or both?

Bugging them, and that if you had to bug them to be your friend, then there is no real friendship at all, and just stop texting them. Texting them is the only communication you had with them due to distance, and not someone who is actually a part of your life. Would you just let it go figuring that, well if they ever wanted to text you, then they have your number?

Divorced and this person who once was your friend came back to you telling you that they were sorry for what they had done 25 years earlier, and even said that they considered their mistake a huge regret, would you accept their apology and want to be friends with them again, or would you consider that affair to be a bridge that was forever burned?

I was hanging out with my closest friends who came to support me at an event. I wasn't with my best friend because he was following my ex friend around. At least it seemed like it. But when we all sat down. My best friend decided to sit alone and then sit with other choir members. My brother tried to get him to sit with us but he acted like he didn't hear him. And it's strange to me because my bff was laughing and talking with everyone else at the event including my ex friend. But he didn't want to attempt to get to know my other close friends... When i tried to talk to him he really had nothing to say to me. When i asked him what was wrong he said "nothing". He's normally completely honest with me. So when i touched him as I'm talking to him he was like "PLEASE don't touch me." He had so much attitude. I ask him why he has attitude and he says "i don't". When he clearly does. And my brother happened to be around and he says sarcastically "you just wanted her to come to YOU. You wanted her ALLL TO YOURSELF". i say "oh please" and my bff says nothing. Just mumbles under his breath. On our way to his home i scroll and look at me and my close friends pics we took and my bff is like "it's not even cute" like wtf is wrong with him?. One of my close gfs said maybe it's jealosy. But why? It just seems so petty to me.

This is a story from when I was junior high. I took a metal shop class that was on the high school campus. I was the youngest student in the class. Nobody liked me. Especially one of the seniors in that class. The teacher had to leave the room for a while so he left the senior who hated me in charge. I was finished and cleaned up my station and I decided to go to the workbench to take a closer look at a metal tool the teacher had made. I picked it up gently and was looking at it when the senior in charge very hatefully told me not to touch it. So I gently put it back on the bench. The senior again told me to not touch it. That's when I just looked at him and I reached down and put my hand on the metal tool and said, "I'm touching it". The senior grabbed a dirty shop towel and threw it in my face. I threw it back in his face. He then threw it down and came after me. When the teacher came back the senior had his hands around my neck. Long story short, I got suspended for causing a fight and the senior got off with nothing. After I returned to the class the teacher then referred to me as a troublemaker. Was I really a troublemaker or was the senior the wrong one? Did I really deserve to be suspended and have that on my permanent record? I am still like that when someone tells me not to touch something. Especially if they cop an attitude when they tell me not to touch it. Sometimes I feel like I never should've been in that class to begin with. That I didn't belong.

I had guests to come support me singing in a gospel choir concert. And my bff was there too. we were texting during the concert. He was following my ex friend around to the dining hall and didn't speak to me. But we were texting so it's not that deep. In the dining hall he's laughing and talking to everyone including my ex friend. She left a few minutes after. He was then serving food. I led my friends to a table and we were laughing and talking. When my bff got done serving he sat with the choir members and not us. When my brother waved and told him to sit with us, he acted like he didn't hear him. He left the building without telling me, he told my brother (phone) that i didn't speak to him or say hi. Then he said he's coming back. He did. People were leaving the dining hall but my table stayed. As people were leaving to go home, my table was free to laugh even louder lol. My bff isolated himself. He didn't even attempt to interact with my friends. My "sister" sat with us with and she liked my friends. My bff was the weird one. When my guests left i went to talk to my bff and he had nothing to say to me! I touched him and he's like PLEASE don't touch me. I'm asking him what's wrong and why he chose to sat alone and he couldn't give me a str8 answer. He had so much attitude to the point where i just had to walk away. And when my mom and i were dropping him off home he's looking at my pictures of me and my guests and he was like "it's not even cute" what is wrong with him?!

I went to the supermarket today and on my way out i saw a very old friend/acquaintance entering the store. I quickly recognized her but pretended i didn't see her because my hands were full and there were people behind me, and i just couldn't stop at the middle of the entrance and chat with her, and just saying ''hi'' would've been weird, and i wasn't sure if i should even say anything since we were never ''friends'' but rather just knew each other in school, although to be fair we almost went on a date once, and i did had a crush on her.. but we haven't seen each other for a very long time, maybe about 10 years or so, so i just thought it would be easier to just pretend i don't see her, but i did notice she was looking at me, which means she must have recognized me. I feel bad for ignoring her but at the same time i feel like i avoided a very weird and awkward conversation/situation. Have you ever been in a similar situation?

