Family: Question: Does it hurt if you cut yourself?

Question: Does it hurt if you cut yourself?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 01:40 PM PDT

My dad always says my mom and I ruined his life he always calls me ugly and he took money from me without my permission and spent it on bitcoins. He also makes up stories about me and my mom & he's homophobic. He's annoying too. But I guess I deserve it because in just another meaningless peace of ****. Everybody ******* hates me. I've been out of the house a handful of times since May. I don't have anyone or anything to live for because my life is meaningless. If I died today nobody would care it would just be oh ok and than go they all go back to work. I'm 6'2 & weight 143 lbs and my classmates say I'm fat and they tell me to hang myself. My dad says I'm annorexic but it's not true. If somebody cared to speak to me they'd see I'm not this monster I'm portrayed to be. I made cookies for people & they never thanked me. My "dad"'s family doesn't even think I'm related to them & my moms family will invite random *** people they just met to gatherings but I'm always left out. They tag me in the picture thinking I was there. I'm a ******* monster I'm the worst person since hitter & im starting to believe my classmates, I should do something about me. Maybe I'll cut my chest so they won't see my scars idk

Question: How to deal with an Abusive family?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 01:37 PM PDT

So I always get in fights with my older brother because he thinks I'm wrong ( I'm right it was an argument in a field that I studied for 4 years and he knows nothing about it) so he starts calling me names and abusing me verbally and when I say anything to him my mom starts yelling at me and tells me that I'm the start of the problem and she acts like he hasn't done anything. And this wasn't the first time this have been happening for as long as I remember. And need help and tips on how to deal with them and what should I do about it.

Question: Is it okay to disagree with parents about politics?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 01:30 PM PDT

Both my parents are strongly Democratic and I disagree with the way they view many political issues. I tend to lean more conservative and this has caused disagreements between my parents and I, mostly just my dad. He gets so offended when I disagree with him, like he thinks his sons (I have one brother) should agree with him all the time on everything. This is the case with pretty much anything: sports, politicians, music, home decor, anything. Sad to say that not every time will there be a 100 percent agreement between things and I have grown to understand that not everyone will agree with the way I think and that's totally fine. It has made me wonder if it is okay for a son/daughter to disagree about these things. My dad makes me feel bad about how I view things and it makes me wonder if I'm wrong and he is right. I know I'm contradicting myself but I have a big dilemma on which is right or wrong. What do you think?

Question: Am I the luckiest wife ever?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 01:14 PM PDT

My husband's mother Joan (my mother in law) is beautiful and has a gorgeous figure. She sure does not look old enough to have a son my husband's age. I just adore her. She is a great friend, something my other married friends can not understand. Both my husband an I work. Sometimes when we get home from work Joan has a hot delicious meal ready for us or she takes us to a high end restaurant for dinner. On some of my days off from work, she takes me shopping or to see a movie and/or then to a restaurant for lunch or dinner. While shopping if I see something I like she will buy it for me. She will not let me pay for any of the restaurant meals we have. Next week we are going to Las Vegas to see a show we wanted to see and she is paying for the whole thing. I told my husband there is no way we can ever repay her for all the things she is doing for me. He told me his mom was the only girl in her family and she did not have any daughters so consider myself her adopted daughter. She is thrilled to have a female in her life to share herself with. He said she is happier now than at anytime in her life so just please continue to be her friend and if she wants to buy you things, let her. Please give me some advice on how I should feel about this. Should I feel guilty about all the great things she has done for me? I would like to find a way to show her how much I love and adore her. Any ideas? Am I the luckiest wife ever?

Question: My step mom Hates me?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 01:11 PM PDT

Whatever I do, she yells at me for it and it makes me so mad. Whenever I say she isn't my mom she says that if she pays for me then she is my mom. She calls me names all the time and favors her kids. She tells me she hates me all the time and treats me and my brother like crap. Since she didn't give birth to us she acts like we are garbage. I don't know what to do and its killing me. She makes me want to kill myself. Everyone knows how she is, even my friends. She yells at me for the littlest things but if her kids do it she doesn't yell at them. This has been going on since I was four or five and I'm now sixteen. What should I do??

Question: I'm I wrong for this?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 01:06 PM PDT

My mom called me and ask if I put her as reference for a job and I said yes. Well she said by the time she got to the phone, the person hang up. Now what's suspicious is how did she know I put her as reference for a job and how she know it was about a job I applied for but never spoke to the person on the phone. When I told her that, she got real upset and loud. Was I wrong? Advice.

