Is it bad that i hate my sister? i hate being in the same room as her because it makes my day worse even if we don't say anything to each other. i haven't always hated her, but i never really liked her. we weren't that close when we were little and she would always be mean to me. i'm 17 and she's 20 and i actually have good reasons for hating her. first of all she's disrespectful to both of our parents, really bad. she'll curse at them and call them awful names when they argue which is like at least once a week and sometimes it's so bad my mom and her actually hit each other. secondly, she's stolen money from me, both my parents, and sold thing around the house like my mom expensive purses just for weed. she also does nothing with her life. she never went to college and stays home all day and does nothing but eat all the food in the house! my mom tells her to do something with her life but she can't even keep a job for more than a month. she's even been rejected from the military!!!! she's also very dirty. she only showers like once every 2 weeks and barely brushes her teeth. she lets our dogs sleep in her bed with her even though she never brushes them, washes them, and they've never had their shots. she's annoying and when i move out i plan on not communicating with her unless i have to. does this make me a bad person? i always tell me mom i don't like her but she doesn't believe me. i don't love her either. i know she's family but honestly i don't care.

He only cares about himself! I feel like he only wants me for the money. Also yesterday I thought my dog had heartworm which is a deadly disease and I was like "I'm very scared about his health" and he was like AND IM VERY SCARED MY PARENTS ARE GOING TO SELL MY PC! (He said that because his parents expect him to get 200 dollars each week). THen he started going on about how im lying and trying to change the subject and he said that he did care which is not true! Then he told me that his family could barely afford food and water which I doubt but I also dont want to risk him being homeless if he is telling the truth. I don't know what to do.

so ive lived with my cousin for half my life but shes been dealing with menopause that makes her very irritable to anything and she takes it out on me but her son and his wife has invited me to move in but i feel like it would be awkard at family gatherings plus i have a cat that was supposed to go with me after i moved in my own place

My little brother and I are close. He's 9 years younger than me and I have helped raise him. Some circumstances at home have made me think about moving out, so I asked him how he would feel, and he said he would be very sad. Were you close with your sibling(s) and what was it like moving out?

I know that this can't be right but I'm just asking how bad is it for a father do so. My father isn't the most loving type of dad in my opinion. Yes he has bought us stuff and provided us with food and necessities but overall I've never had the best relationship with him. I have two beothers. . Yesterday on my birthday, my father and my little brother that is 14 got into a physical fight. It was because my dad wanted him to empty the garbage and my brother couldn't at the moment becuas he was online playing a game but my dad got and. It wasn't even 5 seconds before my father got angry and shouted at him and then turned off my brothers games. My brother was obviously pissed and it esclated into physical punches being thrown . I had to break it up. I was sort of surprised because of us 3 my dad is usually more lenient with my younger brother but now brother sees my dad bs. I remember my older brother was like 13 my dad physically bought him. I got into two physical fights with my father once when. I was 13 and Becuase he tried to make me go to bed at 9pm for no reason, we don't even have a bedtime. Then again at 15 because i refused to eat a meal that I did not like at night.we've had many arguments and I realize my dad is abuaive. Im 18 now and I think it has affected me in a way. I have a little bit of attitude problem and I think it's because of my father.

(For background: My mother is a recovered alcoholic, with the occasional relapse. She became sober about 3-4 years ago, and has about 1 or 2 relapses per year. I'm 14 years old and live with my mom and dad, but I have 2 older brothers who are in college.) A few days ago, my aunt died. It was my Dad's sister, so we're trying to help him. My mother seems to relapse whenever things get stressful for the family (which I think is very selfish of her). Things are very tense around here now, first with my aunt dying and now with my mom drinking. She and my dad have been getting into bad arguments over the last 2 days. It's clear she's drunk, but whenever I confront her about it, she will come up with any excuse to deny it. I've already talked to my brothers about it and they called our grandparents, but nothing is changing. What should I do??

