Marriage & Divorce: Question: I ruined my marriage by being destructive, how do I get my wife back? |
- Question: I ruined my marriage by being destructive, how do I get my wife back?
- Question: Why do men insist on keeping a mistress longterm?
- Question: At what age does men's sex drive die down?
- Question: My sister purchased a truck with my dad consigning for her. My sister is getting a divorce. We don t know how to address this issue. Advice?
- Question: Weird sexual fetish?
- Question: Do I have a say in who I live with?
- Question: I'm afraid of commitment, how do I change that?
- Question: What is the probability that a man and a woman go for a weekend of fun together, hiding from their spouses, and do not have sex?
- Question: What should I do about husband?
- Question: How do I convince my husband to go to counseling with me, in order to find out if he is gay, before we have kids?
- Question: If your wife said that you can have sex anytime you wanted as long as YOU do all the work EVERY time, how long would it take to "get old"?
- Question: I ruined my marriage by being destructive, how do I get my wife back?
- Question: What would you think if a Lady ask your husband to take her to the Mall?
- Question: Is this normal?
- Question: Am I wrong to insist my husband not communicate with emotional affair partner?
- Question: How long should I wait after being cheated on and leaving my husband?
- Question: How do I stop my wife from controlling me in fundamental ways?
- Question: My destructive personality ruined my marriage, How do I get her back?
- Question: Sex toy help for wife with traveling husband?
- Question: My husband doesn't last long during sex, he gives me oral, and then we have sex that last 3 minutes then he is done. What else can I do?
- Question: Does Your Husband Make You Cry?
- Question: My husband is 16 years older than me and it's starting to effect things?
- Question: How do I deal with my ex husband and his issues?
- Question: How do I get my husband to cook for me?
- Question: Will my wife mind my foot fetish?
- Question: I was married young as a stepdad and separated, wife has new child now we're back together I want 2 go but I was told 2 be a man of my word?
- Question: Ladies, would you allow husband to kiss your legs?
- Question: What to do when your spouse listens for PERCEIVED attacks, passive aggression, or errors in history instead of to what you're saying?
- Question: Hey yall! So I really want my wife to wear la sexy cheeky bikini, but don't quiet no how to suggest it? It would be a big turn on.?
- Question: Divorced people: Have you chosen not to remarry?
- Question: Does he not want to do anything with me?
- Question: Do I have to pay for my ex's overtime child care?
- Question: Why do Atheists get Married?
- Question: Is it possible to marry ourselves?
- Question: Why do people judge me and my husband for being married young and having twins on the way?
- Question: For those of you that are married, have you or would you start dating someone else while you are separated and before you're divorced?
- Question: Can you sue your own wife for not financially contributing to the marriage 50/50.?
- Question: What should I do? Husband doesn t want my mom at sons first haircut.?
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- Question: Need help deciding our life?
- Question: Do you feel at all responsible for your spouses happiness?
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- Question: How can i make my husband's sex drive high??
- Question: Do all married women bash their husbands to their friends? Seems like wife will tell you one thing and say something different to friends.?
- Question: Should I leave?
- Question: My husband came home with hickeys on his neck.?
- Question: Am I wrong for feeling this way?
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- Question: Does my wife have a porn addiction?
- Question: Why doesn't my husband kiss me or touch me they ways he knows turn me on when.we have we sex?
