His sister in law called us at 2am in the morning telling my bf that his mom was "scared" she keeps hearing some kind of noises in the house..but nobody leaves there no more we left that house and his cousin left because nobody wants to live with his her..she complains too much anyway my bf said he is going to go to his moms house and come back and i was pissed because its 2am and take 30mins driving there and coming back will.be an hr.. And i dont understand why his sister in law called because she lives 10 mins away from his moms house and her husband can go and the past weeks his mom always scared living alone and i get tired hearing it all the time what should i also have a baby so im in alot of stress and depression after birth should i tell my bf just live at his moms house because im so mad

I got my license when I was 16 and I'm 19 now and still have never had a car. My parents made me take the bus in high school and then when I went to college I lived in a dorm which gave them further reason not to get me one. All three of siblings got brand new 2018 Malibus on their 16th birthday but me. It makes me sad and I have zero freedom. I have a four month summer break and I can't even get a job because I don't have a car. I literally have to still ask my mom to drop me off at my friends' houses which are 30 min away as it is. I asked my parents if I could even get a cheap, old, used car but they said no. They said they'll get me a car when I graduate graduate school (when I'm 24). It's just no fair and I have no freedom. How do I convince them to buy me a car? They call me spoiled everytime i ask even though every single person I know has a car. Even both my rommmates have cars on campus and they always go places with their friends but I'm always stuck in the dorm. - my siblings didn't get 2018 Malibu's... I mean that they all got Malibu's from the year they turned 16. So my sister got a 2014 in 2014, my brother got a 2016 in 2016, etc - my family is the richest they've ever been. They were poor when my sister go her car. I have never done an expensive extracurricular whereas both my brothers play golf which they spend thousands on every single year

I have a cousin who's half Mexican and our family doesn't really like him or his mom. He's aware of how we feel about them so he unfriended a lot of us on Facebook except for me and my parents probably because we're the only ones to have visited him. But he changed his last name and everything. I haven't spoken to him in a couple of years since I last saw him but he's 18 now I'm 28 and it's not like we were ever close. I don't know much about him, he's pale enough to pass for white he has a baby face and dresses very well but there's no reason for me to keep him on social media. He only has me on Facebook because I sent him a friend request and he accepted it. I only sent it because he's cute and I felt kind of sorry for him.

So about 3 years ago I caught my dad drinking in the car, so the next time it happened I took photos of it he got supper pissed and striked me in the chest hard enough to leave bruises. Not knowing what to do I told my mom ( parents are divorced). When I first saw him in therapy 2 yr ago after the incident he claims he never did it. I know he did because I clearly saw it . not calling him a liar I truely believe in his own mind he doesn't remember doing it but I do because I saw it. If he truely believed he didn't do it he might feel like I framed him which I didn't and I would never do because I love my dad. I am also giving home the benefit of the doubt he could be lieng. I know live my mom for the past 3 years. I only see my dad once a week for like 2 hours just for chruch and he lives down the block from me by the way, it's like this not because he forced to but he just chooses not be involved in my life. He has the option to ask me to stay the night with him so we could be a family again. My mom thinks I schould make a bold move and tell him that he needs to be more involved in my life or I would refuse to see him for chruch anymore. I could do this and force his hand to bascily be a dad or lose me. Or I could lose him forever idk what to do? Also I am not sure if he just nervous and is waiting for me to reach out or he has just gave up on me. I am just a teenage boy and he a full grown man wouldn't it be on him to try to fix things after what he did.

Then said my hips got a little bigger. I was not intending to insult her, why should she insult me?

what should i do?

I'm 20 and I have a girlfriend who is 19. I don't have the financial capability to move out yet but I've been trying to save money as best I can. My parents will literally ruin every chance I have of having sex. One time they came home early and caught my girlfriend and I and kicked her out. They also go through my room all the time when I'm gone and take away my condoms. They take my car keys at night so I can't go over to my girlfriends house. Sometimes they get up in the middle of the night and check on me (Seriously, I'm 20, not 12). All they can say is "Our house, our rules" if that's your excuse then you can't forbid me from going to her house because I can technically have sex over there where it's not "your house". My parents have sex every night but apparently it's so wrong if I do it. They wouldn't even know we were doing it if they didn't come check on us every 30 minutes. I'm a grown a$$ man and I can't even have sex because my parents want to keep controlling me. They've even threatened to set up cameras in my bedroom. What can I do about this? Do I have to put up with this until I move out? Maybe I wasn't clear enough. Yes I do have a job and yes I do pay rent. I pay my own car and phone payments but my parents still think they are entitled to take those away. I signed my phone contract and my car is registered under my name. I have asked numerous times for them to lower the rent so I can save a little more money and move out quicker but the answer is always no. I feel like a prisoner in my own home.

