My fiancé and I had planned to have a wedding in costa rica next month and everything has been purchased including plane tickets and venue. My fiancé is an alcoholic narcissist and I admit ive become more excited of the idea of marriage rather than the idea of marriage with him. I have been by his side and loved him unconditionally but time after time he makes me feel stupid and keeps drinking and neglecting our relationship. He denies me sex, yet jerks off within hours of telling me no. He drinks everyday, and not just a beer or 2, black out drunk. Ive convinced myself that hell change but I know he wont. I don't work and we have an 8 month old son together. How do I get on my feet? How do I leave? I have no family or friends to help support me, I'm so lost.

My soon to be ex hasn't told his mother that we have even split up, and it's been 8 months. Our divorce is almost final. He doesn't want a relationship with her, but she has sent him several letters in the mail to my house, obviously thinking we are still together. I have just been passing them on to him. She hates me, and would probably be delighted to hear we are getting divorced... my question is- should I sent my MIL an email telling her that her son doesn't live here anymore? Tell her about the divorce? Leave it alone? My post office will begin returning all mail with his name on it if I do a "Return To Sender" which isn't good because the finances are still being split up, including some things like utilities and the mortgage for my house. It is a complicated divorce, taking a long time to reach a settlement... I just want to stop getting letters in my mailbox from my MIL.

My wife was watching a show about Charles Manson it was a new one about him she said one of the girls she didn't know which one she didn't hear the name but she said one of them got pregnant at a young age her mother didn't like it so she forced her to have an abortion at home and buried her baby fetus in the yard. She's pregnant she's glad her parents are dead after hearing this she has a brother but he was fine with it but she's 25 she's not some stupid 13-16 year old drugged addicted teen mom like they were. She loves Manson but some stuff about it upsets her especially when it comes to the babies or kids. This is one fact about them she never knew she thought she knew everything. How can I help her feel better ?

I'm desperate to spend more time with my son. We got divorced after I cheated and he gets to spend more time with his father because of how it unfolded. My husband spanks our son when he throws tantrums or misbehaves. If I tell my son to tell the teachers at school that he's being abused by his father would I get full custody? Or would I have to say it myself? Any advice would be appreciated.

One are like gentlemen, the other are like animals.

He fantasises about me, laughs, talks, flirts & then tells me we're friends only. He's in Oz I'm in Ireland, he cut off his last ex but not me why

My ex moved about 2 years ago and the kids lives with me. there is a court order for me to pay child support. I currently still pay child support. my ex has never paid me any child support since shes moved. will I still have to pay back child support and I can claim back child support? Also does the IRS base who can file for a child base on court order or is it base on who the child lived with? I live in the state of Colorado.

how much can your spouse make and you still collect ssi?

I've only had one real relationship with a man before. It was just a few months and ended because of him. The thing about him is when I met him, I was in a crowded bar and instantly drawn to him. When he had come over to mingle with my friends and I, I found myself so drawn to everything about him, how he carried himself, the sound of his voice, his smell. Every moment I was with him or speaking to him felt electrifying. I've liked other people before but I've never felt such a strong feeling for someone instantly. I know that's like a once in a lifetime thing. Most of my friends at this point have been in serious relationships and that's not how they started. But I feel like after feeling that, I never want to settle again. Now I've been seeing someone for two months. And we're good to keep each other from being lonely. He's kind to me but I can feel he doesn't care about me. And I don't really care about him either. We go days without talking like it''s nothing. He told me he was going on a business trip and I didn't even ask him when he'd be back. And I just feel doomed to these emotionless thing because after a year after my breakup, I haven't met a single person that I thought was special and they reciprocated. Meanwhile my ex has moved in with the woman he dated before me and very happy.

My wife sets up a date this sexy woman to have sex with. We meet up and she and this beautiful woman are in bed having sex right in front of me. The beautiful woman grabs me and pulls me on to the bed and takes off my clothes as my wife goes down on me. I get hard then the beautiful woman gets on top of me and get have sex while my wife sits in a chair and watches me do her. My wife gets mad at me for not having sex with her too. I tried to get hard again when my wife was sucking me to get me hard but when the other woman started to I got super hard again. The beautiful woman gets back on top and we go at it again while my wife waits, I am still hard when the beautiful woman gets off and when my wife gets on top I went soft. The beautiful woman gets on top I get a hard on. My wife sits back while we do it for an hour. My wife wants in and the two woman are doing each other while I play with the other woman. I get hard thinking of her. My wife gets up and leaves the room and I spend all night with this woman. The next day my wife asks me if I had fun and I said it was ok. She asked if we can make Love? I say ok and I tried to get it up and nothing took place. I take a pill and I finally got it up and only lasted for a few minutes. Now my wife is mad at me and I do not understand when this was her idea. What should I have done differently?

