What does that even mean to "be vulnerable"? I'm honestly sick of all this love dating marriage advice people give indiscriminately telling women how to get found by a good man and women have to do all this elusive complicated stuff like "be vulnerable" or "always sit with your legs closed" "always dress nice" etc. Its so tiring.

I met a man in the same boat as me...we were both unhappy....he didn't love his so called female friend living with him....and I git away from an abusive soon to be ex husband......so after a year we became lovers and he would come over my place almost everyday. Dated fir a yr and All of a sudden he goes on a tip to CA with her.....i was angry...i stopped calling him After three months of no contact he tells me that he thought he would never see me again and was almost in tears. Then we met up somewhere and one thing led to another. My feelings are deep for him and I don't know what it is he is so sttractive....he is like 58 but I'm 39. The female friend that lives with him is 57. I honestly thought he would love me but no after two years no. He hasn't let her go just recently he went his uncle bday and pics surfaced on social media of them together. She hit all close to my lover/man. I asked him about it and he said a picture is nothing and he didn't post it and how was I able to see it. It doesnt show the real situation between us. I like whatever. I wish I had a pic of me and another man that would piss him off. I'm upset and don't know what to do. I mean we never met each other families we were just lovers

So we order this Kabob place and use Uber Eats to deliver it to us. We got a lamb plate and beef plate. The plate that arrives has obviously one of the plates, but it also had a random baklava desert and smoothie that we didn't order. I ask my wife what's in it but she won't say and just keeps yelling and howling that it's not our order. Finally I'm like "dude! Stop being a b*tch and just tell me what's in there so we can see what part of our order they messed up". (Claiming its incorrect iwthout even opening the bag.) I explain that it's possible they got some of our order right but not all of it. (Which they did! The one plate was right.) She fervently deniss that tho and keeps yelling that it's not our order. She's acting totally berserk like an elephant with something underneath it's feet. Even when I show her the Plate of food and say "look dude this is clearly ours" she still is hollering and saying it's not ours, and then when I finally prove it's ours she says she "still won't eat it" and starts claiming "it's raw" when it's obviously not raw. (I tried it, it's fine.) Finally I lose my patience and say she's acting like a freaking c you next Tuesday (because she WAS!) and she completely loses it and starts throwing/breaking stuff in our home. Totally completely unhinged and out of control I don't know how to handle a person like this and I seriously think she needs some medical help. It's so weird how a wrong order would make you Kirk out so much. Help? Like I was obviously still going to complain to uber and get them to come back to fix our order (WHICH THEY IMMEDIATELY DID, NO QUESTIONS ASKED) but I didnt want them to have to make a THIRD plate when nobody would even eat it, and it would just go to waste. we already had ONE of the plates that was right. she was like acting like a retard, thinking that if I claim one plate was right that it must mean I am saying the entire order was right, or something

Im a woman in college. "You have an attractive, feminine style that men recognize and respond to immediately. Either you're already in a relationship with a great guy, or you'll meet him by the time you finish reading this paragraph. You're willing to risk your heart, but you're putting the odds in your favor by setting your limits and letting him take the lead. There's nothing to stop you from having a passionate, intimate romance"

Been with my partner for 2 years almost, I don't want to get married anytime soon, but if i even mention marrigae he gets all funny and says he doesn't ever want to get married? I'm not botherd if he does or doesn't, but is that because he's not ready for that now or is it he won't marry me?

My fiancé and I moved over a year ago for his job. Since we've moved I've been unable to find anything in my field as well as anything that pays more then $11 per hour!! I have a Masters Degree. It's not lack of education it is the area we are in. We are in a very large tourist town with all hospitality type work. I want to relocate to a bigger city so that I can also pursue my career. My fiancé refuses to move. He makes enough to support the both of us but I want to work. Lately, I've become extremely discouraged with how my job search has been going. I feel guilty saying this but I'm starting to become content not working and just living off of his salary. Is this bad? I know when we have children we CANNOT afford them with just his salary that he is making here. Any advice? -Discouraged fiancé