My little sister (14) has been out of f*cking control lately. She's been suspended more than once this year and has gotten into several fights. My parents have considered sending her to a reform school. Anyway, on Friday night she snuck out and took MY CAR. I didn't know because I was at a friends that night and her home is in walking distance.When she got caught, my parents blamed me or not putting my keys in a better place, so they've not only grounded her but they took my car! I had no part of this and I don't know how to convince them of that! What can I do? The car is gone for two weeks btw, meaning I'll need to take the public bus in order to get to and from school.

well the story is that, me and my parents live in canada and my background is from india. Well, she does go to work quite often, but she really doesn't hang out with coworkers as much, like i feel like she's eats alone at work, and she just seems lonely and it makes me sad. The only time she seems not lonely, is when she talks to her sisters or mom on the phone. And when we do go to india she's the happiest ever. Maybe she misses her mom and sisters, or idk?

I have lived in the same house my entire life and live at a college an hour away from it. But on February 1st, I came to Austria to study abroad. Since coming here I've made acquaintances (go out to bars together at night-but no one I'm close with or anything as all they care about is drinking) and by the time I leave, I'll have traveled to 11 countries. I leave May 25th and since the day I arrived here I've been counting down the days till I get home. My parents are my best friends and I am one of 4 siblings- all of them are married with babies and I miss them like crazy. All 10 of them came to visit me and they just left and I've never felt so alone and homesick. I am so tired and stressed out and seeing my family was such a relief. I want to this month to go by so fast and just be with people who truly care about me.. Is there any way to make this month go by faster and to stop constantly thinking about them? Thanks!

I'm 16 (male) and my parents control every aspect of my life. If I come home a minute late, my dad gets mad. Every time I'm out driving around, my dad has to call or text me every hour asking me when I'm coming home. My parents clean my room while I'm gone so I never know where they put anything. Oh, guess whay happened recently? Just yesterday I went to get my hair cut (I'm growing it out and I just wanted to get it cleaned up) my mom called ahead and told my barber "Hey my son is coming in to get his hair trimmed. He wants it longer in the back but I want you to trim it all." And my barber agreed. So now I have this terrible haircut and I have to wait 6 months for it yo get back to how it was. So my parents and barber decided that MY opinion doesn't matter. I guess I don't have the right to my own hair now. I don't have a girlfriend, and I'll never have one as long as I'm still living with my parents because they'll just become even more controlling and annoying. Sometimes my dad snoops around my room and one time he took my vape juice. It was hidden in a cabinet behind some stuff. I asked him what he was doing in my room and he said "I was making your bed" alright, well that doesn't require you to go through my cabinet. He smokes pot but that's ok. I can't vape without nicotine because apparently it's the "first step to ruining my life". I don't know anybody else's parents who are like this. How do I put up with this for the next year and a half?

My girlfriend cheated on me with her baby daddy. She never told me until she was pregnant. Her daughter is still very much active in his life, when he found out she was pregnant he asked why they didn't start a family. (He cheated on her multiple times and is not someone who will come to terms with me dating her, no less impregnating her). When she told me she spoke to him about it she said it in a kind of sorrowful way... I'm in a dilemma because I care for both very much and now I'm tied with her because of the child. I'm just not sure how to go about this and would like opinions as my head is spinning 100 directions. Do you guys believe she still may have feelings for him? And if not what is the best way you believe to handle this, she says she still has to drop her off and it's best if they still play with her for her childhood upbringing, am I being overly protective or am I sane in my thinking? Any judgment would help mean or not I just need other opinions.

I got a call from my former mother in law Pam asking for my help moving programs and data from her old computer to her new one. I really liked her when I was married to her daughter Lisa so I agreed to help her. She offered to pay me but I told her I don't charge friends for my help. Much to my surprise about a week later I got a call from Lisa asking me not to help her mother any more. She said her mom should be calling her current husband for help, not me. I told her that I would have a hard time not helping a friend that asked for help. About 6 months later I got a call from Pam asking from my help again to get her computer up and running. I told her about what her daughter Lisa ask me to do. Pam said Lisa had told her the same thing and she ask Lisa's husband for help with her computer and he fouled it up so bad it would not boot up. I went to her house and fixed her computer problem. I am having second thoughts about helping Pam again. Am I going to cause Pam a problem with her daughter or is her relation with her daughter none of my business? What would you advise I do in the future? THANKS.