It is a long story; however, I try to make it short. MIL 84 y.o is a very sensitive, has a sharp tongue, and likes playing as a victim so she can get comfort from her sons. Her daughter left her 10 years ago and never come back to see her once. Her older son has been keeping a distance with her; he lives in the same town but visits her properly 3 times a years. My husband loves her for whoever she is--that's great, I respect and love him for that. But he travels for work a lot. I am the one who communicates with her, visits her, takes her for a walk, go shopping with her, bring the kids to comfort her, host her friends, have her sleepover, take care of her when she is needed. However, every time she would find some negative about me and write an email to my husband, which I find so inappropriate. In front of me, she would thank me for wonderful times, for being nice, and kind, in the emails she would say I am mean, not nice and not kind to my husband. A bigger problem is my husband won't say a word to defend me, he just keeps quiet and let it go like nothing happens. And, she brings broken stuff, furniture, toys, household whatever she found from other people lanes to our house. She buys second-hand clothes for my kids without having them try on first--some are too loose, some are too small. I asked my husband to tell her to stop, but he did not because he did not want to hurt her, that is her hobby. I know my husband will be very sad if I don't welcome his mother to our house anymore. this happens for years now. I don't hate her, but I want to live in a peace. What can I do?

When I went to see him, I realized I don't want to continue. He is nice enough but I could sense he had insecurity before we met. It turns out, he has basically destroyed his body with the pills and suboxone is finishing the job. I wish I had done more research before visiting. He is losing his teeth and lost his hair. He is 12 years younger than me. He tried to pretend that it was an inherited illness to cause the issues. I hate that he lied about this. He has no interest in weaning from suboxone and I read it is impossible to quit. He can't come to terms that I don't want him. I met his mom and dad. I have no interest in someone that is compliant with destroying their own body. I really am kinda scared that he won't stop trying to contact me. Also the visit was a blowout. I didn't have much fun. He didn't want to go anywhere. That was a big bummer. He was cheap, really cheap. Probably because the suboxone visits and med is expensive. Life with him would be a drain on me. Even if he is not on illegal drugs, I think this is going to be all downhill. What can I say to convince him to let it go? Telling him I found someone else will probably set him on revenge mode.

They were dating for two years. He said he broke up with her because she was a golddigger. I do know that they did not see each other while I dated him (for 5 months). But we started having problems because he was always busy. Then we broke up (I initiated it). The ex was someone who never created any problems. She was very accomodating of everything he preferred. But she wanted material goods from him. I never asked for any such thing. Now I have some clues they may have reconciled (she always was sending him messages, meeting his friends etc). Did I drive him away? Would he go back to her if he really wanted to be with me?

my wife goes out for drinks with her ladie friend, stays out till 11pm. i was in bed 1 morning i slept in..i woke up my wife and friend was in the guest bedroom, not naked my as well have been. I got mad and upset all at once. She told me you don't turn me on like ladies do. He asked to join them some night. She said no way. You couldn't please us!! i watched them 1 night, that was very hot to see. But i don't turn her on what can i do now divorce

Long story short, my husband and I got married and lived in his home state together for a year. Due to ongoing drama with my in-laws (especially his mother) and it was affecting our marriage, we decided to move out of state. That was 8 years ago. During these years, his family (especially his mother) would constantly call him with problems in no way he can help solve due to being thousands of miles far away. A little of his back story, he and along with his younger siblings were raised by his grandparents because his mother was and still is abusing drugs, and his father was never around. His grandfather is no longer around, now his grandmother's health condition has gotten worse that she is no longer able to care for his younger brother (29) with disability as his legal guardian. First problem is, his mother and aunt called my husband to see if his brother can move in with us. We are in no position to take anybody in financially, mentally, and emotionally. By financially, I mean we make just enough for two of us to survive and we live in a small apt. By mentally and emotionally, I mean once someone moves in with us who's not our own child, there wouldn't be an "us" like that anymore. And taking in his brother would be a life-long responsibility. So the only option for my brother-in-law would be to live in an independent living facility. My husband doesn't like this idea because it feels like we are giving him up to the government.

