My sister is having major surgery in 2 weeks. She lives in Texas I'm in NYC. She really wants me to stay with her for a week after her surgery. I don't have much vacation time left from my job and was planning to take a week off at Christmas  so I can't really help her. How do I politely tell her no? I feel bad because our entire family lives in NY she's by herself out there. My mom is going to stay with her I think that should be enough. 

My mom recently told me she is kicking me out but later told me she didn't mean to say that. The next day I went home after school and my stepdad told me to clean my room or he'll clean it for me. This guy has major anger management issues and once almost beat the **** out of me for the same reason, I wouldn't get up and clean my room, he even yelled over spilled water, milk etc. And this still isn't all of the small things be got mad at me about. I've seriously been thinking of just leaving my mom just never talking to her again until he's gone. It's not her thats the problem it's him

My dad was a very abusive man to my mom, he cheated on her, was never around. Finally my mom left him, taking him along with her. I was 12 years old. I haven't seen him since then. He never called, never cared, missed out on so many years old my life. I'm currently 27 and now he wants a relationship with me. He got other children as well and his wish now is for us to unite and be together. Also his health is very poor, and he asks us to help him out with money. I don't have anything against him but I'm so used to not having a father in my life that I really don't want a relationship with him. I have a son now and he's my priority. I'm also a single dad doing it on my own. I have a mother, a sister here and my son. I'm happy with that and I dont need him and my other half siblings. Am I wrong for not wanting a relationship with them after all these years? I'm happy with living my life without any distractions.

Every year, my family goes on a trip to Disney world. It started out and me and my grandmother, and then eventually my aunt, uncle, and their 3 kids joined us. This year, there will be a trip, but I've been informed that it's all about the 3 younger kids this year and I'm not invited. I'm grateful I got to go so many times and I don't think I'm owed a trip, but I'm sad that all of a sudden they don't want me to go. Am I just being selfish or is my sadness justified? 

My son has no respect for me. He calls me every name in the book and comes sees our son whenever he likes. I don't know what to do . He tells me he will never respect me. How can I resolve this issue for the sake of our son?

My sister and I have never gotten along. Now that we are older (in our 40s) I don't think our personalities will ever mesh. Its gotten to a point where my sister has basically replaced me with our sister-in-law who she gets along well. To make it even stronger, she gets along with our older brother really well too. I get along with our older brother but I think their friendship is stronger since I see that my brother's loyalty is towards her. I wish he was more neutral but I think it has something to do with me and my sister in law who I think prefers to be close to my sister instead of being neutral. There have been instances where I have not been included to activities. I just feel alienated. Their bond seems that strong that any sense of social etiquette has been thrown out the window. How should I deal with this end of a relationship where family ties no longer exist? 

I hate guns, my dad was shot to death, my mom got shot and the gun was held to my brother's head. I witnessed the whole thing . I told my bf on multiple occasions that I hate guns. The other night he took out what he said was a BB gun that looked very real to me. He don't understand why I am deeply hurt that he knew what I experienced and how I feel about guns. Is he wrong????

I am in my 20 live on my own and my parents are still so rude if I like a tv show they don't watch, listen to music they don't listen to etc. saying how terrible what I like are and that I only pretend to like things to rebel which isn't true.  For  example, I love country music. My parents are so obnoxious about telling me how much they hate it and I only like it to spite them. I would never talk to anyone the way they treat me.  Why do they expect me to be a perfect clone of their opinions and get mad when I'm not?

I really like to stay to myself.  I don't have many friends and don't mind.  I used to be really social.  I did hang around the wrong type.  Everyone ******* eachother over.  I'm sure I will make new friends in the future.  I thought about dating its been a long time.  I'm not out looking or even trying.  I even cut out certain family members to make my life better.  I do come from a small one.  I have a mother, father, brother, sister.  I just deal with my dad.  Brother and Sister I never had a relationship with and my mom is with a guy that is a jerk and she sides with him.  I cut her out 1 year ago.  I had to do it and yes she called a bunch and I ignored.  

