Family: Question: How to deal with a difficult relative.?

Question: How to deal with a difficult relative.?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 10:15 AM PST

I have an aunt with a violent temper especially when it comes to controversial topics. She starts yelling, screaming, clapping her hands loudly, bulldozing over anything you have to say if it disagrees with her opinion. In our last conversation she was clutching her fists, flying into a rage and the topic was only about politics. She had done this several times but I let it go because she lost her husband a few years ago and recently her daughter was murdered. She commutes and stays with me when she's in town. I usually don't allow people to come into my home yelling and screaming. I'm thinking of telling her that she cannot stay with me anymore because I don't need nor allow that kind of toxic behavior. The only reason she gets away with it is because she's my aunt. Usually she's very supportive on most things but when she's mad (and it could be just a regular discussion) She turns into the female Hulk. What should I do?

Question: Should i tell my mother this before reporting it to a counselor? Is it classified as cyberbullying?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 10:07 AM PST

someone has been cyberbullying me after I left for online school. saying i have no life cuz i'm behind a screen. that i'm a retarded fag who watches porn all day. BTW this was all said on a 34 person group chat. He also said who i liked on there even though he was my friend about a week ago. I guess he aint loyal the person i liked best friends were all on this chat. Only one stood up for me and the rest were throwing up fire and laughing emojis. Made him feel superiority so he kept it going for 1 hour

Question: How do I get over my fear at Christmas that my parents will find a way to prevent me from seeing their families?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 10:04 AM PST

I am an adult but I worry my parents will prevent me from seeing various groups in their families at Christmas. My mother likes to hold grudges and sometimes they schedule something of theirs right in the middle of the extended family gathering which prevents me from being able to see extended family. The extended family does not invite me when they know my parents are having something at the same time and so I miss out. Also on Thanksgiving my parents did not tell me we were invited to my aunts. As a result I missed out. I am an adult so cannot be restricted from seeing people anymore but my parents still have the power to make it impossible by scheduling or causing others not to ask me. Thanksgiving we just went to see friends of my parents I don't even like. My siblings don't care but I do. Their grudges hurt me. So how can I prevent this from happening at Christmas and manage this fear I have?

Question: How do I get over my fear of my Dad criticizing my anxiety?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 10:00 AM PST

He can tell when I am anxious and I am afraid of his ignorance and criticism.

Question: A question about a family feud and how I should respond?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 09:58 AM PST

My mother is helping her niece who was booted out by her parents (My Mom's brother and his wife). His brother and wife are a lot stricter then my parents. My parents are not loose on rules, just not perfectionates. They feel the uncle and especially his wife are playing favorites. They have one daughter who was an exceptional child. They give her all she needs. They also help there son who was above average. This third child of theirs was a little more difficult. She was not bad but was bullied some in grade school and so got drawn to the wrong crowd in high school. She also was the only of the three kids to talk back and she was unmotivated in high school (not a good student). She had some learning disabilities but they were mild. So at age 20 or 21 the parents cut her out saying it was tough love after she quit her job. Now, 4 years later, she works 6 days a week, is getting therapy for her trust issues and anxiety, she does not have the bad group of friends, and is more independent. However, her parents still have little to do with her and consider her a bad seed because she is mad they cut her out four years ago and feels hurt by how critical her mother is. So should I be distant and critical of my uncle and his wife since I think this daughter is a lot better and easier then they gave her credit for? Should I avoid my uncle's wife since she is narcissistic with her kids (spoils the easy one and dumps the hard one)? Or do I just stay neutral and be nice to both? The uncle and his wife don't even come to holidays anymore because their mother refuses to deal with the daughter so we seldom see aunt and uncle or their two other children (one older and one younger). The mother's parents apparently resent the granddaughter and sing praise to the daughter. Don't know how the mother's siblings react.

Question: My dad is sorry for me??

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 09:56 AM PST

I'm a mid twenties girl living at home while I finish my education. My dad can be so emotionally abusive sometimes. While in the Midst of a little squabble today he looked me in the face and said he felt sorry for me. My own father!

Question: Is my step sister jealous of me ?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 09:54 AM PST

Everything I do my step sister criticizes me , we are the same exact age. She criticizes my driving skills, when I say something intelligent she says little slick remarks as if she is so much smarter then me , she says things like you need to brush your hair , why is your complexion so dark , your dress is to short when it is obviously to my knees 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 why is she constantly criticizing me ?

