I was gushing to my husband about my coworker who is not married, doesn't have any kids, and who is in his mid 20s and travels all over the world and states using airline miles and hotel points,, my coworker told me about how he does it, his strategies, and honestly it's impressive and I'm jealous. I've always wanted to travel but just didn't make the life choices to be able to do so. My husband took great offence to this, and it made him insecure in the life we have together, and i guess that he can't provide that lifestyle for me. I tried to explain to him that i didn't mean it that way and I'm very happy with our life, but i also said I'm kinda jealous. Why is he so mad at me now?

I'm 17 and my moms husbands daughter is 5. She's my little step sisger. He wants custody over her. They have joint but you see her mom leaves her home alone and she tells us this all the time and I've showed up to her place to find her home alone and i have people as witnesses. She's had so many abortions because she doesn't want kids. She barely sends her to school when she's at her place. She hates going to her mom and pitches a fit every time we drop her off. Do you think we have a chance? We are a stable family with two in comes were her mom lives off the governent and doesn't have a job. I know this is just ask but do you have any advice or an opinion on this?

We are a year apart. He thinks I'm entertaining

When i started my relationship with my husband, about 5 months in he told me he was married to his ex to give her a green card. She lived in a diff city, so i know for a fact that it was long done btw them. It was simply to give the woman a visa, so i stayed. However, a year and a half later when things got more serious between us and i knew he was the person i would spent the rest of my life with, i advised him to stop the process, since we knew we were the real deal and i myself am foreign born. He chose to deny this, even though i accepted him with herpes (which this ex he was helping gave him) and i was there when he failed out of school and had his mental disorder triggered. I literally helped him stop from comitting suicide. Not to mention i paymost bills and take care of him (cooking, cleaning, buying groceries, drive him to therapy). I did NOT marry him for a green card, otherwise i would have never married him since he has alresdy gone through the process and clearly it would look suspicious. I marrief for love. And i would like to return to live in italy when i finish my masters. But today he told me he would not change the situation if we could turn back time. This hit me because it shows that he would still prioritize that gal rather than the loving wonderful wife i am. Am i being crazy for feeling hurt? His words are a symbol of not protecting me and protecting this messed up gal.

He Asked me to marry him in January & about a month ago he & I got into a dumb fight, while we were arguing I told him "maybe we shouldn't get married anymore" & he agreed. I only said that out of anger at the time & the next day when I thought about it with a clear mind I knew that I really do want to be w/ him & that I shouldn't have said that. We didn't talk about this until a week later, I brought it up by asking if he still considers us being engaged & he said he didn't know & that"it's complicated" he thinks that I am not reliable.. And FYI I am 22 years old, he is 31 and we live together. We had an engagement party, we had not set a date yet but we told everyone we were thinking of next summer, I do have an engagement ring. Every time I ask him about this it's either not the right time to talk about it or he says he doesn't know. This hurts me a lot :( We do have a good relationship for the most part but he took what I said very seriosly & now can't rely on me. This is so frustrating & upsetting. What should I do? I've taken my ring off at times, when he asks why I'm not wearing it I tell him " I don't want to wear this until we are officially engaged again" which upsets him & eventually I put it back on b/c it makes me feel like there's still hope. Honestly the only time we fight now is when I bring this up & when I don't we are totally fine. He hates when I ask too many questions. I just want a straight answer. Anyone have advice?

My wife has been acting shy lately. We have not had sex in 7 months and every time I ask for is she says she is not in the mood

My husband and I have been married for 8 years, I am 34 and he is 36. We've always had a decent sex life and we are very open and communicative with each other. He recently told me that he misses things like flirting and teasing and we agreed to add this back into our marriage. I'm comfortable with anything but I need some suggestions! How can I flirt with my husband? We work together but we are very professional at work because he is a manager and I work in Human Resources. I'd like some suggestions on casually flirting at work and outside of work. Thanks! ...and flirting in the bedroom, of course!