Question: Overly jealous aunt/cousin?? :( HELP!!1?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:46 PM PDT

I won't go into much detail but this is not the typical "ugh my cousin always copies me" thing this is way more extreme and has a lot of history. My aunt has stolen thousands of dollars from my mother in the past, talked **** about my parents behind their backs, copies E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G we do, wants her daughter to be better than me at everything, tries to destroy me and my brother's relationship, and hides **** from us. My father is highlyy educated. He lives in California and visits me a few times a year. My aunt never calls him on holidays but EVERYTIME he comes she wants to prepare a feast for him. This time he's only staying for 2 weeks and I feel like she's trying to waste our time. We already went to her house twice. She wants to see him a third time now. It's ridiculous. This time she wants to bring my cousin. My father is very smart and talks a lot, and they want to take advantage of that. The last visit my dad told my cousin valuable information that could make her a successful lawyer since that's what she wants to be. I don't mind her being successful but after everything she has done to my family? **** no she doesn't deserve to know information especially while they're taking advantage of my dad. So anyway my aunt's objective for this third meeting with my dad is get more information out of him. Not trying to brag, but my parents are loaded. I'm talking big $$. And he's spilling the secrets to my cousin, that's exactly what my snake aunt wants. When my aunt and cousin come for their third meeting I decided I'm going to distract my cousin and talk about normal stuff like school and gossip like we always do so she won't ask him any questions. I told my dad not to tell her stuff but he says hoarding knowledge is a sin. Yeah he has a point but he doesn't live here with us and doesn't know half of the stuff my aunt and cousin do. My mom is literally suffering because of this. Does anyone have any advice or has dealt with this before?

Question: Im going to miss my big brother?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:36 PM PDT

He's moving to Florida from New York in a few days. I was always fine with him leaving for college. He has occasionally came home to stay over the holidays. He always came home for the summer. Even then he kinda does his own thing and goes out by himself or stays in his room. But he gets along with everybody and is a motormouth. But Jesus Christ Im going to miss him. Because it means that for the rest of the summers in my life I wont be talking to him on a daily basis in person. Ill miss seeing him come down the stairs and getting into a fight with him. Or mocking stupid people on TV and hearing his advice. Even going fishing with him. He is basically my best friend. What can I do?

Question: Does this happen to all guys?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:25 PM PDT

Ever since I was a kid I get these bad feelings whenever a guy gets near my sister. The same thing happens every time it's like a trance I get light headed my legs feel weak I start hyperventilating for a few moments then I get angry and any part of my brain that lets me think rationally just turns off like a light and I either attack the guy or try relentlessly to sabotage the relationship. I thought it was just a phase every brother goes thru and I would get better when I move out but those symptoms I described keep happening anytime I see her with a guy and ITS ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT! I'm 22 now she's 25 and we live in different cities. But the thought of a guy touching her, my sister! it keeps me up at night. She belongs to me I can't see her with another man:( What's wrong with me?? Does this happen to all guys?

Question: Why do relatives usually keep in touch less and less the older they get?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:17 PM PDT

I can see when they have little kids they are busy but why do they keep in touch so little when elderly? For example my mother had cousins that were her best friends as a kid. As a mother (when I was a kid) she saw them every summer at the beach several times and at Thanksgiving. Now as a grandmother she sees them when there is a funeral ever third year or so and exchanges Christmas gifts. The beach place was sold when her aunt died. So why do people lose touch? I would think they'd get closer and closer.Never has there been any kind of falling out or anything and they still enjoy seeing each other, just they have slowly gotten together less and less. They have always lived about 10 hours away and would meet in the middle when I was a kid in the 1970's and 1980's. So anyway, I am just curious why this happens as I see it in many other families. I know as little kids your stuck with family but why are adults less close in their 60's usually then their 30's? I would think it would be the other way around.

Question: Little brother for Peyton and Avery?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:16 PM PDT

Sister in law and my brother Justin are due soon with a little boy and they still cannot think of any names for him, so they ve asked me to ask this question for them. They have two daughters named Peyton Isabelle (6) and Avery Elizabeth (3) Last name is Mills They like Grant William and Graham Sullivan, but they aren t too settled on either name so please suggest some names and feel free to say what you think about Grant William and Graham Sullivan.

Question: At the holidays it is less and less people as I get older not from death but from people relocating. How can I still have fun?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:11 PM PDT

It is just my parents and I, one brother who is single, and an aunt. My mother refuses to see the rest of her family which she holds grudges against and my Dad only has one sister who is single (that is the one aunt who comes over). The holidays are okay but depressing now. My parents had five kids and three have moved away and never come for Thanksgiving and only sometimes for Christmas. The grudge my mother holds against her siblings doesn't help either but I can't go invite myself over and they cross paths (not sure if they have a get together or not). So how can I be happy on these occasions that used to be joyful? I know it is middle of the summer but was thinking of it recently. All four grandparents have died.

