Family: Question: My fiancé assaulted my brother and abused him enough to ruin his dream?

Question: My fiancé assaulted my brother and abused him enough to ruin his dream?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 02:12 PM PST

Me and my brother into an argument about a month ago. He threw a chair at me and I injured my hand. If my mother wasn't there to stop him he would have beaten me to a pulp. I told my fiancé what happened and we agreed not to let my brother attend our wedding. I can not force my mother or father to enforce consequences like kicking him out but this is my consequence. He responded with threats on fb and said he would ruin the wedding. About a week after that I get a call from my mom that my brother is in the hospital. I figured he had done something with his loser friends. The police didn't know anything. About a month later my brother starts accusing my fiancé for the abuse, saying he sees it in his eyes. Whatever that means. My fiancé is an engineer, academic type. Hardly the type you suspect of this. Until he spoke to me the other day and admitted it. He said "Something had to be done and your family is too weak to act. I'm sorry. I took two days of work and stalked him. I found the perfect place to do it with no people around. I bought a red jacket because I knew he would most likely remember that and I don't wear a red jacket. I covered my face with a hoodie. I approached him, uppercutted him and knocked him out and I stomped on his knee. Then I left him there and threw the jacket in the trash" That's insane. How could he do that? I feel like I don't know him. I've slept at a friends place since he told me. This is crazy right? What would you do?

Question: HELP WITH LITTLE BROTHER?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 02:09 PM PST

I asked a question about this before but I wrote it while I was in a bad mood. I'm a 14 year old girl I have an 11 year old brother who is really sensitive and apologizes for things that are sometimes not even his fault all of the time. In my last question I stated that he bothered me and needs grow up, now I'm seeing that I'm just worried and concerned for him. I went through a faze that was extremely similar to his where I would feel bad for basically existing but I got over it because I was bullied and i went to a psychologist for it. What I'm saying is, i grew up because i got help for it, so does he need it too? Side note: my mom would sometimes tell me things like "you can't cry over every little thing" or "stop making a scene" but she's never done the same for my brother and let's him yell at her

Question: Is my mom abusive or is this normal?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 02:08 PM PST

Alright, sorry for this being so long, but this is becoming an issue. For the past 3 years or so, my mom has been extremely rough on me and my sister. My grades have been going down because I can t focus and my memory keeps getting worse for some reason. Since my grades have dropped in the past few years she s been really mean and mad. She yells as loud as she can and cusses to intimidate me and has widdled down my social life to nothing but doing homework and sitting in my room thinking or listening to music. The other night was what did it for me. she called me "thick skulled" and "lazy" and "stupid" and took away the only thing left that allowed me to see my friends, which is pep band (besides school of course). She doesnt believe i have memory problems, and she screams at me about being "lazy" until I physically can t breath from crying so much. She also gets mad over the littlest things. For example, someone in my family put a dirty dish in the clean dish washer and she absolutely flipped. She yelled at me specifically, but she screamed things like "I guess it just f*cking teleported there then." and slammed the washer. She invalidates my feelings when I try to talk to her about it. I told her she makes me feel like I can t do anything right, and she said "Don t throw yourself a f*cking pity party." And the biggest red flag I ve noticed so far is she always somehow makes MY problems about her, and how her yelling at me makes her sad (but she never apologizes...) Help?

Question: Do you think it s ridiculous for my parents to not let me listen to things with swear words in them?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:51 PM PST

I m 15 and my parents still won t let me listen to things with swear words in them because it s "not the Christian thing to do." Any there something I can do to change their minds?

Question: I am worried that my dad won't let me go see his family with him at Christmas what do I do if he says no to me riding along?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:42 PM PST

He is weird about privacy stuff and his family is kind of private also. I'm worried since my siblings want to come also he'll tell us all just to stay home and then I'll miss out. What do I do? I really want to see family on Christmas other than just my parents and brothers but I can't go separate from my Dad or I'll be imposing. I am 19 but still live at home and in college. DAVE----I got no answers last time. It got moved to the Thanksgiving section for some reason.

