Family: Question: I'm so tired of life and don't know what to do anymore. does anyone have any advice for me?

Question: I'm so tired of life and don't know what to do anymore. does anyone have any advice for me?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 02:22 PM PDT

I am 14 years old and these past 4 years have been getting worse everytime. I have 2 sisters and a brother and I live with my mom. ive been depreesed for the longest sometimes my mom will take her anger out on me and physically and emotionally abuse me she says I have anger issues and makes this doctor believe her and I have to take pills but I really don't take them becaue I know I do not need them. I know my mom hate me and she has said it before that I was a mistake and anything I do she gets mad at me and either hits me or yell at me and even my middle sister will say mean things to me and my mom doesn't say anything to her sometimes I just cry in my room in nights and im so tired of everything. I always think every year will get better but it doesn't it gets worst and all I wan to do is move away from my family and don't see them again because they have hurt e a lot inside .

Question: Can I get my dad arrested for yelling at me just cuz I toad my 5yr old sister about how babies are made?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 02:12 PM PDT

He was so mad which is just stupid. Cuz its father's day in my country. And my little sister isnt my parents real kid. Shes kinda adopted from a famiky member who couldn't take care of her. For simplification I just call her my little sister. Anyways she made my dad a father's day card. And I asked why she wrote daddy, cuz he's not her dad. She said "yes he is!!!" and almost cried. So i just said, do u know why someone is your dad and someone is your mom. She said some dumb stuff about its rude to call them by their first names. And I said I mean where do babies come from. She said you buy them at the hospital. I just toad her the truth and she didn't believe me and I insisted it was true and she started crying!!! Then my dad got so mad at me. Saying why would I tell her that and in the middle of the restaurant too (father's day meal). I thought it was the best place to tell her!! More witnesses to the fallout - her screaming that it's nasty and nobody would do that. Lolololololol. And then she wouldn't sit next to my dad or mom and she didn't want to sit near my 2 real baby sisters. So she had to sit by me and cry into her fries until it was time to leave. I didn't know she was gonna react so bad. But my dad yell at me in the car for like 15 minutes before my mom tell him to shut up cuz he's giving her a headache. Then when we was going inside the house he kicked me in the butt and I almost fell. Can I get him arrested you shouldn't lie to kids about these things And maybe if my parents didn't decide to have twin babies then they would of been able to pay more attention to what me and my sister were talking about and stop me before I said it And buying them from the hospital is a terrible thing for her to think. She must think her real mom bought her and then regretted her purchase But isnt it better that she knows now?!?! Nobody toad me. Then some kid toad me when I was 12 and it was embarrassing since he was like 8 and knew more than me

Question: Should i get my own room?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 02:06 PM PDT

I live in a 3 bedroom house. My mom has her own room, my 4 year old sister and 6 year old brother share a room, and i (13 years old) share a room with my 15 year old sister. We are moving to a 4 bedroom house andmy little brother will get his own room. My mom says she is going to let my older sister have have her own room wich means i would have to share a room with my 4 year old sister. I have always wanted my own room but being a middle child that probably wont happen. I dont know what to do. Any advice?

Question: Is this real picture of Miranda cosgrove in bikini flashing her boobs or is it fake?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 02:04 PM PDT

Question: My cousin is 7 and he is really annoying! im 21! im a grown adult and i get in trouble from him. he just gets babied. HElp??

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 01:45 PM PDT

Question: Am im overreacting?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 01:42 PM PDT

So am im overreacting me and my dad always keep communications if i wanted to spend time with him i could but financially he dont support me for years i couldn't get a dime from him many birthday and christmas where all i got was a call from him but just recently the last year he's stepping up and actually giving me money but now everytime we talk he tells me how much he sacrifices and everything he then did for me the last year cauce this was the only year he actually did for my birthday and Christmas and helped me but im tired of everytime we talk he compaining about spending money im growing tired of him and hearing him complain about the essential you supposed to do im thinking about cutting him off and just now calling or talking to him anymore he really havent did that much for me my whole life and im starting to realize it so am im overreacting

Question: Mia madre é morta e mio padre é depresso e incazzato?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 01:37 PM PDT

Mia madre é morta 8 mesi fa.. Mio padre da allora si è isolato quando si va a cena dai miei zii a festeggiare qualcosa lui sta sempre sul divano a dormire e quando é a casa non puoi dire ne fare niente che si incazza

Question: Brother and Sister naked together?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 01:12 PM PDT

So I'm a 21 and a guy and my sister is 16. The other day I was going to my friends house for a BBQ and I decided to invite my sister because I hadn't seen her in a will. My friend has a pool so when we arrived we just went into the spare room and got changed. When we came out my friend asked me "did you change in the same room?", I said "yeah". He looked shocked and he said "so you saw your sister naked" and again I said "yeah…"; he said it was weird. He then went onto say "you guys must be doing it", "you've got a thing for you sister". I'm wondering if it is weird or not. At the time I though nothing of it, we were just getting changed. So what I saw her naked, I'm not attracted to her, I think no more of her vagina than her hand. I don't know all our life we've seen each other naked and theres never been a problem. We've never looked at each other in sexual way. I don't know, is it weird. All we were doing was getting changed. I've seen plenty of naked woman and I don't look at my sister in a sexual way. Why does nudity have to be bad or weird?

