I hate being a father I never wanted them. Both of my kids refuse to walk 4 hours a day to go to town for jobs(2 hours to get there at 8am) and 2 hours to get back once they are done working at 9:30pm. I refuse to teach them to drive or get someone to teach them. I refuse to buy them sunscreen they won't burn when they walk(it stays 96 degrees in June and in july). I refuse to get them an ID and 5 years ago out of anger I ripped up both of their SSN's. I keep telling them normal people have to walk on the highway 2 hoursfor jobs they refuse. Public transport is 30 miles from us. No I do not spoil them neither have phones, neither are allowed to use my computer or watch TV and I only let both eat twice a day. So no they are not spolied.

I've just finished my Leaving Cert, which may account for some of the stress. I'm hoping to move across the country for college, but I really want to do that, it's not as if I'm being forced. I get really angry at my brother for being reasonable with me when I'm annoyed, and I get angry at my sister when she points out my well-known flaws. I keep snapping at my parents whenever they do anything slightly irritating, or even when they don't. This might be because deep, deep down, I'm upset with them because they're currently separating. I really don't want to be the person I am most of the time, it makes me hate myself when I see the way I'm treating the people I love. But I don't know how to change.

Hi all, since I will have to live with her and my dad for another two years I want her to like me because she hates me. I don't actually hate her, she is a good mum to her kids and good for my dad. Maybe it's too ambitious to think we might be friends, but if she just liked me a little I'd be glad. She is 42 and has to younger kids (I'm 16, they are 7 and 9). What I already did or am doing: - I tried to Chat with her to get to know her in the beginning but it didn't work well - I try to be invisible so that I don't bother her - I don't make any demands - she doesn't have to do anything for me, I do everything myself (laundry, buy my own food) - I clean the bathroom twice a week and hoover whenever I feel it's necessary or when she tells me to - I babysit her kids successfully at least once a month or whenever I'm asked to - I accept the fact that my dad spends all his time with her and her kids, not with me What else do you think I could do? Thank you

So I recently got a job at burger king. Today will be my 2nd week working there. I dont like it there since the people treat me bad (I'm 14). So my dad applied to another burger king and they called my dad saying they want me to work at their place. It's also beneficial for me to switch since I have no car, and my sister works at that place also. Usually after my dad drops my sister off at her work place he leaves straight for work. So it's beneficial for my father also. But my question is: do I need to get another work permit if I'll be working at a new burger king? Thanks! I have the original work permit form from my school. The burger king that I am working now currently has a copy of it only.

My mom is a stay at home mom. My dad works but he wants to quit extremely soon. He won't tell anybody (at least me) why. I don't know if it's just me, but I think it's dumb to quit a job when you have CHILDREN (and a wife) that you have to support (especially when you live in a city where all the jobs are bad paying retail jobs and he was lucky to find one that wasn't). Also, my mom is looking for a job, but she has to take care of us and up until very recently, she took care of my grandma who lived in a nursing home and she still needs time to grieve since she hasn't been able to because she has too many things on her plate (including funeral expenses). I'm almost 16 but how much money can a teenager really make that can support their and their families needs...

My mom recently sprung a two-three week trip in China, leaving next week to visit relatives. However, I already had important events and meetings planned for the upcoming school year, and two-three weeks out of the country will interfere greatly and cause me to lose progress on contests, college apps, summer courses, and my role as president of a club. She gave me the option to not go and live by myself, or go and try and reschedule everything (which is not possible). (I also have a job, and I feel that it's not considerate to ask people to cover my shift for two-three weeks.) What should I do? (I realize that I do sound selfish for not wanting to visit relatives and I'm sorry, but I was never told that we were going to spend half a month in another country over the summer.) When I wrote "for the upcoming school year," I meant that I was going to hold meetings and do other activities during those weeks when I would be in China to prepare for the year, not that I scheduled events during the school year. Sorry! By "contests" I mean important auditions that I need to practice a lot for. Also, I do have a valid visa (I think) since I have been to China before.

