I m homeschooled. My family is home all day. They re super loud and my room is right next to the living room. I ve asked them to be quiet but they continue to be loud. There s no where else I can work. What should I do? How can I politely ask them to be quiet?

Now, in general, I don't really like old people, because I think their old age is just a lame excuse to forget things all the time. It's not forgetting minor things like what someone's plans are for the day or forgetting how to spell something, it's that she forgets things that we've talked about several times in great detail. Anyway, I just moved back into my hometown. I like seeing my grandma. She helped me move back and lets me do my laundry at her house. The recent incident though involves a story I'm sick of explaining to her. Back in April I bought a Kia Soul, and for some reason when you buy the stick shift version you have to pay for the remote key separately that is hundreds of dollars, so I didn't get it programmed. When I went to visit before I moved, I explained the story to her. I was helping her look at cars, and she asked me the same details again when I was explaining it to the sales lady helping her. The next day when I opened the car, she asked me why I didn't have a remote key, and I started to yell at her, because this was now the 3rd time I explained it. So just a couple weeks ago, we were downtown and then I was locking my door, and she asked me again why I don't have a remote key. I told her if she asks me that question one more time I was gonna choke her. When we got in the elevator, I told her she really f**king pisses me off when she does that and she needs help. She got mad and said I embarrassed her. I said good, because she should be

That is really upsetting.My parents divorced when I was about 7 years old and at first we used to spend a lot of time together.Then she married Sarah and I went to see him once a month.Some years later she gave birth to the twins..Now my father calls me once a year((Even I call him he is always talking about his other children and never asks something about me(((Some days ago we went to the other city tohis mmother's birthday.I was completely ignored for the whole day((And later that day my dad said that I am acting weird and I need to chill out.When I am told him about my worries he said that I am over reacting((.So that really upsets me that he forgots that he had one more daughter-me.I am studying medicine and he doesn't even know about it.He never asked..Thatnmakes me feel so worthless seeing other people with loving and caring fathers and at the same time having no love from my own. Why doesn't he love me ?

I know there is a lot of emotion today. I feel horrible. Dont want to bring up bad memories, but feel its rude not to text my cousins something since there mother passed one year ago today.. What should i tell them.

I am 16 and currently still living with my parents We argue constantly about anything and everything I feel very ganged up on. Unfortunately recently my dad has been diagnosed with cancer, before he was diagnosed he was very violent and got angry about the smallest of things. My mum and I were going to move out this year into a place of our own together, this did not happen. I feel now since my dad has been diagnosed my mum and him are being very fake and acting as if they have always been in a lovely caring relationship. I end up going to bed depressed an upset and I do not know what to do. My family all live far away and I don t want to lumber my friends with all of this. I just want to have a normal happy relationship but neither of them take any interest in me or listen to what I have to say. I would appreciate anyone s advice because I do not know what to do with myself half the time and do not want to get my pastoral manager at school involved as this could exculate things, I am also in the middle of doing my GCSEs. Any advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation would help me a great deal please!

I'm applying for college and my computer broke down. I've been working on the applications in the library, but it's very inconvenient to not be able to work at home, where I can clarify questions with my parents. My parents don't want a PC anymore, so they offered to buy me a chrome book for now and a MacBook Air for when I go off to college. We are pretty money tight, so I got really confused- wouldn't it make more sense to buy the MacBook Air now and not spend more money? I didn't argue or talk to them yet, it's just a thought on my mind. Do you think I'm right or my parents? My mom said it's a "graduation gift" which makes sense, but it doesn't make sense buying a chrome book now for me?

im 17 now, and i habe a 13 almost 14 old sister. she thinks she's all that because shes a teenager, but to me, shes no more the just a little kid. its quite funny actually, because when i was 13, i didnt have a phome. i spent all of my time outside playing. its kinda sad whatt society has come to. now 13 year olds have iphones, some wear makeup, but i think that ridiculous! when they get older they are going to wosh that they acted like a kid when they were a kid. i feel like 13/14 isnt even a teenager too. i think its a start but i feel like a 16 year old is when its the real deal, yanno. sorry for ranting, just want to hear opinions!

Whenever I'm with my friends, I feel stress free and happy. At home or anywhere when my family, I just sort of feel miserable. My mom got mad at me because I'm happier when I'm around my friends. Is this normal?

I suppose the answer is obvious, but hear me out. What if you never received proper nuturing. An only child raised by a strict & bitter EVIL narcissistic stepmom, and passive father. As soon as you could, you were always running, living out of your car and traveling. At 20-22, this stepmom dies, and your dad soon finds a new gf. Sells the house. And at hers, you get your very own living spot above the garage. The new woman is very nice. (though you question if the relationship between them is love or only comfort). Would you give them a chance, or just leave and make your own life? All I'm saying is it's easy to want to get comfortable with them.. I don't want to accept that i was never properly raised, i guess

This person is my sister and I share a wall with her. We are not on very good terms and she likes to listen to music super loud that you can hear it across the house. I've tried telling her to turn it down and even told my mom but my mom is a pussy and she doesn't do anything all she does is say we'll just let her be. She'll start doing this early in the morning and stop super late at night my mom has to use earmuffs to sleep. I've tried making peace and now I want to resort to legal action. I have work and class to attend and haven't been getting my sleep at all the close I e been getting is 4 hours a day my eyes have huge bags under them and I am dowsing off in class. I can't take much more of it.

