I have never had friends. I don't even understand how one would theoretically make friends. Paradoxically, it seems that one must already have personal relations if one endeavors to make friends. My fellow humans have an aversion to associating with me because, as they are unable to understand my situation and often exclusionary by nature, my isolation seems to them to be indicative of some flaw. I find basic social conventions elusive. I don't understand what prompts strangers to initiate a conversation. When given the opportunity to socialize, people, understandably, will unequivocally opt to converse with their friends. It is very rare for a human to introduce itself to me. Everyone is always talking to their friends, so if I ever tried to commune with another human, I would be intruding on a conversation that has already commenced. Approaching an unsuspecting person who is not so deprived of friendship seems obtrusive and awkward, like I am holding said person captive. I tend to be perceived as aloof But a.greater impediment to developing human connections lies in a paradox associated with long-term relations. Supposedly, once can befriend another by surpassing the barrier between small talk and deeper conversations, but it seems to me that this barrier is insurmountable. The cycle of small talk is ceaseless. At what point in this cycle does a friendship flourish and how does one proceed from that point?

I have noticed recently that ever since I have been best friends with these two girls (who are unfortunately both depressed) I have equally been unhappy. It's not like they have been deliberately bringing me down over the years, and although they are fun to be around and I love them both so much, their negative energy has definitely had an impact on me. It's got to the point where I self harm and I'm just not a happy person anymore. And I have recently read that you cannot expect to be positive if you are surrounded by negativity. And seeing as I am surrounded by a fair bit of negativity, I am trying to subtly distance myself from my two best friends as sad as that sounds and make friends with some happier people. I've never been selfish with them before but now I feel like I need to for my own sake. Despite this they still come to me with their problems and I'm not exaclty going to turn them away? So I continue to help them but in doing so I am still involving myself with negativity. How can I surround myself with positivity without being a selfish butch and losing my two best friends? I need to do something for me for once

I know it's unrealistic and most likely won't happen. but I will be making 30k after graduating high school because of a program I'm in, and I want to move there with my best friend (roommate). If there is any way to make it, even with quite struggle, I think it would be worth it in the end. suggestions?

I have had a friend (I'll call her Ally) since we were kids, but we're now in highschool and have started to drift apart. When I say drift apart, it's mostly our personalities, friend groups and conversations have changed to the point where she will get on my nerves very easily. The thing is we're next door neighbors and our families are very close. Ally's house is getting remodeled and her family has to stay in a hotel, but her mom texted mine to ask if she could stay at our house instead so she wouldn't be bored. So of course my mom said yes and she will have to stay at my house in my room for 7 days and won't leave. But mostly I just need some advice on how to deal with this. I have a lot of work (and i am very introverted so I do like my alone time) and all she'll want to do is talk to me and hang out. She has a constant need to talk about snapchat and her other friends so this is not very fun for me.

So My entire family including uncles, aunts, cousins, and others planned to go to Myrtle Beach SC this year for vacation. But now I am invited to go with my friend to Ocean City NJ this year the same week as my family trip. I don't know what to pick as my family really wants me to go with them and I somewhat want to go with them but if I go with my family then maybe my friend may not invite me to go with him anywhere anymore? I don't know what should I do? I know this is a silly question but I just don't know what to do. Please tell me what you would do in my situation- stay with family or go with a friend. I think I would have the same amount of fun at both.

I have a best friend that is a guy (I am a girl) and we didn t have an argument but he won t talk to me. But the thing I am confused about is he still tells people we are best friends and I am at the top of his bio.

I m a 17 year old female and I ve been talking to this girl who says she s 16 for about a year now. I met her through Kik. We used to have fun conversations but now she s gotten to be really annoying. All she wants to talk about is her family issues and her political and racial views. Plus she can be pretty rude at times, such as when I don t answer her right away because I m not online she ll keep sending the same message over and over again until I answer. She can t grasp the idea that I don t sit at home all day long like she does. We started talking on Instagram a few months ago after I gave her my Instagram username. I want to just block her but she has friends who she s pretty tight with still on Kik (they know about me) and I m afraid that if I block her and delete my Kik she ll get upset and give them my Instagram username so they can harass me. Before any of you come at me and say, "This is why you don t make friends on the Internet", that is what this experience has taught me. I won t ever talk to or make friends with people I don t know on social media or anywhere online ever again. You have my word. I don t feel comfortable just confronting her and telling her that I don t want to converse with her anymore, I m looking for a subtle way to cut off all contact with her without starting drama. Can anyone help me?

