No judgment here, I'm just curious if anyone's seen a connection. Cheating is obviously much more of a big deal, although ... porn doesn't seem right either tbh.

I m 6 months pregnant and I love my boyfriend to death. I woke up this morning to messages and screenshots in my phone between my spouse and another person. We are trying to start over and move forward. The person did tell me it was only one time and hasn t talked to my spouse in a while. What do I do? I don t want him to feel like I m pointing any fingers at him because that ll make us mad at each other. I jsuy want him to come clean so we can move forward

my wife used to be a stay at home mom until I pressured her to work. she recently found a good job but comes home at 8pm I have to pick up our son and do a few things around the house after work. my wife cooks food for the week and also drops our son off to school in the mornings when she's home she doesn't do housework after work. I want her to quit because she comes home late. what should I do?

I would like to add, (because I forgot), that this is an issue in the state of Alabama. He keeps comin in and out of his child's life, has time and time again abandoned him financially,emotionally,and physically. He is $6500.00 behind in back child support, and despite his recent promise, he has begun to neglect and abandon his son for a third time. He saw his son for three days in early september of 2015, and is doing this all over again. I am already going to have to go to court unless he agrees to let me move out of the state since he doesn't even reside here. advice please.

Last Night my wife took off without even telling me and went to her moms house with the kids...We had a 6:30 appointment with our 5yr old Autistic sons teacher...She cancelled it without my knowledge..I still went and was able to talk with his teachers..So that was a save..She never returned home until the next day around noon...But, not before calling my 7 yr old son in absent from school..My attorney is aware of this...Anyone have any idea of the repercussions? she could face for this...I know its a feather in the cap for me...But this cannot continue...Thoughts? I still prefer shared parenting.. But not if this game continues I tried contacting her via text and phone calls... No answer or replies

I am newly married, my wife,then girlfriend help me raise my kids since they were infants they are 5 and 4 now,my ex has a history of violent behavior and has mental issues (Bipolar) she developed.I want to terminate her custody and my wife wants to adopt.My ex has been in prison for over 3 years for assaulting a peace officer.What are our chances?

I know this isnt really i question. I just need some feedback My parents are getting divorced. My step dad cheated on my mom. I know he's my stepdad but he basically raised me since i was 2, im 15. I never really had that great of a relationship with him though because i always hang out with my mom... all the time. But recently my mom has been talking to her friend who she hasnt spoken to in years but he is crazy about her and he's really nice... he has known me since i was a baby. But i recently found out about him ad we've all been hanging out. We've hung out like three times so far. But I got pissed when my mom told me he was coming with us on a trip we're taking this weekend because i thought it was going to be just us. Then she finally tells me that he told her he wants to marry her... my mother said yes and as soon as my stepdad leaves they're getting married and he is coming to live with us. I feel almost betrayed but whatever im kind of upset though. Anyway back to the trip part i told my mom i didnt want to go so she called him and told him that i didnt want him coming so he said okay and now my mom is forcing me to go and shes mad at me for absolutely no reason... Im really confused ..

Report this you wench. And please, go phuck yourself while you're at it.

I don't even know where to start on this one... Guilt is the one weapon my wife has against me because it works, and here's why: My Mom wasn't an affectionate mother but I knew she loved me. She'd give me high fives for doing things "correctly" and she would laugh at my dumb jokes. But when my Mom didn't get her way or was ashamed of my behavior, my Mom used tactics her mother and the Catholic church taught her - shaming. "What made you think it was okay to do that?", "Who do you think you are", and "Once your Dad finds out about this, I don't want to be you". My Mom verbally abused me and made me feel bad for who I was to the very core of my existence so she could win over her "disobedient" teen. Mind you, prior to my teens I was her loving boy; it was all a self fulfilling prophecy that I was "disobedient". In 2011, I did 3 months of continuous therapy, twice a week 2 hours long, to overcome my mother's abuse. I even bytched her out due to the hard feelings coming back. But the guilty hole in my heart didn't close... Now, any time my wife says something intended to shame me or guilt me I can't help it but feel fearful and feel bad for who I am. Today, my wife uses guilt as a way to manipulate me to do anything she wants. "Are you going for a world record" she says pointing to trash I haven't taken out yet. If I wasn't so vulnerable to guilt it would be funny, but this passive-aggression hurts. So, how do I get thick skin? How do I learn to "not care"?

