Ok to make a LONG story short my husband got laid off from his high paying job and now he works for much less. I Work PT. Anywho we can't afford the payments on our spacious 3 bedroom house. My husband wants to live in some CHEAP as sht ghetto apartment. I also feel like "Susie Home maker" b/c we won't have a MAID anymore I will get stuck with the cleaning and cooking. DAMMIT! I am serious and I am MENTALLY ILL! I DO NOT "adapt" to big change very well , esp when were "downsizing" . He talked about living in a TRAILER and I am like "no way! We are NOT poor white trailer trash"! I have a mental illness. You DON'T get it. It's called Borderline Personality Disorder. I cannot work full time AND go to College EVERYDAY! It's too much of a strain on me. I do NOT feel "Entiled". I have a PT job and I give my husband Most of my $$$. I can't even afford to open a freaking back account.

it also needs to include reservoir, agent, disease transmission and incubation time. Can you guys help me out what is chain of infection for gonorrhea?

I ve been married for 6 years now with one child and expecting another very soon. My question is, how do i make my husband understand that he not paying attention to my likes and dislikes over the years is affecting me. I feel he doesn t make the extra effort to know me or know what for instance makes me smile or turn me on. Its really like I ve invested in making him happy by being a loyal faithful n a good wife. In short i make him very happy in all ways possible so why can t he do that for me? I ve sat him down to talk I ve discussed my love language etc but he for got a it all and i have to ask for everything eg can u make dinner tonight im not well, ask for sex for date night, help with our kid i mean i feel all im doing is asking . I want to let him be after giving birth and start a new life. I can t deal no more. Your sincere advice will be appreciated thanks

When me and my bf were together he went to see his ex gf . He picked her up from her house bought her food , and he said his feelings got to him and he kissed her. I didnt know this until 3 weeks after we broke up (we broke up over some small arguement that we could of fixed) but he kept saying no and i deserved better. I thought it was weird that he didnt want to fix it like we always do . He called me to tell me the truth 2 days ago. At first he said he was going to keep it a secret from me until the day he died and still be with me and never do it again. They also got together as soon as we broke up probably the next day after we did , i thought it was weird and it even came to me that he saw her while we were together. They were each others first loves , he used me as a way to get over her then cheated on me with his her. He basically threw me away once he was done with me and got with her . Now its making feel depressed and worthless bc of this and they're moving on with their lives and being happy

I'm 21 and he's 25. We've been together for a year and some change. To start off, my bf has a high sex drive, we could have sex 4-5 times a day. I mean there are times where I've woken up to him entering me. (This never really bothered me) But yesterday I was over his house. We had sex once, but towards the end it started getting uncomfortable because I'm getting over BV. Well long story short, he wanted to again before work. I said "no I don't want to" while pushing him away with my feet. I mean I said it in like a whiny voice, but still. He pinned my legs behind my head and was trying to go in, but I had my hand in the way. I said things like stop, I'm serious etc. all he said was "shut up" while trying to kiss me. Now he wasn't saying it in a mean or aggressive way, more like trying to seduce me or something. Then I gave up , cause' he's way stronger. Now , I'm not too upset(anymore) or afraid or anything it just makes me think about things. I've always had sex with him when he wanted. Something similar happened before but he gave up with a "fine". How can I bring this up to talk to him about it? Since it happened yesterday, if I bring it up, he'll just accuse me of trying to argue or be mad at him. Should I withhold again to see if he does it again? He's not some dangerous, abusive, mean person btw. Thanks :)

So I m black, but my skin isn t brown. My face, arms, legs and back are very very dark, they honestly almost look black. The insides of my arms, my feet and my torso area are all a nice shade of brown, and I really want to be that color all around. I don t want to resort to skin bleaching because I don t want to apply those harsh chemicals to my face. I just feel really dark and sad all the time because I know my face is practically black, and I know when people look at me they see the darkness of my complexion, and they don t see my face. Don t get me wrong, I don t want to be light skinned. I just want to be BROWN skinned and not completely black. When I stand next to my sisters and cousins in photos or mirrors EVEN in broad day light, I am significantly darker than all of them. It really eats into my self esteem and I really want to be a lighter shade of brown without using chemicals. Since there are parts on my body that my skin tone is nice and brown, I m really not sure if i have a sun tan, or if it s my natural tone. It s been like this for years and years and I think a sun tan would ve faded by now. I know it s not hyper pigmentation because my skin if blemish free and I don t have any dark spots or acne or anything. I ve tried lemons, and it doesn t seem to be working. Any positivite and/ or helpful answer helps. And please no negative comments, I already feel like crap about my skin tone.

