At 9 am My husband got a lot of texts on his phone like "ting ting ting" so i took his phone to see what is happening and then i saw that his mom was texting him "Don t let me show this to your wife and ruin you" and i was shocked like what is going on so i saw a video that he made about He was saying "i will make her (me) love me and all of you guys will see how to get a girl riiight" and he was with his friends and drunk and this video was BEFORE WE EVEN MET! Like i don t even know him that time and it shocked me a bit like i felt like he doesn t love me just showing that he does and all the things he did was all on purpose and to show his friends that he can make me love him... because NOW we have been together for 12 years and have 2 kids. What should i do?

My partner and I went to eat at a place where he knows some of the people who work there. I have no problem with any of them but I did noticed they were looking at him and whis peeing then they would all act awkward and it felt like they were faking smiles towards him. Once we left, I brought it up just so that he is awared of it. Then he decided to go back to order other food but I'm pretty sure it was for him to see what was up. I told him to let it go and not to be too trusting of them, that's all. He still went back there and then one of them were laughing so I asked why was one of the guys looking at us from the other side of the room then whispering stuff to the other workers. Then one of them got very defensive and gave attitude when I wasn't even talking to that person. Then I said, the only reason why I brought it up, was because I noticed they were pretty much gossiping in his face. Which I find unprofessional. But it wasn't a big deal and I wasn't angry. Then my partner just looked at them as if I was making it up and that he was sorry. I felt so betrayed because all I was doing was for him not to be trusting of people who bluntly laugh in your face. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

My husband and I were married in 1995. We were 22 years old, fresh out of college and fully in love. We did not plan on having children for some years - but just 2 months after our wedding, I fell pregnant, and I gave birth to our daughter in July 1996 (just turned 20) when I was 23. We had my son in March 1999 a few months before my 26th birthday. My husband and I have always been the youngest among our children's friends; some of them are 10-15 years older than us. We were only 41 when my daughter graduated high school, and now just 43 my son is going to be going off to college next fall. My sister is 3 years younger than me and had a much later start to life; married at 35, first child at 36 and last year had a baby at 39. Her 1-year old has made me and my husband crave a child.....we've been talking about it so much and are quite honestly terrified of the thought of having an empty nest in a few months at just 43 years old. I get regular periods and consulted my doctor, who says she thinks I can get pregnant....should we go for it? There are things to consider of course, such as that I'll be 62 when the child graduated high school.....but my grandmother is 98 and still alive, my grandfather died 5 years ago when he was 96, and my mother (74) and father (75) are still active & healthy - we have longevity in our family. I desperately want another child...my question is, how do you feel about change of life babies? Do you feel they normally have a good quality life?

My husband has gotten aggressive with me in the past. He broke a chair on my leg, bounced my head on the wall, pushed me, shoved me yet always claims he never did those things. Then other times he says that he isn't going to beg me for forgiveness if he already said he was sorry. Recently, he got aggressive again this time in public. Then he started shouting he doesn't treated me bad, that I'm the one at fault etc etc, for the bystanders to hear and think he isn't that kind of guy... I was crying a lot. Then the next day he acted like nothing ever happened and if it did, it was my fault. He's almost 30 years old. Why doesn't he acknowledge his aggressive behavior and seek for help?

And usually these incident end up having a happy long marriage My question is how do you know ? Is it an unexplainable feeling they have inside of them? I notice its more men that have these incident based on my experience. Not based on my experience, Lol. I meant based on seeing it with my friends and stories I have heard

I said to her that I am her brother, she could have told me anything, then she told me that it is just her business only and stuck by that until I left....angrily. Not sure if she was being self righteous and defending her behaviour or that she has a point. I feel angry, she has kids, should I be angry? I don't know. I feel like outing her. She was drunk, she may regret it, or she might throw me under the bus with her husband as well. I don't know.

For a few months my mom has been hinting or even straight up telling me that she's not happy with her life and with her marriage to my dad. At one point we where in the car and she suddenly burst into tears. She told me sometimes she thinks maybe she picked the wrong person. My mom is very open with me about her marriage but honestly I don't know how to handle it. I obviously want my mother and dad to stay together, but if she really is unhappy, I don't want to give her bad advice. I'm only 16 years old, and I need help handling this situation. What am I suppose to say when she tells me these sort of things? How do I make her happier?? Please help me. I'm not sure what to do at this point.

My wife is in another country doing study abroad. She called me today and admitted that three days ago a guy kissed her while out dancing and drinking with friends. Furthermore she said she's been out dancing inappropriately with her friends two other times. She says she feels guilty. She said she made the decision to try out the "college life" and regrets it. This is not like her, she grew up very conservative. Wyatt should I do? We've been married almost 3 years.

