I'm 17, my brother is 14, and my sister is 7. I was craving some milk tea so I decided to take my siblings with me so we can go to the milk tea place which is like 10 minutes away from our house. My parents are extremely strict, and we can't even go to the front yard, and I know it was stupid, but I felt kinda of trapped and depressed in the house. All the other teens have plans, and I have strict parents who won't even let me go on my phone. Besides, I needed a distraction. I took my siblings so that I don't have to worry about them. I was scared they might get kidnapped or burn the house down, so I promised buy them popcorn chicken if they came with me and behaved. My mom works until 6 and my dad works until 1 am everyday. I thought we wouldn't get caught, but my dad saw us walking and took us home. They took my phone and books, and now I'm in trouble. (I'm typing this up on my brother's computer.) I know I'm a bad child, and I do regret it. How can I show them how sorry I am and how can I gain their trust? It was a one time thing, and it's not like I was going to meet up with anyone or go to some party. I just wanted milk tea and to hang out with my siblings.

I am a thirty-seven year old man, and there is a lot in life I never got to do; namely, the entire experience of being young. I was raised by very abusive and parasitic people and spent the first two and a half decades working so my worthless "family" could have money. And when I wasn't working to pay for rent which I was charged by my Dad starting at age 16 (he was also a drunk) I was babysitting my sister's kids (who had three of them, by three men and has been on welfare her whole life) While other kids were being teenagers, I was working and babysitting kids I had no part in making. When everyone else went to college, I worked & provided for my Dad (who suffered a back injury) & my sister. My mother left us with my Dad when I was 11. She beat my siblings but "spoiled me" when people were looking. When they weren't, she would sexually abuse me Now I'm on my feet & live FAR away from them. I'm no longer enabling them & have my own "life." I have my ebook business going & I manage a catering company...but I'm 37, and never got to be young, have fun, or even date I feel like I lost so many opportunities. If I date now it will be with someone my age & more experienced, & I'll never feel "young love." If I travel now it will be as a middle-aged man, and I'll never be young and adventurous. I'll never have any "wild years" and will have to go straight to being old and settled. How does one go through life having missed out on a huge chunk of it that they'll never get back?

The abused started out with my aunt walking in on her boyfriend raping me at age 5, shortly after that she began molesting me. She would make me take off my clothes in front of her and she would lay me on my parents bed and strip me and just stare at my body. Every holiday as a child i had to wear a dress, i would be passed around on family members laps. My mom would also take my clothes off and then make me run around the house with her family staring at me. I was also molested in school at 4, then raped at age 13. I am 22 now, and angry about all of this. I am also concerned for the children in my family i think they are being abused too. I do not know what to do or where to go, Any advice will be appreciated

I've been craving milk tea for the entire week, but I everytime I want to sneak out to get some, I remember that I have to watch my siblings. My parents are at work everyday and my mom doesn't come home until 6 'o clock, so I can sneak out whenever I want, as long as she doesn't see me through the video cameras. But I don't want to leave my siblings alone. We live in an extremely safe neighborhood, my brother is 14, and my sister is 7. (I'm 17 btw.) But they are really childish and I don't trust them to be home alone. I mean, if I leave, they probably won't notice because they'll be on the computer, and it's difficult to get them off... But then what if someone kidnaps them? The milk tea place is about a 10-15 minute walk to my house, but I still don't want anything to happen to them. I'm their older sister and I need to be there to protect them. :/ I have no idea what to do. Should I risk it? Am I a bad sister for wanting to do this?

Hey y'all, I'm 16 turning 17 in October. My little brother, who is 5 years younger than me, has effectively ruined my life. He gets everything he wants, and the hypocrisy favoring him among my parents is ridiculous. He will fake cry and scream (at the age of 11) just so I can get in trouble. I've done several things, like going on long periods of ignoring him completely. My longest streak for that was 2 months in 2017. Yep, I ignored him completely for 2 months and it worked really well. Whenever I say something to him that he disagrees with, it is automatically "mean" and my mom will come to his defense almost immediately. Last week, he almost broke my thumb by closing the car door on it at my grandparents house (long story, too complicated). He claims it was an accident but I really don't think it is because he saw it there, and when I called my mom several times, she ignored my calls and messages. However, when he called her not even a minute later, she answered. Keep in mind that this is an 11 year of child who still insists on sleeping with his mother. But yesterday, I ate a piece of cake that I didn't know he wanted, and she goes off on me for being selfish. In fact, she's told me that she favors him over me. I am so done with this. What should I do? I'm literally on the verge of going off on all of them. HELP.

