Family: Question: Can I kick my child with down syndrome out of the house at 18?

Question: Can I kick my child with down syndrome out of the house at 18?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 01:38 PM PST

Question: Coming home every weekend during college?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 01:19 PM PST

I'm going to be going to college next year. I'm very close with my family, but I'm closest with my sister. Growing up her and I would always go to our high schools football games every Friday night. It was something fun to do together. She is very upset that I won't be able to do that in college. She has depression and told me that going to the football games with me is one thing she looked forward to during the week. Would it be stupid to drive home from school every Friday to go to the football games with her? I will miss going as well.

Question: No privacy at home? It is feasible to move out?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 01:11 PM PST

I am currently 18, about to turn 19. Recently, my mother has moved my sibling into my room at home (a small room), which is a bit annoying in itself, but the issue is, I cannot sleep at night. I already asked if I could simply sleep in another room, and my mother said, "no". In addition, I attempted to reason with her, but my mother is an exceptionally close-minded person. Currently, I have no privacy at home, and I cannot sleep at night with my sibling sharing the same bed with me (I do horribly with roommates in the same room, especially considering just how introverted I am). It is genuinely starting to affect my energy levels throughout the day. The issue with moving out, however, is that I am currently also attending a rather expensive college in an engineering degree. I do not really have time for a job at the moment (though I am considering switching to another type of engineering), meaning there is no efficient way for me to pay rent on an apartment, nor can I acquire credit. Additionally, I would be looking at a variety of other bills, possibly insurance, and regular trips on shopping. I plan to self-employ once I get out of college, but that is still several years away, and I am struggling to simply get a night's sleep on my first year. Any advice on any paths I could take which might resolve the problem? Being an introvert, I fundamentally cannot function without a certain degree of privacy throughout the day (and especially the night).

Question: My mother's cousin is divorced and goes around with women (plural). Is this disgusting and if so why does she like him?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:55 PM PST

She has another cousin who is an honest, religious, husband and great man who she dislikes because he has bad social skills due to ADHD. Yet she likes this womanizer cousin.

Question: Can you anonymously call social services?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:54 PM PST

I have a nephew who is 15 and his girlfriend is 15, and they have a child who is 5 weeks old. Their daughter is not taken care of properly by them, and they don't even try to take care of her properly. They always stay at the boy's parents' house or the girls' (because they're under age and can't live alone, obviously). But they show up to whatever house they're staying at and drop their daughter off with the grandparents and then go lock themselves in his room or her room depending on So I'm wondering if I can call social services to report my nephew and his girlfriend without them knowing it was me. Now don't get me wrong, I love that little girl and I will call social services regardless, but I'd rather keep the collateral damage to a minimum and call anonymously. The daughter regularly comes back to his parent's in the same clothes that she had on 3 days ago and covered in her own puke. Then they just dump her on someone else to take care of. So I want to know if I can call and have her taken away because they don't try to act like parents and obviously shouldn't be.

Question: Each time I've tried to raise issues I find concerning to my father, he always dismissed me or yells until I'm silent?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:54 PM PST

yet doesn't understand why I don't speak to him - where's the disconnect?

Question: My Christian family is making me uncomfortable and I'm not sure what to do?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:53 PM PST

I feel in order to explain my situation, I must explain my beliefs. I believe in a God, and I believe that the path to this God can be different for each individual on this Earth. Christianity says that Jesus is the only way, and I agree with this -- HOWEVER, I differ from my family on this point. THE WAY of Jesus, to me, is not a set of beliefs about him, but what He taught about love, compassion, and so forth. And, many religions encompass these very values. I suppose that you could say my personal 'Christian' title is out of respect for my family and tradition. I don't consider myself theistic (in the sense of an all-powerful being who interacts with this universe) or atheistic (though many Christians would probably be quick to label me this way). If you've ever read Marcus Borg or Karen Armstrong, I consider myself on the same spiritual path as them. Enough of me, now -- as for my family-- they are complete fundamentalists and Bible literal-ists. I love them with all of my heart, and I've been trying so hard for so long to show them compassion, and I feel that I have. However, I feel that they get more hateful toward the world and outsiders (people who are different from them) each day. While I love them, it hurts to be around them when they're showing off these qualities. I have a year and a half left before I'm able to leave for college. Any tips for me to somehow make it through this?