My daughter got bad grades, C's and Bs in college her first year. She had a few A's. We told her if she didn't stop smoking we would cut her off and that is what happened. Now she has this boyfriend and he is unemployed at the moment; although he used to work/grow legally with a dispensary that moved to Colorado for recreational purposes and goes to school full time now. How does this guy have a mercedes AMG gt, a car much more expensive than I can afford while being unemployed. He is 21 years old. Plus the house he rents is very nice along with the clothes and things he gets our daughter. He pays for her car repairs and stuff like that to make sure she can get to work and school. He is a nice guy and takes good care of her but they smoke a lot of marijuana but clearly like each other a lot. He plans on opening a outdoors store for skiing and mountain biking and surfing but can also get a high paying job with the legal weed business he was with in colorado if needed. How is this guy paying for all this stuff and should our daughter be with this guy? he is helping her go to school and encouraging her to get a degree and finish.

So my parents have joint custody but my mother have primary joint custody. She gave me permission to live with a friend but my father is saying she is going to force me to live with him. Can he do that? Or can I live with my friend?

My sister has a history of lying and making up stories. She's hard to talk to because most of what comes out of her are lies, and she never seems to be genuine. She has told stories to others like being sent to the hospital many times because of abuse by my dad, calling my parents alcoholics, claiming she had to take care of us as children because my parents were always passed out drunk. She has claimed to be raped many times too throughout the years, she has said our cousin raped her when we were kids, she said she was raped by a neighbour who she briefly dated, and even accused my dad of molesting her. She does a lot of weird things and the strangest of all is using our toothbrushes. Soon after we took her in, our toothbrushes went missing and returned with the bristles all messed up. She denied doing anything. She's 27 and living with us after breaking up with her long time boyfriend. They have a 5 year old son together. During their time together my sister has told him so many lies that have made him and his family hate us, because they believe the things she said. She went years without calling, not even visiting and my parents went so long without seeing their grandson. But after the break up she had no where else to go, so of course that's when she calls and acts like nothing happened. She has been living with my parents and mooching off them ever since, seems more interested in drinking and finding another boyfriend than a job or education to improve her situation.

And now he acts like I'm a scum of a human. I know it's not normal to be into that stuff like MLP porn and things like that. But it can t be right to despise someone just for that. I have tried to pretend this stuff didn't happen but i can't it just tears at me to think my own brother hates me. Every time i make a bad joke ,or say anything in fact, he just looks at me with disgust. Help.

Im a 16 year old girl. In the past my dad has hit me twice on the arm In a public car park, called me a f****** B*****, ungrateful B****. He got angry at me & told me he was going to burst my F****** door down if I didnt open it. Another time he got angry at me at the dinner table & he punched down on the table & when I walked away crying he came after me & dragged me by the arm & jumper & made me eat my dinner whiel i was crying. And then gave out to me for crying. He would shout and curse at me. He once repeatedly shouted "shut up"over and over because i asked him a couple of times if i could go to a birthday. He threw a coat at my brother and the zip caught him on the eye. It left a mark. I feel my dad takes no interest in me. When I try tell him about school or something else about me he changes the subject or does a fake "ohh". When my brother was trying to tell him about college because he just started he just changed the subject. My dad never asks me questions about myself like "whats your favourite subject". I feel like he doesnt know me! I suffere from depression,anxiety and suicidal ideation & my dad has only talked to me once about it in the past year. I went on a 5 day trip to spain with school & he never asked me anything about it! What so yous think?

I'm getting my own place in December, until then I am staying with my Gran. My Gran just got shingles &My OB suggested I dont be around her cause I never had chicken pox &itscontagious to me. For a couple of weeks I am stayin with my mom. I have no OTHER CHOICE. She smokes in the house CONSTANTLY & I'm afraid for my unborn child. I feel this is selfish cause when she was pregnant with me & 10years later my sis it all had to be healthy, no one could do any wrong around her. &growing up she would 2nd hand smoke & I would be choking on it. I'mso afraid somethin bad is gonna happen cause she smokes &she doesnt believe birth defect/ still births can happen &I'mliterally choking & throwing up on her smoke. Its like she cares more about smoking then my unborn child. I cant ask her to stop because it IS HER HOUSE & she gets irritated. thinking of taking my chances with my Grandma &the shingles & going back there cause its so much cleaner, & happier, and my grandma doesnt smoke. my mom is always unhappy. She yells about everything. She just gets pissed and yells and throws a pity fit. She never hears you when your talking unless what your saying applies directly to or is about her. I was talking to her about my doctors appointment & in the middle of me talking about my lab workshe cut me off&started talking about wrinkles on her face. She was looking into her Iphone camera the whole time not hearing me. What do i do? I want whats healthy for my baby?

When I was little, my parents got divorced. A year after that, my mom found another guy. He was nice and all, and because of the nob-stop bullying I was going through where we were at, she brought us to live with him immidiately. When I was 8, he began rubbing my legs and touching my area through my underwear and shorts. I asked him to stop many times, but he would just ignore me. He stopped after my mom caught him once, and I said yes a bunch of times when she asked if he was touching me, but he began crying and I felt bad, so not understanding the severity of this situation, I said no. I'm kind of angry at my mother now for not taking me out of that situation, especially with the kind of job she has. I guess my mind blocked out the memory after we moved yet again to a new school, so I was fine for a whole year. That was until he did it again. I remembered everything, and I'm terrified that just touching me could become something worse. I hate this guy, but my mom believes that he's a great dad and wouldn't want to hurt me at all. I dont want this to happen to me again because he did it everyday to me for two years straight except for on some weekends when I was at my dads house, safe. What should I do so that my mom won't hate me and I can get my little brother and I safe? Please help me.