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Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:23 PM PST

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Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:17 PM PST

Question: Stepfather issues, how to deal with it?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:13 PM PST

Alright, before I start I m 20 years old and I had lost my father when I was 5. My mom who is the center of my world met this man we will call John, 2 years ago. My mom and John had gotten married back in June of this year. John who is a man who is a avid user of drugs. He is verbally abusive towards myself at all times, worst when he is coming down from his high towards my mom. My mom who is in love with this man I feel chooses him over me. This man is ignorant, knows all the things to piss me off. I can t stand him. Since the day they got married he says everything is his and blah blah blah. She has seen him verbally even physically attack me. I try to keep my mouth shut but now...I don t know what to do. I have had my fill and I m not sure how to just deal with it. Any advice?

Question: My dad caught me masterbaiting to a picture of my older sister in her bikini what should I do?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:06 PM PST

hes gonna have a talk with me after he talks to mom so im scared.

Question: How to act surprised about a gift?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:02 PM PST

I accidentally found out my dad got me a new ukulele today. I was on our computer and I was clearing the history because it just doesn't feel right if I don't and I saw something saying "Amazon Ukulele." I clicked on it and it said it was purchased. Now I don't feel as excited anymore because it was supposed to be a surprise and I don't know how to act surprised and excited when it arrives.

Question: I have to make a hard decision?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 11:36 AM PST

My parents recently cut me off. I am currently away at college in Colorado while my parents live in Texas. They found out about some drugs that I tried, and basically my mother days she's done with me and doesn't want me living with them. I get why they are done, I've been in trouble before (not with drugs) and I'm honestly really tired of the strained relationship. I made a lot of mistakes but I wasn't the only one who did; our relationship is already fragile and thats why it has exploded so fast. Basically my options are to do some questionable jobs that will make me a lot of money, but that I could regret in the future. Live with my grandmother and take a semester or two off from school and just work as much as possible to make enough money to come back to Colorado or find another school to go to. Or stay here, work normal jobs to make as much money as possible and take out up to $10,000 in loans (which I may not even get) to stay here and continue to go to school as I originally planned. What do you think I should do?

Question: Am I being reasonable to this babysitter?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 11:16 AM PST

I work from home. I am 40, I need a babysitter to watch my 2 year old, 8 year old and 16 year old 14 hours each day 6 days a week. I found this 17 year old online and she has great babysitting reviews I contacted her and told her "Look I need someone from 8 am until 10pm Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday." She replied back "I might be interested. For babysitting I normally charge $9.00 an hour, but since you're a bit further from where I live, and because of transportation money, I could do that for $13 an hour 6 days a week." This is what I replied back to her. "Listen, I don't want to pay someone more than $250 a week for this. You're being rude asking me for $13 an hour what are you some kind of king or queen? I don't pay people $13 an hour I AM ONLY paying you $250 a week! Now please get back with me, I need someone to start tomorrow." She said to me "No thanks. Your reply was very uncalled for." I haven't replied back to her yet. What should I say why was she rude to me? $250 for 72 hours of work is enough money! I am also a neat freak, I told her and I have not let any of my old babysitters do this either. I told her since I need her as a sitter, she cannot bring any breakfast/lunch/dinner with her that requires to stay in the fridge until she eats or that requires a microwave or oven. She called me bat **** crazy. Why is she rude?

Question: I got in trouble for stopping my little sister from bullying!!!?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 11:13 AM PST

I caught my sister playing a video game on her computer called Roblox bullying people. So I told her I saw what she did and she said she wouldn t do it again, I made her say sorry to the person she was being mean to and left it like that. Days later I peeked at her computer to catch her ONCE AGAIN bullying someone because of there character. I scolded her and told her to apologize. She got really mad at me and started kicking around on the floor. I also apologized to whom ever was behind the screen being bullied by my sister. After I told her to leave the game I made her write an apology on her characters profile. Now after this I told her I would delete two of her clothing items for bullying people about there avatar being "ugly" she told me she would stop and how much she was sorry. I believed her once again..THEN SHE HAD THE NERVE TO DO IT AGAIN.. So after that I was really disappointed in her so I made her apologize and I deleted two of her clothing items. Now to today my sister told on me and did not even mention her being a bully online. My mom got mad and yelled at me still not knowing why I did it but when I told her she was still angry. I understand that I should of told a parent but how was she going to learn not to bully people if she doesn t know how they feel?!?

Question: My sister is a bully at age 30. How do I deal with her verbal abuse at Christmas?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 11:07 AM PST

She has a way of bullying people she's even believe me because I'm adopted though indirectly. I'm 21 and she's 30 how do I avoid letting this hurt me as I have to see or Christmas Day.