I'll try keep this short as I want to get straight to the point. My husband and I are married 8 years with no children yet. Monday night we had a huge intense argument, one like we've never had before we said things that hurt each other, me telling him ( purposely to hurt him) that I hated him and regretted marrying him. I went to have a bath to calm down, he obviously started drinking , A few minute's in it my husband came into the bathroom dragged me from the bath and into our bedroom, the rest is pretty obvious, I tried to fight him off but I couldn't, he then just walked out of our house. I was in shock but straight away packed a few things and checked into a hotel. Ive been ignoring his calls asking and pleading me to forgive him that he didn't know what came over him. I love him so much but I cant get past this. Am I over reacting as he's my husband?

My husband and I have been together 7yrs, We met a month after he got back from his tour in Iraq, married a year later. Since I met him he has always been a very closed off person, he doesn't open up easily and doesn't want to be around many people, He rarely attends social events with me as he says he prefers it to me just me and him, Despite that he is the most caring man ever, I love him so much. We have since moved back to his hometown and his focus is on fighting and steroid use, I only seen him fight once I was shocked he has so much anger built up inside of him, He told me what drives him is pure unfiltered rage, His fighting scares the **** out of me and for that reason he asked me not to watch him fight so I doesn't see that side of him. I was a little confused why he wanted to move back home as he hasn't spoken to his father in 14yrs, he left home at 17 & had nothing to do with him because he was a violent alcoholic. I recently met his father unintentionally at a gathering, a friend told me who he was, we got talking and he told me he has been sober for 5yrs etc, he seemed like a really nice positive guy and begged me to get my husband to contact him. The next day I told my H who I was talking to and that I thought he seemed genuine, my H flipped out at me, and told me to never mention his name to him again and put his fist through our bedroom mirror, I never seen him this way with me before. Any advice on how to handle this?

At the time of divorce I didn t ask for child support of our 2 children. Now I could really use it. My issue is ex is lazy & trying for disability (he has been for years). To my knowledge he hasn t had a job for years that wasn t "cash". I make "decent" wages for where we live, but kids are expensive & I don t receive any assistance. Lately he s spending money like crazy, including buying new wife diamond ring. I have sole custody. Any advice??

We were lovers since 2007. Nw we got married in this year..my husband had a relationship with a woman in 2012 without knwng me, when i got to knw he ask d appplogy and continues our love.. aftr marriage again nw i aware that he has a relationship nw with another girl.. aftr i fought he stopped talking with her..and i warned her also.. he telling forgive me as ths last tm, it wont hpn again. bt im confused weather i can continue our marriage life or not?

So I don't know what's wrong, my husband and I haven't done anything for a few weeks now. He hasn't tried to touch me or make any effort to try and give me a hint that he wants it. I tried to initiate it the other day and he didn't get the message so I thought I'd just stop. But I don't know what's wrong, this is the first time our sex life has taken a skid. How can I help us? We're both 25 if that helps at all.

she comes ten days out of EVERY month for two years now til I feel dead inside that's toooo loooong and too often i fight cry beg.. say no til i gave up.. i guess i just gotta go

I have read and know of people's child support decreasing because of a new baby. Does this hold true in the state of Illinois? How much will the payments adjust by and how do we go about taking care of this change if there is one?

I found out a few months ago, my wife cheated on me 10 years ago while I was deployed to Iraq. We have been married 11 years. We have 2 kids and are Madly in love still, or I thought. The thing is, because it was 10 years ago she says she can't remember to a lot of my questions. It's killing me. This wasn't a one night stand, this was a 7-8 month relationship that continued even after I got home. I feel like **** because of it. The woman I trust with everything, betrayed and lied to me. A woman I married because I never saw her doing anything like this ever. So what do I do? I can't stop thinking and asking her questions she can't answer, or is scared to answer thinking I'm going to leave her. I was thinking of trying hypnosis to see if she can answer my questions. Any thoughts?