Question: I want to move out and be on my own but my parents won't allow it?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:09 PM PDT

I'm 19 almost 20, I have a job that would allow me to move into a one bedroom apartment and still be able to feed myself and pay bills but my parents aren't allowing me to move out. The problem is I can't take living in that house anymore. They're controlling passive aggressive and manipulative and I just want to get away. They use the My house My rules line a lot and I respect that but I want to get my own home and now they're saying I'm not allowed to. What should I do? Should I just go out and rent a place anyway?

Question: Is my mom ridiculous?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:02 PM PDT

I bought her two movies that she wanted and after I bought them for her she tells me that she's not going to watch them because she doesn't have a flat screen TV. She has an old TV though! It's old but it works! I literally don't even have a TV!

Question: On Monday I was at the airport with my dad and he saw porn on my Ipad I'm 11?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 12:01 PM PDT

On Monday I was at a airport with my dad and he asked to see my Ipad so he could see my pokemon on pokemon go and I think he clicked out and went on the internet and I forgot to take it off the night befor. he did not say anything but he just went back on pokemon go and gave me my Ipad back. I don't no what to do or say to him and I'm a boy.PS I'm 11

Question: Now that my mother and step-father are officially divorced how do I celebrate?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:58 AM PDT

I like seeing the karma after what my Dad did to my Dad and to me and likely my siblings by divorcing him when I was 4. So I am celebrating that her 2nd husband just ditched her and said he doesn't even want to be a father to their daughter. He basically skipped town and left her broke. Sorry I meant to say after what my mother did to my Dad by divorcing him.

Question: Is my dad being unfair ?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:57 AM PDT

Ok so he made himself a big breakfast. (Didn't offer me any) I didn't have any of it or use any dishes this morning. and then yelled at me for not cleaning up after him. He said I was lazy and he didn't want to see a dirty kitchen. I have to go to work soon and he doesn't work today. I get that he's my dad but was it ok for him to do that...

Question: Neighbors kids always playing in our property!?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:42 AM PDT

Well, recently when the new year began me my parents and siblings of course moved into a new house and well ever since then our next door neighbors kids are always playing in our driveway or in our grass. They also start throwing trash in our property. (Which my mom always has to go out and pick up everything). My older sister has told them to go play in their own property when me and our parents are out they take more advantage to come and play in our property. Please do take in notice we have always said 'please' to them and we have told them in nice polite ways, and that still doesn't work. Anyways earlier today my mother had had it and decided to go tell their mother while the mother was watering her own grass, My mother told her in a nice polite way what was going on right away this lady got extremely mad and she started yelling at my mother saying my mother was coming up with extreme lies. However this lady was furious as if she had something against my mother or something, she did not take what my mother was saying in a nice way at all. The lady was trying to pick a fight with my mother by trying to water her with the hose but my mom just left her talking by herself , saying she wasn't going to go as low as to start a fight over something she could have taken easily and because she has self respect. Anyways Please my mother is getting really tired of these kids, they have also destroyed my mothers plants and she has to keep on buying new ones! What to do?!

Question: How do I make the kid I babysit respect me and behave?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:36 AM PDT

I told their parents of their behavior, and the parents just gave me that classic "oh well thats just lily!" bullshit and havent fixed them. I am so sick of this brat throwing tantrums, lying, hiding from me, and saying things like "I HATE YOU!" "THIS BOOK IS STUPID!" "GO AWAYYYYYY!". I tell my mom the things she says and my mom says I never did anything like that. What should I do? The parents wont help it, and I know Im not her parent. She is 6 and her family is VERY rich. Taking away the TV makes these kids hate me so much that they hide from me, and I have to drag them out. They cry and throw things Im 16 and I am very poor, I babysit to get money for household expenses and my crafting hobby She has also made up a babysitter named Cherry. I asked her parents if she exists and they say no, I'm their first bbaysitter. Whenever I dont let them do something, she says "Cherry let us do that/this."

Question: Que hago si mis papas salieron de viaje y me quede con mi abuelo y me escape y me fui al table dance y me tome una foto y llego A mi papa?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:36 AM PDT

Question: Would a sister make her brother dress like a girl and make him do girlie stuff just for her to have fun?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:34 AM PDT

Question: My mother is sexist, emotionally, physically abusive?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:30 AM PDT

I'm 18 years old and am leaving for college soon. I live alone with my mom and can't wait to get out, but I'm afraid that won't be possible because my mom won't let me leave our home in New York City to attend college out of state. She's stolen the money I've saved, beaten me until I got a black eye, told me I'm a worthless b**** that should have been aborted. She also says that if I go to college she hopes I get raped. She then said women don't deserve an education, that our only purpose is to have children and take care around the house. I have a full scholarship to the college of my dreams but I am so scared it'll go to waste because of her. I've been living in hell for 18 years and all I want is out.... Any advice?