Question: My father is very rude?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 09:39 AM PST

So I'm almost 20 years old, and as I've gotten older my dad's gotten rude towards me. When I'm at work or out doing anything, he lets my younger two siblings (12 and 13) get into my stuff, eat the food I buy that I get specifically for my diet because of having health issues no one else has, they get into and have broken my makeup (which makeup isn't cheap) and then demands I pay him rent (which I have since I was 17), a bill, help with the rent for our home we live in outside from the rent I already pay, tell me if my stuff is so expensive and it bothers me so much, then to not bring it into his house... I don't know what to do. I already pay for half the stuff in the house, I run out and buy the family things whenever they need it, I never ask for anything from them, but my father in general is just so demanding and rude... Why? What can I do to make it stop?

Question: My parents won't let me stay home sick?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 09:37 AM PST

this is actually only my mom that is letting me go to school. my dad wants me to stay when i'm sick. i don't get it that when i'm sick my mom won't let me stay home. she doesnt care if i have a broken leg. she's gonna still make me go to school but my dad always wants me to stay when i'm sick till i get better.

Question: Help I'm in a difficult situation?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 08:57 AM PST

My oldest uncle wants me to get my aunt and youngest uncle 100 dollars for Christmas I kept suggestion something else he kept saying no. He told me don't get my cousins all the same thing. I'm staying here for a short term this morning he said give them 100 dollars you understand is this considered abuse what else should I do I mentioned this to my dad.

Question: How can I find out if my Dad is really my Dad.?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 08:32 AM PST

I'm 20 years old and I just found out that my mother doesn't know if my Dad was really my Dad. I don't want to make any unnecessary family drama but I really want to know if my Dad is my Dad. Any tips?

Question: My parents make me depressed?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 08:28 AM PST

My parents make me depressed. About a week ago my mom and stepfather accused me of stealing from my mother. i tried telling both of them that i didnt steal anything from them. to this day i still stand by what i said. they have been punishing me for not telling a truthful lie, such as giving up all of my friends, girlfriend and even giving up gymnastics which is something i wanted to do professionally. i dont even know what i have to lose now, ive lost all the people i love and the sport i love. my mom and stepdad completely ignore me and everytime i try to talk to them they ask me "are you gonna admit to it" when i say no, they enforce new restrictions. they are even gonna put me in a scared straight program for something i didnt even do. what can i do from here? im 18 by the way.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 08:00 AM PST

So im 15 and I live alone with my dad. I moved away from my mom for her mental issues. My dad has a horrible history with his own family and includes money. My family is poor yes. My parents are divorced. My dad is jobless ,my food is limited and he is in debt with alot of people including myself. My own dad spent every penny of my money I was saving up for my own christmas present because he cant even feed me or barely. What hurts me the most is that over a year ago he had a good job and NEVER bought me a thing not even underwear and he never revealed his earnings.When he lost the job he pawned my brothers ps3 which he kept himself and refused to give my brother it. Then he got his unemployment money which was ALOT and spent it FOR himself and another random family. He also said thaT he didnt give me or my brothers anyTHING because we didnt visit him. Jobless again and pawned my brothers flatscreen. He gets another job and is still greedy. He buys beer and cigars all the time and me nothing. He grabbed my money and spent it now we have nothing and his last paycheck is about to finish. What can I do im so frustrated

Question: My mom is controlling.What'd i do?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 07:51 AM PST

she won't let me go out and im almost 18. she won't let me go out with my friends, without talking to the mother or father of friends. I'm not allowed to date. I'm not allowed to go out anywhere without my sister having to chaperone me and that's because i lost her trust. I'm getting tired of it.

Question: Should i forgive my brother?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 07:29 AM PST

He is such a jerk. I was showering yesterday and he sneaked into the bathroom and took nude pictures of me showering and then sold them to his friends for money. Today i went to school and random boys were showing me nude pictures of myself and telling me to thank my brother for them. What a jerk. He apologized today and sayd he only wanted to make some easy cash, but im still really mad at him NO oh my god i dont want to get my brother arrested. I mean im pretty mad about it but i dont want him to get frigin arrested by the police, it not that much of a big deal im not a child, im 16 and he is 18

Question: Why hasn't my mom pushed me to get my life together?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 06:37 AM PST

It's like she doesn't care about me because instead she pushed me into a program I didn't want to be in and I was miserable just for money and social security and now I sometimes feel like she is using me for it. Most moms pushed their kids to go into college or something like that I wish mine would of because I am 21 still living with her takin my permit test in January, my hormones are a little off the doctor said and I am sure this is why I don't have many friends because I used to hate being around them since I never was but drinking at the bar a few times actually helped me become more social around people. If something happens again where I can't take the test I will kill myself I really want to get away from my mom driving is the only way I can get a job yes everytime I tried taking the test something happens.

