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For the most part, my husband is amazing. He's handsome, successful, sweet, and is great with our children. He's never hit me, or called me any names. I am 35, he is 42. We got married when I was 23. At that time, we had a baby girl. She was amazing. But she died when she was 8 months old. I've never seen him cry like that. There was no real reason why she died. She was just in her crib. I became really distant from him. He wasn't talking to me, or anyone. I had an affair. I was suicidal and had no idea how to feel better. He found out, we went to therapy, and things got a lot better. Still, part of him doesn't trust me. He gets extremely angry when I talk to other men, even coworkers. He goes through my emails when I'm not there. It's obvious. A Marsh cashier asked me how I was, and my husband said "She's married." His ego is so fragile. He has bad anxiety and gets stressed out about the stupidest ****. He throws up about how nervous he is sometimes. He constantly has nightmares about me dying, or our kids dying. He's clingy. He'll leave for a business trip, he will call 5 minutes later to "talk." When he's gone, he calls every 20 minutes. If he doesn't, I honestly think he's dead. His worst moment was when I was 21, when I broke up with him after a huge fight, we were yelling, and he screamed "You're mine!" And punched out a window. We eventually got back together. For some background info, his mother had severe mental issues, and was very neglectful.

Like he's new on my church, and he's very handsome I must admit. However he's married!!! His wife is in another country and idk why but last night we exchanged looks but no harmful thoughts in my part. Now he won't stop texting me. What is this??

Alright, here's what she told me. She went to the ER because she had chest pain. At the ER, doctors found a blood clot in her lung. Then then gave her medicine to dissolve it, checked her again, told her to see a cardiologist then sent her home. My mom is is a respiratory therapist and says that she is lying. That if that were the case, the doctors would have had my fiancee admitted for further treatment and observation. Now prior to going, my fiancee called me and told me she was going. That her fast food joint job, was killing her and that she needed to quit but can't. Funny thing is earlier, I had posted about an internship with me on FB. I'm a film producer. I had said I would be accepting only 3 lucky interns. Did my fiancee lie to me ? If so, was it to gain a new work position with me so I would take pity on her ?

I met this girl through a mutual friend of her husband about a year ago and I could immediately tell she was miserable with her husband. We began hanging out and eventually fell for each other. Well, I fell for her, her feelings are always back and forth so it's hard to say what's the truth. We had all those late night talks (running away together, starting over, etc) I believed all that stuff. I told myself I wouldn't put myself in another position like this, but man, I fell for this chick hard. She eventually told her husband about us, they seperated. I began visiting her 2 hrs away since she lived alone and she didn't have to drive to see me all the time now. While visiting her, I was offered a job making great money and her and I talked about it and she convinced me to leave everything behind two hours away to be with her. I left everything, my apartment, my friends, my job, everything. Since I've lived here she's changed. She acts like she cares one minute then the next she says were bad together and we're doomed and should call it quits. I've caught her lying numerous times about her husband and am beginning to feel like she's just waiting until he forgives her and takes her back. She has also been googling "how to get your separated husband back" it's like a slap in the face. Idk what to do I have nothing here in this town but her and gave everything up to be with someone who doesn't care. All I need is advice not the "what an idiot story". Thanks guys.

My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have two children. A 3 year old and an almost 1 year old. I love to spend time with my kids and teach them so many things but I would like to have a job also. Let me make it clear first.. my husband does NOT want me to get a job because he says he doesn't want me working at a restaurant like McDonald's or working at a mall. I used to be an assistant manager at an apartment complex but quit after I was earning more than him. He just doesn't want me to get a job. PERIOD. I'm not lazy, I cook, clean, change baby's diapers, take out garbage, kill those damn roaches, pick up toys, show my son the ABC's, how to count, take them to the park, etc. I'm so exhausted by the time I go to bed. I don't know if it's wrong to feel like this but I feel like a burden. If he wants me to get a good job, I'd at least have to have my GED but he doesn't want me to get that either. I just hate asking him for money for everything I need. If it's either pads or diapers or shampoo.. it's always, 'Don't waste more than $5'. I'm a failure for not finishing high school. Even my younger sister has a career and I have to depend on my husband. Then he comes hone saying that I'm always wasting money and I need a job. I just hate depending on him for everything. How can I just go and find one?

