We broke up 2 months ago. We dated for 9 months. It wasn't a terrible break up, but he wouldn't even see me face to face, because he didn't want to see me hurt, so I've been dealing with moving on. He's 32. He said he realises his life is a mess (financially, motivation etc). Now he messaged me yesterday evening "Hope you're well :)" What is his intentions? The last time we spoke I said i wanted him to be happy & feel better soon (he wasn't feeling well). He hasn't been online. Is he messaging me because he's bored, lonely? or genuinely misses me. It's hard to know what i should do. Maybe just reply politely and ask no questions.

Their has been several situations I have let it go but its just seems to pile for instance I give him a roof over his head and food on the table and I never ask him for money but for the first time I did for a baby shower he said yes days later his baby mama called and asked for money 100 and then he told me right after hanging up that he does not want to have baby shower he does not want to pitch in I was disapointed but I never toke a money from him if anything he has toke money from me to pay his child support or his bills but I m out of work pregnancy and all I can t offered things depending parents a lot seeing that I can t depend on him he always depended on me ........I JUST WANT TO KNOW HE ALWAYS COMPLIES TO HER AND LEAVES ME SECONDS WHEN IM THEIR FOR HIM AND SHE BEEN A B**** TO HIM ...HIS EXCUSE IS THAT I HAVE MORE THAN HER HIM PRESENT ....JUST WANT TO KNOW IS THIS BULLSHIT I FEEL DEEP INSIDR IT IS BUT SAME TIME HE CARES? I MIGHT JUST BE OVERTHINKING THINGS

I recently went to the GYN for the first time and I was told I had Bacterial Vaginosis. Getting home and looking further into the term I've never heard of, it dawned on me of what was the cause. Of WHO was the cause. My first ex has caused me to get this, I have clear reasons, but I won't get graphic. My third and recent ex also played a part, that's not as graphic as ex #1. But looking through the causes, I'm wondering if it's worth telling them. I keep in touch with them both, but I don't want to make it seem like I'm blaming them for it. Because they are not affected, is it worth mentioning?

He would be 22-23 ish. Personal reasons.

Okay so I am 15(African American) and she is 13(Mexican) and we have had an on and off relationship but we got back together a month and a half ago. We are trying to get serious this time and she told me she wants to marry me with a great future together when we are older. I want that as well and she always tells me that she loves me and I do the same. The problem is she always gets an attitude and she takes her anger out on me a lot. Also after a big argument (we argue basically everyday for no reason) she always storms off and not text me for a long while and and then the next day she acts like nothing ever happened and she back to being all love dovey. She's very sexual with me in text message and claims when we are older she is gonna do a lot of sexual things to me. I like when she does that but something about her is not right cuz she even said she had therapy to help her with whatever issue she had but it doesn't work. Ive tried to help her but its hard. Irk hat to do cuz I really care for her. How do I deal with a girl like her?

I believe it is subconsciously making us feel lonely, anxious, and depressed. I didn't have the best high school experience (outcast, not fitting in, etc) and don't want any memories of my sorry high school experience to be honest. The only memory of high school I like was the dance team I was on. (Didn't fit in but still enjoyed dancing) however I am blessed with the ability to make friends quite easily! I now have about 1000+ friends that have accumulated throughout the years. Whaat should I do? delete all my social media? delete old high school friends and only have genuine friends/family on there? or start fresh?

I went to a few concerts recently. I took lsd and I regularly smoke weed. I was told that there wouldn't be drug testing for my new job, but joke's on me! Anyway. I borrowed pee from a friend, but they didn't clean out the shampoo bottle enough when they gave it to me, so when I poured it into the cup, little debris of shampoo came out with it. They were so small, I couldn't get them out. I couldn't think of any other way to dilute it. So I spit in the cup and shook it to get rid of the shampoo particles. I didn't realize what I had just done, until it was too late. The drug test is an 11 panel GC/MS drug test. My question is: will my dirty saliva show up in this urine test? Will the shampoo be traceable? Or will this test come out positive because of my spit or will it come out as inconclusive because of the spit and shampoo? I've heard that this is the most accurate form of drug testing, so I am extremely worried.. I know lsd won't show up because it is too expensive and uncommon to test for...but I'm worried that the urine test will read my one blob of spit for THC..even though the pee is clean. Please don't lecture me about how awful I am. Just because I've fooled around with experimental drugs doesn't mean I'm a bad person and not a hard worker. I'm just stressing out to no end right now and would appreciate any experience or advice that anyone has to offer. Thank you in advance!

