We are friends and we sleep together here and there. He takes care of his daughter and that's all I really care about. However, sometimes I catch feelings when he takes me out to eat, takes me to the movies with our daughter. Is that normal? He refuses to comitt to me because we argue sooo much over dumb stuff and stay mad for weeks at a time. It becomes an unhealthy cycle. He's 30 , I'm 28 and we get pretty imature when we argue. We are also very strong minded. I know it's up to me to stop giving in sleeping with a man who refuses to marry me due to arguments. We tried counseling and it did not work. We have a 2 year old daughter and he's so good with her. That's all that really matters. But then he comes on to me and I give in. He is single. Whata your experience ?

Hello all. I have never had a boyfriend or have been on a date and all of my friends are now in relationships. Many of them are either becoming engaged or married and now I'm getting left out of my friend group because my friends either want to go on group dates or plan weddings together. It's so frustrating because although I am nowhere near ready to get married, it would be nice to have a boyfriend.... especially since I'm so tired of filling the "single" card for the wedding invitations. Help

Hi. I'm a 17 year old female. I'm not like a moron or anything. I'm smart. Top of the class. Good at making friends. I don't really care about relationships, but having sex gives me a high that's unbeatable. I've had 7 sexual partners. Eventually after that high i start to feel bad again. But you know. At least I have the high. This sounds stupid as ****, but I love drugs. I love snorting ****, mixing ****, smoking ****. I drove home high once. It gives me a high to not get caught. I mean I guess I sort of got caught once but whatever. I like smuggling stuff. It gives me a high to get away with it. It makes me feel great.

So my mom knows my dad is cheating on her and this has caused a lot of problems in my mom and dad's marriage. My dad tries to make himself look like he has not done anything wrong and makes my mom look delusional so that my brother and I will take his side. Little does he know is that I know my mom is not delusional and know that he is cheating on my mom. It pisses me off. Everything he gets his damn phone, I already see he is messaging other women and the fact that he cannot hide anything, makes him look more pathetic doing so. I get so mad and I even show my expressions to my dad and though I do not tell him why I am mad, he seems to ask the same stupid question, "Why are you mad?" He knows why I am mad but simply wants to hide his infidelity which is so obvious. This has severely strained my relationship with him as I cannot see him the same way anymore. That and so many other issues involved. I really want a divorce but I know my mom will not do it nor will my dad. So if someone knows that the other partner is cheating on them and their children also know, why stay? Won't it just cause problems in the future? "parents marriage" and "Everytime" **typos

how does it work, and what happens when the guy doesm't pay for child support?

My relationship has been going downhill steadily, and has been since just before our wedding. He was so fun, active, kind and good hearted when we first met. Throughout the years, he has become terrible. He speaks very nasty to me now. He works alot and his only time off he ignores me and plays video games nonstop. If I ask him a simple question he screams the answer to me as if I had asked a million times. He snaps at me and gives rants as answers sometimes. I asked him once what his plan for the day was and he went off like .. " I will do whatever I want to do because I don t answer to anyone". All I did was ask a question. I am not mean back to him no matter how mean he is to me. I feel like he no longer wants to spend any time with me. He doesn t answer the phone when I call. He wont go anywhere with me. He doesnt want to do anything but play games. The day of our wedding he was very negative and didn t even tell me I was beautiful. It took us 2 weeks after our wedding to actually have the "wedding sex" and we haven t had sex since. I am at wits end here. I dont know what to do. I want to wait around and see if things get better but I also don t want to waste my young years on a grumpy man who doesn t even talk to me. But my family was so happy about us finally getting married and it makes me so sad to disappoint anyone. I ve suggested marriage counseling, but he says no. I have been crying every single night now for months.