Cuz people say you are what your father is

Dear all, a few months ago, I (16-year old guy) moved in with my dad and his second wife after my mum went to live abroad. This was quite a shock for all of us and I'm grateful my dad took me in, even though my stepmother was very reluctant to allow this since she despises me. I have a girl friend and lots of friends and everybody thinks I'm a cool and happy guy, but I'm often melancholic, because I just can't get over the fact no one in my family cares about me. I've lost touch with my mum, she doesn't reply to my messages and I don't know why because I haven't really done anything to her. My dad is never there (always on the road) and when he is, he doesn't really talk to me, only when he is angry (usually when his wife has complained about me). Ever since I moved in, he has never spoken one kind word to me. His wife doesn't talk to me at all, I'm only good enough to babysit her younger children. When everyone does something together, e.g. have a barbecue in the garden, noone asks me to join and I don't ask to join in because I know I'm not welcome. I try to spend as much time as I can outside the house because I don't want to bother anyone. I spent a lot of time at my girl-friend's. She has a really nice family. But I don't always want to bother them either. I don't think I can ask them to care about me when they don't, but I just would like to know if you think I expect too much or should I just be grateful that I have a roof over my head? Thanks guys:D

She is cold to our late mother's half of the family and the party I am having is her side. The same sister is cold to my brother's autistic son cause he says things inappropriate which if course is not his fault. She wouldn't come for Christmas dinner last year cause the brother and his son with autism were staying for the night.

My immediate family went to the beach for Father's Day weekend. We used to always go to my grandfather's until he died 3 years ago a few months after my grandmother. Yesterday the whole family got to get together at his old house that my aunt now lives in. Cousins of mine, aunts, and the uncle were all there. Even a cousin of my Dad's came with one of his sons. We were the only ones not there. We had to go to the beach for my Mom's mother as it was her day (Father's Day). She is not a father but has an event for the father's and my parents are terrified of her so they always go to hers over my Dad's families. We miss every holiday cause of this. Plus my Mom holds grudges against in-laws for trivial stuff so she even makes us miss stuff when my grandmother is out of town and we have to go to my uncle's redneck in-laws place. I am scared my Dad's family will forget us or think we are not in the family anymore. I thought this Father's Day tradition had ended but it is obviously still on. It was the one and only time my Mom let us go see his family and now my Dad says he doesn't want to anymore since his father has died. I am so upset to be less then my cousins. I am obsessed they will think poor of me or simply not know me. I am sure we will miss Thanksgiving and Christmas also and be the only ones to. How do I make up to his family so they won't think less of us? My Dad is no help as he fears displeasing my Mom and even worse displeasing her mother. Asking again as I just got troll answers earlier.

i ask her for her phone because i dont have one and need it for my job search. she yells at me until i convince her that its important that i get a job. i ask her for a ride somewhere and she says no, that i have to clean my room first. or that she has no gas. it doesn't matter if its important and cant wait. I ask her for money and its always no. etc etc. basically every conversation is a fight and she doesn't care about my needs and how i feel. i maybe 19 but i still need her for rides, i need her phone and i am unemployed looking for work so i need money sometimes. she is always treating me with disrespect and she doesn't understand i been going through depression this year. she tells all the time to kill myself and insults me all the time. how do I get her respect and have her support in life? I want to move out and be independent but I need a good job first.

