My husband is deploying in a couple months and I was wondering if anyone could give me some ideas of things that we can do before he leaves? Thanks :)

Long story short, I dated a lot of girls but most of them were no good. Most cheated or lost interest in me within 6 months. However I found a woman who seemed genuine, and we were together a total of 3 1/2 years. Things were always up and down with us, but I know she loved me. I loved her at one point, but it waned, and in between our constant arguing at the end, I began to seek comfort in a female coworker I had been attracted to for quite some time. Looking back, it was a bad idea..But In that time, I fell in love with my work mate, so I broke up with my fiancee. My fiancee at the time didn't know anyone else was involved, so the split was somewhat amicable even though she begged me not to leave. Fast forward 5 years, and the new relationship with my coworker only lasted a year and a half. I let my coworker go on suspicion she was cheating, and it was confirmed when she married the other man 4 months later. My ex fiancee however, has changed significantly. She got married and had a child (and looks GREAT!), she's finishing her degree and has been with her Husband since a few months after we split. So about 5 years or so. I've been single since, but can't stop thinknig about my ex fiancee, thinking about all of lifes possbilities I threw away when i let her go. I dont want to reach out to her because I hurt her enough and dont want to start trouble in her relationship. I just need help getting over this.

I have only been married for a little over a year and I love my husband more than anything. However, I have depression and his family whom I do not like at all make it worse. His mom makes low-key rude comments that make me very upset and when she talks to him in text, she only invites him which may seem minor to some people but she almost never mentions me or even says "you guys." She will tell my husband something and then just stare at me accusingly and judging. It makes me feel so left out and it doesn't help that I am hugely different from his family and we could literally visit and have nothing to talk about as hard as I try. She even said that I get points for bringing my husband over to visit because she complains that he needs to visit more. When she takes pictures with my husband she tries to leave me out of most of them or take them when I am not around. She will only take them with me just because I am next to him. How do other women deal with this kind of stuff? Because it almost never seems worth it to visit if they make me feel more alone and left out.

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I'm 15 year old black male. I dont know who my father is nor have i ever met him. my mom makes minimum wage and we live in a one bedroom apartment. I also suffer from a severe learning disability so I too am doomed to a life of poverty. anyone else find this hilarious? i guess you guys dont understand the sarcasm in my post. the black nuclear family has suffered a meltdown and the government refuses to do anything about it.

Do they not know they will end up with beta incel cuck sons? I know ultra feminine women are hot but they are not good for producing genetically superior offspring. They may produce pretty daughters but attractive women are not vital to the success of this planet or the proliferation of the human species. Only robust alpha males are needed for societies to thrive. Just look at muslims and their sick culture....all the men there are clearly shrimpy beta males with excess estrogen. No wonder they are so messed up and commit so many acts of terror when their excess estrogen makes them act irrationally. Real leaders are robust alpha males with deep voices, lots of testosterone, and a very dominant personality. Pretty women are great for sex but they should be forced to work as prostitutes only and leave alpha males alone. Pretty petite women will just dilute the alpha genes of an alpha male. Alpha males need robust masculine women to create genetically superior sons.

Hello, I live with my husband in the US. But I'm already since 6 months in Germany for operations. He sends me each month 1500 for operations, expenses and teeth work. I have to stay for another 6 months. I now found out that he rents the bedroom of our 1 bed-apartment to a very beautiful model/actress 24 year old girl from Azerbaijan. He is 53 and sleeps in the living room. She is extremely beautiful, i saw her on Facebook. She pays him 1000/month. Im totally devastated but he says: "i want to rent the room bec you are gone for a long time and you need money every month. For me it's not important if it's a man or a woman. As I said I don't look the way you look at the situation." He says he wears his ring and it's all a matter of trust. I would have never married him if I knew this type of thing is ok for him. Our marriage was not easy, we married 4 years ago. I don't have trust in him as he went weekly from wonderful to bad. He was diagnosed as bipolar and I wanted him to come here when I'm done. We had a 3 year plan to get him help in Germany. He already wants to break that now and thinks he is not ill and we just don't fit. But at the same time he says he wants to be with me forever and loves me extremely. But I only want opinions about him renting to that girl please, as he behaves as if it's normal.

I'm a libertarian and I don't usually think the government has a right to ban harmful substances but in this case they should ban sugar and junk food because it is ruining women. Modern american women are feminist witches who are fat, don't shave, dress frumpy, and act like men. They are extremely unattractive. I don't care if they want to be fat and hideous but the problem is that they have created a "fat acceptance" movement and they are trying to brainwash society into thinking they are beautiful and normal when they aren't!! Now hideous fat feminists accuse men of being "fattist" for not being attracted to them or they accuse us of being brainwashed by the "patriarchy". Some of them even go as far as calling us pedophiles for liking thin women because fat feminists think being fat means being a "real woman". They think lumps of fat are "curves". Clearly all that sugar and junk food they've been eating has done more than just cause obesity... it is also rotting their brains. There is a correlation between sugar, diabetes, and alzheimer's disease. In fact, some doctors speculate that dementia and alzheimer's may be type 3 diabetes. Sugar has been proven time and time again to be POISON. Sugar is also more addictive than cocaine! Why is it that drugs are illegal but sugar and other junk food is not???? The obesity epidemic and the FEMINISM epidemic could be stopped almost overnight if sugar and junk food were banned.