Our son didn't send a birthday card to his mother on her birthday. He claimed he did, but 'It must have gotten lost in the mail'. He even concocted a story on what was on the card, and what he supposedly wrote. We're just fed up with his disrespect. He must have thought calling her on her birthday was good enough, but to us, a card shows the proper effort. We both feel he did this to intentionally hurt his mother. We deserve so much more than this. We have agreed to cut ties with him, but how do we make that point clear. What do we tell our friends who think he is a kind, generous person to embarrass him?

There are three of us and my mom seems to play favoritism over my older sister. She always say that my sister is the most caring and would do a lot for her. She doesn't pay for anything in the house since having her own family, but she and her kids are here for dinner every night, and she does give my mom some money time to time. I also have an older brother who even though she complains doesn't care much about stuff in the family but she still always let him do what he wants and would even help him or make excuses for him. And then there's me. Even though I help out a lot financially in the family, I feel like I'm the nobody. My brother makes the most but I always end up paying for a lot of the stuff, like going out to eat, things my mom wants to buy for the house, etc. When my brother offers to pay, which is rarely, she'll tell him no need since he doesn't have much. But she would either turn to me to help out or if I offer to pay, she would never say that. I don't even have a lot. When I complain, I'm turned into the bad guy, like everything I say and do is wrong. Especially lately, after I am with my current bf, my mom says I've changed. I don't think I did, and if I did, is for the better. I just want to save money, plan for my future. She still makes it seem like is wrong for me to do that. I don't know how to talk to her, or even my siblings about this issue without them turning me into the bad guy, and just seeing it from my view.

Hi, I'll try to make this short. For the past few years my sister and I have been splitting expenses towards house expenses. Since she had school loans to pay the last few years, I would ask her can she pay, this or that, she would say no, or that she can't.  So what else can I do, I had to cover those expenses. She knows this. So this year in March, she finally finished paying off her loans, and she wants to get married, start a family, etc.  I told her last week, I've been helping her the past few years, and I would like as of that day to please start paying expenses evenly. As in 50-50 each of us.  She got upset at me and claims, why am I doing this now, that I am setting like roadblocks for her, not allowing her to do her life, that I've been working longer and earn more, so that I should pay more.  I told her no, I expect us both to pay the same going forward, as she no longer has loans, and I believe I've been more than helpful.  Is it fair for me to continue paying more than her just because I earn more? When I say "Pay as of that day" I mean as of last week. I am not asking for any past money back.

I dont see him much but my mother says he is drinking even more now that his wife has left.

Ok so my younger sister is 25 and she has been dating this guy for over a year. She was talking to my mother about moving out which is ok but she does contribute to rent. She decided to give my mother less money for rent because she is is barely at the house she practically lives with her boyfriend and his parents. But lately shes been deciding  how much she wants to give my mom barely giving her her cut of the rent. She gives her 300 now shes been giving her 150 and even 100 dollars not even letting my mother know ahead of time. And on top of that when she gets dropped off in the morning to get ready for work she eats our food in the fridge, uses our electricity in the house, hot water and cable. What should my mother do because she is upset about this especially her knowing our current sitiation isnt good.

I dread even talking to him & he adds anxiety/ feelings of self-doubt to my life 

My sister told me that it might be a good idea to head back up to the northeast, where I would get into much less legal trouble for physical violence and foul language and that sort of thing. I told her that it sounds good... If I were in a crisis where it's leave town now, or end up in Jail. But in the end, tolerance for fighting is not a very good solution. They tolerate it, and that's why it happens. Because they put up with it. That's exactly where the problems in the northeast begins... I simply need the counseling, Zoloft and CBD to treat my PTSD... I don't need tolerance for fighting...and therefore also tolerance for what I go through too. If they tolerate me fighting, then by law they have to tolerate the cause of the fights too. So forget it. I need change...not acceptance in that regard. :)

