my mum and dad argue about stupid things and my dad gets mad at random things as if you meant it. i never share how i feel or whatever because i cant point to specific causes and my mum seems to enjoy taking the piss out of me by pointing to random **** like oh is it the cat? because we were on our way abroad by car, and were on the ferry and left our cat in the car, and in my mental state i was paranoid and scared for him and mad that my dad doesnt notice my struggle in the back because he meowed alot and my dad would just drive fast and really retardedly. also what pisses me off is that my mum allows herself to be shouted at until she builds it up and gets mad at something my dad says (based on past arguments and her pent up anger), to where its just like she looks wrong. like our family cant communicate about anything and i dont think we ever will lol. i started thinking my dad was a narcissist or something because he is closed minded as hell regardless if he says he isnt. he s the typical conspiracy guy and hates the govt and everyone and is really pessimistic.. like i cant listen to rap around him and have to censor myself for some reason idk.. its just gotten worse and im always quiet now and like cant say no or ask or suggest things because i think he s made me feel like im just dumb and not as smart as he is. he also said like youre just a teenager and you guys have no stress at all, watch when you you grow up.. like look at how tired your mum is be happy ...

i'm 14, about to be 15 in 3 months, and was wondering if there is a place i can go until i'm 18. I'm having a hard time at home with family relationships and have had depressive and school refusal episodes for about a year now, it's to where a point my family doesn't even want me in the house and i need to go. I don't have any family members i could go live with. Where can i go?

My sister wakes up at 11 or 12 usually. My dad knocked on her door and asked her if she wanted him to buy doughnuts from the store. He said "mom and i will be back in an hour, is that alright with you?" and she said "ok." Is that weird? Its normal in my house but then when i thought about it again i was like... wait. And shes a bit spoiled, she does get most of what she asks for, whether it be restauraunt money or going over to her friends, or eating in the computer room, etc doughnuts for breakfast

My mother feels bad for these people she just met at her church. She has been giving them money and food. The man is a teacher and his wife is an illegal immigrant from the Philippines. He is so much older than her and the girl comes off as extremely naive. >She genuinely thought that she can come work here without becoming a citizen with no problems. (My mother came from Trinidad and became a citizen.) >The man apparently had a relationship with her sister and had two kids with her first. >They've been living out of motels and cars. When the man is at work, the poor girl sits and waits in the hot car. >They have been coming over alot lately for free food. AKA the food I buy. And the girl tells my mom how she's been so stressed and crying. The man recently had a heart attack and was admitted into the hospital. He was kicked out today for not having insurance. My mother thinks it's her place to help these people when she can hardly take care of herself. She is currently working two jobs and still needs money from me all the time. I buy the groceries and help pay the bills. I can't help that much because all I have in a min.wage job and I pay for my car bills and college books/classes. She takes 1500 a month from my dad. They aren't even together it's complicated. Why does she think this has anything to do with her? This isn't even the first time she did something like this. AND IT DID NOT END WELL. I just don't feel safe. My dad isn't too happy about this either.

I never asked for grandkids. My son is 34 and has another baby on the way and he has no consideration for how it will impact my life. I never planned on having another child after my son was fully grown. I don't like things that are outside of my control.

I just finished school and moved with my mom. Her boyfriend doesn't want me there. I have to find a place to live. But I have no job. I have been applying but nothing yet. I know I'll get a job soon but I need to move out ASAP. The thing is my stepdad makes a lot of money. So does my real father but he's not in my life. My mom relies on my stepdad. I'm worried I can't apply for benefits or anything like that because of where I'm staying now. Please help