I understand he works several hours. I'm at home with our 4 dogs and sometimes his son is over for the weekend or something. I only ask him to do small things like take the trash out on his way to work, pick his trash up when he's done with something, or put his dirty clothes in one spot so I can find everything when it's time to wash. He just tells me that I'm home all day and should be able to do everything. I eventually feel bad and drop it when we discuss it. Then it comes to something like yardwork or needing something repaired. We have a broken light switch in our bedroom(I use a flashlight to see), our dishwasher is broken, and our clothes washer is broken(I have to make a trip to the laundromat several times a week). Also out of our 4 dogs, one of them we got because he want "his own dog", since the other 3 spent more time with me and respond to me better. I asked him if he would help me take care of the new puppy several times before we got one and he said yes. Well he spends about 5 to 10 minutes with her every afternoon and that's it. Am I wrong for being upset? I feel bad for being upset, but he acts like he just uses our house as a place to eat, sleep, and watch TV.

When I told her that was for Christmas, she accused me of making a big deal and she scoffed when I pointed out the package was addressed to me. No acknowledgement from her. What to do?

My wife is not from the US and we dated for about 18 months. We talked all day everyday, at least 12 hours per day on viber chat. I'd also call her everyday. I thought we had a connection. She always talked about how eager she was to have kids and how she would go to school once she moved in with me here in Texas. I visited her several times in her country and we got married and started living together this past September. When she moved in, she said that she decided that she wants to learn how things are here before she has kids. She says that she prefers to work first. Also, she put her plans to go to school on hold although she does want to become a CVN. Since she has moved in, things have changed between us. We barely talk and I try my best to hold a conversation with her although she never seems to be interested. I have 2 son's from a previous marriage and although she knew that, she never spends time with us watching TV or playing games. She is always alone either watching facebook or texting her friends. Sex is almost nonexistent. When I initiate, I get sex. She never initiates but sex with her is always boring. I did a test from November and not tried to initiate sex and it went on for over a month. We didn't have sex until I initiated it. We have been fighting because she isn't working. I'm unhappy and thinking about divorce. I do love her but not enough to fight for her. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks for the advice guys. To the person that said I'm expecting her to care for my kids, it's not like that at all. She just said before that she would love them like her own. I at least expected her to share some of the time I spend with them doing things. Is that asking too much? Also, She is not from an Asian country and I never thought before that she would use me to come here. We've only been married but she can never get legal status until I file the proper paper work.

So my dad has been married for more than 10 years but wants to divorce my mom. He can t though cause she ll get half his stuff. Is there any way that he can divorce her without doing so? She owes him more than $30,000 and doesn t help him with any bills or anything for that matter. I can t stand her because whenever I need necessities she won t pay for them (I am 15 and don t like fast food places so I won t work in one) and instead gives my 29 yr old brother money when he just quits his job and cries that he was fired and my 30 yr old sister who begs for money and sells her stuff for more. I am sorry if this just seems like a rant but it really upsets me how much my dad is being used and he wants to divorce but he can t since she ll get half of his stuff. Any help or ideas?

Reworded- More don't want to get married than ever before,is it because subconsciously(or not) because unmarried and just living together,there is really no commitment and there is an easy escape route if wanted(just leave/separate)? I Know two people don't Need to get married(except to/for the religious)but it does make some things easier(especially if have children{by same father even more so}) but I see more meaning in getting married of course. I ask all forgiveness for my assumption for thinking less wanted to get married now. In all honesty,I thought that may have begun in the late 60's but in any case,I realize I should not have assumed something without looking into the facts. My mistake and admit I was wrong in doing so. I am sorry.

I am 30 and have a wonderful husband and a 6 month old. I've been working part time (about 20 hours) since age 13,and full time plus overtime (about 50 hours) since age 21. Since the baby has been born I have been working only 16-18 hours a week. Late evenings after husband comes home just 2 days a week,so we dont use daycare. I am home all day every day, and though I am gone from the house 18-20 hours per week with commutes. I still consider myself to be more of a stay at home mom than working. I was normally so driven at work, now I just don't care. I do what I have to do, I do great, but there's no true desire. I LOVE breastfeeding, making organic baby foods, really healthy meals, making sure the house is safe and clean. Just taking care of my family in general. I get very excited trying new recipes, caring for my daughter and making sure everyone is happy. I truly love it and feel it's more of a "calling" than work ever was. Is this normal? Is this just because I havent been doing it for very long? I feel so fullfilled and in LOVE when previously I thought stay at home moms were kind of a joke. Complete turn of thought.

I want to make my S.O. feel good, and not to worry about the bills. We have agreed not to give each other Christmas gifts to set our priorities straight. What cute things would you do to make your S.O. feel special? i already cook his favorite meals and leave little notes under his pillow and make him feel that he is my world.

