If it is, what's the reason?

She is quite pretty; her libido has peaked since she turned 40. However, when she's ovulating, all she doesis masturbate. We still have a great sex life but nothing gets done at home. She wakes up early, go to the gym anx make all these plans to be profuctive. As soon as she says she'll take a nap, I know I get some. But if I'm working, she stays in bed from 1 p.m. until I get home. She watches porn all afternoon. I know because I see her activity in our camera and our interner. Is this acceptable? We have a great marriage. I love her very much and sex is amazing.

In recent months, my wife has started to take more control over my wardrobe. She has slowly begun throwing some of my clothes out (or donating them). Many of these items I liked and wore regularly. I would notice things had gone missing, and she would say she threw them out. She has just recently begun telling me what clothes I can and cannot buy. When we go shopping together, she doesn't let me buy clothes she doesn't like. I tried buying some things online, but she opened the package while I was still at work, and sent them back before I could even see them! We then got into an argument about how I'm being "sneaky" and doing things behind her back. She says I am being selfish about this. Am I being unreasonable? I'm beginning to have a wardrobe of clothes that I don't even like.

There's a guy who I used to talk to for 3 years straight before my husband and I got married and I can't get him out my head. He has a girlfriend. But I wanted him. I just never knew he liked me like that but now I believe he did. Ever since I've been married he's not been the same. He's been rude to me. I am as nice as I can be to him. My husband knows I used to talk to him. My husband is also kind of abusive. He bites me in my back when he gets mad. He twists my wrists and he throws things and hits me in my legs. But I'm scared to leave him because he's always talking about suicide when I do. I'm confused. If I could just leave him and be with the other guy I would. But I think he hates me now.

Let's say you and your husband have been married for more than 15 years and you guys have three children together. You find out your husband is cheating on you with a woman about his same age and that woman is married with also three children. What would you do? Would you divorce him even if you two have three children together?

Been married 7 years and still deal with this. Today I became upset when I was speaking to my spouse about my goals to get better at running since I am joining the service. My husband is a former Marine, so he just laughed and made fun of how the branch I'm joining is basically garbage and I'm making a big deal over nothing. I felt offended, I felt stupid, so I walked away and he said sarcastically "goooooodbye!" I tried talking to him about it, he didn't get it and then said "nice talking to you". Again later, I tried talking about it when he wanted to act completely normal like nothing happened. BUT My husband is a very difficult communicater. He can say the wrong thing, hurtful thing, but does not know how to come back from it. When its time to approach the topic, he ends up angry at me and walks away plus locks the door so I won't come in after him. He'll say things like "your annoying" or he scroll through his phone while I'm talking, makes me feel like he doesn't realize the depth of his actions or my feelings and why I'm talking about them. It just results in him being angry at me and locking himself in a room, and I end up more hurt and angry feeling emotionally abandoned. Besides this issue, we do well. But I believe its at the worst times when you really need to show you care. Before I pay for some expensive therapy, wanted to get the opinions of the yahoo community. Thanks in advance

MY WIFE CHEAT ON ME ALL TIME. EVIL. WHY THEY DO THIS?

Trying to figure out what is acceptable consequences and which are dysfunctional. Obviously anything physical is abuse, and anything passive is being an a**hole/b*tch, so what consequences should someone have for hurting you or misbehaving and treating you poorly? Keep in mind, my wife already does this to me.

Consider he has been in only 1 LTR before this..

Because to me, this is the only way I know how to ask for help. I present the problem and everyone is supposed to brainstorm to help me fix it. Yes, I should do it myself and not ask for help, but no man is an island; some things we just need help with. Maybe I'm dumb, or maybe I'm over complicating the problem, or maybe I'm ignoring important details, or maybe I'm being habitual in my contribution and I don't see it. The point is, complaining isn't about changing others as much as it is trying to figure out how to solve a problem when flustered and "caught up in it all".

How can I depend on her to be my teammate in battling the problems of today if she's too focused on months, if not YEARS, down the road? My wife has her home business planned already, but she lacks the education to run it. My wife has her "back to school" strategy planned but we haven't done ANYTHING for summer vacation with the kids yet. My wife has my son's graduation gift planned but he's a Freshman this Fall. My wife cares more about the future than she does the present. And I can see why she would do this - as a kid, that's all she had to look forward to with two parents that she did not like. She "counted the days" until it was time to move out, but now she finds new reasons to count the days instead of live in the moment like I try to do... I dunno. My wife has always been a person who tries really hard to predict the future and to get certainty, but I didn't expect this obsessive behavior to be a problem in our marriage... If I don't demand her attention in the here and now, she's planning dinner by lunch time, or breakfast by bed time... How can I live this way for another 80 years!

Single parenting also. Let me PC the question for you. Do you think the lack of marriage and single parenting has effected how children act toward authority and others on the planet that we as humans live on called earth in a dissatisfactory manner? Let me know what isn't PC about this question so I can dumb it down a little more.

My wife is due in 3 weeks. She used to be the most loving kind attentive partner. Our relationship was amazing. That all changed when she got pregnant. It feels like she is a different person now. She is just tired and irritable all the time. She doesn't have any desire or energy for me. I am crushed. She doesn't even sleep in our bed anymore because she days she needs more space/pillows because she is so big. She doesn't even consider how this makes me feel! I have gone back and forth for awhile about leaving her, but now I feel like I have no choice. The other day she called me a piece of s**t. I am completely shocked since she since would never say something like that before she was pregnant. She was angry with me because I was supposed to set up the nursery furniture in the baby's room and i haven't gotten around to buy it yet. She had to go to IKEA by herself to get the crib, changing table, etc. I get that i dropped the ball and that it is probably hard to love furniture when you are 9 months pregnant, but to call me that?! I feel she has destroyed this relationship. I am looking for some advice from outside folks about what I should do. I am completely devastated that someone I love could treat me this way.

