I currently drive a 2001 Hyundai. Even though I'm 19, I recently started driving, and am starting to get very comfortable driving the Hyundai. My parents, however, decided it wasn't 'safe' enough for me to commute to school in and bought me a 2018 Cross-Trek. They had been talking about buying me a new car for a while, and even bought themselves a new Forester last year. I begged and pleaded with them not to buy me the Cross-Trek because it's very expensive (we're not poor, but both of my parents are medically retired so their funds are sort of limited + I can't afford to pay them back). I also hadn't test driven any other vehicles, which I view as a must when buying a car, and when I did test drive it, all the safety gismos and warnings freaked me out a little. I've driven the Cross-Trek twice and both times, I felt like the driver's seat was in an awkward position; It's not high enough and makes me feel the hood is right in front of my face. I'm really not a fan of the car, so far at least. I don't want to come off as a spoiled brat here, but I wish that they had just let me continue to get comfortable with driving on the Hyundai and not bought me the Cross-Trek. Further, every time my family sees people we know I feel like I have to put on a fake smile and pretend all is well with the car, I couldn't be happier, etc. I sort of feel like this is hanging over my head and this question is venting more than anything, but some advice would be much appreciated.

My mother in law lives out of state. She has increasingly visited more frequently and for longer periods of time over the years. My husband and I now have 3 kids. After baby 3 my husband finally told her that we do not have room. When she stays she goes to sleep early and wakes early (no guest room). She complains that we are too loud when we stay up later and she is too loud for us when she wakes earlier. My husband gets into fights with her everytime she is in town bc she shows obvious favoritism to our daughter over our boys. We are moving. She assumes that she is going to be allowed to stay at our home and has made comments about buying herself a bed for our basement. My husband doesn t want her st ever stay at our home again. He wants her to get a hotel from now on without her having to pick a fight with him over it. The last time she fought with him about it he layed for her hotel but we cannot do that everytime she decided to come to town uninvited.

I'm 18 and my 13 little brother is constantly trying to start fights with me by calling me names and trying to emotionally hurt me (which doesn't work of course) and annoys the hell of me but when he finds my money he takes it saying the reason he took it because he hates me and it's not with money it's also with food and other stuff and I cant do anything to him because I feel I should punch him or physically hurt him what can I do to make him stop

I am tired of living with my mother. It has been 7 years since my grandma died. But the men of this city, the corporations, etc., even the govt. agencies supposed to be doing interviews properly have turned into a profiling, hacking, harassing, lobotomy fest against those labeled with "ADHD, ADD, Bi-polar, etc.". Trust me, losing one s memories, visual reasoning, memorizing abilities, and imagination, and any other special abilities, no one deserves just because a sibling was smarter or the teachers or famous or wealthy wanted a bigger tax cut. My recruiter, failed to do his job correctly. Just because you do not like someone s talents, thinking, or refuse to even give them a dinner date. He gave my sister, 4 dinner dates, an outing at a club, and went out for 6 weeks at a bar. She gave him art gifts to guarantee to get the job. NO ONE DESERVES THIS. THEY NEED TO GO BACK TO ORAL AND WRITTEN EXAMS.

Growing up a lot of horrible things happened to me. My mother let me down a lot. As a teen. I was getting verbally abused but she didn't let me tell the psychiatrist that I was being verbally abused by my stepdad just because she didn't want my youngest sister to lose her father. She kept forgiving him. Basically, she sacrificed my happiness for her own selfish reasons. To me. It is selfish. Then she wanted me to be nice to my annoying sister because she didn't want to lose custody over the child. This was a few years ago. However I already has hate for my family. I'm never happy around my family. I'm happy around my friends. I believe my family holds me back. I am adult and in community college. I am only living with them because I can't financially support myself yet. They all hold me back a lot. They think I'll still live with them once I start my career. I don't want that. What should I do? I will get a job soon, either at a gas station or as a waiter to save up some money.

a month ago i was having issues at home, police came and my dad told them i need to be locked up in a hospital. i ended up at a homeless shelter and my dad showed up there too next day with paramedics forcing me to go to mental ward, and they had a stretcher sort of thing they were gonna strap me on and restrain me. i have been tied up before. it happens everytime i try to leave my parents house. should i go live with a friend since my dad knows where i am?? i feel unsafe thanks

She slapped the 19 yr old after the 19 yr old had her wisdom teeth pulled. It was suppose to be for 2 weeks but mom extended it because my little sister screamed "it's not fair " . She could have really hurt me. My sister has extra chores, no swimming, no electronics, no friends houses, and had to do some volunteer work. She also will read books and not be allowed to play with her Shopkins. I think mom should have just grounded her for the rest of the summer.