Question: My mom sister disowned her daughter does my mother have the right to reach out to the niece even though her sister hates the daughter?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 06:36 AM PST

Question: My mom gets mad when I see her family. Does she have the right to punish me because she's mad at her siblings. I'm a college student......?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 06:34 AM PST

Question: Family issues?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 05:32 AM PST

Roughly twenty years ago my mother walked out on my family when I was 4 and started a whole new family and I never saw her again until a few weeks back in public when she looked at me, made eye contact but just kept walking, i know she might not be sure it was me but I feel like i need a bit of closure and a few answers, but I don't want my family to think less of me because I want to find her, Do I look for her without letting them know, or do I tell them my plans incase they feel the same..or do I just move on

Question: What do I call my grandfathers grandfathers grandfather?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 04:45 AM PST

Question: Had the biggest fight with my mother and don t know what to do know. Advice needed please?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 04:34 AM PST

I was out shopping with my mother and argued over something trivial but she ended up calling me names such as fat *****, shut your ugly mouth etc and I said nothing back. She kept professing her independence saying that "If you were gone I wouldn t be upset, you d think I d rot in a corner?" this was completely over the top and said in the middle of a shopping centre. I remained calm.hen we got home we didn t speak for four days until I came home from being out and she had made me dinner. We talked a little but not like before. This morning, she asked me to take her to town to buy presents for her sister and I said "I ll take you tomorrow, thought you were independent" and she let loose again saying you do everything for yourself and I ll do everything myself. I said "can we not try to talk about this like adults" and it escalated and now she s made a deal with me saying "Don t ever talk to me, I ll wash your uniforms for you but that s it. I will not buy you Christmas presents and you can make your own dinner." I agreed. I really don t think there is a way of turning this around and to be honest, a part of me doesn t want to. What do I do now? I m full time studying for a degree to get a qualified job at the end of it so moving out isn t really an option. Should we just stay out of each others way? She makes out like I do nothing for her when I try to do everything. It s a sad situation. She is also very stubborn and will never bend. I'm always the one apologising when I haven't done anything wrong just to keep the peace. I love her very much but I refuse to take it anymore. OMG she just came in to my room and apologised to me. I was so shocked. It was a bit backhanded "I'll be the bigger person and I apologise" but nevertheless it's an apology... Well..

Question: How do I deal with an abusive sister who is coming home for Christmas?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 04:03 AM PST

She is 23 but if she doesn't get her way she bullies like a 7 year old brat. I saw her on Thanksgiving and she was nice but she was hideous last summer the two times I saw her. She seems to be worse if on her period but it is more then just that. How do I deal with her if she is nasty as hell over not getting what "she wants"?

Question: My parents are mad that my grandfather is an alcoholic and won't let me see him. Is this as unfair as I feel?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 03:14 AM PST

I feel they are making me suffer because of his mistakes. All my cousins see him but I don't. I know it has to be supervised but I don't get holding me back from family. He is not violent or anything like that, just a grouch when drunk.

Question: Hey, i need a way to make my parents physically weaker through herbs or organic stuff (u know, so that i dont go jail and all)?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 01:00 AM PST

Hey, i need some help in not killing them, but making them grow physically weaker. My dad, that sob, hits me. I am a girl for ***** sake, almost 18!! I mean seriously, what sort of hoar gave birth to that sadistic bastard. I mean, my grades are pretty decent ( got 5a*s and an A in O lvels, Got country highest in art and design) and hecck! i dont even do drugs, go late night parties. So i dont get their logic in the tiniest bit. And my mom, that *****!! She enjoys seeing us (my other younger sister;15) in pain. Indulges it. And shes so effing fake. The dauy i was awarded with the High-achiever certificate, she reached out her hand in the crowd of parents and pretended that my ex friend was her daughter. According to religion, im supposed to respect my parents in the most Honorable way possible, but if these creatures deserve honour, i dont think i can maintain firm believe in religion anymore. Yes, methods people!

Question: What does it mean to be proud of someone? What does it mean to you? Do you tell everyone you're proud of them?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 12:42 AM PST

Question: His parents don't like me?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 12:41 AM PST

I'm dating this wonderful man. We've been together for a very long time. We're both adults, both work jobs. He's a tall man with a slim figure. I'm 5'6 and a bit chubby. His parents keep trying to convince him to date other people because I'm too 'fat' for him, and that I came from a weird family. My lovey boyfriend refuse to be with someone else, and not only does he love my body the way it is, he loves chubby girls and he says he loves me for me. Not my looks. Now, here's the real deal. I want his parents to like me. I did nothing wrong. I've only met them twice. They tend to avoid conversation with me, and they always keep an eye on me. My boyfriend gets upset when they do that. I just feel so judged in their household. Again, they think I'm not a match because I'm too fat for their standards. It bothers me because we plan to get married..and I'm afraid to live with that judgement from his parents..it doesn't affect our relationship, but I want them to understand that I love their son. And I am already insecure about my body, but at the same time I'm on a weight loss journey. I'm not obese. I'm just a bit overweight. My doctor says I am very healthy. Do you think there's a way to fix this? If not, id like to find a way to lift it off my shoulders..

