So this is long and drawn out, thank you for reading in advance. I have 2 brothers, our ages 38, 34, 31. Our dad had a brain aneurysm rupture 9 years ago, we are very lucky to still have him with us. Our "stepmom" has been there since, giving him the daily care he needs, a wonderful lady that we are so very thankful for. Now in saying that, step mom's kids 33, 29, 24, their father, her ex-husband passed away. The only stories we've ever heard from stepmom is about how horrible he was to her and her kids, physically and mentally, how after they divorced he kept the kids from her. The 2 youngest lived with her down here, (we live in AR they are from IL) for a long time, so it's not like they don't have good relationships. Step mom gets paid to take care of our dad, which prevents us from getting any type of in home care. She left on Saturday to go be with her kids, with the last part of the funeral being on Tuesday. We my brothers and our s/o's figured ya know 4 days or so. We know she needed to be there for her kids. It's Friday, she hasn't been able to give us any kind of time line as far as her returning. We are in a major bind, missing work because dad needs someone there at all times. She hasn't kept in contact, we've had to reach out every time, and each time it has been very quick convo, she'll get back with us when she has more time kind of thing. Not one time of the few we have talked to her has she asked how dad is doing.

I did physically have a mother but emotionally she was VERY absent. Her father died when she was 9 years old and I think it really affected her growing up. We never had long conversations or laughing together, or even hugging. She keeps every thing to herself and is always in her own little world. She sort of has given up on life and think she needs professional help. I'm so scared of having to go through adult life without supportive parents. My father supports me financially for my studies but we are not close either. I don't have emotional support from both my parents and just am really scared of going through life without support. I also have no friends, I've got social anxiety. Help

'Is it wrong to de- friend my in-laws on social media? They do not like me, they never have, they talk about me behind my back but smile to my face ( i mean when we see them the 2 times a year). On social media they do not "like" anything i post... yet they still " like" all of my husbands ex girlfriends posts... to me that is insulting. My husband even asked his family to remove his ex girlfriend but they said they will not because she is like a daughter to them.. ya know.. not their actual daughter in law or anything ... I honestly cannot stand them, but i dont want to cause drama by removing them, quite the opposite.. i want it to be drama free. They post things about family gatherings and parties t/hat neither i nor my husband were invited too and honestly its all just hurtful.. so would it be wrong to delete them? I just dont want anymore drama with them than what we have already endured.

My sister is having her first baby in October she's scared she and her husband are not gonna last long after she's born. She watches 16 And Pregnant and Teen Mom it kind of bothers her but they're not stupid teens who ran off and had sex or got drunk and did it they're both adults she's 25 he's 27 shes on birth control I don't see how she got pregnant she's got an IUD in. She said nothing prevents pregnancy except getting her tubes tide but she's not doing that. MTV makes it seem like everything is bad having kids , being in a relationship or married. I don't watch that channel because there's nothing but drama. I don't get why people watch it. She and her husband were together 3 months before they got married they're had no reason for it. I think she watches too much Teen Mom I think she needs a break from it for a while she's worried the only reason he's staying with her is because she's pregnant she sais if it weren't for the baby he probably wouldn't be with her. That's not true they were married for a year before she got pregnant. She watches too much of it I think it's getting to her head. Is it really this bad to have kids ? How can I help her feel better ?

My grandpa has always been very strange. He use to molest my mother when she was younger and her sisters. He abused my grandma and taunted her when he remarried. He left her with their 7 kids and she was very poor with no money. He would send her a big check but on the check he would write "if you cash this check you agree to never ask me for money again" she threw the check away. She filed for child support but he's highly intelligent and they could never find him. In the 90s my mom, who was now an adult, moved in with him and I was there too. She had no where else to go. She found photos of dead bodies on his computer. She doesn't know if he took those pictures himself or if he just saved them from around the internet. I'm unsure if she ever told anyone. He also tried molesting me. When I was a teenager, he emailed me asking for nude photos. My cousin went missing in 2011, she was found alive a few days later and she says our grandpa kidnapped her, raped and beat her. He was never arrested because of lack of evidence. He knows how to get out of every situation. He's in his 70s today and I haven't heard from him in years but I always wonder if he has murdered women in the past. Is there anything I would be able to do to find out? Do I go to the police? I feel like they wouldn't take it very seriously. I'm sure if his DNA was entered in the system, they might crack some cases.

I am 17 I have a job and I payed $250 for a Shiba Inu that I have my parents are telling me to get rid of her because I don't have time for her and they can't help with her since they both have jobs. I have a 19 year old sister who currently doesn't work she just takes college classes online and my parents told her that she can get a dog when she asked them. What should I do?

My daughter thinks that if she were 11-12 years old with a college age sister at the time, it would've been much harder on us. Compared to if she has brothers.

i love my fiancee and i know in my heart we're meant to be we met at 16 and are now 19 his parents are happy for us but my parents refuse to help pay for the wedding if we go through with it. he's already proposed. we still live with his parents but i'm getting a job soon and will be attending college once i get my ged he's looking for work. we can support ourselves once we get settle and that's why we're waiting a year. how do i convince them

I am pushing 30 years old and my mom treats my like I am still a kid. She is against facial hair and tells me to shave every time I see her. Also thinks I should dress nicer even though I think I dress decent every time I am around her. She told my girlfriend once "tell him to dress more professional" but her husband is always wearing gym shorts and work clothing every time I see her. What does everyone think?