What's your personal opinion on that rule?

If a married man watches porn, most users blame him for cheating on his wife. But when a married woman watches porn, most users answer, "oh she's getting bored with marriage or spouse, thats because the husband sucks in bed, (or a new one) she's looking for ways to spice things up." So why can't these same excuses be applicable to the husband watching porn, especially the most famous one, (which is true) he's getting bored in the marriage or with spouse. Why is it that married women get defended but married men get assaulted? I find this strange... Its not even porn but if the man physically cheats with another, he is often verbally assaulted by others and the famous answer, "divorce him and take his half." But when the female physically cheats, oh honey counseling. Why so much defense for her and not him? it should say verbally assaulted. Also apologies for grammar I typed it too fast. Most people think porn is cheating, its all on google. Thats a good answer FeliBabi, I was looking for a Interesting answer HNizzles, this is not even a matter of generalization here but more of whats observed on the internet.

My wife of 25 years old is spoiled. I recently bought a new Samsung note 4 from t mobile and paid the whole price to change it to metropcs. I also had to paint my car because it had some scratches and get a new bumper for it since it had a broken corner. My wife told me she needed a car to take our kids to the doctor because her sister never wants to take her to the clinic. I bought her a $2,350 car. It works fine but she says that the engine does not. So her dad let her borrow a car. Two months ago, her laptop didn't work anymore (she works from home) and she asked me if she could buy a new one because she needed it. I told her no but she went ahead and told her dad.And between those two months ago and now, our son dropped her cellphone in water so it didn't work anymore. I said, pawn shop.. So she called her dad and told him not to call because her cell phone didn't work. So he bought her one because apparently he needs to 'keep in touch'. I appreciate him giving her stuff but she doesn't need them. She is very spoiled and it has been going on for the three years we've been together. I don't like her spending all that money either on expensive things that's why I don't let her buy them. Then she asks me why I buy expensive things and not let her. I told her because I need the car for work. It needs maintenance also. Not just her. How can I stop her dad from soiling her and expecting I would buy her stuff or let her spend her money on nonsense.

He dropped our children off yesterday and I saw a woman sitting in the car with him. I've witnessed him with several different women around our children and I want to put a stop to this! How? He's cheating on his girlfriend and I feel like I should tell her.

Ive been seperated almost five years. ive been with my boyfriend almost two. he is the bio father. when i give birth can i lie and say im not married?? i live in georgia

My friend is venting to me about how she misses her dad being around. I'm not sure what advice to give her though. She said her & her dad used to be real close. But then he just left on the family and now he has a new one, and that he became a real huge a**hole. He didn't go to her high school graduation and he was really disappointed for unknown reasons and she also said she's tried talking to him about it plenty of times. I'm not sure what to tell her because I've never been in this situation

I got married young. I am 26. We have two small children under 4. The second one was a surprise...I knew after the first I couldn't wait for her to be 18 so that I could leave. Please I know this sounds bad and mean. Try not to judge me. I despise my husband. He is so mean and has such a bad attitude. He is ONLY nice when he wants to have sex or buy something with my credit cards. Other that, he prefers to spend no time with me. He swears and me and our kids. He spends no time with them either. He is miserable and I am so sad. He won't go to church, he won't go to counseling, he won't watch any youtube marriage videos or take any marriage advice. He is such an angry person. We don't fight often because I ignore him/my hurt feelings instead. I'm so lonely. Lately, I have become emotionally attached to a friend of mine (he has no idea) . He pays attention to me and he is nice and makes me smile. I know that if I stay with my husband and he refuses to work with me, I will always be miserable and have feelings for anyone who while smile my way!!! Like a little attention hungry puppy who lives with an owner that kicks it!! I'm not a bad person...but I'm not as good as I use to be ...help :/