Question: I overheard co-workers saying negative things about me, should I tell on them?

Posted: 02 Dec 2016 12:36 AM PST

I don't want to talk to them about it. I hate them now, and can't stand to even look at them. I want them to know that I heard what they said because they didn't realize that I did but, if I say something it will just come out as yelling or angry. I feel horrible now and hate going to work. I try to forget about it but, it keeps creeping back into my thoughts, even when I'm at home. Should I tell my boss? We have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to that stuff, and since they didn't realize I was there, they would probably just get a warning but, wouldn't that make them hate me even more? Would it create drama? I have to do something. I want everyone to know that this isn't about making anyone like me or making it so that no one can say anything about me, or anyone else. What I want them to know is that I heard them, I want them to know that they're comments have effected someone. I want to tell my boss so that she can tell them and then maybe they'll understand why I'm acting the way I am and will probably avoid them completely from now on. They just need to be more careful in the future of where and when they say things.

Question: My mom said she only wants to talk about things related with school. She doesn't want to talk about anything else. If I bring up things not?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 11:08 PM PST

about school, she would being more and more emotionally unstable and eventually starts to yell at me, saying she doesn't want to talk about non schools things. So should I just stop talking to her in this life? I kind of don't want to endure it anymore because of her yelling and this ridiculous rule. I don't talk about unreasonable stuff. I chat about things that happen in my current life mostly. I don't demand anything from her. I don't want to talk to her anymore.

Question: Does my father really love me?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:49 PM PST

Because I've never met him

Question: Why is my family a bunch of crazy people? It years my heart apart?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:47 PM PST

Question: Is this an example of an emotionally abusive mother?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:46 PM PST

A daughter has alot of money and decides to purchase a nice looking umbrella that's on special. Her mother kept asking her why she wanted to buy and tells her that buying the umbrella is a waste of money and is stupid. The daughter then decides not to buy it and dosen't feel like shopping anymore online for the time being and starts to tear up a little bit from her remorseless remark. Her mother then asks why she is crying and why she isn't buying the umbrella. The daughter then states that she does not want to but the umbrella anymore and starts to cry a little more. The mother then claimed that she was crying in spitefulness to make her mother feel bad, which is untrue. The daughter shakes her hear. Then, the mother rolls her eyes and calls her a cry baby and says to get out of her sight.

Question: Should I tell this girl's parents about her tutor's behavior?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:43 PM PST

I have a very young 14 year old friend who has a tutor for math and he is quite strange. First of all, he encourages her to wear revealing clothes (encourages her to wear a crop top and some leggings that make it obvious she has a "booty") and once when her dog was making noises outside the door he told her that if it were a guy knocking on the door at midnight she should drag him into her room and start kissing him laying in bed. He even offered to take her shopping for revealing clothes and asked her if she's planning on getting a boyfriend. Her dad works until midnight and her mom is a model so they're both busy and I don't think she's had the time to tell them yet. He swears a lot and told him that he's bought beer for his ex girlfriend (she tried going further detail like how old his "ex" is) but the thing is he automatically said it doesn't matter so she said she might think his ex girlfriend is still a child and maybe the parents interfered into whatever situation he was previously in with another girl. He is in his 30's or so and offers free babysitting too. I'm a 20 year old young woman and I'm terrified what this man may be doing to young girls because he tutors multiple different kids. I know her parents pretty well and I think the topics he's talking about is going way too far to the point where it involves kissing and how much skin she should show. She's worried that this man may be angry if her parents know because he gets mad easily sometimes too.

Question: Is it normal that my half-sister is asking my father money back when he gave her and never asked for it?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 10:02 PM PST

My half sister was given money that I was supposed to get and my father didn't ask it back as it was needed for her health. I was left stranded as I was in college.With every bit that she helps, he gives her back without a small amount which basically he has to give her back. I am planning on helping him out but I find it idiotic for him to give her back money.

