If a married man says he is staying married bc he is settLing will the marriage work or fail? He said he prob should have never gotten married in the first place.

My dad is married to a younger woman who is his third wife. Wife #1 was my mom who had severe mental problems. #2 was a very cruel Cinderella type who was very mean to my brother and I. #3 seemed ok until she sunk her claws into my dad. They have been married three years and were together for 6 before that. I am now in my thirties and just want my dad to be happy at this point, but I am really sad out relationship is so poor. His third wife does not like me, never has. She is very rude and standoffish. I am very well liked at my work and all areas of my life. I think she is with him for his money, she quit her job right after the married and goes to great lengths to control his money. Not that it's my business but it's pretty obvious. Since they married my dad does not speak to me at holiday gatherings, does not return my calls, and things are generally awkward. He recently took his stepdaughter out in the city for her birthday with their friends and family.. With gifts and dinner and drinks...and on my birthday he sent a text.. No phone call or card or anything. I would like to confront my dad about this but I just don't have the courage. Why is he so kind to other people's families and so cold to me? Any insight would be helpful.

I've become very interested in a married woman. I have met her husband as well- in short seems an ok guy. In no way am I putting signals out or doing anything inappropriate. Also, to be clear, I would never make a move or even receive a move by her while she is married. That being said, all I ever see on these boards are crazy insults to men in my situation....as if we are some horrible people for having feelings. You can't help whom you become interested in, and if you are not actively pursuing it, why do people still freak out? What is wrong with being in a girl's life and if over time she chooses she likes you over her husband, starting a relationship? I see all these posts about how the moment a woman is married you should basically act like she doesn't exist...I guess I don't get it. Maybe it's my naiveté nature, but people aren't owned / wedding bands are not proof of purchase. In my mind, as long as you are not disrespecting the marriage or the spouse of the person you lie, then nothings wrong. Why do so many people freak out about this? Are they insecure about their own relationship? Do people think they have the right to give up after marriage and not try to keep their spouse in love?

K. So i have a high sex drive. What can I say? When I'm alone I literally masturbate every 5 minutes. I think about sex constantly. I'm a 17 year old girl. I started having sex in elementary school. Yep. I was about 10. It wasn't forced, they were around my age, relax. But yeah. I mean it felt good I guess but it was gross and weird. At 14, I made out with a guy, and then made out and went to 3rd base with a guy in the hallway. I was almost expelled for that. At 15, I got drunk/high and slept with a stranger at a party. Oops. At 15, I went on my first date with this older guy. That wasn't consensual. I then at 16 went to third base with a 19 year old. I have been sexually dormant for about a year now. Not my choice, but by circumstance. So. Is this normal? This is a serious question

The woman I'm talking about is me. I've been married and widowed twice. My first husband died during the first gulf war (January of 1991). My second husband died while we were on our honeymoon (May of 1997). I've been with my current boyfriend and fiance for 16 years, and we have 3 children together (13 year old triplets). We are planning to get married in Las Vegas later on this year. Some people say that I'm a jinx, or that I shouldn't get married for the 3rd time. I wasn't ready to get married before now. But I am now. I just don't understand why so many people would say I shouldn't get married again. My boyfriend is the love of my life, I won't deny that. We've been through hell and back, and we've always bounced back. Maybe I should ignore the naysayers, and just do what I want.

My girlfriend will always tell me when guys hit on her or flirt with her when I'm not around. She will also stare at men and smile at then in front of me and when they talk to her she is very friendly with them in front of me. Why does she do this and how should I react?

My family wants me to stay with him but I keep bloodying his ugly-*** Filipino face because he's so bitchy and bossy. I've always beat up every guy my family suggested I date and they fight back with me. My family is Filipino. And I'm worried that if I leave my husband, the next person will beat me up so I have to beat him up so that way he won't do it because all males are violent and deserve abuse and mistreatment no matter what. Guys are nothing but punching bags. I always think everyone is out to get me so I have to protect myself by being violent and aggressive. Plus, I always cheat on my husband too. I've done that before with every guy my family fixed me up with as well.

having a tv stay feels the right time to a sabotaged risky tacking convenient just bc boot up opens lap tops adorble from a remote control closeness.

