I want to forgive her if she's finally reached adulthood at 26 but I need to know how to forgive her. How do you forgive someone? Right now I've just labeled her bed so that's what I see, her as bad

She left him when I was eight and I'm 22 now. I have resumed contact with him but my mother says he does not love me or anybody. This hurts me a lot that she says this. I can't tell if she's serious or just mad that I talk to him again. She hates him and everybody affiliated with him. When I was growing up she told me that his family did not want to relationship with us. This hurt even more than him drinking over us. I'd say my mom's words have hurt me far more than my dad's drinking or his family's perceived rejection of us.

im a 16 year old girl, and my asian mom breastfeeds me every day. she carries me onto her lap and she breastfeeds me for almost 30 minutes. she bathes me at night and scrubs me down. then she makes me sleep with her. she puts pajamas with feet on me, and makes me suck on her breasts when we sleep. she also sings me lullabies.

My dad is a severe nasty alcoholic with incredible arrogance. I feel it makes me less of a person since people did not wanna be around me growing up because of him. I'm an adult now and only see him once or twice a year but still feel people don't wanna be around me and then I'm worthless. I'm in Al-Anon and it helps a little bit but not a lot same with therapy.

Right now my whole life revolves around being liked by extended family. Nothing else matters but that. When someone does not reciprocate or overlooks inviting me then I am devastated to the point of suicide. My survival depends on extended family liking me. How do I de-sensitize from this?

Scenario - Becky and Frank were divorced on December 29th. Because of their financial positions, Becky moved out just before the divorce was finalized even though they both worked. They have 2 children and have not remarried. The divorce was mutually respectful with both parents in communication after the divorce for the children's benefit and counseling. They are sitting at your desk for tax preparation... what filing status would you recommend?

A little info before we begin. We are both 22 and had a baby boy almost 6 months ago. I'm now a stay at home mom and he works constantly, always saying he feels like he doesn't spend enough time with our son. Hes a manager at a telemarketing office in alabama where we live. They work with another office in the Phillipines over the internet using Skype and such. Okay so, today he called me and told me they want him to go to the Phillipines to get another office started up there. I got upset because that's a long time. He said me and the baby could come with him, which I refused because that's a long way to travel and hes not old enough to have had all his vaccines yet. Then he said we could leave my 5 month old behind for a family member to watch and I could go with him. Again I refused. I'm not leaving my baby for that long. Then he says hell just go by himself. I told him he wasn't going to miss milestones and a month is a long time with a baby and he basically said he didn't want to hear that. Finally I snapped and ask him what the going rate was and what they were going to give him for leaving his infant son and missing a month of his life. He got angry and said he was looking for support and got off the phone with me. The thing is, they won't fire him if he says no. He can say no. He doesn't want to because hell probably be paid well. But I think being around his son is more important. I just don't know what to do.

I was adopted and recently connected with my bio family. I have a little brother (17y.o) and almost immediately it became clear that he was the only one from the whole family, who has an issue with my sexuality (I'm gay). He is the epitome of a homophobe. At first it made me unable to stand him but after getting to know him a little bit, I tried to reach out. We all got together for lunch last weekend and, as usual, he refused to sit near me, let me hug him or touch him at all. Whenever I go near him he's physical jumps and retreat as if he is genuinely afraid of me. Everyone has been shocked about it and say he's never acted like that b4 and that it was all new. Anyways, at this lunch I called him aside to talk and the more I confronted him, he was near tears saying things that have led me to believe he'd been attacked or assaulted in some way. When I asked him flat he neither confirmed or denied it, but in a way that kinda confirmed it for me. He's since asked me not to repeat any of what we talked about to his family and to just forget it but I could tell whatever happened is still affecting him. I dont want to overstep thought, especially as a newcomer to the family. I also dont want to go into details of what he said but I'm pretty much sure he was molested or raped or something happened that has him lashing out the way he is. I know some ppl might be like "oh ur assuming" but I'm literally sure. And the fact that he's also a minor has me conflicted.

My 14y/o only recently started panicking whenever anyone tries to wake him up. For a few seconds he gets in full panic mode and thrashes around, throws punches, fights us and/or sometimes yells for us to go away or him alone and not to touch him. My brothers says its normall but I've never seen anyone else react as violently as he does. I know ppl are different but is this even in the realm of normal?