Question: How to get visitation with my kid improved?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:42 PM PST

My kid currently lives with his mom's parents. The court ordered my visits to be Saturdays for 3 hours. I guess this is the minumum I'm entitled to. Granparents relocated and now their house is about 35 miles away from mine. Now, the grandma tells me that she can only do this every other week, bcoz she works a lot and wants to have a stay-home weekend once in a while without havin to drive to meet me. A lot of time they tell me that i can come hang out there, or that they can drop him off in my town but I'd have to bring him there. It just got to the point that i not only see my son 2ce as less now, but a lot of times they want me to bring him to their home 35 miles away from my place. Now, i dont mind meeting at landmark point somewhere in the middle, but i always here their argument reasoning "oh, we not goin to town; u d have to bring him to the house". I dont mind doin it here nd there, but seems like they wanna make it a norm and its not ok with me. It gets aggravating. What should i do. Whats the legal point here. Hit me up with info, links. Its in FLORIDA!

Question: My mom never listens to me?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:34 PM PST

Im a 15 yr old girl. My mom never listens to me anymore and I can never share my side of the story without her denying everything I say. She always guilt trips me and blames me for what she has to do. I've tried to fix my attitude and I've been doing good about it but I mess up one time because I'm stressed about school and she wouldnt stop asking me questions which stressed me out even more and I told her to please stop bc it was a stressful time for me and she flipped out and yelled at me for 10 mi straight about how her life is so hard and I repay her with treating her like crap all the time. She compares me to my friends saying how they never treat their parents like this... etc. and it hurts bc i feel unwanted like she would rather have one of my friends than me... any help?

Question: I'm 20, why does my family keep bothering me about not having a driver's license?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:26 PM PST

a 20 year old guy. I don't have a driver's license and I've never had a permit. I live in rural Indiana and take college classes online. I live at my parents' house and honestly have no place to go. Family members are always telling me how I need to learn to drive and get out more. Constantly all over me for it. I love them, but I want them to leave me alone. Driving is scary for me, and honestly I don't feel ready for the responsibility. And I'm really content and happy with my life as it is now. Why do they do this? And how can I make them stop? Thanks.

Question: My mom and I always fight and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:26 PM PST

Question: Is my mother a bad mother?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:25 PM PST

I don t want to seem like those average 16 year old girls who often disagree with their mother s, however, my mother makes me upset a lot. We don t have that mother-daughter relationship like most girls and their moms. I don t tell her anything because I just don t show it in my best interests and she never asks anyways. The most she asks is "hey how was your day" and once I d answer that, then i d sperate myself. I would think that it s safe to say that she is toxic. She always spreads a negative attitude and always complains about everything. Just recently, I went to her to talk about my feelings, I feel as though I m depressed. She tells me that she "doesn t know what to do because we already saw a psychiatrist" and i told her that i don t want to talk to a psychiatrist, I wanted to talk to her. After all she is my own mother; wouldn t she love to help me through a difficult time? Instead, she says, "well i don t know what to tell you" and so i calmly exit the room. Would you agree that she s not a good mother? I get that some mothers have flaws but I think all good mothers know how to care for their child s feelings. I don t know that s just what i think.

Question: I really miss my grandparents?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 09:17 PM PST

My grandparents came to visit my family in the US fron Mexico after not seeing a them for YEARS (me 14 years, my mom 16 years, some uncles 21 years). This was very exciting so we decided that my grandparents would stay one month with me and my family in Vegas and 1 month in New York with other family. Today marks 1 month since my grandparents came from Mexico, and today was also the day they had to leave to New York. I have never been so emotional in my entire life, I've been crying for hours, and everytime I pass the bedroom they were staying in and seeing it empty makes me break down. Everytime I think about my grandparents saying their tearful goodbyes at the airport, I can't help but cry. I really miss them, and I don't know what to do with empty feeling I've had since they've left. I have school tomorrow, and I don't want to break down during class because I thought about my grandparents. How can I control my emotions? Gosh, I just miss them so much :(

Question: Why do my sister throw things in my face?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:48 PM PST

This type of stuff is the reason why I don't even accept gifts from people. My sister acts as if the things she did for me, I begged her for. The things she did for me, she just felt like it was right, I was a minor (I am still pretty young. I am 17.) My sister is 30, btw. I do not ask people for things, typically. If I do ask someone for something, it's because I absolutely need it. Today I asked my sister if she could start paying me $80 a week (which I think is very low), for burning a cd a week for her (which takes me two days), monitoring her instagram and updating it daily, managing her money and bank account, and shopping for her online. Due to the fact I asked her for these things, she proceeded to bring up what she has done for me. Mind you, all of these things were favors (that I DID NOT ask for). She supposedly did it out of the kindness of her heart, but that's clearly not true. She thinks that just because she did these things, that she's not obligated to pay me. She tried to belittle, bully and disrespect me for asking her to pay. She said that I was "disrespecting" her because I stood up to her. She expected me to allow her to belittle, yell, be sarcastic and make me feel like ****, but when I took up for myself, she called it "disrespect". What's wrong with her?