How do I get my friend to ask me about smoking weed with them just like bringing up the topic where I can tell them I've never smoked

My friend and I had an argument. She told me that her cousin said that I bullied her, where it was the other way around. Then she always complains that people hate her. Well, I got angry and said that people hate her because she never talks to them. Then she didn t hear the whole story and told her mom something completely different. Now, her parents hate me. How do I fix this?

HEY I was chilling with one of my friends and one of his friends came threw with two bottles of liquor and they drink it I don't drink liquor cause Iddon't like the taste but i thought he bought it so he said he was about to get another one so we went down the gas station and I went in HE goes to the liquor I went to the bathroom and.my friend went in too so.his friend came in and stole it I didn't want to be apart it cause first I don't drink so he put it in a book bag I just walk out.but he walk out with me I try to be away from him cause I think what he is doing is wrong and I don't want to be part of it but am I going to jail I didn't want to be part of it and I'm scared PLEASE help

I was sick of being bullied all throughout middle school, so when I joined high school last fall, I decided to do something about it. There was a new boy in our neighborhood that had autism, he was homeschooled because his parents knew if he attended public school he woulf get bullied incessantly. He was the perfect bullied victim, so I came up with a plan, I craftily formed a fake friendship with him and convinced his mom to cancel his homeschooling. As he entered school, he indirectly shifted the target off of my back and plastered it onto himself. His parents cannot aford to get him back to the homeschooling program he was in, Thus, now he is forced to live a miserable high school life, and I am now spared from the abuse. I quickly bragged to my mom about how easily manipulative I was and she called me a "dirty coward" for what I did and told me to defend that kid the first thing the next day or I would get grounded. I didn't do it, but I escaped punishment through a stroke of pure luck due to that boy telling my parents that I defended him, in hopes that I would be his friend again. However, I did not become friends with him and said it was nothing personal, but if I was I would get bullied too. Everything ended so perfectly for me, someone else was forced to suffer the abuse in my place and I was spared.

I don't know what to do. I am 14 and it is the summer now because we just got out of school. Anyway in school I was shy and always left out. Nobody asks me to do anything and I always get left out when people hangout. I want to do things but i wasn't really "best friends" with anyone at that school. I am going to Hugh school next year. Anyway I know that I probably won't hang out with friends over the summer because I never get invited and I'm shy. I do things with my grandma and dad like go to the mall and things but my dad works in the summer in the days. I like being with my grandma but I just don't want to do things with her everyday and she can do a lot anyway. I am so sad right now because I don't know what I'm going to do in the summer and I'm thinking about commuting suicide

I have already made this question, but I still have some doubts. I am a girl, and there is this guy that I think is very confusing. He stares seriously at me a lot, he has complimented me and defended me from a guy that was annoying me, he has done small favors to me, like giving me my paper that was lying on the ground, what made me think he might like me. But the problem is that he is sometimes very rude, he does not like when I sit near him and he talks to me, he tries to be as brief as possible. Once, he stood in front of me watching me while I was reading. When I noticed, he made a question about a school work, which was very weird, because he only made the question when I realized he was near me. He threw an eraser at me and apologized many times, but I think he has done this purposely. The fact is that I don't know If he likes me or envies/hates me. I am a good student, and when a guy was complimenting me saying that I would get the best grade, the other guy was talking to him as well, and he said, very rudely "let's change the subject". Then, this strange guy asked me If i answered a hard question of the test. It was so awkward. What is he feeling? Does he envy me, hate me or like me? I am so confused.

So me and my best friend have been together for 3 years and we always want to spent time together but our parents sometimes won't let us. Like for example she has invited me to spent a few days at her beach house with her family the summer but my parents won't let me because ''we don't know her parents and cannot trust anyone''. So we have always wanted our parents to meet so we can do those sort of things but we don't know how. And it would just be awkward and weird to go to lunch lets say or something like that. Does anyone has any idea of how we could manage that without being all weird and awkward? Ps both parents don't have a problem with meeting.