Long story short. My ex and I had an acrimonious divorce 4 years ago. He left me for another woman. He kicked me and my 5 children out on to the street, repossessed my van (it was in his name), and took all of the money in the bank. All of this happened right after I found out that I had stage 2B cervical cancer. The judge gave me half of everything, child support ($1800 a month), and alimony for 5 years. I was awarded primary/sole/physcial/legal custody of my children. My ex gets every other weekend, every other government holiday, and 3 weeks in the summer for his visitation. And he can call them anytime he wants. My ex has missed countless weekends, several holidays and two summer visits, because he's always "busy". Something else is always more important than my kids. My ex wants me to be "flexible", and I told him no. He either takes the kids when it's his turn, or he can wait until next time. I'm tired of bending over backwards for him. My kids are tired of their father not keeping his word. They just wish he would stop lying, and be the dad he used to be. I for one wish the same thing, but I can't change a selfish person.

Yes, that's that thing with him, obnoxious and hypocritical. He lives in a different town after divorce, only sees his child when he is convenient. I put up quite a bit just for the sake of our son and my son visits where he lives several times a year. He is having a meeting closer to my town. He texted me saying "if you want to make the drive I could have dinner with XXX(our son)". Tell me how to make him understand he has to use the word "please" and be considerate with the way he is asking? I don't have to reply to it, but I believe it is better for my son to know and have his dad.

My husband cheated on me several years ago. We separated, after he came home he was physically abusive at times, but hasn't been in years. I am not sexually attracted to him. I feel like he hurt me so much with his body- it's hard to be intimate with that same body. He, of course, is angry over my lack of sexual interest. He alternates between threatening to have another affair and telling me that he just wants me to love him. We do have sex, but it is infrequent and not any good. We do have a teenage daughter together. Am i being unreasonable or is all this just impossible to get past? I have a hard time trusting my own judgment. Thanks.

I understand a lot of kids grow up with a dream in mind. My son wants to be a game designer, my daughter wants to be a baker, my daughter's BFF wants to be an animal doctor, and my daughter's other friend just wants to be rich (most likely by means of marrying a rich man). But my wife and I grew up without a dream. I had a dream shoved down my throat by my mother to be a computer programmer because they were a six figure job she had heard of during the .com bubble; my wife was denied a dream and forced to grow up in despair as a slave to her father on the horse farm and his cowboy dreams... Some people grow up with beliefs and values too. I know some people are born and basically raised by their Church and Church community. Other people are born into big families that have traditional and/or southern values/beliefs. But my wife and I didn't have either. She had her church community striped from her at 13 when they moved, and I never had that in the first place... Some people take on the beliefs/values of their university/college or their favorite sports teams, but we don't have that loyalty either... So is it wise to continue to live this way - meaninglessly but in full control over our lives due to the lack of subjective material in our life dictating our life and our lifestyle? Or should we find something to believe in and live a life full of purpose through that cause, belief, value system? I'm not talking religion here, it's all about community and belonging...

You can't just ask "Is he the one? Am I really ready?" There will ALWAYS be doubts! You can't just "know" something. It's NOT possible! It's called letting your emotions get the best of you. Is there a SURE way to know if you are ready for marriage?

I'm Bill.I'm 64. In dec 2004 I lost my 19 yrs old son in Iraq,he was a marine. I met my actual wife in the summer of 2014. I love her but I honestly didn't want to talk with her about my son. I only talk about him with his mother/my ex and with his sister. I work with a guy who was with him in Iraq,so occasionally I talk with him about my son too,period. My actual wife knows I had a son,but I never wanted to talk about him with her,I love her,but no matter if she's my wife,I'm not talkig about him with her. Couple of days ago I posted a picture of my son and I together on fb and commented how much I missed him as it was his birthday. My wife got crazy mad at me as I didn't tell her,Initially I told her I didn't wanna talk about it,then she started to yell at me I told her to back off and I left. Now she won't speak to me,but as I said,I don't wanna talk about my son with her and she has to respect my decision. What do you think? mmm: you're an idiot and show a little respect. I had my own reasons cat lover: I'm sorry for your loss. @KELLY: I'M SO SORRY ABOUT THIS. I'M TALKING TO YOU AS IF YOU WERE MY DAUGHTER. AS YOU SAID IT WILL GET EASIER AT SOME POINT,FOR BOTH OF US. YOU SEEM A NICE PERSON,TAKE CARE