So a couple hours ago, around 10:30PM. I was at my room finishing my homework that is due tomorrow. My little 9 yr old sister was with me laying on my bed playing on her ipad, when suddenly I heard some thumps & yelling across house. I quickly got up, told my sis to stay in the room, I closed my door & walked towards my parents room where the yelling was coming from. One thing I should say before I continue. My mom & dad have always been fighting since I was like 5-6 years old, now I am 20 years old going to college, working, etc. I am pretty much used to them fighting a lot. But I worry a lot about my little sister to be honest. I don't want her to see them fight. Anyways, so I walked to there room, my mom was throwing **** at my dad and she was in tears etc etc.....I was like "WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON THIS TIME?" She was telling me that my dad was choking her to call the police, & my dad was like she is lying this & that. I was so pissed off I was literally gonna punch the living **** out of my dad if it was true. but I kind of  panicked because this was a big one in a while. Things got a little physical. I separated both of them & I made them claim down because my dad never likes showing violence when I am around or my sister. They were arguing about crap that happened 10 years ago. The thing is I really want them to STOP fighting once & for all. I don't want to lose my parents but I dunno man. I just don't want my little sister to see them like this. What do I do OMG!

My family life is okay. I'd honestly say it's pretty normal, but I want to move out. I feel I would be happier living elsewhere. My Dad has a bad temper and my mom is overly emotional. She takes everything personal and is sorta manipulative. Any decision I make is a direct stab at her in her eyes. She also gives me no privacy. I will be in the shower and she will try to start a conversation with me. Both my parents have no boundaries either. They both constantly touch my butt. One time my mom full on kissed me when she was drunk. My mom gets mad when I don't give her a kiss on the lips(gross), keep in mind I'm almost 17. It feels like it's only me that they do this weird stuff with. I've never witnessed it happening to my sister. I've told them that it's weird as hell and makes me uncomfortable. They couldn't care less. I want to get a job but they won't let me. I want to be more independent but they won't let me. I want to buy a car with my own money but I can't because they won't let me get a job. I can't walk anywhere either because we live in the middle of nowhere. I need to drive to get to school because there is no bus that takes me to school. I feel stuck and I don't know how much longer till I explode. Anyone know anything about Maryland emancipation laws or how a minion could live away from parents? Thanks. 

Constantly. I feel like my parents are judgmental, thought I have an education/job and feel farily confident, I feel it's difficult to be confident around anyone who seems to always be judging. Whether it is the judgmental stares or side-eye glances, I always feel under immense pressure and cant be myself around them. I feel like I am always trying too hard to impress them or be SO nice that they can approve of me and feel less like they to always be so judgmental. Sometimes, it comes from hearing them judge others harshly, whether it be about appearance, their age, what they "should" have accomplished in life by this age. It's difficult not to let it get to me, or put pressure on me. I constantly feel like I'm nervous (my voice gets high) or that I'm not really being myself around them. My anxiety only worsens the situation because as my voice gets high, I get more judgmental stares about why it is that way. I can't help it, what can I do to get rid of the anxiety?

So there are only seven people going on a trip. The guy advised the travel agent there will be one grandfather, one grandmother, two fathers, two mothers, four children, three grand children, two brothers, on sister, three sons, one daughter, one father in-law, one mother in-law, and one daughter in-law. Who are the seven people going on the trip? For each person, list all the family relationships such as Grandfather/Father/Father In-law. 

I have felt pressure to be a mother from my family and community. I don't want to, and it doesn't suit my personality. How can I tell my family this?

My parents are on vacation for their 20th anniversary. I'm their only daughter, I'm 16. They put me in charge to watch my 8 year old brother but I have a slumber party I agreed to go on tomorrow. My brother can take care of himself right? 8 isn't a baby.