. He came back he has cheated on me three times curses at me chatted with women inappropriately....Well we started seeing a marriage therapist who suggested me make a list of thing we require in this relationship ... My list included not letting toxic people into our marriage ei my husbands two friends Edgar and Carlos .... Carlos backed my husband up in sleeping around while we were separated and he's cheats on his wife... Edgar has been married and divorced three time and has visited personal ads escort ect.. with my husband and his phone... So I meant these two as the toxic people ... I specific said I cannot trust you when your hanging.out with them so we need to remove them in order for me to gain trust in him he feels I'm giving him an ultimatum ... Input please

I have a 26 year old sister in law who studied at Oxford University for three years. She graduated and just came home about a month ago to see her babies (4 year old son and 7 year old daughter). She got a good job and is now working full time earning about more than $25 an hour. So you won't get confused, she is married to my husband's brother.. So we aren't SILs but that's what we call each other. Recently I went to her house to drop off my kid that she agreed to babysit for the day because I had a doctors appointment that I didn't need to miss. I saw that she bought a new couch and she has curtains with them being half the American flag and half being the British flag. I told her that it was disrespectful to have such flag and she said that she likes it and she not only has respect for our flag but for the British flag also, especially since she toured the House of Windsor. I called the cops on her and they gave her a ticket but now she wants me to pay it.. I don't know what else to do or what I should tell my brother in law. We're Mexican American so she SHOULD NOT have that flag at all!

I'm 15. And how do I tell my parents?? My 15 year old boyfriend kind of pushed me into it (I enjoyed it but now I'm going to have to face the consequences). I love him so fricking much and don't want to get him into trouble so what do I do? BTW I am aware of STD's and I cleaned myself up after so dw

This guy I am dating is separated from his wife but the still live in the same house, but he lives in a separate bedroom. The wife did not want the separation but he did. He gave up on trying to work through their issues (went to counseling and all that). Before anyone says he is lying to me I know what's going on for a fact because i have read their text messages. The thing that bothers me is that although he proposed to her that they should see other people, he has not confirmed with her that he is seeing someone. I feel like he should be honest with her if he is to continue seeing me. He says he wants to tell her at the appropriate time. what do you think?

my bf is a lovely guy. before you judge let me start by saying yes I'm 15 years old, were both. we been dating for 5 months,, i love him. don't say your to young. anyway, he gets mad about little stuff i do, and he can say hurtful stuff ti me, but a side of that he' amazing. my parents won't let me see him anymore, bc they thought he was mean. now my friend ruined two of m past relationships before and strand rumors n DTOLD MY MOM, and she's doing the same thing now. i haven't told my bf, i just said my parents think your mean and my friend was causing ****. he then texts my mom, and says, i really do love her, i will never hurt her, she's everything i ever wanted. m sorry you think I'm mean, i het mad easil. then my mom ignores the text both of them i told her to respond and she's like no. i don't wanna stop seeing him. i haven't been to bed, i been crying myself to sleep. i know there doing this to protect me. my mom started bithcing and start drinking more. i don't wa na break up. but what do i do. now my bf doesn't know about not see you part. I'm taking it y day by day. but now he's cod with me bc he wants to talk to my mom. help me please I'm shaking i know my bf is trying. and he's doing the best he can, but I'm not giving up yet. he thinks I'm acting distant. but now he's mad at my mom bc she won't text back and its just rude, how do i get things to be fixed they don't eeven know the real him

My bf really loves me, he spoils me and is a great man. He has has two kids with other women and they are total b!tches to him about seeing his children . It hurts him pretty bad. Anyway before we got serious i had a miscarriage from my ex husband whom i left due to abuse, this was my 3rd miscarriage and it was just as bad as it always is , i had the doctors investigate and found out i have an incompetent cervix which can be managed with a purse stitch put in as soon as i get pregnant and i would have to stay on bed rest and get constant check ups . But! It can be done . Thing is i only want to go through all this once and i want the baby to be mine , my last name my choice in how i raise it everything , i dont want child support at all. As long as we were together he could be a father but lets say something happened and we split up, i wouldnt want manditory visitation, custody battles, or geographic restrictions on where i could live . Yeah its selfish but after losing 3 i just want this so bad . I would cover every expense myself and never ask him for a dime. I could easily just go have dangerous one night stands with random men untill i achieved my goal but i really do love my currant bf and i dont really see us breaking up but u never know and i need to cover my butt . So guys how would you feel if you were asked to be a sperm donator and pre relinquish all ur rights ?