My mother and father in law sent my husband a fish cleaning table a day before we are scheduled to be induced for our first child. Doesn't this seem like an inappropriate gift considering my husband will be busy taking care of the child. I feel as though my father in law is sending a message to tackle fatherhood the way that he did...he was absent and fished and drank. I don't appreciate this gesture. It is not my husbands birthday or any holiday! They are sending this gift that would take him away from the home...right when they baby is due! Opinions...

I don't know about you... But Personally, I would be happy that the government gave half a f)uck about what happens to me... By having the Justice of the Peace say this to me. Mister Evans... The Records show that the woman you are trying to marry has been divorced 6 times before... We can't confirm or deny it... but her former husbands have made the claim that She stole their money and then divorced them when either A she got caught, or B... they didn't have any more for her. She's a possible, alleged Gold digger. Her Criminal Background check here says that she was convicted on two counts of domestic violence, one of them with broken bones. Her former husbands also allege that she will say anything that she thinks that you want to hear... This court believes that there is little if any chance that she has any real emotional attachment to you, whatsoever. Knowing that when you get married, every real estate that you buy, or rent... Every Car that you Buy, Lease or Rent, and Every Contract that you enter into... And every Child that you make with her... Is ALL in the custody of both of you equally, as a single entity... And in the event of a divorce, she can sue you for it.... And in most Jurisdictions in America, especially in the South, she'd probably win.. Regardless of anything but her Gender. Do you want to continue, and go through with this Marriage, as if perhaps 7 is a charm, and that you're somehow or other something special in this life ? Personally I would feel saved, more than Dictated to !

im especially interested in hearing what the men have to say on the subject. my partner is cheating on me. and i know it. yet still denies it. why is it when a man gets caught cheating, they refuse to admit it? i just dont understand.

My brother is 27 years old. He's a RN. He was engaged to a girl when he was 22 but she cheated on him. It was someone whom he loved a lot. My family is Indian and my parents like arranged marriages but they are not going to force a girl on him. They want them to know each other. Anyway, my brother has not found anyone and he's tired of looking and so are my parents. We're scared that he might never get married or have kids.

Husband met someone at work who he spent a considerable amount of time with and won't admit that he spent more time with her than with me. She's no longer in the same country as us but there's till regular contact despite it making me uncomfortable. He's told me he's bored and not 'in love' with me but still wants to be married. We've been together 17 years, married 8 years and have two kids. I'm tired of not being important to him when he tells me he would do anything for this person, amongst others, all female.

My husband has been pulling away for about 6 months. He says nothing is wrong, but I can tell that its different. All he does when he gets home is plop in front of the tv and fall asleep, EVERY NIGHT. I have tried everything to get his attention. I did my hair, changed the way I dress, put make-up on more often. But it still seems like he would rather hang out with his friends. What am I doing wrong? (He is 25, Im 24. We have been married 5 years and we have two children)

If a guy is married, and he is talking to a female friend whom he met over a month ago, Wouldn't it be the right thing for him to admit he's married? I can understand people who doesn't want everyone in their relationship, but why can't they just admit that they could be married? Why can't they say "My wife and I." "Or I'm married but prefer not to talk about my marriage?" I'm hurt because I've been talking to this guy that I have major interest in, but so far he hasn't admitted he's with someone, and to me that sends a red flag. Am I wrong here? Shouldn't a married man tell you right off he's married? He only said this one lady was his business partner. I know they have a daughter together. I asked about her because they have the same last name. He is my coach/ mentor for a company and I'm hurt because I hope he's not married, and didn't tell me that. We both have a major connection, and great chemistry. Should a married man admit it the first time he ever meets you, or at least within that month?