I cant get over how attractive my dad is. I think about him alot. I dont get to see him but i miss him

What if rent, food, utilities, bills, insurance, etc take up most of your paychecks? And then there's the retirement fund. There is no money left over for a college fund.

He never let guys approach me.He told them that if anyone sees you with her you ll be made fun of.What did he want?What was his plan?His ultimate goal?Make me commit suicide?Which I ll never do.

To help. She s told me before that her mum is emotionally abusive too telling her she s fat or that she regrets having her, the thing is my friends attitude about this is very worrying as well- that she still thinks her mum is a good person and it s not a big deal and she feels she s betraying her mum by telling someone about this, she says it doesn t happen a lot just in arguments. She s planning to move back in with her parents in September and I m afraid the abuse will get worse or more frequent,

About 22 years ago (I am 41 now for reference), my mother beat me due to an issue with rage she has that left me with over 50 bruises on my body. I did nothing to deserve this treatment. Because of this, I did not speak to her for over 2 years (I also had no contact with my mom's side of the family either which was nothing new anyway due to my parents divorce which is another very long story). When i reunited with my mom, she apologized and i chose to forgive her, however; I noticed that when i came to my mom's family get-togethers, everyone gave me weird looks and acted stand-offish which i thought was strange. Moving to the present time (22 years later) I just found out why the family was acting that way. My little brother told me that they were acting like this because mom was telling the family that i deserved to be hit and she down-played to everyone what actually happened. So naturally, my family thought it was my fault and that I should have been the one to apologize to my mom and i should never have left. Additionally, over the past 20 years, my mom took out her vengeance on my autistic-step brother and beat him many many times. My mom also spreads gossip, she lies or down-plays situations that she is involved in to family so they think she is innocent. My mom has done this stuff to my brother, my sister and me. Mom always apologizes but it has destroyed us as a family and the other family members (cousins, aunts/uncles, grandparents) do not believe us. Now my mother is dealing with some alcoholism and she just broke her ankle. My mom downplays her situation and everyone else thinks she is fine. My mother claims that she has been seeing a psychiatrist however i don't believe her / or i don't think she is being 100% honest. I want to do something to help my mother but the entire family is against us adult kids (because my mom lies to them and tells them we are actually the problem). This is more than difficult if you can imagine.

Lately I've been feeling down that I'm behind in life and I haven't accomplished much for myself and I'm getting too old. I was raised by my dear mother who has been a widow since my father passed away 23 years ago. She did her best to raise the family... after graduating high school, our family needed my financial support. I helped my family for about 4 and a half years. I worked two jobs sometimes, I didn't party nor get into trouble. I thought I didn't have a future because I was stuck at a dead end job. I was depressed but I still worked. Then I went back to school at the age of 27. Did stellar, while I worked through school to pay rent while studying full time. Now I've transferred toone of the schools considered to be a public ivy league school as a transfer student pursuing a STEM major degree... I'm 31 and competition is insane at my school. Everyone is younger and smarter than I am. I still get decent grades but I'm not stellar nor stand out like I used to at a community college anymore, while I still have a long way to go while being old and far behind everyone else... can I still be proud of myself?

I know that I just asked this question but I didn't specify the fact that I am 19. Anyways this could go really really smoothly or really really poorly and so I just need some pointers as to how I should go about talking to them. I will be talking to them tomorrow so I want to make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible. I will be talking to them while my friend is outside in the car so in case things get physical or they start to get aggressive or angry I can literally just walk out. Is there anything that they can do legally against me? Or am I free to go? I'm really nervous and I just need some advice on how to tell them that I'm not taking their controlling ways anymore I'm moving in with my dad..