So I recently discovered that I lost my social security card when I moved last in order to get a new one I need my birth certificate which my parents have. I ywcted my dad saying I needed it and have not got a response back. That haven t really talked to me the last few months. Should I just show up and ask for it I need it badly.

Well I'm 19 and I'll be 20 soon but I am dealing with a huge problem and don't know how to handle it. I've lived with my grandma my whole life but me being the youngest she has always treated me differently. She has always been over protective of me but also controlling in a way. I'm not gonna mid though the whole thing has caused me to be sort of childish up until now. I'm ready to grow up. I fell in love with a guy, he's 20, he's a great guy and we have history and we both care about each other a lot, but with him comes his daughter too, which to me isn't a problem. I love kids and am very willing to treat as my own. My grandmother doesn't agree with me being with him though(she assumes he's trash because he has a kid already) he's actually a great guy, works a great job, brings home good pay and takes care of his daughter very well. But my grandmother is always telling me "You better not go try and be with that deadbeat" just because he has a child. I'm ready to just move out partly because I'm tired of her assuming I'm just childish on my own when I'm reality I only act childish at times because that's how she treats me. I'm ready to take this step in life and move ahead. He wants us to get an apartment together(we have been together awhile, I just don't know how to handle the situation with grandmother without hurting her or making her feel disappointed in me) I'm just trying to do what makes me happy! What do I do. Living here at home makes me depressed beyond words.

Yea yea, it's bad I know. I'm not too young, but I'm 19. I can afford it, I have a job. It's just I'm not 21 to purchase it. I'm mature enough to handle two beers I mean I've done worse, you know? I think maybe he'd just be disappointed that I'm drinking because he's a bit of an alcoholic. But I mean this is America, everyone drinks basicly. Many places around the world you can drink at 15-19. I just don't want him to feel like he has to hide stuff from me If he does notice and I don't tell him. There were like 11 left from a 16 pack and I took two. I just sat in my room and kinda relaxed you know? I also feel like if I tell him he'd feel like I'm going down the wrong path in a way?

I'm 15 and my dad didn't hit me but I felt like he was really trying to hurt me. So tonight my parents and some friends had all gone to a comedy show and then to a friends (who I was babysitting for) to have some more drinks. So after we had pulled up to our house later that night, we were standing on the porch waiting for my dad to unlock the door and he was being stupid about it, and I was annoyed so I flicked him in the head and told him to unlock the door but he turned around and pushed me against the wall and said (as he kinda of chuckled) "if you ever hit me again.. your in such..." he never really finished what he was saying but he kept telling me that if I hit him he was going to do something. So he unlocks the door and my drunk mom punches me in the arm and says "don't you ever hit your father" so I turned around and pushed her and told her not to hit me and then my dad put me in a chokehold and dragged me inside and pushed me down on the couch and put his finger on my forehead and pushed down really hard (while I was still in the chokehold) and I couldn't breathe and I just started crying but he was still pushing me down . Then my sister started shouting at him to get off of me, he did but he started yelling at me and I got up ( still crying) and ran downstairs. I know it's so long I'm sorry I just don't know what I should do or if I'm over reacting or if it counts as abuse. It's not the first time he has hit me when drunk but before it has never been that intense.

Hello there. So I always notice my dad stares at other women thats prob is young or looks young my dad is married to my mom btw. I always tell my dad what is he looking at and gives the same excuse like " I'm just looking" or sometimes when he is on his phone and looking at other women I say what are you looking at? And he says he is looking at his phone even though I caught him looking at other women with a perfect body or looks young. He is 46 by the way and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and embarrassed. And sometimes when the other women walks by he just looks at them and smiles and when I came back to the restroom I caught him just standing next to the wall and just staring at other women just passing by and he just does nothing but stare it's just really creepy. And one time we went to a pool and there was skinny women and he was just looking at them as they passed by. What can I do about this I am going to tell my dad it is wrong but what should I tell him can someone help me? Thank you.