My father asked me where something was and I said, "In the bag where it always is." My father freaked out and even though my mother agrees that I didn't say it with a "smart" attitude, its still smart. I think they're crazy at this point since this isn't the only incident where this has happened. For anyone that is confused smart=disrespectful

I am 21 with an associates degree and continuing school to get a bachelors degree in criminology. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and my dad has never approved of him because of his race which in that case I DO respect his opinion. I am very hard working and am ready to rent a room with some female roommates until I save enough money to get my own place. The reason why I want to move out is because I want my privacy, my space, and I am tired of having my father breathing down my neck all the time. He doesn't work much and he is always home.... it makes me uncomfortable when he is around because he nosy, too involved in my work and school life, and always criticizes on what eat, wear, my music, friends ect. ect. To me I think his behavior is not normal and I really cannot tolerate it anymore. However, I do not want to hurt my parents feelings by moving out. They will be very sad and upset. On the other hand, my mother is an angel and never does anything to make me upset. She respects my privacy, and lifestyle.

It s not a financial burden for my parents to help and nor do I go around splurging their money. It s also my mom s dream that I get a degree as I m a first generation student and she always tells me it s okay to let her help. I just wonder if I should be ashamed cause I always hear about kids who pay for everything themselves.

I moved to the US six years ago, I missed my parents the first year, but then I got used to it and was loving been independent. Now they moved with me and my brother and I should be happy to be all together again; but I'm not... I can't stand them, they are really good people, but having them around is absolutely annoying! even if they do good things to me like making me dinner or helping me out, it makes me upset! I feel bad about this, but I can't help it! Am I the only horrible person in the world or is there another one around there with the same situation?...

So I'm 21 years old and my dad is possessive and way too involved in my work and school life. I have a boyfriend for 5 years and he hates him because of his race which is not fair at all. My dad is obsessed with knowing about where I work and what jobs I apply for and obsessed about my college. I can say I'm doing very well for a 21 year old and since he's not asking for money or help why does he worry so much? He doesn't like when I'm home or have a day off. & he quiestions about why am I home that day, ect. ect. I know it shouldn't be something to get mad about but it's driving me crazy. Why can't he just mind his own business. My sister on the other hand is very mean. when I got hired at Taco Bell as a part time to make an extra few bucks, she was making fun of me. So I guess it's better not to make the extra money and mooch off of my family ?? I don't get it. It's like I can never win in this house. My mom is the only one who doesn't care what I do as long as I'm safe and happy.

My mom has Schizophrenia, I believe. It all started 5 days ago when she wasn't acting herself and almost living in a dream state. Anyway, long story short, my brother took her to the park at 9:40pm at night because she refused to go outside after many days...and now she's freakin lost. He didn't take her by the car because she refused, he took her by foot. He came back yelling at me at 10:35pm that she wandered out somewhere while he went to the bathroom for 10 minutes. He said that she must have hopped on a trolley or something, since we live in a big city and it's easy to get lost if you can't work your way around home. It's already 9:24am and I can't freakin' find her! No one has called in from the police station to report that my mother was found and I've notified several authorities. They all told me that they'll do their best to look for her...which isn't very good considering that they don't really "look" for her so much as they just look in the data base.

My mom and dad are divorced and I live with mydad.Recently my dad and step mom told memy mom doesn t offer them money.She only gives me money when I ask her or give me the stuff I want.I have a good relationship with my mom and I feel like I would offend her off being abad mom if i brought it up.I ve been asking my dad for a lot of money lately for school fees and I need stuff like driving lessons, braces etc.how can I bring it up to her?

Okay I am having trouble focusing on my work. It's just that are have been things on my mind that keep me from paying attention to school work. I have family in Utah and mean all of my whole family is down there and I'm in New Mexico. I miss dearly and I have been worrying for them for so long, I have been able to them on the weekends and that's it, I miss them so much that some times I cry for them. I have no family members to talk to. I need someone to help me with my problems, I don't want to talk to my friend about it because then she would start to worry for me. I'm depress for no reason, I try to find a reason, but nothing. My family means so much to me, I have been able to talk to them some times on the phone, but in person. I need help to get this off my mind, it's driving me crazy. Please Help. Please help me. I'm literally about to cry and I don't to cry in class. Can anybody give me any advice, it's driving me insane. I really need to get this stuff off my chest, but every time I try, it comes back and I feel depress even more. I can't understand why this is happening to me and only me. None this ever happens to my other siblings, it's like it does;t bother them or something else. I tried very hard to try to not worry about them, but I get depress, more and more and more, when I even try to forget about for just ten seconds Please I really need help. Can someone please give me some advice. I'm starting to worry even about my family, they are the only people that understand my feelings and problems that I have at school and at home and with my friends or making friends. Please can someone give me some advice

After my mom died, in her will she have some big amount to my son. She mainly gave that to him so that he use it for education. But today he came with a costly sports car. I really don't know what to do with him.

I am a single 22 year old male. All I do is go to work full time during the week and I am going back to school now. I plan on getting my 2 year business degree for now. On my extra time, all I do is play basketball, watch basketball and smoke weed. Smoking makes me happy, but sometimes I feel guilty about it. I am naturally pessimistic, but weed makes me feel so positive. .. it has even brought me closer to my brother and parents (who don t know I smoke). I monitor how much i spend a week, but Am I wasting my youth with marijuana?