we recently had a discussion over divorce he ended up being so short and rude at me, I need to discuss some more with him so I went to the living room where he went, then he went to the bathroom and I was going towards our bedroom but since they both happen to be by the same hallway I was gonna talk to him some more about it, I did not even touch him he turned around grabbed my shoulders and pushed me all the way down the hallway till the door and made me made a hole in it with my feet and now he argues it was in self-defense that I committed asault

he still lives with his parents because we are waiting for our new house to be built, He goes to work at 5:30 every morning and he expects his mom to make him lunch for work instead of me. I told him to make his own food so the mom wont have to get up and make it.... I guess she ENJOYS it. and since hes the only son that lives there.... Like it's getting on my nerves!!!!!! He maybe is mommas boy or something. He is a picky asssss eater so he barely eats what i make sometimes and it gets me sad, If i make something for him for lunch he'll probably not even eat it, thats why i dont want to make nothing for him... Hes so damn picky!!! Should i leave him or what should i doooo!????? I hate his mom ,,, shes tryna get me jealous and mad .. Mine as weell let him date her instead.

I'm considering piercing my cartilage and getting my second earlobe piercing next Saturday. My only concern is that I'm going to Maine July 27th and I'm supposed to go swimming in the ocean/lake/pool. Will I be able to then? It'll have been close to a month by then. I can't wait till after summer because I do sports all year that require me to remove all jewelry so they wouldn't be able to heal during the year, now is really the only time I can.

More time together while kids are sleeping. She seems a lot more happy now but I'm worried she may feel like that again one day. Going to work on making sure I kiss her more and appreciate her more. Think that will help?

Me and my wife have been married for 3 years. We are planning to have a baby soon. But the problem is she is obsessed with her family. She is always reacting on there input against me. Her mother always asking her if I have increased earning and as usual we have rows over it. But the main problem is her sister and her husband. Her sister lives within two miles radius of me. They have a adopted daughter of about 8. Now my wife is obsessed with all three of them. She spends and prefer to spend her free time with them. She is not interested in sex and most of the time I have to beg her for a couple of days to get some. Also there is some in appropriate inter action between her and her sisters husband. He cracks sexual jokes with her Shows her filthy images. One day he did it in front of me. When I confronted her later about this, she flat refused and said I was over reacting and paranoid. Also her sister husband touches her, holds her hands etc. She sees nothing wrong with it. She expect me to fawn over him and her family. She humiliates me infront of him. When she is not at her sisters house, she is on the phone with her. Also she used to make video call with her sisters husband a lot. Even when I go to her, while I am cuddling her, she will get on the phone with her sister or sister husband. Not to mention she phones her parents every day, some time couple of times each day. She is also ashamed to take me to her parents house. She tells me to go myself, she will follow.

He made me cry a lot one time. He kept telling me how useless i was and then he kept hitting me. He gave me a bloody nose and almost broke my arm. Someone please help Id call the cops but if he found out he'd kill me before they arrived

I'm a 49 year old father from New York state. I have 4 children (15, 10, 5, 3). I've been married for 16 years. I've never cheated on my wife and in January this year she told me that she had an affair with some guy. I'm the one in the house who cares about bills, food, taking the kids to school, doing activities outdoors etc. In all of these years she gave only 5 ((FIVE) baths to my children. She doesn't even know how to trim their nails. She's rejecting our children , never read them a book, never being involved in any kind of activities. She just justifies that because she goes to work she doesn't have to do anything in the house. She's abusing verbally my children telling them to go to hell. Last week I've found a letter written to her boyfriend. I went on line and checked his name and I had a big surprise. The guy is an ex convict , he got caught with 62 lbs of marihuana, spent 5 years in jail and now he's working from October 2015 in a Nursing home where my wife is also an employee. Two days ago I've asked her to talk to me honest and she told me that only guy who cares is this scum bag. I've asked her the divorce and she told me that she wants the custody of my children. Today , I've found out that she will meet him in one of the local restaurants. She left at 6.00 pm and now it's 4.00 am she's still not back. I feel RAPED by her and this guy. Need some advice please.