Question: I'm running out of time?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 01:03 PM PDT

Edit I am tired of being a loser. I realize that I need to step up. I am 24 going on 25. I still live with my parents. I am still a virgin. I don't have a ton of friends. I don't have a ton of money. I have a huge debt to pay back because i helped my parents out of a jam. I don't really see success anywhere I look around, except in other people. My friends have girlfriends or are getting married. They're traveling. They're living awesome lives - partying, living away from home. I have done none of that mainly because I was a big ******* pussy in the past. I failed to approach girls and get them to react to me beyond friendship. I was a big loser in college. I shot myself in the foot royally. My twenties are winding down and I have nothing really to show for it. You can't do outrageous stuff in your 30s. 30 is too late to be trying to be good with women. I won't be able to get the girls I want if I'm still a ******* virgin. I want to move out, travel, get sexual experience, and get on with my life. I need to put my best foot forward. I've made goals, I've made plans... I just want to hope that it's not too late for me. I pray that it's not too late. Is it?

Question: Was this wrong of my mom?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:57 PM PDT

So my mom got her food stamps yesterday. After she had went to the grocery store and got what she wanted, i asked her if i could get the card to get me a few items. She said yes. My brother also wanted to get him something so that would be more money needed. She told me that it was over $100 left on the card. She was hesitant to give me the card and i found out it was because she promised my aunt food stamps in exchange for money in order to get her phone back on. This is a problem because my aunt has a freezer FULL of food already and she brags about having money all the time so why would she need free food? Meanwhile my brother and i are teenagers and we have NO money. My mom said that my brother and I could only get $30 dollars worth of food while my aunt gets over $60 worth! What do you think of this situation?

Question: What's the point of celebrating father's day?? When some Dads don't deserve that respect?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:46 PM PDT

To thoses who are gonna judge me and say "i have daddy issues"well i dont see why father's day should be included as holiday when alot of men don't ever value their kids to me it should just be mother's day since we all came out from a women and raise by a women while our saw call father's are screwing with every ***** he sees.

Question: My mom caught me drinking?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:43 PM PDT

So a few weeks ago my mom found my stash of liquor. I'm 18 and let's be honest, it's pretty normal for an 18 year old to be doing that. Last night she came barging in my room and saw my one beer on the table next to my bed. Today she's telling me I'm not allowed to work at my job at a restaurant because she thinks I'm stealing it from there when in reality I'm not that stupid. I have friends that know older guys that buy stuff for them. But the beer was a tallboy, which the restaurant doesn't even sell. But she still thinks I am stealing it from there. Is she being irrational or am I? Or is she just being retarded.

Question: What can I do about my mom?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:42 PM PDT

I am a grown woman with a child. My child wants to attend an educational camp. I work and told my mother about the camp and said I have no one to drive her as it starts at 1pm. My mom volunteered and immediately said she was available to drive her. She said don't you worry about it (exact words). A week later, I reminded her of the camp. She said she can't help and she is tired of everyone stressing her out. She never acts like this. I have to de-enroll my child. She promised to help. Should I be upset?

Question: My mom saw my porno?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:42 PM PDT

I'm 19 years old so it was legal, and I was paid handsomely, but I didn't think she of all people would find it. Why was she even looking? She sat me down and told me why it was stupid of me to do it, and why I shouldn't do it again, but finished it off by saying "You've got your father's dick" I am mortified beyond description. I think she is sadistically trying to embarrass me. What the hell do I do?

Question: Do you FEEL YOU OWE MOM AND DAD money or something for RAISING you UP?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:35 PM PDT

FAMILY- WHAT IF MOM AND DAD or grand parents said, GIVE ME SOME OF MONEY BACK i spent raising you. give me something. what will you say then

Question: My mom won't let me spend my money !!! pls help?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:28 PM PDT

Ok let me explain first. My mom is having some issues with her job atm. She doesn't get her full paycheck (she get's about half, and she gets it like every 2 or 3 months). Now i understand that helping with bills and all will help me out aswell...But this has been going on for at least 3 YEARS NOW! She's not even trying to find a new job. Everytime i get a part-time job, she always asks me for money. (My grandparents arent helpful that much). Nobody at her work will say anything either, since everyone is afraid of losing their jobs. Same goes for my mom...I can't even afford my own drivers licence, and everytime i buy something or at least if i wan't to buy something, she always uses the whole crying and we have no moey thing...this week i'm plaing to buy something worht of 45eur with my OWN MONEY (i get 160 from the state as a scolorship) and shes just looking for an excuse to convince me not to go! I just can't take this anymore!

