The first few years we were married my mom helped us out financially. That was several years ago. We are in a MUCH better financial position now and my husband Jim feels it is his moral duty to pay back mom for her help. If mom wants something no matter how small or large, Jim gets it for her. It does not matter what it cost, if she wants it, he gets it for her. He also insist we take her to a very nice restaurant each month, something mom REALLY enjoys. I am happy we are doing this. Mom is happy with this so I was surprised that there is a problem with what we are doing. The problem is with my sister and her husband. They say Jim is making them look bad because they don't have the money to do the same thing with mom and they want Jim to stop buying things for mom and taking her out for a meal. I tried to tell them what Jim is doing HAS NOTHING to do with them. Mom does not love my sister any less because of what we are doing with her. I discussed this with my husband and he says what were are doing is the morally right thing to do with mom and my sister and her husband are just going to have to live with it. Can someone give me some advice on how I can handle this problem with my sister? Are we doing something wrong here?

Today my reading teacher told me an essay that I poured my hear into was too "opinionated" I spent days writing that assignment and I put in so much effort. Then my social studies teacher gave me after school for literally throwing a piece of paper. This all happened throughout the day and all of it made me cry but then I thought good news would surely come. The one thing I wanted more than anything was to make my upcoming high school's dance team. I filled out the application and I've been practicing so much to the point where my thighs are so sore, it hurts to move. I informed my mother about a week ago, she was supposed to pick me up from my school @ 2:30 to take me bc tryouts started @3:00. SHE DIDN"T and I had to take the bus. When I arrived at home, she was in the shower she spent like 20 minutes there. I live approximately 15 minutes from the audition's location. I couldn't walk because it's raining. Now it's currently 3:32, too late. I HATE my mother and everyone else in the world including me. I'm literally asking what i've done wrong to get these punishments. I want to die and last time i cut myself was last March bc of extreme bullying, Not that it has stopped or anything. I haven't anything all day and i'm not going to hopefully ill die. Oh my gosh, I hate her, my mom knew how much this meant to me. She hasn't even spoken to me

I have an older sister named Hinoka. She smokes 6 packs a day and it s starting to scare me. First, her voice started to become this disgusting mess. She sounds like a LUNATIC. She talks about protecting me from Nohrians??? She says she will join the army to protect me from them??? What the hell is going on. I m getting really scared now. My two brothers play along and don t bat an eye. My cousin who s living with us is just like my brothers. My sister doesn t even understand what s going on since she s a little slow no fault of hers. The worst part is, my own MOTHER plays along and acts like my sister isn t crazy. I m really scared. What the hell do I do???

My daughter is now 21 and has no job, doesn't go to school (dropped out of college), and lives at home with us. She dropped out of college with the hope of becoming famous on YouTube or being known her vlogs/ photos, and just making money through that. Well it's been a couple years now, and we bought her expensive cameras, a new laptop - in total around 7k AT LEAST I'm assuming. At first we did it because we believed that she take it seriously and maybe actually make a name/ at least earn money. Wrong. She stays home all day, she does have a part time job (if it counts as a job, she's home all but 2-3 hours of the whole week and she barely gets paid since again her part time job barely earns her anything). She sleeps until the afternoon sometimes, doesn't do chores (may vacuum a few times a month, no dishes, nothing), has no real responsibility. What can we do? She says she's gonna move out when her pet dies so she's taking care of it - is her excuse - which does seem to be partially accurate as she cares a lot about her pets, but is that really a legit reason? No.

My trillion googolplex spirits individually ordered me to not stay in my house as soon as possible in my possession in your possession in their possession.