What he does is, he will leave for days at a time just to hang out with his friends and drink and just do whatever. We have a 7 year old daughter. Right now our life is very stressful.. He got laid off, we don't have a house of our own (we live at my mothers), our car note is past due, and we have no money. I want to say that he's doing this because he's overwhelmed and stressed, but I don't know. He did it about a week or 2 ago, he left one day and ignored my phone calls ALL NIGHT. He was hanging out with his friends and drinking. This past time it happened (currently), I haven't even tried to contact him once. Before he left, he was TRYING to pick a fight with me.. It was SO weird. I'm just tired of it. He used to do it about a year ago, he'd leave and ignore my calls. So I left him. We got back together and this past year has been great, but now it's starting up again. I want to leave him... I don't know if I'm over exaggerating. It just makes me so unhappy.... My mom's car is in the shop, so our vehicle was the only vehicle we have here. My sister and her baby just flew in to move back to our state, and as soon as we got back he left... And I'm just embarrassed by it. I don't deserve it. Btw we're young. I'm 22 and he's 23. Advice?

I left estranged spouse because he was physically abusive and a cheater. We have been in a middle of a court battle. He went as far as using my info to open credit cards and buy things. I want to continue fighting in court but it is too draining and expensive. Would you continue to fight or just give up?

To me it seems like marriage isnt worth it especially in these times when the divorce rate is extreamly high not to mention if you do get a divorce the laws are biased and in the womens favor the husnd loses half his money and may or may not end up paying child suport plus i cant tell you how many stories ive heard of people married for 20+ years only to find out one of them had been having an affair for 5 years i have a girlfriend of 4 years that i initialy was planing to propose to but now im having second thoughts what are your opinions?

The divorce was filed on March 1, 2016 and the summons were delivered to the spouse on March 10. The divorce packet was submitted to the court on 7/25/2016. There are no kids of the marriage and no community property is involved. The responding spouse has not responded and she does not want to contest the case at all. It is a very simple. When should I expect a decision?

I broke up with my ex of 2 years because she's just mean spirited. She always try to get her way no matter what it takes. In high school and college, she sabotaged presentations of people she didn't like and bullied people who went against her will. She paid the price for some of her crimes (detention and threat of expulsion). However, I never thought she could do it to someone she barely knew. My new girlfriend is 6 years older than us and is very put together. Unfortunately, she added my ex on one of her social network accounts. My ex damaged her reputation by posting unflattering memes of my girlfriend. She also called her work and made fake complaints about her and ordered food under her name at her work. The only thing that saved her is the complaints don't coincide with her work hours as she work rotating shifts. As for the ordered food, she ended up paying for it. I want to get even but how can we? The only thing that's obvious are the nasty memes.

I'm quite shocked as I'm an Asian woman myself. Some of my Asian coworkers want to convince me that a man can have sex with prostitutes as long as his heart belongs to you. Seriously? I told them I don't think that is the way it should work, and they look at me like I'm a selfish woman. What's the heck is going on? Luckily they don't speak my mother tongue language. The truth is it's not a business deal. Pleasure from sex leads to emotional attachment, thus is a form of cheating. Share your thoughts? I'm pretty sure the guy will look at his wife differently if the role is reversed. The women are all great women. I think their culture brainwashes them, maybe they live in a male dominated society where men make more money so men might feel superior than the women. I just realize that I have wasted time to answer a racist ignorant one on the internet. You're not welcome. Please leave.

Which is it? I find these to contradict each other.

The divorce was filed on March 1, 2016 and the summons were delivered to the spouse on March 10. The divorce packet was submitted to the court on 7/25/2016. There are no kids of the marriage and no community property is involved. The responding spouse has not responded and she does not want to contest the case at all. It is a very simple non-contested type of divorce case. Can any body really predict in how much time more the Family Court in Stockton, California is likely to deliver the default decision in this case. Thanks for the help in advance...

I've been living with my husband for the past 6 years and things aren't what they use to be. We've drifted our own ways and I no longer love him. I still respect him. He works very hard and has a professional career but I no longer desire to be with him. I'm now considering divorce and want to know my options. We don't have kids together (thank god) but will I still be entitled to his assets? Will I get to keep the house? I love my area and neighbors and can't imagine living anywhere else.