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 12:16 PM PDT

My mother is a pervert? She always says "do you know you butt bounces when you walk?". She looks at my boobs every time I'm around her. It's too hot in this apartment to wear pants and a t-shirt, so I've been wearing shorts and a tank top. I feel really uncomfortable around my mother. I tell her to stop looking at me like that but she just smiles and keeps looking. I'm 14 she does the same thing to my 16 year old sister. What am I supposed to do?

Question: How do I reconcile with my father after disappointing him?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:57 AM PDT

I had just played in a competition. In the last match, I lost by three points. I had missed those important three points because I had made mistakes--not because my opponent beat me. Had I won, I would have been either 1st/2nd in my division. My dad was furious. The entire way home, he scolded me about losing the last match–claiming I was better than my opponent technically, but I didn't have the focus or mental energy needed to win. Saying it was painful to watch me play. Saying he invested so much time and energy into making sure I did well–only to lose. He said I wasn't motivated and would rather chat than succeed and practice. He said I was stupid–that I should give up and that I didn't have a future in this sport. He said he had given me advice on how to win–that I should have own easily–but I didn't. He said it was all my fault. I agree with him on everything--it was my fault. I'm the only one to blame. I did disappoint him. I did deserve a scolding based on my performance. But I don't agree that I should give up. I love my father unconditionally--he only wants whats best for me and I appreciate that greatly. He may harsh by my description, but that's because I didn't play well. He is a wonderful man and father. I just want to apologize to him, but he doesn't want me to ever say "I'm sorry" to him again because I kept saying that after I lost the match. I'm confused and sad. I don't know what to do. I don't want him to be disappointed in me anymore. I need advice.

Question: Do you think my dad is being a little too hard on me?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:49 AM PDT

I have been practicing driving with my dad every weekend for three weeks for about an hour. My dad lost his patience the last time we went out to practice. I made a huge mistake. I accidentally ran a stop sign while a truck was turning. I noticed the truck was beginning to turn. My dad told me to start moving over so I won't hit the truck. I was so worried about not hitting the truck that I didn't even notice that I ran a stop sign and that I didn't slow down enough to the point where I could've hit the truck. My dad became furious. I do understand this was a huge mistake. He then asked me "You have to make a decision, do you want to drive or use public transportation? because I am getting ready to give up." He then proceeded to tell me that, "we have been practicing every weekend for three weeks and I feel like you're not making any progress. I have not spent this much time with your brother or sister." I did have some days where I did excellent and he told me that I'm getting better, but now he's telling me I'm getting worse. I just feel like my dad expects me to be a pro driver after only like 7 hours of practice. I feel like he is rushing me to get my license because many people who are younger than I am are getting their licenses (I am 18 by the way). I also believe he needs to be a little more patient for someone who takes a little longer to learn. I am a beginner driver and I am going to make mistakes.

Question: How long does is takes for child support money to go through?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:46 AM PDT

I live in Ga my baby father already on child support for years. He hasn t paid in months but his mother said that she gave money to the child support place this past Monday. So how long will it take to get on the card. My son birthday is coming up and I want to buy him something he really likes. I don t have a job so no money. I just really want to give him something special he deserves it he is a great kid. I check the child support every day but there s still nothing on there

Question: It's my Mom's birthday and I have no idea what to give her or make her! Help!!!?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:44 AM PDT

Question: Need to smash something?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:29 AM PDT

Question: Why is she treated differently just because she has ADHD?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:27 AM PDT

My sister has adhd and I am soo damn tired of her being treated differently by our parents. She's not doing that well in school , I know that mostly everywhere the grade "D" is not that good(?) which is just so freaking weird, we're just happy to get an E here if you're not doing too well all the time... But then we don't have college here, Idek. Anyways, so my sister gets (mostly) E & D + a few F, we're all proud of that (her grades has nothing to do with her adhd) but every time we are having a fight it's mostly always my fault, my dad uses ADHD as an excuse "will you pls stop make her feel worse?" "Stop "bullying" her." "Can't you see she has it harder than you with her ADHD?" Or "At least *you* will get somewhere in life?" It doesn't make any sense, I'm having a hard time as well & the fact that our parents always takes her side doesn't really make anything better. I am sad most of the time but never really shows it too much, I am sad about the fact that she is treated different when we should be treated equally + the fact that she probably notices and allows it. If I had adhd, I wouldn't want anyone to treat me differently, it just annoys me so much that she gets the "special treatment". I believe in my sister a lot more than they do but whenever I try to show it somehow, it always end up her getting pissed at me as always. ... (I will continue writing about this in the comments)

Question: When was the last time you remember being naked in front of your mom?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:18 AM PDT

I was like 6 or 7. She just wanted to help me wash my hair so she just came in at that time and did it.