When someone cheats on a spouse, what are the behaviors they have on the internet ( Facebook, Twitter, & Myspace ) ? - Do they use old photos with friends to cover up an affair, on things like Facebook check-ins ? (when they are really with a lover ) Please give me some experienced answers.

I'm 17 but my ideal future would be staying home while my husband works and taking care of house things/puppy/ probably kid(s). I feel like people would judge me nowadays because it's considered traditional. Is it normal to want this so badly? I know it'd be wise to have a backup education and I would really like to as well. It's definitely something to be worked out between my husband and I when that time comes.

My husband has always had a thing for me being a BUSTY WOMAN guess you could say. Especially in my bottom! Ive known he has always had this fetish. I think he is taking it a little to far. He has always liked watching me sit in chairs and seeing how wide I am compared to the seat, or cushion etc... Or how a chair may wobble or creak as im sitting in it. He will make jokes how im going to break the chair, how he cant wait to see it happen. Which im fine with it, don't mind one bit cause I don't take it as a insult its just for fun. I am happy with myself! Anyways I have broken a couple chairs on purpose for him. They were a wooden kids size rocking chair and a regular wooden kids size chair. I was fine with it, we had been drinking so I was a little tipsy and let him talk me into it. It was even kind of fun. Lately ive been noticing the recliner I sit in everyday seems to be suddenly falling apart. We have 2 matching Lane green recliners. They are a little older are are in perfect condition. No creeking or anything. Mine seems to be a little more wobbly lately and sounds like stuff is loose. The springs are randomly coming loose. Hes always trying to get me to sit in the recliner. My slippers will be infront of the chair when I get home. Like hes anticipating me breaking it. I really think he sabotaging the chair when im not home so ill break it! I just don't see the point in destroying a good chair to please his fetish! What should I do? How should I tell him???

Ok so first and foremost please don't judge if your going to be rude don't answer. I've been with someone for 7 years we do have two kids. We have been shacked up for the last 5 years and our everyday lives involve playing "house" wife and husband roles but we aren't married. Recently he proposed but what took him so long? Maybe I gave him everything so he didn't need to work for me to become his wife. But anyway he treats our kids and I like his world and put us first. He is truly my dream man. Sex life is still awesome we are buying a home together,paying mortgage, we bought cars and paid them off together and I've never had problems with him ever cheating almost a super smooth relationship . But what will marriage change exactly? he all of a sudden wants to get married when he has already showed commitment to myself and our children.the sad reality is that I really regret not waiting to have sex with this man I am now in love with because then I could have had him purpose to me before this role and responsibilities we put each other in before a marriage then maybe I'd be extremely excited for a wedding. But I guess a lot will change any input? Be nice lol

hello…i need help ..really bad I have been depressed since my son who is now 1 year old, i love him to death but i hate my marriage, my husband had been physically and verbally abusive, also doesn't seem to care if i stay with him or leave him, he has flirted with girls and tried to meet up with women, he is so disrespectful to our marriage…i do not trust him anymore. I don't even feel he loves me anymore, he has made me so depressed and hate my life, the only thing that keeps me going is my son. I have forgiven my husband but its hard to get over what he has put me through, i want my son to grow up as a family, not a broken home so i am doing it for my son. this has affected my job as i suffer from anxiety attacks at work and can't socialize with people like a normal person, makes me resort to drinking, i thought about seeking professional help ike a doctor but scared of getting prescription pills and getting addicted,, all i wanna do is be healthy and continue to love and raise my son but life is overwhelming me, i do not know what to do?

Then I lose my erection. The only way I've found to actually finish the sex is to imagine we are in a park having a picnic when, from behind a tree, I see her sister beckon me over in order to have sex behind the tree while my pregnant wife is a mere several feet away. I made the mistake of telling her about this fantasy when she asked why I've been better and more enthusiastic in bed lately. Now she's staying with her mother and isn't talking to me. Don't all people at least sometimes fantasize? I probably won't think about her sister after the baby and a kegal exercise regimen that I will recommend.