I'm 24 and I'm the youngest of 4. I have 3 older sisters who all love to be in my business constantly. My biggest pet peeve with them is how they constantly interrogate my girlfriend of 4 months. With any of them, it goes from light-hearted conversations to, "what are your intentions with my brother?" " If you hurt him, I swear to God…" type territory. I've tried telling them to back off, chill out, calm down, but its only met with, " We're looking out for you. We're protecting you." and gets flipped into, " you should be thankful". I guess I get their point that it's nice having ppl watch your back, but, having to beg a 27, 29(married), and 32 year old to butt out is tiring.

I'm so obsessed that it is something personal and I'm disliked. I'm afraid I made a social blunder by reaching out each time their in town. I also feel disappointed. How do I distract myself and enjoy my upcoming weekend and not be obsessed on this?

Please help. With any advice you have. My mom lives with her boyfriend and there kids now. He doesn't want me there. I have to find a place to live ASAP. I have no other family to go to it's just always been my mom and I. I am going to trade school full time so with my hours it's been hard to find a job. I know I will find one eventually but it's hard in this small town but I need to find a place ASAP. I have no money. Which benefits can I apply too?! Is there anything I can do. If I get an apartment I can file for child support against my biological father I already went to court for it. I just have to get a place to live and then refile. Any advice you have would help. And no please don't say talk to my mom and her boyfriend. The situation is not healthy as it is. Please save your negative comments this has been very hard for me as my mom promised I could stay with her and focus on school. I really don't want to dropout because I am trying to make a better life for myself.

Now serious, why does this happen to me? Many of my friends are in colllege full of dreams and motivations but not me

I'm in a mentally and physical abusive relationship he has cheated on me before and thinks I'm doing the same when I'm clearly not he's obessesive has anger problems we have a 4 month old baby. His mother knows and doesn't thinks it's normal literally. I want to leave him don't want to be with him I want to leave out of state but he has told me that if I leave he will do something to my family since he has fought his own dad and badly beat him what can I do to legally be able to take my son with me and for him to be out of his life he has literally chocked me with my son him my arms idk what to do if something were to happen to me I would want my mother as his guardian too how can do that I would not want his mother to have custody of my son if something were to happen

She downright judges folks for being, in her eyes, anything different than her. Different religion, different music, different lifestyle, etc. She's also a bit of a shut in and hardly ever goes out and experiences the world around her. My fiancé notices this and tries very hard to not be like that. But, despite his best efforts, his mom does come out in him occasionally. Even with me. When I talk about the phases I went through as a teenager, or if I admit like a certain type of music he "hates", instead of just being open minded about it he gets a bit judgmental. Either making fun or reiterating "why" he hates what I like. I'm not afraid to call him out though and he realizes that this is his mom coming out in him and that he, himself, is not judgmental of others. He was just raised by someone who was. I am trying to break him of it. Some of the very things he has been raised to dislike, judge, or hate are things that I actually like or am into. I know I cannot change his mom. I don't plan to. I just don't want her influence on him anymore. We are both adults living apart from our parents. I was raised to be very open minded. He was not so much. I can tell he wants to be more open and he is a lot better than his mom about stuff. But how can I continue to lighten him up a bit? How can I keep her negative influence out of his mind when he has looked up to her for his entire life? I know that he is better than that. He knows he's better than that. He has also come to me himself and told me he doesn't like the way his mom negatively views the world. He hates when her "judgy-ness" comes out in him. He downright despises the negativity that runs rampant in his parent's household. I told him he no longer lives there and doesn't have to be influenced by it anymore. He's is own person now, completely. He desires to be better than that and I am trying to help him...

My sister was dumped my her husband of 10 years for a woman much younger than she was. The house sold and she had to move but her apartment would not be ready for 2 weeks so she is temporally staying with my husband and me. As expected she is depressed and has a very low self esteem. Trying to help her I asked my husband to tell her she is still beautiful and appealing to men. He did not want to do it but I insisted and that was what he told her. BIG MISTAKE. She thought he was flirting with her and she has been flirting with him ever since. He has been trying to avoid her but it is hard when she is living here. He wants me to tell her to back off. His is not interested in her in any way. I think he should tell her so I will remain good friends with her. Please give me your opinion. Who should tell her? My husband says the faster she leaves our house the better.

