I was at a wedding of a couple of my friends recently. They both have an unusual sense of humor. As the bride entered the back of the church, she was escorted down the aisle by her former husband. There was an audible gasp from the audience. When the minister asked who gives this woman ....... her former husband said I do. There was applause from the audience and some laughter. The theme of the wedding was out with the old and in with the new. Do you think that was funny or just plain tacky.

I know people usually get their marriage license a bit before the wedding itself, which officializes the union..not the ceremony. Is there a way to make it official only AT the ceremony, and not before?

My sister and I haven't gotten along for years. She is hateful and rude and every peace offering I have ever tried to make between us she completely ignores. I asked her if she wanted to be one of my bridesmaids because I was in her wedding and at that time, 5 years ago, we were really close. She said she didn't know if she could make it because her husband is going back to school and she didn't know who would watch the kids. I asked again and she wouldn't give me a direct answer. So I said nevermind then if it is too much for you. So she bit my head off saying if I wanted her to come to my wedding maybe I should come visit her kids. I said no I can't (they live 10 hours away and our summer trip is going to a wedding my fiance is actually IN) and so she said she isn't even coming to the wedding. And kind of trying to get other family members not to go, like my dad and my aunt. People say I should invite her because its the right thing to do but I'm afraid she will not RSVP but show up anyways and fake faint or something during the ceremony because she is just that kind of person. Should I send her an invitation?

My boyfriend *Ed and I (both 29) have been together for 2 years. We've recently begun talking about our future together and he asked my preferences on an engagement/wedding ring. I am a very simple, humble person and I showed him a few rings that were inexpensive, flat to the hand, no center stone. The category of the rings on the website was "fashion rings". Still diamonds, but not your traditional engagement rings. Ed was not thrilled with this. He wants to buy me this big, flashy ring that I "deserve" and "symbolizes how important [I] am". While I truly appreciate what he's getting at, I told him that the ring itself means nothing - it's the symbolism behind it that I value. He could propose with a dandelion and i'd cherish that forever. For me, it's not about the money, the bling, etc. I thought the rings I picked out were a good compromise, but he disagrees. I said I'd rather we save the money to put toward things we really want/need/can use - Like a down payment on a house, our honeymoon, etc. Still to no avail. I really understand his reasons behind wanting me to have a rock "worthy" of me, but it's so NOT me. And really, I'm the one that has to wear it the rest of my life. What other angles can I come from to get him to understand??? If he proposed with a giant ring, or nothing at all, I'd still say yes - because I want the MARRIAGE, not just the ring. But if I'm getting one, I'd want it to be something that fits my style, my values, and my personality. FYI: This is ONE disagreement between Ed and I, and it in no way reflects the entirety of our relationship. For anyone to question our compatibility or communication abilities is not appropriate. This is a difference of opinion. I'm looking for advice on how to reach a compromise, not for marriage/relationship advice. It's ignorant to assume a relationships likelihood of success based on a Yahoo question. Please answer the question, and if you can't, please keep your judgement to yourselves. Asking the internet was something I was hoping would bring to light an alternative I hadn't tried yet (Which KAVe and john were quite helpful with). I'm not asking for a judgement on my entire relationship based on one disagreement - I think anyone would believe that to be unfair. It's as if I was looking for a decadent wedding cake and someone telling me they're unhealthy. It's irrelevant. I wanted advice on the question asked "IS THERE ANOTHER ANGLE I CAN TAKE WITH THE CONVO". That's it.

Not sure of the etiquette here, but my best friend is getting married in the next few months and while I'm not her MOH (her future sister-in-law is), I would still like to give a speech. I've know my bestie (who was also my MOH) for almost 20 years now and feel it would be appropriate. I would have been her MOH, but she felt like it would be a huge burden on me seeing as I was MOH in another wedding this year and sadly her sister passed away when we were in high school and a "sis in law" is the closest to a sister title she will have. Those facts have nothing to do with anything really, just really feel like I should give a speech. Is this something I should discuss w her MOH? Or mention it to my friend's mom?