This is sorta a long story so im gonna get staright into it. Yesterday my stepdaughters anna the 6yr old and aniana 14yr old (not their real names) came Over . They visit every week and go back the next week. I also have a daughter with my husband who is 5 named clare and a baby named genive. Anyways ever since they got here they have been ruinining my life with being plain bratty. My oldest stepdaughter aniana hates my own kids and will do anything to make them cry. She already snuck out yesterday its summer but still. Started yelling At the store because she didnt get what she wanted smashed my 5yr old clares toys and later on woke up the baby at about 4 in the morning which is one hour after the babies diaper change. Then anna the 6yr old is on her dad all the time asking for stuff. She has been the biggest pain of them all she throws stuff yells at everyone is lazy and ordered us to call her princess. Im not getting on her that much i understand shes only six. But anina isnt annoying shes plain spoiled bratty and evil i was gonna go buy food and my hubby was working i left her babysitting only to come back to find my baby crying because she took her toy and my 5yr old saying that anina scared her while coming out of her room. I am honestly looking for help on what i should do and encouragement to NOT get my kids and leave this house today they are still sleeping i think the teen is awake *yesterday she threw something at me when i treied to enter her room👍

I've been with my girlfriend almost 4 years, and she didn't say happy father's day to me, and I'm actually hurt. I am not her child's biological father, but I sre myself as his dad. I try my best to be a good father figure, so that's why I am so hurt this year. The real father is not in the picture, and took before he was even born. All she said is "I am thankful for everything, but he's not asking questions, and he doesn't call you dad. I don't want to make anything confusing, and I don't want explain things until I have too. I don't wany to jump in on the deep end if I don't have too" That statement she made only made me more hurt. Am I wrong for being hurt?

My adopted son, who's been my son for 2 years is such a blessing. However, as much as I love my MIL (we live with her) and I get along with his maternal grandfather who sees him three times a week...I'm getting really tired of them making comments on holidays that my family "isn't blood." MIL has accepted me as my child's mother right when I began mothering him. Maternal grandfather had a hard time but has accepted as of end of the year in 2017. These comments come around holiday times because I like to bring my son to Christmases, Father's Day celebrations, Mother's Day celebrations etc. And they get bitter when he's not around for those full days. It upsets me because seeing as he's my only son, my family loves to enjoy his company and loves him as if he were my biological child and it hurts me hearing his bio grandparents make comments like this. Maternal grandma sees grandson on every important holiday expect father's day because we are trying to celebrate my son's father, my step father, and my father all in one day. Paternal grandpa never gets to see him on holidays because biological mother hasn't spoken to her father since she has abandoned her child. How do I get maternal grandpa and paternal grandma to get off their high horses? I said issue was yesterday where MIL had an issue with my son joining my husband and I on going to my step dad's and father's celebrations. My step father ADORES my son so I'm not exactly sure why I should deprive him of my son on a day that is celebrating him?

We've had his school admins setting up a meeting in regards to this problem back in May. He livestreamed himself to strangers and engages in explicit conversations. Note that my son has ADHD. He doesn't have the maturity of a typical 10 year old. The problem is that people are worried about his safety AND he says some pretty inappropriate things on there. This is all fun and games to him. He openly said that he used this website to talk to strange people, which is how others found out.

My boyfriend and I keep talking a lot about marriage and he keeps talking about wanting to propose but he hasnt said when and where. We will be together 2 years in September but I have known him since Januaruy 2014. My boyfriends sister has a son who is 2 years old. If this was you would you allow me to be called "aunt" if we were engaged or would you allow him to call me "aunt" after the wedding? I am just curious.... he already tried calling me "novia" one time (meaning Girlfriend in spanish. My boyfriend is Spanish) but couldnt say it that well yet, it was cute (he knows i am his uncles girlfriend) My boyfriend is asking his sister when she comes home from work later but i am curious on other peoples takes on this.

