I am the maid of honor for my friend. The couple wants a co-ed shower/party 2 months before their wedding day. About 100 people are invited to this pre-wedding party- family, friends, men and women. The bridesmaids were asked to help pay for the party, but the groomsmen are not being asked to pay for anything. Is this right? Is this fair? Thank you.

Okay so let's start off by saying, My girlfriend is a bridesmaid in her sorority sister's wedding. I have never met this girl. But the bride has asked that I pick her sister up(who lives on the opposite side of town) and track her with us to a wedding that is 5 hours away. I paid $500 for a two night hotel stay, because the bride had specific request that the bridesmaids stay in the same hotel as her. I have also been asked BY the Bride if I could come and do a few things before the wedding, such as picking up some gifts. Driving a few people to and from hotels. to be honest, I don't want to go to this wedding, and to have to do these things I don't want to do just puts me in a bad mood. Am I being selfish? Would you feel the same way? is the bride being extra?