I'm a child, still in middle school, and I live with my mom & brother most of the time because my parents split up when I was nine. I see my dad every other weekend. For the past 2-3 years, my mom has been controlling, intimidating, manipulative, and has refused to ever be pleased. She either yells or raises her voice at me any time I make a mistake, which in her eyes, is any time I do something. For example, I'll 'sweep the floors wrong' or misplace something, etc. and my mom will yell at me and try to intimidate me and insult me. I'll try to be nothing but polite to her, and she yells at me and doesn't give me any chance to explain how I feel. She puts me down any time I upset her. Any time I upset her, she gets in my face, uncomfortably close to me, and yells or raises her voice at me. She insults me and in passive aggressive ways, tries to make me feel bad and tells me everything is my fault. She says I am responsible for a lot of her problems and I have begun to feel that I really am responsible. She says I never do anything useful, but makes me do all of her chores around the house and clean up after her. She makes me worried, scared, guilty, and upset. For the past few years she's made me feel worthless and my mental health is horrible, and I constantly have suicidal thoughts, and her yelling at me doesn't make it better. I've told her about how I feel and she's put me on more than 10 medications and ignoring it instead of trying to help. I don't know what to do. Help

So about 3 years ago I caught my dad drinking in the car, so the next time it happened I took photos of it he got supper pissed and striked me in the chest hard enough to leave bruises. Not knowing what to do I told my mom ( parents are divorced). When I first saw him in therapy 2 yr ago after the incident he claims he never did it. I know he did because I clearly saw it . not calling him a liar I truely believe in his own mind he doesn't remember doing it but I do because I saw it. If he truely believed he didn't do it he might feel like I framed him which I didn't and I would never do because I love my dad. I am also giving home the benefit of the doubt he could be lieng. I know live my mom for the past 3 years. I only see my dad once a week for like 2 hours just for chruch and he lives down the block from me by the way, it's like this not because he forced to but he just chooses not be involved in my life. He has the option to ask me to stay the night with him so we could be a family again. My mom thinks I schould make a bold move and tell him that he needs to be more involved in my life or I would refuse to see him for chruch anymore. I could do this and force his hand to bascily be a dad or lose me. Or I could lose him forever idk what to do? Also I am not sure if he just nervous and is waiting for me to reach out or he has just gave up on me. I am just a teenage boy and he a full grown man wouldn't it be on him to try to fix things after what he did.

So in my last Yahoo answers question I asked if I should move in with my dad and I've made the decision that I will be moving in with him this summer. So I'm going to have to let my mother and step-dad know that I will not be living at the house anymore. I'm letting them know this tomorrow but I'm really nervous as to how the conversation is going to go. It could go really really bad and I'll need some pointers. So can I get some advice on what to do? because I don't want anything to get physical or anything to get really really aggressive. I want this conversation to be calm and I want my parents to know that I love them and that this is a decision I'm making to better our relationship and not into it. Any advice I'm really really nervous?

I am 14 and male. My mom got angry at my sister for asking for a water bottle, but I went to get her one. After that she called me disrespectful, and that i think im smarter and better than everyone else. She told me that i have an attitude and caled my sister a drug addict, lazy *** drunk female. I went upstairs to give her the water bottle. My mom cussed out out for like 3 mins and went up stairs when she realized i was ignoring her. She opened the door, called my sister and her 3 year old daughter "******* drug addicts". She told me i would pay for being nice to them. I said ok then she pushed me and spit in my face. Is this okay? She was calling me a niggger and other hurtful words.(im white and so is she)

I have one child by him, but he doesn't want anything serious and he does not help me raise our son but he told me straight up he wants me to have 4 more children. I ended the relationship with him because I'm the only one who's been financially and fully responsible for our baby and I'm not planning on having anymore anytime soon. I just don't understand the logic behind what he's doing.

I was dating a girl in senior year in hs age 18. We dated for a year. No sex since it wasn't serious and she said she wanted to remain a virgin. We broke up and it's now been 4 years age 21. Long story short we began to talk again. She's claiming i just want to bang her but i told her i don't. I think she's saying this because a lot of girls hit on me she can see on social media. Long story short could this mean she's already slept around/been used for sex already?????

I guess I should start at the very start. My time in Highschool was hell, as it should be? I understand Highschool wasn't supposed to be daises. I lost my Aunt, to brain cancer. After finding out I couldn't have kids and that I had a Brain tumor myself. Things were supposed to be turning up for the better and then my dad walked out. He was gone for a while, my parents worked it out But since then My Feelings never mattered. It turned into " As long as your father is happy." This made things hard. because sometimes my mother would overlook the fact my dad was wrong and would Validate his side to keep him from becoming upset. The night I graduated they argued. I was handed a check from my grandmother and that was it. We got home and Now Im here, 2 Lost jobs and no Hope. I wasn't smart enough for school and Now Im at Witts end, I don't feel like im every gonna amount to anything and that Im Stuck where I am.

