My parents have been married for 30 years and recently my dad, who used to be my best friend, has become a total stranger. He s gone back to being an alcoholic, he s cheating on my mom with another woman while simultaneously manipulating her emotionally to keep her under his thumb. (I think he enjoys the conquest of a mistress, but the power he has over my mother). Any time he s confronted with his unkind behavior, he just smirks and laughs. My mother on the other hand is cripplingly dependent and in love with him - to the point where she says my sister and I will "find her body" if they divorce. This on the heels of a recent break up with a boyfriend who (totally out-of-the blue, and even now still can t logically see why or how it happened) decided he d never actually loved me but just loved the idea of a relationship (oh, and also prefers blondes?). So I guess you can see why I m now to a point where I ve lost total faith in any relationship period. Part of me really wants a companion to do life with... but after how poorly I ve judged my ex-boyfriend and now even my DAD of all people - who I thought I knew SO well - a new and very strong part of me never ever wants marriage or any relationship. Like... it s almost become gross. Because who s to say I don t think I m marrying a "wonderful man who defy s society"...only to find out 30 years later he hates my guts and is sleeping around. So my question is... has anyone else ever felt this way? Any advice? I m at a loss.

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other since October - almost 9 months. We are in our mid-twenties. He is African and I am African American. We get along very well and we don't have many issues. I've met his friends and his roommate. He knows my family and even hangs out with my brother. He wants us to live together and asked me if I would be okay with this. He said that after we move in together then we should get married. Here's my issue: I have many friends from his country and I've met some people from his tribe. Ive been told that dating is not long and that a man normally wouldn't live with a woman before marriage. It's just an African thing. Also, I've never spoken to any of his siblings or parents. On the contrary, I feel that he hide them from me. He prevents me from having his family on Facebook and Instagram. He doesn't let me have his friends on my social media. He said he loves me and doesn't want people in his business but I don't like how he's hiding me. He doesn't post my picture anywhere and doesn't want me posting his pictures. I just don't want to move in or marry a man if I don't know his family.

I'm a 31 year old woman that is happily married for 6 years now and with 2 lovely kids. Recently, my husband thinks that I'm cheating on him with my (female) childhood friend and our relationship has took a hit. It all started when old pictures of me and my friend has surfaced in social media. While I did have a sexual relationship with her at some point, it was before I even met my husband (We broke up due to parents disapproval, long story). This coupled with the fact that we are still close friends, made my husband suspicious about our relationship. What should I do? Is it beyond repair?

I'm 27 with my partner for 5 years and thinking of starting a family in the next 2 years but I'm worried if I can financially afford it. I have a degree but have done low wage jobs and am currently in a support worker type role earning nearly min wage partner similar situation and also supports child from previous marriage so he is financially worse then me. Our housing costs are cheap (council) 1 bed flat and we live in a very cheap area (think Grimsby - grim but cheap) but I'm worried I'd hate to be stuck in poverty with a child forever but it's unlikely either of us will increase our earnings much. If we moved where there's better jobs our housing would triple - where we live there's barely jobs but I have family support. If we were to have a child I'd work 2-3 days per week, partner full time obvs. But it still doesn't seem enough to even survive. Should I have a child when I'm not financially able too?

I'm from outside the country , got married and came to usa I become a citizen and i have two boys(17&19) being married for more than 20 years And i'm now out of the country with my kids visiting my parent and i got a phone call from my husband saying that he wants a divorce and if i come with my kids he wont let me inside the house My problem is :- I never worked before, i don't drive ( i'm between uber and my husband for any ride i need ) he pays all my expenses for 20 years including my healthcare, phone bill ,internet and everything Now when i go back to Carmel ,Indiana I dont have any money to spend or place to go and the house is under the name of my husband And Im afraid to stay with my kids inside the house he may harm me !!! Or kick me out of the house What should I do? I never been in this situation before I speak english but I'm not fluent to understand the terms and procedures related to the divorce

I feel I am being too harsh but what would you tell your bestfriend?..please read: My friend starting dating this guy who is 8 years older, has three kids with three different baby mothers... He keeps telling her that he is looking for a house, love wants a family of his "own" being that all his children are separated. He had a child during the teenage years then got married, (I assume divorced then engaged) He is now 36, single, and is looking for a wife. my friend is 27. single, no kids, works full time and goes to school full time and also lives on her own, etc so she is doing pretty good on her own. I don't know the guy and I don't mean to judge but I tell her to meet someone younger who has no children and max at least 1 child but...3 from 3 different woman? And another question he is in the army.... if she were to go along with this wouldn't the ex wife still be getting money from him..would she even be taken care of? plus the thought of him (I assume) having to pay child support to, three children?? Is that a lot? what would ur advice be.. If she falls in love cool but....

My wife has decided she has enough working and has been secretly saving hundreds of thousands of dollars to take a year vacation starting in July. I've always wondered why her income was coming up shorter than usual and she has saved up lots of money to take a year vacation. She said she needs this for her and has been saving this type of money for years and this upsets me. I didn't look into this because I trust and love my wife She said she needs to do this alone and when she gets back it would be a "new her" What should I do about this?

So, my wife deserted me, and the whole world is crumbling infront of my eyes. Some say i didnt have much of a marriage anyway and that she did me a favor by leaving. Her parents ignore my calls and she randomly answers her phone. She says that she we're still married and she needs time etc Yet she acts like a spoiled brat on the phone and accusses me of all sorts of things. It seems she is enjoying herself with her cousins and sisters at her parents home; she refuses to see me in person. Her brothers say that they'll talk to her but then just ignore me and never call back. The legal path is painful and miserable; plus i'll have to do everything on my own and its time consuming. She is basicaly acting crazy and in a very immature manner in respect to my feelings and as a person. What should i do ? Is there a way to talk some sense into her ? The only reaction i got from her was when i told her i will walk away and make the divorce procedure extremly time consuming. At that point she shut her phone off and havent heard of her.

Every couple of days I'll get a random text to start a convo I think. She will also comment on my IG pics. She sent me something today saying I looked good. What do you all think?