Question: I hate my family?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:23 AM PDT

Where to start I'm 15 and I feel like I wouldn't mind if my entire family died tomorrow. My 10 year old brother always talks to himself and make a complete mess everywhere he goes. He broke 3 video game discs on our PS4 but my mom still lets him on and yells at me when I say something to him about it My 16 year old sister does drugs and sneaks out at night My 12 year old sister NEVER cleans anything and our Ouse is always a wreck My 2 year old brother draws on the walls, takes my stuff, spills everything on the carpet My mom is a control freak who goes to work all day and makes us watch the baby while she is at work My dad is lazy and is gone for most of the day on the weekdays P.S: Don't tell me to tell them about my feelings. It won't change them one bit. They don't care at all

Question: Is what my mom is telling me true?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:11 AM PDT

My mon and I both received an inheritance last year. We both decided to save this money and invest it for our future. It was too small an amount to pay for professional management. On the one year anniversary of our inheritance we compared notes to see how our investments were doing. My mom had made 3 times the amount of money I had made on my investments. I asked her how she did it. She said she had a great investment advisor that did not charge her anything because they were friends. When I ask her who it was, she said she preferred not to tell me. I thought that was really odd. Why would she not want to tell her daughter. I finally got it out of her. It was my ex husband. She said she did not want to cause me any trouble. I told her my ex husband and I are still friends and this is business not personal. I want the higher returns she is getting on her investments. I am going to ask him to help me with my investments. Mom said, "I understand that you want you to make as much money from your inheritance as possible. However I am afraid your current husband is going to have a BIG problem with you asking our ex for advice". Guys, is my mom right. Would you have a problem if your wife was getting free investment advice from her former husband that was making us both a lot of money? How do I explain to my current husband that this has nothing to do with him. It is just a business relationship that will benefit BOTH of us.

Question: My marriage/relationship suddenly feels irreconcilable after several years of reliability and trust. Where do I go from here?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:09 AM PDT

I'm currently married, to a woman I knew very intimately prior to the marriage. She is a sweetheart. No marriage is perfect but we've been talking as of late about starting a family. I'm a small business owner, she is in Nursing school. In a recent conversation about her niece, she states "The only difference between an Ivy league school and any other school is the cost of tuition." "Any other school" was in reference to a local metropolitan community college. "The classes and content are the same," she says. I tried to explain differences in generalarities but she just yelled at me then cried. Not moving from her opinion. I said nothing... I thought through my emotions, but all I could feel was a searing burning fire in my brain. I have a B.M.A with a minor in Business and am working towards grad school. She had not gone to college until recently (she's 36). The "debate" ensues and I realize quickly she does not value higher education. I value knowledge & work ethic. I've spent my entire life trying to better. I believe that all aspects of an earned education are crucial to being a competent contributor to one's community and environment. I refuse to raise a family under her education values. I love her, but I don't feel I can raise a family with her. And I DO want a family. My parents are divorced, and I have been through a divorce. That traumatizing mess is the last thing I want to experience again! What do I do here!?

Question: Why does my family want me to show teeth when smiling in pictures?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:08 AM PDT

Wearing braces is awkward enough but when they take us to a restaurant and want me to smile with teeth showing while eating it is weird. Why can't they understand that with braces people aren't going to always smile with teeth showing?

Question: I need help?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 11:01 AM PDT

so I never eat cake or frosting. Last night I had my 17th birthday party and my stepdad got me. Plain vanilla cake with whipped frosting and my aunt shoved my face in it and some got in my mouth and now I feel like I gained weight from it .

Question: My sons dad says racist and trash talk around him?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:57 AM PDT

I mean, I don't mind swearing but he says en***** and t**t and calls people c**t! My son is 10, do you think his dad should respect me when I ask him NOT to use these vile words?

Question: I like my daughter better?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:57 AM PDT

I have four kids: Phoebe, Elea, Noel, and Max. My middle daughter is always sweet. She is good at school, always listens, and joins lots of activities. I know you shouldn't like one kid over the other, and I feel bad that I do but the others just are not as good. Phoebe just ignores me, Noel does awful in school and Max never listens. Does anyone else have a favorite?

Question: I NEED HELP ASAP PLEASE READ ALL OF IT AND COMMENT WHAT EVER U THINK WILL HELP ME PLEASE NEED ANSWERS ASAP?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:49 AM PDT

Ok life is ******* hard as hell the only friends I have don't live near me and the only way I am talk to them is over kik well my parents won't pay the Internet bill so I can't talk to them, I get in trouble for pretty much everything, I can't watch a show with out it being turned off so my brothers can play a video game and my mom gets mad at me becuz I'm always on my phone but I only am when I can go to the library and now I am only go 2 times a week 2!!!! They don't understand me I'm stressed out, mad, sad, I don't know I just need some help oh and that's not all of it but that's all I'm saying I just need some help please tell me what to do

Question: Senior citizens, what nice things have your grandchildren done for you recently?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:42 AM PDT

my sister and her husband recently received blankets from their grandchildren who put their favorite pictures on that blanket. I suspect they used: 50 x 50 personalized photo blanket on collage.com, as $109.99 but on deal thru living social for $29.99