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| Question: I ruined my marriage by being destructive, how do I get my wife back? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 09:34 PM PDT I messed up, how do I get my wife back? I love my wife. Let me say that first, she and I have been married for a year and a half. So we live in Provo Utah but I have been dealing with some stuff and so I took up very heavy drinking. When I was drinking I would pass out drunk and wake up hung over the next day, shower brush my teeth use mouth wash and go to classes/work. One night when drinking I fell and hit my head and broke both my legs, I fell down the stairs. Anyway I was given some pain medicine and started taking it with alcohol and was rushed to the ER. I guess the final straw was when my wife tried to take my vodka away and I pushed her....I hate to admit that that happened. I do not like to think about what that does to her. I am experiencing night terrors from being abused as a child, was homeless for four years until a family from my church took me in. I am a damaged man wanting to get help but I don't want to deal with these feelings alone how do I get her back? I need her to be there with me when I go to counseling and I need her to be there when I get back. As you can tell from the question my wife left me and went to stay with her sister at her place. She said I need to think about us. How do I apologize and show I want to get better. |
| Question: Why do men insist on keeping a mistress longterm? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 09:08 PM PDT Even after his wife caught him cheating, he lies to her and insists on keeping an ongoing relationship with a mistress. They may have small disagreements but they still are together, work together and talk on the phone when he can. He has a 1 year old and the only reason he won't leave his wife is because he still wants to spend time with his daughter. Why is he reluctant to let her go? |
| Question: At what age does men's sex drive die down? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 08:24 PM PDT |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 08:11 PM PDT So my sisters husband doesn t want to give the truck back not he wants to continue paying for the truck. We don t mind paying for the truck note but we don t feel fair he gets to have it while we pay for it. What can we do? I know we need a lawyer for my sister but a divorce will take a while to settle and by that time my dads credit will be messed up. What can we do in three meantime?? Help please!! |
| Question: Weird sexual fetish? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:52 PM PDT I am a 30 year old married male. Whenever I am in the house or after a hard day's job, I I am usually in my sleeveless vest. My wife seems to be turned on all the time she sees me like this. Although I really enjoy the sex, I am getting a little concerned if this is developing into a kind of a fetish. She tells me that in the initial days of our marriage, I had sex with her in the kitchen, doggy style and I was apparently wearing a similar vest. We have a good sex life and so it is hard to remember the particular occasion. She always insists I wear it to bed as well. What should I do? |
| Question: Do I have a say in who I live with? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:51 PM PDT My parents had a divorce a few years back and I never really took notice as my younger self. But now, I'm wondering how my day is in who I live with. My mother has anger issues, and is the woman that absolutely loves to get her way so I was hoping that I would have a say in all of this. But I have read that children 12 or above can have a say in their living situation. I'm not saying I hate my mother, she is nice in some way it's just my dad is a more easy going guy and I prefer to stay with him, he also has the only connection to my main family, I love my family and would be very depressed if I hardly saw them... I do not think I was the correct age when the divorce happened. My mom has kept us at my father's allot more than with her, exactly for the family reason. But they have been fighting recently and seem to be growing out of the understanding state. My main question is this- if I was under the correct age during the divorce and I am not above that age, can I still have a say in who I live with? Or am I stuck with my mom? I'd rather not lose my dads side of the family. I'd hate to lose them. |
| Question: I'm afraid of commitment, how do I change that? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:45 PM PDT I'm 17 years old, and I have never been in a relationship. I think it's because I'm afraid of commitment. My dad left before I was born, and all my life I have been questioning, "why would a married man leave his pregnant wife?" Anyway, my mom and other family members told me that he didn't want any kids, so he left. So I think that's the reason why I am afraid of commitment. It's probably every girl's dream to find and marry her true love, but with me, marriage scares me; just the idea of being with one person for more than a few months scares me, and I don't want to be scared anymore. Half of me wants to settle down (when I'm older) and get married, but the other half of me doesn't want what my dad did to my mom and I, happen to me. I don't know what to do? Every year, all of the seniors get the same question that they have to answer and present to the class -Where do you see yourself 10 years from now? The vast majority of the people in my class answered, "settled down, married (maybe), kids (maybe)" and my answer was, "with a good paying job" I didn't even include anything about marriage, kids, or a family. |