Question: WOULD THIS BE PHYSICAL ABUSE?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:50 PM PST

Today my cousin who is fourteen wanted to go to her dads job for some event that's going on, so anyways. She had her breakfast and she as well made herself some hot chocolate to drink with, after it was the time to leave it was late and her father blamed it on her for having I'm being late for work because she was taking so long to finish her breakfast (when in the meanwhile, he was getting dressed). She said to him that she also made her self hot chocolate because she though that was the reason why it took a lot if time t leave the hot etc. the father though she was having an attitude so he ran up to her, kept slapping her, and pushed her against the wall, which she hit her head on, and fell on the floor. And on top of that he still kept hitting her and threatened to get the belt to hit her....would you call this another form of discipline when she's at the age of understanding? Or abuse?? Sorry there's a lot of typos but I hope you guys understand tho. Plus, the father ALWAYS believes he's rightful anything, including the "punishment" he gave to her....

Question: My Mom said my Dad does not love me even if he likes me. She said my step-Dad is the one who loves me. How do I know if this is true?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:45 PM PST

I don't want to ask my Dad as it might upset him or he might think I have something against him. My Mom always makes him sound scary and like he doesn't want to me close but I like him and see him once a month. Parents divorced when I was only 2. So how do I know if this is true or if she is just saying it because she doesn't like my Dad. She's also mad I am seeing him Christmas Day instead of waiting until New Years like past years. He's coming to get us for lunch on Christmas at my request. She re-emphasized that our step-Dad is the one who loves us.

Question: Am I a bad mother? How can I forgive myself? Do I deserve to?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:45 PM PST

I was a drug addict as a teen (not just weed, I did coke and pills too). I wnt from being a perfectionist, to hanging out with a bunch of 20 year old drug addicts, and becoming one myself, and ended up getting pregnant at 17 with one of them (not sure which, and don't care). My mother tried to force me into abortion, deeming me too young, and that my ways would harm the baby. I dropped out of high school, and ran away. I came back once every 2-3 Christmas's with my daughter, just for 2 days before and 2 days after Christmas. I had dropped all drugs from the minute I left town. My dad passed in February, and I decided that my daughter and I should move home. She is now 15. I ended up meeting up with some old friends, and well, lets just say my life went right back down hill. My daughter expressed to me over and over how worried she was, and I just ignored her and told her everything was alright. I noticed she was losing weight, but I was so caught up in my own world to put the pieces together. My mother kept telling me something wasn't right, but I ignored her. My daughter's best friend's mother even told me that she seemed off, but I ignored her too. My daughter collapsed at school on October 24th. I got called and rushed to the hospital. I got told that she had been starving herself. She didn't make it. I feel completely responsible. I don't deserve to live! If I had been her mother instead of a relapsed drug addict she would still be here! What am I supposed to do?

Question: My uncle who is an alcoholic died. He hadn't seen us in years. What should I say when I see his kids he was also estranged from?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:41 PM PST

Three of his five kids are attending his funeral Tuesday. He was mostly out of their lives. His first two kids form his 1st marriage are not coming (he hadn't seen them since they were 5 and 8 I am told and I've never met them). I knew the 3 kids from his 2nd marriage as it was in my lifetime. He saw them two times in 13 years so they were not close.

Question: Why am i an asshole do i need to change?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:31 PM PST

This has to do with my crazy girl. To start of i knew what i was getting into when i started talking to her i guess the crazyness seemed attractive then but since she found out i slept with her twin and her other sister she started threatening to cut my member off if i didnt stop but its not like it was my fault her sisters are complete skanks and even her mom wants a piece of me and i dont even know why? im the ugliest mf youll ever see anyways i just told her that its her fault because she wasnt too much of a woman to handle me the only reason im with her is to spite her dad that keeps threatening to kill me since last time i had dinner at my girls house i kept complaining the soup was to f salty and they wouldnt let me drink another brew because i was already too "drunk" i know my limits so we got in a fight. Im supposed to go to my girls moms house because she wanted to have some drinks while her husband was at work i cant help but know im doing wrong and possibly destroying their whole family just for my own amusement whats wrong with me. Now my girl is saying shes pregnant and i dont know if its even my child ive slept with countless of her "friends" now she says she wants to marry me and if i dont accept shell send me to the maury show and put child support on me im barley 20 & terryfied of being tied down raising a little monster who'll eventually turn out like me im thinking of dissapearing like my fam but want to somehow do right but i know i'll just mess up. HELP?

Question: Is keeping a part time minimum wage job worth it/possible with a newborn baby?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:16 PM PST

I'm pregnant and work 28 hours a week at minimum wage...I make $600-700 a month. I have been reading the prices of day care and by the looks of it, paying someone to watch my child while I work will cost the same as me staying home and watching her myself. I don't know if there's any benefit. We are in California and everything is so expensive..my boyfriend and I don't make a lot and don't know what we are going to do. Would trying to keep my job even be worth it at that price?