2 months ago my wife of 3 months left me now she's with another guy my feelings are hurt the guy moved in a couple of days after I left.? I was doing better, now I'm feeling hurt again last month she tried to send me a friend request through Facebook, I ignored it. For whatever reason I looked at her instagram the day before yesterday. She has a picture of them on her profile picture. I'm hurt of the fact that she wronged me and left me for someone else. How do I get over this hurt, it doesn't even seem like she feels guilty

I have 2 cars, hadn't driven one of them in months. Husband sometimes drives it to work. Decided to drive that car to work today. Apparently husband's been keeping my car a mess. While cleaning out the car, I found an opened package of condoms on the back seat, under a pile of shirts (husband's), water or soda bottles, debris, etc. As in, opened package of 3, with 2 left in it. We've never used condoms together, ever. No one else has driven that car to my knowledge or with my permission except our single mutual male friend, once, months ago. He drove it to pick up our kid. That means he drove it by himself on the way up, and drove it back with my kid in the car with him. No one else drove that car in months except my husband, unless my husband's been lending out my car without my permission. What to think and what to do?

i found out my husband of 20 years has been leading a double life. one here with me and one in his country of el salvador. how can i get access to the public marriage records to see if he also married there?

His daughter lost her car keys at our house on the forth of July. We paid a locksmith to come to the house and make a key. It cost over $300. He wasn't upset, and in fact tried to make her feel better. Last week I misplaced my extra set of car keys, but I knew they were in the house. He exploded and lectured me as if I was 16. We have been married 27 yr, and it has been loving and supportive. Today he yelled at me for burning something on the grill. This is new behavior. Any suggestions why?

I'm 27 and my husband is 30. I'm biracial and he's a typical white man I can't stand him. We have five young children and I have been with him a decade now. He's very dirty and makes stupid jokes all the time. He can just never do anything right except annoy me. Our youngest baby is 2 months old. I'm always tired and my husband works, after we put the kids to sleep I want to relax but he expects sex. I'm never in the mood and yet he wants it everyday. Isn't he selfish? I hate him.

So I'm in the early stages of divorce and I'm also a new mom to a 2 month old boy. I have not bonding as closely with my son partially because I hate his father and I'm anger with myself for not being more careful about having a kid with him when we had been having problems even before his conception. So now having to go through all the emotion and pain from the divorce has become so difficult to concentrate on being a mom, especially when I look at my son it reminds me of a big mistake and the hurt of my ex. Help!!!! How do you co-parent with someone you can't stand!! (First time Mom)

Assalamualikum, My wife wants khula from me for simple and nonsense issues, She is now 9 months pregnant.her father is forcing me to accept the khula before delivery, Its 14 months since we have married. I dont want to accept khula what so ever. I cannot do this i fear Allah, I swear on allah. And more over I love her very much and cannot forget her so easily. I cannot accept the khula and don't want to accept the khula. What can be done on this issue?Can I refuse the khula? Can she take any other action? i stole her mahr which i granted to her after few days of our marriage. i prmised i will return it back but she doesnt believe me coz its beem more 14 months she distrusts me just coz of maahr i took is her reason valid to divorce me? i took her mahr from her closet when she was sleeping at night. she found out later after few days and i told her that i toook it and told her that i'll return it after 3-6 months but i havent return it till now, she distrusts me and she doesnt want her mahr back anymore coz its been 14 months, she just want to divorce me...but i love her so much nd cant imagine my life without her im not able to get enough money from work so i didnt pay her anythinh till now but i do want to return it back. she wants khula from me and do not want anything else other than khula from me. how can i stop her and her father? i need time to return her money back/

I want to leave my husband, the spark is just not there any more and I want to move out of the town pursue a different career without baggage and his kids tying me down! I am an engineer and the bread winner and would be better of in a bigger city but because he is so stuck in his ways he would rather stay in his dead end job and stay in the same routine! The problem I have is that he helped me a lot when we first got together and because of my credit history has taken out loans in his name to clear debt both me and him have occurred! I want to make sure that if I leave something is in place so I can t pay him back month and he doesn t feel screwed over. What can I do ?? We have been together 4years and married for 1 X i mean can pay him back

Well that got a lot of ******* answers real quick.

I manage a gym so I see lots of beautiful women. One lady stands out way above the rest. She's really sweet and we just get along. I approach her more than I should and some of my colleagues take notice. When I don't see her, my day is not complete. I have a serious crush on her and it's been ongoing for a good 6 months. I even checked out her info in our database when she checks in. I know where she lives, how many kids, her husband and her birthday. She's only a year older than me. I know I'm going too far. How do I get over her?