Question: Daughters are mad I've given them chores?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 11:05 AM PST

I'm a single dad to a 15 year old daughter and 17 year old daughter. Lately I felt like they've been getting too lazy with their upkeep of their bathroom and their rooms, so I started giving them chores. Nothing back-breaking, simple stuff like " keep bathroom & rooms clean, take laundry to the laundry room, vacuum occasionally, and do dishes". They don't like it one bit and are doing these chores half-heartedly and expecting money for it. It's just a constant fight. My sister was spot on( sadly) when she said I spoiled them. How do I fix this?

Question: Stepmom makes family plans without me. Advice?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:50 AM PST

I'm 16. My parents have been divorced since I was 2 and my Dad has been married to my Step mom for 5 years. My issue with my stepmom is that she makes plans to go places when I'm not here. We go to the mall and festivals and everything when I'm here, and when I go to my moms on the weekends, my stepmom and dad go to the movies and out to Chicago, and do all sorts of things I want to do. Just last year they went to Niagara falls while I was at my moms for the weekend and when I asked my step mom why she didn't invite me she said it was because it was their anniversary and they wanted it to be kid-free. My dad works 60 hours a week and is only off on the weekends too which according to my stepmom is the reason why they do things without me. Because Im at my moms and thats the only time I can see my mom. I'm also upset because my dad and my stepmom never had a honeymoon so they're going to Maui in May and said they aren't taking me either. I'm angry because it seems like they go everywhere without me. My stepmom got mad at me when I brought this up and said that their lives don't stop just because Im not here and her saying that upset me. Does anyone have any advice so my dad could see my side and take me with to Maui?

Question: Is this normal behavior or sound like a drug issue?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:37 AM PST

10 years ago I confronted my mother in law about my suspensions of her using Meth. This caused alot of tension between my husband and I and between the family and I. She eventually lost her job and her home because of drugs (she doesn't see it that way though). After that she moved an hour away with her boyfriend and after 3 years living with different people they rented a motel room. For the past 7 years they have stayed in this roach motel without a kitchen or anything. They live in one room and the building is gross and old. Her boyfriend has a decent job making decent money but they claim to always be broke. They have a car but it rarely moves because they say they don't gas money. I pick her up about once a month to spend time with her grand kids and she usually stays several days. She may bring $4 or $5 with her so I always have to take care of her. She never asks us for money and claims to not be on drugs (her or her boyfriend) but it really bothers me that she lives in a place like that. I try to not let it bother me because it doesn't affect me but I'm not sure if she is on drugs and if she is I wouldn't trust her watching my children. She is a wonderful grandmother and my kids love her so I don't want to jeopardize our relationship but it is really worrisome. Is this normal behavior? Does this seem like a drug addict?

Question: Am I a dependent?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:16 AM PST

My mother left me at my grandparents house and said "you re dead to me" when she left. I am currently staying with my grandparents. I am 18 and am about to get my first job, and it s full time. Am I a dependent of my mother even though she left me and went elsewhere? I need to know for tax purposes. Thank you!

Question: Am I the only woman who goes through this?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:07 AM PST

My mother is affectionate and my father is cold.

Question: I'm the only woman to go through this?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:05 AM PST

my mother's warm and I my father is cold.

Question: How would you handle/respond to a family member that works like a " mad man" ?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:03 AM PST

So they can give another member of the family ( child) anything materialistic that their heart desires. Then they martyr themselves to everyone else about how hard they have to work to pay their bills when in fact if they did not give in to the constant whims it would be that way. Yet they will never confront the fact that they do not have enough money to pay bills because catering to this childs material desires are first and foremost

Question: What to do, no one appreciates me?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:51 AM PST

I'm such a good person no one sees positive things in me. My mom is negative and controlling, i dont have friends because they all think im weirs cuz i never follow the crowd... My mom also comments on my weight all the time since i was little. Im insicure about it since i was 5. Constatly looking at myself thinking mb body looks horrible. And then my mom comes a person that should unlift me but she does the opposite. When i was skinny i was fat in her eyes, now that im a bit overweight, not much im seen as a fat **** monster im 132lbs and 158cm. She always comments me what to do with my life what decisions to take and how to make things work. I cant even think with my own head. Shes so mean and negative and then askes me why im depressed and when i tell her she compares myself to herself making herself the poorest being and me the idiot that should be happy about all the bullchit in life. I want to become anorexic and show her that i can do it. And die. Tips on starvation?

