from going to the Big boss for these things...she thinks it would get us all fired :/ (PLS READ UPDATE FOR CONTINUATION) Please, how do I deal with this :( I can't approach him about it 'cause in all my talks with him (when he asks me "what would you do to improve this company), he just shuts all my ideas down. I can't approach any higher-ups either, and I don't know if I want to involve the department of labor or anything (or is it even somethign I could bring up to them? I don't know). Thanks

My girlfriend called me a b**** because I started crying in tears over the steering wheel when my car wouldn't start, and my mom was shaking her head at me because I saw a big roach in the tub and jump out immediately as soon as it moved. I begged my mom to go in there and get it and was still scared as I showered.

I get hes older but he usually always treats me like a princess. Lately I ve really been wanting to dye my hair ombre with purple tips because I think it would look great and what better time to dye it a crazy color than when I go on vacation right? I told my boyfriend and he s like don the dye your hair purple when we go to the island. He straight up belittled me and told me it would look stupid and retarded and that people would look at me like I m crazy or an alien and we would get no service at places and that he doesn t want to go to a 5 star restaurant with a girl with purple hair. So being the rebel one that i am I m like I m doing what i want dont try and control me.. here i am crying 30 minutes later upset because he was being so mean over something so stupid and I understand his perspective as he thinks the argument is as stupid as I think it is only he thinks I m being childish and just want my way. We sort of made up bUT only cause he was so mad at me and he thought i was mad at him but idk how because one point I m just crying because he s still yelling at me about how people will treat me different with purple hair but all I m saying is he should be the last one tip treat me like **** over something so darn stupid. I told him he should be the one telling me I ll be beautiful no matter what and I **** u not this Fu**er told me no u would not u would look RETARDED. He literally got madone about it and I m honestly starting tout change my mind about vacation...

I am moving back in with my parents on the East Coast because I now cannot afford to live in San Francisco. I took a lower paying full time job but was planning to make up the difference with part time work and already had one part time job and about to get another. Then, I found out the new agency did not pay health insurance premiums for two months and no health insurance was listed. They said there were many new employees with pending issues for 8 months to a year and things may "take a while" to fix. After that, I could owe up to $2500 in cash at once, which I don't have after just moving back to the country, and not knowing the premiums were not paid, since I could not access the website until recently. I would have to pay it all in cash whenever they fix it. I worked there 2 months but because they said it might not all get fixed for 8 months, due to HR problems, I got financial advice- they said go stay with family in a lower cost of living area and "turn off" the accumulating premium debt now, at like $250. My parents say I am unstable. If I had to pay a lump sum, I could not stay solvent in because much of my salary goes to rent. The agency lost my initial papers and listed me as a new employee not a transfer and that triggered having no insurance listed.. My soon-to-be ex-boss said "good luck fixing THAT." I resigned and after that people suddenly tried to help me resolve it, the insurance form magically appeared, and they said I should stay.

Ever get a call from someone who pretends to care but you can just tell that they aren't listening, like at all? They tell you what they had to say and then anything you say just bounces right off of them...it's like you don't exist. This time it was someone who considers themselves a family friend on a distant level, but this has happened with basically everyone in my family as well.

Okay so I have many aunts and come from a big family. I feel like my whole family& all the aunts are beautiful, and I believe that everyone is beautiful and should not need to cover up.I am not perfect and try to be a good person and only have good intentions. I have 1 aunt that kind of picks at my flaws, and it's frustrating sometimes because I know she is coming from a place of insecurity but I really do care about her because we are the closest and she is a good person, but I'm starting to become frustrated at times when she would put me down at some points and devalue my being when i don't know why she is creating these things that strain our relationship. She cares a lot about her appearance and stresses that anxiety onto her daughter and I've told them they are perfect just the way they are but when I tell them these things my aunt states that I say that out of bad intention that I don't want them to look pretty, but I really just don't like seeing them like this and feeling that they are of lesser value because someone else says so.. And again stating I am not a perfect human being in just stating my frustration.

I moved back from overseas, spent a lot out of pocket moving. Rent is half my full time salary so I have a part time job plus another one pending. Then, the new agency did not pay or withhold my part of the health insurance premiums for 2 months. I did not know it without access to the leave and earning statement site. Then, I asked when I discovered it and they had no record at all of health insurance. Then I asked when they could fix it all and the first answer I got was there are up to 50 people with the same issue waiting 8 months to fix issues like this and to "get in line." I cannot afford to later pay a cash lump sum when they finally fix it 8 months later but could have planned a bit of I knew it was happening. They say I cannot pay incrementally. Now, I resigned to live with family across the country because I have credit sufficient for a moving truck. A financial advisor said it is best to go to a lower cost of living area, get a job there, and temporarily stay with family to get more secure again. Was this "wrong?" The reason it happened is the agency lost my personnel papers and still has not properly coded me or assigned me for more than 2 months. I don't trust the place at all. Do I have trust issues or is this "reasonable??"

esque me gusta alguien y hace meses el me hablo y me dijo que me queria un dia despues de conocerme pero nose si me lo decia de verdad o solo queria jugar conmigo y pues la verdad yo nunca pense que me iba a llegar a gustar el porque si esta guapo y todo pero yo no me fijo en el fisico y cuando lo conoci se me hizo que solo era un interesado pero ahora que me gusta nose si creerle a todas las cosas que me dijo y hace cuatro dias me volvio a hablar y me dijo que me extrañaba pero yo no le creí y despues de haber hablado bien poquito con el me dejo leido asi que ya nose ni que pensar

My character is a minor who is going seeing a drug counselor. What would be discussed and what would they ask him? Thanks!