My daughters dad/fiance has a drinking problem and when he drinks he has a tendency to reach out to other women like ex friends and old flings. How do I know he gets so drunk goes off with friends/relatives comes back passes out and goes to sleep and I check his phone. Then he swears he doesn't even remember contacting them. He's ok during the work week he doesn't drink but if does he doesn't know how to stop. He will drink his whole paycheck and family time on weekends you can forget it! He will drink the weekend away! I don't drink really, maybe wine on special occasions so his constant binge non stop drinking is a major turn off. I love him but I don't want to listen him sound stupid and drink every weekend. We have a family and never can do regular things due to his drinking. Like right now he's gone off on a drinking binge I haven't heard from him since 4pm today. He works tomorrow but I sought he goes because he's been drinking all weekend! He calls when he sober up and says I'm sorry I want to come home but I really don't want to deal with this anymore! Advice please! Also to be honest he uses my car to get to work and he lives with Mr not the other way around. I feel like he's just another kid only with an alcohol problem.

Me and my husband have been married for 4 months plus now. We don't have sex that often. Almost every night, he always said that he's tried or sleepy but I didn't think much of it. As of today, we've not had sex for more than one month. But I still didn't think too much of it. I never check my husband's handphone. But call it a woman's instinct. One day, I felt that he was hiding something from me. So I checked through his mobile phone messages and saw one text message in which he made an appointment with a sex brothel for a one-hour service on an evening where I had to work late. He had yet to know that I found out about this. However, I did randomly ask him if he had done anything wrong behind my back and if that is the reason why he never had sex with me for the past one month. He gave a firm NO although I asked him to be truthful. After awhile, he asked why did I think that way, to which I replied "My instinct". He kept quiet. What should I do when I already know the truth? Should I confront him? Well, I only saw this one message. I'm not sure if he has been to a sex brothel for more than one time which I highly suspect so.

I know not all mothers do this, not even most. But mine did and I know many others do and probably some Dad's do (though my father did not). So why do mother's do this and are they aware they are hurting their kids? My mother also did it about other family members she'd feud about though she eventually would forgive those people after a year or two (my father she still does it about 23 years later).

He s penniless so my wife has to work to provide for them.I am very much against thet idea..she s 68 yrs old! My wife & I are constantly arguing because of him.What can I do legally to flush him out of my house?

My ex husband and I share children together. We divorced a couple of years ago for many reasons but the main one was his severe pornography addiction that he refused to get help for and his many legal issues that stemmed from it. Whenever he visits the kids he is with his mother and does so at my place. They drive seperately and she gets their first however he will always stay late and wait to leave until I arrive home, as if he wants to run into me. He also threw a fit when he found out I was dating someone and went off because I went on vacation with this person and took our children. Is my ex mad because I won't get back with him?

My husband is always busy with his work and he cant do anything about this until at least the next 4 months but i really dont have the time to talk to him.. Its just the few minutes i got when we re on bed and preparing to sleep but after few mins of my talking he falls asleep://

If we have a big argument and he says he wants a divorce, he will cancel my cell phone service and pull the Internet routers from the house (because "he pays for the ****") leaving me with no way to call or connect with anyone . We have 2 small children. Is there anything illegal about doing this? I am a stay at home mom.

Is there a point where you become "tolerant" of your partner, instead of in love as you once were?

This person is my wife. She has a very long history of severe abuse from her parents, where she was run down and talked bad about on a regular basis. Now, even though this is not how I am acting, she thinks that this is all I am doing - running her down. She has a history of mental illness issues, and paranoia. It's beginning to take a serious toll on our relationship, and I am not sure what to do about it. We are going to some counseling together, so I guess I need to bring it up in that context. It's just making our relationship completely miserable, on a regular, on-going basis. Being constantly accused of running her down, when I'm doing no such thing. Then she gets mad at me for not agreeing with her point of view and says I don't believe her and that I'm calling her crazy. I don't tell her so, but it is totally Bat-**** Crazy.

but if i don't give him a bj or have sex with him every day he threatens to cheat saying I won't give him pus*y. If I'm not turned on it hurts really bad and I'm never turned on bc sex is always only about him and I don't know what to do. If/when I say something about it he says he doesn't persue chicks that nag or whatever when pretty much pat days I do not patiently wait and he'll come in turn on porn and get it out and if I don't jump on it he's mean to me for a weak. Please help what can I do to make him realize I need to feel desired too.

A part of me thinks it is but a part of me also think it isn't.

My husband beats me, yells and shouts on me on small things. Like if we go out, he accuse me of looking at other men but in reality he's the one checking girls and i barely raise my eyes to look where i am and how things look like inn that place. He brought me home that day, spit on my face and started beating me. I tried to stop, he kicked me on the floor and put his feet over my face, i kept defending. there was knife near i tried to hold it and threatened him i will cut myself if you dont get away. He slapped and there was cigarette in hand he burnt me near eye and he kept beating me. Next day he apologized and cry and said it is bcoz he loves me so much. This has happened many times and its been only 3 months of our marriage. What should i do ? Please help

Sometimes I like the idea of marriage but other times I feel that it's such a serious thing. You have to spend the rest of your life with someone. Your also risking the chance of that person changing once married. I may be a little jaded but I am wise for my age. I also love being alone and relaxing by myself without anyone around. I can only sleep by myself too because I can't take snoring or anything like that. The only thing that makes me a good candidate for marriage is I'm a traditional person and not too many young people are that way anymore. Both of my parents divorced but my dad didn't want to divorce. It can be a good union if it works out but with two personalities, you're going to have fights and stress. My whole life has been stressful enough. Why add more to it. Any advice?