When I met my husband, I was a virgin and after a while of having basic missionary position based sex I suggested that we should spice things up. He wasn't open to the idea so I couldn't really force it on him. I tried to give him a ******** to wake him up and he panicked and was really uncomfortable. I even tried to blackmail him by saying we do it my way or we have no sex. I asked him what his fantasies are and he told me he has none. I am actually worried about this because he seems to be not so open about sex whenever I tried to talk. I don't have anything against missionary position but it is nice to change it once in a while. What should I do ?

i see questions on there and really want to understand it. a pre-nup means to me that that person values their stuff over a life time of love. yes it could fail however i'm not going to marry someone whom i don't know fully there for i know your charactor traits. i know if your out to get one over someone or not. and for me to see anyone rank stuff over a person they want to love tells me your not the priority that stuff is your main focus on life. i can't be number two for an object. i will never compete with money so i'd just leave and not get married. i'm happy living with someone and not getting married in the first place. so help me understand the reason why things are more important then love that could end. if you allow it. so i guess it's not as much about the signing of it that bothers me it's more of the person asking it to be signed why is your stuff more important then the person you say you want to spend your life with. because my spouse i'd give him everything i own right here right now just out of love. yes i would go with out to ensure he has. to me that';s love. and thats why i'll be in a lasting marriage over others? okay, i can see that gold digger thing i get they can act really good. and force you to beleive things. i don't come from money and strongly feel most wnat the best out of the world but your right two greedy people fighting over someones assests could be an issue. again love isn't worth fighting for but money is. isn't that greed? if my husband was a man gold digger and i fell for it. HERE take it all everything i have worked hard for. because i worked hard for it to be ours even befor we wed. i created this life to share not to hoard. so if i lose everything in the act of love then i'm okay with that. i don't understand why others are not. it makes me feel more people are too greedy and since most people are it's socially accepted. I don't think i'll ever understand this. I don't deny anyone asking for one. I just have to suck it up that i'll never understand. it seems to me a contract to protect yourself that you can't protect with a gun is rather silly. more so when i afire can take it all out. oh wait money can replace that.. Greed i;lkl never fully understand i guess.

My husband I would book weekend getaway to another country very last minute (book it the same week we would go) and they used to be constant that we would even have a weekend bag in our cars. We both loved it and it was an amazing experience every time we visited a new place. But now when I mentioned that we should get out of the city he would make some sort of excuse like " I am tired" or "I've got too much work". He would not even have a full conversation anymore and I hate it. He has been doing that with sex too and every time I bring up the fact that he is not himself he gets all defensive. I don't want to think of the worst thing such as infidelity because I do trust him.

I believe marriage is a collective institute. The institute cannot exist without 2 or more people (the "or more" part makes my belief universal in other cultures too). You can't marry just yourself, so it doesn't make any sense to change just yourself if you are trying to fix your marriage. I think you can agree to this since most of you seem to accept that the solution to any problem is marriage counseling. If marriage counseling doesn't work then the only option is divorce and stigma for the rest of your life that you had a failed marriage.... But what if you didn't have the money for marriage counseling? Or what if you don't go to church to get free counseling by your Bible pushing peers (who are biased in their advice)? How might you fix a broken part of your relationship - especially if the broke part is only hurting one person and not both (which it could be argued that if it hurts one then it hurts the other too)? Most of you like examples so: Let's say that your wife refuses to leave the house except to go on vacations and to her job (reclusive introvert). Now let's say that you are an ambivert who likes to leave the house occasionally but you don't want to go as an individual since it would be more fun with your wife. How do you fix this broken facet of your marriage if she can't compromise and endure a LITTLE active & public entertainment instead of sedentary & couch potato entertainment? Being active is healthy, but she prefers comfort over health. Now what?