I am a guy 30 so yeah call me a loser if you want,call me a bum or whatever.But despite my faults and flaws, i try and do what i can for people.She just asked me to take her somewhere yesterday. It's always the small things, that starts the argument. Nobody have any respect for me. Family want me dead or in jail. I can't talk to my dad, without my mom getting involved. Everything i say is taken the wrong way. Dad just got out the hospital, and i have been trying to be as helpful as i can. Yes i have to move out.But i need money,i am applying for jobs, but have criminal background. Which does make it harder. Also have some anxiety and depression,but it is better at times. But triggered when i am blamed for everything. I am a concern person, i don't mind helping others,try not to offend others. But nobody in this world gives a damn about me. They just give a damn about blaming me, and having negative assumptions. It's bad enough being Black in such a hateful world. Mom is also nagging at me, because i haven't been going to church. I have a relationship with God, and i was going to church. But Haven't been going, because of feeling judged, and not where i want to be at in life. I am a firm believer in Christ. Why am i hated so much? i generally keep to myself. I guess quiet people, and certain people are just hated. Why should i live?

My wife's sister (my sister in law) recently got married. I feel like i have a great relationship with all my in-laws. When it came to doing family photos the photographer called all the immediate family to step forward to take pictures with the couple. I stepped forward but my mother in law told me to step back as the photographer said "immediate family only". I was a bit taken aback as I felt I was immediate family as I am married into the family. But I figured they would do another family photo with me in it after. They then proceeded to do that picture and other ones with just parents and then siblings and then aunts, uncles, cousins, friends etc. I was never called in to do any picture. I told my wife about it after and she said it was probably unintentional and they forgot and that I was making a big deal of nothing. But I can't help but feel I was excluded. Again I feel like I have a great relationship with my in laws so I don't understand it. My sister in law recently posted all the pictures online from the wedding and from the pictures it looks like I don't even exist in the family. I mentioned it to my wife again and she said again it was for sure unintentional and i'm over reacting. Do you think I'm over-reacting and I should just forget it?

Ok first off. I am a guy 30, and family obviously have no respect for me.I have faults and flaws,deal with anxiety and depression. Generally keep to myself.But i am generally a nice person, try and be happy and treat people good. Generally laugh if i talk. I try and do what i can for people. My dad just got out of the hospital, and is having to use this i v thing. I have been trying to do what i can to help. But he is pissed with me,i mean he has always hated me,and treated my sister better.Bu we have been able to talk. He was talking tome the other day, and i have been nice to help him the best way i can. I took my mom somewhere yesterday.But when we got home i went in her room,which i should have stayed in my room like i generally do. She said something about money, i said i need money, as i am currently not working.She got emotional,as what i said is tends to be misinterpreted. I talked to my dad, and he was annoyed, and and said he doesn't feel good which i understood. But he yells and tells me to go down the hall. I said have i not been helping you. He told me not to help. I said i want cut the grass anymore,as i help cut the grass and do what i can. He always defend her no matter what, they don't even sleep in the same bed. I can't defend myself without being the bad person. My sister can say what she wants to mom, and gets away with it. I defend myself and i'm the bad person. He got annoyed with me today, because i said he didn't have to leave the room. I wasn't intended to argue.Mom said that dad is trying to recover. I said that is why i have been trying to help. What to do? I didn't ask her for money, i generally don't ask for money.I hate asking anybody for anything. She was talking about money, and i said i need money also. I didn't ask her for money.

The girl's grandfather is her lover's half uncle which makes them half second cousins....hypothetically speaking third cousins. Will this be a taboo if they went together? Is it wrong?