When a friend says to you instead of spreading mallicious rumours about someone else why don't you be concerned about yourself

My friends like to throw birthday parties and random hangouts that could last til past midnight, and almost all of us who stay there, sleepover and have a giant breakfast the next morning, BUT me and one those friends disagree on parents sleepover. She thinks/believes that parents should/aren't allowed to sleepover friends houses with or without their kids, That its not responsible and that when you become a parent, that "High school stuff" shouldn't happen. I on the other hand think/believe that just because you become a parent, doesn't mean you have to stop everything, i mean yea constant sleepovers could be/is a bad thing, But that doesn't mean you cant sleepover every once in a while and enjoy yourself with your friends with or without the kids. This is a curious post, i want to see what other people think in terms of parents still having sleepovers or "Childish games," and whatever else that could be considered irresponsible by others.

She was my roomate at a shelter at one point. She stole multiple things from me and took her hands to my son and she also borrowed my phone and got my password to my Facebook and read all my messages. I didn't even realize she was doing it until she said something I wrote to a person she doesn't even know. I called her out on stealing things from me and she spread awful rumors and had everyone take her side although they knew me way longer than they knew her. I got kicked out of there 6 months ago because I got into a fight with her. I now live in an apartment, I haven't seen any of these people since. But she's convinced everyone that I'm mentally ill and the staff that was there text me sometimes like I'm having a mental breakdown although I'm fine.

I went to my high school class reunion recently. My classmate Joe was there. Joe was the guy who helped me with math so I could pass the math course. Without his help I probably would have failed math and had to do another year at school. Joe had asked me for a date several times and I had turned him down. Amazingly he kept helping me with math after I turned him down for a date. Joe had the most beautiful wife I had ever seen. I learned later that she was a swim suit model. Was she ever gorgeous. All of my female classmates wanted to talk to Joe and especially his wife. I learned from them that he was a VERY successful businessman in California. He owned several companies and was a multi millionaire. He lived in a 5000 sq ft home in Malibu California next to the ocean. I came to the reunion in my old Chevy. He came to the reunion in a BMW. Suddenly, I was VERY depressed. That could have been me living the luxury life if I had not been so stupid when I was in high school. I must have been out of my mind refusing to date Joe. I wanted to tell Joe how sorry I was for refusing to date him in high school especially since he had been so nice to me. Should I have told him that? What do you think? Was that a normal reaction I had or was I just feeling sorry for myself?

So last year in September a new guy came to my class. We became friends a bit quick, but one thing I noticed was that he often times tried to hug me and I sort of went along with it, and he always says that he 'loves me as a friend'. Thas also struck me as odd, because I hadn't come across the 'loves you as a friend' thing before. I at first confronted him about this but now I see there was no need for this. I guess he loves me for some reason, which made me realize that I couldn't say that I 'love' any of my guy friends. I then thought back to when I was ten and I had a friend who all the other boys in my class didn't like, and they always said that we were a couple. After that, I avoided getting to close with any of my guy friends, so that I wouldn't get any more bull if you'll excuse my French. So the fact that this friend of mine isn't afraid of saying he loves me. Back to the question, what do you think could cause this/what is your experience on this topic

My son is a senior in highschool. He's a nice kid but he's doesn't let go of things. I know he had an issue a few weeks ago with this teacher because his best friend who is also in that class told his mom had told me. When I asked my son about it he said he said it wasn't what she said but how she said it but he didn't care. Then this week my son went completely off on this teacher because she called him a retard. The thing is it wasn't my son who said what she thought but actually his cousin who is also in that class. My son started flipping out so loud teachers from other rooms came in. I know his cousin and best friend were complaining too. When I met with the principal he said the teacher quickly admitted her guilt and that what she said was completely unprofessional and immature. I been talking to other people and some understand my son's position. This wasn't some small group of strangers these were his friends.

So pretty much, my buddy and I are trying to restart a band that fell apart. The problem is is that I'm so out of the scene that I can't just hit random people up to jam. He is in the same boat. I could make a move into it, the problem is that I don't want to lose him as a friend, yet he doesn't have as much of a drive as I do to play music. How do I handle this?