I get the feeling my wife wants to leave. She's always cranky and angry all the time, she's constantly "tired", her patience level with the kids has declined tremendously. She usually does something for my birthday and does a craft with the kids for Father's day. This year, she did nothing for either, except help our 4 year old daughter make a flan, which when I commented on it, she got all pissy again. I commented to my mom that she didn't do anything this year, but that doesn't explain why she got pissy afterwards. One of her colleagues approached me (I have a remodel job in an apt in the condo she works) and told me that he overheard her talking with a female colleague about the weekend and the subject of Father's day came up. Apparently, this female colleague asked her why she was POed or something. I've been noticing though that doesn't say bye to me in the morning anymore, only kisses the kids goodbye and greets them when she comes home. Whenever we talk, she says I don't listen and doesn't want to waste her time talking to wall. How can I know if she's thinking of leaving without actually asking her? I don't think she'll tell me the truth anyway.

I don't know where to start. My dad is absolutely annoying. It's getting to the point where I want to kill him. He's been treating my mom like ****, he's treating her family like ****. He thinks he's a God. He's turning into a cheap person, even tho he has **** tons of money in his accounts. He's trying to spark up arguments over the smallest ******* things that literally don't make any sense at all. He's essentially bullying my mother and if she doesn't stay quiet it could lead into a disastrous argument. Divorce, leaving him, working is literally not an option cause he'll make our life even more miserable. The only way out of this is if one of us dies. Just now my mom told my dad that a wedding in her family is coming up and he should probably give them some money (cause that's a tradition in our religion) He went on and on about how much money he's already given her family and how he "saved" her father from dying and he had the audacity to say that people just keep getting born and no one is dying in her family!! How inhumane do you have to be to say **** like that?! And all of that over just 25$ The thing is my mom's family is super poor and its a big family but none of them really branched out to earning proper money so they can't afford big operations but literally no one asked him to pay. My mom and dad's relationship was over 4 years earlier but they are still married cause he wants to keep his "good image" in his family. Please give advice on how to handle assholes To update everyone. I am 21 years old. I have friends online but I don't share my family matters with them. I've been home schooled from my high school to my college. Currently I'm doing my masters but I don't actually go to the university, I just submit my assignments online. Even some of those assignments my dad did cause he told me to "enjoy my life, I'm only a child" I feel like this was all my dad's masterplan to make us rely on him all the time. Hence, the reason why leaving would be hard. My dad is a very cunning person, he'll make everyone think he's an angel but only my mom and I know he's a devil. You can't believe how much he belittle his mom and his brother behind their backs. His sister is the same as him so he loves her. My mom is not educated so she can't work and I'm a big mess. If I work it'll tarnish his image as a rich guy. I mentioned a therapist once to my dad and he said 'Why do you need a therapist? You've a brilliant childhood! Kids will kill for this childhood.'

I live 4 hours away from my sister and I'm in town visiting. She lives with her son and her son's father. They've been asking for me to move in with them for years. I've lived with them once for all of one month about 6 years ago and I left. I left because I felt like they were only using me for rent, cleaning, and day care services. Six years later, they're still struggling financially. I'm temporarily unemployed, but I'm living with my dad. My sister's son's father is trying to demand that I stay with them until their lease expires because they need help and nobody is helping them with anything. They've burned all of their bridges by borrowing money from people and never paying anyone back. I've lost track of how much money I lent them over the years. Anyway, he says that he has sacrificed a lot for my sister and that nobody in my family will help them with anything, and that someone else needs to step up. He was recently fired from his job because he couldn't find someone to take care of their son. Nobody in his family is helping, either. I have been here since Thursday and have watched my nephew between Thursday and Saturday. I've given money that I don't really have to help them with their bills. When my sister gets back from the hospital, they want to discuss a few things and I know they're both going to mention wanting me to move in with them again. I don't want to do it. I have no freedom, personal space, or independence here. Suggestions?

We are having a family trip in July. My mom and my little brother is going but not my dad. My cousins entire family Will be there so both her parents are going she has two Brothers. (So 4 females and 4 males) So basically ny cousin and I are both 18 year girls. My brother is 16 and her brothers are 16 and 12. So My mom thinks all the girls should have a room while all of the makes haves a room. But my cousin and I want our own room. Our brothers can share. With her dad. And our moms can share together. Is that reasonable? The extra room will cost us about an extra 200 a night?