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| Question: What should I do about husband? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 06:53 PM PDT Been married 7 yrs. For yrs he s been telling me to work when I was a stay at home mom. Now that I got a decent job he s still complaining. Today he knew I had to work and he went to work knowing school was closed and I had no other options. He s self employed so his job is a lot more flexible. Luckily my hairdresser was kind enough to help me out. He now told me he s working in another state next week and was laughing that I ll have to stay home. He s verbally and physically abusive also. I don t have family lose. Should I quit my job? |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 06:35 PM PDT I have only been married a few years, and we don't have any children, but we want them. The problem is, I have seen many suspicious things that make me think that husband may not be straight. I have found gay dating apps in his phone, and after (admittedly) snooping further, I found emails between him and other men and in one he told the other guy that he was a "bottom" which after googling I found out is a sexual term. On top of that one day when I used his movie account to finish watching a movie that he and I started watching, his account history was full of gay themed shows and movies that he'd been watching. I did actually confront my husband and he said that he is not gay but he did admit to being curious. Every since then i've been very paranoid that he's actually gay, and i'm terrified that he will leave me...even more than that, i'm terrified to have a child with him and THEN he leaves me. I obsess about this daily. I want nothing more than to forget that i've seen all this and start trying for a baby, but I can't. I've told my husband I want marriage counseling, but he says he doesn't need counseling. When I do bring up to him that I still don't feel right about the things i've seen, he asks me if I feel that way then why am I still with him, and says I have the right to leave. I'm with him because I love him but we NEED counseling for me to move on...I just know something isn't right. Please advise! Do I need to just move on from this part of our life? I don't really mind him looking at gay themed movies and stuff...it's just the emails that really bothered me more than anything where he talks about having sex with other men and being a bottom. If he is bisexual or curious, I can deal with that, but I don't want to be cheated on...and with the emails, it just feels like that's where it's heading. Hopefully, he hasn't already, but I honestly don't know because he closes up whenever I try to approach the subject. |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 05:55 PM PDT My wife said she will NEVER pursue me for sex as it is the man's job. She also does not believe that it is the woman's job to look attractive since she believes she's hot without trying (more on this later). How many times would you do this until you realized that pornography or having an affair would be more fun or at least mutually enjoyable? My wife seems to think that she is the hottest thing on Earth without trying. She's a size 9, she has a B cup, she grows her naturally brunette hair out, she does not wear makeup (no color, mascara, eyeliner, nothing), she wears pajamas most of the time, and she plays on her computer 2/3 of the time she's home. She does not participate in sex talk as that is "taboo", she does not flirt, she does not believe in foreplay, and she says a firm "NO" when you try to take her into the bedroom and she doesn't want to (renigging on her own proposal since it isn't an open buffet, it is a reservations dinner). So how long would you put up with this? Would you still have sex 2 - 3 times a day? Or would you be like me and go 2 - 3 times a year? |
| Question: I ruined my marriage by being destructive, how do I get my wife back? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 05:37 PM PDT I messed up, how do I get my wife back? I love my wife. Let me say that first, she and I have been married for a year and a half. So we live in Provo Utah but I have been dealing with some stuff and so I took up very heavy drinking. When I was drinking I would pass out drunk and wake up hung over the next day, shower brush my teeth use mouth wash and go to classes/work. One night when drinking I fell and hit my head and broke both my legs, I fell down the stairs. Anyway I was given some pain medicine and started taking it with alcohol and was rushed to the ER. I guess the final straw was when my wife tried to take my vodka away and I pushed her....I hate to admit that that happened. I do not like to think about what that does to her. I am experiencing night terrors from being abused as a child, was homeless for four years until a family from my church took me in. I am a damaged man wanting to get help but I don't want to deal with these feelings alone how do I get her back? I need her to be there with me when I go to counseling and I need her to be there when I get back. As you can tell from the question my wife left me and went to stay with her sister at her place. She said I need to think about us. How do I apologize and show I want to get better. |
| Question: What would you think if a Lady ask your husband to take her to the Mall? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 05:34 PM PDT My husband has been doing volunteer hours for a church. The lady in charge ask my husband If he can take her to the Mall. He said she is an old lady, but I do not know her. What would you think, should I be concern or no? |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 04:48 PM PDT My friend wakes up in his sleep swinging at the air yelling I will ******* kill you. Another time he jumped out of his bed and punched the air two or three times yelling, "that will teach you to **** with me again". He seems kind of like an angry person but keeps most of it to himself. I asked him what happened and he kissed my forehead and said, "dont worry about it, it was only a bad dream someone was trying to hurt people I love." We are friends with benefits too and while we were at his job he came up behind me and put his hands under my shirt then unbuckled his pants and told me to go down on him. I didn't because of where we were, he grabbed my head and made me saying" do you know what the **** you put me through or what I do go for for you". I didnt know I bothered him that deeply. After a few mins he let go and stopped and said, I'm sorry I don know where that came from and kind of laughed. So I went over to the table shocked and started to dry dishes. He came up behind me and pulled my skirt the ground and tried having sex with me but stopped since he couldn't get it in. He told me from the beginning he likes to be the dominate person and wants to take me when he wants me and is into kink.Not familiar with it all so is that all normal and how kink and dominance goes? What about the dream? why would he wake up like that? we have talked about sex at his job but wasnt ready at the moment kind of nervous because it was in the kitchen by the main door. |