I am a 37 year old female and this 26 year old man at work used to always talk to me and we are good friends at work. But then he came to me and said that his hair was bad and that he needed a haircut and i agreed with him. Then i told him that he should cut all his hair because he looks ugly with facial hair. And there is a extremely attractive girl that everyone likes at work and he probably does too and i told him that he looks ugly with all the facial hair when that girl was around (i dont know if he likes her or not but she did hear it). And probably called him ugly like 3 or 4 times that day. But i dont really mean it just friendly joking around. Now he doesn't say anything to me anymore and im wondering if its because i called him ugly all those times. Do people not like being called ugly? I am not really from the united states im from Vietnam so i don;'t know how bad the insult is.

We have been friends for about 1 year but recently started sexting each other about 1 month ago. Since the time we started sexting til now all he wants to talk about is just sex. He responds to text messages related to all other questions slower than questions about sex related things. Are our conversations ever going to go back to how they were 1 month ago? Also, how can I encourage the conversation to be about something else?

I don't need to tell the teacher because we aren't obligated to go to school but I need to tell my "friend" because she's so judgmental on people who skip school... she will probably say: Long time I've seen you, you haven't been to school lately. Or why haven't you been to school lately? And I'll say: I had a small surgery and had to recover from it. And if she asks about details I'll say it's personal.

My friend lives 2 blocks from me. She comes from a well off family while I come from a very poor one. She offered to give me rides to and from school. I accepted. Little did know the meter was running the whole time. Her parents pay for everything with her car. Insurance, repairs, cleanings, and gas. She's been giving me rides for about a month now and she wants to charge me $30 for gas she doesn't pay for. I'm normally fine with chipping in for gas but that just seems absurd. It does not take her a full take to get to my house. And it's not like I was asking her to go out her her way to take me places, just places she was already going. She always asks me to hangout but why should I if I know she's charging me? If she really wants me around shouldn't she not be thinking about the money all the time? How do I tell her that $30 is wayyy to steep to pay for gas when she won't even use the money towards gas?

I work in an office and a lot of the people here are immature, I have an iPhone 5, I'm not really a big tech person, my iPhone 5 makes phone calls and lets me use the internet and that's all I really need, it works fine. People always tell me that it's old and stuff just because they have the newest iPhone, I've had mine for 6 years now and I think it's good that I don't waste money on a new phone every year if it still works but they call me poor and stuff. How should I deal with something like this? what are good comebacks?

I went to about twenty schools by the time I graduated high school and, as such, didn't really make many friends since I got tired of losing them. I'm at Uni now and I've made friends and I adore them all. Chiefest amongst these friends is a guy I met last year when I started crashing a class he happened to be in (it was a Latin class and that class combined with my class last semester and we still take it together now). I've never clicked with anyone more. I want to tell him I love him, but as a friend. I want to use the word "love" to emphasize how fond I've grown of him. I'm just worried about using the word because he knows I'm gay and he knows I fell for my last best friend who happened to be straight. He came out to me recently as polysexual. I don't want him to think I'm trying to make a move on him because of this new information. He has a gf after all. I'm about to graduate. I want to tell him before I go how he is the best friend I've ever had and how much I love him as a friend. The two best friends I made at uni before him drifted away when we stopped having classes together. I want to tell him how much I care so that if and when that happens here too, I don't regret not telling him how much he meant to me. I'm not his best friend, but he is mine. And I want to let him know, but idk, I worry I might lay it on too thick or he'll think I'm romantically in love with him. What should I do to let my friend know how much he means while avoiding these pitfalls?

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The worst part of gossiping is it does three things in my opinion: #1: It makes you look insecure, someone who has to tear down others behind their backs in order to build yourself up. People who are truly secure don't do that, but rather talk in a way that builds others up. 2: Cowardly. That if you have a disagreement with another person, you lack the balls to stand up and say it to their face. Instead of confronting them like a man, you have go behind their back and behave like Judas Iscariot did towards Christ. 3: You seem untrustworthy. People who talk about others to you, will also talk about you to others, and if you're gossiping about others, people will have the same opinion of you. 4: It comes back to bite you in the ***. Two-thousand years ago, Jesus Christ said very plainly: "You reap what you sow. You will be treated as you treat others and the standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged." - Mathew 7: 1,2. Like it or not, when you gossip about others, same as when you reveal your personal issues to them, you put yourself in a very vulnerable position. When you gossip, you give others ammo they can later you against you. And if you happen to piss off the person or people you're gossiping to, heaven help you. In my opinion, these are the reasons not to engage in gossip, or get started in the habit. If others want to engage in harmful gossip, the kind that tears others down, best to rethink your friendships with those people.