Question: I caught my daughter masturbating and now she's avoiding me?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:12 AM PDT

Last night I walked into my 15 year old daughters room to say good night and I caught her masturbating (there is no doubt about what she was doing) and looking at something on her phone which I assume was pornography. She panicked and I immediately apologised and walked out her room. She hasn't talked to me all day and has just been avoiding me and her dad. I'm a little shocked as I didn't expect this from my teenage daughter as she is so innocent in my eyes. How can I deal with this situation and stop it from being awkward?

Question: I HATE MY DAD VERY MUCH!!!?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:07 AM PDT

honestly i hate my dad.but why?: 1-he was great to me when he typed his poetry book but for now he doesn't do anything in his life 2-when he decided to do something he started working on a religion competition but the problem is it doesn't make him learn anything for his life or win anything 3-he spend his life like this:TV-Cell Phone-Sleeping 4-when someone say to him about his probems he becomes angry 5-he is extremely lazy, he is the laziest person i have seen in my life 6-when i tell him that i am bored he tells me "and what am i supposed to do" 7-always when i tell him that i want to play with him or make anything such as:[DIY-PaperCraft-Google Cardboard] he changes his face to sad and tired position and says that he is tired 8-he is crazy and does crazy things and he treats me as if i were 4 years old and i am actually 13 death for me is better than being like him.i dont know why mom didn't leave him years ago! my mom is not happy with him because he never think of her

Question: Gay step mom?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:06 AM PDT

Well today's Father's Day, I have a father. But my mother is lesbian & she's married to a women.. This women has been part of the family for years.. Should I give her a hug and say happy Father's Day ? I want to thank her because she's like a father.. But idk if I should.. Help

Question: Why do i feel so mad about this?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 11:05 AM PDT

Aright so here is the story. My sister was taking care of a baby. So then his Cousin arrive to pick him up. (The baby) So then when my sister try to get the baby out to get to the car. The baby started crying and fell to the floor. Then guess what. My Cousin Husband PICKS THE BABY UP BY THE SHIRT WITH ONE HAND. Like what i mean is he use one hand to grab his shirt and pull him up hard. This was a mouth ago. Why do i feel SO MAD ABOUT THIS?

Question: My mom hates me .. What do I do?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:58 AM PDT

My mom really despises me. I try my best at school and have all A+ grades mostly, and I m two years ahead in Math. On the contrary all my lil sis does is play with barbies... And she loves her. She calls me a pig on an everyday basis, hits me, and curses me to die. Maybe I should just die... I don t know what to do...

Question: I hate my family?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:40 AM PDT

So last night I wanted to go over to my friend's house. I asked my dad and he said yes. I called my mom and I asked "can me and M play video games?". She said yes. After the call, my dad said why doesn't he come over here? I'll have a fire and stuff. I said no I'm going over there. So M picks me up and we go to his house. Fast forward to the next day. My mom barges in and yells at me because I lied to her and I didn't tell her I was going to M"s house, I only said we were playing video games, and she assumed it was at our house. I tried to explain that's not what I meant and I didn't mean to do this and she took away my phone and said she'll be looking through my messages with M because she thinks he's making me lie. Also, she's putting my temps on the line too. I said that's not fair, and she said this is what she felt. She also said I ruined father's day. I don't even know what to do now. I'm hiding in my room because it's too awkward being in the presence of my family. What do I do? So I owned reponsibility and stuff but she won't let this drop.

Question: How soon after depo shot are you good and out the clear?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:32 AM PDT

I had my period may4th and got the depo shot may9th some one said it has to be right before your cycle or during in order for it to be effective immidiately, if that is the case, how soon after my depo am I out the clear since I got it after, because my dude have been nutting in me and I became aware my body has pregnancy symptoms...

Question: How many daughters here stand up to their fathers? Mine is controlling... I'm 24?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:32 AM PDT

Question: For someone who doesn't believe in social media, why is it so important in society nowadays?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:19 AM PDT

My mom doesn't believe social media, Instagram, snapchat, Twitter, is important and won't let me or my sister have it. I am desperate! What are some good reasons for when I ask her?