Tell me if im crazy... ive never met my family in mexico,my mom has not gone back in 24 years because of processing visas and i am 20 and i have a 18 year old sister. I always chat with them and i dream of meeting them and seeing the place my mother calls home. Now, i am married, got married very young right after highschool (no kids yet) . My step dad wants to fund a trip for me to visit my family and i am beyond excited and nervous ,me and my sister would go for a week and only be there in the area. Its very important because they miss my mother beyond anything and seeing us would be like seeing her. ... my husband however tend to be a bit controlling and traditional. He wants to go but he says a few days only and he is a bit judgemental and i feel if i bring him itll ruin my experience a bit, i feel so selfish, when i asked him i didnt invite him but i assume he thought he would go too but we have dogs at home and if he misses work itll be a bit hard financially. Not only that but i have dedicated my entire life to hime since i was 14 and i feel like i need this break for some reason. Ive never cheated , gone to parties and i have no friends because he is a bit needy, and he doeznt want me to go at all and i feel like he doesnt trust me at all. I do t know if i should go or not. And he keeps saying " every action has consequences"?

My co worker is telling me I am weird because I told her my husband and I do NOT go to the bathroom in front of each other. She says her and her husband do and it is normal! I have never heard of such a thing. Am I wrong or is she? Please settle our debate.

Personally, I've never said that to my husband seriously, and I would be horribly offended if he said that to me. We don't do the whole "privacy" and "secrets" thing. Just wondering how many of you say that to your spouse, or would be fine if your spouse said it to you?

Let's say that my wife and I just don't care about cultures other than our own; we don't care to be educated, we don't care to get involved, and we ESPECIALLY don't appreciate them judging us based on THEIR cultural beliefs. Now let's say that my wife and I meet a couple has a culture [LGBTQA, feminist, racist, sexist, ageist, pro life, Christian, Patriot, army brat, whatever just pick something that helps you answer]. Do you believe that it is my and my wife's job to treat their culture with sensitivity and try to be understanding through their culture? Or do you feel that this couple should keep their damn beliefs to themselves and leave me and my wife out of it? How would you handle someone who did the opposite of what you believe in? To be clear, I don't give a f*ck about etiquette, so don't move this question there, I don't need to be shamed by snobs.

My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We have two beautiful boys 2 years and 10 weeks old. When my husband and I go out to dinner, I struggle to keep a conversation going with him. I'll ask how is day was and he will be like, "fine." I'll even try to talk about topics he enjoys like trucks and dirtbikes or whatever and I still get nothing... It is starting to get to me now. I feel like there isn't any depth in our relationship and that he doesn't care to grow closer. He never asks me even simple things like how my day was, how work was or anything. We literally sit across the table from each other in silence unless I ramble about nonsense just so it's not awkward. Am I reading to much into this or should I be concerned?

My boyfriend constantly compliments females on social media and its a bit annoying. He flirts all the time ; "nice thighs, eyes, body, etc." Today his delivery route was in xyz city and he posts where he is and posts "Having lunch at Olive Garden so ladies in the area, lunch on me. Join me." I hate I feel so insecure, but I feel I'm not enough when he constantly compliments women.

I'v seen a lot of movies where couples get married in front of Elvis ? Why do they do that ? Is there like some kind of story behind it ?

they had kids? Kids will grow up and become individuals and leave. It is like babysitting till they leave home and get married. What is it for? Life is short.

This is an open ended question, and I expect a real answer. Why does the legal system continue to issue marriage licenses to the following people. Celebrity Showboats who increase the divorce rate because they are in it for a Publicity stunt, with no intention on making a life together, and without the social skills to sustain a marriage in real life off the stage ? People who are unlikely to have anything in common, without a match making Personality and Psychological test, and a thorough background check, and comparing the two results ? To Perpetual Divorcees ? To people may or may not have the ability to work things out for themselves, amongst themselves, and people may possibly have some bad ideas about marriage and living together with other people, including people who think of marriage as FUN, Until of course, it isn't ? To people who want to get married, and just barely know each other's parents ? To people who rely on their parents, as opposed to being adults about their relationship ? To people with criminal records for Domestic Violence, and Child Support violations, and even to some people with outstanding lawsuits against them ? To people with Bad credit, and poverty incomes ? To people who get married for the wrong reasons. To Gold Diggers, which is a type of a con artist, and sometimes a murderer. Why does the Government continue to endorse marriage relationships amongst people who make up the majority of the divorce rate, and breaking up families ?