I honestly didn't think anything of it proposing to my wife at 19 years old. I loved her, and this was what I wanted to do with my life - spend it with her. And over the years it wasn't an unhealthy relationship at all, it was just very immature that's all. It wasn't until one of us started to mature that the relationship started to fall apart. We had 10 years under our belt as adult children and to transition into mature adulthood was hard. At first it was harder for me than her, but she's hit a brick wall and now I *feel* I've surpassed her; but there's still a long ways to go for me - which is even longer for her.... So why is it that I'm struggling so bad? Is it because I had a great childhood or at least early marriage that I don't want to let it go? Do all young couples who marry in their teens or early 20's go through this? Or am I just fortunate to be a special snowflake in this situation too?

For your partner to always be talking about other women, pointing out when you go out other women, pointing out how he'd like to have sex with her and even going as far as saying, she has a nice smile, would be nice to *** all over her face and mouth. He saves bikini pictures of women he works with at the office going through their facebooks. He would brag about going down on his ex and how hot she was, and on me he never bothers to do that, am in shape and clean so I know it's not that am gross. In case you are wondering if he is just immature, he is actually 32 years old going to be 33 next month. What gives ?

When I met my husband I had a chihuahua that I had for a year before I ever met him so I know I would be able to keep him BUT before we got married we got a chihuahua together and my husband threatens me that if I leave him he will keep the one we got as a couple. we don't have any kids so my chihuahuas are my babies, I'm a stay at home wife so I'm with them 24/7.. The one in question is extremely attached to me and has medical issues that I am the only one who takes care of him .. At this point , it's the only thing keeping me from leaving and I'm so scared I will loose him in the divorcing ..how do judges determine who gets pets ? Will they take into account that all his vet papers are in my name and that the vet has said he would grieve himself looking for me because of his extreme separation aniexty towards me ? The only thing I am worried about IS the dog, they are my world and yes I'm a stay at home spouse but my husband makes around 300,000$ a year through a company we started together , after we were married , plus he has never wanted me to work so not only would I get half of plenty of material things but I would also get spousal support . My dogs are like kids to me and maybe some people can't understand that

He s abusive verbally and physically. I need out and I need out now. How can I make money without him noticing? I don t know how to go about it. He keeps all the money.. He won t let me touch it. He knows I want to leave and he has been doing everything to stop me. My family and everyone I know are states away. I have 4 children and all I want is to get them somewhere safe. How can I make the money?

If you and your husband had to drive 16 hours to visit family would you still shower, do your hair, put on makeup, and wear cute clothes in the morning before you leave? Or would you wait until you got to the hotel to do all of that.

My wife of 4 years threw out the D word during a disagreement. She went so far as to say she would have the paperwork drawn up. She then tore up and threw all our photos away. I was heartbroken, grieved, drank. I did not beg or plead. 10 days later she messages me and asks why I haven t called or spoken to her. WTF? I confronted her and she said the divorce stuff was said out of anger. WTF? Emotionally, I seem to have gotten most of the sadness under control. she had threatened to leave before but this was the first time the D word actually came out. To be frank, I am a bit shell shocked. I even told my boss so he could cut me some slack for chrissakes. To be honest, I went through my stages of grief and I now feel numb. I don t know if I can take this bullsh*t. Anybody here have experience?

We are 34/35 years old, but our mind is still some where in our 20's. Just like the rest of my Peter Pan generation...

I was talking to him the other day and asked him something and he screams and slaped me 5 times in frount of our kids he is maken me have sex and forced me to use my anus he is getting meaner

Last night my husband and I got into a major argument over my 20 year old son. Many of you know the saga. He flunked out of college his freshman year for not studying and for partying and not going to class. Husband wants to blame the girlfriend partially for sneaking in his dorm and staying a week or two at a time. He is now back in school part time working on a graphic design class and my husband thinks he needs to get a job to help out around the house. He recently found out that I was paying his cell phone. I was raised in a family where you help the kids till they get out on their own. My husband feels that as long as I'm helping he'll never learn how to do anything. He spend 3 or 4 nights a week at his girlfriend's house cause they are paying him to do some landscaping work but my husband said that if they are paying him why can't he pay his own cell phone bill? He also says they're using him cause if they were to hire an actual landscaper they'd be paying them 3 or 4 times as much as the pennies on the dollar they are paying him. My husband wants my son out by the end of the month if he doesn't have a job. He's already put my oldest out who is now in jail for other things. I can't lose another son. What do I do? When my oldest son (now 21) started getting into trouble in school my husband tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen. My husband told him that "one of two people would be leaving this house soon and I promise you it won't be me!" I just feel that my boys need my help right now and I don't mind giving it to them. Now my husband is upset that my son decided to just up and go to the beach this weekend. He said, "he doesn't have a job but can go to the beach? Who's paying his way this time? He can't afford to financially help out around the house but he can go to the beach?"