Question: Why are my parents like this?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:46 AM PST

My parents are always blaming me for things I didn t do. My dad constantly mocks me whatever whenever I do anything. My mom constantly nitpicks, and it annoys me so much, she always tries to find things that aren t perfect with me, and yell at me for random things no matter what. When its not negative, I hardly get any attention ever. I can t be told I love you without why would you do that . I just wish they could act like they love me more and be proud of me instead of being rude, mocking me, scolding me ALL THE TIME sometimes I think I should just kill myself because I hate how they do this to me

Question: My 16yr old son got in fight with female bodybuilder and overpowered her?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:45 AM PST

is it normal. female is 180cm and 75 my son is 185 and 78kg. it was real fight.english is not my mother language sorry for grammar

Question: Is it right for a husband to get mad over money?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:36 AM PST

I am paying attention to my parents. My mom came into some money, 5000 dollars. She put most of the money in the bank and give my dad 500. He made a comment saying that when tax time comes she is on her own. He has a negative vibe coming off him. I'll be honest, it made me feel bad and I don't think that is fair to me or my mom. I also believe my mom should help him more. Is my dad right or wrong?

Question: I'm going to visit my uncle on xmas but I'm worried all my siblings will want to come and it will be too many people how do I prevent this?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:28 AM PST

Edit He and his wife are private people and so they're not gonna want to herd of seven of us coming in. I can't not tell my siblings as there going to be there at my Dads house and my Dad will know where I'm going though I'm gonna try to keep it a secret. It is my mothers brother and his wife and three kids. My mom and grandparents have died and the other sibling is not in town so it's the only connection to her family and it would feel weird at connecting to her side of the family at Christmas. So what do I say so that I don't end up there with a huge crowd of peopl? How do I phrase it to my siblings since it's a visit I arranged and not them? What I'm worried about is if I go over there with seven people when they're just expecting me then I will be declined a visit next Christmas I asked early but got few answers.

Question: PLEASE HELP---What do I do about old family letters as my parents go through my late grandparents house, read below?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:24 AM PST

My grandparents have died in my mother's family. My grandfather was an alcoholic and my mother didn't let me see him until I was 15. When I first started seeing him I wrote a letter saying I missed knowing him and wanted to get close but I hope he can resolve his issues with my parents (he hated my Dad at the time, his son-in-law). I complimented my parents who I have since realized were using me to motivate him (a mistake on their part). So bpttom line I revealed I knew he was an alcoholic and but hoped to get close. I got close to him since and was close through his death in 2014. My grandmother died in March of this year. So I have never spoken of his alcoholism, it is a family secret, since that letter. However my mother (the bitter daughter) told everyone she knew and therefore is not popular in her family. So long story short I am worried I will be in trouble if this letter is discovered as my grandmother saved all letters which was odd. I twas kindly written but reveals I was upset not to see him for 6 Christmas' and semi linked it to him. So what do I do if someone sees it? How do I describe it? My mother just says "good" but I don't want to offend the surviving family members as I always feel guilty I missed 7 years when my mother held us back as little kids though maybe she thought she was being protective.

Question: Since my brother is selfish and a womanizer how do I get past my disappointment that I have to see him at Christmas?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:23 AM PST

I was hoping he'd be away but he is coming to town. I feel like I should have some compassion on him as a sibling but I don't.

Question: Am I being ungrateful or is my mother emotionally abusive?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:54 AM PST

So, my mother has done many sacrifices for me, more than any mother I know of. She is mostly very nice to me and does not force me to do anything. Yes, she is over protective, but I do not mind that. However, she is an emotional drain. If we get into an argument, she says horrible things to me, about how I am the worst daughter ever and how I am never going to succeed in life. I know I have problems and I am trying to fix them, but I believe she is the reason that I am "unsuccessful". If she constantly calls me that and never tries to motivate me to work hard or study, then what does she expect from me? She calls me stupid, she labels me stupid, so I become stupid. According to psychology, when someone is told from early on that they have a certain trait, they work to the person's expectations, but if she always makes me feel stupid and dumber than her, how can I be anything? Moreover, her only "motivation" to me is to make up for my years of failure. Btw, I am a 16 year old junior in high school, a straight A student since sophomore year (since I have realosed the importance of studying). She never acknowledged this and only notices my "failure" when I happen to not study. Yes I know I am a procrastinator and I have never been good in school or in anything when I was younger but I am working to improve myself. How do you think I can improve myself with someone nagging and commenting about my every flaw like that?