This is going to be an off the wall question, but here it goes. My husband was married before me and fathered two children by IVF (twins). He told me that he never actually released any sperm in his ex wife. They were married for 5 or 6 years and 4 of those years they didn t have sex. He married her because she had her life together and made a lot of promises to him. I believe she married him because she wanted a wedding. She withheld sex and was very verbally abusive. I stumbled upon old emails where he begged her to give him some attention, where he said they hadn t had sex in years, where he begged her to stop going out and flirting with other men, begged her to stop calling him names and saying he s disgusting. He also said stop threatening me that I will never see my children again I I leave. When I met him the divorce just began. I m not gonna lie for a while I felt guilty for falling in love with a man who was married/once married. I wondered if God even blessed our marriage even though I was SO happy. We have had some hardships and I wondered if God was punishing us. But after reading those emails I feel NO guilt. I feel like God never intended for him to marry her and maybe never intended for her to have children or be a wife since she has no sex drive and couldn t conceive naturally. Am I wrong for thinking God did not honor that marriage? In this case he was in a sexless verbally and emotionally abusive marriage.How could God of wanted him to stay in that situation

My husband has a lot of his finances linked to his mom. None to me. For ex. his car, his auto insurance, cell, even bank card I recently noticed his moms email is linked to the account. I feel this is wrong being *He is married with his own family so his wife is who if anyone should be linked to anything pertaining to him. *He is 27 and as an adult should know how to just say "mom I appreciate you wanting to help me but I can do it on my own" I have expressed my issue with this and he still hasn't changed. He is spoiled beyond belief but it is now coming between us as a family. Married 1year,dated 6years and have 2 children

The other day I found my old phone that my husband said he lost. When I grabbed it, he tried to take it from me, but I didn't let him because I immediately sensed something. He had told me before that he lost that phone. I was able to guess his passcode & found several messages between him & my cousin! Not only that, but he had been paying that phone for 8months. He tried so hard trying to get me to give him the phone and forget about all of this. But I had to see the messages. I ended up finding out that they had kissed. But there were also messages where they BOTH told each other their sexual dreams. In 1 message, he even told her that she was his forbidden fruit. I've never felt so betrayed in my life. He swears that they only kissed and the messages didn't mean anything. And that he stopped all of that (which I could tell that he had not paid the phone in 2months & didn't have anymore conversations with her) But the fact that they each said they had dreams having sex with each other is more than I can handle. In other messages they talked about my weight gain and she told him I looked like a ball & he did not say anything to defend me. He only told her that he keeps telling me to get a gym membership. I can believe this coming from my cousin because all through high school she would get with the guys that I would be with. Although it bothered me, I didn't do or say anything because they were ex's. But with my husband? We got married through church And I've always been faithful to him. I have tried to forgive, and move forward but I don't know if I can. I just want to tell the whole family what they did to me. I'm going through this alone. I can't ask anyone for advice. I can't trust him anymore. I want to believe that all they did was kiss and that those messages really meant nothing. He also told her that he didn't love me like how he should but he was learning to love me day by day. And he would complain about me to her. We have been married for over two years, and don't have children. But we had been planning to have a baby for the past 5 months.

I'm 23 & my husband is 26. We've been together for 5 years married for 2. I work 12hr night shifts as a nurse & I'm on my feet a lot of the time. He works 9hrs as a software engineer. He's sitting at a desk all day. I and he asks for a back massage. I tell him I'm way too tired and he gets so upset. He's been holding a grudge over this. My feet are sore/swollen, my legs are sore my back/neck aches & he doesn't even care. He wakes me up to cook breakfast & I tell him I'm too tired so he gets mad. It's always a bargain with him. If I ask for even the smallest favor I have to give him something in return. I'll ask him to cook me breakfast & his reply is "only if you cook me breakfast" he's serious too, it's always like this! I'm sooo sick of it so now I just started saying no. He goes on and on about how I've changed & became selfish. I'll admit I'm not the same naive docile teenage girl he met but I've grown up. I told him we should see a therapist and he laughed in my face. Things aren't good at all. We barely see each other bc of work and we can't have a conversation for five seconds without arguing & we don't sleep I the same bed. What should I do?

I am trying to make the decision for what's best for my two children ages one and three. The guys she cheated with knew she was married and is a "recovering" drug addict that suggested an abortion when he found out. Chances are he will be an awful father. This is not the first time my wife has been unfaithful in our relationship, but it is the first occurance since we have been married. The real question here is what will be best for my children? If I stay maybe I can still be a more constant, solid foundation for raising my kids correctly and maybe give that other kid more of a chance, but I hate that my kids have to sacrifice a portion of me as a result of my wife's poor choices. However, if I go, I can focus on my kids and my career and give them each more of myself like they deserve. I am a Christian and know God allows divorce but does not require it, I am just looking for like minded people's opinions on what they think is best in my situation. Thanks.

Or was there a time when you weren't sure about them or weren't interested?