My husband and I visited New Zealand 3 weeks ago. The first week there my mother in law committed on how long my sons hair was getting. My son has shoulder length hair because he looks cute and I see no problem with it. I told her this. My husband went to take me to look at his old childhood school..ect...just touring. We went and had lunch then came back. I walked in the door to see my sons hair all cut off and shaved to about 1 inch. I am angry. Mainly because I felt betrayed that she did not ask if she could cut his hair. That is my child not hers and she overstepped her boundaries. My husband said it was no big deal and she hadn't overstepped her boundaries, she was just being a grandmother. Worse part is she isn't even apologetic. She thinks what she did was okay and right. Am I wrong, this is her overstepping her boundaries?

I don't know if this is a normal thing, but people always say I look like my grandma and it makes me really annoyed? I mean, I hate being compared to others for one... Another thing is, my grandma was really pretty when she was younger, but not the kind of pretty I want to be if that makes sense??? I guess it kinda feels like it takes the surprise out of growing up and becoming my own unique person. Advice on how to handle this?

My daughter told me that my husband (her stepfather) was trying to pull down her shorts. She said she asked him to stop and he was like, "What are you embarrassed that I'll see your underwear? It's just me". My daughter is 17 and I know she can stand up for herself, but I don't like this. I don't think you should play like that with a teenager. My father never played like that with me. It's not a sexual crime. He wasn't trying to rip off her pants. He was playing. It's just not appropriate to play like that with a teenager. Ok I'm going to talk to him about it People ask all sorts of questions on here to get advice. Go away.

For reference, I am said child. My dad has raised me on his own since I was 11. Since age 15, I have been mostly self-sufficient. Paying for food, gas, phone, and extraneous items. My dad paid for insurances and interest on a student loan bill. Now that I am in my 20s, I am living separately. I am financially in control, though my dad helped me with student loans and health insurance. My dad met a woman who wants him to completely cut me off financially before they begin a relationship. I'm the youngest, single, and only one with student loans. I don't care about being cut off. It will be hard to manage the bills, but I don't mind getting another job to pay that. What is striking to me is how quickly he agreed. I only had two weeks to start paying those bills on my own. My dad was never one to speak up to defend me, even when my parents divorced over my mother's physical abuse. Our relationship has been shallow and he has felt content he is a good father because he provided financial support. We are nice and laugh together, but he never stands up for me when others say negative things (like his girlfriend saying I am freeloading). Is this something others have experienced? Do you have a deeper relationship with your parents? Do they advocate for you or stand up for you? Disclaimer: I am very lucky to have had the financial support I have had from my dad. I'm mostly concerned because the parents of those around me seem to be more connected with their adult children.

Some women in my family think I am better than them? The arguments when they are telling me that they are better than me all the time. I dont think I am better than nobody never have and never will. I dont have anything! Its just makes me feel that some people are insecure and miserable and trying to precieve me a certain way. Maybe I am destined to be great! I AM JUST SAYING! THEY wouldn't BE MAD IF YOU wasn't GOING TO BE ANYBODY IN LIFE... Thoughts? P.s. I dont have anything because I have been emotionally and physically abused by mother and I am learning to be rebuild myself. NEVER taught anything by her but abuse. I am glad to know I am still the ****.

It hurts me so much cause we were so distant when I was little. Now a days we go to about 1/3 of the gatherings though still are more distant. As a kid we only went to one as my Mom punished my siblings and I for her father's alcoholism by keeping us away from all family gatherings. Now a days I am like obsessed on making up to the family and I feel like a 2nd rate relative when I miss something and all the pain returns from what our Mom did to us as kids and what she stole from us. Our cousins are close to each other but not close to us though polite when they see us. How do I recover from this hurt and not feel the hurt when we are overlooked for a family event or when my Mom keeps me in the dark about an invitation. We go to one even a year out of 3 or 4 so are not estranged anymore but not close cause of my Mom. My Dad enables her anger. I am the one who carries the wounds. Any advise?

Our local grocery store sells toothbrushes and the one I have right now I don't like it and I want a new superman toothbrush but she wants to get me something else. What is something I could say to convince her to get me a new toothbrush for my birthday? My birthday is coming soon on April 27th and I just want a new superman toothbrush.

I have anxiety disorders and he believes they are bad choices I make. He also used to be mad at my Mom when she was anxious. His favorite line is "let it go" when that is not possible though a good goal. I am 23 and starting to avoid him as our parents are divorced so I can always go to my Mom who is not ignorant. However, how do I manage being around my ignorant father? He is very arrogant so giving him advise does not work.

My family was never well off. My single mother raised our family. After I graduated high school I helped my family and eventually dropped out of community college I was going to. I worked and helped my family for 4 to 5 years... I just worked after that, I didn't know what to do. I was stuck at a dead end job and didn't want to live at one point. I never have not worked. I'm not lazy... then eventually I came back to school. I paid my own rent, with no help from anyone, I studied hard. earned good GPA then transferred to a top 4 year university, considered to be a public ivy league. But I'm 31 years old and I have nothing to show for myself except having worked at dead end jobs from a dirt poor family... can I still be proud of myself? I feel so far behind other people and insecure that I have no back up if things go wrong. I've always been independent and I never enjoy myself or take time off, always intense and stressed out. Can I still be proud of myself?