I think they are jealous??? They said it's because all I talk about is food but then when I stopped doing that they still started ditching the plans we had when other people asked them somewhere and they stopped inviting me places. Now they hang out with our group without me. They cried because I had an eating disorder in April but since then they have stopped speaking to me and it feels really really awful. The reasons they give me for not wanting to be friends are hippocritical and every time I tell them any of this they think I am super jealous. What do I do? I like them better than my other friends and I still want to hang out with them this summer? What do you think? Also right after it happened they were trying to take ugly pictures of me and I asked if its because I always look pretty now and they replied yes

So my friends and I are always together and I'm the only one who isn't Spanish out of us three. They speak it around me when they know I can't understand, talk about novelas, talk about food, etc. Yet, when I want to tell them about my some of my cultural roots they just don't care at all and dismiss it as if it's nothing. It makes me feel really bad. One time one of the said to the other in front of me that it would be so much better if I were Spanish. I just need some advice and reasoning, no rude comments please. We're in 7th grade

So I called my friend by FaceTime and she didn't answer. She called me and my other friend answered. These 2 are my best friends. I just feel like Girl 2 (the one that answered) doesn't like me because she constantly tells girl 1 things that I "can't" know. "It's private, you can't know." She told me once. I connect more with girl 1. So they were hanging at the mall and didn't want to invite me :( I need advice what can I do?

This girl sometimes texts me goodnight even when he don't talk that day. Last night she randomly said "Goodnight!!!!!! Love you! 💖💖". What do I do? She sometimes puts hearts emojis in her messages and I don't know if she likes me or I'm just friendzone'd. I moved on since I asked her out twice in the past, and I don't know what to do. She always tells me she loves me, but I'm sure she means in a friendly way. What do I do?

Just to start off my friend lets cal her Jocelyn, well she makes me feel bad because we've been friends for the longest but lately she's been rude...and I hate it. Ok so the other day, I think on Thursday when we went to buy something for her dog. She told me to smile for a picture and so I did and I have two dipoles one on each side (I have another small one but I have to do a funny face to show it, lol) okay anyways I smiled and she said stop showing off your dimples and I said "Jocelyn but I'm not" and she said "yes you are, I hate when you do that" I don't do it on purpose it just happens even when I talk like say hey or something they always appear. She also calls me fat and told me only fat people have dimples that's why I have them. And first of all that was rude and I'm not fat (I'm chubby :)) and second of all my dad has them and all of my other three brothers do too. We have them all in my family. So should I stop being friends with her?? I'm really nice, but she's making me feel bad about myself now :( Thanks for answering!! (And please don't be rude)

I'm 16 years old. 1. My mom forced me to do stuff I don't want to do. 2. She yells at me all the time. 3. When I tell her a problem or feeling depressed about something, she says "Stop making up stuff" 4. She expects perfection all the time. She always wants my clothes all ironed and she think that people will make a comment about me if I don't look perfect. 5. She yells at me for making mistakes. 6. When I mistakely mixed in the towels with my clothes, she screams WHY? and started being mean to me. 7. She copies whatever I do. 8. One minute she cares about what I'm going with my life then could care less the next. (must be bipolar or something, idk) 9. She says that I should call my friend in a forceful manner. Help. Best answer gets rewarded.

What do you call a person who prefers to watch tv/movies with people interacting vs actually interacting with others.

So I m really nice well I think I am and people always just use me because they know I will say yes to them if they need something I m going into high school after this summer which just started and people say I m to nice and I notice sometimes Bc even if i slightly bump them I say sorry immediately ig it s just a habit people see me as a shy person and like I m really wild around my friends but when I m by people I don t know I m shy but like I could talk it s just like what am I supposed to say so yesterday my friend and I went to a bomb fire and everyone one said to me I haven t heard you talk at all but there all so pretty(no homo) I just feel like they will judge me on what I m going to say any way I just want to be know like all my friends I hate being the shy one and I know you will say we ll just be yourself but how do I not be so nice it s okay to say no and I know that but I hate saying it I just want to be not know as the nice one who will do anything people say I m to nice so should I be mean people do not treat me how I treat them

I have never had friends. I don't even understand how one would theoretically make friends. Paradoxically, it seems that one must already have personal relations if one endeavors to make friends. My fellow humans have an aversion to associating with me because, as they are unable to understand my situation and often exclusionary by nature, my isolation seems to them to be indicative of some flaw. I find basic social conventions elusive. I don't understand what prompts strangers to initiate a conversation. When given the opportunity to socialize, people, understandably, will unequivocally opt to converse with their friends. It is very rare for a human to introduce itself to me. Everyone is always talking to their friends, so if I ever tried to commune with another human, I would be intruding on a conversation that has already commenced. Approaching an unsuspecting person who is not so deprived of friendship seems obtrusive and awkward, like I am holding said person captive. I tend to be perceived as aloof But a.greater impediment to developing human connections lies in a paradox associated with long-term relations. Supposedly, once can befriend another by surpassing the barrier between small talk and deeper conversations, but it seems to me that this barrier is insurmountable. The cycle of small talk is ceaseless. At what point in this cycle does a friendship flourish and how does one proceed from that point?

