But I can't decide between living in CA, where one parent is, or NY, where the other parent is. I have a great relationship with both and would ideally be near both so my kids actually know them, and not just know of them. Right now, I'm renting in NY, near one parent while I transition into buying a house and begin the adoption process. But I just love CA way more than NY, so I asked them to consider moving to CA with me once I buy a house. But they just don't want to. So now I'm in the very difficult position of choosing between living only near one of them- staying in NY even though it's not my ideal location, or moving away to CA where I love the area and have the most extended family even though my single parent would be far away and therefore wouldn't be in my kids life as much. BTW I am an only child, so the parent in CA misses me a lot right now. And either parent is going to have a hard time once I decide. I had the same problem when in college. Then, I decided to live far from both. But this time I don't want to live far from both of them since I really do want to have them around once I adopt. I would like to just decide on CA, but the parent in NY is someone I am extremely close to; I'm afraid of regretting the move and missing out on having them around. (This parent is basically a best friend of mine) So I know you can't fix my problem, but any suggestions? Did you go through the same/ similar dilemma? What happened-what did you decide?

I want to stay up all night but I m grounded and cant have any coffee or food and I cant have my light on but I can play my ds or laptop when my parents go to bed around 11 what do I do!!!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!

the store is less than 5 minutes from my house. i just want to go get a mt dew.

Okay so I just met my boyfriends brother , I was just talking to my friend , and saying how they don't look anything alike . She's like how old is his brother I'm like he's older ,his brother is older , he has two brothers and one sister . I'm not to sure how old his brother is I honestly didn't ask . I did tell her his brother name although . ☆ Sent from iOS Dr. Know! 1.1.04

My mom sneaks in my purse when i'm not around. She either tries to do it while i'm sleep or when im in the bathroom. And i know she does it because one of my 20's is missing and she's the only one that lives with me. Its my money that i work for. And she keeps taking it without my permission. She claims that she does not still for me. But i don't trust anyone.

I am truly worried about a 12 year old girl who seems so starved for attention. She trusts anyone, even strangers. There's signs of premature sexual behaviour and appears "broken". Making small talk with her is enough to lure her someplace else. I stopped her from going off with a stranger who "seemed nice". This child shows most signs of emotional neglect at home. She is much more naive than most kids her age.

I have 15 cousins, 6 male ones and 9 female ones. I'm more close to my maternal uncle's kids since they live in the same town as me. My cousins from my dad's side of the family live in different parts of the state and in New York so I don't see them as often as I see my cousins from my mom's side.

This is the first time I am ever telling anyone this. I've reached my limit being 'strong'. I can't take it anymore. I'm not American, so please hear me out before you suggest help that can only be found in first world countries. My dad lost his job due to some foul play and unofficial reappointments last year in October. The guy that ruined my dad's life has appointed all of his relatives and in just 3 months 3 million was used up. My dad is 50 and it is hard finding a new job. He borrowed so much that he's drowning in debt. He used a hire car which he can't pay up for. He found another job in January but they don't pay him much. My mum had to pay all four of us kids, our fees for this year. And she's also suffering. I starve most days in school and the only time I eat is during dinner. I cry almost every night because I feel realy sorry for my parents. My dad pretends and smiles and acts happy but he's only doing that because this is my final year in school and he doesn't want me worrying about him when I'm in school. My mum on the other hand will complain everyday about why she has to keep working and paying fees when she's already old. The daughter of the guy who removed my dad from work is in my class and I love her like a little sister, very much. She's a really good friend of mine and she's really kind. She shares with me when she sees I'm not eating during lunch and we always joke together. I feel really sorry for my parents but I don't know how I could help them.

She is very bad person , she is doing every bad and stupid things and courage my sister to do like her I know that cause once my sister lifted her account. Open and I knew everything about her and I knew that this girl the one who is back stage She is controlling her mind and telling her that she don't care or anything She gave her her account password to read all her massage My sister is really kind heart and don't predict bad from people around But now she is engaged and still with that girl and I am pretty sure that she won't have a good life until that girl getting out What I can do in that situation ?