Last year I had a female student. I'm a female teacher. I was under the impression that we had a great mentor-mentee, student teacher relationship that was professional. She opened up to me about a lot personal things. Hate to admit that we kept staring at each other. Nothing physical happened at all. I wouldn't dare. Along the way, I brought her a cap and gown because she said her mother couldn't afford it. She always used to text me about things she needed. Shortly after I brought the gown, she quit communicating with me. To keep it simple, she used me. Fast forward. I had her younger sister in my class. She took to me immediately. The young lady, with her mom's permission, even attended my sister's graduation. A month later, my sister threw this big party at this resort. The girl asked to go. When I went to pick her up, my former student, her sister, came out to the car with her. All the while, my former student barely said anything to me and kept watching me. I saw that she clanged to my aunt that was at the party. What is her problem ? I never did anything to hurt her. Honest answers please. Thanks.

My parents are always doing this. They offer to help, insist, on helping, make us feel like it would make them so happy to help us. Then when we actually receive their help, we are made to feel so guilty about it I'm left in tears for days. This always happens. It's not like we asked them for help either, they needed a roof repair done, we did it for free, saving them hundreds in materials alone since we brought everything ourselves and my husband is a professional with 13 years experience. We just wanted to help them. Never once asked for a dime. They offered to repay us by paying for a sink to be unclogged at our house. We thanked them, insisted it wasn't necessary. Now that the plumber is on the way I'm a selfish cow for making them fix our sink and I better not ask for anything else. I can't deal with this. I should have known better. Why would I believe they changed? I'm so stupid....

I'm a 20 year old male. My father is a very bigoted person. He's 53. We're a Black family. He talks poorly about all races that are non-black. Yesterday he was talking to me about how he doesn't like Jewish people. He asked me, "How do you feel about Jews?" I just said "I don't feel anything about them". I got the impression that he wanted me to join in on the bashing, but I have nothing against Jews. I don't look at them as an invasive species. I'm afraid to go against my father because he can also get pretty hostile when you have a different opinion from him and don't agree with him. He also asked me, "Would you ever have a White best friend?" He wanted me to say no because that's how he feels. If I would've said yes he probably would've got mad. So I just gave a neutral answer, "I don't know."My father is also the person where he's nice to everyone in public but says derogatory things behind closed doors. He didn't like when I said I don't have a preference for Black women when it comes to dating. Mind you in school and in my life I have met people that come from many different backgrounds. White, Hispanic, Asian, Middle-eastern, etc. They are all nice people. My father's views simply don't match up with my experiences. I don't know why he only sees color. That's literally what he talks about all the time. Black this White that. It's exhausting having to listen to it. I don't think like he does. I judge people by their character. Not by their race.

My daughter is 2 years old. She is my only child. My mother recently died from cancer and I was crying over it silently. She was sitting next to me on the bed and playing with her toys. After a while of sniffing and wiping my eyes She put her toys in my hair, and kept doing it for a while. She usually doesn't even touch my hair.

She knows me since I was born. She mocked me when I told her that I forgot to put on my hearing aids. Yesterday she said, "oh I forgot that you don t communicate with family". She rolled her eyes. As if I purposely don t talk to cousins and all. I sometimes can t hear them. I have deaf accent which makes it hard for people to understand what I am saying. Plus I prefer using the TTY phone device,. But they don t like TTY. My aunt called me with regular phone and she said, "I can t understand what you are saying". I never had a long conversation with anyone. Then people think that I am mildly retarded just because I can t communicate with them. If they talk to foreigners they understand there is a language barrier. But with me, they think i am retarded.

I am 19 years old and live in PA. My father bought my phone for me when I was a minor and I still have the same phone. He has a tracking device on this phone. I want to pay my cell phone bill but he won't let me and get's angry when I ask him. He installed this device and gave me no choice. It tells him where I am all the time. And if my phone dies and he cannot see where I am, he will not let me leave the house for days after. I have no rights over my things- my car, my phone, even my bank account. When I try to gain rights over these items, by buying my own or paying for them, I am punished. I go to school, I work a full time job, and I do not have access to the money I earn. I am also not 'allowed' to move out, because I don't have the finances to do so (because they control my money and can lock me out of my own account). My parents have always been overbearing, but it only began last year when I had a boyfriend he didn't like. We never did anything harmful, he just didn't like him. Ever since then, they've tracked my every step to ensure I wasn't going to see him. But now that I am a legal adult, and him and I no longer spend time together, the tracking never got better, just worse. I don't know how to stop this. I don't want a cushy "Talk about it with him", or "just move out" answer. Talking has gotten me into deeper pits, because if I don't want to be tracked, "I must be hiding something".