I am 26yr n married too. Getting divorce now. I had a crush on a person who's 48yr well before my marriage. He's too a divorcee and has a son too. My divorce has nothing to do with my crush.. Before my marriage wen I used to talk to my crush he was very friendly with me. He used to reply to my all msgs as soon as he used to come online. He used to be very nice to me. As soon as he heard the news of my marriage he started maintaining a distance with me which I can totally understand. This was a sign of his goodness towards me. Recently I decided to share with him my divorce issue so I wrote to him " don't take me wrong for frequent texts n tryin to be happy in own ways even if I get reply or not. Wanted to tell tat already in trouble with this marriage n getting out of this mess soon. I even added that I adore u truly n u r dear to me so sharing with u." After reading this he suddenly blocked me. After two days I sent n apology sayin I didn't mean to disrespect u n just wanted to shared. But unintentionally something has happened like that so I sincerely apologise. N asked for forgiveness. He didn't even reply to this. I am feeling very bad. I didn't want to loose him . I truly like him very much. I don't understand... He's mature enough to acknowledge my apology atleast n can make me understand abt my mistake if he didn't feel anything abt me like that. As an elder person he should have told me. Y did he turned so cold towards me. Plz somebody explain.

So my wife is from Atlanta Georgia and she moved up to Canada to be with me 2 yrs ago. But since we have been in Canada she always gets embarssed to say she is from the South part of America

So about 2 years ago I brought my wife from Atlanta Georgia back up to live in Canada with me. But ever since she is up here, she hides her Southern accent, and imitates a Canadian accent.

I would really love to hear advice from married couples. I've been in a long term relationship with my man and I think I've just hit my breaking point. He comes from a tight knit family and it can be overwhelming at times. I've actually known them years before we were dating however the dynamics changed when we were together. I was friends with one of his family members, Donna, before we were dating. She was always a toxic friend but I ignored it and it wasn't until we were dating was when the toxic behavior worsened. I confronted her but she denied/backtrack. I couldn't get anything authentic from her. For my own sanity (and to keep the peace), I would end the friendship and keep distance. She never made an effort to talk anyway and she plays mind games. It's been great but she says she feels that there's issues. (I think she feels insecure that I am not warm and friendly anymore). I still remain cordial, say "hi" and small talk but am not personal anymore. Like any in law family, I'm sure many of you have felt excluded or hurt due to passive-agressive games. For you to bring it up, makes you look petty. Donna was the leader of this. I have no ill feelings towards Donna anymore. She is someone who I just don't consider a friend anymore. This past weekend, she had a last minute get-together for her birthday. I was feeling exhausted from an event from the day before and it was father's day. I decided not to go. Apparently, that started a ripple effect and Donna was not pleased Bf continued to give the same response to them, despite interrogation. We have many arguments since; at a neutral level right now but still very sensitive. In hindsight, I should have went to support him and forget it was "donna's day" (more of a family event). I pride myself on manners but I had a breaking point. I spoke with a friend (married) to in laws she is also not close with. She said: Rule #1 -no matter what, always go with him (this will also prevent ppl talking in his ear). This shows your support to him. Rule #2 - you will never be "authentic" (as much as you want to) with fake people, especially in laws. Always put a smile on your face & be business-nice, no matter what. THIS is where I feel confused now bc I want to be true to myself & live as authentic as I can but there's also the issues of manners. I've never been a tactless, brash person ("i hate you. Your gift sucks"). No. I don't want to be fake but I do have to have manners. Please help with any advice you can share Donna is his cousin. She dated my ex-bf in high school with no consideration for me (luckily, I was surprisingly mature at that age & it did not matter to me bc we were not together). When we were 21, she an irresponsible drunk & guess who had to take care of her? No thank yous at all (very spoiled and entitled person). Only calls if she wants something. Always talked s7t behind my back, even with mutual friends. At 30, she projects her insecurities on me. Donna is manipulative. I think donna is realizing she has no close friend. She is incapable of forming deep bonds past gossip and drama. Her MOH didn't ask her to be in the bridal party. Her "best friend" didn't go to her party. We're at a time in our lives when close female friendships are crucial - weddings, babies, homes, etc. She wants to be close again for her own agenda. It's been more than 10 years of this & I don't deserve it. I will support my partner no matter what (he should also do the same for me)

an ongoing problem of her going out to eat, not preparing meals for the family, going golfing, preparing meals for others and not the family. For Easter, she wanted, again, to "go out to eat!". Her birthday: "out go eat!" Am I being unreasonable in wanting my wife to once in awhile make a meal where at least 3 burners on the stove are going! For Easter, I asked for us to stay home. She ordered a ham so as not to cook. She made my favourite brownies last week and brought them to somebody else.