| Question: Am I wrong to insist my husband not communicate with emotional affair partner? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 04:32 PM PDT my husband had a emotional affair. I felt hurt, betrayed and it really took a toll on my self esteem. I told him he does to not have any contact with her. no texts, no likes on facebook nothing! They stopped for a little while, but recently they started slowly up again. She created a fake page on facebook and he "likes" her posts and they text thru messenger. They were doing this before with the fake page and he admitted to me that was her way of communicating to him. I've told him my feelings, but he just doesn't get it! He thinks they have done nothing wrong because the relationship never was physical. They hide behind the term "friends". It's way more than friendship. They are in love with one another! He knows she loves him. I don't know what to do. Leaving is complicated because I have kids. I don't know if I'm ready for a divorce. I feel like either way I lose. If I insist he not talk to her that pushes him into her arms. If I say nothing, I can't live with the thought that he might be with her. I truly love him with all my heart, but I'm tired of this tug of war. Am I wrong for insisting they end it for good? |
| Question: How long should I wait after being cheated on and leaving my husband? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 04:11 PM PDT |
| Question: How do I stop my wife from controlling me in fundamental ways? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 04:07 PM PDT One major way she controls me is she finds out the things I want and then she deprives me of these things until I have "earned it". Sex is one of these things. Her attention is another. Another way she controls me is she trolls me. She'll make me angry because she's angry, and then she'll calm herself down after seeing she made me angry, and then she'll keep fanning the flames telling me things to keep me angry. Another way she controls me is through denying everything. If I tell her that I remember something exactly the way it happened, she will deny it all and constantly avoid responsibility for her portion. And then she'll change the story so it makes me look like the villain. And today she did something new. I told her that I wanted to find someone else to satisfy my social needs and she broke out her phone and started recording a video of me saying this so she could black mail me or show a lawyer when I finally did make new friends outside the marriage (a sexual affair was never implied, I'm just tired of her isolating me from the rest of the world). |
| Question: My destructive personality ruined my marriage, How do I get her back? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 04:03 PM PDT I messed up, how do I get my wife back? I love my wife. Let me say that first, she and I have been married for a year and a half. So we live in Provo Utah but I have been dealing with some stuff and so I took up very heavy drinking. When I was drinking I would pass out drunk and wake up hung over the next day, shower brush my teeth use mouth wash and go to classes/work. One night when drinking I fell and hit my head and broke both my legs, I fell down the stairs. Anyway I was given some pain medicine and started taking it with alcohol and was rushed to the ER. I guess the final straw was when my wife tried to take my vodka away and I pushed her....I hate to admit that that happened. I do not like to think about what that does to her. I am experiencing night terrors from being abused as a child, was homeless for four years until a family from my church took me in. I am a damaged man wanting to get help but I don't want to deal with these feelings alone how do I get her back? I need her to be there with me when I go to counseling and I need her to be there when I get back. As you can tell from the question my wife left me and went to stay with her sister at her place. She said I need to think about us. How do I apologize and show I want to get better. |
| Question: Sex toy help for wife with traveling husband? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 03:46 PM PDT I've perchased a basic bullet vibrator and I've found its pretty painful even when it's turned off. I'd like to perchase a different one but I don't want to waste my money on something that'll hurt as well. I know everyone is different, but has anyone had a similar situation? What did you do? |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 01:57 PM PDT I try not to complain because I know he is trying to satisfy me. Its just after that I am still horny, how can I fix that, I might watch porn and get off like that too. He is 43 years old I am 32. I love my husband our marriage has its ups and downs. |
| Question: Does Your Husband Make You Cry? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 12:55 PM PDT mine does.. he says the meanest things to me.. and it hurts my feelings.. i don't understand why he says things that hurt my feelings.. i asked him that and he doesn't answer me at all.. i even cried infront of him because i could not take the pain anymore.. but he just sat there and didn't care at all that i was crying in pain.. i asked him if does it bother him even just a bit that i am crying.. he just told me he isn't moved a bit at all like he doesn't care at all.. i feel so hurt right now.. i don't know what to do with my feelings.. i want to make myself feel better but how..? we have a 2-year-old daughter and i love her so much.. i am aware that marriage has its ups and downs.. but shouldn't a good husband do anything to make her wife feel bad? if the husband really loves his wife that is.. i am hurting right now.. i want to feel better.. but i don't know how |