Question: How do i tell my dad i want to go home?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:34 AM PDT

Hey, I'm 2 weeks away from the end of summer vacation and i want to spend some time with my mom (they are divorced) i'm in the country my mom is and i would like to go back to spend the remaining days with her, i don't want my dad to get really sad, because last time i asked him he started to cry and i felt really guilty and i have no way of asking him, please help

Question: Ex husband living with alcoholic father, 5 year old involved?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:27 AM PDT

My ex has been living with his alcoholic father and my son goes over there every other weekend. I have begged him to move out because I am worried about something happening to my son and he has refused. What are my rights here?

Question: Sister abusing dog, stealing expensive items, and getting into a fight?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:20 AM PDT

Keep in mind we're both in highschool. Long story short, my sister was asked to stay upstairs due to a incident where she was taking my expensive sneakers, giftcards, etc. In return, I took one of her childhood toys which cost approximately $2. She obviously got angry, and ran downstairs as she stood by my door. I got everything except my $60 vans that she took. I refused to give the toy back until I received my sneakers, and hid it under my mattress. This escalated and she went inside my room, and proceeded to approach me. She smacked me, which I ignored and rolled my eyes at her immaturity. She then went to my nine pound yorkie, and hit her. I was agitated at this point, took the dog, but I did not want to feed in or encourage the behavior. She threw my phone on the floor and it received a nice crack and hit my dog again. I could not control myself, and was extremely agitated when she hit my dog. So, I hit her in return and threatened to show my parents the video of her smoking. Which resulted in us getting into a "smack-fight". She continued and would not stop for a good ten minutes, which resulted in the dog getting involved and biting my sister several times as we were smacking each other. (Which was likely the only reason why the fight ended - my dog intervening.) I'm just really stressed out about the whole situation and needed to get it off my chest. The next time she takes something of value from me or hits me, I will not hesitate to file a police report for damage of property, stolen property, and assault. Before I do anything, I wanted to get opinions first. My parents don't want me to file anything against her. Opinions? @Pamela - I personally purchased MY dog MYSELF and is MY property. I refuse to re-home my dog, especially since we have such a close bond and I've owned her for years. This is the first fight she has intervened in. ty very much but no ty. goodbye :>

Question: My uncle gets snappy with his kids when annoyed. Does this mean he does not love them? He has three kids?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:20 AM PDT

Question: My mother says alcoholics choose alcohol over their loved ones (she says my Dad does this to me) but if its a disease then why is this?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 10:20 AM PDT

If its a disease shouldn't I avoid alcohol and otherwise have sympathy on him? My mother badmouths him daily. She divorced him about 10 years ago.

Question: My boyfriend's family is gross?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 09:50 AM PDT

Recently graduated college and moved in with my boyfriend who lives with his mother and little brother. Mom basically lives at her s/o's house, but stops by most days and stays over a few nights at a time occasionally, sometimes we go a week without seeing her. The house is filthy. Brother doesn't clean up after himself, his dishes pile up in the sink, crumbs on the floor in the kitchen in living room, clothing thrown around laundry room, dirty dishes around the house, old food in the fridge, etc. At first I thought if I helped clean a little maybe it would get better, but as I clean I find more problems (hoarding, specifically). On top of that, nobody acknowledges when I do clean, no thank yous or even mention of it. My boyfriend is still in school so getting our own place isn't an option currently, but its been a few months now and I am losing my mind. I don't know how to talk with his brother about learning to clean up after himself because he thinks they are a relatively tidy household, and his mom is not around often enough for me to talk to her. It's becoming overwhelming as I find new problems every time I venture out of my bedroom sanctuary, and I'm not sure what to do to fix this, but idk if I can live like this much longer.

Question: I have no idea of how to handle my sister?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 09:49 AM PDT

Every day, the first thing she does when she wakes up, is get on her phone. She is 9 years old. If I ask her to pick something up (that she dropped) she says, "No, you're closer to it." Last night, she stayed up until 1 am watching TV and playing on her phone. My parents have to beg her to clean up after her dog who sheds a lot. Speaking of her dog, she doesn't even take care of it! She hardly walks her dog, and her phone gets 10 times more attention than her dog!!! I try to tell my parents about it but they just brush it off and it makes upset. I do my best to not get mad at her because she will say really rude things to me. When I got back from summer camp, I was really emotional because I made friends there and I had to leave. She was rude to me and snapped and I didn't know how to handle it. Please help me

Question: How to take father out of birth certificate?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 09:49 AM PDT

Father wants nothing to do with our daughter or me of course, not conserned i grew up without a father just fine, i think better then kids who were rejected by their father growing up ,any negative comments keep them to your self please, what id like to know is what do i have to do to remove him from her birth certificate ?