I'm in a commitment relationship, but I honestly don't see myself ever getting married... to anyone... not even him. I just don't feel like I'll ever be ready. How will I know if I'm ready? Don't say "you just know." Because you really don't. Nothing is for sure in life... it's not possible to do anything without any doubts. It's impossible not to ask "Am I ready? Is he the one?" There will ALWAYS be doubts. Is there any other way to know?

So i have a friend frm work thats getting married to someone in military. she has been crying everyday for like 2-3 months at home and at work because husband to be may be deployed before wedding date. im pretty sure other wife to b has experienced this. Is there anything they can do ?? Her wedding date is in 5 days.

against sabotagers and liars? We have had more than one person try break our union apart...and he always laughs and says they are nothing. Its gotten to the point that they call our home several times a day, have emailed me...and followed me around town. We know who they are...but the doesnt take them seriously....I do, because its been going on a long time...and I have felt threatened and bullied. Why is he not taking it seriously...I believe we should stand together and confront these people...he believes we should ignore them and not listen to them....who is right? These people are known trouble makers, so I get it....but I want them to leave us alone since I dont know them and have no problem other than them playing games and starting trouble anonymously. The women who are doing this, are women who have liked him in the past and started trouble with me because they dont know me....they are devious, and imitate our lives....this normally wouldnt be a problem, if they didnt have the balls to actually try to gang up on me with a group of people and actaully call my home and invite me out...which he refused and said they are jealous...but they have gone as far as trying to befriend his family to find out information and use it to harass me. Thanks Scott, my husband said the same thing....to call 911 when they follow me around and contact me...I just think there is a simpler solution....like confronting them head on...I know its jealousy and they have no life or are not happy with their life....but thats no reason to take it out on someone who works hard hard and doesnt do anything to them...I was raised to stand up for myself....before getting the police involved, I believe we should atleast talk and hash it out. I just think bullies are all the same....they will keep upping the scale until something is done...they dont stop until somebody stands up to them.

Long story somewhat short: Over a year ago or so we were married, no kids, no pets just us. We got in a huge fight not that we were great before and tried to work it out after I left him but wasn't happening. I admit I was poor on communication with him however he stopped talking to me 6 months ago. I even tried going to his house (which he owned before we got married and not on the title) and he wouldn't answer the door. I finally called my mother in law and she said he met someone at his work and got married a month ago then told me goodbye. Is this possible? He's the type that would do this and probably would sign a divorce decree if he wanted to. I even went on his Facebook page and wiped out all pictures of me to this other young girl and says he's married to her. Basically what I'm getting is he's ignored our legal marriage as if it never happened. I also have some items still at his place. I know I need a lawyer but what else can I do? Thank you, I have been in contact with a detective and will call me back tonight.

My husband is a truck driver. There has been little work lately due to the oil industry being slow. My husband drives across town only to be told there isn't work, often times. He will literally sit there ALL day long waiting on a load. His mom and I don't get it. Why does he waste time and gas doing this?

My husband and I just got married and he's in the military. A little while ago he told me that when he was in A school he would look at pictures of use girls. I told him before that I was okay with him looking at videos of porn. When he told me about the pictures I got pretty upset about it. He said he would look at them becUse I didn't send him enough pictures of me or I didnt send enough poses, that's made me feel pretty shitty. He also told me that when he looked at them he would imagine himself having sex with them and that really upset me. He's imaging himself with another women, I let all this drop when he said he wouldn't do it again but it still bothered me. Well today I was trying to do something on his computer and when I turned it on there was a picture of a girl. And he had a folder with 650 pictures of naked girls. I don't know if I should just drop it or what, it really bothers me but I don't want to have a fight about it.