My sister is married to my best friend who's the drummer for my band since she's been with him she's been acting like a brat he gets her anything she wants. She had at least 15 things on her Christmas list he got all of it for her he gets her anything and everything. She's been really pushy and bossy lately my husband was in their room cleaning for them she got mad and kicked him out her husband was the one who asked him to do it. She told him if he didn't get out she bring him in there and kick him out. She gets mad when nothing goes her way. She has to have everything her way. Just because she's our manager she thinks she cam boss us around. I know it's what managers do but she beyond bossy. Our uncle is our boss he don't care if she's being this way. She used to be so sweet and nice. Now she's stuck up thinking she's little miss perfect. What's gotten into her ? Is this normal behavior ?

i have done bachelors in my home country and just came to US 1.5 year ago and i got job within 2 month & i am earning 60,000 per year and she, and she was earning 50,000 when i came to USA, and she did Masters and now she got job for 100000 per year in good company, so now a days she keep telling me you are not earning much, you living on me,you are stupid, you have to find new job for more $ , every 2 days she shouts and speak abusive words too me and my family, she never respect me as husband. even she dont know how to cook so everyday i have to cook for her, i am not allowed to have my personal bank account, she manage all money from my salary account and her salory acount though we both have joint account,and only give me $50 per month to use for all my personal expenses no more than that because her father train her to do that,she gets angry even sometime she don't like my cooked food,she get angry on every small matter like i open window for fresh air, i have to hear so many abusive words to make this mistake for open window.everyday i am walking on egg shells, i am afraid that she don't get angry and start yell.she check my mobile everyday all message and facebook, whatsapp everything. she control whom i have to talk and whom not. i am finding another job to keep her happy but its not easy to get job right away, how can i explain her?

So I m an 18 year old boy currently in college and I use social media of course (specifically Instagram and Snapchat) and some of my friends include some relatives like my mom (the mom that I m friends with on snap she didn t raise me my step mom did), my two sisters and my brother. Sometimes at my college I smoke weed and put it on my snap, my siblings don t care about it, but my mom saves those specific snaps of me doing dumb stuff even though she doesn t do that for any other stuff and I m just wondering...why? I m 18 and I don t know you like that and even though I can t say to respect my privacy as it s my fault for even adding her as my friend, I feel like she s sending this stuff to my dad, who s a very religious person (my step mom probably wouldn t care either). This happened last night and I messaged her saying why she saved that snap of me smoking, and she read it but didn t reply back, which is even more reason for me to suspect I think. So what do ya ll think I should do, block her from all social media and realize that she s probably a spy or talk it out with her first?

Many parents feel somehow responsible if their kid is bullied and rejected at school. It's most likely not their fault as children can be cruel, especially middle schoolers. My mom acted like I had no problems at all, when I was showing signs of distress and not getting along with others. This seems to be a very common thing. No matter how much it had nothing to do with the parents, they blame it on themselves that their child has a hard time.

I am 18 years old and just got my first job. Ive waited so long because my mother always relies on me to watch my little brother and sister. My sister will be in the 6th grade next year and my little brother will be in 1st. I'd hate to leave them at the house alone but I need a life of my own to. I dont want to be a bum using excuses for being a loser in life. Ive recently started college and Im planning on working a lot and taking courses over the summer. Ive talked to my manager and he is upset with me for the obvious reasons I can only work very limited hours on weekdays and weekends because I have to babysit nearly everyday. My mother thinks Im easily influenced by my manager every time I mention her finding another babysitter. Her reasoning is: If Im living in her house I have to contribute in some way which is babysitting. I want to move out but between paying for college and only making minimum wage I have no choice but to stay at home (I cant rent a room on campus because I go to a community college).

Been harassed my whole life. Had major surgery after life threatening accident. Asked my parents to stay with them for two days. They said no. I forgave, but I will not forget. Then a year later they ask me to help them clean the gutters.... Which I did...but now I feel foolish and used... They didn't care I almost died, and now will never be the same after they cut out half my collar bone and cut into my knee :-[ How do I move on? I feel hurt and abandoned...