I did hurt her so many times broke trust etc this kind of stuff well I am on her last nerves in other words my last chance and no more forgiveness and I want not to make anymore mistakes but the thing is I became very afraid to do or say anything hurtful I love her and dot want to lose her but I also have this constant fear can anyone help me here ?

My husband hasn't got me flowers in 2 years. I have asked him too (in a sweet and joking way) We drifted apart 2 years ago after I found out about his porn addiction. He watches it a couple of hours a day, sometimes at work or when our son is a sleep. It has become a part of our lives. I try to see where I went wrong, started working out fixing my hair and wearing things that the girls in the videos wore (when they wore cloths) but nothing worked. But he is my everything and he's special and he takes care of us so well. So I bought myself flowers. I cried when I did it. I wrote myself a selfish note about how great of a mother and wife I was. Too accept myself and that I was beautiful. I even added a balloon in there with it. The moment I hit "order" I instantly regretted it.I regretted buying those $45 flowers that I could have spend on my son. That I could have spent on new shoes b/c I needed them desperately. Now the only thing I have is guilt. I am not ready to see my husbands face when the flowers arrive tomorrow. What I should have done was better myself. I should have asked my husband what I need to do to better myself for him. I should have gotten him something sweet to tell him I loved in appreciated him. How can I expect to get flowers when he doesn't get anything himself? I am pathetic,a loser. Before u all blame me for his porn addiction, I blamed myself a long time ago so save your breath. I guess this wasn't really a question. I'm pathetic. Selfish and lonely. Thank you for calling me pathetic Isra. But when he only watches porn and LETS us drift away just as I let us. Don't you think he's pathetic too. After he seen what his porn addiction did to me, don't yopu think flowers is a small and kind thing he could have done when that was the only ting I asked for? I am pathetic? But not him? Of course I wouldn't want him doing it. But watching it for 6 hours on valentines day wasn't my ideal way to spend it. I just said I wanted to fix myself. Maybe leaving him to find himself and for me to find myself is the greatest option. Don't you think? Thank you all for the answers, I really appreciate it. But he is just as pathetic as me in his own way. I know I am pathetic, he thinks he's just fine. So now, he has not accepted what he is. I have.

I caught him smoking this morning...I told him I didn't want to be with him any more. We have 3 boy together Ben married for 9 years. I don't want to be with someone like that. I don't know if I should stay and help him or leave and let him waste his life away on drugs

My husband has been subject to two different police investigations. He wasn't charged in either one and according to the police the investigations are ongoing. The authorities came to his apartment (he lives alone) and confiscated his computer and phone and he was being investigated for child porn. While we were married and he live here the exact same thing happened on a separate occasion years ago and he said it was a big misunderstanding. The authorities came to our house and took our computers and later returned them weeks later. No charges were ever filed but the police stated the investigations were both ongoing. So far he has been investigated twice for child porn but never charged. He says he is innocent. When I talked to the authorities they wouldn't tell me anything other than the investigations were not closed and were ongoing and they could not comment further. Also my boyfriend noticed my ex husband driving by his house on more than one occasion. Both times my boyfriend called me to let me know he saw him. When I called my ex husband he admitted to being in that area and claimed he didn't know where my boyfriend lived and that he was just on his lunch break driving around and felt silly. My ex husband works about 15 minutes from where my boyfriend lives. Since then my boyfriend has spotted my ex husband one more time driving around his neighborhood. My ex husband says its just a coincidence. Should I believe my ex husband?