We broke up 2 months ago. We dated for 9 months. It wasn't a terrible break up, but he wouldn't even see me face to face, because he didn't want to see me hurt, so I've been dealing with moving on. He's 32. He said he realises his life is a mess (financially, motivation etc). Now he messaged me yesterday evening "Hope you're well :)" What is his intentions? The last time we spoke I said i wanted him to be happy & feel better soon (he wasn't feeling well). He hasn't been online. Is he messaging me because he's bored, lonely? or genuinely misses me. It's hard to know what i should do. Maybe just reply politely and ask no questions.

I currently started Muay Thai and one of my teachers is 16 years old and i don't mind him because he is not cocky about it either.Yet he is strict and he disciplines me if I do something wrong in class. I look at him as a leader and a mentor. Have you ever been taught by someone younger than you?

So my sister is 26, I m 25 and for some reason she s mad at me. We been through a lot together and were both foster kids so we basically vowed to stick together. Well for the past few years she has been in ALOT of drama. From the father of her 3 kids treating her literally like crap, to her new boyfriend "baby momma drama" , and other stuff. I feel like she always calls me to vent to me about her issues and I feel for her but at the same time I got tired of hearing about her issues because I felt like some stuff she was too old to be dealing with especially with 3 kids! So I decided I would worry about my self and cut off communication for a while. When I did it I wasn t angry at her or anything. So out of no where she sent me a text saying a lot of offensive stuff to me and accusing me of talking bad about her to people. And the crazy thing I have ALWAYS been a reserved person. I dot have friends, family the only person I know is my boyfriend and I never talk to him about her! But I sent her a message apologizing if she felt I did anything to her (WHICH I DID NOTHING) I just hate drama and I try to avoid it so me apologizing was my way of avoiding it. She ended up texting me from 3 different numbers with more offensive messages and I blocked her numbers and Facebook and she made a fake page to inbox me and tell me that I m dead to her and some other offensive stuff. I m not sure where all of this come from because I ve ALWAYS been there for her

Would I be born to the different mother or father?

So I had just got a new job as a Brand Representative at Hollister a few weeks ago. My boyfriend has been working there for three years and is close friends with the assistant manager outside of work. I worked last Sunday, while my boyfriend didn t. The night before my boyfriend and I got zero sleep. However, the assistant manager said, "JJ wasn t such a good worker, last Sunday." My boyfriend told me this while my boyfriend said "He thinks that of all the new people, that they re not good. Don t worry about it." I am. What did he expect? I m still getting to know the store as well as it s customers so I m not perfect at this job yet. I ve been working my butt off and that one day I was really exhausted from staying up till 5 am. How do I improve? The job is easy; greet, fold, put things back where they belong, etc. I m also kind of mad my boyfriend told me.

He's not a little boy. He's a 32 year old guy, and at the end of the relationship, I was getting frustrated and wanted to talk to him. We ended up breaking up because his life is a mess & he couldn't cope with things. He said it hurts every time he thinks about it. He was never online any more. I found it really hard, but didn't contact him at all. Now 2 months later he messaged me yesterday evening saying "Hope you're well" and a thumbs up and smiley face. What is his intention?

deserve to be with the woman I love and want in this world too? She loves me too.

What is a fight scene??? BQ: If a boy and a girl were physically fistfighting and left minor injuries on each other in the living room, does that count as a fight scene???

So I want a to but a sex toy online, it's not that big and it's not like an actual penis. BUT my card is connected to my moms, meaning she can see what I buy and see how much money I have. My plan was to get a an Amazon gift card and but through that I still have to put my card info but I was thinking it may not send it on my chase notification. Anybody can help? If you know anything to help?

Hi so I ve been in a relationship with my partner for quite some time now and lately we ve been fighting so much and mostly because of his sister. She texts him at least 3-5 days a week and calls him just as much. And they re just pointless calls/messages. She calls just to tell my partner something that has nothing to do with him. What really gets on my nerves is that its during the day while my partner is at work, so I never know about them. I saw the messages on my partners phone that s the only way I knew she contacted him . He hides it from me all the time. When she messages while he s home he lies and says it someone else. I only.know that because I saw her name pop up before he put his phone away. Along with all of this she expects him and tells him to keep in contact with her (mind you, she only lives 20mins away from us and we see her almost every week) but of course my partner sees nothing wrong with it, he says that s just the way they are. But having to keep in touch regularly and yet we re only 20mins away is ridiculous. He says all she s asking for is a simply "how are you, have a good day bla blah text" but I mean is it necessary? I ve told my partner so many times that she s clingy and she s too obsessed with him but he always turns it around on me and says I sound jealous. She doesn t have a partner not does she a job or anything going for her really. So please tell me how am I to deal with this or am I over reacting?