Question: Is my staying out of this the right thing to do?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:17 AM PDT

I remained good friends with my ex wife's mom and dad after the divorce and she was OK with that. Her mom and dad called me to invite me over dinner. I gladly accepted as her mom is a great cook. After dinner they told me my ex wife was getting married again and told me who the guy was. They really disliked him and did not want her to marry him. I had to agree with them that in my opinion the guy is a bum. He is 28 years old, lived with his parents and has never had a job in his life. He is a high school drop out. They told me their daughter would not listen to them but she greatly respected my opinion and asked me to talk to her out of marrying this guy. What is so unexplainable is that she likes expensive jewelry, luxury cars, and the latest in fashion clothes. All of these things are expensive. I am conflicted about this. Even though I would like to help my ex wife as a friend in this situation, I don't think I should be telling her who she should marry. Please let me have your thoughts on what I should do. Ladies, I would really like you input. I don't plan to talk to her unless she ask for my advice. Is my staying out of this the right thing to do?

Question: What should I do in this abuse situation?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:11 AM PDT

My father constantly mentally abuses me and I have been in a state of sadness for a few years now. I wanted to commit suicide in my teenage years because I felt as if no one really cared for me. My parents are divorced and my mom is in prison. Last week my father physically abused me for the second time, leaving bruises in the shape of his hands and fingernail scratches in my arms. His girlfriend has supported him and my sister tells me I need to make up with him and return living with them. I am in college and will leave in the fall. Fortunately I have found a temporary place to stay. What should I do? My dad acts like he did nothing wrong, as does his girlfriend, and my sister is telling me to return to live in the house where I feel as if I am depressed and have been mentally and physically abused. Please send some advice. Thank you.

Question: Where should I move too?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:10 AM PDT

My mom and dad are divorced. My parents live in different states. I don t live with either one of them but I live about 20 minutes from my mom. I just graduated college and really like where my dad lives and have debated about moving in with him down their and find a job. However, I don t want to leave my mom all by herself up here their isn t really any family left of hers near her. My sister is about 3 hours away. Also, I have been debating about going down to work for my uncle in North Carolina, which I think is a great idea because it is in the middle of my parents. I would like some advice on how I can go about this....

Question: I need advice?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:10 AM PDT

So my problem is I'm a 23 year old male who lives at home with my mother. However, I plan on moving to California in September to pursue my dreams. My mother who is out of work for the summer wants me to stay home and not move out so that I could give her money even though I have my own bills that I'm struggling to pay right now. She constantly tells me that if I move out I'm going to have bad luck for not staying here and helping her. I feel that if I don't move out that I will miss out a lot on life. I just want to explore the world and be free. If anyone has any advice that can benefit me I will greatly appreciate it. Thanks!

Question: I F***ing HATE holidays?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:06 AM PDT

So my mom thinks my dad's big plan is to keep me from her until i'm 18 in a few months. So her solution is to send me back to my dads and not let me come back to avoid him keeping me from her? I hate family drama.

Question: Should I point this out to my wife ever if she does not ask?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 10:06 AM PDT

My ex wife Betty is a gourmet cook. Her pies, cakes, and cookies were to die for. For the holidays, she always sends her friends and relatives a large box of cookies. Since we had a friendly divorce, she also sends one of her packages to me. I really like these cookies and so does my current wife Joan. Joan just thinks they are from one of my business associates that send out gifts for the holidays. She just never ask me which business associate sent the cookies. If she ask me I will tell her the truth as I will not lie to her. Joan shares these cookies with her friends when they come by out house to chat and EVERYONE remarks how great they are. I am debating with myself if I should point out to Joan the cookies are from my ex wife. I am afraid if I do, she will not want me to get them any more. Joan enjoys these cookies as much as I do so do you think she will care that they came from my ex wife. We never discuss my ex wife and Joan is not the jealous type. WHAT SHOULD I DO IF ANYTHING? PLEASE HELP.

Question: My mother called my sister "Bipolar" when fighting with her yesterday, is this derogatory?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:59 AM PDT

People with Bipolar cannot help it. My mother had just been talking to me about someone who recently died from alcoholism who had struggled with Bipolar so she had it on her mind. My 15 year old sister was being her bratty self when my mother said "Are you Bipolar" because she'd been cooperative yesterday but was not today. So my question is if this is derogatory or next time my sister gets this way should I, the 20 year old brother, feel fine saying "don't get all Bipolar on me"? My sister is NOT Bipolar and rather just a mean 15 year old like many teens.

