Why is it frowned upon for men and women to seek virginity purity chastity in their future wife/ husband even if he/ she is a virgin themselves why do western people discourage men and women from seeking out purity chastity in their partner and future spouse and shame insult ridicule mock discourage those who do and expect you to marry person regardless of their sexual past ? I doubt most of you can understand where i'm coming from or what I'm talking about But how can you possibly understand what it feels like to save yourself waiting for this one special person and know that they are your first one and only and that you have never had these feelings or shared these experiences with anyone else but for them its not the same for them . That feeling is frustrating disappointing just hurts and is painful. It fills one with anger rage and jealousy insecurity. suffering Can you really blame them? How could you understand the feeling of frustration disappointment of one who tried to remain pure and saves themselves feel in this sex crazed western culture where nearly almost everyone does it like Jack rabbits before marriage

Or is it too embarrassing?

Back in the days when we were dating, we are married now, I found out that my husband went to a Asian massage place and he paid for an happy ending. Tonight we are on vacation, it's 10pm and he left to go get a massage at an Asian place. He claims that his shoulder has really been bothering him. I don't know if I believe that it's just a massage or if there's something else going on, for me just doesn't make sense being on vacation with your wife, leave her alone in a hotel room and go get a massage at 10 at night. My husband had a sex addiction back then and he eventually cheat on me, he has been faithful ever since, I'm afraid he is going back to it

I heard in the 1950s, that women were considered to be an old maid if she wasn't married by 20.

My husband lost his wedding band and he apparently noticed it was gone for over a week and didn't even try to find it? He also lost his watch I got him as an early Father's Day present this year.. it was very expensive as was the ring and he also hasn't even looked for it. Why doesn't he care?

His younger, single female friend. Me and this guy have known each other for 2 years. We've been friends for a year. We've always had a relatively good friendship and have never had any problem talking to each other. I'm on good terms with his wife and family, I treat them like family. For the past month and a half, my friend has been avoiding me. He COULD be really busy because the line of sales he's in, gets really busy during the summertime, but I feel this is personal. I lost my license last year and for about a month, he was giving me a ride home from work once a week, almost every week. He works in the area and gets off work around the same time I do, so it seemed like an okay idea. He even once told me to never hesitate to ask him for a ride. I guess he didn't mean ALL the time. Lately when I ask, he'll either not respond or have some excuse (which they're all legit, but still). He's never avoided me so bad. It got to the point where I messaged him and asked him if it bothered him that I ask for a ride so much, to which he didn't reply. I asked him last night to PLEASE not hate me, but I asked for a ride and promised not to ask again for a while. He said he didn't work today so he wouldn't be in the area. He never says "I don't hate you" or "you're not a burden". I don't know what to think. I call him "brother" all the time or "bro", so there's no reason for him to think I have romantic or sexual feelings for him. I just don't understand why he's avoiding me. My now-former (for unrelated reasons) female friend, who's never even met him, claims he and I aren't friends, that we're "acquaintances". Thinking about it, that seems true at this point and it makes me sad. I'm 27, he's 38. We used to work together and he flirted with me pretty hard towards the end of us working together and I have reason to believe he finds me attractive, but I also know he's a good Christian man and wouldn't never be tempted to cheat. *for about a month this year To the person saying I am asking for a free ride, I've offered countless times to give him gas money. I always buy him food from where I work so he gets something in return and I'm not just "mooching". I still don't have a license, so I still need rides lol. Like I said, I offer him gas money. He ignores the offer. I've given him and his wife and kids at least $100 worth of Christmas presents in the past as well as roughly $50 worth of food. It's not like this friendship has been take-take-take from my end. I've given, too.

Im 23 and my wife is 25. We got married in march because she is joining the military shes in BC currently. Before we got married she said that i can move anywhere i wanted to get a job in my field and then after we got married she said i had to move with her when shes finished with BC and AIT and that im a terrible wife cause i dont support her and she threatened divorce, and caled me names, even tho i pushed her to go into the army cause she really wanted it. I dont have alot of friends anymore because she thinks my friends are toxic and told me to stop speaking to them, cause they would always ask if i was okay mentally and etc. My best friend. Emily of 11 years recently emailed me because i havent talked to her in 7 months asking to see me and she recently had a baby and wants me to see him. I cant talk to her because 3 years ago my wife called me names and hit me and etc while drinking and emily came to my defense. I really wanna talk to her, i miss her so much. I really want to start on my career i start a job soon as a 3D Artist for a fashion company and i dont know if i should. Am i a bad person? I've been trying so hard to help support her while we both were in college, working fulltime and going to school whenever she would quit jobs because she hated it, which was all the time. Despite her belittling me all the time. I still supported her throughout her many major changes, throughout her never knowing what to do as a career, i always put her first with everything. I pushed her to go into the army because during college she would comstantly switch majors and never really kniw what to do as a career no matter how many suggested id give her she would just say i dont know anything and ignore my suggestions. I always knew what i wanted to di as a career since 8 and i dont wanna give up that part of me, i feel like i gave up enough...

Recently my mother has wiped my dads account clean leaving him with nothing. She has never worked a day in her life but yet took every dime that man has worked for. Since they have yet to file for a divorce the bank teller said she isn t sure what they can do about it since they both are legally on this account and can do anything with the money. My dad will file for a divroce soon but i just want tips and helpful advice on things to help him with this. He has never paid any of the bill my mother would handle all of that so i, with my brother will try to help him get all the accounts straight. Also can you give me what to do and what not to do tips as well. this is uncharted area for any of us...

i graduated college with a game art and design degree back in December and ill be starting my dream job 3D modeling fashion items. It pays good and im 23 and live in nyc. My wife is in bootcamp and will be back October 27th for two weeks and will then go off to be stationed wherever. We talked about me staying behind for my career, but now she wants me to move with her and said that im a ***** and a terrible wife and threatened divorce. I wanted to stay behind for my career so that way when she finishes her 4 year service we will have a stable income while she looks for a civillian job. My mom is also very old and is planning to move to NJ in november and i wanted to help her move. Im starting to feel really depressed Espcially since we talked about this first, she said she only offered me to stay behind to get me to marry her?why would she do that...art has always been my life and i dont wanna give it up i worked so hard for this i have tried freelance but its not enough to pay the bills nor is it steady. Remote jobs for 3D are rare. i think marriage is a team effort of supporting both Each others careers no matter the distance, we have been in long distance relationships on and off before. Are there any military wives who say hey i wanna stay behind for my career, family thing, etc? I love my wife and ive made sacrifices already with my friends and family members that she didnt like so i dont talk to them. am i wrong for wanting to stay behind for a career?