Only women answer this question. Tell me you worthless hog what makes you anything more then a walking cu m collecting d i c k bag?

My cousin is dating a man who beats her. He constantly hits on her and she is always in and out of the hospital with broken bones and bloody noses. Yesterday he hit her in the head with a metal shovel. she has a serious concussion and is in the hospital for evaluation for the next several days. When he first hit her (abput 1 year ago) I told her to leave but she told me to mind my own business so I did. But she calls me up 3 or 4 times a day and tells me that he beats her and she wants my advice. I told her to press charges on him and leave but she wont do it. Now that she is in the hospital the doctor want to know what really happened. She told the nurse that she fell. but the nurse doesnt believe her and niether do the doctors. I want to tell them the truth but I dont know if I should. I dont want to put my cousin in any more danger than what she is already in. I talked to a friend of mine who is a cop but he said the only way the can intervine is of she reports him or presses charges. (which she wont do) So I guess my question is what would you do in this situation? Or if you have been in this situation before how did you handle it? Thanks in advance BTW, serious answers only please

Would I be born to the different mother or father?

It is so obvious that we were in the same class together but there is the ignoring and no acknowledgement or greeting.

He's my professor, who, of course, is married, and has children (5 and 9 years old). He also happens to be 24 years older than me (I'm 19). He seems to love his family though. But, I feel so guilty. Should I tell his wife? My conscious and guilt is killing me. I know it's probably best to forget and move on but he could cheat again! I don't know what to do.

had an emotional attachment/affair for over 2 years with a coworker, very close, hung out alot, never got physical, had a strong strong connection, talked everyday or emailed, miss our interaction, had no plans of leaving our significant others, were just being there for each other, a few months ago , emails stopped, texting stopped, talking stopped, nothing, no reasoning, no goodbye just GONE, wont respond to anything, tried everything at least to get a goodbye nothing ,what am I suppose to think ? feeling totally confused and heartbroken

Well I read a question not long ago about a guy who's boss is having an affair with his female employee... and obviously he asked a similar question, "what I do?", so I dunno I was thinking Of course anyone can say, "yo it ain't my business... so I wouldn't say nothing", which is what the two answers said (but someone could also say it is there business since they seen it happen), but also then his wife is obviously living in a lie of a marriage and getting eff'd around... you know so what if she find out about the affair 5 years later? That's 5 years of a lie of a marriage for her... To me it almost seem immoral no matter what you do... on one hand you you're letting someone live in a lie of a marriage, but on the other hand someone can say, "oh you broke up the marriage for saying that" and "well it doesn't affect your life, so why care?" Coming from my personal perspective if I had a wife and she was having an affair I would want someone to gimme that intel... no I wouldn't jump to a conclusion because someone told me but I'd look into it to make sure and well since they told me I ask them "get me proof if you can". But if I knew a co-worker was married and then saw them having an affair I dunno what I'd do or what I should do. BQ: If you're married and your wife/husband was cheating on you, would you like be informed by an outsider (you know, someone other then the wife/husband or the person(s) they banging)?

The affair has been going on for 2 1/2 years with one of the managers at work. He's in love with me too but ended it because of his 2 kids. He loves them and doesn't want to ruin their life because he is a scum bag cheating on their mom. I am also married and have 4 children, 2 of them grown. I made a mistake marrying my husband of 21 years..He's a workaholic and doesn't tune in to things at home. We are just co-existing, living apart together under the same roof. The other man has been my life and my best friend. He put life back into me. He made me feel sexy and loved. How do I move on when I long to be with the other man? As I mentioned earlier, we also work at the same place. We wont see each other every day because our schedules differ, but I'm thinking at least 2 or 3 days a week I'll see him. Should I quit or request a transfer? Help! I'm lonely without him. I want to build a life of my own, but not sure where to start.....making new friends, having a fun life, etc. My kids are building their own lives even though I am still close to them. I am in my upper 40's, nearing 50 so it's harder to rebuild your life and make new friends. I need help! I know it was wrong to have an affair with a married man, but what do I do now to move on and learn from my mistakes and not repeat them? What do I do if he tries to start up the affair again which will just prolong the pain?

was just wondering what are the odd of two people who cheated in their relationships lasting in there own together? He shows signs of insecurities already for cheating on her husband with him and feels like she will do it to him as well. Yet he forgets he cheated on his pregnant girlfriend with her. How long do affair relationships last once the honey moon is over and reality sets in? She has two kids from her marriage she left and his child has since past. He still lives at home with his mom and works a minimum wage job and can't provide for her. She moved back home with her mom and dad and at a minimum wage job. What are their chances of lasting? How long do these usually relationships last? How often do they want to go back to there other spouses once they realize the grass was only greener cause it was fertilized by B.S.?