So we live together and his mom literally lives like 10-15 minutes away walking. As a result, he/ we go to see her like every week and it's getting on my nerves. I don't mind if he goes out and sees her because yeah she's his mom and she's not gonna be around forever. But I don't even see my mom that often because she lives in a totally different country. Sometimes the visit will be 10 mins, other times it'll be like the whole day. I end up getting just frustrated and tell I'm I'm gonna go home and then he thinks I'm mad and then leaves too. But I don't care if he wants to spend time with her, and she's a wonderful nice lady don't get me wrong but I didn't move here to spend every day with his mom, I came to have a life with my husband. And like at least 1-2x a week we're going out to eat with her, like if I suggest to go out here he'll say 'oh yeah let's ask my mom too?' And I don't want to be rude, because when she dies I know we'll both feel like we could have spent more time with her. But I just don't want to spend every other day with her or have dinner/ lunch every week either. What can I say to make him understand in a not rude way? Again I don't mind if he goes out with her, so I'm not stopping him.

My 2 best friends were talking one night about going to Las Vegas as nice get-a-way before the school year starts, they are both teachers. We got to talking and they said I should come along with them. I agreed and told them to get me dates and pricing. I was thinking a little weekend away from my kids and husband to spend a little girl time. We they looked around at booking sites and found that we could save almost $400 a person by leaving on Thursday morning to Monday night instead of Friday night to Monday morning. I have 2 kids, 3 and 1, along with a husband who works 3rd shift. My husband doesn't want me gone that long because while he is at work someone will need to watch our kids as well as taking 3 possibly 4 vacation days off work do it this way. He thinks if they want to go that long that I shouldn't go because we have responsibilities while they are 2 childless people. I really want to go but my husband and mother both think I'm being selfish and think I should save the money to go on a couple's vacation with my husband if I really want to get away. I have been 2 Vegas twice and the last time I went with these 2 friends and it led to a massive fight and a few punches thrown. Not sure what I should do. Am I really being selfish? My 2 friends were the ones who fought with each other and I got punched trying to break it up. There was a lot of alcohol involved. My mother would watch my kids overnight while my husband is at work. The flight leaves at 8am Thursday morning and departs from Vegas at 11:30pm Monday night. With the time difference I would be arriving home around 6am Tuesday morning. So I would need to take 4 days off work and my mother would have to watch my kids overnight for 3 nights.

They communicate on social media and he's married as well. I am bothered that they have expressed strong feelings for one another in their communication. He'd even request hugs and she'd entertain the dialogue but her claim is that she enjoys the attention. It's extended to taking dances class video clips and posting them on snapchat and him commenting. Being at the same club randomly and communicating via text or whatever in the presence of his wife (I wasn't there)....then even being at kid parties together and reunited via social media again (I wasn't there either). I want to be understanding to the fact that she loves me deeply and assures me that nothing will occur with him but it pisses me off that when asked to block, delete or ignore him it happens only in small frequencies of maybe a few months and then I go to snoop or she'll mention that he wished her happy birthday and then I am blamed to blow that out of proportion because it was simple and innocent. He and his wife are also on instagram and he has now blocked my wife on their but he doesn't hesitate to friend/add her on Snapchat, once unblocked. My wife has recently unblocked him on snapchat but she hasn't added him however he sees and views all her posts now. In addition, their families were close and she tries to stay connected with them and I either attend at times or not and it's awkward because truthfully I'd love to beat him down...but my issues are also with my wife and I want to at least understand her

So long as there is no judgement... Wouldn't this bring a couple closer?

If a female tells a male (in response to an advice question asked of her by him about how he can be more nurturing to her, and more attentive to her needs) "I don't want to girl you up", what does that mean exactly? I mean I would probably assume that in this case, the female would be referring to traditional gender roles, and trying to reinforce the traditional gender role tendencies for females to usually be more nurturing and for males to generally be more aggressive, etc. Is it just a kinder way of her saying that she thinks he needs to be more conventionally masculine, and to remain within the boundaries of traditional gender roles? As opposed to say instead of males going slightly beyond conventional gender norms of considered what is considered masculine (i.e., for example, is a male who overly nurturing perceived as a weaker form of masculinity or less masculine?) It's true that in this case, the female (my wife) has said that she is attracted to masculine men, but she knew and I (the male) had told her several times -- as gently and politely as I could -- that I was neither conventionally masculine not alpha-like. By the same token, I did not behave in a conventionally-masculine male way for the duration of our courtship... ... Yet she was still "attracted" to me in the sense that she did not end the relationship despite that, and since she ultimately agreed to marry me...and so her answer to me was just a bit confusing I guess? Anyone else have any thoughts or feedback please?