My rules for my son is if I have to go out of town,I usually have my sister babysit my son,I didn't allow my son to watch Rated R Movies until he was almost 17 years old and I didn't allow my son to play M rated games until he was 16.I never allow my son to stay at home alone if his girlfriend is with him because I consider that disrespectful.I take his cellphone away,not allow him to play his video games,and not allow him to use his computer if feel my son has disrespected me in anyway.My son's curfew is at 11:30 pm even tho he's 18.I also check my son's emails and text about every week.I also told my son that he is not allow to visit his former school because it might be considered trespassing unless he has actual reason to be there like if it's for a business reason or if their are a parent of that child that currently attends the school.Also he shouldn't be disrespecting me like this anyway by wanting to visit his former school to visit his former teachers.I make it clear that I am not my son's friend,I am his parent.That's what his friends his own age is for.I feel my job as a parent to guide my son to do right and do everything possible to protect my son.Parents,how strict are you with your children?

The main reason I still live with mom is because I've havent had this chance to go to school and get started in life. The main reason for my late start is me having to take care of my mom. At 18 my parents were separating and my mom was diagnosed with cancer. I had to help my mom with her diagnosis and help her through out her surgeries and recoveries (my dad laughed when i asked if he would stay in the hospital with my mom) Not only did I have to delay school to help my sick mom, I had to take care of her and help her through the separation. My dad has done some pretty messed up stuff. He cheated on my mom and laughed about it in front of her. Hes cursed her out. In a moment of one of he temper flare ups hes come after us with a butcher knife and thrown a vacuum at me. To say the least, I dont really trust my father and I dont think he'll ever make a total change for the better. I've been getting my money together so that I can get myself back to school and move out. I've even been working towards saving up for a house. When my mom heard about my plans she immediately starts talking about how she'll just have to live with me and how she wants to retire move into to my house when I move in. Now dont get me wrong, I love my mom but I need to grow and have my own space. Ive been taking care of her for a while and I havent been focusing on becoming who I want to be. I don't want my mom to move in especially since she's dealing with my father again. Am I being selfish?

I was curious because I don t really know what it means. When I was 8-12 we lived with my stepdad. My mom worked so we hung out together all day every day, we got close. Him and my mom started having issues because he "didn t find her attractive anymore". She was gaining weight and I was losing it. (I was chubby and he was a retired bodybuilder, so we d work out together). She hated me because he said he loved me but not her anymore. I just remember lots of weird things. He was always grabbing my *** (Not really sexually I think just in general). And he d always put his hand on my thigh whenever we d go on car rides. He was always looking for excuses to touch me. Or once we were somehow talking about nudity and he was saying how it shouldn t be sexualized. So he told me to strip down, I got butt naked and he just stared at me up and down. I told him I felt weird and he said it was fine to put my clothes back on. Or the main thing that stands out in my memory was I had made him breakfast one morning and was doing dishes, he came up behind me, kissed my shoulder, wrapped me up in a bear hug and told me "what a great wife I was gonna make one day". I m now 16. They broke up and I don t even talk to him anymore. And I still think about that stuff. I ve never felt VIOLATED, but it still kinda gives me the creeps. I guess what I m asking is is this type of behavior normal with fathers? My mom has had so many boyfriends I don t know what s normal with men and what s not. Thanks.

My father loves my older brother but doesn t give a rats *** about me. My father has been coaching my older brother and myself for the past 30 years in wrestling, My brother was a high school National champion, New England Champion and State Champion, he also broke a Massachusetts record for most pins in a season. My career, I started varsity for all 4 years, won over 150 matches, and became a 2 time state champion. I was also on 2 runner up state teams and won the state championship for my hometown my senior year, I helped build state championship teams even after I graduated! My father still coaches to this day and never talks about my past success with anyone it's almost like I never even existed on his team, but Instead he idolizes my older brother and all his success he ll support him with everything he does it s sickening to my eyes how much more love he has for him. My mother was the only one whoever supported me and I can t have her support now because cancer took her. My father and I barley talk now we don t have a good relationship anymore and I don t speak my older brother because his ego and greatness is just too over powering I can t even look at him or say one thing to him when we re In the same room

MY boyfriend and I live with his parents and we have a 12 week old baby. We both have full time jobs and make good money. We have lived here for a year already and when i first became pregnant, i've told him so many times to start saving so we can get our own place. A year later, he doesn't have a penny saved. he spends all of his paychecks. He buys unnecessary things on amazon.. averages maybe 10 packages a month from amazon. He eats out all of the time even though his mom buys food and cooks for us.. We live here for free and he basically has no bills besides his car payment.. He keeps saying "i'll save my next check".. then he ends up spending it all then says he will save next time he gets paid...then ends up spending it all too... I've threatened him so many times saying I'm going to leave him and get a place on my own.. Our room at his parents house is so tiny and it's always messy because we don't have enough room for all of our stuff. I don't want to keep living like this.. i've saved money myself & i don't spend much unless I need something..not sure what to do about him. whenever i bring it up and ask him if he's saved anything, he gets upset and says i'm just trying to start sh*t with him and that i always b*itch at him about it.. well I want better for us of course i'm going to b*tch about it.. he's a great dad and he does a lot for me. he isn't a bad person, he just has issues with spending. should i just leave him or what can i do to finally help him ?

I come from a conservative religious family and I am 15. Last night I came home with a friend unconscious and black out drunk. My dad had to carry me to my room and put me to bed. When I woke up my mum was being very nice and making sure I felt ok and when I talked to my dad, he said he was not angry but very disappointed. He said he couldn t trust me anymore and that he was deeply saddened by my actions. Worse still my parents just paid USD $4,000 for a school trip and now I feel Soo bad. Of course I m grounded but I really want to make things better again with my family. Any suggestions?