Question: My sister's white boyfriend bullies me because he's stronger than me, but my family doesn't care. Is any of it my fault?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:05 PM PST

I'm a 19-year old boy, living in Shanghai. My sister's 17, in her first year at university. There's a white American boy studying there (same age as her), and for the past six weeks or so, she's been dating him. He's a soccer player, kind of muscular and a good-looking guy. He's often over at our house and our parents love him, but I don't think he respects me. Even though I'm older than him, he treats me like I'm a child. Instead of shaking my hand as a greeting, he'll ruffle my hair and give my face a little slap. Sometimes, in my own house, he'll just snap his fingers and say 'Go get me a glass of water!' and make me do it. Yesterday he was getting late for a presentation after he had stayed over, and he'd told me to iron his shirt. He was in a hurry and it felt more like an order, so I was scared to say no. But in my rush, I burnt a big hole in the shirt. As soon as he saw it, he came over to me, and, in front of my sister AND my mother, he gave me a hard, stinging slap across the face. I felt so humiliated in front of them, and hitting someone's face is extremely taboo in Chinese culture. But my sister supported him, maybe because she thinks I've bullied her in the past, and my mother said 'You know what, telling you gently would never have worked. Now you won't forget, will you?' I can't fight him because he's stronger, but it's pretty hard to be treated like that by a younger boy who everyone else loves. Is it my fault?

Question: Am I being taken advantage of, and how do I handle it, if I am?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:04 PM PST

OK, so this will be a bit long. I have been living with my best friend for a little over a year and a half. Two May s ago, her car broke down and since she was working out of town (I work in town) I offered to giver her rides until she could get it fixed. Well, it s now been a year and a half and I m fed up. Everytime I asked her about it, she would give me an excuse like not enough money, it s got a flat, it won t start etc. This past September when I asked her she got really angry and said she was just selling it to her Grandma. On top of this, she got a different position in town a few months ago that s a 20 minute walk and 10 minute bike ride from out house. She STILL keeps expecting rides and the icing on the cake is I m now 7 1/2 months pregnant and she thinks she will still get rides a week after I have my son. She keeps using her hemoplegic cerebral palsy or some ailment as an excuse and won t use public transportation (our buses are free) because of "pride." I get that it s December, I get that it s cold and she s disabled, but how can she still be completely OK with being so dependent on me? What the heck is going on here?

Question: My parents enable my sister when she is a brat. They correct her and then give her what she wants. Is this out of love?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:03 PM PST

My sister has never learned and is a brat (she is 25 going on 11). However, my parents (especially my mother) made her this way by never enforcing rules. So is it out of love when one enables or is it just laziness? If she calls demanding something in an ungrateful way they correct her and then still give it to her. She is a mean human.

Question: How does my friend and her family stay so skinny when they eat fried chicken like 3 times a week?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:03 PM PST

her mom makes it all the time. she even packs it for her and her brothers lunch boxes. her, her mom and 15 yr old brother are like sticks. her dad has a tiny beer gut. theyre not active. the dad is because of his job but the mom isnt because she stays home. i dont get it! im jealous.

Question: I feel awkward talking on the phone, even to my family!!?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 11:48 AM PST

I just spoke to my grandad, he's doing me a favour and getting shelving cut for me to the right size and sorting it out all for me. I just spoke to him and gave him the details like how much I am willing to pay up to etc. But I talk weird on the phone and I almost felt like I am giving the impression I am talking to a stranger when I am fairly close to my grandad and see him every couple weeks!! I felt like I gave the impression I am talking to a shop keeper getting me something, I know it sounds strange. But I suck at showing appreciation in my voice, I said thanks for doing that and thanks in a tone like i'm saying thanks to a shop keeper!! It sucks, is anyone else the same or similar and how on earth can I act natural on the phone, it's weird in person I am much more comfortable talking to him. I feel sad because I don't want him to think I am ungrateful. I almost felt it in his response in his voice that he knew I was talking differently on the phone, it's weird, hard to explain. Also my nan answered first and I felt uncomfortable even though I am very comfortable talking to her in real life! I felt like my responses were different and un natural / forced.

Question: My dad passed away and had firearms in his name. That was two years ago.?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 11:46 AM PST

How does it work with transferring the titles over to his wife and myself? I live in Michigan... I don't understand the full logistics of the titles and having it registered. My dad never transferred any of them over to my mom or myself and I don't know if it will be a difficult process since h is dead. Any help would be awesome

Question: My brother posted a semi-nude photo of his girlfriend on Twitter. Did I do the right thing by telling on him?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 11:44 AM PST

He is an adult as is the girlfriend but he has no class. He is 24 and goes through girls like I do socks. He is immoral about any values our parents taught us (and were not like strict bible belters or anything). His moral life is offensive. So did I do the right thing by telling on him or am I being immature by this? I am 29 and a girl.