My brother is fifteen. I'm older. I was watching something on tv and he just came by and sat down. I said something and he said three times "______ _________ no one cares. Your an idiot". Stuff like that. It felt worthless to just ignore it and not say anything. So I softly slapped him on the cheek. He got all upset. Got up and kicked me, then pulled me on the arm and slapped my arm. Started whining about it and went upstairs.

My friends parents are both drug addicts so her uncle has custody of her but her home life is terrible. She wants to move in with me because it'd be better for her but is she able to?

Am I wrong or being cruel? Both of my parents are over 50. But they still don't have a permanent place to live or at least a vehicle. We live in a place where there only two tiny rooms to do everything. I don't have a room. No privacy. I.turned 18 a few months ago. Now it's been more than 3 years I've been suffering from depression and anxiety too. All. I want is to die but I don't know how to. Because they don't have money all of my mother's sisters want me to find a job to make money and after that go to college and do the degree. I've been suffering all my life. So I always get angry at my parents and argue with them so I make them very sad too I'm not a good child to them and i always think to my self why did my parents make a baby when they have financial problems when don't don't even have a propertl place to live. Once I asked my mom that and made her sad. Am I wrong to think so. Am I being cruel. Am I wrong to think that they shouldn't have had a baby in that situation? I'm making everyone miserable. Also don't you think kids suffer because people are having kids even though they can't afford it? Shouldn't they stop doing that? I might be wrong but I don't know... Thanks in advance for you a

Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl and I recently got invited to a party at my friend's house. My close friend was also invited, and a guy that I have a thing going on with will also be there and is the one who invited me. I mainly want to go to see said guy, but I obviously can't let my parents know that part. My parents are very strict and don't let me go anywhere unsupervised. The only time I ever went anywhere unsupervised was to study, and I wasn't even allowed to leave the Starbucks to walk around, (I did anyway, and was fine). My mom is particularly suspicious about my guy friends. Any time I ever mention a friend of mine who is a guy she assumes I'm A.) dating him or B.) have a crush on him (which she does not like). A problem with this party is it's at my guy friend's house. I don't know how I could ever get the courage to ask to go, especially since other guys will be there. Not to mention I have 3 siblings over the age of 25 who are basically like 3 more parents. They are also strict. I'm not a bad kid. I get straight As, got high scores on all my finals, I don't do drugs or have sex and don't plan to anytime soon. I just don't see the problem. I just want to have a good time with my friends and enjoy myself with the guy I like and get to know him. My sister was allowed to date by my age, so I don't see why I'm not even allowed to see guy FRIENDS. What can I do? I'm stuck. Thanks in advance, Leah

Like for **** sakes I'm trying to sleep and it's 1 am and the neighbors above my ****** apartment are snoring and I can hear my gran snoring as well as my dad and my brother and I'm about to ******* shank my self because of these people. I confront them about it all the effen time and they just deny it even when I've showed them recordings. Like Jesus please help me I need a quick solution now because I can't go to the store and get earmuffs atm. I started thinking that maybe if I start screaming theyll finally shut up. Im litterally going to ******* stab my ears please help me.

Using his picture in my mind. Im a girl btw PLEASE REPORT THIS QUESTION SO IT CAN GET TAKEN DOWN. THANKS.

My husband says i argue and fight alot with him. If things doesnt go my way than i start crying like a cry baby. Today he joking way said i still have time to leave as we dont have any attachment or kids and we shouldnt have gotten together when we broke up 7 years ago He is tired of me.

I'm 18 and have a good amount of money saved up. I plan on moving out a state over in August. Already have work lined up and know what I'm doing. My parents are super strict and hate my girlfriend for no reason. They have no respect for her whatsoever and constantly saying she's a bad person because she was homeschooled and comes from a broken home. They give me no freedom whatsoever and tell me everything I do is wrong and how I act like I'm married and all of that stuff my dad is constantly encouraging me to go for other girls. I just can't stand feeling like everything I do is wrong to them. How do I address I'd like to move out?

I don't want to fornicate. So dont suggest that i do. PLEASE REPORT THIS QUESTION SO IT CAN GET TAKEN DOWN. THANKS.