Question: Am I being ungrateful or is my mother emotionally abusive?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:45 AM PST

Question: How to cope with being away from family for Christmas?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:38 AM PST

My girlfriend and I will be spending this Christmas and New Year in NYC. I would've rather just stayed home with my family and hers but she really wanted to go so her parents paid for our plane tickets and hotel. The problem is we are both only 22 and this will be the first Christmas I spend away from my family. We won't know anybody and I will miss my church so I'm afraid that, despite having each other, it will get quite lonely at times. I love her so that's why I'm doing this but how do I survive the holidays without seeing my family?

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:35 AM PST

I'm a 17 year old female whose parents are so sickening, she's thinking of running away. My parents are strict religious parents who claim to think anything I do is wrong and justify it by religious verses.. They beat me up when they found out I "talked" to guys, yes literally... They do not let me whatsoever leave the house without them or my brother, I almost have zero friends because of them. They expect me to not have any friendships whatsoever with the other gender, they think every guy I'll encounter with can and will Rape me... I feel like nothing , I'm a very smart person who LOVES to live How could I when I can't even step outside the house? They called me a prostitute for trying to convince them that a healthy relationship between the other gender is okay.. You'd think I'm exaggerating from how intense this sounds, it might not mean something to you but it means the world to me I only want freedom

Question: Features of family budget?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 07:37 AM PST

Question: I feel like a guest in my own home. What to do?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 07:07 AM PST

My mother and father got divorced when I was a child. I have lived 50/50 with them since then (for 15 years), and I haven t had any problems with it. As a matter of fact, I usually love it. But the last weeks I have started to feel like a guest when I m at my fathers house. I don t really know why, but it s not really funny to feel like a guest in a house I have lived in for 15 years. What can I do? I love my father and I know he loves me too - he is the kindest man I know. I don t know what to say to him because I don t want to let him down. I know that he doesn t do it on purpose.

Question: I'm going to visit my uncle on xmas but I'm worried all my siblings will want to come and it will be too many people how do I prevent this?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 07:04 AM PST

He and his wife are private people and so they're not gonna want to herd of seven of us coming in. I can't not tell my siblings as there going to be there at my Dads house and my Dad will know where I'm going though I'm gonna try to keep it a secret. It is my mothers brother and his wife and three kids. My mom and grandparents have died and the other sibling is not in town so it's the only connection to her family and it would feel weird at connecting to her side of the family at Christmas. So what do I say so that I don't end up there with a huge crowd of peopl? How do I phrase it to my siblings since it's a visit I arranged and not them? What I'm worried about is if I go over there with seven people when they're just expecting me then I will be declined a visit next Christmas

Question: What do you think I should do?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:53 AM PST

My uncle wants to drive me to a doctors appointment which is 1 hr 25 minutes away the past days he kept saying give your cousins expensive presents to show appreciation. No matter what I was suggestion for presents he kept saying no he wants me to give them money I don't want to go overboard. He kept saying you have to get your aunt and uncle presents I'm also visiting my dad I just bought my dad and stepmom presents. I told my uncle I will do shopping when I visit my dad I don't want to feel too pressured.

Question: Do my parents even care about my brother more than me?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:47 AM PST

So in my family, there is me and my little brother. He is only two years younger than me so there isn't that big of an age gap. But when we both do something wrong, I get all the blame and he gets the excuse "he isn't as old as you". Also, my mom refuses to make breakfast, lunch, or dinner for me, so I cook it myself everyday, but makes just enough for my brother and my dad, which I don't understand. This list can go on and on but wanted your opinion on what's going on, thanks :)

Question: How do I get our baby to not have a melt down with my mother in law and father in law?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:44 AM PST

Our 4 month old baby girl has serious issues with my mother and father in law. She is perfectly fine with complete strangers holding her or even my parents, but when it comes to my husbands parents, she has a complete melt down when they touch her! I have checked for perfumes or other obnoxious scents and there are none. Any tips or ideas one how to help her be more comfortable?