I started working 6 months ago and I really wanted to help my family, but my dad is really bad with money and keeps asking for more and more. Last time he asked me for $600 to pay "bills" until I found out he got a paint job on his bike. Now he is unemployed and needs 300 to pay for his mortgage( even though I gave him $100 two days ago. I didn't care before but I think he's abusing, even my uncle says so. I just turned 18 and I'm making $2400 a month, but can't save. And I think it's his fault, because I only spend money on food($50 week) and rent($50 week). I only have 2k in savings, even though I don't have any responsibilities, and only spend 100-200 a week on myself. I want to go to college and buy a car but he doesn't seem to care.

I stay home with her alone while our parents are out. She talks back at me, tells half-truths, and throws fits. Her excuse is that her mom won't let her go on social media. It's not my fault that she thinks she's not mature enough to handle it. Based on how my stepsister acts, it's no wonder why. I can think of at least 3 things that could've lead to a disaster if my stepmom just handed her a smartphone without parental controls, when and how it's used, and boundaries. I know that 12 is such a hard age and puberty is hitting her. How do I deal with her behaviour when I'm in charge of her?

Whenever we have girls' days at the mall or manicures he is always with her. He also plays with my 8 and 7 year old kids when he comes over and even argues with them like he is their age. Do you think he is a little slow? He will be 18 in May and wil be graduating HS. He acts very childlike and isn't interested in girls or teen things and goes where his mom goes.

I'm 20 years old and I was adopted at birth. My birth mother has had a very hard life and has never had any money. She has been through stuff that nobody should ever have to deal with. I just got connected with her via Facebook after all these years. I haven't met her in person but we connect very well. Long story short, her purse was stolen and she filed a report to the police. Her rent is due for her apartment but she could not pay due to the circumstances. The apartment said she would have to leave. She had to give up her dog that helps her with her PTSD since she has no where to live. The rent was about 700 dollars and I offered to pay her rent this one time. She is not in my state so I payed the fee over the phone. The transaction went smoothly. I told my fiancé I helped her pay and he said that she's trying to manipulate me for money (he knows nothing about her nor has met her). He's like "we're trying to save money for our future and I worry about you that you will get manipulated into giving her money". My birthmom was not at all manipulating me, she just told me what happened and I offered to pay, as I have a good paying job and she has almost nothing. I felt like I did the right thing by helping her out...But my fiance is telling me it wasn't a smart move.. I don't know which to believe. Did I do what was right? Or was I being stupid?

My little brother is 18 and I'm 22. I've been paying the bills and taking care of the house since I was 16 because my parents are divorced and basically abandoned us, including my older brother (lives with grandma is 23 and only contacts me for money and favors). I work over 50 hours a week to make ends meet and while doing it I take care of the house and his needs. I've tried to get him to pitch in and help out around the house but it doesn't work at all. Every time he says I'll do it later and never does always making an excuse. I cook, clean, do his laundry (including folding), and even clean his room. He literally doesn't mind living in his own filth, and if I decide not to do something like clean his room or do his laundry (even for a week) he complains to our family (aunts,grandparents) and basically condems me to getting yelled at and insulted. I've run out of patience and am completely exhausted. What should I do?

I live with my parents and attend comunity college. Im fully dependent on my parents. I work for my moms company directly under my dad (who is my boss). At first I thought working for them would be a good way to make money since they pay higher than a normal job (15 an hour.) Problem is that they use this to control me into making me do what they want. I want to move out so i start to save up and what does my dad do? Cutt my hours so i dont make quite enough so i cant move out. Working for them sucks and being at there house sucks and I just want out. How do I get a "real" job and how do i get out?

I hate it. Not that I always mind - I don't. The situation that's driving me crazy is that my sister, who is 30 and married, doesn't have her license and asks me too many favors. She's asked me to drive her to hair appointments before I have a meeting for work and makes me late! Then she has the nerves to tell me to "calm down, I've been late before." How angry would you feel? Then she cries to our mother that I was angry at her! I just feel like she is taking advantage of me. To top off making me late for work? When her husband is away for a meeting, she wants me to fix my schedue (I only work part-time) so I can her drop her off and pick her up. I normally loer her, but lately I've been wishing I had another sister, honestly.