If the guy says he loves you and has been with you for almost a year now but he won't leave his wife but he doesn't love her. He has to stay with her for the sake of their kids and he was going to leave but had to stay since she got pregnant. But he does love the other woman though and not his wife since he always gives her nice things and he even spent New Year's Eve with her telling her that he will leave his wife when the time is right. In that situation doesn't it make it okay? Please be honest and try not to be biased if you are married yourself.

I posted an ad on Craigslist looking to have an affair with a lonely married woman who needed attention. I didnt want to commit my heart and feelings to anyone because of past relationships. Jacque replied to my ad. She had been longing for attention. She has been married for 20 yrs and had expressed to me that her and her husband were like "passing ships in the night". Her husband is a professional gambler that "plays" all night and sleeps all day while she does all the work around the house. She met me one day briefly when we first met. The next day she was in my room having unprotected sex with me. Very soon afterwards she told me that she wanted it to be "more than just sex". I agreed that it was! There, we basically committed to each other. She told me she didn't even sleep in the same room as her husband, said shed never had an affair before and would tell me how special I was. Things were absolutely WONDERFUL for the first few months until she started telling me I should find someone else that I can be happy with and go out and do things with. Then, her visits with me got fewer and fewer, her work schedule picked up a lot, she became very bitter towards me and argumentive and I have no doubt that she's been seeing someone else. She'd tell me she was "innocent until proven guilty" but I know that I didn't need to walk in on her ******* her new lover to know she was seeing someone else. Anyway, I've told her many times to just be honest with me and if she's been seeing someone else, just tell me about him and I won't "expose" her to her husband or interfere with her new relationship but if she doesn't and I find out, I WILL! Well, I think I've come very close to catching her a few times and she had realized that the longer she is with him and talking to me, she will for sure get caught by me because for one, her "stories" don't make sense half the time. I know she's seeing someone else, should I tell her husband? Please include your email so I can reply to you.

My whole life I have been extremely considerate of others. I hate the feeling of being selfish in any way or inconveniencing someone in any way. It keeps ruining my relationships with friends and boyfriends because I can't say no. I always put everyone's happiness before my own even if the person is a complete stranger. This also gives me anxiety in social situations.

Even after his wife caught him cheating, he lies to her and insists on keeping an ongoing relationship with a mistress. They may have small disagreements but they still are together, work together and talk on the phone when he can. He has a 1 year old and the only reason he won't leave his wife is because he still wants to spend time with his daughter. Why is he reluctant to let her go?

I am inexperienced in that department. When I make out with a guy what should I do? I'm kinda shy but he wants me to not be so nervous and relax. Should I slowly start to touch him? If so what place?

I have a 9 year old boy & 8 year old girl. We were recently at our local Renaissance Featival browsing the shops. While browsing, we were near one of the more "adult" oriented shows & of course sex jokes were being made. I didn t realize it at first because I wasn t paying attention to the show. However, what brought it to my attention was both of the kids plugging their ears. I took this as my cue. I waited until we were in the car on the way home & casually asked them why they had been plugging their ears. My daughter was the first one to speak up. We had a short discussion on the subject (nothing too in-depth) with questions & answers. I told them that we d have another discussion at a later time when I felt they were mature enough to handle discussing it more in-depth. They both were okay with that & said they didn t have any more questions so far. I told them that if their friends told them anything about it, I would appreciate if they brought the information to me so that I could make sure the information was correct & if it was incorrect, I could provide them with the correct informatiom. I feel that my daughter could handle a more in-depth discussion but I m not so sure about my boy. I never got "the talk"... puberty, sex, or otherwise & I don t want that for my kids because I got A LOT of bad information that way. Did I do the right thing & how do I know when they re mature enough to have the in-deph discussion?

Not making the cheeeading team, wearing glasses and braces, and for not ever kissing a boy. It is so fccking ridiculous.

My male acquaintances and my husband tells me I look good for my age. Unfortunately, I seem to have older creepers hangin'around. I'm not talking about men in their 40's. I'm talking older. Why am I being pursued. Believe it or not, the older they are, the more assertive they are. Sadly, some of them became friends- until they revesl their ulterior motive which is all carnal. WTF!

A complainer 10 points goes to the good answer thanks for answering

I"m 19 years old and a college freshman. I dont really have anyone to hang out with. I do have a job. But I dont really know how to make friends. Ive always been shy. How to make friends?

He is single and you are married.