How often do you want to have sex a week, and how often are you hard in a week ? Also, what's your age ? I'm just wondering at around what time a man's sex drive goes down the toilet and he is no longer interested in sex. A long and healthy sexual relationship is important, but for how long does that last in a marriage ? How long did it last in your marriage ?

The only reason a person would get married if it were NOT for possession would be because of the religious ritual and having it "blessed by God". But if two people were NOT religious and still got married instead of choosing to love each other without that legal bond, then they are doing it out of possessiveness and having the ability to claim (with a wedding band) that they are YOURS and NO ONE ELSE CAN HAVE THEM. So, try to defend that one, Missy. I think it's pretty clear that people can love each other and live happily ever after without marriage. The only reason to get married is to have possession over the other person "for sickness and health, for richer or for poorer, until death do you two apart". In other words, you must take care of your possessions, no matter how sick, old, and poverty stricken they are.

I have been married for almost 10 years. We have two kids. I am not financially ok being without him. He is emotionally abusive and we just don't click. I am staying for the kids sake currently and because I cant afford otherwise. The thought of a broken home sucks and although im not happy I pretend well enough for my husband and the kids to think we are. I started seeing someone almost a year ago. It is strictly sexual. We have pondered the idea of us together but he too has a child with a woman who hes on and off with. We built this on infidelity and know trust would be too big of an issue for a commitment between us. We said we were both ok staying in our current relationships and doing this until they were as old as 18! Crazy maybe but if we are both wanting to raise our kids with their biological parents why cant we see eachother on the side to fill the voids? One day I will get divorced but for now this seems like the best option. Am I wrong for thinking this way or could this be a new outlook for unhappy marriages that want to put kids first?

I have been really close with my friend for years. We talked at least once a week but it seemed to become less and less frequent after I got married. Once a week turned into once every six weeks, then once every six months. Out of nowhere yesterday I noticed she deleted me on Facebook. I know it sounds childish and silly but I m so hurt. I emailed her and asked her if I upset her or offended her in any way and she said "no you didn t. But I don t agree with the way you re living your life. You cheated on your husband with his friend while you were dating and you never told him. Then you tout on social media about how much you love him. I can t be friends with someone who is so two faced. Take care" I did NOT cheat on my husband while we were dating. He took me away for a weekend (we were just friends at this point) and I slept with his friend. Why is that HER business

I'd be lying to you if I told you that all I care about is looks. Looks are great for lust, but behaviors are great for marriage. No matter what I've said over the last 6 years, I get this and I know what I'm after - both. I'm honestly just buying time until my wife creates inner beauty and grows up a bit. when I met her, we were practically children. We got married as two adult children who had children of their own. I'm in the process of trying to mature and grow up, my wife is not and it might just be because she's not emotionally ready to (still immature and still wanting to be an adult child). But this got me wondering if I'm buying time for nothing... I'm trying to grow up and stop being an adult child, so I know it is FULLY POSSIBLE to stop being emotionally immature. It takes practice and self awareness. And quite a bit of patience. But it can be created... But I'm starting to wonder if she's never going to create it.... My mother and her mother didn't... They both never created their inner beauty and they both are still VERY ugly at an emotional level... Blaming others for their shortcomings, using emotions to get their way, and many other unkind and nasty things... So if Baby Boomer women didn't grow up, can I expect my wife to follow suit? If that's the case and she CAN'T create it, can you blame me for being shallow and settling with outer beauty? Because if she can't be gorgeous, there's nothing left to be attracted to and she'll forever be alone... LOL! I just took a break with my wife and when we were talking about people without Inner Beauty, I told her that I couldn't stand someone who was hateful, overly emotional, or constantly defensive looking for people insulting them or who see things that aren't there instead of listening to what is said and she agreed she doesn't like those kinds of people too. Secretly, I was describing her, and she admitted she doesn't like herself. It's funny, but sad. Is she even aware that she does this?