Question: This is the first Father's Day I have been home since my Dad died and I miss him and seeing his family more often, what do I do?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:53 AM PDT

My step-Mom and his kids moved and I don't see them as often. Father's Day used to be the big weekend I spent with them. Now I am depressed. It has been three years since my Dad died but I went out of town the first year so not to be depressed and last year was out of town for a scheduled trip. This year I am home and it feels sad, very sad. I can go to his grave but the rest of the family won't be there and so I miss them all so much. I saw them two weeks ago but it just feels so weird on this day. What should I do? I cant wait until tomorrow because today will be over. Asking a 2nd time as I only got one answer earlier.

Question: My mom slapped me for getting 2 Bs on my final exams?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:46 AM PDT

She said it was my fault that I got a B and that my life isn't going anywhere if I don't change the way I study. I'm only 12 and in 7th grade.

Question: Should I visit my dad?..?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:41 AM PDT

He in a nursing home down the block. Hes charming and talented but his demons and alcohol got the best of him and even though he's not an alcoholic anymore, at age 50 he decided he didnt want to do anything with his life and submitted himself to a nursing home. Anyways. long story short im pretty sure he had borderline personality disorder or something. we have a really tough history. i send him presents but i dont visit him anymore. My mom visits him once a month and brings him smiles and gourmet meals she makes herself to make sure he's doing okay. Once the nurses almost let him die. my mom noticed he didnt seem normal and the nurses assured that he was fine. my mom knew he wasn't and yelled at everyone and then the doctors found out he had pneumonia and maybe a stroke. if my mom hadn't been checking on him he'd be dead. hes recovering from that now. So bless her heart. its just i was suicidal most of my life. im better now. but whenever i visit him i get bad again. triggers. idk. so im stuck. my mom understands its not good for my health to visit him. but im trapped in this life where i cant tell if im a bad person for choosing between myself and him. idk what to do. we are homeless so we can't really get him proper mental health support. or myself. but. i dont know. i sent him a uke for fathers day and a card with my mom. because making music is the only thing that makes him happy. which i get him guitars or ukes every 6 months because he keeps breaking them. I know. maybe I should. maybe one day i will understand him. i suppose i dont want it to become one of my regrets. even though he failed as a father he was still a person. im sure someone failed him too.

Question: Parents: Would you let your 17 year old daughter go on vacation with her 20 year old boyfriend?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:27 AM PDT

(Before there is any confusion, the age of consent in our state is 16.) My daughter and her boyfriend will have been together for a year in July, and he wants her to go to the beach with him and a few friends of his for a week in mid-July. I trust my daughter. She's a very smart girl, and I have never had any issues with her behavior. I like her boyfriend as well, he's a nice kid and is very respectful. He's good to my daughter and she really cares for him. But I'm not sure I like the idea of the two of them being together without me or my wife being present or able to physically check up on them. My daughter has been asking and asking about it and I would feel bad if I deprived her of a fun experience, but I'm just kind of unsure. My wife (her stepmother) doesn't think it's a big deal and she believes that she should be able to go. But I'm just a but hesitant. What do you think I should do? What would YOU do if you were in my situation?

Question: Should I have to play drums in order to feel wanted by my family? Or should I stop caring what they think of me?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:25 AM PDT

My parents love to talk about how my brother plays drums and always say how proud they are of him. They hardly say a thing about me and is a pain to feel like not as important as my brother because I play a clarinet. It has led me to feel like I don't matter unless I bang a drum with some sticks. I've started to decide I want to try out for pipe band as a snare so I can feel accepted but is that a good idea?

Question: My mom never buys me a birthday present?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:22 AM PDT

I feel stupid asking such a question. Well I am 35 and my birthday was in March my mom didn't buy me a birthday present. My 25 year old sisters birthday was April and my mom bought her something. Now my brothers birthday was today and she bought him something. This happens every year. Even for Mother's Day I got her something and I got nothing but she got my sister something. I don't have any friends but when I got to work after my birthday they all said wow I'm sure you had a wonderful birthday with your family and I lied and said yes even though they did nothing for me. I just stayed home with my kids.

Question: My sister is a *****?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:19 AM PDT

I'm 17 and my sister is two years younger. Sometimes we get along just fine (rarely) but most of the time she is horrible. She is pretty and everybody love her but she is really really stupid and shallow. She is also stealing my stuff and is always making fun of me because I don't have perfect body. She gets all the attention but always wants more. Yesterday we were at the same party and all the boys were around her but she came to me and my friends and drag them away so I was alone. Whenever I ask anyone for the advice they say I'm just jelous. Of course I would like to be cute and skinny but this is not the cause of our problems. If she wouldn't be such a ***** it wouldn't bother me at all. I just don't know what to do. And also she has really bad grades and I have to do all her house chores and my parents are driving me crazy because they don't seem to notice that I have to study too just because my grades are good. The point is nothing helps. I tried to talk to her and to my parents but it doesn't help. Any advice? Should I just avoid her?