Ever since I moved in with my grandparents, my mom has been on my case. Let me explain. I'm from Florida but my mother moved us to phoenix. I absolutely hate both places. Phoenix summers are miserable, absolute pain. It's ugly, depressing, crowded, hot. All the brown just got to me. I moved in with my grandma in Tacoma for my senior year and I was so happy. Everything about this state just makes me happy, I feel like a new person. And now im pregnant and 17 (still finishing my senior year) and I live in Spokane right now with my boyfriend. Because I smoke weed (not rn cause I'm pregnant) she thinks I'm gonna become a hard core drug user living here cause its legal. She constantly tells me my son is gonna be miserable living here, and I'll become fat and lazy living here in the cold. (Id rather play here in the winter than in the Arizona summer.) She tells me I'm gonna get sick, my son will get pneumonia and she thinks the cold cancels out vaccinations or something like that. She says snow is no place for a kid to grow up, and they need to "live in the sunshine." I wish I grew up in snow honestly. I do get tired of the winters but I still like the seasons here more than east Washington. And its very pretty like to where I want to do things, phoenix is just depressing. In winter when I sent her pics of me in the snow she got mad over the phone and screamed at me how I'm making myself sick and always bragged about the sunshine there.

My mom makes me sleep on the couch with her every night. It's been months since I slept in my bed. Whenever I'm home that's all I do is sit on the couch with her because she won't let me do anything else. If I want to even be able to go sit in my room for some privacy I have to come up with an accuse. Even if I get up to go to the bathroom she asks me where I'm going. If I try and do anything else but sit on the couch and watch tv with her she doesn't give me the choice she makes me stay and yells at me if I try and object. She's extremely codependent. I've tried to sleep in my room a couple night and she would yell at me to get downstairs. And it's not like I'm a bad kid and she doesn't trust me. I literally have no life and no friends because she doesn't allow me to do anything unless it's with her. I'm sixteen and I can't even go hang out with friends for a little bit. I spend every single day with her. and she's very verbally and mentally abusive and undiagnosed bipolar so it's not even like I can enjoy any of the time I spend with her because she's cruel the majority of the time. Is this child abuse?

My sister, mom, and dad will rub my feet sometimes when I get home from baseball. I really don't rub theirs because that's just gross but one of them usually rub mine for about two hours a day. Should I rub theirs? Sometimes if I ask two of them will do it at the same time on each foot. Also does anybody else's family go barefoot all of the time? My family is always barefoot everyday from when we get home to when we leave the house is that normal. I know this is a weird topic but I was just wondering if I am being rude by not massaging any of their feet?

I'm a dad who has main custody of my 2 kids. Their mum lives in another state. As a result, I have little to work because I want to take good care of my kids (I think that love is more important than money). My 2 kids are invited to 2 birthdays at the same time. Another mum offered me to take my daughter to a birthday with her kids, and I could bring my other daughter to the other birthday. I don't want to pay for 2 gifts on the same day. Should I just go to 1 birthday only, or should I accept the help of the mum but not give a gift to bring to my daughter? This mother will bring a gift for her daughter.

I have an 8 year old. His dad left us when he was 5 months.He has not been with taking him consistently. He wouldnt contact us for a while. Then he would. He has also brought 3 other women around my son.He has maybe taken him to doctors appts 2 times when we were together. No school involvement. I have done the best I can with him. I work full time and have our own apt, my own car. I have had him in school since preschool.He isnt in sports,we tried basketball and I found out he is just not a sports child. This summer I want to get him into outdoor activities,like at our local arboretum.I work FT I cant run him all over. I also do not have much family to help. My sons dad recently inquired on the medication my son was takingWhich he has maybe asked 2 times in his 8 years. He is dating a cannabis pharmacist and i had a hunch she was wondering. I said it was none of her business. He confirmed my hunch and said she could evaluate his medication. I have never met any of the women be brings around my son.I dont even know her. I feel this was not okay. He recently told me my son was bullying someone.I was never contacted by the school to be told that. He wouldnt tell me where he got his information. Then quit responding. I contacted the school and they knew nothing and had no complaints and that my ex wasnt even in contact with the school.I told my ex i wanted boundaries set before he could see his son, now he is threatening me with court. I am at a loss of what to do.

My brother has a sadistic personality and repeatedly harassed family specially my mother. we are cruel with him for many years because of his behaviors. I don't have father. Our new issue is that he don't like my mother's "cat" . he says "i will throw out this cat because cat is pregnant and its not good for home, we are not Cat orphanage!" but my mother don't have problem with that. I'm in my mother's side and i think he is doing this only for harassing mom. but if i start arguing with him, It may make things worse and even dangerous. I'm 30 and he is 40. both single. Where i say "cruel" , i mean upset : we are upset with each other for years. my poor English.

That was the way it was back then. No one called a 10 year old a preteen and no 16 year old was a teenager. They were either minors or adults, nothing in between. No person under 18 are adults, so they're children. Nobody 18+ Is a child, so they're adults. It makes things more general and simple.