I have 2 sons, my youngest went missing in 2012 and we never heard from him again. I am 59 years old, and my father is 94. My father is in good health and gets around good. My oldest son is a barber in New York City. He's 27 and moved out there to NYC when he was 23. I miss him dearly, and only get to see him twice a year. I think he would be able to find a job cutting hair here where we live in rural Ohio. There's a demand for barbers everywhere. I made him up a room and bought him a bed in our house. I want to ask him to move in with my father and I so I can be closer to my boy. I hate he's so far away in NYC and he might end up missing too, it's one of my big fears. Is it unreasonable to ask him to move in with us and come back home and find a job here? He's not married and doesn't have a girlfriend. Thanks. I raised my oldest to succeed but he can find a job cutting hair here too in rural Ohio where we live. It's a beautiful area here and there's no shame in him living with his mom and his grandfather. I need him closer, and don't feel I'm asking him to give up his dream.

Hi. I am a 13 year old girl going into my last year of middle school. I am trying to make the most out of it any way I can because I am about to go to high school. Ever since middle school started, she has been acting very differently. She has increased my chores greatly, at the point where it's getting out of hand- Vacuum every floor. Dust everything. Clean my cat's litter and the puppy pads. Clean the bathroom. Clean my room. Take out the trash. Bathe the pets. And doing whatever she wants me to do, no matter what- like get the remote for her or fetch something for her, which only leaves my brother to doing the dishes. She has yelled and cursed at me if I didn't do what I am asked. With my studies, she demands I get PERFECT grades, and if I don't, I won't be rewarded. I get high honor roll, more a's than b's. I study until I understand something. I read if I want. I also am learning another language outside of school. She sometimes forces me to study, forces me to read, etc. She is angry at me when I don't get all a's. I get bullied at school, and I tell my parents about it. She appears very empathetic and sad, and tells me she will immediately contact my principal to work things out. Sometimes I get good grades on tests, or awards, and she praises and rewards me. My hobbies are meteorology and chemistry. Overall I am a VERY lazy person. However, when she asks me to do something I do it, just sometimes not on my own. I know she may be bipolar, but it's really weird.

So I'm not sure if I should be concerned about my parents or not. Sometimes, my parents seem to be kind, as they feed me and my siblings and buy us clothes and laugh with us. However, other times, they're completely different people. Especially my mother. She communicates to me by yelling. I'm so afraid of making mistakes around her. If I forget to do something she has told me or make a mistake she yells at me and threatens to take away my privileges (hanging out with my friends, phones, etc.). She sometimes hits my brothers (not me anymore) but she says it's punishment for them not doing their chores or not listening (?). I cannot speak to her about my emotional issues (such as anxiety and depression) because she just tells me it's nothing to worry about. I tried asking if I can speak to a doctor about it and she tells me that anxiety doesn't exist and I don't need to see a doctor for it. My father is alright but he sides with her on everything. I don't know if I should be concerned or if this is normal parental behavior. Any advice? Thank you!

I have no memories of being held, kissed, or hugged by my mother. I kinda just thought it was normal. It took me until a year ago when I was 14 to realize that other kids got hugged and their parents told them they loved them. It really upset me and one night I asked them about it. They told me I never hugged them, and so they just decided I wanted nothing to do with any form of affection (when really I just didn't know any better). I was never shown how to love somebody (if that even makes sense). Even being a 15-year-old girl, I still crave love and support from my parents as well as my friends, maybe because I didn't receive it as a child. I don't know, but what can I do to help myself?

Right now my parents hold me back from seeing the extended family on my Mom's side cause they are ignorant and think it is unhealthy for me. I am an adult living on my own so I could go but they refuse to tell me when something is going on. I would feel intrusive asking the extended family to invite me. Also my parents don't like my Mom's side of the family.

My MIL is on Facebook and is friends on there with my sister. They met one time 9 years ago. My sister and I don't get along and she even blocked me. It bothers me that my MIL is friends on Facebook with my estranged sister. When we visit family both my sister and her have a habit of posting pictures. We don't always visit my family when we visit husbands's family or vise versa (they live 3 hours apart). Because of FB I worry we have to explain ourselves as to why we didn't visit with each side of family. His dad gets upset if MIL tells him. My sister recently got married and we went to her wedding. My husband's family wasn't invited, but I felt pressured to spend time with them since they would have found out on FB. So we ended up hanging out with his family when my sister had plans for us on the days leading up to the wedding. We declined her planned events and just went to the wedding. It hurt her feelings since she knew we were nearby with husband's family. Do I have the right to ask that they unfriend each other? MIL told me no she wouldn't because my sister has never done nothing to her and it'd be rude. There's nothing worst than seeing someone disregard your feelings and liking pictures on Facebook of my estranged sister and asking me to congratulate her. MIL told me to ask my sister to unfriend her. Now I have to ask my sister which will make me look bad. I think she'll have no problem with unfriending MIL..but she's going to tell everyone in my family about it.