He's been nice to me, asked to send me study materials to help for my exam, caught him staring, texted me with random excuses(like did my grandma make it upstairs ok? like call your grandma lol) then asked to go out for sushi after my exam. HIs grandma and I live in the same apts and he comes here 3 days a week, a year ago I got impatient and called him out on beating around the bush and said a guy w/ a gf couldn't be interested in me, he said he was being friendly and has a gf he's happy with. But the secret stares and the coming around, started dressing nicely. Also before we got into a fight, He asked one day when giving me gym advice "dont you have a bf to teach you all this?"He asked one day when giving me gym advice "dont you have a bf to teach you all this?" HIs parents always stare at me, he comes to his grandmas's a lot and stares at me a lot Why would a guy do all this and freely say he has a gf but let go of her hand when I saw them together out

All my "friends" did was use me, depend on me, and stress me out. They were fake so i cut them all off, every single one of them. I only have 2 friends left and their online friends. I have no real life friends anymore and idk what to do. (High school is starting soon)

i have been in and out of schools my whole life, and the longest i have been in one school SYSTEM is 4 years (i have been in 7 schools in total since kindergarten) And due to that, i have lost almost all of my "friends" And now pretty much all of the friend groups are set in stone, aka prettymuch no one will "let me in" At lunch i sit alone, also kids pick on me because im kinda a geek, also when i try to introduce my self, or even ask to sit some where at lunch, kids just look at me and just look at me annoyed, I have eaten lunch in the bathrooms a few times because im picked on so much Also the rare times i get to sit at a filled table, i have no idea what they are talking about and when i try to say something, most of the time they either ignore, or all stop talking and stare at me annoyed How do i survive these kids. Mainly how do i "survive" lunch and group activities

Alright- here are all of the friends i've had and when I was friend with them: 4th Grade- Kamea and Paisley. We all 3 were good friends, school friends that is. We never did anything out of school and never planned on doing anything out of school. Also, this girl names Ireland wanted to be our friend but we rejected her, I'm still not sure why... :( 5th Grade- Now friends with Ireland. It's like my 2 past friends just forgot about me. Anyways, I was super close with Ireland and we would always stay at each others houses. 6th Grade- Ireland and Rylee. Ireland and I are still VERY close and go to each others houses and hang out with each other out of school. Rylee and I are kind of like just in class buds. (They didn't like each other at ALL) 7th Grade- Rylee, Karoline, and Natalie. I was still close with Rylee, but we didn't ever hang out outside of school. Karoline was the new girl and I decided to befriend her. Karoline and I didn't hang out ever, either. Natalie and I were kind of close, but not really. Karoline introduced me to her and we kind of became friends. Rylee didn't like karoline or natalie. 8th grade - Natalie, Torrie, and jade. This is the first time I've had a friend circle! I was best friends with all of them and they were best friends with each other. We always hang out outside of school, and its the summer right now and we are still hanging out! I love them, they are truly my best friends. But torrie has to move away, and I was the closest with her. Anyways, you can see that i've been through SO many best friends when I thought I was going to be Best friends with them forever. I'm scared to lose Jade and Natalie (since Torrie has to move) So I was wondering, why can't I keep a friend? I want to change so I don't lose my current best friends now.

Hi I'm 14 a boy.When I was 13 I made friends with my neighbor M (I'm just going to use a initial as his name).He was moved to sit next to me on the bus.At first we didn't really get along then we sort of clicked and got along well.He was one of those "popular" kids but that didn't really matter.I was really happy that I finally made a friend (I have no friends).We came to eachovers house and just hanged out and had a lot of fun.Then all the sudden he stopped coming I don't know why.Nothing happened we didn't argue.He doesn't seem to have any bad feelings towards me.I asked him once he said he was busy (but he completely forgot about me now).Isee him walk around with a new neighbor and it sort of hurts me that I am alone again.I sometimes just sit and wish I could hangout with them.He is not bad.I now go to a different school.How can I regain friendship with him?I would be very thankful for advice :) He isn't really busy since he has time to hang out with others

if you don't know what the Karen of the group is, it's basically the friend in the group that nobody likes.