Ok so I was listening to music and my nose looked pointy from sideways and my grandma came to my mind and I heard my grandma say my sisters name like she doesn't think that I deserve to have a pointy nose or should have a pointy nose and that my sister should have a pointy nose and I feel like my grandma did this because of the way I look she thinks that I don't deserve to have a pointy nose and because of the way my nose looks and I feel like my nose has turned short and gotten short because my grandma thinks that my sister deserves to have a pointy nose and not me because of the way I look and because of the way my nose looks and I was sitting down and my nose looked pointy from sideways and I was enjoying the view and when I thought of view my grandma said my moms name and I thought of my nose view from sideways and while listening to music I thought of my nose from sideways and I thought of my nose from sideways again and my grandma said my sisters name and I thought of an old time music and I thought of my nose from sideways and my grandma said my moms name and I thought of the old time music again and I thought of my nose from sideways again and my grandma said my moms name. I feel like my grandma thinks and thought that my grandma thinks and thought that I don't deserve to have a pointy nose from sideways because of the way I look and because of the way my nose looks. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

I just did the ancestry DNA and another man is my father. I've always believed it was my mom's husband but it's not. I did know that they were separated for a time until she got pregnant with me but I did not know anything else or if there was an affair though obviously there was. They are still married now and seem pretty happy with each other as my dad got help for his drinking which was the issue when I was born. I am now 32 and a guy. I'm wondering if I should just let this go and not tell my mom that I know. At the same time I'm curious to know my genetics and even meet my bio-father and siblings. The guys name was not displayed on there but his sons name was. I looked at the sons Facebook page and he looks exactly like me as a teen it's almost creepy.

My mom said thatt she was my siter than whos ma dad pleese help Tom Dunkins

My brother crashed his bike and was knocked out for a split second and someone who saw it told medics that his was unconscious so they automatically insisted he goes to a hospital, even though he's 18 and said he didnt want to go and that he was fine. They asked him questions to see if he was alert and he answered all of them fine. But the still insisted on strapping him in and placing and IV. When he started to get agitated and take the IV out they gave him a sedative, despite he and I both saying he didnt need it. We told them we would just take him to the hospital and that none of that was neccessary but they just kept saying they should take him bc something to do with his eyes. We they allowed to do that bc he's an adult now and refused treatment. Btw, he got to the hospital and was monitored for a minor concussion but he was fine. So, as we said, none of that was neccessary.

When I say break I mean very long break, like a year. I just can't do it anymore right now I'm never a quitter and I'm strong but I can't fight anymore I love my son and want the best for him. I don't want to go crazy because I'm at my breaking point. Not only in motherhood but in other areas of life a lot of financial issues. Depression for 3 years. I don't eat sometimes for days, I dont watch TV, I dont go outside for the past year unless I have to. Havent went shopping or any activities in 2 years. I just want a normal life back. I cant find a decent job that works around my schedule because I dont have a car. Ive been homeless in shelter for past 2 years. I have no supportive family. His father is gone. I want to finish school or at least work and save money become stable and then get him back. Right now I'm not saying he is the problem but it is very hard to find a job because he has to be hours that match his school hours. Cant go to school. Its just too much for me. He is 3 ever since I had him I havent gotten a break since day 1 from infant time when I was up all night on my own with him to now as a tempermetal toddler. And he is noticing my struggle he hate when I cry he gets frustrated

A teacher said some kids who have immigrant parents but who were born here are starting to talk like their parents and this is worrisome because people discriminate against people who have accents!

He has Ben hardcore drug addict going on 20 years. He is 37. I doubt I can name a drug he hasn't used. He has spent nearly 10 years in and out of rehab. He can't hold the most menial job for even a week. Out of pit and because he isn't wife's nephew, I gave him acjob at the janitorial services company I own. All he had to do was be adust mopped. You go around the mall with a dust mop from 4-8pm. Then you pull about 10 trash bags and you are out by 8:30. I have a pair that use a low power pressure washer in the restrooms of several accounts. There is still time person who works 8am to 4pm. I knew he couldn't do that many hours or get up at 7am to be in on time. He was living with his sister's ex husband at the time. He told me he never got out of bed before 2pm the month or so he was there. He'd rumage for deposit bottles from 4 to 6, then shoplift some candy from the dollar store. He has done that for years. Sometimes he bags. H is no longer in touch with reality. Most of his friends have ODed. It seems he will never stop us for 4 months. The only day he bathes or puts on clean clothes is his monthly Suboxone See visit. I think he can't stop. It pains me to turn him away. He is one of the few I think. are so hopeless, he's better off dead.

he switched to coffee after i said i dont like energy drinks and they're bad for you, he started working out after I said I go to the gym he started working out because i said his friend looked round, he fidgets when talking to me sometimes, takes deep breath, also one day he said "i need to lower my walls, and that no one can say anything to me... not even my man and smiled looking down. He then said i have walls and need to lower them. I said yes I don't let anyone in because no one is on my level. he said yes no one's on his level either. I said so how do you recommend to lower my walls he said "idk i have walls too" is this strange or not? Would he still do these things and just appreciates woman's point of view?