Question: Was my mother mocking me?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:48 PM PST

Some time ago I was talking to my mother about something that made me very angry and she just kissed my forehead and patted my cheek. When I asked her why she did it she said "Nothing. Just thought you were angry." while smirking. I didn't think much about it now but a couple of days later I remembered that and wondered whether she was mocking me. I can't ask my mother because she has the habit of "forgetting" things she does that make me angry so that I can't confront her.

Question: How do I convince my mom to let me stay home tomorrow?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:48 PM PST

I just really don t want to go. I have a field trip tomorrow so I wouldn t be learning anything anyway.

Question: I have been called black sheep and golden child? What am i?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:11 PM PST

So when i was younger my step dad got his palm read by a complete pro, and she said "you have kids right? And his like yeah and she like you have 3 of your own right? He like yes, then she goes wait theres more... and she noticed my mum has kids too and he lol wow yeah and she like the youngest is the golden child and she discribed me and all And 2 years ago i had a bad experience with drugs, i saw somthing terrifying and at the end of the day, god came to me, and the guy that was helping me through this says 'you are the black sheep!! Congradulations!! And i was like um ok is that good? But i dint remember what he said haha Anyway i just dont know... like is the black sheep good?? Like you different frim your family, in a good way??? Orrrr??? Ugh idk what do u think?

Question: I hate my twin brother. What do I do?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:09 PM PST

I'm 14 (male) and I have a twin brother (14 as well) who is annoying as hell can allow. Hear me out first. I love him so much. He means the world to me, but sometimes I want to just strangle him. 1. He is in the highest level of Art Class and rubs it into my face even though I'm in the Varsity Band for my school and ranked #1 whole band. I don't rub it in his face. He tells me how art is feelings, paint, etc., all put onto a page. Bull crap. It may be what he says it is but not to me. He criticizes band for being boring and just a mixture of sound. No matter what I tell him he just ignores me. Band (to me) is a mixture of sound (as he said), but it forms a bigger sound which is played in unity. I'm a percussionist by the way! 2. Every time he gets an A on any test, he will show it to our parents. Here's how it works. Level One: Advanced Classes On-Level: Regular Classes. He is in Math, On-Level U.S. History, and Level-One Language Arts and Science. I'm in Algebra, and the rest is Level One classes. He normally shows our parents his math tests and whenever I pull out one of my test while he is showing our parents his tests, he thinks I'm one-upping him and gets all hissy. 3.Everytime he feels something is unfair, he'll tell me to go away and acts like its a huge deal that I won't go away, and when I leave he'll talk to my mom in "private". So I can't know what they're talking about. How do I cope? (I cut half of the details as it was too long)

Question: My sister's abusive relationship with her boyfriend?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:07 PM PST

Okay so this does have an impact on my life if it has been going on for years. My sister has three kids all under the age of 6. and she (and her boyfriend) lives with our parents for the last 5 years. I hadn't had to deal with it lately but the first few years it was bad. I don't know how she puts up with him. He used to smoke weed and do injections (those were the bad years). As of now, he smokes and drinks. You can tell she has fear and she doesn't want to leave him. She'll flatter him and say how much of a great dad/boyfriend he is. Anyways today, I heard the oldest son crying and he had slam the door the kids to get out. He was yelling at my sister asking if she's been talking to another guy because how she is on her phone a lot. He ended up hitting her for no reason even when she said no. I know my sister is bad at parenting but she wouldn't cheat. Well the father ends up letting the kids in the room. Minutes later I hear a loud noise coming from their room and the son crying really loud. The son said, "Don't do that to Mommy". He is throwing my sisters stuff and hitting her. It's been an hour and the son is still crying. My parents don't do anything (I was abused as a child by my father and my mother never really do anything). She won't leave him and me and my other sisters offer to help her. It's also effecting me and I fear to even be in a relationship. Last time we called the cops but it turned into an argument with my sister and my dad. What to do?

Question: Should I Drop My Sister?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 08:01 PM PST

My sister is 2 years younger than me. We used to be close but then we moved and she started going to a ghetto school. She's always acting ratchet and now calling me a hoe and all this stuff. She thinks i want to sabotage her.. All the time, i offer her some food. She then says i probably poisoned her and i want her dead. Etc.... One time we were talking and she said she knows i dont want her to succeed in life. I actually want to see her succeed, without a doubt... Shes not as bright as me or the youngest, our brother, and i want her to rise up and pass us. I want to just drop her as my sister all together, cause this negative energy hurts. But, i dont want to because shes still a human being afterall.