I think my parents are too strict over insurance.. Why cant i just buy my own, i dont want a driver license they expect me to get it . They keep calling me things and dad laughs at my feet and i bare with it . They tell me to take a week off to go on a vacation with them and i will miss work i doubt they will do the same thing back. Mom is being really rude saying i was so nice to stay a week and not go on the vacation with them told her she could go. My parents doesn't listen to me but buys what i want..

I am a straight A student, I have two jobs and I have been babysitting my younger brother and sister and doing all the housework since I was 7 or 8(no kidding) but my mom still says I'm lazy and that I am a pain in the ***. My mom does not allow me to be friends with anyone because she says it is a waste of time and that I should do more important things like babysitting. She then goes on to spend her whole day in bed on the phone with her friends(the irony). To add to that, she treats my younger siblings like angels although they are really evil and do very mean things with the sole purpose of getting me in trouble but whenever I tell her of anything,she tells me that they are children(my sister's 12 and my brother's 9)and that they don't really know when they are doing something wrong and to go to my room. Someone told me that I might have depression and I requested my mother to take me to the doctor but she refused to and said that I am not a child anymore and that no one has time to be on my cause. I asked my dad to take me there and he agreed(he's cool most of the time and the only person I feel like doesn't treat me like $***)but I didn't tell him why.I went there and the doctor told me I had depression and after I told my mom, she just had a nice long laugh and told me she doesn't care because she knows I'm lying. My father didn't say anything. My mom once told me that she hates that I'm introverted then went on to convince my siblings to laugh at me. What do I do? I'm 15, a sophomore in high school and a first born child, by the way.

I m 21 and live with my parents. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and they ve never let me travel with him anywhere. They only let me go with him and his family to the beach for a weekend but that s it. Going to the beach with his family even hurts their feelings. Also, my parents don t let me spend a holiday with him. This is going to be he 5th Christmas that s coming and they won t let me spend a Christmas with him at all. This really depresses me.... & I really can t take it anymore, I just need to a figure out how can I travel and a spend a holiday with my boyfriend without having my parents get involved.

There is an old house in my neighborhood that everyone says is haunted, my neighbor said its been abandoned since like 2001 when the owners of the house retired and moved into their vacation property in the exotic tropical lands of Florida. Me and my brother and sisters decided to explore the old haunted house as a Halloween "ghost hunt". Since the house had metal grates over the windows and the doors were locked we decided to enter via the old coal chute door which was overgrown and went into the basement. Once in the basement it smelled terribly of rotten eggs. We saw an old wood stove, a big steel tank a furnace and a bunch of ducts. We then went through a door into the basement, and then we went upstairs into the house. We came out into the kitchen, and we saw what looked like rats, it was dark and the lights didn't work. We then entered the living room and found numerous different kinds of spiders, some with really long legs, little black ones and brown spiders with six eyes and hairy bodies. All of the living room furniture had been chewed on its upholstery. We then found the door to the stairs going up to the bedrooms locked. It was one of those old skeleton key locks, and we found the key in the china cabinet in the dining room which was empty. Once we got upstairs, we heard strange noises from the bedroom walls, and louder sounds from the ceiling and we didn't dare go into the attic. We then went back into the basement and found a TV room, Off to the side of the TV room was a hidden steel door behind a heavy computer desk where the computer was removed. We were able to lift the door enough so that the youngest sister could crawl under it and into the room behind the door. We found that it had an electric opener and we turned the power back on to the old house, and a loud deafening bang shot the furnace room door off its hinges and across the basement. My sister was then able to get the electric opener on the steel door open. Once we got the steel door open we went down a stairway behind the door to a level below the basement and found a heavy vault door with a high security lock. Assuming we found treasure we found a vent next to the vault door and we sent the youngest sister through the duct and into the vault. She was able to get the vault open from the inside after a long crawl through a very tight duct. Inside the vault we found an odd assortment of items. We found a lot of books on subjects such as Law, Physics, Mathematics, Fine Arts, Ballet, Modern Dance, Optics, Economics, Ballroom Dancing, Choreography, Tap Dance, Engineering, Geography, and numerous other subjects. We also found several TVs, and a computers in the vault as well as several trunks full of jewelry and fine lace, as well as numerous paintings, several telephones, a VCR, some kitchen appliances, a grandfather clock, numerous videos about dance. Two Swords, Several Rifles We also found a machine gun, and three pistols. There was also the ornate china plates stored down in the vault as well as numerous photographs, and paper documents in filing cabinets, some ornate lamps, a vacuum cleaner, and numerous fancy clothing items. Since the house is abandoned could we claim the treasures in the vault. Could we read the books and become learned individuals, me and my brother and sisters also want to learn ballet and modern dance, it just looks beautiful from the books We then reclosed the vault door, after having found out the combination and put the vent grill back, and turned the power back off. We left via the furnace room, making sure everything was OK after the loud bang. Was the loud bang from a ghost that had moved in and were the bedroom noises from ghosts. Why was there all sorts of stuff down in that vault that was possibly an old bunker. Why would some keep lace and lacemaking supplies in a vault, and why were the books and art in the vault There were also books with stick figures, and strange symbols alongside music notes, these books were some sort of dance steps that the owner had written. Since they are abandoned could we legally claim the rights to these books. Why were there musical instruments in the vault as well as numerous trophies. Why would this stuff be in the vault and if we wanted to study dance and such could we use the books and videos in the vault and the ballet barre in the basement as long as its abandoned Was the loud bang in the furnace room a sign of real ghosts being angry with us, why would there still be a strong rotten eggs odor from the floor drain in the furnace room, could that be the smell of ghost. Can you explain any of this.