I live in a maternity home and the house mom keeps convincing me to do all these chores such as lifting heavy objects and bleaching the bathroom. I just gave birth to my son on the 6th and still recovering because it was a complicated delivery yet she doesn't seem to understand that. She's also tried telling me to leave my baby to cry while doing chores and that I don't need the bottom part of his car seat when I put him in the car. I'm getting seriously concerned so I'm constantly leaving the house to avoid her. I don't have anywhere else to go at the moment so I'm not sure what I should do.

When I was a freshman in high school, I attacked this girl in my class outside. I tackled her down to the ground and starts growling and started biting on her. Then this other girl in my class named Victoria told me "you're a beast". What did she mean when she called me a beast??

I'm 15 and a girl my family is going through a hard time and my mother she and I weren't always close and to be honest my brother and I have always been embarrassed by her. She's always been a drunk and verbally and emotionally abusive but after my dad got arrested and we lost everything and my brother (my twin) started staying at a friends I was left alone with her and my mother started prostituting herself and it only caused more strain. My brother and I we've always called her out on her behavior and have always told her to stop acting like a whore and I got into this fight with her then I was in a wreck I suffered some temporary memory loss and my mother she took advantage of that but not in a bad way I mean there's no good way but she cleaned up her act and it took her a while to own up to the truth. She told me things about her past while I was recovering. I learned her mother was a prostitute when she was six her mom let men do things to her for money her mom also sold her to a pimp when she was 12. My mom also doesn't know but my brother told me he found out from our grandpa that he used to pay her for sex and one day our dad raped her and when she got pregnant our grandparents made her a devil's bargain which involved marrying my dad. She was around 18 when that happened. My mom is running herself ragged out of guilt and I don't know how to stop her she's barely keeping it together. She hides it but she's not well and I don't know what to do.

My son dated a lovely girl for 2 years. She acted inappropriately while drinking and my son found out. She was like the daughter I never had and I probably overstepped as her own mother is not in her life. She was at our home daily, went on vacations with us, etc. I feel cut off and miss her. I understand why they broke up and support my son. I know she is a good person that did something stupid. I would like to send her a note telling her that I thought so much of her and wish her the best. I have no intention of mentioning my son or why they broke up. My son does not mind if I do this. Is this OK?

Okay my sister in law checked her husband out of jail for dad s funaral. He was to be back @ 10She did not take him back. If they cross state lines will it be worse for them? He has 3 doughers in a different state he might try to pick up.

For as long as I could remember me and my mom have hated eachother and for absolutely no reason I just don't get along with her we think differently , act differently and have different likes and dislikes . For years family members , friends ( mines and her's ) solely blame me all the time for not respecting her but the problem is ... how do you respect someone you DONT LIKE . Every time I'm around her I am angry , depressed , silent . But around other people I'm happy , excited joyful it's only around her or her side of the family I want to pull my hair out and scream I'm debated going ghost ( not talking to ) my mom and her side of the family forever . I'm miserable and need advice PLEASE I'm litteraly crying rn writing this paragraph .

So i'll be turning 19 soon and graduating in a few months, and i was planning on moving out in july this year but my mother don't agree with me moving out because she thinks im still teenager. i feel like since i am legally an adult and i'll be done with school, its time for me to move out and get my own place. Especially when everybody moved out when they were 18 or 17 years old. What do you think?

When I was married to Joe he always gave me and my mother a VERY nice gift on our birthdays and at Christmas. We both greatly enjoyed these gifts. I thought that gift giving would stop after our friendly divorce. I was wrong. Joe continued to give us nice gifts on our birthdays and at Christmas. Giving nice gifts is just in Joe's DNA. I am now remarried. I still got a nice gift on my birthday from Joe. My current husband Bill was very upset that I got a gift from my former husband. He told me he didn't want me getting any more gifts from Joe. I told Joe to not send me any more gifts and he said he understood and he did not want to cause ANY PROBLEMS with my marriage. He did however continue to send gifts to my mother. When we were at my mothers house my current husband say a new wide screen TV and he ask mom where it came from. She did not want to tell him but she finally told him Joe had given it to her. When we got home Bill told me to tell Joe not to send my mother any more gifts as it made him look bad because we did not give mom any expensive gifts like the TV. I told my husband I can not control who Joe gives gifts to and I will not tell him to stop giving mom gifts. He is mad at me for not contacting Joe and tell him to stop giving mom gifts. Does my husband have a reason to be mad at me?