| Question: My husband is 16 years older than me and it's starting to effect things? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 12:18 PM PDT We have been together for 6 years. When I first met him He was going out with friends several times a week. I would join him when I could ( I have a daughter who was 5 at the time). We had a lot of fun together. BBQs, night clubs, parties, lots of social gatherings. Lots of friends. Then we settled down and only went out once a week for happy hour and stopped seeing a lot of our friends because we were moving into the married life and they were a little too crazy for us (all single, no kids, etc.) I was fine with that. But over the last year we never go out at all and he's in bed by 8 or 9PM. He doesn't drink at all anymore and has no desire to party. The no drinking on his part is probably for the best anyway because when he did drink we used to get in lots of fights. We don't really fight much anymore. But I'm bored! He's now 47 and I'm 31, and I still want to go out. The age difference was no problem in the beginning because we enjoyed the same things. Now I feel like I have a good 10 years or more left until I'm ready to settle down and not party ever. But he's already there. So how do we compromise on this? I don't want to break up and I don't want to do anything he doesn't want to do, but he's made it very clear that he's done with all that. Do I need to just accept it and adjust to this boring lifestyle? Please stop moving this to Senior Citizens. LOL, 47 is not a senior citizen, this is quite clearly a marriage question. Idiots. |
| Question: How do I deal with my ex husband and his issues? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 10:56 AM PDT My ex husband and I share children together. He has every right to see his kids as he has never been charged with a crime however the authorities have invesitigated him multiple times for child pornography. The police would not give me any details of the investigations and stated they were ongoing. As a result he has to see his kids and I have remained nice to him. He comes over to my place and sees our kids while I'm there however I'm really getting tired of him being at my place hanging out as he can be a real jerk and is verbally abusive at times (not always) and also feel he infringes on my personal space. How do I cope with this and do I have any rights to get custody? |
| Question: How do I get my husband to cook for me? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 10:40 AM PDT |
| Question: Will my wife mind my foot fetish? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 10:26 AM PDT What should I say To her? |
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| Question: Ladies, would you allow husband to kiss your legs? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 10:22 AM PDT |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 10:19 AM PDT Let's pretend that you had something REALLY important to tell my wife about how you're feeling. Let's say that you have gotten in the habit of using "I statements" so you can avoid her blows to her ego when she hears the word "You", let's even say that you prepared this speech for about 5 minutes before opening your mouth so you could practice it in your head to see if there was anything in the past that she reacted to that you were about to say before you made the mistake of saying something that "triggered her" in the past (i.e. walking on eggshells). But also let's say that because you're readying to speak, she's already anticipating a fight. In her mind the very 1st error (or so she thinks is an error) triggers her anger and now she has to correct your understanding of a situation because what she believes happened is not what you said (bias towards her own perspective as the one and only TRUTH). Then let's say that as you talk on, you say the word "You" to make sure your narrative changes to whom the following words are talking about and she instantly tenses up ready for an "attack". Even if you said something like "... so I asked you how you were feeling..." she would then see this as an attack because she would make some of the most fallacious connections/assumptions on "why" you'd be asking... And then when you're all done talking to her, she comes up with conspiracy theories on why you spoke and what you are REALLY after... How do you talk to someone like this?!?!? Also, what would you call this behavior? I was told it was called hyper-vigilance and is an abuse survivor thing but I was also told this is called being sensitive and is the result of being married to an a**hole. Of course I'd rather believe the former since she does have abuse in her past, but I'm anticipating this forum to say the latter, because that's what you all do here.... I've tried to figure out a pattern to her behavior and there isn't one; what triggers her one day won't another day. |
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| Question: Divorced people: Have you chosen not to remarry? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 08:33 AM PDT For those who have been divorced - have you chosen to opt out of marriage altogether moving forward? Or did you remarry, would you? I am leaning towards not being sure I ever want to remarry. I do not ever want to deal with the pain of divorce again and know all too well you cannot predict the future... Thoughts? |
