For my wedding, the suggested deadline to RSVP is coming up and only about a fifth of the people I sent invitations to RSVP'd. After the suggested deadline, would it be rude for me to send a reminder email or text basically saying "Hey how are you? Do you think you will be able to make it to the wedding?" I won be offended if people can't come, but I would like to know so I plan properly, and possibly invite more people since our budget would allow it.

okay well me and my friends were talking about getting married, we're only 16 we're not getting married anytime soon, and i said that i wanted to wear a blue dress and my friend told me that if i was going to "save myself" for when I'm married then i have to wear a white dress at my wedding. but then my other friend said that no that wasn't what a white dress meant, its just traditional. help me settle an argument, is a white wedding dress for virgins or its it just traditional.

I'm a muslim girl from north india and I wanna know why brides in india don't wear white gowns like the rest of the world. Like why the hell can they only marry in that shaadi ka joda? Its way too sparkly and too heavy...not to mention over rated. I've always wanted to wear those pretty bridal gowns but I asked mum and she's like HELL NO! Why? I know we have a rich family oriented culture but lately, I feel its been depriving us of our freedom. I mean, imagine wearing a gown instead of a red lehenga on your wedding...the guests would be like 'HAAAWW!' In fact, white is a bad omen in hindu culture but everywhere else it symbolises purity. I don't live in india so maybe I don't understand but I just wanna know.

I'm getting married around November. But haven't REALLY started planning. I've heard a lot of people do 5-6 month engagements. Did you/are you? Any tips?

Hi, I have been with my fiance since Feb 2011 and we finally got our wedding date to be in Sept 2013 but now it seems like he doesn't want to talk about any planning when I mention it. He says were always so busy and that it's overwhelming right now to plan. I want him to understand that it is important to me and I feel like it isn't very important to him. He says he doesnt want me to do it all by myself, but he never wants to talk about it. I don't know what to do. Or make him understand that just because we have 9 months doesnt mean that we can keep putting the planning off because we are "too busy" he says. We havent even done our engagement pictures yet. I told him that wedding stuff is just one of those things we have to make time for because it is important to us, but then he goes on again about us being busy all the time which we really aren't though because when we spend time together we play games and we could include some planning in there but somehow the subject always changes.

So, I've never attended a wedding and just received my first wedding invitation. Other than responding to the RSVP card, what else should I need to do? The RSVP card says "Number of guests" so I assume that includes myself? What should I expect at the ceremony and reception? What if I go alone? Is it common for people to attend weddings as a single guest? I don't see a dress code? Should I ask? Should I also ask about wedding registry? About how much is the average gift? Are there any other things that might be expected from me as a guest? If there is anything anyone could think of as tips or helpful guidance, they're definitely much appreciated! Thanks!

My future mother-in-law says it would be "an honor" for my sister and my fiance's sisters to serve the cake and punch at our wedding reception - I think that would be kind of tacky considering we will be having family pictures taken immediately following the ceremony before the reception and other members of family or close friends should do this - what or whom is the appropriate person to ask to do this at the reception?

I have a very close friendship group of 4 (including me). We go out near enough every weekend together, go on holidays together etc. We were like sisters! We have been a very tight friendship group for the past 8 years. One of my friends within the group is getting married abroad this year which we were all very excited about! However, unlike me, the other two girls was asked to be bridesmaids. At the time when i was told she picked the other two except me, i felt i handled it really well and said i understood. However, this deeply hurt me! I understood it was her decision and it was her wedding day however, i was deeply hurt and deverstated that i knew everything in our friendship group had changed. I felt like the odd one out. I knew that when going out on a weekend it would be awkward as I wasnt involved in the wedding planning etc. I spoke to the bride and the bridesmaids about this but at the time, they said i was bitter and that i shouldnt feel like this. They couldnt see why i was deeply hurt. I wasnt jealous that i wanst a bridesmaid, i was hurt because i felt different and i saw myself as different. I couldnt understand how they could do that to me, knowing the 4 of us did things together all the time. For the past year ive had doubts on whether to go to the wedding or not as me and the bride have drifted apart. I just want things back to the way they was before. But now i just feel lonely and the odd one out.

my dad moved to another state with his girlfriend. I visited & everything seemed great. but after I left, he proposed & I found out I m not in the wedding.. I m 16 & everyone in my family is confused on why I m not in it.. should I go?