Question: My parents are too selfish to help me manage my Christmas anxiety, how do I find symapthy?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 11:41 AM PST

I get anxious about things right but can't tell my parents anymore because they are too selfish to sympathize. As a kid they were focused on getting back those they had grudges against and now they just don't care to help me and they still have some grudges (my Mom does and my Dad just enables it).

Question: My cousin has an embarrasing video of me?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 11:24 AM PST

He toke my sisters phone and sent a video to him on whatsapp (the video was already stored on my sisters phone) and the video doesn't contain anything inappropriate but it's embarrassing because I was doing these ugly faces and stuff. My cousin and I aren't really close, and don't really like each other. So shall I be worried if he has the video? He sent it to me on whatsapp with laughing emojis and I was like hahahaha wtf. We're both guys btw. I'm going to take his phone and delete it once I see him. But shall I be worried for now or what?

Question: Should I demand to keep the watch?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 11:21 AM PST

So I m 17 and my sister is 22. She doesn t have a job but she lives with my grandmother and has no bills. She gets a monthly check for having been in the national guard. So as a early graduation gift she bought me a $600 watch. I showed my aunt who I live with and she immediately claimed that my sister could not afford thE watch and demanded that it be sent back then called my sister and told her she was sending it back but never asked me. I feel she is overstepping her bounds. It s my property and honestly she wouldn t be adamantly claiming that it must be sent back if it had been given to someone else. Should I fight this or is it not worth the argument?

Question: Is my dad a jerk and how do i deal with it?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 11:07 AM PST

I feel as a kid my dad never has time for me. He seems that he was wants to be alone. We hardly never talk to. Well I come back from school all he tells me is "there's the food" and never talks to me for the rest of the day. When he gets drunk he calls me useless, dumbass, weak, loser and other things I just get mad or lock myself in my room and cry sometimes. Later he never apologizes for all the things he said. He never spends quality time with me and is always lazy so I mostly do all the cleaning in the house. He fights with my mom often when he's drunk. He seems to only like my little sister and puts all his attention to her. I feel that he doesn't want me as a son. I do like him at all he's bought me down so much. I try to ignored it so I can finish school then find a job and move out. Once like a month ago he left the house cuz he got into a argument with my mom and said goodbye to my little sister and my mom but not me. He came back later cuz his a loser. But yeah I just wanted to know your guys opinions thank you for listening :)

Question: Do you think it is weird to hug a family member once you get older?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 10:55 AM PST

I understand when a young kid does it to a close relative like an aunt or uncle or their parents, but once you get older regardless of the fact that it is platonic, it just feels weird, i think hugging is something that is romantic, but the only exception is hugging your niece or nephew back because they don't find it awkward.

Question: My mother always pisses on my parade?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 10:25 AM PST

If I want to buy something online she'll say I don't want you buying that because that website could be a scam, If i add a friend on Facebook she'll give me **** saying are you sure he's not a psycho stalker?? Also if I'm out with my friends she'll call me 100 times and won't leave me alone. Also when I went to get a tattoo I never heard the end of it. I feel resentment when I'm around her because I feel like I can't be myself when I'm around her I can only be myself when I'm around my dad because my dad treats me like an adult and my mother still babies me. Help?

Question: (Details in description) Is what he said true? Is it normal for a parent(s) to think/say that? Should he even of said that to me?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 10:07 AM PST

Okay, so basically I told my dad that I feel unloved when I don't meet his standards and his response was way different from what I expected. He replied by saying this (in my face), "Yeah, because kids are only born so the parents have something to brag about ." I guess it just kinda hurt, because a small part of me was hoping my dad would say he always loves me. But instead he indirectly confirmed that he only loves me based on my achievements... Like how am I suppose to live my life when I also have to meet my dads exceptions in order for him to love me?

Question: Someone in my house stole $100 cash from my wallet and everyone is acting like it doesn t matter?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 10:04 AM PST

I hardly carry cash anymore but I had $100 in my wallet for several weeks simply because I hadn t gotten around to going to the bank yet. I keep my wallet in a fairly discreet location and I thought I trusted my family. No longer. I live with my Mom, older brother, younger brother, and younger sister. My prime suspects are my Mom (known to lie/steal) and younger brother (7th grade and would steal if he wanted to). So one day I was going to the bank and checked my wallet. Sure enough, the $100 vanished. I searched high and low, nothing. I brought it up to everybody and nobody cared. Everybody denied, and slowly the topic went away. I am furious that these people I call my blood are thieves without a conscious. If you need money, ask for it nicely!