| Question: Does he not want to do anything with me? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 08:32 AM PDT My husband has what you would call musical ADD. He seems to know and remember songs from all genres of music. We'll be in the store and a song comes over the intercom and he'll start singing it. Or, if we're watching TV and he hears a song playing in the background he can usually tell you what the name of it is or who sings it. Today on my job they're having some sort of raffle to win tickets to Rascal Flatts and I emailed him asking if he wanted to go. His reply was "A) Rascal Flatts is a country act, B) I don't listen to country, and C) I could care less to go see Rascal Flatts." We're black by the way and don't listen to country music but he seems to know some country songs. Does he not want to go with me if I win? I've never been to a concert ever in my life and he won't take me. He's 46 and I'm 45. I want to go to a concert. He said those days are behind him. |
| Question: Do I have to pay for my ex's overtime child care? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 08:26 AM PDT I have a divorce decree in CT that states that my ex and I shall equally share the cost of all qualified work-related child care expenses. I am currently fulfilling this requirement, but my ex works a job that allows her to work 8-4 most days but there's a lot of incentive for her to work 3rd shift and extra hours very often. She asks me to watch our daughter for those days/nights but I m not always available so she says I have to pay half of the babysitter cost since she's working. Has anyone heard of this sort of situation? Maybe there's a reasonable maximum amount of working hours per week the non-custodial parent should need to share costs for? I'm already paying half of the cost for before/after school or summer time full-day child care (which add up to around 50 hours of care per week), adding on her overtime is very tough. |
| Question: Why do Atheists get Married? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:47 AM PDT I know this question has been on here before but I've refined it. My argument is merely that SOME Atheists... (because the first comment will be- NOT ALL ATHEISTS WANT TO GET MARRIED!!) SOME Atheists get married, or want to.... I know it's not a specifically religious act but it is predominantly. If you believe that this whole world is just nature, why is marriage desired? Secondly, why do SOME Atheists want to get married in a church? The pastor talks about god during the service.. why would an Atheist want that? Is it solely for the traditional setting? (I know some get married at courts and what not- that's not the issue) I don't want any responses asking why Christian's divorce because that is not on topic. FYI- Christian's are people too and things don't always work out. No insults, no dodging the answer and just spewing hate. I'm just asking WHY SOME Atheists want to get married when we are all just nature? Is it the media spreading ideals? I know some strong Atheists who get there kids baptised. I don't understand. |
| Question: Is it possible to marry ourselves? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:39 AM PDT Me and my fiance REALLY want to get married... but, we don't want the government to decide when and how we will get married (3 day waiting period for marriage license, setting up an appointment..?, if we have our drivers license or not) We don't want to have to turn to the government to get married... So, can we just write up a "contract" that we're married, sign it, and be married? I've written out a sample "contract" just to get the feel of what I want; "This contract is a promise to the Lord, our God, that we will always be faithful to each other. In sickness and in health, richer or poorer, till death do us part. The promise to love and cherish on another in life and in death. From this day forward, [enter date], we will become one. Not in law, but in love, with the Almighty God as our witness. Government will not be the ruler of our marriage, the Lord will. Now and forever. We wish not to be judged for this decision to be self-wed. I, [enter name], swear to be faithful to my wife/husband. That no temptation may blind me and lead me astray. To be together till the day we die, and in eternity." Is that good enough? I know it sounds a bit corny, but I didn't know how else to put that we are committing to each other forever. That, no matter what happens in life, we'll always be husband and wife. I'd also like to take up his last name, but I don't know how to legally do that... I am also a Christian. So, I would feel really bad if this isn't legit... maybe I would be judged.. I don't want to go against the Bible.. |
| Question: Why do people judge me and my husband for being married young and having twins on the way? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:33 AM PDT Me and my husband meet at work when we were 20. Both no kids and both taking classes. We fell in love and got engaged and Married. When we told people we are getting married people treated us like we were crazy . Like your not supposed to ever get married or be in love. I'm now pregnant with twins !we are 26. To us we feel so lucky and happy but people say to me mistakes happen lol I thinking to myself wow our descision are mistakes? Is it better to be single and divorced n unhappy like you? Is that the right way? Most women who say this to are sleeping with random guys and asking me for relationship advice and why they can't keep a man I clearly don't care and don't let it affect me I just want opinions and why people don't believe in love? |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:20 AM PDT I am a 34 year old woman that has been married for 4 years. Marriage is on the rocks and has been for awhile now due to multiple issues we've had; it's just us and we have no children. I am now very very attracted to a man that happens to be 53...he's very intelligent, talented and attractive to me, and he's a really great guy. I am just wondering when would be the appropriate time to pursue dating? Have any of you started dating before divorce and while separated? Do you think it's wrong? Honest opinions and advice please! |
| Question: Can you sue your own wife for not financially contributing to the marriage 50/50.? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:03 AM PDT a guy I know is married to his wife he works 70 hours a week driving a semi and the wife works at Wal-Mart making 10 am hour he sends her money in fact he sends 80 percent of his paycheck home to her can he sue her for not being more financially supportive working more hours a better paying job to support there two kids |