So I went to my parents house for dinner over the weekend. They have a foster child who is 15. I am 33 moved out years ago. He is quadriplegic due to muscular dystrophy. He can function relatively well minus a few problems. They got into an argument about him soiling his wheelchair which occasionally gets onto other things. They kept suggesting he use absorbent briefs but he (understandably) refused. This caused a massive argument and debate with my parents and him. They took away his PC for the night which I think was wrong. He eventually decided to wear the briefs. How can I open up to my parents and explain why this is wrong and how things can be fairly negotiated between them?

What disorder does she have?

So my parents have done everything, put tracking devices in my phone and car, call my work regularly to see if I'm employed, and trash my room thinking I'm hiding things. I'm not a rebellious child, I just turned 18 last month, I've never gone to a party, never drank or done any drugs. I bought my own plan and phone on my birthday so my mom couldn't call it "her phone" anymore. I gave up the car to her because I don't like being tracked 24/7 just like anyone else. Now that they don't have a phone or car to hold over my head they always tell me if I don't do something I'm getting kicked out, therefor I got a better job in order to be able to support myself in case that happens. Now I am told if I keep this job I'm being kicked out as well and I can't let it go or I might still be kicked out and have little money to go anywhere. My boyfriend wants to get an apartment together where his mom and father would help pay for in order to help me. I don't know if I'm ready to move in with him but it's really difficult being at home with a family who constantly tells me I'm not their child and I've put them through hell. I'm scared if I leave I won't get any help for further schooling and maybe they wouldn't talk to me if I did leave. I want to to keep a relationship with my family, I don't want to lose them, but it's getting really painful to be around all the anger all the time. Can I get opinions please?? Thank you

I had a gallstone. And our family has this one young girl from Kupang to work as a maid. And no we are not rich but maybe my mother is too tired to do housechores. One day, I had a really bad pain in my abdomen and my mom has to bring me to a hospital. I was hospitalized for one day and spent a day at the hospital. Because we hurried to the hospita, I forgot to lock my door. And when I got back home, my cellphone charger was missing. I was freaking out and search it all over the house. And then, of course we asked the maid, did you see my phone charger? Suddenly she said "oh sorry I borrowed it" she showed to me. Note that, we (my mom and I did not tell her to clean our room and if we did, I'm supposed to be IN the room). I was so pissed because she went inside my room without my permission and then she stole A THING from my room with some stupid excuse that "she borrowed it". and later she did not even use the same cell phone. so even if she did borrowed it.... it is counted as "trespassing" because she was not supposed to get in without my permission. PS: that girl is not a total idiot. She has a high school diploma and her parents work as a fruit seller. she was not poor but rather reluctant to go to college.

My parents are kind of embarrassing and I have graduation and college orientation coming up and they will be there. Its hard for me to talk to others with my parents around, and thats the point of orientation and they are gonna be embarrassing. How to I handle times with my parents where its gonna make me feel embarrassed

Firstly, my parents are poor. They have minimum wage jobs. They have no savings, no equity, and no responsibility as parents. My parents hate each other and they always have been like that. Everyday my parents fight. Food is always a problem in our house, never enough. My parents don't listen to my problems, they instead dump their problems on my sibling and me. My parents never have a meaningful conversation with anybody and they use us. Secondly, my older sibling wants to keep the family together so therefore takes care of every financial responsibility. I feel burdened by all of this. I feel like I am suffocated, trapped, suicidal, angry, anxious and frustrated. I have a tiny room. I spend most of my time waking up, going to college, playing games and making food for myself. I have no job. I spent and spend money left over from financial aid on buying car, food, gas and going out with my friends. Because of all this I have decided to take a semester off. Now I feel even worse when I am home experiencing this more in person. I don't know if i should continue to go to college or dropout and move away. I hate my life as it is every day and i have no motivation to keep going. I have NOTHING to look forward to or give me hope. They instead try to use us and blame us for problems. This affecting me physically and mentally. I can't go to sleep on time, I stay up all night playing games and wasting time to get away from my life. I want out please give whatever advice you have.