Well I don't exactly want to tell her that I do it... but she literally has no sex drive whatsoever. Literally we have had sex maybe 4 times in the past year or so, simply because I demanded it a few times and she finally obliged--- which is something I don't really like to do. But what else can I do short of cheating? I love her and want to stay married to her, but I am a man with a high sex drive. I respect her decision and won't force her.. but I she is kind of prudish and from a traditional culture and will look down on me if she knows I watch porn.. So what to do?

I'm 30 and he's 37. We've both been done with college for years and have excellent jobs. After four years of dating and living an hour apart.... I want to take the next step. I wanted to spend more time with him, to look for jobs in his area etc... He always said he wanted to get married and I wanted to have a better idea of when it might happen. I asked if he had any sort of timeline. He said we are headed in the direction of marriage but he is not ready TODAY and can't give me any idea other than we are moving in that direction. I said I understood, but I had been wanting marriage for the past two years and he isn't even sure when it might happen -he can't even say it might be a year from now..., I need to move on. I can't wait forever and I feel like 4 years is more than enough time to know. Two months later... he is always messaging me, wanting to meet for dinner and says he thought about things and is now ready for marriage. I don't know how I feel. I feel he missed his chance. I loved him with all my heart and it was so painful to hear him say he isn't ready at this moment and can't even talk about when he might be. It also feels like he's just marrying me because I left... not because he was so happy and wanted to do it himself. He just realized he'd rather marry than lose me. I wish was excited about marriage at the time. That after four years when i brought it up he would hug and kiss me and talk a timeline. It took me walking away for him to realize... I suppose the twist to all this is I have been dating a lovely man for two weeks now that is quite a catch, has captivated me and freely talks about things like how many kids he'd want in the future and qualities in a wife.

Let me add that this surgery is for COSMETIC reasons ONLY. My daughter is suicida and self harming. The medications ARE expensive but we can more than afford them. She didn't want to fill them. But 17 days later "because my pants don't fit right", she wants to spend thousands on plastic surgery for herself. But not for our child. She is also leaving for a cruise in a few weeks. But won't spend money on medication for our child. Am I wrong here? This has been years of this behaviour.

....and now looks nothing at all like what you once fell in love with

I wonder if this is the correct link to the FB picture or the new link: http://goo.gl/cp6Ttt

My husband and I were on the freeway. It's was traffic and we had 7 miles before the exit. We decided to get on the carpool lane as there were not many cars and the line was open. My husband looked, and checked his blind spot. Making sure it was clear he then changed lanes. 30 seconds into the lane we hear a loud bump. My husband looked outside and stopped his car to see that a motocycle rear ended us and was laying on the road. My husband went straight to the man and made sure he was okay. Witnesses that were nearby left and two men came to us and we're acting like witnesses. They strongly spoke against my husband. Who was at fault?

EVERY five minutes he's like "baby come here". I don't care about your VIOLENT shows you watch. Then he always asks me to bring him a snack or glass of h20. Can't he get up and do it himself. Finally he NEVER puts his cereal bowl in the sink or dishwasher. I have a maid but when she isn't here I have to do the cleaning. Yeah maybe . But he is bipolar and I have Borderline Personality Disorder.

I feel the trust is broken at this point. If he can do this, what else has he done or will do. I wouldn t feel comfortable having female relatives or friends over for an extended stay for fear he would secretly take nude pictures of them too. My mind is on overdrive. Not sure what to do. I m in a total state of shock. I thought he was a nice guy. I certainly never expected he would do something this manipulative.

Since she's the one with the job? Is this the optimal marriage strategy for a man?