We broke up and when I tried going back(6 months ago) he said he wouldn't forgive me for saying something about his mom when he said something to mine first(idiotic).I didn't chase him. We ran into eachother one day i expected him to ignore but he smiled and said hi.Now he keeps looking at me, making eye contact and i caught him looking at me sneakily through the door crack. He's started coming out about the same time as I do and he said hi hesitantly and smiling. Few Sundays ago I was going down the stairs and he was behind me. He was "on the phone" saying he was leaving church and would call back which wasn't necessary since church was already over. I feel like he did it so I'd know he was behind me. We walked next to eachother he smiled and said how are you. We had a few exchanges and I asked him about his sick brother. The following week he didnt show himself inside church(he's a deacon) as I was leaving he was behind me going down the stairs. I turned around just saw a glimpse of him and turned back around didn't say hi. We've kept locking eyes every sunday and he smiled but today he didn't do that, almost cold. If he was interested would he act like this? But why not making a move?

My mom is interested sorda into a guy. she has been divorced a year. this guy has been divorced a month. He got divorced because he is a alcoholic. We have cats and he is allergic. He drinks extremely heavily. He calls and wakes us up a lot.

I got dressed up and had my picture taken for my mom for her 50th birthday at the time, but now I hate how I look even though she loves it. I hate my face and I think I'm disgusting looking, so I'm going to tear up the photos of me and throw them in the garbage

I feel like that's not something you should ask a little kid for 0.o I'm already scared of him (for multiple reasons, he's not a good person ;-;) so I just gave it to him, he said he would pay me back. He also made me promise not to tell anyone about it. Is this kind of thing not a big enough deal that I just shut my mouth and not tell anyone, or go to someone..?

So here is the thing. I am currently 16 years old. 6'1 and 230 lbs. My brother (who is 22) ****** up a lot in his life, although he is doing amazing now, my mom wont let me go out because she thinks im going to **** my life up like my brother. And every time i bring it up that im not, she says it isnt about him, even though it is obvious it is. She has Life360 on my phone, tracks me constantly, even though she doesnt let me out of my house. There is even a bubble around my home and school and if I go out of the bubble she gets a notification saying i left my home or school. I cannot hang out with my cousin, who has a car and has been practically driving for years before he got his permit. I can not go in his car and go back to his house or go to my friends house. I know kids who are in 8th grade and freshmen who parents let them go out and have a good time, get in peoples cars, take the train to go to areas, but every time i mention this she tells me that their parents do not love them and care about them, especially with my cousin because he was allowed to do what he wanted since he was young, even though it is far from the truth. Their parents love them and when i talk to them or when i am with them their parents call them to make sure they are okay and the kid can say, "im going to so and so, i love you" and their parents just are fine with it. I am 16 and I cannot have a girl friend, when i had one and my mom found out she forced me to break up with her, please help me

A couple of months ago I was in the car with my parents and sister and we were talking about family and stuff and a question came up who comes first? And my dad without a doubt said "my mom" and I was a little offended so I asked "what about us" and he was like "You guys come second; my mom is always first and than you are second". I don't know is it wrong for me to feel a little sad about what he said? Btw he's a huge mama's boy.

My son, who is 18, has his buttcrack showing all the time. He shows it in school and if we go somewhere in piblic, he will be showing it. Usually just an inch shows, so it is not too much. Should I care, or continue to let him show his buttcrack?

He built a massive entertainment center back in the 90s which was actually nice back the but is very outdated today. It is very large it takes up an entire wall. Over the years it ended up in my room and he has a hot wheel collection and a bunch of books and clutter on it. I've asked him to put it somewhere else like his room or really anywhere but my room but he won't listen to me. Why is he doing this to me? It's like he's doing it just to bother me. So I'm thinking about building my own shelf and putting it in his room with a bunch of junk on it. Is this a bad idea? This shelf is preventing me from arranging my room the way I want to. And it looks so bad now. I can't move it my self because it's too big. What should I do?

I'm 18 and I've been vaping for almost a year now. I've hid it well from my mom, but last week she found it. She was pretty mad upon first finding it, telling me there's nicotine in them and that I'm going to get addicted. I've already done my research into vaping and knew that there were a few risks. I accept the risks and choose to vape. My mom does her own "research" and emailed me the results. Basically saying propylene glycol causes allergic reaction, that I'm going to get addicted, etc..I didn't reply to the email because I know everything I need to know already, and whatever I say will only make her more angry. Last night she brought it up again asking if I know it has nicotine in a very condescending way. I said "uhuh, I'm not going to talk about this." She got frustrated and walked away. Although my juice does in fact have nicotine in it, she say ALL vape juices have nicotine as a scare tactic. Nicotine is now though to be less addictive than cigarettes, comparable to caffeine. This morning she said it was unfair of me to refuse to talk about this and said that's something you say to a stranger. I just sorta nodded and walked back to my room. As I was doing statistics homework, she walks into my room with a eye glasses cleaner saying she saw it in my backpack. She gets pissed off thinking that's its vape juice and thinks I'm lying by saying it's not mine. We got into an argument about this but shes hell bent on the fact it's vape juice.

First answer accepting the premise that family is in fact most important. Then feel free to answer from any other perspective (e.g. because family is not most important...).