How do you cope with losing good friends? Friend told me she didn't need nor want me in her life after I told her I thought she was taking advantage of me for wanting me to put in a loan in my name for 8k. Aside from that tho she was probably the realest person I ever met. But I've made some mistakes too. Previously I was going through some things and we hung out one night and she wanted to drive me home, I needed some space and didn't wanted to bother her anymore with my problems, so I decided I wanted to go to the gym she kept saying no but when I told her I didn't need ride but she ended up giving me ride to gym, when I got there I changed my mind and decided to walk home anyway. She called me a liar for it and ignored me after that for a week. I made a big mistake again shortly after that for blowing up her phone because I was worried about her( classic she had told me she would let me know when she would get home and didn't) so then I got ignored for 2 more weeks. Reason I said she was taking advantage was because she asked me for that favor the moment she got back to me. Like I said she was a good friend, gave me a lot of advice and everything but I just can't let it go

Over spring break I am going to Florida with a few friends, and they are mad at me because I said that I do not want to drink. I am okay with them drinking, I just don't think that it is a good idea for all of us to be drunk in a city that we have never even been to, especially since we are all 17. Yet, they are still giving me a hard time. They keep sayinig I am boring and that the beach won't be as fun, etc. This seems to happen almost every time we go out and it is starting to get really annoying. I was wondering if you guys have any advice.

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I think this. I'm very quieta and in college. Many students seem loud or ready to talk easily. I realize my quiet shy almost mute (dont often speak unless spoken to) makes others uncomfortable or think i am too weird so they dont approach me. Maybe someone one day will like me the way i am

Mallicious rumours about a friend

I hang out sometimes in one of my club organizations' offices and I sit behind the desk but the others sit at a central table. Now let me preface that there's no designated seating but my role states that I get priority over the desk. However, I don't have to sit there. Anyway, there was a group of people that are normally in there a lot, and I know them as acquaintances. I was leaving and one of them says, "hey are you leaving?" and then I said "why?" which was sooo dumb of me because I was defensive for no reason. I didn't yell it if you know what I mean but it just sounded defensive. Anyway he said "bc I like when u hang out with us" and then I said "but I'm always isolated behind the desk". which was even worst and then he started to say well you could come sit with us but then I interrupted and added "oh not bc I feel like you guys are isolating me" and then I just said yeah I'm going to math and that was it but it was soooo awkward!! I feel so embarrassed do you think I should stop hanging out in there now? I don't want to say anything to anyone but I feel like I came off rude

I know I said I just wanted to be friends. But after spending time with you. It changed my perspective of you. Whereas I realized that I like you.

Hi. I moved from another country to the US a few months ago to start a new school year and I'm honestly still scared! I have four siblings who I'm super close to so I never really needed new friends but now I'm really lonely in school. Most of my old friends in my old country were kind of like the "nerds" or "geeks" and I didn't really like being friends with them because I couldn't really relate to that kind of stuff haha. Anyway, it's been super hard to gain friends here. Everyone is super nice, and it's not like they're not letting me be friends with them. I got more than enough opportunities to meet and befriend new people but I always either screwed it up or the "friendship" was really short and awkward. I moved from a cold, European country to this small, beach-y surf town so I can't really relate to anything people talk about. Most of the people here have lived here their whole lives so they usually have a lot of friends and cliques already. And before you tell me to join clubs and sports, I'm already in the marine life club and a varsity track athlete. Thank you for any tips you share!

Whenever someone is upset with me I get this horrible feeling of rejection. I feel like they will always be angry with me. I don't know what to do when someone is angry, am I just supposed to apologies. When I forgive people they just seem to get angry. After I've upset someone I avoid them because I'm afraid they're going to tell me we're not friends and that they hate me. Sometimes it bothers me for days.

He will stare at me straight in my face, even when im right in front of him and won't look away. When i first saw him he was like this.He stares at me right in my face including when im looking straight at him and won't look away. Each time i saw him he was like this. Sometimes with a big smile on his face like he's being hypnotized or like im a TV.