When I was like 8 years old my parents love planning ahead of time so they planned on getting me engaged to my cousin yeah my cousin but now they don't plan on doing it anymore because let's just say we were having money problems but the business my father was doing was very good and stuff and us cousins split up so then after like 1-2 years we got back together and stuff and now I like my cousin yes the one that I was gonna get engaged to , so like in the future will I have a chance to get married to him I don't like anyone else except him and I don't know why I can't tell him if he gets married to someone I will feel likeI died but I still I'm alive for no good reason if I ever have to chose three guys and he was one I would definitely pick him out of the blues but my point is if my planned engagement broke then will I ever get married to my cousin that I was planned on getting engaged too

What was your wedding like? How many people were there? What were your colors, flowers, etc? Or did you just get married at the courthouse? Was it everything you wanted it to be or did you wish it was different?

I have a large wedding party, 9 bridesmaids, and of the 9 only 3 are actually making an effort to show up to events and help the MOH (who is pregnant and due soon). My mom should not be helping the MOH plan the bachelorette party, but she is. And the MOH can't even get them to pitch in for any of it. I picked these girls because I love them and I thought they would be there, but its been such a hassle just trying to get them together. There's only 5 days I told them to set aside for wedding stuff and so far the most I've been able to get together at once was 5. That was for the bridal shower that they didn't help plan,set-up, or even pitch in for. They even showed up crazy late. I gave them all the dates months in advance with a reminder a month, a week, and a day before and still have to hassle them to get only a couple to show up. Only 5 have gotten their dresses and the wedding is in 6 weeks. Not only that, but I can only ever get the MOH to help with any of the actual planning. My fiance's friends have been way more helpful than mine and they aren't even part of the wedding party. I've tried talking to them several times and they all just say "well we have other plans" "we have stuff going on" just to see them post pictures of them at the beach or club. Groomsmen have been doing great, and I don't really want to, but I may have to pull them in for extra help /: Idk how to deal with the bridesmaids anymore though. They really let me down. Any advice?

should i do it? im getting married in 11 months...

My son loves San Francisco and he liked our alcatraz trip so we will have an alcatraz themed bar mitzvah, itll be SO FUN! We are hiring an entertainment company, so after the service someone will take mugshots of all the guests. Then someone will come out for the new arrivals. They will all be forced 5 push ups and then handcuffed. We will have a dance floor and music, so everyone will have to dance. The best dancer will be rewarded; and the worst will be punished with no dance time, so they will go in a jail cell (which is a big metal cage) then the next worst dancer will go in the hole, be locked in a pitch black closet. Random guests will be tortured and forced to bob for apples, no apple in 15 seconds and you will be in a jail cell. We will feed everyone prison style and those who complaina bout food will be tube fed. Everyone will then be locked in pitch black for lights out for an hour and then at the ebd souvineres are there mugshots saying "I was booked saturday at Zachs bar mitzvah." (get it?) Everyone will also br asked to wear black and white stripes. ISNT THIS IDEA AMAZING?

In their tradition most couples have an engagement party and a wedding. The problem is that small for them is huge for me. I said we could have a small engagement party. And by small I mean maximum 20 people. They were thinking more like 50-70 people. I told them that it's not happening. I don't care what their tradition is. I've already dished out enough money for this. I bought her dream ring, she got an amazing proposal, I will pay for the small engagement party but that's enough. I went over for dinner yesterday and I did get a little upset. I should have let her handle this when I wasn't there but what's done is done. The problem is that when you invite one friend you have to invite the other and soon enough you have 70 people. She angered me as well because she didn't take my side. I'm suppose to be her future husband. We are planning a wedding for next august that will cost a lot of money. What is the point of an engagement party? I said some things yesterday that I shouldn't have. I said: "I don't care if it's your tradition. I guess it's your tradition that I pay as well? I have 6 people I'm bringing to the party. You chose 14 that you want. If any of your friends and family have issue with that you can tell them to call me and I will explain. Everyone can come next year to the wedding. That's final. You understand?". I just got so angry. What do I do now to mend the situation?