Question: My mom is forcing me to eat unhealthy?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 09:49 AM PDT

We have a family of four. My mom usually makes some type of meat and two sides for dinner. We always have things like pork steak, green beans and mashed potatoes. I made a list of healthy food that I want to start eating that doesn't contain meat. My mom told me she is not buying me my own separate food and I have to eat what she cooks or nothing at all. She told me if I wanted my own food to get a job and buy my own. I am trying to live a healthy life and I'm 15 and can't find a job. Is this abuse in a way?

Question: Should I end my relationship with my father?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 09:03 AM PDT

as a child and young teenager i got along with my father fairly well. he was the business type, a normal 9-5 guy. When my parents got divorced when i was 10, I lived part time with both. I was close with him after the divorce, and had a pretty normal relationship with him. The problem started about 2 years ago after he met a woman. He began dating this woman, and his personality began to RAPIDLY change. He used to be a no-non sense, atheist, business man, and just a normal kind of guy. However, his girlfriend is one of those faux-Hindi white people. Like she goes to India for yoga retreats, and holds her head so high because she thinks shes so much more "enlightened" then anyone else. My father quickly adapted to this lifestyle. His girlfriend moved in after just 6 months of dating, when I barely knew her. It was very uncomfortable, like having a stranger in my house. My dad completely took on a new type of personality. There is no exaggeration when I say he is NOT the man I once knew. With the help of his *****, he slowly started distancing himself from me, spending less and less time with me until I eventually just stopped living at his house. At one point, his behavior caused me to choose to stop speaking to him for a few months. We are just getting back to seeing eachother every once in a while, and seeing a counselor to try and improve our relationship. However, he just is not the same person. And while Ive tried to accept this, I realize I really just cant.

Question: My step dad hates my mom because my step sister hates my mom?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 09:01 AM PDT

Hey, so my mom and my step dad s family have had a really god relationship. Just now my step sister suddenly hates my mom because her dad left her mom for my mom. My step dad now no longer wants to see my mom and forced us to move out, what should i do and is this right? (they aren t my step family but my mom and him were planning to get married in a week)

Question: Really scared and worried?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:44 AM PDT

Really scared ive been having strange symptoms recently ive lost weight from 7st 10 to 6st 13 im 24 years old and im now medically classed as underweight. Ive been feeling hot and sweating alot when it isnt even hot. Isuffer from panic attscks also but I went to see a doctor and I mentoioned the possibility of an overactive thyroid and they didnt want to know and im really scared what if it is that? Will it kill me?

Question: So my mom brought home a body builder boyfriend and this guy is trying to shape me up since day 1. What to do?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:40 AM PDT

My mom loves working out and has more muscles than me. Most of her friends and boyfriends are all in to fitness. I don't have a problem with it but I have a problem when the women pull me, compare their biceps to mine and call me shrimpy whimpy. This guy is so obnoxious and sarcastic. He's meaner than the rest. He already got me a gym membership and makes fun of me of not ever getting laid. The sad thing is my mom just laugh along. I love my mom and I want her to be happy but this guy is just bad news. He is a great guy in general (no bad habits, never married, one grown up kid) but he annoys me with all these workout antics. How do I tell him to stop? I'm 16 and real dad is out of the picture.

Question: Should your mom receive the Nobel Peace Prize for letting you suck her breasts when you were a baby?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:38 AM PDT

Question: Those Who Do It and Those Who Do Not Quite Do It?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:36 AM PDT

I am a capitalist who believes in using the carrot and stick approach with my nieces and nephews. Last Fall both of my nieces were in the high school choir. They held a fundraiser selling candy bars. Rather than buy one from each I cut the follow deal: For every box they each sell, I will buy a box up to 20 boxes between the two of them. My niece Danielle was all over that. She organized a sale table in front of a bank on payday and she made signs to bring people in. She hustled. Her sister was far less ambitious. Danielle sold 15 boxes and I bought 15 boxes. Her sister sold a respectable 5 boxes and I bought 5. Now their parents say I am being unfair and I should buy another 10 boxes to even it out. I know I am not being fair per se. But don't you think I am sending the wrong message about hard work and ambition if the not so spirited sister gets the same as her more enterprising one?