| Question: What should I do? Husband doesn t want my mom at sons first haircut.? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:01 AM PDT This is our second child, with our daughter we had both sets of parents at her first haircut at a kids salon. Our son is turning 1 on Friday and we want to take him to get his haircut before his party. My husband wants to take him to his aunt to cut his hair and I m totally okay with that but now he is saying he doesn t want my mom there bc his mom can t be there. I don t see how it s fair that his family will be there but mine can t. My mom does a lot with our children and I feel like it is not right to do that to her. Idk what to do? Opinions? |
| Question: Pros and cons of newlyweds living with the parents for a while? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 07:00 AM PDT I'd like to get some some different perspectives/questions to keep in mind when making this decision. My boyfriend and I are 23. He's about to graduate this week :) and has a full-time job lined up. I am working full-time and will be going back to school next year to get my A.A. in Nursing (it's an accelerated program, about 14 months). We have been talking about getting married and moving in together. I'm comfortable with waiting until I graduate and get a nursing job, but we are also discussing ways to do this before I start school. Recently, he asked how I would feel about getting married and moving in his with him and his family until I graduate and we can save money for our own home. This is maybe 2.5 years away or so. In the meantime, we would be living with his grandfather, using the bedroom, bathroom, and den/office space in the basement as our own and then sharing the kitchen. We will obviously contribute toward the monthly bills, and there are a lot of non-monetary ways that I will be able to help out, even while I am in school and BF is the only one of us working. My gut feeling says that this would be a great arrangement while we are saving for a house. I think that as long as we could agree to start looking for a home once I'm working as an RN and we have a good down payment saved up, I would be pretty happy with this. My questions are these; respond to all or some of your choosing: -What experiences have people have living with their spouses' parents/having their spouse move into their family home? Overall, a good or bad arrangement? -What do parents/other family members want from the new in-law coming in? What might ease the transition for everyone involved? -What things made it a successful arrangement? What things would you have done differently? -What have I not considered here that I should be thinking about? -Etc. Thanks for any thoughts! |
| Question: Need help deciding our life? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 06:52 AM PDT My husband and I have 2 kids, and own a house (nearly paid off). He commutes 2 hours to work, as there are no jobs in his profession near where we live. Do we: A) move near the job, take on 300k of debt in a new house, and he continues to work 9am-9pm B) quit the job (and career), and work a simple shift/hourly pay one nearby We have been unable to decide since January and keep going back and forth. Any suggestions? |
| Question: Do you feel at all responsible for your spouses happiness? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 06:48 AM PDT I think most people want their spouse to be happy and do nice things for them because they care about them but how responsible do you think you are for their overall happiness? Is not feeling responsible for their happiness a form of selfishness? I am curious to find out whether not not men think differently about this. |
| Question: Did you marry your best friend? Should you (Facebook Argument)? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 06:46 AM PDT The other day while riding I told my husband of a Facebook post that I liked and shared. One girl had posted a meme of something that basically said, "If you and I are friends but you don't like my spouse then you and I can't be friends!" I told my husband that I agreed with that and he said that it doesn't bother him if a friend of mine didn't like him cause it's not like we're going to be hanging out with them. He said that he's got friends that he's sure is not too keen on me but as long as they don't talk badly about me he's fine with it. Plus he said that he's not going to ask his friends to try and be buddy buddy with me. I got upset that he would think it's cool to be married yet have friends that didn't like your spouse. Next I mentioned that couples should marry their best friends. He's always told me that I'm not his best friend and it hurts. He said that when he and I have an argument then he may want to go to his best friend to vent. Or, if he wants to go hang out with his best friend that doesn't mean taking me out. I find it offensive again that he and his "boys" go and ogle other women and elbow each other talking about, "hey, look at the tail on that one." That's disrespectful to me. I just know how boys do when they get together. Should you marry your best friend and would you defriend someone if they didn't like your spouse? |