Question: Cousin's girlfriend causing major problems from Every way..need major help please?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:17 AM PDT

My cousin started seeing this girl 2 years ago and they've been together since. She's 16 and he's 18. She has completely turned him against his family..she has brainwashed him into hating his dad and grandparents. His dad bought him a new truck when he was 17 and she said I won't you to have no ties with him and ordered him to give the truck back as soon as he turned 18. He tried to wreck the truck also. she said she wanted to kill him, or frame him so he'd be in prison for something so her and my cousin could live in peace without him. All his dad wants to do is spend time with him..I read some of the messages from his dad to him and they were heartbreaking. No one knows what to do ..we didn't expect this from him..she has convinced him to sell all his belongings and his hobbies. He lived with me for 2 weeks when he turned 18.. And I didn't agree with it but he's my cousin. I've tried to talk to him..it'll piss him off royally if he knew how I felt about her..shes horrible. He use to be the most calm and collective, active kid. It's like when he turned 17 and got with her it was just a complete turn. And it has us all concerned. He doesn't sleep because she texts him all night..and no he's staying at her House! His mom doesn't like her either, because of things such as that. We need to know what to do, this gf of his is ruining his life and he's only falling more in love with her everyday. What do we do .

Question: Nobody loves me?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 09:10 AM PDT

Well firstly when I was 3 my dad left so I've never experienced fatherly love. My oldest sister is kinda disowned from the family so we never talk. My other sister and I haven't talked in about 2 years because she just cut off all communications with everyone. My other sister and I occasionally don't talk for up to 4 months at a time (currently haven't talked for 2 months) my brother cut himself off from the family except for my other brother. My mom and I don't have a good relationship at all but I know she still loves me and my other brother is okay with me. I have a tight group of friends but I feel excluded and like they don't like me very much. My graduation is soon and I'm depressed because I'll have no one to go with me because 0/3 sisters and 1/2 brothers talk to me. And my moms always working. I hate my life so badly help please.

Question: I want to meet my father?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 08:57 AM PDT

I was adopted by two women and I've never really had a father. Recently I've become more and more interested about who my biological father is. I'm really scared though because I know it can go two ways. And what if he resents me. I'm pretty sure he doesn't even know of my existence I'm 19 and what if I have siblings that I missed an opportunity to know during my childhood

Question: My brother will never like me as a sister?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 08:52 AM PDT

My brother sexually objectifies me constantly he used to touch me and kiss me but I told him to stop. Now 6 years later he's still creepy with the whole situation. Luckily we don't live together and we're both adults now. But it's devestating to know I can never have a proper non incestuous relationship with my brother. Every time I'm with him I have to have my guard up or I feel icky even if we're just talking. I don't know what to do honestly I haven't told anyone.

Question: My family just mentally drains me..what can I do?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 08:22 AM PDT

For years my family has just brought drama in my life and just alot of negativity. I hate to cut them off because my sisters have my nieces and nephews and i love their kids but they do alot of evil back stabbing things and I'm atthe point in life i dont need it anymore.how can you cut family off.

Question: My parents found the big hickey on my neck and grounded me all summer and I'm under house arrest how do I get out of this?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 08:21 AM PDT

Okay so I got a huge hickey like 2 days ago I snuck out to see this guy and we were like you know making out so the next morning I woke up with huge hickey on both parts of my neck and I had a soccer tournament that day (I'm 17) my dad was out of town so I drove to my game and came back home without any trouble. The next day my dad came back and was gonna come to my game we drove separate cars because he woke up late and I needed to warm up I put concealer and foundation before I went on my neck so no one would see (I did this yesterday too) after the game apparently my foundation came off and my dad saw it and he was like what's on your neck?! And I lied and said I got hit by a lacrosse ball and he didn't believe me I was so nervous and he could tell and he was like you're lying! Tell the truth and I was like that is the truth!!!! He didn't see the other part of my neck because I had a shirt wrapped around my other part but anyways my dad is grounding me the whole summer and sayings that I can't take the car anywhere anymore when actually I snuck out! I understand what I did was wrong and I feel awful but you know I'm a teen and it was like in the moment thing when we were making out! Idk what to do please help

Question: I cannot stand my sister but I want to be in her child's life. Is this even a possibility?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 08:13 AM PDT