Question: Is there any way I can leave my parents home while I'm 17 years old?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 07:59 PM PST

I am so tired of this family except for my mom, grandma, and siblings . They can't get along at all, always keeping up arguments, spreading lies, and taking up for their kids when they know they're doing wrong. This is so stress I can't take it anymore!!! And besides all my mother care about is Facebook!!! Facebook!!! Facebook!!! Also my grandmother doesn't care anything about her house. She lets her grandkids sell and smoke weed all they want. She always says that she gonna talk to them but never do. They stay up in her house without paying any bills...lights off...water off. ..cable off they gone. But once it's all cut back on they show back up messing up our house again and again and its stressful. I can't do this no more. I love my fam and all but I gots to go like NOW!!! Too much stress and way too sad

Question: Why is my older brother so annoying?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 07:50 PM PST

Hi! So I'm 12, 13 this month, and my older brother is 18. Lately he's been really annoying and if I tell him to stop or don't do what he wants me to, he hits me or punches me and he also does this to my parents. if I do anything bad to him it results in a punch. He also criticizes everything I like. If there's a famous girl I like, she's lesbian, if there's a famous band or guy I like they're gay apparently but it's only the people that I like. Also, if I'm in a room playing my wii, he will tells to get out and if I don't he'I'll hurt me until I do. Some names I've been called are nerd, whore, 4 eyes, *****, etc. Why is he so annoying, and what do I do about it? Thanks :)

Question: How do I get over the sorrow and diffiuclty of a broken family at Christmas?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:59 PM PST

My Mom and her family broke up. We are the only ones in her family not participating in Christmas. I feel so sad. This has been true since 2012. Each Christmas it is such a painful reminder that we are the only ones not good enough to participate. By we I mean my parents, siblings, and I. My Mom resents she was abused as a kid by a family friend and her mother did not protect her more. I understand my mother's hurt but they are still family and the abuser is not related and is dead now. I feel like we are missing out on a family and it hurts so much here at Christmas, how do I survive this the next month? Immediate family doesn't mean anything because I see them weekly. I feel like most people I know get to see their grandparents, aunts, and uncles, and cousins except me. Plus everyone lives nearby where I do. My Dad's parents we see but he has no siblings or nieces or nephews (his only sibling died as a kid).

Question: My mother will not apologize for hurting me as a kid. However, she does not do it anymore. How can I heal from her abuse?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:54 PM PST

She has shown no remorse but has stopped doing it now that I am older. The abuse was emotional and not physical.

Question: Was I Sexually Assaulted or Sexually Harrassed? Or neither?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:51 PM PST

So I was young when this happened and I have no idea how old I was was but I remember how old he was maybe 10 or 11. All I know was younger than him (he's also my nephew.) So years ago I was visiting my hometown and we had to stay at my uncles house (my uncle and cousin got married, I'm not sure what part of the family my cousin is but she's my cousin and my nephew was my uncles stepson.) Anyways I had to stay in this house for a week, but my nephew was getting way too friendly... When I got a bloody nose he followed me, since there was no door on the bathroom just a curtain he just walked in. I was caught off guard and he pulled the rim of my sweat pants towards him (he wanted to see... well yeah I think you get it) But he didn't grab my underwear with it so all he saw was my underwear. I pushed him and I went to find my mom when I did I told her what happened and she told me to wait (since she was talking a shower and she didn't want me to get hurt or touched inappropriately.) A day or two passed and for some reason I went to his room ALONE. I laid down on his bed with his Gameboy and he then took the Gameboy out of my hands and got on top of me, he gave me this look, then I felt his hands go underneath my clothes... his mom came in and he quickly got off of me like nothing happened. He told his mom that he was "tickling me" but if you he was tickling he wouldn't be ashamed to get off of me... ALSO! His actions said something else.