This happened a while a go, first off. I met up with two other adults (two guys) to hang out at an event. I'll call them John and mike. When I first met up with John, I told him that I won't stay long and planned to eat lunch at home. Although I did tell John that there was a vegetarian cafe that was in the area, but didn't didn't plan on going in. And I don't recall telling him that I had no money with me. So later the three of us were randomly browsing restaurants. John found a pizza store and got himself a slice and I sat outside talking to mike. Eventually we all found a cafe. John told me he wanted to pay for my food, even though I said I didn't want anything. The cafe was small and I decided to sit outside to collect myself because it was hot. John really wanted me to sit in the cramped cafe. When John and Mike came back outside, I told John not to take my absence personal. He just laughed. The three of us passed the vegetarian restaurant that I originally told John about. He became more excited than me about it and urged me to go in. He opened the door for me, urged me to go in alone as him and Mike sat outside. I went in but hurried back outside because I remembered that I didn't have any money. I just thought the situation was weird. I think he was under the impression that I didn't have any money and wanted to ask him about paying for food that I actually wanted.

So my mom took me to the open house for this girl. This girl is my old best friends sister. I went to go see my old friend and i don't know anyone else here and my old friend is already hanging out with his own friends They are all talking and laughing about stuff and I'm like not knowing what to do or say lool.

I'll be going into the 7th grade this year. I really want to invite my 2 best friends to go to the lake with me, and they are boys. I'm also going to invite my girl best friend. This is where it gets kinda confusing. The two boys are cousins, and the girl that I'm inviting is related to one of the boys but not the other. In a weird way they are all kind of related. I've known the girl since kindergarten and the boys for 3 years now. I've talked it over with all of them and they don't think it would be weird at all. My parents are fine with it, but the sleeping situation is where we kind of hit a bump in the road. There's wnough bedrooms for the boys and girls to have separate rooms, but there's also an upstairs loft that all 4 of us could fit in. We would be sleeping on beanbags and TWIN beds. My parents go to bed early like most, so once they go to sleep that would mean we had to go to our rooms and not talk until the next day, and what fun would that be? If we all stayed in the loft, we could stay up and watch a movie and hang out. We wouldn't do anything bad. Heck, everyone is related except me!!

Okay so this all started around January. I am a 13 year old girl who is close friends with another 13 year old female. I am jealous about her, she's pretty than me and has longer than me and better clothes. Last year in 7th she was super innocent and now in 8th grade she's different. She curses and is dirty minded and she told me yesterday she watches porn. I do too but when she told me she did I just got mad at her, of course I didn't bring my anger out on her I just played it cool and laughed, you know. But I was mad at her because I just don't want her to know about that stuff even though that's not really realistic but still. I'm a cockblocker towards her too, whenever s boy tries to talk to her I just get angry and tell to leave because I'm jealous of her and I know she'll get more guys than me. I'm 106 pounds and she's 100 pounds and she's prettier than me. I know that if any of my other friends acted this way I wouldn't go all crazy and I know I wouldn't even care, but I don't know why I care so much about it with this friend, well I do know I'm jealous of her. But, if any of you have any sort of advice or anything please tell me. I constantly think about this friend of mine and the fact that she is going to have s*x one day makes me angry I don't know why. This has brought negativity and competition in my life :(

so my i txted my friend for national best friend day and she was like where was this from? a minute later and i said oh it was just a holiday, anyways she didnt even say thanks so i didnt know if she was mad so i asked her if she was mad at me and she hasnt responded at all..and now i am getting a lot of nervous anxiety

It all started in middle school. You start meeting new friends and start wanting to hang out. I feel like I'm the "Karen" of any of the friends I make. (Even tho I am a guy) They always make plans and I rarely/never get invited. It hurts so much that I feel like crying. I'll be starting 8th grade this year and I don't have any good middle school memories. Oh, and to top it off, I'm nice to everyone and take away from myself so they don't do without.....Any advice?

None of my friends listen to this artist and i was dying to meet him! I am 15 and bought two tickets- one for me and my mom. Should i try to find a friend to take her ticket?

I have this childhood friend--she's a neighbor. I'm 15, she's 18. She's never the one to initiate anything, I'm the one that always calls, and she seldom picks up her phone. She has this boyfriend, and I'm starting to think she'd just prefer me not to call or hang out. It sucks. What I'm really asking, is: should I confront her about it?

I need someone advice about something, so basically I go to a drama school on the weekend and it was really nice but then I left with all the main people to go to the afternoon class it it's all gone bad, no one talks to me much anymore, I feel so left out sometimes like I'm not wanted there. Should I tell them how I Feel? Or leave it, sometimes I find it hard to even tho their