Question: I deserve a car but my parents won't buy me one?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:15 AM PST

The whole reason they have money is because of me. A couple years ago, I clearly remember my parents struggling to make ends meet. I convinced my friend (whose dad had a start up company) to give my dad a job. (back then, they had very few employees) He didn't make much money at first, but he worked himself up. Now, the company is doing pretty well locally and dad has a good position making a lot of money. I was fully expecting to give me some money, because I'm the one who got him the job in the first place, but no. They were so stingy and wouldn't even buy me anything. It's unfair, because I'm the one who made sure we aren't poor. Anyway, I got my driver's license, and my parents promised to buy me a car if I passed the test. I don't think they expected me to pass, because they told me that they were kidding. I'm really angry, because I already told everyone I was getting a car, and I'll be teased if I don't have a car.

Question: Why does my son insist on being a starving artist?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 05:57 AM PST

My son, Joe, reminds me of my husband Will. Both are very habdsome, they both have similar personalities, they're both smart, and they're both good writers. Will did a brief stint as am author before e mer me, and he said it was horrible, stressful and very tight on the money. Just a few years ago, we came into some wealth. At that time, Joe was 13 and already a rebellious teen. He was wearing leather, sneaking around and even saying behind our back. (I wouldn't care if he told me) We decided to send him to a private school, because that might make him more ddisciplined. It didn't. In fact, it's currently the source of our problems. The English teacher told him his writing was as good as a published author's, so he should try writing a novel. Joe agreed, and he began shutting himself up in his room all the time writing. He says he wants to be a professional author. As shown by Will, it's a terrible idea, because unless you get published, you'll be a starving artist. Joe is too smart for that. I mean, he gets mostly B's and a couple A's without trying (his teachers complain about him not working, and he never studied for tests) so imagine what he could do if he tried. How can I convince Joe to study well and get a good job?

Question: Awful mother?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 05:53 AM PST

My mom is horrible. She's a "stay-at-home mom" but she does not live up to it whatsoever. She just sleeps all day or maybe goes out with friends. I'm a very good kid. I make straight A's, don't ask for anything for Christmas, am polite, and have basically no friends. Yet whenever I do something little wrong, (for example, this morning I asked my mom to braid my hair, and didn't offer to make her coffee or anything nice first) I get screamed at and smacked. She curses and calls me names. I cry, and it just gets worth. She tells me I must be happy 24/7 in order to be a "sweet, proper little girl". What can I do to fix this? I'm 13. I can't just leave. And besides, I do love my mom. This just isn't right.

Question: Do I have anxiety?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 05:35 AM PST

Whenever I'm not perfect or I am in a situation where I don't do perfect I have flashbacks of that moment and I go crazy and twitch it only lasts a second and only happens once a day but not everyday.

Question: Why is it when i get mad or upset, my nose gets warm, burns and I cant breathe?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 05:16 AM PST

When I'm at home my siblings like to do anything to make me mad. That's how siblings are but every time I get mad, when i touch my nose you can feel the heat. It burns and I cant breathe. It's happened for a few years now. Last year more than ever.

Question: My parents are forcing me to be a lawyer?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 05:14 AM PST

Okay I'm 17 y.old (I'll be 18 I'm March) and in the 1st semester of law school and I hate my life.. It's not what I expected when I studied so hard in high school to get good grades. There is a lot of competition here (I was absent for a week cause I was ill and I couldn't find anyone to borrow his/her notes), classes are boring and really long (more tiring than other degrees). Plus I don't seem to click with the people and the environment. I never had trouble making friends but for some reason I can't make friends here, there's no chemistry. I don't even like the building The things is I really don't know what to do, my parents are blackmailing me. Also everyone else I tried to tall to about my problem, was like "join a club or sth, maybe next semester will be more interesting etc." No-one told me "It's your life, do what you want, change your major, take a gap year etc"

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic and my mother passes the pain of it onto me at the holidays, how can I get through this?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 04:59 AM PST

She makes a big deal about how he doesn't love us and she does it especially at Christmas time. She is divorced from him but won't stop insulting him. She also won't let me see him even at Christmas because she is using me to get him back. How can I get through this? I am in high school and supposed to enjoy the holidays, instead they are a time of great depression due to my Mom.