In an argument these are the beliefs I bring to the table: * No raising your voice to talk over someone, show them respect and listen to what they have to say. * When listening to what someone has to say, don't listen to react; listen to respond to what they are saying. * No name calling or labeling behavior as this distracts from the objective discussions. * If you find yourself getting emotional, it's fine to be upset, but maintain the rules of the argument. * No using the past as an example in today's argument, patterns are not weapons, they are just bias. * Even if you hear something you don't like, maintain composure and stay calm. * Absolutely NO manipulation to convince the other person to take your side, this includes bribery or threats. * As an above all rule, remember that you love each other and consider that in how you fight. These are the morals that I bring to the table after 3.5 years of getting advice from all of you on here. It's not a complete list, but it definitely helps with building conversation and talking to my kids. My wife on the other hand..... My wife refuses to adhere to these rules. Whens he is in an argument, she fights to win/dominate/control. She doesn't even have to be that angry, she's just that headstrong and that stubborn that she just does it naturally and emotion-less (firm and aggressive). She also uses my rules against me (without following them). Should I fight unfair too?

So tomorrow is my wedding night and my wife and i are both vergin she's vergin because her religion and her shy personality forbid her and i'm a vergin because i want to lose it with someone i truly love and now that i have her i dunno how to deal with her ... i know too much about sex and i'm not shy or anything but i dunno how to do it with my wife who's like an innocent babie.. ... i told her that we should have sex on our first night she said ok but now i feel stressed and nervous and i dunno what to it's complicatd i hope u understand ...help? i want to show her how much i love her but how? this is a wedding night not porn to be rough with her

I've finally caught on to my wife's headstrong ways. She has mastered the art of emotional and psychological manipulation (as I understand most women do) and I am left severely disadvantaged in a verbal fight (she is not receptive to calm, logic, or reason). So, after 14 years of being a pushover and trying to win on the equal battlegrounds, I'm tired of playing her games; but I don't know what my options are without crossing that boundary line into "not fighting fair" and I could use a little help finding it. I believe in good sportsman-like behavior, so the name calling she does to control me is like kicking a man while he's down on the ring. We've talked about it, but she's not willing to give up her "Ace in the hole" since it is so effective. And I'm just not capable of developing thick skin; I've tried it for 25 years but it's just not something I can do since it feels like identity suicide. So what can I do? Some of the changes I need to make are things that affect her (family and marital) but forcing her to make these changes without the intellectual win seems impossible. She's like a teenage daughter fighting her Dad; she sabotages and impedes all progress if it isn't something she believes in... I just don't know how to take "head of household" from her without getting physical :( And I don't want to get physical :( I promised I never would, but she refuses to go to counseling and she cannot be reasoned with. It's her way or the highway (just like her parents). Conservatives: No shaming, ridiculing, or rejecting my need to have SOMETHING to fight back with. I don't care what you think about "respect" - respect has to be mutual and no matter how much I give it - which has been a lot more than anyone else would have gave it over the last 9 years of turmoil) if she isn't giving it back then there's no point in fighting fair. You can't debate yourself out of being eaten by a bear. Also, last last part about physical is me saying that I'm not going that route and I refuse to but it really looks like it's the only way to get through to her since she has conversations at a deadlock... This is why I'm asking all of you for advice on other tactics that work in an argument that can stop her getting the automatic "win" just because she knows how to manipulate me emotionally and psychologically. What's the rock to beat her scissors? Let's leave the paper out of it.

If a wife gets married, then the husband leaves the next day and never comes back is that marriage still valid? Let's say 10 years have passed...still valid? Would the wife have to get a divorce or an annulment in order to get married again?