Question: Does my brother and sister have a good argument?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:59 AM PST

I have a sister and a brother. When all 3 of us graduated from high school, mom and dad told us they would pay for any addition schooling we wanted. I chose to go to college. My sister chose to go to beauty school which mom and dad paid for and my brother chose not to get any additional schooling and immediately get a job. It is now 10 years later and at family gatherings we have this disagreement. My brother and sister want mom and dad to give them an equal amount of money they spent paying my way to college. Mom and dad refuse. They say they gave us a choice and we have to live with the choice we made. My brother and sister's latest argument is that I should give them the amount of money mom and dad spent on my college education because I am now very successful and I can afford it. I am not inclined to do that. Do my brother and sister have a valid argument?

Question: I heard my stepmom smokes. My older sister who is 13 has juvenile arthritis. Can my sister be around my step mom? Can it hurt my sister?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:56 AM PST

Question: IS IT NORMAL FOR TEENAGERS TO HURT THEIR OWN PARENTS?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:52 AM PST

My teenage son has this problem where he would physically hurt me( his mom) and even his dad would he gets mad. He would literally throw things at us, kick us, and punch us. He even threatened to kill us! Is this normal?! I know teenage boys can be rough, but is it normal?! He's a sweet kid at times. It's just that when he's angry, he isn't. He does very well in school. He has a 4.0 GPA, never misses a day a school, and has won the Citizenship Award multiple times.

Question: Why did he lie and what should I do?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:51 AM PST

So my husband has promised me he would quit smoking. We both agreed that if he cared about our relationship he would stop and put our family first. My worst fear is that he ends up with cancer or something life threatening. I understand nobody lives forever but I love him so much and want to spend a full healthy life with him. We woke up this morning and everything seemed fine. The house smelled normal. I took my dog out for a walk and I think he thought I was going to be gone for a while because when I came back only minutes later our door was locked which it never is and it took him forever to open the door. Well when I walked in the whole house smell like burning paper and cigarette smoke. I walked next to the bathroom it smelt strongly of smoke. I confronted him about taking forever to open the door he said he was cleaning the bathroom. I asked him what happened to the whole cigarette pack I hid from him he said he didn t know. I know exactly where I put it and it s not there. I searched everywhere and didn t find them. So I asked him again and he got mad and said he s not going to be treated like this and left for his moms. He probably won t be back for 3 days or so. I just have a feeling he s lying to me but I don t want to believe it. I tried to follow him outside but he ran off across the street and started walking to his mom s. I don t know what to do. I feel sick and betrayed. He s never lied to me before.

Question: Is there anyway to move out at the age of 15?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:34 AM PST

I'm 15 and I still have six months until I can legally move out with my mom's consent. but I don't think I can wait that long my mom is rude to me all the time and acts like she can't not stand me, I think it's because I'm not mulism (she's mulism ). I just want to leave so that I can be happy and not get told I'm useless everyday of my life. I understand the Responsibilities of living on my own...

Question: Know-it-all father?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:24 AM PST

My dad assumes he knows everything. I understand that he is an extremely smart person and he has more life experience but that's not what annoys me. Whenever I try to propose reasoning to a question or something that I believe to be true his temper gets the better of him. He does the "no, you're wrong" and "I'm older so I know better". There are some topics that I believe that I am more knowledgeable on. An example is sneakers, I am something of a sneakerhead so I am familiar with how to clean off shoes. I have a cheap pair of Nikes that I am going to throw in the washer, covered in a delicates bag to remove mud stains stuck in the shoes. Once they are clean I was going to hang them off the dryer door with the shoe laces but my dad says that is stupid. He went on a rant about how running shoes are made to air out fast and if the shoe lace slips the dryer is ******. I'm the one who has both book and street smarts when it comes to shoes, not him. I can handle simple arguments, but when I am presenting my facts in an orderly and respectful manner, his temper is too much to deal with.