For the past 7 or so years of my life I've been bullied by my brother. Now I'm not talking about your average siblings fighting that everyone experiences, I'm talking about real bullying that cause trauma. Now I'm only 14 and I think I'm more of a athletic popular kid so there wouldn't be a reason for me to be picked on, but every single thing i do wrong no matter how small it is he will point out. As if that wasn't enough he also physical abuses me on occasion. My parents are choosing to ignore the clear issue. The bullying has affected my grades and behavior in the past couple of years. I've been trying really hard to get into boarding school and forunately I got into one for 9th grade (I'm in 8th grade now). The only problem is that my parents don't want me going away. They use excuses like "He won't be here next year". My brother is going away to college. Many times I fight back but nobody in my family understands the effect it has on me and my thoughts. He makes me think a lot less of myself. As you could imagine this is a very upsetting topic to talk about but I'm not sure what to do. I think about calling the police on him but I know my parents would be upset and angry at me but I really don't want him to get away with what he has done to me. It may not sound like a lot but I've gone through therapy and have cried myself to sleep because of this. Please help me. Thanks!

If I'm inside my room, my mom assumes that I'm on my phone 24/7, daydreaming, or lying on my bed. Unless she sees me doing schoolwork, this is a common assumption. She might lecture me to "stop wasting your time" or come down to the kitchen. I'm ACTUALLY doing my homework, it takes a few sentences for her to know that! This is true, especially on days where we barely see or communicate with each other (she's working later than usual, I was at track and field, or both of us weren't around at the same time).

I went to visit some family friends and I was there for about 2 and 1/2 Weeks. Their younger daughter became very attached to me. I'm a Sunday school and work with children everyday, so I love kids from the start. But over the time we had developed like a kind of uncle and niece relationship. She literally begged me not to go and they had to peel her off of me crying. I told her I had to go and I damn near bawled my eyes out. I so want to move there because I became very close to this family, but that's impossible right now. I can't really call her for some reasons right now, so pretty much the next time I'm going to see her is when I'm there again in six or so months. What are some ways that I can cope with missing her and the rest of the family

I have a cousin who's basically a loser. Dude's 27, lives with his dad, doesn't have a job, and spends him time paling around with his younger brother and his friends who are still in high school. What drives me crazy is my cousin lies all the damn time about stupid things that we all know aren't true. Like he'll say that he discovered secret code in Windows and so Microsoft has to pay him to keep quiet, or that he traveled China learning martial arts, or that he's been selected by Elon Musk to be one of the first people on Mars. The dude's also always photoshopping himself into pictures (badly) and posting them online. I know I shouldn't be bothered by him because obviously he has insecurities, but he's always interrupting conversations to speak his nonsense. One second I'm talking to my grandpa about doing some drywalling, and the next my cousin is between us going on about his insider knowledge of the Kennedy assassination. Dude drives me insane. I don't want to be mean to him, but I need him to understand that if he doesn't want to grow up then he needs to shut up when adults are talking.

I'm a 16 year old girl. All my friends' have photos of their moms pregnant. They have similar features as them. When I volunteer for preschoolers and little kids ages 5-10, the adults that pick them up almost always look like those children. I often hear their parents talk about the day their child was born, or getting pregnant again. We are studying DNA in science class. All the other kids completed the family tree project, some going back to generations except me. They are all able to know who their ancestors are. Many people don't know that I'm adopted because I'm the same race as my parents although our resemblance ends there. I really haven't met any other adoptee that I know of. It's like everyone else is with their birth parents, they never wonder anything because they already know.