Question: Distant relatives at home. How to deal?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 04:54 AM PST

Me, hus and 4 year old daughter stay in a 2-bed room house. The proble is that my hus is a "bachelor kind" guy, loves to hang up with friends and enjoys company and people visiting our house frequently. He has all brothers and more male relatives than normal which makes him a bit stranger to females (even after 6 years of marriage he needs somebody outside the house to explain him how to handle things at home, so his younger brother takes a lot of control over our house). He trusts men more than woman. So coming to the point, a financially low boy (25-28 years old ) a cousin of my hus is willing to come and do education and joh hunt here will be staying with us for a few months. My daughter never had stranger anxiety and literally goes into the lap of any person she sees (with or without our permission). I am really concerned now since i will be spending daytime with my daughter around this guy , many a times leaving her play while cooking or doing chores in other rooms. My husband does not seem to understand the situation and don't care. How do I convince my husband to think this over and understand the trouble behind this. My inlaws are all supportive of my hus and don't care about the situation here. How can I deal with it?

Question: My Mom hurt me as a kid. She is not as cruel now as she has gotten help, How can I learn to forgive her?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 04:53 AM PST

It was emotional hurt and not physical but I feel deep anger towards her when the memories resurface but feel I am supposed to forgive.

Question: Older brother hates me and our mother always favors him?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 03:58 AM PST

Question: My dad makes me very anxious?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 03:46 AM PST

I'm not close to my father. He always blamesmy little sister for his problems and telling her he'd want to lock her up or that its her fault eeryone is mad, etc. He gets pissed at almost anything for no reason and always claims that he's right. When he FEELS attack, he'll start screaming automatically and to put you down (for me he says that I have a bad judgement, that I don't understand, etc.). I'm 17 years old, like I'm not stupid. Anyways, I don't speak out in fear of being put down again. So, back to the question. Everytime my dad is on his nerves, I really feel anxious. Like my bodu is literally shaking, my muscles are contracted, I'm always afraid that he'll start beating one of us up (he already used force on my sister and once he got so mad at me he threw me on my bed and I thought he'd punch me in the face). I just can't wait to get out of here. He keeps saying I'll probably become a hobo because he'll kick me out at 18 and I know nothng about society. I'm demotivated in a lot of things (especially school), my parents told me to go in enriched Maths even though I don't need maths for later (I want to go in something in arts and there are no prerequisites for College) and even though I'm bad in math.

Question: Have you ever had someone heavy on your mind for no reason, how do you handle it?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 03:24 AM PST

My family member has helped me through a lot this year, we've gotten very close through all we've endured together. She's been constantly on my mind lately for some reason. Like I'm feeling the need I. My heart to bless her in some way, to talk to her or be there for her. I don't get to see her anymore, she moved away but she keeps up with me through social media. Have you ever had someone constantly on your mind for no reason? I don't know what to do, I feel the need to talk to her but why? (None of this is romantically)

Question: Should I be annoyed that my sister, who is a guest, walks around nude?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:29 AM PST

My sister came to stay with me and my 2 little daughters for a couple of months and always prances around nude after her shower. I have no problem with nudity and my kids see me nude (I'm a woman), but why is this annoying me?

Question: I think my stepdad might be touching himself to me sleeping with my partner? I m really freaked out please help!!!!?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:16 AM PST

Okay, I think I ve heard him masturbating to me before but I didn t really think anything of it at the time even though I should ve been more suspicious (I was really stressed out at the time and i just sort of put it to the side like it could ve been a coincidence. But this time I m a little bit more certain it happened. My partner and I "did-the-do" and they went to the bathroom afterward, and they turn the fan on in my bathroom (so I can t hear anything from my bathroom) and coming from my parents bedroom I hear moaning and slapping-ish (ewww). It couldn t have been my partner because it would ve been muffled by the fan and I would ve heard their voice. I m sure that wasn t my partner s voice. And my mom was sleeping downstairs on the couch, so he would ve been the only one in the room. I talked to my mom about my concern and she asked him about it. He lied to her and she believed it. I m really scared and I don t know what to do. I don t feel safe at my own house anymore.