Question: Why does this babysitter think she is important and entitled?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:18 AM PST

I work from home. I am 40, I need a babysitter to watch my 2 year old, 8 year old and 16 year old 14 hours each day 6 days a week. I found this 17 year old online and she has great babysitting reviews I contacted her and told her "Look I need someone from 8 am until 10pm Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday." She replied back "I might be interested. For babysitting I normally charge $9.00 an hour, but since you're a bit further from where I live, and because of transportation money, I could do that for $13 an hour 6 days a week." This is what I replied back to her. "Listen, I don't want to pay someone more than $250 a week for this. You're being rude asking me for $13 an hour what are you some kind of king or queen? I don't pay people $13 an hour I AM ONLY paying you $250 a week! Now please get back with me, I need someone to start tomorrow." She said to me "No thanks. Your reply was very uncalled for." I haven't replied back to her yet. What should I say why was she rude to me? $250 for 72 hours of work is enough money! I am also a neat freak, I told her and I have not let any of my old babysitters do this either. I told her since I need her as a sitter, she cannot bring any breakfast/lunch/dinner with her that requires to stay in the fridge until she eats or that requires a microwave or oven. She called me bat **** crazy. why is she rude? I also asked her if she would clean as well and she said "heck no! not for $250 and for babysitting

Question: What can I do to get attention from my mom?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:15 AM PST

My mother pays attention to my siblings more than me. I am the oldest, but she thinks that because the little ones are youngest and have to go back and forth from their dads to her once a year or so that they don't get enough attention. She thinks that because my sister is the middle child, she gets the least attention. SHE GETS THE MOST! Whenever I try to talk to my mom, she is on her phone texting and on buzzfeed and doesn't even notice I am there, and when she does, she yells at me for no reason! I just want my mom to love me as much as she loves the others. I feel unloved and hated.

Question: Mom won't talk to me?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 09:12 AM PST

The day of my graduation she said that she was afraid of how I would do on my own, because I still act like I'm 7 (I'm very sensitive, that's all). Then today I wasn't in the best mood, and she asked me why I was always like this, and I told her maybe it's because she always finds a way to crfiticize me in casual conversations. She got mad and said "well then maybe I'm not going to talk to you at all, go talk to your friends" and it's been 2 days, she doesn't even reply when I say good morning. I'm tired of all this, what can I do to get over her menopausic behavior?

Question: My Dad won't see me for Christmas and it really hurts. How do I get over this hurt?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:59 AM PST

It hurts especially because my Mom gloats in it like "told you he was bad". I feel sad and like the holiday is empty without both sides of the family. I don't get to see his family either. He will see me next in spring. How do I get over this hurt so my Christmas isn't depressing like it was last year when he did this? He lives only one hour away so it is not like travel is a factor.

Question: Is my mom verbally abusive?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:53 AM PST

Listen, I'm not here to complain about my mother and this might be ironic, but I need opinions. ever since I was a little girl my moms called me names if I left things behind pig etc. Shed go physcotic and just scream. She'd come barge in my room and throw **** so I could clean my stuff like that invading my privacy which I understand back then when I was younger I didn't really have privacy and now I'm 18 and she still does the same . My moms always told me that the only reason she's with my dad is to make me happy, she constantly blames me for why my dad and her argue, and tells me I'm worthless all the time. She calls me her devil child and tells me I'll never find a boyfriend. She calls me weird and most of the time when I try to give her a hug she's distant. Im the only child btw. I'm a humble person, I want to become a plastic surgeon and I hope to change the world. It's hard for me because I'm constantly put down, she's self-centered and if things don't go her way they are wrong. She's narcissistic, yet she apologizes and crys to make me look like the victim when she says something hurtful. She knows what to say to make me feel shitty. If I do something wrong she looks at me and calls me something nasty. She's obsessive. Tells me not to leave to college which since I love her so much I am staying to go to college here... but should I move out? I've had depression for years and I don't think I can deal with this anymore..

Question: Is it concerning that boys would be fascinated by this?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:51 AM PST

Is this disturbing that my Son Dillon and his friend are suddenly fixated on our daughter being in her underpants? My son is 10 and his sister Kara is just 7. This moring Dillon and his friend Timmy turned off the animal show that Kara was watching. When she came back in the living room and went to change the channel they argued. Seeing that Kara was in her underpants and tank top that she sleeps in and that she got a spanking afterschool on Friday. Dillon tried to embarrassed her by saying "here comes Dad!!!,,,someone is going to get their panty spanked!" Kara got nervous thinking Daddy was coming so she put her hand behind her to protect her white satin brief. Both boys then laughed at her then Timmy asked about how she looked getting spanked. He liked her underpants? Dillon told his friend details of how it looks when Dad spanked Kara flat across his lap. "Dad spanks slow but you hear each time he smacks her on the panty". This embarass Kara so I yelled at the boys. Is this harmful or typical that they act this way with Kara?