I'm 16 and my parents have been divorced for about five years now. I wrestle and I'm a state champion in that but I really hate it a lot because I've cut weight a lot and he's pushed me into it since I was a little kid. Now that I hate it I just want to quit before college and enjoy myself, I get a fairly decent 3.67 GPA and I am doing well in my social life. I just can't wrestle anymore and when I told him I wanted to quit, he called me many names and threaten to hit me if I didn't stop "defying him" so I need advice, my mom is supportive and stable and I live with her three days a week and I want to live with her for time now instead because she is supportive and I feel safer and more at home there. Any advice on how to go about getting a change of housing would be appreciated and any advice regarding anything else would be awesome thank you.

Her school does nothing about physical abuse. A girl tries to prevent her coming home unless she lies about sexual abuse. Her bully is in foster care so the behaviour I'm describing is extreme for their age. My daughter is at a hormonal age. She has no real friends except for an 18 year old girl who will be graduating school soon. She feels like she's not good enough to have a friend like that. We put her in counselling at school once per week. The bully got a group of girls against her, beating her. Most of them seem to be from dysfunctional homes and family members who commit crimes.

My older sister is almost 37. We are 4 years apart, and have always been close. My sister married when she was 23, and thankfully divorced her husband as there were many issues he put her through, including infidelity. However, since her divorce, since her late 20s, she has had one bad relationship after the other. She hasn't dated tons of guys and isn't the type to go to clubs, etc., but the men she has dated turn out to be jerks.The first guy she dated post divorce was mean to her and irresponsible. He didn't even have a checking account! That lasted for almost 4 years. That relationship bled into her current one. This guy is an actor whom she met on Instagram. He claims she's his girlfriend, yet hasn't introduced her to any of his family, or shown her respect as she's always the one who has to go over to his place. When he texts her, he never asks how her day is, etc.; it's been almost 3 years that they've been "together." With both guys, she's cried and said how horrible she feels about herself when she's with them, yet takes forever to leave them. Everyone and their mother has told her to leave this current guy, but she still keeps at it. She always says that she's had enough, yet allows him to use her and not even protect himself when they're intimate, because it upsets him. I want to be supportive and help her, but am married and have small children that keep me very busy. How can I be supportive yet not get frustrated when she keeps going in circles?

I am 15. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom and her on-again-off-again husband. I am really concerned that my mothers drinking has become an addiction. It will be weekday nights and she will drive herself home completely wasted. One time I found her in her car asleep after coming home from a bar on a Wednesday night. Its like she's a completely different person too. She gets so mad and belligerently angry with me for nothing when she's drunk. But when she's sober she acts like everything is fine. She has never once apologized to me for her excessive drinking. I know I need to talk to her but how? Please help me. Thank you

There is this guy at my job who really likes me and I can barely work because he's always staring at me sometimes I bust out laughing or have to cover my face because his desperateness just drives me insane. Whenever I turn around he's there. He's so over the top that I laugh at him.. sometimes I wanna be serious but it's so hard that boy has me rolling on the floor sometimes.. don't get me wrong I like him too but I give him his space and don't be watching him work and stalking his life in the work place.. overall is it bad that it laugh at him?

The daughter is 24. The aunt likes that I am the only one to be honest in the extended family when she is trying to find out what her daughter has done wrong. Yet my parents are bugged I tattle on their niece.

I am 13 years old and have an identical twin sister. We are always going everywhere and doing everything, and it has gotten really annoying. We decided to go to separate middle schools to lead different social lives, but it isn't working. I had my friend over, and my sister also goes where we go and even climbs on top of the room to knock on my insect screen. She constantly tries to sneak into my video chats with friends and it really bothering me. The other day she went to my exact location. I play baseball and we are in a tight-knit community there at Midway. She never goes there. She went there and it instantly bothered me. Those are my friends and she didn't even brush her hair. When she went to the port-a-potty, I told my friend to hold one hand on the door. When my sister went to get out, she got stressed, after 1.5 seconds of barely trying to get it open. My friend let go of the door and my sister was crying and screaming. I followed her to ask her if she was okay and say my apologies. In my head, I thought she would think "Oh, its not a good idea to be here, where my sister is, trying to have space with her friends." She called Mom and my mom would not listen to me whatsoever. I tried to explain myself, and how my sister was overreacting, and how I just want space one day a week, but she wouldn't let me. I go home and my sister told my even older sister who was visiting (she's 35) and ratted everything that I did. Read more in comments.