judge me. I want to divorce. Why dont people understand that just like marriage divorce is normal too and we all deserve to be happy and live in love. My question is my last sentence: Why dont people understand just like marriage divorce is normal too and we all deserve to be happy and live in love?

Hi all. Just wondering if anyone else faces this issue. Every time we have a fight or argument my wife throws the divorce word at me and will pack her stuff and run home to her mum. I don't understand this. Every one has arguments. But to me you marry someone and you love that person, you do whatever it takes to make it work. I couldn't imagine ever leaving her but every time we fight its her go to move. Then she tells me how she can always find someone else and blah blah blah. Am I alone here or is this just a childish approach to being married. A last resort if you love the person is to break up yeah? Sometimes I feel like I'm the idiot trying to make this work and she couldn't careless. Makes me not feel speical at all. How can I make her see this. I've told her but still doesn't seem to fix the issue.

#1 grievance with him....he's a great guy, truly...but we can't seem to be anywhere, or see anything without him saying little things like, "oh yes, we used to go to that restaurant every Sunday!" OR, "we put that fence in in the 80's", OR, "we loved that movie" OR, "one time we rented that kind of car and drove it up the coast!", OR, "we used to use that room as a playroom". Like, every object in the world, every noun, every location on the planet has a story of "we".... and I'm not in any of them. So, yes, obviously this breaks my heart. advice?

He left us its been two years already... No legal advice please or how to get revenge. I just wanna know what going on in his head. I don't want revenge just a good co-parenting relationship. He left me and I gave him his way My ex husband and I broke up right after I had our son due to his affair, He left to go be with the other woman so I let him leave and gave in, gave him what he wanted. While it was hard to do, I have moved on and was dating a very good man but am just as happy single too. Feels good and its showing on me. I started my yoga studio back up went back to blonde you know picked myself up. We are now going through a custody battle. He treats me so poorly, he is the one who lied and cheated. I gave him his way. I leave him alone, I dont fuss at him when he lies, when he is irresponsible with our son. He lies about me to others, he gives me dirty looks, he constantly calls me bitter, ( Im not), he even wouldn't allow me to have our son on mothers day even after I had asked to trade our custodial days. He gives me the silent treatment. I have done nothing to this guy but walk away gave him what he wanted. he left me. When the girl he cheated on me with called me to say I was right, after he had cheated on her, I even comforted her, because I am a good person. Im not evil as most woman would be, I just walked away from him and healed on my own. Im also wondering why he has to bring up my past wrongs as if they still matter. It's the same wrong over and over again. He only brings up things when he wants to fight. Why does he lie about me, why does he glare at me when he sees me. Why call me bitter when Im not. Why does he even lie to me about things. I dont get it I gave him what he wanted and I walked away. even when he brings our son to the car, he cant even put him in his car seat, he just puts him in the front seat of my car and makes me get out to put him in the car. Or he gas to wear headphones when he sees me... I dont care about him.... its our son that I want healthy and whole him too (my ex) WHAT THE HECK IS THAT ABOUT. Our son is two is that safe no . A parent who is focused on the child makes sure that their kid is buckled in super tight. He lies to me about how he has article written about him, yet no article and I work in the industry. He lies constantly about me to everyone and I just stay in my corner. Why does he hate me, I admit i wnet stark mad when i found out and burned up his s**t but i realized I wanna be healthy so I left and grew up some more. But him? Why lie about me, just why UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I don't want legal advice I gotta lawyer... Just some human advice opinions as to why he's doing this ! What did I do wrong. I left because he cheated and I gave him what he wanted. so now he gets to hate me. I mean he's the one giving me the silent treatment as if I'm the wrong doer! Why can't he just get along with me