| Question: How can i make my husband's sex drive high?? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 06:26 AM PDT Hi me and my husband got married 2 months ago.5 month ago i was virgin until we slept together in first week 5 months ago we had sex every day then it became to be less i understand it cause i was a new girl for him then it's always once a week :( After i lost my virginity i find out i have a high sex drive(when i was virgin i masturbated)I talked to him about this and he told me he need sex once e week and he always wants it once a week(before me with other gfs)Now i want to make his sex drive high.Even thought when i see him naked or half naked it turns me on but when he see me naked it doesn't turn him on!!He is 31 and i'm23 Don't tell me to masturbate and use toys cause i want him to please me cause it feels so different and TOO BETTER To HIM :He won't he doesn't accept that he has a problem!! Again to HIM: i'm not seeking sex with others and he always trusts me. |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 05:05 AM PDT Is this normal wife behavior? |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 04:56 AM PDT Been in a relationship for 13 years...After 11 years of going back and forth and her leaving the house not once but twice I decided that maybe if we got married she would feel a sense of Responsibility and things would change...She works..No credit cards..Doesn't contribute towards the rent..Electrical bill..Car insurance ..And the only bill she has to pay is the cable bill and it's always two months late...Sex is a nightmare..Doesn't know how to cook..Doesn't like to clean...Am I stupid or what..Should I RUN? |
| Question: My husband came home with hickeys on his neck.? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 03:17 AM PDT My husband came home with hickeys on his neck. I have three small babies under 2. I feel the up most betral & i kicked him out. Im so heart broken. I cant sleep tonight. What next? |
| Question: Am I wrong for feeling this way? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 02:04 AM PDT My husband recently got laid off. He wants to go on the road now and drive trucks. We talked about it before but I guess I didn't think it would even happen. He acts as if this is the only way he can provide for his family. I feel he is doing it out of pride and spitefulness. He feels I want him up my butt,which is not the case. I just don't want him gone all the time(what woman would?), which is what his job will entitle. So I feel he is trying to show me he will do what he wants. He keeps saying he doesn't care what I think he is going to live his life. The say he is going about it all makes me feel he is just wanting to cause an issue where there isn't one. He wakes up and tells me every day that he is going to travel the road. He even said he is doing it to get away from me too. I'm just fed up and tired. He thinks the way I feel is ridiculous and that a woman would be down for her man if it's what he wants. I just don't understand why he wants this. One job he initially tried to get involved him being gone 3 weeks a month. Like really? I just feel he is being unfair about this situation. And I just want to know am I wrong for wanting him to be home more than what truck driving entails? |
| Posted: 14 Jun 2016 02:03 AM PDT Marriage survey - wives to answer only - will you tolerate a husband who does these to you? Will you tolerate a husband who treats you nice sometimes (takes you for holidays, buy gifts and flowers for you, buys you things you like) but who also does these to you - 1. Scolded you on your birthday and told you to leave just because you lent your mother a t-shirt on your birthday for one day (it is t-shirt he bought for you previously but he didn't tell u that u cannot lend it to anyone) 2. Calls you ***** or idiot eventhough he had promised not to call you names again? 3. Left u in his car for 5 hours with no food n water when u told him u are unwell n dizzy and when you asked him to help you to buy food n water for u, he ignored you. 4. Scolded you because you are not feeling well n are unable to attend his friend's birthday party? 5. Blames you for everything that didn't turn out well? |
| Question: Does my wife have a porn addiction? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 02:02 AM PDT She looks at pictures and videos online for an hour or two every day. A lot of naked men that are very well endowed (I'm not). It makes me a little uncomfortable. Is this normal? Do other women look at these things too? |
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| Question: My husband doesn t respond to me sexually if I try to initiate sex.? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 01:10 AM PDT |
| Question: How to increase husbands libido? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 12:32 AM PDT We have been married for over 23 years and have 2 adult children. He is 46 and I am 48 we both work full time. Our sex life has slowly dropped off over the years to the point we have sex maybe once a week or once every 2 weeks. While his libido has dropped off mine has ramped up. This ramping up seemed to start about 5 years ago when had my hysterectomy. Had it done because of sever fibro problem that caused immense pain each month. Since then no more pain and a increase in libido. My husband on the other hand has had a decrease in his libido but not related to that time frame just has decrease over the past few years. Even when have dressed sexy and tried to initiate sex more often many times he says is too tired or when have pushed forward has stopped part way because of loss of erection. Thought maybe he has a ED issue but he has seen doctor and when we do have sex its almost like when we were both first married/younger actually has even more staying power and energy then when we were younger. So the one time a week is more intense and longer but want it more often. Looking for suggestions on helping him or helping us have sex 3 or 4 times a week even not even more. I understand partially why he is more tired about 2 years ago he had lost his job when economy started to go down hill was out of work for about 6 months. He now works at a job that had done when was younger before went back to college. Its more physically demanding then his engineering job that lost but it actually pays better if can believe that. Think because of his skill and knowledge they pay him more but its more physically demanding meaning he comes home tired more often. Some days he does not but many times he is just worn out at end of those days. Especially when some days are 10-12 hours while others are only 6-8. Might say just try on the 6-8 hour days which is the times have tried to sneak in a extra. |
| Question: What would be a good present for my wife on her 22nd birthday? Posted: 14 Jun 2016 12:03 AM PDT |
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