Question: MY SISTER WILL KILL MY MOM!!?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 01:15 AM PST

PLEAS READ EVERYTHING. My older sister is the most uncaring, selfish, self centered person you will ever meet. she is literally the ONLY reason why bad things happen in our family. she would tell my mom she's going somewhere and then go somewhere else to smoke with her guy friends, our family have caught her making out with someone, she is utterly disrespectful and raises her voice to my parents, my dad drops her at school then we get a call from the school saying she never came to class. My mom is a very kind woman like I swear she is the reason why I work hard at school everyday because she has given so much for us and my 3 other siblings and is just the most inspirational person I've ever met and she loves us More than she loves herself. My mom used to get very sad and depressed whenever my sister does something bad so she went to the doctor and he told her she has a heart disease of some sort due to being In a constant state of sadness and that she may need an open heart SURGERY. I swear I was about to explode because I'm sure and everyone in my whole family knows that my sister is the reason for this. So I go up to my sister and tell her about this and I swear all I get is a "really?" From her and then she literally goes back to watching her series. WE HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING WITH HER. WE TRIED BEING KIND TO HER.NOTHING WORKED!!! and I'm really scared about my mom cuz I have a feeling she will eventually die cause of my sister. Pls tell me what should I doooo?!!!!!

Question: I spanked a teenager ONCE!?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 12:56 AM PST

I successfully foster a lot of children. There was one child though I fell in love with. I adopted him last year after fostering him for quite a bit. He's 15 and does everything possible to put himself into danger. He drinks he smokes, he does drugs, and sneaks out. If I approach him about anything he gets combative and claims that I hate him which is very untrue. He gave me a run for my money last week leaving without a trace for almost FORTY EIGHT HOURS. I filed a missing persons report knowing what he gets into. I wanted to make sure he was safe. Well they found him and dragged his *** up to my door step in which I took him. Apparently he went on a joy ride with a bunch of his buddies that could drive, got stupid drunk, and all found their ways back separately. He had me so completely worried I could've thrown up. I made sure to let him know that and he told me he didn't care. I was trying to explain to him my concern but he refused to listen. So I sat down, threw him over my knee and spanked him ten or twelve times. That's when he listened to what I had to say. I hugged him and tried to comfort him. (Obviously he wasn't crying what Teenage boy would let me see that?) I just didn't want to see him hurt. I didn't know these people and I don't think he knew them as well as he thought he did either. He's moved from home to home so many times in his life I'd hate to see him taken from here and put in juvenile detention or something. Was I in the wrong? I made sure I wasn't spanking him so entirely hard.. I'd never spanked a child before I don't know why it crossed my mind.

Question: My mother left me?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 12:33 AM PST

When i was 8 my mother left me, and my two brothers. she told me for years she couldn't take care of us, and she needed to get better to be able to take care of us.. she never came back. she tells my father how she misses my brother and i but she doesn't try to see us.. She had another kid when i was 13 which was about four years ago, and she takes care of him.. how do you have love for one child but not for the others? I don't understand why she would have another kid when she isn't even taking care of the other ones.. My question basically is, why would she do that? is it really just because she has no love for us at all?

Question: My parents are psychologically and sometimes physically abusive. What do I do?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 12:28 AM PST

I'm 17 years old. I go through abuse from my parents on a daily basis. Not a day goes by peacefully in my house. My mom is almost always seen yelling. My dad doesn't care as long as mom is quiet and calm. He has been sucking up to her for the past 17 years of my life, always agreeing on everything she says and acting foolish around her to make her feel better. They're both extremely bipolar. My mom would yell at me at the top of her lungs in the afternoon. When I get back home, she would casually ask me what I want for dinner. My dad would scream at the top of his lungs, turn red, swing his fists in the air, sometimes hits himself, sometimes beats me, then a little later, would come to me and again, act foolish and apologize to make me feel better. This has gotten more frequent and worse in the past two years, ever since I had more work load for school. Whenever I try to talk, my parents don't listen to me. My mom would scream at the top of her lungs (as loud as her lungs would allow her to scream) to try to talk over me and I never get a chance to speak. For my dad, whenever I try to speak, he would rush into his room and close the door on my face. Most of the time, I stay quiet, carefully not to trigger another outburst. I've asked them to put less pressure on me and give me independence, and their response was that I won't get it as long as I'm financially dependent on them. I threatened to report them to the police once and my dad threatened to kill me if I do.

Question: My Mom gets pleasure in insulting family to me. How do I get her to stop?

Posted: 30 Nov 2016 11:56 PM PST

Question: My Dad gets furious if me or my mother ask something in anxiety. How do we prevent this?

Posted: 30 Nov 2016 11:56 PM PST

Question: My Dad likes to pick on me for having mental illness. How can I stop this (talking to him doesn't work)?

Posted: 30 Nov 2016 11:53 PM PST