So im the second oldest sister and me and my oldest brother were raised strictly. We got spankings almost every week for any thing we did. We were not allowed to be seen talking to people or hanging out with friends. For me if my mother saw me talking to a guy shed threaten to kick me out of the house even if they were not my boyfriend. If she saw me talking to a girl she accuse me of being a lesbian. One time she punched me in the face because she saw me walking home from school with a classmate. I was basically isolated. Me and my brother. But now with my two youngest siblings like LITERALLY EVERYTHING she did not allow us to do she lets them do. They have a more social life than me and my brother ever did. Is this not unfair? Should i not be angry? This caused me alot of mental health issues being isolated the way i was. And now that i see she lets my sister do everything she did not allow me to do i find it incredibly unfair. I even consider therapy now because i dont know how to socialize like i used to when i was a little kid. Do i not have a right to feel the way i do?

It will be at least next July before I see him again. He is a recovering alcoholic and agreed to see me this one time. He said when in the USA next July he will call. I was too nervous to enjoy the visit. I'd spent months getting excited for this reunion. I hadn't seen him in 9 years and now he is sober. I was talking about it all through the spring. When I had the reunion I enjoyed some of it but was nervous through other parts. I thought I'd be ecstatic but I was not. This was on Saturday. Now I have been nothing but distraught that I am not ecstatic and instead let down. I want to change my thoughts so I can see the visit as a good thing. Instead I am utterly devastated this week. PLEASE HELP

he also said she makes him want to kill himself and their whole family because she wants him to pay rent if hes gonna live in her house. Mike is 26.

Back home from college, not feeling good at all being at home. When I was younger whenever my mom was home I hated it. When I woke up and my mom was home I would almost all of the time be upset. Her being home meant that she would have spent most of the morning cleaning, and when we woke up we would have to start cleaning stuff too. The yelling would usually start whenever she would start banging pans in the ktichen. I still get flashbacks from hearing loud bangs today. She would then get up and start yelling at us to start doing something(I don't remember, but it was usually to clean something). So whenever I noticed she was home I would stay in bed and pretend to be asleep, to avoid her. After a while of being upset she would fall asleep and it would be safe to go out and get some food. After that she would usually apologize but she did it EVERY time she was home. I did it all through my life, anytime she was home and I heard her, I wouldn't even get out of bed. I would just suddenly be like okay time to hide from mom for a few hours until she fell asleep. Being at home I don't talk to either of my parents hardly at all. I just go out to get food usually but I never go out with them, watch tv with them, or talk to them on the fly. I just don't like them at all. I would go to the kithcen to get some food and my mom would be out watching tv and I don't even lie anymore and tell her I am doing something. I just say "no, I don't want to --insert activity here-- with you"

Background: I am a graduated college student at home, currently looking for a job. My family has kept a rather unclean home. There are fruit flies/flies in the kitchen, fleas in my bedroom and on all of the animals, and there is cat/dog hair everywhere. We have 4 cats and one dog. I have maybe 28 cubic feet to walk about in my room that isnt taken up by my bed and I feel extremely trapped. There is so much stuff in my room(boxes and bags) that don't even contain my things. I constantly don't feel at home and I honestly hate being back here. It is too cramped and my parents(mostly mom) think that everything has a second use and it needs to be kept for later use. Literally everything. There is a corner for the hundreds of hangars, clothes that don't fit but "are going to someone that needs them" a bag corner full of plastic bags. Every waterbottle that we have ever gotten is kept on the counter so there is almost no counter space. There are cat and dog toys all through the house, there is never enough. Walking from my room to the kitchen[about 25 steps] I picked up 6 animal toys that were strewn on the ground just in my path. There are fleas in my room and in my bed and, let me tell you, it stresses me out to no end.

So i'm 15 years old girl, I have two younger sister and brother, and I feel like my parents are getting divorce, they have been married for like 20 years, but now they are getting in A LOT of fights, the last fight they had was like a week ago, now they are in another fight, like every time they apologize and come back togather, two weeks later (maximum) then they get in another fight, and sometimes when i talk to mom, she shades like she want divorce and tell me she can't take it anymore, so is that a sign they are really getting divorced?