So my parents are divorcing after my a police officer caught my mom doing heroin and encouraging my 15yo brother to do it as well (he refused, thank God). My dad went berserk when he found out - he immediately threw my mom out and filed for sole custody w/o visitation, which was granted (and I agree with his decisions). However, my mom's got a lawyer to work out the divorce and to attempt to get my brother back in her custody (I moved about about a year ago, I'm 21). Out of the blue, she is asking me to help her pay for her lawyer. I have a job but am also finishing up college, paying rent & bills for my apartment, and am currently a volunteer firefighter. I do not want to pay for her layer (I don't believe anyone in their right mind would support her fight to get my brother back). I also cannot afford it. She is harassing me constantly - leaving messages, showing up at my apartment, etc. She's not in jail or prison as the judge told her she could either go to prison or go to rehab. The reason I post this here is as follows: 1. I'm curious as to what your take on the matter is 2. I'm interested in why you think my mom would ask me to do something like this, given I've told her outright I don't support her cause 3. What would you do if something similar happened to your family?

They say no just as i get my clothes off my daughter in law saids she has to go pee i told her i asked if anyone had to go to the bathroom before i get showered.it annoys me when she does that she does it all the time.do you have someone do that to you let me know and if it annoys you.

I've been hearing things like this over the past year that if two teens that are 14 and 15 can get Introuble all because they had sex. I don't see what the big deal if they both in a relationship and both clean, use protection or do other sexual things besides penetrating. Where I live at the age of consent is 16 and most girls where I live at already had sex with their boyfriends before 16 most had sex at 14 already so wouldn't half the world would be in jail? I think it's dumb teens are going to have sex anyways Parents hell not even the law can stop teens from having sex so I think this law should change and not charge underage teens rape

I'm 21 and still live at home for now. My parents know that I've been talking to this guy that I met online and they found out I've been sneaking around with him any lying saying I went somewhere with this other person but really I was with him. Me and that guy never plan a day and exact time to hangout, he just tells me to come over but I never do because if I just say I'm going over to his house late at night that we're going to have sex (which we probably will but I don't want them to know) my parents know I've met guys online and had sex with them so they'll know if I leave the house late at night to go to his house that they'll know I'm going to have sex with him. Should I be honest and tell them? They'll question me if I just get up and leave.

My roommate's mother "gave" her 13 year old son to him. The kid got kick out of school in December 2017 and will not return til August 2018. He goes to the library for school about 3 days a week for about two in a half hours. Otherwise he is my house with no supervision. The kid does not have a father present n their mother is raising her daughter. My roommate is in no position to take care of his half brother. I want to avoid calling because I was afraid they will place him in foster care. At this point I can't help but think their mother abandoned their younger brother. She does see him, but her vacation is over. It's been two months.What should I do?

My stepmom gets annoyed when my dad graciously offers to pay for my things. I'm 17 and live at home, and sometimes my dad will want to buy me things so I don't need to spend my saved money from summer jobs. I don't expect him to do this, but I'm super grateful whenever he does. Yet, my stepmom gets annoyed. When I was young my dad bought me some new clothes, around $200. He rarely did that, yet she got pissed. He'll even buy her Coach bags and designer things every once in a while, but she's an adult with her own job. So why the heck would she get mad at her husband buying his daughter school clothes? And recently, she got mad at the fact my prom dress would be over $100 even though it's not coming from her account. My dad makes 3x what she does, so maybe she's insecure about that? I'm not sure, what do you guys think? It's gotten to the point where we can't talk about money around her, and I don't like that

I moved out as soon as I turned 18. I hated being under my parents control. I got almost no privacy and whatever I wanted for myself didn't matter, it was always about what they wanted. When I was 16 I always wanted to have longer hair. My parents never allowed it and threatened to take everything from me if I didn't get it cut. Now I have longer hair about 4 inches past my next and a full beard. They hate it and tell me to cut it every time they see me. A lot of the time they tell me I look like a girl from behind, which I really don't because my hair doesn't grow straight down, it just sort of curls up. My dad thinks that if you're a real man, you have to have short hair. I have a wife and 2 boys and one time my mom said to my wife "How can you live with him? He looks like a slob!" My mom kind of jokes around like that but knowing how she is I took it seriously. If I do something that they don't agree with, then they'll do anything to get me to change. My mom still talks to me like I'm 12. My dad just goes along with everything she says because he's scared to voice his own opinion. One time he even had the nerve to tell me to "Set a good image for my kids and get my hair cut" but when I was growing up, he smoked pot, was always gone, never really had a job. My mom was the one who supported me and my sister, not my dad. And he's telling ME I need to set a good image for my kids? He's such a hypocrite and I really don't want my kids around him. What should I say to them? It's not just about my hair. It's about any decision I make in life. If I get a certain job that my parents don't like, they'll persuade me forever to change. When I told them I was having a second kid with my wife, they said "Why would you do that? You only needed one". My dad acts like a little baby whenever I do something that he doesn't agree with. For example, if I buy a certain car from a brand he hates, he has a mental breakdown about it. I don't understand what his problem is.