Question: How to find my husband father?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:47 PM PST

Question: Was I sexually harassed or sexually assaulted? Or none?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:37 PM PST

Okay I don t remember how old I was I was young. But I remember I was visiting my cousin and my favorite cousin at the time and my uncle and my nephew. (My uncle and cousin are married I think she s part of another family that isn t my dads side of the family) but when I was staying there my nephew was being a little too friendly for my liking. And if I m right he was 10 or 11 at the time he was much older than I was. Anyways there was a day when I got a bloddy nose and I went to the bathroom to get toilet paper, he followed me into the bathroom (there was no door just a curtain) and he asked what happened and I told him, and I was caught off guard and he pulled the top of my sweat towards him, I m sure he wanted to see something else.... but I had underwear on and that s lo he saw. I pushed him away and I ran to find my mom (who was taking a shower) she knew how my nephew is with me and I just stayed there and waited. Another day went by and I was with my nephew, I went to his bedroom and he close down the door (he lock it) he gave me his Gameboy to play on, then he took it out of hands and he got on top of me since I was laying down, if his mom didn t walk in I wouldn t know what would ve happened. He said he was tickling me... but his look said something else, I was actually scared at that moment and I left to find my mom. So I don t know what this would be called.

Question: Sometimes I get really annoyed with my grandparents?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:22 PM PST

So im 23 years old and i made some really stupid decisions, nothing illegal but i basically wasted 3 years of my life from 18 to 21 just partying and stuff. I went back to school when I was 21 and moved in with my grand parents because I couldn't afford to live alone and pay for school. I am really appreciate and am grateful for them I mean they are pretty well off and i don't pay rent or anything. But sometimes i just get so frustrated, like my grandpa will barge into my room and ask what time do you work tomorrow, will you come home for lunch, and he goes on and on and on and i can't stand it. Or they always ask me if i ate breakfast and how come i dont eat before i leave, and they start lecturing me about not eating. I just want to tell them to shut up

Question: Is it weird I hang out with my younger cousin?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:18 PM PST

I'm 26 and my cousin is 18 and we're like besties.. but sometimes I forget she's 18.. Is it weird we hang out like best friends but she's much younger than me?

Question: How do I tell my dad that my brother and I are moving back in with my mom? Long read, but I really need advice...?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:16 PM PST

In January, I moved out of my mom's house(I go every weekend to visit her) to live with my dad. I only did this because the high school where my dad lives was better than the one where my mom lives. I've been here since then. I finished sophomore year there, and I'm nearly finished with the first semester of my junior year now. Recently, though, I've really been missing my mom and my sisters who still live there. My brother came to live with my dad when he was in 5th grade, he's in 8th now. He had no intention of leaving. And neither did I, really, I just was missing my mom and my friends that live there. The next day, my aunt(my dad lives with my aunt and so do we) told me that she was fed up with my dad not working. He never cleans up after himself and he lies about everything. My aunt feels like it is not a good example for me and my brother, and she is absolutely right about that. She wants to sell her house and move away, which would probably cause my dad to move in with my grandma. This would mean that my brother and I would both have to go back to my mom's house. This is fine for me. And my brother has accepted it as well. However, I have no idea how I'm going to tell my dad. He knows that my aunt is planning on moving out eventually, and somehow he thinks he'll have his act together by then. But he doesn't even have a job right now, and he's made promises like this in the past, so I know that's not going to happen. I don't want to hurt his feelings, how do I tell him?

Question: My mom is threatening to force me to not be goth and being in the goth subculture is the only thing that makes me happy?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:11 PM PST

Question: What do you think of my idea for Home Alone 6?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 06:09 PM PST

Kevin now has a family of his own he has a daughter. Buzz Megan Jeff and Lennie also have kids of Their Own. And just like that his mom and dad before him Kevin accidentally leaves his daughter behind on their way to Chicago to meet Mom and Dad for Christmas. Had the wet Bandits after serving a prison after serving a 25-year sentence. But this time they have a little extra help it's Its Harry Lime and Marv and Vera Merchant and 2 extra thugs they met in prison and I decide to rob the house however they're in for a little holiday treat

Question: I'm running away to Canada with my grandma?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 05:49 PM PST

We live in Oregon I'm 15 years old. My parents are mentally abusing there always telling me how much of a disappointment I am. I got a ticket in Sandy OR so I'm going to tell them after we appear. There going to call me a disappointment your grounded so I'm going to go to school the next day then I am going to drive and pick up my grandma and we're going to go to Canada. Until things cool off in school. I want to know if there are any flaws in Thisbe plan thanks

Question: I'm the only girl who goes through that?

Posted: 01 Dec 2016 05:42 PM PST

I'm a girl, I'm 10 years old. I never received any affection from my father, he never gave me affectionate nicknames. She never called me "princess, my love, my angel, my sweetheart" he never carried me on his lap and gave me affection or told me a story to sleep with. But he also lives in a good mood and never mistreated me, my mother is very affectionate, she carries me on her lap, covers me with kisses and sleeps with me. But I'm the only girl here who has a more serious father and a loving mother? I expected my father's affection for being a daughter, not a mother, for being a daughter. Never saw me as Daddy's little princess or daddy's girl.