I think I know why I'm still asking questions on Yahoo! Answers, I'm trying to fight on an equal playing ground when my wife clearly has a competitive advantage - she lacks empathy. It actually makes a lot of sense really. I'm sure she has empathy in her normal every day life, but when it comes to fighting, how do you win a fight with an emotional abuser (her mother and father)? You turn off your emotions and you attack theirs. It's fighting dirty, but it is effective; I'm living proof of that since I show the respect of being empathetic towards her emotions when I fight with her (which is a disadvantage in these fights obviously - even if it is the mature thing to do). And when I'm done getting advice from all of you on here, I don't implement it in my day to day life without talking to her first since she likes to know about changes BEFORE they happen (which I assumed it was a respect thing but it is really a "so she can fight it" or "think of a way to sabotage it" thing). So any advice you had given me up to now was really just me being stupid and talking about it like an adult to her so she can be educated on new ways to protect her strong beliefs and manipulate me over even considering it. I'm not a stupid man. Okay, maybe I am since I haven't divorced her yet; but I have a high IQ and emotional IQ, so I'm not dumb. But I think the intellectual battle isn't the way I'm going to turn things around in my marriage; she isn't trying to talk things out, she's trying to win. To make her statement more clear - "I do choose my battles. I can win all of the fights if I wanted, but some of them are things I just don't care about so I let you have them. But the things I'm really passionate about I do fight and I always win. I think I'm pretty good at debate and I could win any fight I want to" -- Mind you, she uses tactics like cold shoulders, using the past against you (like swbarnes2 does), and she uses other forms of logical fallacy to divert/distract and attack. @No Mercy - Why in the he|| do you have ME blocked? And the only way that you can fight with people outside your family is if you feel you stand a chance. I fight with all of you all day long (I do) because I believe I stand a chance to gain some ground in my beliefs; but my wife, she knows the world could care less, she keeps her battles inside the home since that's the only place she can win (due to abusing our love/affection).

We both are married. But we are still friends. Last week he asked me about my life and I said my husband is a good man and he cares for me. I felt my ex got upset even he said this is a good news and since last week he doesn't talk to me.

I could never understand this Women who have a kid and a husband or boyfriend with a full time job act like its so hard for them to get a career Especially stay at home moms

My husband and I have been married for four years. My mother-in-law thinks I'm not good enough for her son and won't accept me. My mother-in-law started her **** and won't let me over. I didn't do anything wrong. She's spreading lies about me. I'm considering leaving my husband because of his mother. She won. She can have him all to herself.

My husband is 6'4", 210lbs, muscular build, light brown hair, and blue eyes(total hunk I know) I am 5'9" (long torso, so typical one piece dress Halloween costumes are WAY too short), 140lbs, average build, light brown hair, light green eyes. We don't mind buying a costume, or doing a DIY one. But, we want to match for the most part!

We cant currently afford it because we are trying to buy a house. We were ready and had our credit up, so we thought, and have been minding our financial P s and Q s like crazy for the past 10 months. Unfortunately we were denied because our scores were still too low. He qualifies to buy a Harley but we are going to work on getting our score higher and its just not possible right now. What can I do to help him feel a little better. Write him a little card, get him a little promise note that he will have one one day, I don t know what do you think?

I'm newly married. There was some problem in the beginning of our marriage and I broke his heart. but now everything is fine. The problem is we hardly spent time. He is very busy with his work. And we haven't gone out even now. He says we will go to Paris during December but that's too late.. I'm really bored and almost getting mad.. What should I do? Well, i didn't wish to marry him because I'm only 18.. But he is 31.. now i have no option but to accept him. He loved me and he does love me...But he is busy alwaysss....

I found 2 long blond hair on his car seat several days ago when we were running errands. He is bold and I have short dark hair. So the hair belong to neither of us. When I asked him about the hair, he started yelling and screaming, accusing me of "creating problems " for him and he does not know where the hair com from. Later on I was trying to talk to him about the hair resource because IT bothers me. He said "If I knew I would have told you already..." I'm feeling so helpless and hopeless with is guy. He has a habit of telling lies: big and small. When I caught his lies he became very angry and abusive. What should I do in this unhappy situation? Any suggestion would be appreciated.

I recently found out my husband has been cheating on me with an employee from his job (she is married also) her husband has found out and she has stopped all contact with my husband and and is fixing problems with her own marriage. My husband is just like blah doesn't want anything to do with me he told me the other day he loved me to death but he doesn't like me at all. Why won't he get a divorce? Why does he give me a kiss bye before leaving for work why does he sleep in the same bed with me if he doesn't like me? We have a 4yr old girl and a 7 month old baby. I went back to my church in May and that's when all this started happening cheating lies etc he doesn't like me being in my church. I'm not giving God up for him I love my church and I'm not changing. He is bitter from it why won't he just divorce me???

Folks talking about adding a no-divorce clause to their pre-nup, but isn't marriage itself assumed to mean "'til death do us apart"? Otherwise wouldn't you be lying under Oath and reciting the vows for nothing?