I'm 18 and I have a little brother and he's 16, and I CANT STOP WORRYING ABOUT HIS HEALTH!! ITS SO ANNOYING! I need help dude! Like I always tell myself to not care but I can't help it, every time he gets like a Donught or something with sugar, I say "Don't eat too much sugar because you could get diabetes or heart disease!" Or when he goes to brush his teeth, I always say "Don't forget to floss your teeth so you don't get gum disease!" I have this stupid obsession of worrying about my little brother not being healthy! I'm very healthy I am a little bit of a health nut! And when he sits inside all day and plays video games or eats a lot of sugar and candy one day, it makes me cringe to see his body get unhealthy! It just bothers me when people treat there body like crap, and I think that's what my little brother is doing! I don't want to remind him to do health stuff anymore because it takes away my time in life! Should I just leave him in the dust and do everything I want to do? I just feel like if I don't remind him to do stuff he will get really unhealthy one day and get a bunch of dies eases and be fat and lazy and all of that! I'm worried all day! It's like I'm trying to make him just as healthy as me! He holds his pee in at school so he holds it u till he gets home, is that bad? See stuff like that!! He is so dumb and he is going to ruin his body! Please help! What should I do?

My boyfriend is being treated like a slave, and his parents don't even care or want to know that they have pushed him to the point where he doesn't want to live anymore. His parents do nothing but moan at him and tell him to do everything. They blame him for the most rediculous things ever. The thing that makes this so hard for me is, that he turned 19 this year. He can't speak up for himself or his parents will punish him, isolate him from the outside world in every possible way. He has no freedom what-so-ever, regardless that he by law is allowed to do what ever he would want to. His parents are also breaking our relationship, by making it obvious we're not allowed to see each other or talk to each other. He's getting tired of all of this and has no idea what to do. He feels emotionally destroyed and hopeless. He has no love or support from his parents and it is breaking him. From what I've seen, I have to agree that his parents show no care for the feelings or wellbeing of their son and will get angry at him when he tries to explain to them how he feels. I decided to post this here, even though I've never done something like this before. But we're desparetely looking for a way to stop this. It's going too far and it's breaking my heart to see him so unhappy, and literally lost the will to live due to his parents. Is there any website (in the UK) that I could alert, that he could contact? Anything like such.. Please let me know! Every message will be appreciated!

I'm 15 and my younger sister is 10 and she has major attitude problems. Ever since last year it's been happening. First off, she listens to explicit rap music that she gets from her friends, she always has to respond to you with an attitude in her voice, and I found a secret instagram that she made and she swears a lot on there. Yesterday morning, my youngest sister (8) knocked on her door and called her name. Then my 10 year old sister said WHAT with such attitude in the morning. I told her why are you getting mad in the morning. She says I'm like this in the morning you can't change that. I told her yeah you can change your attitude. And she starts to get mad and walks away stomping and rolling her eyes. I swear I think she's more of a teenager than me. What can i do to help her? We're Catholic too and I just want her to behave well and not be pessimistic all the time.

I'm 20 years and ever since I was 2 I have been dealing with my hearing loss and memory loss. It has had a huge effect on school and I had to repeat the 3rd grade. After I graduated from the 9th grade I was dealing with the same issues again but it was worse. I had to get into special education again to help me graduate with my class but yes I did graduate. After I graduated from highschool I took a long year break because how stressful I was from the schoolwork. I've decided I needed to financially support myself until I decided to enroll into college. I tried getting a job at a ton of places like five below, some stores at the mall, etc No luck but I eventually had a interview at five below but nothing after that. I talked to my mom about working and she would support me but she would turn around a few days later and tell me I don't need to work because I need to focus on school but school was 5-6 months away. I feel like I'm being controlled and I'm lost in a situation I can't get myself out of. I want to get a job to support myself. I want to live with a friend of mine so I can make mistakes and learn from them. I can't do any of that from a mom that's bipolar. What should I do? I can't make my own decisions living at my moms place.

U still want to live with them?

Like if I try to turn the aircon on, she says uh oh its on hot, dont press the button, or if she asks shut the windows, she then asks ahh not that one, that one, make sure its open, maybe the other one, or if she asks to pass the phone, she then presses buttons on the phone assumign i didnt do it right, and then checks another 2 phones etc..

Please don't tell me I'm being stupid or doing it for attention, I'm too old for that ****. But I accidentally left my blade in the bathroom last night and this morning it was sitting on the sink. My mom left for work and didn't say anything to me but she looked mad. I know she's going to bring it up when she gets home and I don't know what to do. She's not understanding at all so I can't just come out and tell her. I could lie and say I accidentally brought it home from work but I know she probably won't believe me. What should I do?? Do I leave it in the bathroom and try to lie? Do I throw it away?

My family is on the verge of falling into poverty, and we're all praying my Dad gets his next job. I'm paying for food with my part-time job money while going to school full-time. My 26 year old live at home, college dropout, refuse to work brother harrass me every night by throwing stuff on my bed while I'm asleep (such as my laptop, cloths, books). I'm sick of it. A week before, we were fine and he was helping me through deal with stress from my part-time job and my ex breaking up with me. Then as the weeks went along, he began saying how I'm faking the stress and that when I don't want to watch TV with him it's because I never want to hang out with him ever. I've school work and I'd rather spend time alone when I'm home, but he wouldn't take that for an answer. I don't want this to continue anymore. There's no benefit for anyone in my house to have to deal with his ****. I've only reacted by telling my parents this, but it's not helping. My parents have decided to kill the whole family once the government comes to take our home. I don't want that, not do I want to take any more of my brother's nonesense.