Ok so I'm in the car with my mom to go pick up pizza or something and she says she doesnt like my significant other because she looks dirty. So like what the heck man. Is there a nice way to say that was totally bogus?

My dad uses my fear against me. I have undiagnosed anxiety. I just don t understand. If I say or do one thing wrong he says "sleep in your room tonight". Useally I sleep in the living room on the couch, because being in a different environment helps me from being anxious and not alone since my dad be up watching tv a lot at night. it takes so much courage to express my fears only for you to use them against me. I don t understand. Do you need to see the pain on my face to know that I m hurting inside? I need help but my parents take it like a joke. How would they feel if I m not there one day and I told them about my struggle but they never offered help. My dad often calls me "scary" I can t help that this trait is apart from who I am.

We share rooms which I hate because she's really weird. Before bed she talks to her stuffed animal. She's 24! It's really weird.

Being around my toxic family makes me feel bad about myself. When I'm not around them I feel better. The only problem is I kinda need them. I can't do anything by myself. Like stand up for myself, go places by myself, and pay for my stuff.

My life has been hell. Let's start off from childhood. My mom gave birth to me when she was 18 years old. Let me also put in the fact that she got molested at age 10, which makes her still in a child mental state. She refuses to get help. I live with her and my grandma. I'm an only child and I don't have my own room. I'm in a two bedroom apartment and my mom makes 2,000 a month. My grandma pays all the bills and for my moms car. The only thing my mom pays is my phone bill but she's always broke because she gives men money as long as they show her attention. Now to my uncle. From ages 9-15 I hid my stuff from him. He took my clothes, jewelry, makeup. Hes gay. He was a crack addict. My grandma was scared of him. She told me to just continue to hide my stuff and deal with it. He took her things too which was the only thing she got mad or cared about. My mother and I was still living with my grandma. My grandma eventually put him in jail when I turned 16. I'm 17 now. Home... I was boiling water from age 5-15 and washing off in a bucket with a torn up bathroom and kitchen was full of rust and roaches. It was a three bedroom house but looked like a crack house. We moved when I turned 16. - Rest below.

My nephews a player so he's notorious for always having a different girl. He brought a married woman as his date to my barbecue

My mom is always giving me bad looks whenever I look at her and she calls me dumb. Last month, she bought me a laptop for school and she keeps taking it away. I do all of my school work on it. I got a F on one of my homework assignments last week and I told her that I needed the laptop and she laughed and said she didn't give a ****. Sometimes she doesn't want to take me to school and my school is so far away that I don't really know how to get there on my own. I don't know what to do, she's hurting my chances in becoming valedictorian. It seems like she doesn't want me to succeed. How do I tell her that school is really important to me and that I need to be there? I can't really talk to her because she's always telling me to shut up so I have to text it to her and hope she reads it before my next assignment is due.

I was molested my best friends dad went up my shirt and into my bra. He had his own side to the store though which was BS then that convinced me to tell my prents. We won't to police and I had to go in and bla bla bla. But now my priv investigator says that they won't have enough evidence to arrest. That man messed with me soo bad. He destroyed me. And he's gonna go free. The law is sooo messed up and i am just soo messed up rn. BTW he is 53 and I am 14

I have a 14 year old daughter. Her dad is behind thousands in Child Support. He has never done anything for her. No gifts for any Christmas she has ever had or even a birthday present. Out the blue he contacted me wanting her to be a part of his family reunion. I asked her she declined to go saying she do not know him. Which is true. The last time he saw her she was three months old. I gave him my house number to call and talk to her personally to get to know her and he made not one phone call. Now he is mad cause all his kids were together at his family reunion except for the child he got with me. I took care of my child myself with the help of my parents since the day I gave birth to her. HE was no where to be found and running from paying child support. Why couldn't he have wanted her to be in his life when she was small she almost grown now...serious answers please. I am not keeping my daughter from her father I gave him the house number to call her and he failed to do so..

I am still student and I am not ready for marriage yet I feel sad when my friend got married. I was going through bad time and I feel like failure. My friend is older than me btw

White as in Germanic.