So my grandmother is in her late 50s and she is the type of person who puts other people's joy and happiness before her own. She has a boyfriend but he only comes on Saturday nights. This has been going on for years. I asked her when he and her were going to get their own place and get married, and she said that's not going to happen. Reason why is because she has 2 over grown brothers (both in their 50s) who live with her and she cannot move out because they would not have no where to live. They both have jobs but all of their money goes on drugs so they can't possibly save up to move out. She also doesn't want to leave her mom behind since she is elderly and we do not believe in nursing homes. My grandma is very bitter and I think it's because she is not really happy. How can I get her to see she is wasting her life on losers excluding my great grandmother???

My brother has a different father than me, and is considerably older than me, so we are not as close as two brothers should be but we are still very amiable. We see each other regularly enough, and since I live fairly close to him he always trusts me to care for his pets when he goes on vacations, for example. In February he became engaged. I know even after all these years his father is still VERY bitter towards my mom, and apparently he's only agreed to attend the wedding if my mom did not bring my father or me along. My brother wants both his parents to be there, so of course I was told that I would not be able to attend. I said it was fine at the time because I understood the pressure I was under, but truth be told it's actually irking me pretty bad that I cannot attend. I especially think it's unfair that his father will be bringing his own wife, along with their two children, and somehow he cannot see any hypocrisy to that. Also, as I know it might come up, his dad and my mom were never married. They had a relationship in high school that didn't work out, and he only became upset years later when mom married my dad.

so, every summer me and my family go visit india, to meet our aunts and cousins, and i just miss them so much for some reason. Especially my 12 year old cousin, since im just 2 years old than her, and i just miss how happy my parents get when we're in india, and i just miss them so much for some reason ??

I have this utter disdain for my existence. My parents never loved each other and thought one day, "hey let's have a child, and show him at an early age how not to love the person you created this child with." I seen my parents argue, bicker, and fight on regular occasions. Sometimes it wasn't even because of me, they just did not like each other. So why create a child? Now I have to live with the burden of not having my mother who should have lived the rest of her life living and loving herself as opposed to taking care of me till she passed away. And my father, God knows where he is, is doing whatever. I inherited this man's voice, height and face and I can't even figure out where he lives. Why should I have to live with this burden?

My sister is 13 and she is an absolute nightmare. She runs rings around us. She answers back, shouts, screams so loudly all the neighbours can hear her, kicks walls, kicks doors, she broke the lock on the bathroom door by slamming the door so hard, she wrecks her room. When she yells at my parents and they reply she says "stop shouting, talk normal" but yet she is roaring at them. She never asks, she tells. She tells them "I'm going to a sleepover/I'm going to the cinema/I'm going to the shops." She never asks for permission and she should at her age. She was shouting, yelling and kicking from the age of 3 years old but it's got worse over the years. Since high school her attitude is rotten to the core. She fights with her family all the time. She has said very unforgivable things she's told me and our other sister and mom and dad that we aren't her family anymore and she prefers her friends over us. We have done nothing bad to her ever but she has terrorised us. Anyway she wanted to go to a concert with her friends and mom told her no she can't go because it's on at 9PM on a school night and she wouldn't be home to way after midnight. So she kicked, screamed and started saying I hate you all, you're nothing to me etc. She can't take no for an answer so she went to school but had packed a bag with spare clothes and she has went to the concert with her friends!!!! I don't even know who she is anymore. What would you do if this was your daughter/sister? What can we do? She makes up all this stuff like oh I feel you won't let me go to the concert I will get depression and I will make your life hell and I will cry and yell in my room all night. I honestly see no way back from the unforgivable things she has said and done. Also discipline was tried but it didn't work. Nothing has worked and at her age it probably never will.