He only does it when I am not there. Once he said "hi" to a woman and this women has never spoken not one word to me. I saw her looking at me once at an event with a strange look in her eyes. When I ask my husband he gets very mad and defensive. When he said hi one time I was with him and he acted like I wasnt there and did not bother to introduce me.

My Husband lost his mom 2 years ago at the time i was 3 months pregnant over the course of time i have notice him more violent and more angry. any little thing that i do sets him off. I have begun to think that he has started to blame me for everything that has happened to his mom. she was killed on her birthday. since her death we had two beautiful daughters. i have been there for him to support him i also do everything for him in the sense of cooking and cleaning and taking care of our girls. i dont ask him for help because that will piss him off and he will tell me that i am ahorrible mom because i cant do the house work by myself. i dont know what to do anymore he has gotten more and more physical and has admit that he needs help. i am also dealing with postpartum depression due to all of this. i need some advice please.

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My husband tells me I am stupid, dumb, I am worthless and I am not ever good enough for his penis. He told me that love is when you share his penis with everyone out there but I do not share my cookies with anyone but him because only men are allowed to share and if woman share then we are worthless and no good. How do I get my husband to only love me? Or should I leave his worthless piece of chit ***?

Um so me and my husband got into a huge argument because he claimed that he feels like he could easily stop loving me and get over me and me of course being hurt from this just kind of wanted to talk about how I felt but instead he ignored me then I kept bugoing him about it and then he said im a useless wife eventually he left the house at 5am I thought he just went to use the restroom so I didn't think anything of it until I realized he actually left he came back with chocolate but by that time I was pissed so I threw the chocolate and he came charging in the room and threw it at me telling me that I'm just some crybaby fatass and so I get mad and upset naturally then he slapped me in the face granted it wasn't hard but that's not the point but the thing is when he tried to leave once he realized what he did I begged him to stay I don't know what's wrong with me

What examples do you have of times when you felt most supported by your wife? I'm ironing all his shirts right now, put an air freshener in his car, I'm thinking of writing a cute note but don't really know what to say. He's in sales. He's had many job changes over the last few years. He changed this time for more money but it will be much less flexible, which sucks for both of us. We also have a 3wk newborn so we're exhausted of course and still getting into the swing of things. Usually men say the answer is sex, but I'm not as 'physically available' for a few more weeks from giving birth, though I did help him out a few days ago, but again.. exhaustion.

My husband and I just had our first child and my husband is such a good father!! And, this is not a huge deal and I'm not mad at him about it. So, no sex til my 6 week check-up. But, I feel like since the baby has been born our intimacy has just halted. I have to ask my husband to kiss me. We spend all our time with the baby and he has been returned to work so I'm at home alone. I love my son and he is my top priority but I'm scared that if the relationship between parents lacks couple time then it will fizzle out. I even looked up ways I can please him (I want him happy). I talked to him about "fooling around" like we used to before we DTD while dating. But he isn't interested bc it won't lead to sex. Also, my birthday just passed and all I got was a happy birthday. Idk, I'm very affectionate and I know he loves me it's I don't want us to..forget about us. I guess I'm feeling a bit neglected. Btw: we don't share a bed, husband is a light sleeper & after my throat surgery (snoring) & getting a queen (has a double) we just started sleeping together after being together for 4 yrs now we don't anymore. Now, he wants to wait til baby is older until we sleep together again (shift sleeping). Always go to bed and wake up alone. Doesn't seem to bother him that much

Me and my ex-husband were legally married for 10 years (2001-2011), and we have 4 children together (ages 13,11, 10 and 10). I chose to divorce my ex due to his infidelity. I was given full, sole, and legal custody of our kids. My ex pays $1,400 a month for child support, and he's really bitter about it. He says that I suck the life out of him, every time he has to pay his support. I'm tired of dealing with his anger, resentment and bitterness toward me. I just wish he would grow up and move on. How would you deal with this situation?

People who've passed on are still with you and watching over you right? Is loving another man sort of like cheating? Isn't it kind of selfish? I understand a woman has her needs so that's why I think its ok for her to have sexual partners to satisfy them but giving up your heart to another man just seems wrong to me. Is love not really about a particular person but just a feeling, a need for oneself if it can be thrown around so easily? I've seen women who couldn't even wait a whole year before they married someone else after they lost their husbands

I've been struggling to get over this affair for a few years. We are both married but are in love with each other. We've never slept with each other. Just the emotional ties are very strong and we've been intimate in other ways. We both have families and I know affairs are the worst. I finally put an end to it and I know he was miserable. Recently after 6 months of not seeing each other or talking , I ran into him at a work event where he brought his wife. I was alone for the work event. When he saw me he couldn't stop looking at me. I completely pretended like I didn't know him. I saw him yet wouldn't even give him a second of my attention. He ended up walking up to me with his wife and introduced her to me. I was shocked as I didn't think he would ever do this. Why do you think he did this? My guess is either 1) you dumped me I'm now happy back in my marriage 2) wow you're ignoring me so I'll show you how bold I will be I'll even introduce you to my wife I'm just so confused. What are your thoughts? I just know how strong our feelings are and seems like they are still all there. But I've made a determination to end the affair as I don't want it to ruin our lives just like all affairs. Please offer my your opinion.