I have been married for 6 years. My wife loves birthdays and every year she throws me a huge bash and every year i ask her to please not. She doesnt listen. I dont enjoy being the center of attention and i feel like Im on stage. Id much rather just spend a quite evening in on my birthday. My birthday is coming up and its causeing me alot of anxiety. How can i tell her that i really just want it to be another day?

I live in Los Angeles and have no idea what me and him should do? I want something special but no clue to be honest .

How aggressively forward does the equality go? If many stay at home wives devote their careers to raising kids, how realistic would it be for the husband to do the same?

Do kids get to decide ? 12,14,15 yrs . Old

We have been married for 4 years. We're both in our early 30s. She has always had problems with kissing me mouth to mouth. I figured it must be a Chinese thing or just part of her personality. We get along fine otherwise. We rarely spend any time together and she asked me tonight if I find her boring because she doesn't want to go anywhere. I couldn't help but remind her that she has gone plenty of places without me and used to openly make a point of excluding me from any social events. I just adjusted and stopped hurting. So now I enjoy my life and look after myself. I used to worry and stress a lot about how we don't make plans together but then realised that if she refuses to let me be the husband and take her out, then I may as well look after myself. I even told my parents to stop asking to travel to China and see her family because every year she returns to China alone and leaves me here to work. We were planning on having kids but I am now more concerned about the message we will send them if they see us never going anywhere together. I have underlying resentment over the years of stress she caused me and her refusal to spend much time with me. I don't know if talking can change anything or if I should take the step of couples counselling? What do others think? Has couples counselling worked for you?

My wife been depressed because she cannot find a job so what happening. for the past month and a half she's been taking it out on me or saying things like she hopes it works out because then she wants to move back from Florida to New Jersey because she can get a job quicker in jersey. . I did ask her does it have anything to do with me and she replied no babe has nothing to do with you I still love you and I do not want to leave you but I'm sort of getting a strong vibe that she's not happy but she says that she wants to be with me and stay married and still is in love with me I am confused please help me what should I say what should I do. Please help.

So i got deployed wife went home but sense she was jumping from house to house she moved back to base. She started drama and lost all her friends. She downloaded whisper to see the funny things on it and started talking to people. Keep in mind i didnt know she downloaded the app and i told her what it was and how people turned it into a hookup site vs using it for what its for. She started talking to people to make friends she said. No girls wanted to hangout only guys and she new and we agreed no guy friends who are single while im gone. Well she met someone they talked for a few days as friends and then he sent her a sexual pic and asked to hookup she said yes and he came over and she new it was wrong and said no when he got there and they just talked. Then he left, she msged her friend at some point takking about this guy and how he was cute and sweet and that she was losing feelings fkr me. She said she only did this and said that for attention cause she wanted that kindve attention people to help and feel sorry fkr her. She said she didnt mean what she said. She didnt hangout with him again.

My wife had sex with another man. We were fighting and she chose this. Eventually after months of counseling, fighting tooth and nail to save our marriage. I finally forgave her and we tried having sex. But idk if I can get this image out of my head. An image of her doing whatever she is doing to me. She did with some other man. It still lingers in my mind and it's hard to keep an erection with her now. If I could forget I probably wouldn't have a problem but idk. Idk how to get over this. I know she wants me and only me. That's the impression she's give me and I've made her wait and she's gone through my hell for what she did and through it all she proved that she will be faithful. But idk what to do now

She has been watching & masturbating to lesbian porn. Even a year ago any porn appalled her but it's different now. I asked her about it & she told me that she would have had sex with a former friend of ours. (A woman) she has never told me any of this in the past. Last week we were at the beach & saw a lesbian couple & she made the remark that that's what she should do. I don't know what brought on her sudden change. She has basically been a prude but now she will do things sexually with me that she hasn't done in our 30 years of marriage. We were married as teenagers & had 2 children by the time she was 18. I'm not sure what to make of all of this & not sure if I'm happy about it. Is she turning into a lesbian?