We've been married only for two years. We dated for 6 years before. He's never cheated on when we were dating at least to my knowledge. He recently admitted that he had drunken sex with some random girl at the bar. He feels bad about it and he said he'll never do it again. I don't know if I can ever trust him again. I don't even want to touch him. I'm also germophobic. I'm afraid he might have STDs My family wants me to leave him.

My wife has never been an attention seeker in my relationship with her; if anything, I've always been the attention seeker (which should come to no surprise to the regulars on this site). But my wife is also NOT an attention giver either; in the beginning she was, but that's because I was a "new toy" and she wanted to play with me as long as there was this aura of mystery around me. But now, I'm an old toy that she picks up and plays with when she's bored... I've tried a lot of things to get her attention but nothing works. I've dieted and got down to 150 lbs but that didn't spark any fire. I've exercised and bulked up and that didn't do anything but make her upset I was never home to do my share of chores (always at the gym). I've done all the chores including her share and that didn't get her attention since she just used all the free time to spend time with her friends (when she had them) or she spent it alone doing crafts or things she enjoys. I've done a LOT to try to "earn" her attention but it is unwinnable - just like her parents attention was unwinnable since she was the middle child (and no one's favorite). The only time my wife got attention from her parents was when she got straight A's and was always obedient to her parents demands... In other words, I don't think she's ever going to learn to give or ask for attention; this need was abused out of her... Meanwhile, here I am, wanting my wife's attention, and wondering why she doesn't want mine...

This question is unrelated to my question earlier this morning. Let's say that my wife is wearing mascara for the first time ever (34 years old and has never liked makeup before now). If I can't notice her mascara because she puts it on so thin and doesn't use eye liner to express it more, should I still compliment her for her efforts (even though it looks like she isn't wearing any)? I've rarely received compliments so I don't know how they are supposed to work. Yes, that's true - in the 33 years I've been alive, I've almost entirely received criticisms and rarely ever did I get compliments EXCEPT when I performed things PERFECTLY (Straight A's, Touchdown pass, beat someone in the 100 meter dash, etc) so I could honestly use some help here. When trying to give a compliment - Do we compliment people for their effort? Or is the point of a compliment is to give them words of praise when they do things "the right way"?

My husband and I have two children together (2 years and 11 months). Sometimes, it seems like we have twins. Our 11 month old has begun to cruise along the furniture. Needless to say, with both of them getting into everything and working a full-time job, I am exhausted on weekends. My husband no longer helps out around the house (he only does the floors), and calls me lazy because I'm too exhausted to put the laundry away the same day I wash it all up (including his work clothes). He used to compare me to his mother, saying that she did everything around the house, took of their 7 kids by herself and never took a break. First of all, he doesn't know if his father pitched in when he wasn't working, since he was always off getting into trouble around the neighborhood. And second of all, his mother never worked outside of the home. So is it really fair for him to say I'm lazy? I always make sure the children are taken care of with clean clothes and diapers, and their meals are prepared BEFORE they want to eat. He--on the other hand--expected me to go buy him Starbucks, start doing the laundry, warm up the leftover chicken for breakfast, change both of the babies' diapers, make up their bottles and sit them down to eat while he just watched soccer. He got mad at me when I asked if he could do just one of those things. All he does these days is play on his phone and watch soccer games. Now matter times I talk to him, he doesn't believe that a person can be too worn out.

Been together 11+ years. He says that he deletes the messages bc it is not worth having to explain. He tells me I am too sensitive and jealous. He continues to text her daily. He hasn t talked or seen her since high school (Quite a few yrs ago 20ish) but for some reason he feels comfortable enough to talk to her about our marriage issues. Am I over thinking this?