Is it a lesbian crush, obsession or do you think I just really admire and like her as a friend only? I'm being obsessed over someone who I shared a brief friendship with during my childhood years. When i was in 5th grade there's a university student who worked as a volunteer at my primary school temporary. She works with me every week in my class. At that time i was only a 10 year old child and she is a 20 year old women. I don't even know why I get attracted to an adult. She's a nice and friendly person, I immediately warm up to her since the first day I met her. We talked together regularly at class and I really enjoy her company. After I left primary school, we didn't see each other again. A few year later, I attempted to reconnect with her via email. She was happy to hear from me again at the beginning but after awhile I tried to message her again for a few more times over the course of several days and she will only give shorts replies and never initiates a conversation. Although she still reply to my message, but I sensed she is no longer interested to maintain contact with me anymore and she's only replying to my message just to be polite. From then on, I got the hint and stopped contacting her again. Now it's been more than 9 years since I last heard from her, but I still think of her from time time? How can I move on and stop being fixating on a person who is long gone from my life.

ecause my parent strongly disapproved of a young woman that I recently married (for no other reason than the fact that I had originally met her online; parent is vehemently against relationships that originate from starting online), I had no choice but to marry (now) new wife in a private civil ceremony. Wife and I are still planning on having a formal wedding reception sometime in 2019 because both of our current work schedules are currently very extreme and long hours for pretty much the rest of 2018. Wife's family and friends are aware of the marriage (both before and after the civil ceremony) and the great majority of them are very satisfied and have been very congratulatory, for her. For me, only some of my co-workers are currently aware, and they were likewise very congratulatory. My immediate family is not yet aware of the marriage, only because if they had been aware before the fact, my parent would have been highly likely to take extreme retaliatory steps against me, such as either officially or unofficially disowning me, etc. ...

This is my first yahoo question and I hope people understand my frustration. I rather get beat than having to deal with the **** my dad does to me. I don't think my dad really cares about my mental health or well being. I will give you guys some examples. I'm in a car, and my dad says something mean for some reason. I then call him rude. He then shouts at my face, with spit rushing at me like a water fall. I then get mad, shut the door as hard as I could and left to my school bus. When I came back home he said he's grounding me for a month (which he did). Another example: my school had this event called relay for life thing and it postponed school until 1:00 pm. My sis stayed off, but he told me I had to go. I then asked "Why?" and he said cuz my sis had a spare last period so it wont be worth even going. I then told him we're watching a movie for both our classes and 1 hour doesn't make much of a difference. He then said if I don't go, he'll ground me forever. This was the 6th time he let my sister stay but not me. Not only that but it was like the 312313th rudest/unreasonable/"I dont want to see you happy" thing he's done this year. I had enough and told him I'm not going. So guess what? Im grounded forever, and I want to move out before I have to murder him. My brain is so damaged and stressed because of him. I HATE MY LIFE AND I WANT TO MURDER MY FATHER (NOT JOKING)!!!! Pls help... :( BTW, MY MOM DOESN'T TRY TO HELP OR DEFEND ME AT ALL. IN MATTER OF FACT, SHE DEFENDS HIM AND MY SISTER THINKS IM IN THE RIGHT BUT SHE CANT DO **** OR THEN MY DAD WILL DO WHAT HE DOES TO ME; TO HER!! btw, he beats me too. and like I said, im grounded forever from using any of my devices. Add all the screaming and constant headache he gives me. You guys need to really try to understand my situation!!

One day my family was over, and I needed to run an errand. One of my 3 nieces decided to accompany me, no problem. I enjoyed the drive and we had a nice time. On our way back home I needed to stop and get some gas, and I also wanted an energy drink. I didn t want to be rude, so I asked my niece if she wanted something while we were at the store, she got an iced honey bun. As we were pulling up to the house my niece says "Lisa (my other niece) is going to freakout when she sees I have this." And I said "Who cares? It s yours. I got it for YOU." We went inside and my mother (her grandmother) made her split it to give to my other niece. And I said "She doesn t have to split it." My mother made a HUGE deal about sharing and about how I m not a nice person, etc. Lisa is spoiled ROTTEN by her mom. AND Lisa didn t even know my niece had a pastry until my mom made it known to her. I told my mother the next time I get something for my niece I ll tell her to eat it before we get home. And she started going off saying, "Why the secret??" I m just looking for some input. It s not even that big of a deal, but my mother keeps bringing it up, and today she referenced my lack of giving gifts on Christmas as some kind of supporting factor as to why I didn t also get something for Lisa.