Question: What to do about an angry 8 y/o?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:50 AM PST

When my little brother gets angry it's not even kiddie angry. It's more like he might swing on you angry, we've even resisted buying him certain items simply were terrified he'll through them at us if he gets mad. Nothing pleases him anymore. I know my parents suffer from bad angry issues but he's only 8 help???

Question: Can I, a 17 yr old, decide which parent I want to live with?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:43 AM PST

So my parents have been divorced for about 3yrs now and I've been going back and forth between houses each week. For several reasons, I want to live solely with my mother. However, there's the whole custody thing in place, so am I bound by the law to live with both parents? If my mother and I have to fight him in court, won't I most certainly win? Also, though my father makes more money than my mother, I feel that living with my mother is certainly for my best interests. She lives MUCH closer to my school, I get along with her much better, and I'll be able to do things like getting a job when if I live in just one house. What do you guys think? If the info is necessary, I live in California

Question: My parents fight like cats and dogs?!?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:43 AM PST

Hi I really need help so I ve resorted to this

Question: How should I deal with a controlling uncle?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:00 AM PST

I know I posted similar questions he is starting to get worse. He now wants me to get 250 dollars for both my aunt and uncle to show appreciation. Every day he always says you"re going to give them money right. I will mention this to my aunt and uncle. Shall I have them talk to him about it? I'm staying with this controlling uncle short term I told my dad about this.

Question: My mom can never admit when she's wrong or admit any flaws she has?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 07:36 AM PST

My mom, like every human being on this planet has her strengths and weaknesses weather it be with her relationship with my dad or my sister and I. It's very hard to get to the next level with her as she always will tell people their weaknesses but she will never admit to hers. She is perfect in her mind while my dad needs some work. She justifies everything she does but will never let anyone else off the hook. As long as you have a problem with someone else in the family she is fine but if you have a problem with her she will deny saying certain things, deny certain events, and never admit that she needs to change anything. Do you have anyone else like this in your life where you have to walk on egg shells constantly, and how do you deal?

Question: Mother in law baby #2?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 07:06 AM PST

My mother in law hardly comes around. She was so for watching her grandson. But now it seems as if she has hit a midlife crisis. She never comes around to see him anymore and the last time she has babysat was five months ago. Now we re having another little boy. One thing that races around in my mind is her lack of stopping by, STILL. I am looking out for my oldest child as I don t want him to have hurt feelings over her deciding to come around more when the baby is born. How can I approach telling her my concerns? She is a woman who takes great offense to simple comments.

Question: Why does my sister love this ?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 07:03 AM PST

My sister loves to lay in bed and cuddle with me. Why does she love this ?

Question: How do I force my kids to lose weight?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 06:59 AM PST

My son and daughter need to lose weight in my opinion. My son is 5 foot 6 and my daughter is 5 foot 7. They both weigh under 130 pounds.

Question: Help on what to do in regards to a situation involving my baby mother?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 06:39 AM PST

My child was just born on November the 5th and we already signed all the paperwork(the birth certificate and social security). Her family is very selfish minded and only wants the baby to be around them and yesterday my baby mother went back on her promise to let me see my child. On top of that now she's refusing to let me see my child and she's ignoring my calls and texts. I dont know what to do and it's killing me...I haven't been able to sleep or eat and it's hurts so much

Question: What should I do? (I'm not homophobe) I just think it's weird and uncomfortable.?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 05:51 AM PST

My dad's friend is staying in our pool house for the month and he's been making me a little uncomfortable. But especially this morning i was showing him around the garage and he was reaching in the front of his pants and moving his hand around. I could tell he wasn't even really listening to me he was just looking at me weird. They he got up really close to me and ut thigh against mine, I was uncomfortable so I decided to leave but he kept cutting me off and not letting past, he was laughing and joking around but he knew i was bothered by it. Like i did the last time,I went and told my dad, almost immediately and he just blew it off like "he's just messing with you" and called me a homophobe. and told me not to go accusing him of anything bc he's an old friend of his.

Question: Am I a good father?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 05:50 AM PST

I've been calling my son(17) and daughter(18) fat, ugly, stupid, worthless, unimportant for 15 years, stopped celebrating their birthdays when they were 8 and 9, never taught them to drive, refuse to let them have money and jobs because I refuse to teach them how to drive or drive them, I have had them home schooled for 10 years, never let them go out or go out with them because they're an embarrassment to me, and they're too old to be seen with me. I am 53, am I a good father? They have had no social interation with peers for 10 years, but that is not my problem. I don't want to be a father.