I m going to be having two bridesmaids (sister in law and best friend) and a junior bridesmaid (my sister) I can t decide between my two bridesmaids which should be a maid of honor and either way I know the other would feel uncomfortable and upset. My sister in law functionality y wise would be a better bridesmaid but my best friend is well my best friend. Can I just have two bridesmaids that both help out, with no one being a maid of honor?

I need to get these things done. My fiancé and I are hosting -- no parental names. Here s how this thing is gonna go: me and my fiancé, an officiant, and our 14 best friends (the wedding party) are going to stand by a river at the Millstone (a small wedding venue) in Limeatone TN. There will be approximately 35 people in the audience. WE ARE ONLY INVITING PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP AND HAVE HAD/WILL CONTINUE TO HAVE AN IMPACT ON IT. GOOD FRIENDS AND IMMEDIATE FAMILY ONLY. Vows will be exchanged. A photographer will take some pictures. There will be a cake. Everyone will eat our nice expensive cake and drink some lemonade. Then everyone is going to leave so my fiancé and I can spend the night at the Millstone. That s it. No dancing. I don t like dancing. No food. We can t afford a caterer. I don t want to say that there will be a reception to follow because that is technically a lie. It will just be dessert afterwards. We re doing this after dinner time so we don t have to feed everybody. What should my invitations say? Help.

I was invited to a bridal shower but I am unable to attend it. I would like to give a gift from their registry but I have a few questions: 1- How much should I spend? 2- Since I won't be attending how should I get the gift to them? (I'm actually close friends with the groom. So do I drop it off to his house? Mail it to his address but address it to both of them? Any other bits of advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you!

There seems to a trend of bridal shows on TV about weddings and brides, etc. I was wondering just out of curiosity how much do you think is acceptable to spend on the dress? Who is responsible for paying for it? My friend recently got married and spent thousands a dress she wore for only 3 hours!

My fiance was out of town on a business trip during Easter. My future mother-in-law invited me to church with her and her family and afterwards to dinner. I said no, that I would be spending it with my family. FMIL (future mother-in-law) is upset with this and calls my fiance to say I turned down the invitation. First of all, she was wrong to do this. I have never spent Easter with her before or any other major holiday. I have stopped by briefly on Thanksgiving and Xmas for dessert with my fiance and that is it. I also do not spend time alone with my FMIL or my fiance's family-I only spend time with the future in-laws with my fiance. Why would I spend time solo with them? I wouldn't expect my fiance to spend time with my family without me. Also, my family lives 15 minutes from us, his family is an hour away. I am not comfortable spending solo time with my fiance's family-my relationship with them is through my fiance. Plus I am extremely close to my own family and have fun with them. Why would I spend time with my future in-laws when I could be with my own flesh and blood? Why is this such a big deal to FMIL?

I just received an invitation to a friend's bridal shower, but I was not invited to her bachelorette party a few weeks ago. Some things about that sits funny with me...like, I'm not invited to the party weekend, just to the gift-giving weekend. Is it me, or is something about this weird? And yes, we're invited to the wedding as well. Invitation included an announcement that the officiant is a stand up comedian.

My good friend is getting married in September and has decided to hold a week long bachelor party in a foreign country along with a destination wedding in outside of where we live. The bachelor party alone would cost over 1000 and the hotel for the wedding is 400 a night. Overall I'd be paying a few thousand for this. I tried to reach a compromise and just attend the bachelor party trip for a couple days except it is so far that I'd be paying to a ton to basically go on a one day trip. Additionally this would mean I have to take unpaid leave at work and no go this year on a trip with my fiancé. My friend has been less than helpful and came off angry when I told him that I'd have to think about it due to the reasons I listed above. I'm still down to go to the wedding for a night,but its made me reconsider how good of a guy he is. I'm in the wedding party but the whole situation has made me not want to go anymore. Am I being too dramatic or I am right that he is rude and selfish for acting upset that I can't afford all of this?