My sister and I used to be best friends. People would be so confused when we told them that actually we re not just best friends we re related. We told each other everything and helped one another. I am currently 21 and she 19. About a year ago my sister and I had a falling out, since then we rarely speak. She recently told my parents she is pregnant which honestly isn t a big shocker to anyone. She was staying with some friend who for whatever reason were letting her and her boyfriend live there rent free. After my sister does what she does best which is try and take control and act reckless they kicked her out. She landed back home once again. My parents encouraged her to get married since she was with child and her boyfriend (who btw has another child with some other girl) was all peachy about getting married. Whoosh off to the courthouse and it was settled. (They have only been dating about four months tops) I have spoken with her more since this happened you know the whole oh we gotta support her blah blah. I can t stand her though her decisions baffle me. She is not employed and has only worked one job which she quit after six months. She has moved out and returned three different times. I could go on for days but I ll wrap it up here. I want more than anything to be a huge part of that babies life. I will be free daycare whenever needed a safe place for that child. Can I be that kind of aunt when I can t tolerate my sister? She also has a dog she ignores

Question: Not really liking my dad?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 08:11 AM PDT

Me and my dad have a reallu good father and daughter relationship but last week we got into a argument because he has a way of speaking his opinion when he doesn't even really know what happened, and I told him what actually happened he just being hard headed and last week i kinda yelled at him for speaking before actually knowing what happened and now he not taking talking to me but that's what happened when you don't keep your mouth shut lol and im not telling him happy Father's day cause we're not talking so its whatever

Question: How to cope with my grandma's Alzheimers?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 08:02 AM PDT

My grandma always thinks I'm my older step-sister. My step-sister was a real b**ch. My parents worked their a$$ off so she can go to private school, go to McGill University and become a doctor. Instead of being thankful, she sued us (50k, btw) and then never talked to us again. My grandma looked after her for a few years before my mom got full custody. So, because my step-sister sued us and my grandma thinks she's me, my grandma would always try to find trouble on me and start a fight. Mind you that I recently started to have anxiety. Everyday she would look for a fight and I would have anxiety/panic attacks. She would always say ''I looked after you for so many years when you were younger, how could you treat me like this, etc.'' She thinks I owe her something because she thinks she looked after me... but she didn't. I would tell her that I'm not my step-sister and she would say that I'm lying. What am I suppose to do in this situation? Let her think I'm HER? Keep telling her I'm not my step-sister? This really hurts me too. I don't want my grandma to think I'm HER. I don't want her to think that I did all those bad things. I'm 16 and my mom knows what's going on but doesn't do much about it.

Question: This is the 1st Fathers Day without my Dad. How might I pay tribute to him? He died last September?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 07:58 AM PDT

Besides visiting the cemetery which I already did

Question: Today is Fathers Day and my Dad is out of the picture. I feel lonely and rejected on this day every year and my mother rubs it in, need help?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 07:58 AM PDT

What do I do? My mother is hosting her family over and a big deal is made of "well since his father abandoned him this is a hard day for him". My mother loves to repeat that "his father abandoned him" regarding me. I asked her not to the last couple of years but she says she is angry because she loves me. All my cousins have Dads but me. Even the one group of cousins whose parents are divorced, guess where they are today, with their Dad. Everyone but me. I feel ashamed because something must be inherently wrong with me. I feel very embarrassed, and I feel rejected and sad. How can I get through the day and the coming week as the sadness lingers a few days. This evening is when I am seeing all my cousins that have dads and the one group not there is the ones with their Dad for the weekend. People say to resolve to be a good Dad but I am 13 and being a Dad is the last thing on my mind. I just feel like a failure and even angry at my mother feeling she may have contributed by leaving my Dad due to his drinking. Not that I am mad at my Mom or mean to her, I just even feel that feeling come through on days like today or xmas.

Question: My mother sister aged 21 always sending me pictures of?

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 07:52 AM PDT

HER SON who is 1 years old. I am tired of seeing her SON pics 24/7 on coming through on my WHATAPP. I understand she loves her son and is over the moon about it. Her SON does not look like "our" family...He is very differene. I've have changed my number many times and she somehow comes and ask me for my new number when she comes to my house. I can't tell her directly that do not send me more pictures. When my son who is 1 years old does poses and she makes her son do the same pose. I buy expensive clothes for my son and she just want to take them clothes without asking me so her son wears it. I am thinking of leaving the city and move somewhere far.

Question: How to convince your parents to let you go vegan??

Posted: 19 Jun 2016 07:44 AM PDT

Ok, I really really want to become vegan! Mostly for the animals rights and how farms effect the environment. My mom is obviously against it, I brought up how I love vegetables and arnt so keen on meat. She started talking about how stupid vegan/vegetarianism is!😢 I have an older step sister who is vegan and we have been talking via whatsapp about the situation. I have even come up with the idea of being vegetarian (my mom would never let me go vegan) for a week. Do you think that's too much of a hassle? I completely understand about how vegetables also effect the environment. And please stop with my parents having to get special things! When your vegetarian you just cut out meat (even though the question is about going vegan) I simply cut out meat. I can easily prepare my own meals!