I'm currently engaged to a man with 2 kids from a previous marriage. They are for sure his kids but there is no child support order in place or visitation agreement. The ex wife constantly calls and ask for money for odd things but she also include interest on the amount. Meaning if an outfit cost 40.00 she will ask for 60.00. I don't have any issue with him giving her money or paying the (interest) BUT I do have an issue with her getting upset if we don't have the money at the time she demands it. We finance everything when the kids are with us every weekend (food, clothes, haircuts, shoes) etc. We get school uniforms, school supplies, school shoes, extracurricular activities fees. But that does not seem to please her. She has been threatening to put him on child support and has been keeping the kids from us for various reasons like she wants to take them to the movies, or their friends are coming over. After every call with his Ex he vents to me and I listen but my advice is for him to put himself on Child support. To me things would be easier with his EX. I hate that he is constantly getting put down by his EX and he is doing what he can to provide for his children.I stay out of their arguments but he ask my opinion and I want to tell him the right thing. Am I wrong for telling him this? Some men don't want to be (caught up in the system). But if he already takes care of them financially under the table than what difference should it make?

Let's say that you actually DO have a healthy marriage (I doubt it, but let's just give you the benefit of the doubt), do you care if your group, culture, community, family, place of work, Facebook friends, or anyone else in your life can use your marriage as an example of how you SHOULD behave? Also, is this the reason you answer randos questions online, so you can permeate your excellence to inferior people who have problems? Side note: By the way, I do not report answers, I'd rather just debate with you in comments. If you don't like my comments, don't reply back. Plain and simple. You can't stop a person who has opinions, you can only ignore them.

We have regular sex and he's never watched those dirty movies while I am in our house.

a couple get really, really, drunk, stumble into a wedding chapel in Nevada and get married! Three weeks later the guy splits and is never seen again. The woman kept her previous last name and went on with her life, thirty years ago...does she need to do anything legally or just keep it in the past? She never married again.

She lived with and had a child with one man, married another man, divorced and married another man. The third man adopted her child and they had another. They then divorced. What is the likelihood that her current relationship will last.

I have nothing wrong with taking the lead for sex but I'm concerned that she never shows interest in it. I have to go and light candles and push her a bit to have a try. Usually once she gets into it, she is alright but it's that initial stage that she never shows interest in. She talked about wanting children yet she has no sex drive. She said she can't relax because we live with others which is fair enough. Our home will be built in two months. She uses porn to turn her on and doesn't like making out or foreplay. Tonight she said she felt uncomfortable and wanted me to get away from her when I was trying to get her in the mood. She doesn't seem to have any sexual attraction. That's where I'm seriously debating giving up for good. It hurts but I think there's no point in wasting good years of my life with someone if they don't feel sexually attracted to me anymore. I feel like I deserve to have a wife who wants to have sex and make efforts to rekindle romance and respect. This is feeling like convenience and not real love :( How to get her to enjoy me in a sexual way again?

My husband will do things and not tell me about them until they are done or even later. For example: Setting up appointments with a lawyer after ticketed for reckless driving, applying for a FOID card, calling our mortgage guy while at work and negotiating prices out of intended range with him for when we were interested in buying another home, making appointments in general, etc. I don t hear anything about this before it happens.. Hardly even a mention of interest most of the time. Is it normal? I feel like after he comes home from work (late in the day) he eats dinner and watches television. We hardly talk and when I express my concern it turns into a fight because he feels offended somehow.

He is deploying soon but we've only been dating for 5 months. He has hinted that he's going to propose soon. I'm seriously on the fence about this whole thing. I don't think 5 months is enough time to commit the rest of your life to someone. I'm freaking out. Am I wrong?