I wake up and he's gone and goes on Suspiciously Long Trips I thinks He's Cheating On Me

My wife of 4 years and I have reached are temporary living apart but still together. It s mostly my fault because I didn t love or treat her the way she deserved I didn t appreciate her, took her for granted and wasnt there as much as i should have been. My wife has given me two chances in the last year to change and I did try to change because i love my wife very much and i let things go back to the way it was. Now we had a very good talk and communicated very well and I finally understand what she needs in the relatioship. Im commited to changing 100 percent and treat her the way she deserves i dont ever want to go back to the way i was toward her i love her very much and want to spend my life with her. But this time her walls are up and She says take it day by day and that she is not sure what she wants. My wife admitted the her feeling this way is because she is afraid my change will not last. I will never give up on her and will work hard to be the best man I can be for her. It s been 3weeks into the new changed me we talk n see each other every day . But the walls are still there she shows no emotion or trys to hide it but I still see the love in her eyes . And she never tells me what she is feeling . We do kiss but nothing else. I m confused is it to late or does it need more time for the walls to slowly come down.

As I now realize, the consequences of being cheated are far reaching and lasting...for the victim. Despite of giving multiple chances to my ex-wife, she did not mend her ways and continued cheating that eventually led to divorce... Ever since, now 2 years, I learned about her cheating I lost of sleep thinking over it, my business is now almost completely over...during the difficult times I suffered major heart attack @ 35Years of age but was saved in time, I am falling behind my bills and in turn it is effecting my credit score and financial reputation, she took the kids and would not let me meet....my life, finances, health & family has fallen apart.... During child custody hearings everytime, she comes to court she is all jolly, she has full support of her parents & she always seems very happy ???? What is going on her mind? does she not feel ashamed to face me? Does she not regret any of her wrong doing and making my life hell? When will KARMA do its work?

I've caught my husband sending nudes to other women online. On craigslist and through chat apps talking to other women calling them sexy and sexting and all that goes along with it. Not just women in particular but also transsexuals. I've caught his twice within the last six months. I'm pregnant and we have 2 kids already. I'm hurt and I feel trapped. I ignored the porn watching for years and now this I just I'm lost and don't know what I did wrong. I'm embarrassed and hurt especially for my children. I don't know what to do at all!

Me and my husband just got married yesterday. Before we got married we both moved into his grandmother's house to stay until I could find a closer job and we could save up money and find a new place to live. At first I was hesitant about staying with my husband's grandmother because I felt it was inappropriate since we were only engaged and not married at the time. When I first got there I was extremely uncomfortable. I have only known his family for three months. We had only been staying with his grandmother almost four weeks and it was already a living hell and today I got fed up and left my husband at his grandmother's house. It was nice at first until his grandmother started trying to control us, meddle within our marriage trying to cause arguments and crossing her boundaries. My husband is a very strong mommy's boy so if his grandmother yells at me and disrespects me he will back her up and take her side at all costs just to keep the peace even though she's in the wrong. I am tired of having to defend myself. When we're talking about personal issues that should be between us he'll get his grandmother involved everytime. I am tired of having to compete with his grandmother and all the rest of his family. Today I left my husband at his grandmother's house. I am staying at my grandfather's until I can save up and find place.

My husband and I have been married for 10 years (together 13 years/high school sweethearts) and we have a 2.5 year old daughter. We are 30 years old. I am a stay at home mom. He works 55 hours a week and is a good financial provider. But that's it. When he is home, he is on his phone 24/7 (and not for work). I'm talking the phone doesn't leave his hand! He completely ignores me and what's even worse is, he ignores our daughter who adores him. He won't do anything with us outside of the house and I can't have a conversation with him because he is so zoned out. He does no housework and won't help with our daughter to give me a much needed break on the weekends. I have brought it up nicely many times that he is being selfish by ignoring us and that this isn't working for me. I have even brought up divorce and he has told me "I've got it too good, he isn't an alcoholic and he doesn't beat me." I'm sorry, but no communication, help caring for our child and sex once every couple of months (not my choice) does not a marriage make. This has been going on since June. I am so, so lonely and frustrated, I can't take it. We have been through so much in 13 years and I take care of our daughter, dogs, him, and all things related to the house 24/7. I feel like I deserve better. I don't want it to end, but I want more kids and a partner who puts as much effort into the relationship as I do. I'm really sad and he refuses to work on anything so I really don't see many options.

My phone doesn't work so I'm using his phone.i went on his Instagram he texting other girls that he use to go to high school with how he use to have a crush on them.should I talk to him about it or no

Like drinking as much as I do. He insults me about it and tries to agtonize me to be honest. Right now I just asked him if he could go pick me up something at the store before his nap (my son is napping too so it is perfect for me to relax) he then insults me says he won't go and that my 'wet brain needs a break nothings changed'. So now im not only pissed but don't know whether or not to just walk myself to the store and get it. It is what I WANT to do I just don't wanna hear it from him. But i hate how he was talking to me and just don't care right now either. Should i go or stay here?