I'm starting to realize that I'm closer/look up more to/maybe love mt step dad more than my biological dad? I feel really guilty about this but I cant help it. I started growing apart from my dad when my parents divorced when I was 9 (I'm 16 now) and my mom and us moved to a different state. He was never very good to us honestly I forgive him now but it doesn't make what happened disappear or not affect me. He is a crazy controlling dad and wouldn't let us do anything always watching my mom spying on her and had real anger issues and would hit us lock us in closets as punishment had all of our pets put down and lied about it. etc. I'm very hurt by these things and I only recently started remembering and realizing thats what made me scared of him. He's really racist and sexist and homophobic (and I'm gay he doesn't know this I don't know if he will ever) but despite all this I do love him and he does love me I know. My step dad is a very nice loving and respectful man he is very funny and never hurt us or was mean I used to hate him for no reason other than he was dating my mom and I was bitter but I'm over that now fast forward I work with him in a restaurant he and my mom have 2 daughters together and I love them very much and him too. I've never told him I love him but I do. I respect him more than my dad I don't know if this is right? Should I try to be closer with my biological father?

He dose not work due to motorcycle wreck. I have made attempts to clean it. He is refusing for me to do it my way. He uywlla orders and throws things. If I wash dishes he re washes them. He will redo everything. He gets mad and throws things breaks a lot of furniture and glass. His family lives in another state. I want to leave him but I worry that he will kill himself???

Let me tell you what I'm dealing with: -She wont complete my FASFA (requires parent tax info) I've been asking for the last 3 yrs -wont teach me to drive, I have my permit I've been begging for about 4 yrs. -wont take me job hunting -wont allow me to go out on my own -she wont let me take the bus/train -She wont get me a cellphone -We just moved to a foreign country -The nearest town/city from our home is 30min away (not walking distance) - No friends or family around,its just me and her -Every job I try to apply for that's not in "food services" she tries to override it or put off taking me to the interview - She calls me selfish/idiotic for making any plans to better myself. I called a gym to see if they had any classes so I can lose weight. Since I've been out of school (1.5 years) I gained nearly 50 pounds (I have depression, anxiety) I know many of you may say I'm being childish or what not but please understand I don't really have anyone helping me start my life. Even though you all are strangers I cant even begin to say how grateful I'll be when someone finally gives me some form of clarity on what I should do. You know when face enough restriction and dead ends you start to feel like your going crazy and that there no end to this tunnel. I don't know if its my mom or if its me but I just want start my life already. 19 going on 20 is a late start I know and I'm the youngest of my 3 siblings they didn't have a greatest of starts either but you got any advice?

By dad I mean step dad. I didn't ever meet my biological father. Anyways, my mom and dad started dating when I was around four and are getting married November 7th. My parents told my (grown) step brother, and asked if he'd be a witness at the wedding. He blew up because my dad didn't ask his permission to get married. They constantly use, disrespect, and drain my dad of his money. It really hurts my feelings. I wasn't given a dad. I picked him, then earned his love. My biggest fear is disappointing my dad because he does so much for me, and he tries so hard to make sure my mom and I are taken care of. It just hurts to see someone who doesn't deserve my amazing parent has ZERO respect for him. Every time I see them, they are back talking dad or asking for THOUSANDS of dollars. My sister wanted him to move her to London, pay for a masters degree to teach 0-5 yr olds, buy her a new car(3rd brand new car of her choice), and pay for her flat. This cost so much (60,000+ in a months notice) that we could not pay our electric bill. I know all of this because they bring it up right in front of me. (Also because the power went out) I don't know what to do. I try to be the good kid and not ask for much, make good grades, and spend extra time with him so he doesn't feel like all of his kids dislike him. What to do? They won't even come to his wedding because he didn't ask permission to "give away their inheritance". Also said in front of both my mom and I.

Talking to my mother in person isn't easy because she's always negative and so defensive when it comes to expressing things to her about her issues. All my life she has been addicted to cocaine and now that I'm grown with my own children and have come to grips on how things really are I can't stand to see my mother destroy herself and I only see her get worst by the day. Well like I said talking to her in person is out so I've decided to just write her a letter and I'm not sure how to put things in words or what's the nice way to put things so o don't sound so harsh. If anyone can give me some tips on writing an intervention letter or helping me with what to say would be great. Thanks

Don't get me wrong, i love my sister, but their are sometimes were i want to throw her out the window, bc she is SUPER JUDGEMENTAL, I personally don't belive in labels but people label me as "goth" "emo" or "punk". I actually love those fashion and music, however my sister is COMPLETELY against it. bc this one time i wore a shirt with a black cross on it, nothing bad to school, she said "change back". holy **** shes so annoying, also, i love putting makeup to make me look a little pale, but then she got all annoying about it, and she was telling me "dress up like Ariana grande" and i hate ariana grande. and she was all like "she's popular". then im like "just cuz she's popular doesnt mean i have to do it". also, my friends are really nice people, they were never mean to my family or me, but my sister was saying, how all my friends are messed up, ughhh shes SO annoying, and she gives me a 3 hour speech on how i dress up "bad". the speech. doesnt help bc im gonna do the same thing, pls help me, she's REALLY freaking annoying