I graduated 8th grade 2 days ago and I feel like crap. Only my father and my brother that's 16 came. My oldest brother that's 21 did not come because he had to work. It was at 2pm and I feel like he could have got off early to come. I went to his graduated three years ago so I felt like he should have been there. And then none of aunties or uncles even came. It's just that other people in my class had so many family members there and I feel like no one really cared idk. I didn't act like I was upset but I am. How can I get over this?

Day by day , my son is ignoring me (father) more, his mom and his sister. no hi, no bye. I Discovered that he is using same way with the people who work with. he is not social at all, he doesnot have friends at all. always in his room sleeping or playing games. I paid some of his loans at the university and bought him a Car and never told me Happy birthday or to his mom or sister. or celebrate with us father's day . and he didnot eat with us since long long time. he is 23 years old. smart and finished 4 years university. i feel that i lost my son. recently i asked him if we can meet and talk but always he refuse. he lives with me in the basement .

I experience this a lot with my parents, mostly my Mom more than anybody else. Take tonight for an example. My mom keeps nagging me to study for my finals, and that's normal because every Mom does that for her child because they care... But this just sits the wrong way with me, her constantly nagging is making me not want to study for them at all (even though I should and I am)! I am studying right now but I'm hiding it from her in such a way she thinks I'm my computer and not studying... But whenever she tells me to do stuff it makes me not want to do it at all, this sometimes applies in school to classes I dislike strongly I think it's also worth mentioning I have ADHD if this somehow is my ADHD in play (or something more, who knows).

It seems like everyone has this amazing, close family & I've always felt guilty and sad because I don't really like my parents or sibling that much. I've always been confused why I don't have that loving, supportive family everyone else seems to have. I'm the creative, fun-loving free spirit in my family. For as long as I can remember, they've harshly critiqued and insulted me for having different interests & beliefs from them. They've never supported me, instead always tried to find a flaw in even the happiest moments of my life. I finally realized after 20 something years, the less I shared with them or talked to them, the less joy they could steal from my life. I'm just curious if anyone's in the same boat? How do you deal with it?

I sumtime call my cat by p word like come here p word p word p word but my dad yells STOP So I try not to around him. I jus think it a cute thing to call my cats. They are pretty p words 2 me. People need to get over they problems. My dad an adult so why he be like this?

I am a guy and I am the youngest in my family and I have one older brother with autism. So my mom is friends with this family from our church and we have been friends ever since I was a kid. Now they are not related to me and their two sons have always acted like brothers to me. We share the same friends and their oldest son will acts like an older brother to me and he's super protective. For example, when I started dating, he didn't want me to go out with this girl we both knew and he said he thought she was trouble. And my parents let them tell me what to do so what ever they say goes. Also I used to be depressed and anorexic almost and when ever I didn't finish my food, will would make me eat my food. I was also sicky as a kid and had heart surgery, and it is getting a bit intolerable. When I ever I failed a class, will was allowed to lecture and both him and his younger Edie made sure I did my homework and passed my class. One time I had sex and drank when and will was mad and lectured me. Why are they like that with me?

Recently my parents have been acting kind of distant and like everything I do is just another inconvenience for them. I have always been very involved in school and recently my parents have been noncaring about things that are important to me. back in March just as Track season was starting I sprained both of my ankles and they never took me to a hospital, and just made it seem like It was somehow all my fault in the first place because I never told them, even though I definitely did. also, there were things that were very important to me that they needed to attend, like when I was accepted into Tri-M music honor society (which is very hard to get into at my school) they just got all mad at me and acted like it was the end of the world. every time we get into a conversation about my future they say something like I should be a biologist when I have told them countless times that I want to pursue a career in the arts but it seems like they never hear me when I'm talking. It also seems like they never even try to take interest in my hobbies but I'm supposed to be interested in theirs.