My wife of one year (together 5) was invited by her best friend s husband for a coffee at his house while me and his wife are at work. Although she s been life long friends with that man s wife, he and my wife have only been friends the last 4 years. I ve never had a problem with her having male contacts over SMS, Facebook, or whatever, and in this case, I told her they should at least meet in a public place. Like a coffee shop or something. I ve known him for around the same amount of time and we ve had a lot of good times, and I think he s pretty harmless, but I m still uncomfortable with this. He didn t even run it by me, as I would assume common courtesy would dictate. I found out because she told me she was going there and she told me the details. I told her I m not comfortable with it and so she said she s not going. She did say she wouldn t mind if I spent some time with other women at their or our house.. Which shocked me.. I m thinking about giving him a call to tell him I don t appreciate him asking my wife to his house while they re alone without even asking if I m OK with it. Even though I have female friends with similar interests and hobbies, I never hang out with them without my wife around as a matter of principle to her and their husbands. Am I wrong? Should I call him? How should I handle the situation?

In my observation, women in general can't handle hearing that the lies they tell themselves aren't true. Example: Buying a designer purse instantly makes you popular or cool. It's a complete lie because someone out there will have a more expensive and more fancy purse than you, which will only drive you to go buy a more expensive purse to out do them. In other words, having the desire to be noticed by your peers only creates competition, not your desired result. But should we (as husbands or male friends) support our wives (or female friends) in whatever crazy idea they have for themselves and tell them what they want to hear so we can help boost their ego and bolster their fragile self esteem (should they have one)? This question comes about because there's a female friend of mine that has given me nothing but grief ever since she found out I was agnostic. I would push her away like I have everyone else, but her daughter is BFF with my daughter so I have to put up with her (my wife won't in my place). So I thought to myself today "Maybe if I act and pretend to be Christian, like her evangelism is working, maybe then she'll leave me alone and stop harassing me and fighting against my beliefs and my values". But I don't know if it's going to work. So far it is, and she is really taking in the pride of my optimistic (facade) remarks towards her and me "changing" to become more heavenly/positive. I can't tell if she's mind gaming me back, but she seems convinced I've changed. This friend of mine is going through divorce to a man she couldn't "save" or change and she believes he's just a broken man with no morals. She of course didn't blame HERSELF for the marriage failure because "he was the one who couldn't see his way to Jesus", rather than her being a bit cuckoo in the head and trying to impose her beliefs on her husband the same way they were imposed on to her... By the way, hating "women culture" does not make me a misogynist. It makes me a person who hates gender stereotypes and if anything a feminist. So keep your hate labels to yourself.

when my husband gets mad or frustrated which is a lot he curses at me .. puts me down( we are having trouble getting pregnant hell say stuff like you cant even carry a baby)... tries to bring up all the negative in my family when his is no better ... can you give him advice thanks

What should I do to repay him for the love and kindness he showed me everyday?

I've been married several years but have never been in love. Our marriage has been tumultuous and we've been living day to day in survival mode. My husband got sick, couldn't work for a while, and we've been working very hard to pay off medical bills and save. It's been a joyless ride. Since I've been spending so much time at work, I've been forced to get to know a male colleague as we've collaborated on various projects together. Without realizing it, I've become emotionally invested in him and have fallen in love. My emotions are so strong I can't just stop. I love him, and I don't know what to do... I'm married.

So I posted a selfie on snapchat, and this guy who hasn't talked to me since 8th grade (Im in 10th) snapped me. It first started out casual and him saying things like "oh I haven't seen you in so long" then it turned into "So, you want to netflix and chill" followed by"Im just kidding" then "I mean unless you want to.." He also opened up to me about his insecurities and such. Finally he said "You looked really good in your selfie" followed by emojis. We snapped each other for three hours straight, and in the end before I went to sleep he said " snap me in the morning" so I did. He has been asking me a lot of questions. Then i brought up the topic of homecoming and I asked playfully who he was going to ask. He said "Im going to ask(another girl) and now he hasn't snapped me since. I don't know i think I made it awk. oh well Oh he has snapped me back, but its all about how much he likes the other girl. ( the other girl he is asking to HC) netflix and chill means hook up

I am 16 and I know legally I can get married at 18, but what's the best age?