Question: My friend is having a seizure while breastfeeding should I unlatch the baby and put the boob away or keep it out and just unlatch?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:34 AM PDT

Question: Am I overstepping?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:17 AM PDT

I have OCD and I tend to meddle....a lot. I obsess a lot about things and feel like I need to know every detail of everything! One issue I have is with my husband's family. Since I have known them, for 10+ years, they have had some problems, but have always looked out for me and been super nice. I get along with both my mother in law and father in law and so do my parents. My husband's siblings are about 7 years older than him. His parents had them when they were teenagers. They paint a horrible picture of my father in law! They say he was abusive. I panicked that meant "touching" and I couldn't stop worrying about it. My husband was offended, but I believe I asked my sister in law and she told me no! (I don't remember exactly, it was about 6 years ago, but I don't think I would have let it go without asking!) So basically, they say he yelled, "hit them" (whether that means spanking or not, etc. The thing is, he is not like that AT ALL in any of the time I have been around him. One of my nephews is very close to him and they restore old machines together; I don't think this would happen is he was mean to him. My question is....do I go to my sister in law (again) and ask what her problem is with him, what happened when they were little, etc., or do I just enjoy how they are to my husband and I and make a decision if I see something myself. I don't want to meddle! I should also add that his mom watches his brother's kids, so the kids are all around my in laws a lot. I would like to think if they were SUPER awful, the siblings wouldn't allow their kids around? I think I am having a hard time because I am trying to remember if I ever talked to my sister in law about the "abuse". It is driving me crazy and I feel like maybe I should bring it up again....even though it has been like 5 or 6 years.

Question: What should I do?. Just got back from a trip abroad and now I'm sick on my birthday.?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:10 AM PDT

I don't even know what's wrong whether it's seasonal allergies or a bug from abroad. I have post nasal drip and some irregular chills with some yellow stool. How should I get by on my birthday as well?

Question: Is my dad normal or what?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:04 AM PDT

Well I just told my dad I cut my hair shorter and He told me- It was till here ? and he touched my boobs from the top i was wearing its was a quick thing but still happened. is he Okay??!?!? Men.. i guess.. or what? cos he is my DAD after all.. one of my boy friends once came and touched my but and i was like- god ! pleasee leave me alone and live the life we are living not your stupid dreamy life. but i understand, actually cos they are boys, 15 year olds after all.. whilst my dad is my dad. So? why? is he normal?

Question: Don't want to choose between my parents?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 08:02 AM PDT

My parents divorced when I was 6 years old. My father gave up all legal rights due to alcohol and drug addiction. My mother got legal custody but she was hardly around either, so me and my siblings were pretty much raised by my grandparents (on my mother's side) When I was 15, I moved in with my mother and talked to her more. I found out soon after that she was bipolar. I dealt with it the best I could because I really wanted to be close to her. I'm now 18 and my mother got back in contact with my father. (even though they are both remarried and my father has another daughter) After a few months, my mother decided she no longer wanted me and my siblings to talk to him. He was giving me a car and she said no. I told her that I wanted the car, and it was free, so what could it hurt? She got extremely angry all of the sudden and kicked me out of the house, so I now live with my grandma again. A few weeks later, she's texting me again about TV shows we watched together. My father is texting me as well about being in my life. I don't want to choose between them. I shouldn't have to, but I'm scared my mother will be angry with me for the rest of my life if I talk to him. I'm scared my grandma and siblings will be too because he wasn't the best man years ago. I want a relationship with both, but I don't know how to go about it. *Sorry this is so long but I'll take any advice I can get :)

Question: How can I get my ex to stop handing over his phone to our child?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 07:57 AM PDT

We have shared custody of a 9 year old child. He sees nothing wrong with letting her in on his phone to play with whatever she wants whenever he is in the shower. He hands it right over. Unfortunately, she knows how to get right into his texts and reads private information about our child support and so on. She went into his browser history this past weekend and found out my mom has a brain tumor. This is before I could sit her down and talk about her surgery. She came home crying and I only told him about it because I need help with a babysitter while I take care of her. She has also seen porn from what she tells me and his Tinder. How can I make him stop?

Question: My family is making a big deal about what I am cooking?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 07:55 AM PDT

This past Friday was my husband's 21st birthday and my cousin's husband's birthday (BIL) was Sunday. Since the beginning of last week, my cousin and I both decided that we were going to make a meal for everyone, They're parents and brothers, since we spend most weekends at their house. The sister in law are not involved with the family because one is doing some voodoo **** on the second oldest (yes, I believe in that, no judging!) The very oldest, his wife is in Mexico still trying to get her residence here and the son is here for vacation. So we decided that we would make some Posole and some chicken tacos. Now, my FIL cant eat pork or lots of meat because he has to watch his diet and my cousin can't eat pork either because she doesn't eat meat but she does eat chicken. We went ahead to make the food but since I like to put LOTS of spices in my food, my cousin didn't eat the Posole because it had pepper in it and no hominy. My cousin wanted to make the chicken tacos but I told her that we should do MY WAY since I know what spices to use and that every was going to like the food I'm making. She said, "I don't want to be rude but it taste so much like spices that the real taste of the food is not there. Either we both make it and say it's from both, or I'm not helping you do anything". So I made the tacos and everybody complained that it tasted so much like salt and pepper and that it had no lemon. Our FIL was rushed to the hospital and they... blamed me because he cannot have any pepper and not too much salt because of his diabetes blah blah and then that the food was missing ingredients... I am not making food for selfish people anymore... I am 19 and I can cook better than what my cousin can end everybody eats her food?!! So my own husband didn't eat my food at all because he saw that I put garlic on the chicken along with pepper, vinegar, salt, lemon and other stuff on it What's wrong with making it the way I do What can I do so they would eat MY food? Put poison on the one my cousin makes?