I'm 15 and I have a bird who I have been taking great care of! I buy all of my birds food, toys, care supplies, and everything else! I told my mom this and she said "except that one time bla bla" and it was because I couldn't go to town but my bird needed food so I gave her 10$ to pick up some food. SHE PAID FOR IT HERSELF. Like don't say "I've payed for him a few" when she had MY money to use but instead uses her money. My dad said he's gonna release my bird. Over my dead body. 3 more years and I'm OUT of here. But I just want a hamster but they're like "you already have a bird blah blah blah'' yeah and I've been taking good care of him for more then a year so why can't I have a hamster? The only reason is... I have a bird. That... Whatever... And everybody treats me bad and it's annoying! I just wanna leave I feel miserable and I don't know how to deal with it....

My mom moved to florida when I was about 14 because of her depression. the florida weather helped with it. I stayed with my uncle. Anyways, we used to talk on the phone all the time and we were happy. We'd laugh and tell eachother everything. Then she started to change. It started with her telling me things like "I'm sorry for how I raised you, I was a bad mother." Which I would respond with "you were the best mother I could hope for." Then over the year things got worse. She would tell me she was sorry for how I turned out and that it was her fault that I am the way that I am. She would straight up tell me she was dissapointed in me and sorry I was born. It broke my heart. Since then I stopped calling her. Then she started wondering why I never called anymore, which at first I told her. "It's because you make me feel bad about myself." which she would then start to cry and go back to apologizing for being a bad mother and make herself be a victim. Now I hide how I feel when I talk to her, I hide what I'm thinking and I just listen when she calls. All she calls and talks about is god and the bible now. I't just bores me so all I do is listen. I don't look forward to talking to her and that makes me unhappy. Can someone tell me how I should go about this. How should I tell her there's a problem, or what can I do!?

I didn't even go to the funeral as I had only met the guy a few times and the aunt was estranged from him in his later years over issues in the past. I'd met him at her parents' funerals, a Thanksgiving back when they had a relationship, and likely as a kid at the aunt-uncle's wedding. I also met him at a football game once with my Dad where he pointed the guy out and walked over to say hi. That was when I was eleven. Since their parents died 14 and 12 years ago they had been estranged.

Hi, I am 19 and currently living with my parents. I commute to a local college for school. I feel like they are completely controlling my life. For example, I have a part-time job which I really enjoy. My brother and sister have both worked here and both of them hate it. My parents question me about it everyday, asking why I enjoy working there. I enjoy that I am being productive and able to earn my own money. They told me I am only allowed to work 1 day a week and then complain that I am scheduled to work that one day. I know my boss wants me to work more and I want to work more as I have the free time but my parents literally tell me no and won't give me an explanation. I used to ask them everyday if I could work more, but just gave up. I realize I still live with my parents and they want what is best for me. I don't ask for much and don't do anything bad but they just tell me I already have to much money and don't need to work. My friends parents always tell them to pick up more shifts, while I am stuck 1 day a week. They also keep track of my bank account and track every purchase that I make and question me about it. I feel like I am trapped living with them but am unsure how to get out. They pay for school and own my car but I just want to feel like a young adult. Is there anyway I can gain more independence? I have tried talking to them but they don't listen. If I were to try moving out how much should I have saved before I do(I would need a car and an apartment)?

I tried to be skeptical when it comes to this kind of this thinking towards her. My grandmother has been in the medical field for 32 years, she's retired, she use to work at the hospital.I understand that point of view, but I'm not a believer in heredity, or genetics, because I know anything can happen. My mother and I tried to tell her that my child will not be born with heart disease, she believes he or she will be born like that just because I have heart disease. And she thinks that he or she will have it worse than I do. I am a strong believer in God and Jesus, I do not believe in worldly things. I believe that God's way is the only way. Just because someone in the family has a medical issue, does not officially mean that the next person in the family will be born or have that problem. For example my dad had some kind of cancer, he is deceased because of that cancer. He had more than one child, none of them have cancer, that includes my mother, none of them have cancer. We have no history have heart disease, and no family history of cancer. How do I convince my grandmother, that she cannot just believe in things just because she's sees it? I want her to think skeptically when it comes to these things. I know sometimes yes if a person is born with a medical problem, they are more likely to have a child born with similar problem, that can possibly happen, but that's not always true. Why does she thinks way? How can I get her to stop thinking so negatively?