Hi, I'm 20 and am currently paying for my own college and trying to save up for a car so i'm living at home.  He lives with his mother, 5 year old sister, and two uncles who "temporarily" live there because they can't get on their own two feet. (it's been three months already)  It's a two bedroom apartment so all six of us being in there is cramped. He meagerly stated he wanted to get his own place, but his mother needs him financially since she works a $13/hr job. The father isn't in the picture so my boyfriend is basically her father. His mother is irresponsible because she smokes weed and is sexually active with multiple guys. She'll just drop his sister off and leave without a word automatically expecting us to babysit her.  Because of my mother's past experiences with men she will not allow him over.  I understand that it may be unreasonable to expect him to have an apartment when I don't already but I know that by the time I reach 22-23 I'll have one. It's very frustrating because all I want to do is make love to him but the walls are really thin and his sister and mother are really needy. His whole family ignores my presence when I'm there and I have tried starting conversations, but they seem extremely disinterested or awkward. His mother in particular has ignored me when I greet her.  I love him dearly but this whole situation is making depressed. We have been together for a year. He's my first love and I want to make this work. What are my options?

I'm not a bad kid, never get into trouble, and have healthy relationships with everyone else in my life, yet she always makes it seem like it's my fault that our relationship is falling apart. I've felt like she's had a bias against me for years now and even though she doesn't treat my siblings very well (yelling a lot, constantly criticizing, etc.) , I've always been treated worse. My dad has tried to fix things between us but in the end he doesn't understand either. I feel like our relationship is permanently damaged and I don't know what to do before I leave for college soon. 

They gave me orange jumpsuits and uniforms in juvie and I couldn't believe that they always want you to wear them in a certain way. They tell you to close all the metal snap buttons on the jumpsuit and pull the socks all the way up. You also have to roll up your pants and the cuffs have to be a certain size when you roll it up. You also have to keep adjusting your collar. Your jumpsuit collar shouldn't be turned up and it has to look sharp and perfect.  We also had to always wear orange T-shirts and orange shorts under the jumpsuit so that we can just take off jumpsuits and dont have to actually change clothes during the PE class or when we participate in some activities. It makes me feel like I'm wearing 2 underwear because I was already wearing white boxers under the orange shorts (we had to wear white boxers, orange shorts and orange jumpsuit). And the orange T-shirt always has to be tucked into the orange shorts. They keep checking if they are tucked in even when we were wearing jumpsuits and I wonder why it is so important to have to have them tucked in because you can't see the shorts when you are wearing the jumpsuit.  I mean it is not a good uniform that you have to wear and everybody knows that you are a juvenile inmate and I dont know why they keep wanting you to make it look very perfect like the military uniform.

 I n my gf have a 3 yr old son evn tho I am prety sure he isn mine, but that's important later. My son nam is somting I don wanna revel, so we'll call him TonySo one day I wake up and the house is completely empty, so I spnd som tim walkin around, not sure what 2 do, when I walk in2 the living room, dat I had walked into many times that day and lock eyes with my 3 yr old son,siting on the rug. I was resonbly shoked, as anyone would be. So I sad to him "Albrt, what are you doing here?" And he croaks "I want ur blood, daddy."So, in my sheer terror I did what any1 would do, and thrw him out of the nerest windo. My gf storms in and demnds to now what I don, so I explan includin what 'our' son said to me. She screms at me for comitin murder, but I sed it not as big because hes not my son. This is argument weve had for a long time, ever since Tony was born Im certan that he's not mine, and she says things like "I promis Albrt is ur son, Mich" or "weve lived in da fuking desert for 6 yrs, who I going to be slepin with?" but I think those are poor arguments. Anyway, we hav dat argment again, and then she explans the situation. Aparently I was hi as a kite on shroms, which I think I remember taking, and I thout my son was a halucinaton, cuz I beleved that she had finaly realised Im not his dad and ran away. But no aparentl my son neds (or neded lol) a blod tranfuson, and only my blod type matches with his, and I prceved the situaton as him demandinfor my blod. Well how was I to know?