She is also married and having 2 kids . She is mind blowing beautiful . Now I have told her that I am having infatuation with her . I am also attracted towards her for sex. i told that relationship is not worth as we both are married but she says we are not doing anything wrong. but she talk about sex indirectly . she wants to see my 1st night video and pics with my wife. she says I am just her friend . that is it . but I want to know friendship after marriage is called illict relationship. what should i do . should i block her on whats aap. or meet and have sex with her so that my attraction can go down. kindly give your view .. let me know it is wrong or right ... I am from pune india.

He has been lying to her about his feeling for me and the fact that we are still living and sleeping together. He moved to her place for 3 days and then came back to me. How can he really love her if he keeps coming back to me?

What factors influence whether they will forgive an unfaithful partner?

Hi all I am 23 years old and recently ended an affair with a 33 year old married woman, with two young kids. The affair lasted for 7 months and was very intense. We both worked together in the same department. There was a lot of talk about being in love and lots lots of sex. There was a pregnancy and abortion as well. I was single throughout the relationship as well. Basically the relationship got too intense for me and I realised that I was not going to get much more out of the relationship besides sex, so I decided to end it after a heated discussion. It was very hard as we were goodfriends and we had told each other everything. I knew it had to end because I started to get jealous that we was also having sex with her husband. I knew this was a sign that I had fallen for her. She ende up telling her husband everything, including the abortion. I spoke to her husband as well who told me that we all needed to deal with it and he knew that she was in love with me. I told him that I would not contact her and I hope she would stop too. I confided in a mutual friend who has now told everybody in my ex workplace. She still works there. She continued to contact me just to abuse me. Still till this day she calls me on private number to abuse me and call me a child. She says that her husband is a real man and that I am nothing but a child. She goes around telling people that the sex was better with her husband. I don't really care at her trying to take shots at my ego, but I don't understand her need to continue to contact me and be abusive. I have changed jobs and tried to move forward with life, but she has managed to find out my new numbers and emails. I feel so hurt by it all, someone that claimed to love me so much is now calling me and telling me that everyday with me was ****. The sex was ****. She hates me and will never forgive me till the day she dies. We did end up having sex about two weeks ago, which her husband found out about and endded up calling my parents on my home phone and telling them everything. From what I know they are working things out and moving forward. I dont understand why she wont leave me alone. I really just wanted to end things as they were and move forward. I wasnt expecting anything more, but I hoped maybe we could of been friends after the feelings had subsided. Now it feels strange. She calls to say she hates me. I get an email every sayings that I am a child. If I tell her to focus on her marriage, she tells me that I could not bring up her husband who is a saint of a man and would never betray her. I dont understand what happened to everything. So hurt and needs someone to just help me through this. What could she possible get out of hurting me. She has her loving husband. Why does she not let me just get on with my life. My parents are now involved for no reason. Please help.

First of all sorry about my English its not my mother tongue .. I am a 29 years old married male to a beautiful 23 years old wife .. We have been married now for 9 months and we were having fun and our sexual life was super fine .. Until one day 3 months ago she started asking me to do strange stuff to her like anal sex i know its normal for many people but for me its not and we talked about this before marriage and we had a deal but now she insists .. Not only that she wants me to beat her and speak to her in a very very bad way during sex slap her face as hard as possible and watch her poop and sh*t like that .. And all what i do is that i refuse to do such a thing i am a romantic kinda guy who wants to live a happy like with his wife am not a porn star .. We have been fighting about this for months we barely talk to each other now .. And before anybody ask if she has some mental issues or anything like that the answer is no shes is just as normal as you and me but when it comes to sex shes a different human being .. The situation is not good and i really need help . Thanks

I wrote a summary on an article regarding arranged marriages in India's Hindu society but I can't think of a good discussion question to ask the class. Asking something simple such as "What do you think about arranged marriages?" or "Would you like to be chosen for someone you didn't know", would be too obvious of an answer since I'm in California. I would really appreciate some ideas that would get people to participate. Thank you.