Im 23 & For the last 2years my husband has had full responsibility for his 21 year old sis. My husband really enables his sister. He pays her tuition And because of this he's left without any money & we had to move into a smaller, cheaper place. Money is VERY tight but his sister doesn't get it because she's just USING and not contributing. My husband asks me for money just to give it his sister. I told my husband to pay me back bc I'm not her mom and I don't earn my money for her. She's dirty. She eats everything so quickly. She doesn't listen to us and she's a manipulative little liar. I had to point this out to my husband bc he thought his sister was this sweet dumb angel. She's a burden more than anything. She doesn't qualify for FAFSA but she could work on campus bt doesn't bother to apply or take advantage of scholarships. The college President personally told her that she could pay half of state tuition if she maintained more than a 3.6 GPA. She got a 4.0 now she barely gets a 3.0. I told my husband that she obviously doesn't care so we should buy her a ticket back to Europe. These conversations always cause drama between my husband and I. He's not doing anything about it. She needs to go or else I'm leaving. I'm thinking about just moving into a studio apt. Or something because I can't take this!

I am 19, female and in the military. My boyfriend is 22 and non military. Is it weird if I ask him to marry me? We live together. Also how could I do this the cutest and least awko way. Thank you

It is tradition. My soon to be ex assumes he is still part of this and it is next week. We all feel extremely awkward and embarrassed for him that he started texting everyone but me details regarding what he's contributing for our traditional shared meals, but I am wondering if I need to let him come for the kids' sake. 4 of the older ones also feel really weird about it. The two younger ones want him there. My eldest sibling and a bible banger friend say it's up to me, all others say it will be really uncomfortable. Dear Nathan, I can't stand ignorant, judgmental answers. He has a sex addiction, has been part of porn sights and ads for sex posting nude pictures of himself and has cheated on me multiple times. He has abused me mentally and is controlling. Maybe you want to update your answer.

My husband is on this prescription medication for his sinuses, but it makes him short-tempered and irritable all the time. I keep trying to get him to switch to something else, but he says this kind works really well. I hate it when he gets upset at insignificant things. How to deal with him to diffuse his anger?

So my husband is not a bad guy, you always get him the same way, not moody, easy going etc.  He is so laid back, has worked in the same low paid 9-5 job for 33 years, plodded on, never takes a day off, he's content, all good.  However... cont'd in replies below

It destroyed me. She says oh he's just a friend been friends 10 years. But I saw the date text. She says its just an extra hand for walking dogs. While I'm working, she's gone out with him several times. Dinner walks ect. I told her no way I'm ok with that. IAt all. It tore me apart to see texts. If just a dog walk ect sure great fine. But she's gone to his house, texts him every day, BUT...now she said if can't spend time with this single guy while I'm gone, our marriage is done and over. i told her it's killing me. That particular guy. That's all. Other friends then Ok have fun. Last week she saw him AGAIN. Even after watching me break into pieces over it. Says just a friend. But I'm absolutely not ok with that one friend and told her so. I'm not ok with that. It hurts bad. Been married eight years to her. told him and her both I'm Not ok with it. She's said if can't see him then we are over. I feel like if one or other isn't comfy with someone spouse is seeing, their feelings should matter more than whatever you get out of seeing the one they're not ok with. She says if can't see him it's over after eight years. Makes me feel like my feelings and pain mean absolutely nothing to her as long as she gets what she wants. Am I wrong? So what would you do? What would you feel?

As I reviewed all of your answers. I went with an approach like this....Do you want to look like your Aunt someday or get really sexy? Then proceeded to eat a Cinnabon in front of her.

My kids and I were on vacation and he stayed home. I found a message on his computer that said on June 29th, (the day before we were due back) "I'm on my way home right now, figured we could talk, call me later. I have the house to myself". Does he have a girl somewhere on the side???

I'm completely freaking out about marriage! I'm not sure if I want it, I do but I don't! I want it so bad, but at the same time I'm terrified about every single thing about it! How did this happen!? How do I fix this!? This question belongs under "Marriage & Divorce." Not toys. This doesn't belong under DIY either. What the heck? What does this question have to do with dining out? This question doesn't belong under Rodents! Um... why?? Why do you think this belongs under water sports? Please stop changing my category to stupid things. Idiot.

I'm clueless what to expect in marriage. I've heard so many contradiction stories, so many different perspectives... I know everyone's experience is different, but what's to say my experience will be bad? How will I know before hand? I'm just not sure how people can jump into the unknown with the chance of getting heartbroken. I've been hurt far too many times to not be cautious about something like this. What if marriage isn't want I want? What if I'm miserable? But on the other hand... what if I miss out on my future husband because I'm scared!? HELP!? What should I expect??? This question belongs under "Marriage & Divorce." Please stop changing my category STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY TROLL! This is a legit question! I'm freaking out about marriage! PLEASE STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY! There's only one husband out there for everyone. Hence why people call it "the one." I might miss out on him! But I might get my heart shattered by him... and I just don't know! PLEASE STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY! YOU ARE CHILDISH! I'm getting married next month... I NEED TO DECIDE NOW! OH MY ******* GOD STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY *****! GO TO HELL TROLL!!!!!! STOP ******* CHANGING MY CATEGORY!!!!!!! PLEASE STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'M GOING TO ******* KILL YOU TROLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY!!!!!!!!!!!! I REPORTED YOUR LOWLIFE *** TO YAHOO!!!!!!!!!