I've known my bf and his family for about 10 years, having been dating for 3. His sister and I are not very close but I try to keep civil with her. I was dating him 2 weeks in and she complained to other family members that I didn't include her...that said alot. We eventually did on our time, as well as other people but I feel like (to this day) she still grudges me over that. Long story short, she was never supportive in the beginning, was intrusive, bossy about our relationship until she got one of her own the next year. WIthin a year, she got in a relationship, moved in, and got engaged. Since her relationship, she'll find ways to spend time with her man & her brothers without me. I can understand it bc I have a sister whom I'm close to, however, I can't imagine inviting my boyfriend w/o inviting hers. If we'll have sibling time, it would be just us. My bf's sister wanted to go on a trip w her man & her two brothers w/o me; bf refused. Since they got engaged, it's like she uses that status to exclude me & push her partner up in family ranks. "oh since we're engaged now, you're part of the family, so you have to be in the family picture." Again, if the immediate family wants to take pic with them, I'm happy to step out but it gets weird for me. Just bc I'm not engaged to my bf, I can't take a pic with their family. Surprisingly his mother includes me in pictures and family trips. My bf passively stands up for us/me so he'll just pull me into the picture. Now that his sister is married, she'll say things like, "oh I want a picture with just my siblings & since we're married, you're officially a sibling." She tried to have a pic with just them but again, my bf dragged me into the pic and we all ended up taking it together. It's just awkward. We all had a "cousins" dinner and she thanked her family- every single person...except me. She was just engaged & her other cousin (who dated/engaged in a month) was included bc they were engaged but the gf who has known the family for years, in a serious relationship longer than their relationship/engagement combined was included. I feel she uses that (as an advantage) to exclude me & i have no clue why. We may differ opinions on being engaged but it's no reason to exclude people. The women get engaged QUICK in that family & I'm more of the type to focus on career, build a foundation, be financially independent before settling. Bf has talked about marriage but will make his move when I'm ready

I feel like shes purposely trying to hold me back. She wont complete my FASFA & I've been trying for nearly 3 years! Ive completed most of it myself but as you may know it requires your parents tax information & she literally won't budge. So now how am I going to go to college? She hasn't even taught me how to drive yet Ive been asking for nearly 4 years now. I have my permit but she refuses to teach me. I am currently begging her friends to but so far I've heard nothing back probably due to her intervening. We've just done a major move & so I left all my friends & family, we live in this secluded area no towns or cities near by & now im dependant on her. I am looking for a job & I specifically told her that my preferance is not in food services I rather work in a store she comes home with a bunch of applications she picked up from popeyes, mcdonalds, burgerking, etc .Since she said she doesn't have time to go job hunting with me. I tried to apply online to places that i wanted but when its time for interviewing she says she had plans that day, even if I scheduled a week in advance. She's done that with almost every plan I've made. She overrides it or doesn't show up then calls me selfish. I told her I could take the bus/train she says its not safe to run around without a cell phone I asked her to get me one then. Still..waiting. So Im stuck in the house everyday, no friends, no job, no school, no car, and it been this way for 1.5 years. Help me!

So I was raised in an old fashion family, by that I mean my father was the provider he paid bills and what not. My mother was a strong individual and not only was a homemaker (exceptionally great cook) but maintained a part time job. For the most part my family was the old school definition of a family. I have three daughters and fully believe in equality but also believe in old school chivalry. I m struggling to teach my daughters to be strong independent workers but expect a young man to be chivalrous to them. Help please?

My dad killed himself 2 days ago, but i feel like it only happened moments ago. I cant describe how i feel rate now through words i just miss him so much, I'm 15 years old and my parents would always fight. My dad was also an alcoholic, who drank a lot, he also took some pain killers for his back because he hurt his back while helping me lift my couch a while ago. But on October 7th my dad got in a fight with my mom while i was in the house.He pulled out his 44 magnum from his safe ran in to the woods and i heard a gun shot. Police came, and it all just felt like a dream, like it wasn't real, like id see my dad walk through the door and say hey buddy whats up. I cant wrap my head around the thought that all the memories i shared with my dad are gone, just lost and forgotten, like when he took me on ski trips, was there for me when i applied for my first job, im just confused, lost, i don't know what to do. I've turned to god know, i have all my trust in him that he will make this better for me, and my whole family, especially for my mom who is heartbroken. (Sorry if this made you upset, no one has to say anything i just had to get this off my chest, i'm not the kind of kid to tell people this straight up, i don't like to show emotion this was the only way to get this feeling out of my chest)

Soooo my father and brother is always running things in my face. I m 18 don t have a permit, will get like ASAP very soon. My dads low on money but they blame it on me. I don t have my diploma yet cause I m missing credits(like .5!!) but I told them I m done with high school, I just have to go collect it. I have to beg my counselor for it. But anyway, they tell me such ****** up things rub it in my face, yell at me, say I m stupid,dumb, retarted, you ******* waste of life, you damn bum, I m 5.4 with a baby face, but they call me midget you short ****, they re always ready to hit me and fight me(I d never fight back). My brother has a girlfriend and he thinks he s the ****. Her too! I don t want to hurt them or anything but I wanna make them pay, like get so much money!!! Lol and don t give them anything! The things they tell me made me wanna just loll myself sometimes! I ll be 17 in like 1 month, I never smoked in my life and drake like very little! Last time I drank was maybe over 1 year and a half. I m a good kid. My brother smokes so much weed spends money on it every weekend. Smokes so many cigarettes and drinks like hell. What should I do? I can t get a job without this diploma so again what should I do??? Please help me!!