Question: Why does my grandma do this?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 07:50 AM PDT

She's been living with us for the last 5 years. My grandma always "sneaks" food. We tell her all the time that she's allowed to eat. What she does is she'll shuffle out to the fridge at 3:00am she'll quickly take a couple pieces of cheese out and eat it, she'll drink h&h or drink one of my Gatorades. Sometimes she does this during the day. She doesn't have very good eye sight so she'll make some noise to see if I'm out there. If there's no response then she assumes no one is home. She leaves the fridge door open too. She isn't starving. We feed her. Every morning we offer her breakfast. She refuses, we still make her some toast and eggs. We tell her all the time that she is more than welcome to make herself whatever she wants. But she doesn't. Other times she'll have a couple pieces of cheese and when someone comes home she hides it under the news paper and pretends like she wasn't eating. When we get home we make her dinner and a lot of times she doesn't eat then throws it away and says she's not really hungry. She'll call her friends or her kids and talk about how she doesn't really do anything or eat. Both parents work 60hrs a week and the last thing we need is my grandma telling everyone this stuff. We take her out places all the time. So why is she eating the food and acting as if she has to sneak it to be able to eat or hide it? Why is she telling people this? We don't care if she wants slices of cheese or Gatorade we just don't know why she thinks she has to hide it.

Question: Am i abused?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 07:39 AM PDT

I have anger issues but my moms husband will put me in choke holds and punch me and kick me and pull my hair as a punishment. Yesterday I was counting my cans and bottles amd he took them for no reason and i went to grab them from him and he hit me so i hit him back and then he pushed me on the hard ground anf put me in a choke hold and i couldnt breathe. When i try and tell people about my problems my mom and her husband tells them i am a pyschotic liar. Its so frustrating.

Question: My dad secretly married his girlfriend and had child he had with her and hid her pregnancy. I need serious help?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 07:38 AM PDT

A year ago my had brought a woman from his home country (she doesn't speak english) and told me she was my babysitter, It was believable since my I dealt with stuff in the past that doesn't allow me to stay home alone. He said she was a relative and she was my cousin, She was very disrespectful towards me and would always complain about me. It was months later until I found out they were married months later and was devastated. In October I found out she was pregnant and in febuary thats when they had the child. My dad pretty much replaced me because I wasn't good enough. He is 46 and his wife is 29 and they pretty much had a new family. I never wanted to get out of my room because I don't want to bother her. My dad spent thousands of dollars on that baby and he bought her so many expensive things while complaining that he was poor. I feel replaced, blacklisted and shamed. I need serious help from a REAL adult on what to do.

Question: Do you have to love your siblings?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 07:26 AM PDT

Just because you have the same parents does that necessarily mean you have to love your siblings? I dont like my brothers because they are so selfish and they have stolen from me and called me bad names. But i feel like i have to love tgem because theyre family. Family hurts you the most

Question: My dad thinks there are cameras everywhere in the house?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 07:18 AM PDT

Yeah, title explains it all. He tried to take my mouse and camera apart. I think he's going nuts. He never leaves the house really. I'm usually the only person he talks too. I've always known he was a little crazy, It's not too un-normal. Okay, now i just heard him say that there's cameras everywhere, but let's be honest. What the ****? We haven't not been in the house for a day for months. Who the **** would come in and put cameras everywhere???? it's insane. He's had an episode like this before, but it went away after a while. SO should I just let it blow over? Or tell my grandmother even though it'll stir a ton of ****. Also, I'd usually try to get him help but he has a some health issues that i'm certain I'd go to a doctor to get checked up on, but he won't EVER budge. So no use in that ****. Really, the question is: Should I just ignore it the best I can and let it blow over like it usually does? OR "Try" to get some help even though it will lead no where and just be embarrassing

Question: Living up to parents expectations?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 06:52 AM PDT

I don t want to live up to their expectations. It s not because I don t like them, I just can t see myself going into a science related field in the future if I m not good at it now. It s not something I think I want to do anymore. They also expect me to want to help them out with watching younger siblings, which is fine from time to time, but I hate kids and I m not good with them, and it shouldn t be my responsibility. I have a ton of other things to worry about, and it just seems like a burden to have to try and live up to expectations I don t see myself achieving.

Question: How to deal with my 3 years old daughter who is very shy and wont go to kindergarten und just want to stay with her mother? Thank you!?

Posted: 26 Jul 2016 06:47 AM PDT