If she looks like everyone else, and does nothing that draws my attention, can you honestly blame me for losing my interest? She told me that she has grown up to like guys with long hair. I grew my hair out. I keep it healthy looking and I put it in a pony every day. This has done NOTHING for her sexual appetite towards me. So either she doesn't know her sexual tastes and just wanted to change me OR she's afraid of pursuing me for sex out of fear of being called a whore or s|ut (mind over matter). I told her that I'm tired of brunettes and girls who do nothing with their looks. We live in a very frumpy, lazy city where all the women are "too busy" to look nice for their husbands, so they all look "natural" by having straight, shoulder length, uncolored brunette hair and no one wears makeup. And since this is the city wide standard, no one TRIES to go above the standard out of fear of being treated poorly for "making everyone look bad".... But that's the thing - if my wife wants to be average and fit in without catty woman behavior scolding her or scorning her for being MORE attractive than they are, then she's going to lose my attention. As a matter of fact, I would assume most horny men in my place would find a woman who WAS what they were looking for and divorced or had an affair by now. So my wife has a choice - accept potential social rejection or accept that she cannot sexually attract me. I wish she'd choose the former rather than the latter. Am I wrong for this?

All of my relatives have gotten arranged marriages. My parents, my older sister, my aunts and uncles, my cousins, even my distant relatives. I feel like an arranged marriage wouldn't be for me. I've never been attracted to men of my ethnicity, I don't think I could ever live a happy life with a man of my ethnicity, with someone my parents picked for me. I want to pick for myself, but I feel like I would get shunned by my whole family for 1) not getting an arranged marriage and 2) not marrying someone the same ethnicity as me. If I ever got an arranged marriage, I would be unhappy, but if I go a love marriage to someone of another race, I'd get judged by my whole family. I'm already judged enough for being me. I couldn't take all the hate, but if I did what they wanted me to (get an arranged marriage), it would be terrible. I've met one family who got a love marriage, and a mixed marriage, but they're not family or close. They're just family friends of a family friend. Anyway, I'm really stressed and scared. I don't know how my marriage is going to play out. Any commentary would be helpful. Thanks.

Hello and salam to everyone. I am 24 years old muslim female. I studied in a foriegn country. I met a guy from another country. However he liked me and we fell in love. W married. He has raised hand over me several times before and after marriage. But he alologizes and regrets. He has this problem since he was kid. Anyway we travelled to his neighbouring country. He started being angry and rude all the time. He has beat me few times and said it was my fault as i dont respond nicely. He yelled at me and insulted me inside the house aswell as outside.After thinking so much i informed my mother of what was happening. She told my younger brother and they booked me a ticket. However intold my husband that i am only going to visit my family.I came out of there. Now i am at my mom's place and she advised me to ask for divorce. I have tried talking to my husband about beating and anger issues. He said he will try to avoid it. And he wants me to come back. (P.s about my husband. He had history of cheating and hanging out with new girls every once in a while, before he knew me and he kept seeing his ex girlfriend after we were in relation before marriage. He also chatted with girls 10 days after our marriage. And when i caught him he said stop following me and respect me. He keep comparing me with his ex-girlfriend. He had aborted 2 babies from her before. On the other hand he told me he wanted to change. He read Quran and prayed sometimes in ramadan) Please advise me.

My husband of 6 months said "he's okay" with the idea of traveling with his friends and brother for a weekend. He didn't say he will or that he's planning to and he's never done it before (since we got married). I know where he's going, he has friends in the other country and it's a perfect escape place for people who live here cause it's hell... but the thing is I cannot stay without him and the idea is just a big no to me.. I know he's not there to mess around and that isn't something I'm worried about I just don't understand why would he need to do this. Thanks

How do I know he's not doing this with me?

I got married 6 months ago, arranged marriage. It is quite common where I live. Anyway my husband gets panic attacks often and nowadays he s getting a lot of them. On the other hand my dad is really sick and needs to leave for another country for his treatment. I want to spend some time with him but my husbands health isn t allowing me. He s falling sick too often. I am so messed up and I feel so stuck. I have no idea how to cope with the situation. I want to help both and care for both but now I m stuck in the middle and its leading nowhere. And one more thing is that I m pregnant too. And I m weak. Physically and now mentally too. I need to take care of myself for my baby but I m unable to. What do I do?