Question: Should I stay away from these people now?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 05:42 AM PST

"You should be thankful we are your cousins because if not, you will be in a body bag right now"

Question: This is basically part 2 of another quotation. I was wondering before if I could drop out school and get shipped early, I'm in 12th grade.?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 05:20 AM PST

I made a comment to my step mom that can be considered meant I guess but it was true and it wasn't mean in a mean way not only that but everybody that was there agreed (her 2 sons). When my dad home he was hostile although he tell me I could tell that he was mad to the point he wanted to fight me. I could the way he was standing, the way he was talking, the way he looked at me and I know this because this isn't the first time this has happened. I walked to my sisters hours because I didn't feel safe there from either of them. This is the link to part 1 :https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20161203201204AAJUWLR

Question: If I get a birthday gift from my father, can he take it back? He says that since he bought my gift, he has the right to take back my gift.?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 04:32 AM PST

Question: Crazy psycho step mom?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 04:24 AM PST

I'm Drew and I'm 18, I've had my current step mom in my life for four years which have been utter hell. Allow me to elaborate. I'm not going to give you a big long complicated story, frankly because I don't feel like it. But, I will give you what will be enough for you to understand, okay? She has threatened to kill me, blamed me for stealing something that she hid so she could blame it on me, threw my $500 computer the window (I called the cops on het for that and she managed to talk her way out of it), she has threatened to kill my mother, and just last week she spit in my face and that's when I almost killed her, but I didn't. Someone please give me advice or something, I have really bad depression sometimes, and I've attempted to kill myself last year because of her. She also broke my gibson guitar..

Question: My sisters bang the wall and my parents believe them especially my dad sides with them. They don't go to bed at 5:00am when normal sleep?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 04:20 AM PST

Question: Is it possible to have anything resembling a social life while living with strict parents?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 04:02 AM PST

I'm in my early twenties. I am a recent college graduate with a massive student loan debt. I was recently laid off from my job and moved back in with my parents to get back on my feet. Realistically speaking, I'm probably going to be living with them for another 6-12 months. My family has always been extremely conservative and religious. I grew up very sheltered and socially isolated. My mom is a stay at home mom so she's home all day policing my every move. Being home with my mom all day and not being allowed to go anywhers is making me depressed. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this or get through this?

Question: How do I fill the void left by my grandparents deaths here at the holidays?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 03:43 AM PST

My Mom and her siblings stopped speaking after my grandmother died so when she died the whole family died. We see my Dad's family so that fills the void of my grandparents deaths on his side but my Mom's side of the family we lost the whole family. It really hurts at the holidays though the rest of the year it doesn't matter as much. My Mom's family doesn't reply when I reach out. How do I fill this void? Four out of five grandparents have died in the last 5 years. (the fifth died back when I was a kid in 2004).

Question: Here at Christmas how do I get my parents to cooperate in helping me see extended family members?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 03:41 AM PST

For some reason I am like obsessed with seeing extended family. When I was little I wasn't allowed to (because of a feud my Mom was in) so it was so exciting at age 10 when we started seeing them. Now I am 15 and so can't go without parents permission and 3 of the last 5 years we have gone but two years we did not and it felt awful. When we don't go I feel like I am not as good as my cousins who all go to see each other. So how can I get them to cooperate in letting me go see family? Last year they said no. There is no formal family gathering but just everyone lives near everyone and so they cross paths during the day.

Question: I don't want to go? What do you think? What should I do?

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 03:12 AM PST

My stepdad wants to visit his fam 2 days away by car and me and my mom don't want to take His sisters twins with us because of the responsibilities etc. The 4 of us are going (Me,mom,stepdad,and sibling). The thing is, I don't want to go (it'll be all Xmas and New Year's Eve time 2 weeks) and there is going to be a Quince in Mexico. (A quince is the coming of age of a woman in which a BIG party is done) I didn't want one. I did but it was complicated since we live far from the family and all of that. I went to Canada instead for a weekend. A stepcousin is getting a quince and she had the Balls to ask my dad for money for the music and a dress (she already has 2 for the event) what ticks me off is the manners she had she didn't even invite us or asked if we could give her money. I have no problem in that but I'm so pissed she didn't have the decency or maturity. I feel offended honestly like she's laughing at me that I didn't get a Quince and she is. Her parents don't like my mom and neither my stepgrandma. The reason why I didn't want one was because I the family was far & most ppl wouldn't travel to see us since we're more independent here where we live. I feel unimportant and left out. I get good grades, I've never ditched schools since my parents know I'm tranquil and I don't cause problems but my cousin wants to drop out of HighSchool and she's failing all her classes.what should I do? I don't want to go? How can I approach this situation?