So I'm in my late 30s when I was a kids. We didn't have much and I get it I'm not complaining about that at all. But when I was little it was my father who did all of the beating. I was choked, back hand, punched, kicked, slammed into a wall, hit with a horse whip multiple times. Was told I was ugly, stupid, that it was my fault that my family could never go anywhere or have anything good. I would go to school with black and blues or I would be limping. A couple of my teachers called child service and my parents would like and say I was working with cows. I don't live with them for over 10 years I now have a little one who is my whole world and I won't let my parents near her cause I don't want her to go through what I went through.

My older sister and I are both in our mid-twenties. We've never been extremely close, but we had a mostly civil relationship up until a few years ago. In recent years she has begun treating me like crap, talks down to me, and is never ever there for me. Recently, major life events happened in her life & she didn't even have the courtesy to tell me... I had to find out through someone else. That hurt me so bad. Now to put on the show for my mom who adores her, she'll invite me to do something about once a month and if I decline I'm the villain and she's the "good sister". I'm tired of trying to navigate this volatile, fake relationship & I'm not sure how to move forward. Any advice would be appreciated!

I'm 15 (girl) and my brothers are 10 and 12. My mom expects my middle sibling to know life lessons that most 12 year old boys don't. My youngest one didn't have the childhood that we did. Everything is a teaching moment for him instead of kiddie activities. With me, Mom has been preparing me for college since 8th grade (the VERY year my dad left). She expects me to know which schools I wanna apply to. She refers to me as "practically a college girl". When my dad was still together with my mom, everything was more fun. Things changed a lot in the fall of 2015, when my mom became a lot more stricter. It was unexpected at first, she used to not be like that. If I compare myself at 10 or 12, and my bros when they were younger... things have definitely changed so much

Whenever I have a really bad fight with my dad I think about how much I want to die. I would never do it but I think about it because my dad fights with me every single day. I just think, why am I thinking this way? Is something wrong with me?

I brought to my mom s attention that I had some homework that I needed help on, and she got upset and didn t help me because I will "Throw a tantrum" when she say s something that doesn t make sense. So I promised her that I would do the assignment on my own right after I made/ ate my dinner. I went to the refrigerator to get food and she stopped me. She said "Go to your room and do the assignment, now, or I m taking you out of acting." (I m currently one of the main roles in a play, and our show is in a month, so I can t drop out.) I didn t want to argue too much so I said, "Mom I m realllllly hungry!" She made me go anyways, and so I went to my room to do my essay. She came upstairs and I apologized for "Having an attitude with her". I haven t eaten since lunch, so I m very hungry at this point. She kept bugging me about the assignment, so I said "I can t focus, I m starving!" And she said "Stop acting like you re a child in Africa with no food." Can this be counted as abuse, or is this just one of my countless first-world problems?

My mother was killed when I was 16 and my aunt has had her ashes buried in her yard but now I m not welcome in her home so I can no longer visit my mother can I take her to court to get her ashes?

My cousin is 21 years old.I thought she was heading in the right direction. She owns her own wedding designing business.She didn t finish college but she seems to know what she is doing. She has lots of friends.Long story short.She had sex with a guy she worked with.They were not even dating.She ended up getting pregnant.She still lives at home with her parents and four siblings. My family is so hypocritical. They think everything my cousins do is okay.My other cousin has tattoos and piercings all over her body.She drinks a lot of wine.She has a favorite curse word.She showed us a picture of her passed out drunk and LAUGHED about it.What I m saying is they do so much stupid stuff and the family think it is okay.But if my sister and I did something like that,they would treat us like ****.Like I said my cousin has a nose and cartilage piercing and tattoos.I told them I wanted one lip piercing and they looked disgusted!What do you think about the situation?