I know there s no excuse for what I did. The situation I m 14 and I ve been stealing money for 2 years. Maybe 6k-8k at most. Just on dumb stuff like food and Netflix. My mom makes me deal with her money paying bills, morgage, managing it...etc. Shes very toxic and mean to me but she has her moments wheres she kind. shes very hard on me and bullies me and tries to blame me for her depression, Shes tried to kick me out 4 times. We moved to texas and my uncle her son my brother legal checks her account and saw the transactions she took my phone and is selling it plus other stuff to pay it back. I feel really guilty I honestly don t know why I did it it didn t see much everytime 10 dollars her maybe 40 her and it adds up. I don t want to hurt her and I know I broke her trust how can I gain it back and help her. Plus now my uncle wants to talk to me he already thinks im spoiled and just like my biological mom. I know my whole family is going to hate me and I don t blame them theres nothing I can say to defend myself what I did was wrong and bad and I don t know why I did it. I kept doing it even though I felt really really bad afterwards. I know Im super dumb and shouldn t of but I don t know what to do shes so mad

I'm a 16-year-old Swede. when I become 18 years old, I'd love to get away from my parents, but I'm not sure I have the guts to starve to death homeless in the woods. If I move out as soon as I become 18 years old, will I starve to death homeless in the woods? I just want to get away from my parents, but it seems that I'm stuck, unless I want to die.

so apparently, in most african (as well as asian) cultures, parents treat their kids like babies, whether figuratively or literally. even though im a high school senior, my nigerian parents still makes me drink from a sippy cup with a picture of the cookie monster on it. they make me carry it to school, to church, to work, to everywhere. it's so embarrassing when people look at it, point fingers, and laugh at me. my mom also makes me wear a bib when we eat. my best friend is korean, and his mom makes him wear diapers to school, and she even goes into the women's restroom to change his diaper and breastfeed me, or at least thats what ive heard. i meant "breastfeed him". sorry, typo

she makes me wear a bib at every meal, including when im at school and when we go out to eat. and im 13 years old.

a few days ago my neighbors lost their 5 year old son to a disease. their only son.i went the burial yesterday. the mother had a nervous breakdown and she even yell that she wanted to kill herself when they were lowering the coffin to the ground. to be honest it hurt seeing these parents go through this pain cause i'm a father and i wouldn't want to bury my child. any of you ever lost a child? how do you overcome it?

The way in which her father interacted with her as she was growing up is a major factor in how a woman's nervous system is wired, which in turn impacts her physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health, her self-image, her view of the world, and the ease – or otherwise – with which she loves and trusts as a woman. The first man every female bonds with is her father, and that imprints on her so strongly that any later relationships with men – including romantic ones – are filtered through that experience. Daughters need to know that the first man in their life loved them unconditionally, as all her relationships with men will be patterned after that first love. Most women subconsciously gravitate towards men who accord her the same level – or lack – of value and empathy our fathers did. So if your father neglected to let you know how special and valuable you are, you may attract similar relationships with men in your adult life, unaware that you deserve better...... Too bad Ah didn't realize this sooner...

I just heard my mom having sex with this dude and OH MY EARS. Im having a mental break down. Someone help. My friends wouldnt understand... this is not a joke. I just talked to her. Well. I guess "talk" is an exaggeration... I walked out of my room. Looked at her. Screamed "NO NO NO NO NO NO NO" while simultaneously curling up into a ball and pivoting my way across the floor back into my room. (not joking) I think she got the message. Also Im shaking an insane amount... So thats great.

My property within the house and yard belongs to me. How can I legally protect myself from her throwing out what's mine?

TheMy brother has for awhile started to think that my father has been lying and everything that doesn t go his way is our fathers fault. He keeps saying he deserves to go on the street and should never have existed or should die and that he s a terrible person. He keeps blaming him for things and yet he says he doesn t remember anything that my father did wrong. I am concerned because this is really tearing them up and my father is a wonderful man. He is patient and is often the one trying to help squeeze things in for him so he can see all his friends. What can we do to get him better???

I yearn for a k9 in my life so bad,it hurts me so much. My parents won't let me because they think they're dumb. (EVen though my mom has like 15 cats) Is there any possible way I Can convince them?

It's so weird. This person is very nice on the outside but when he texts you he says things like how I don't really care about him and other things that are questionable and kinda mean. How do you deal with this person?

I know I'm probably not but as a kid we often did because my parents never wanted to go due to family conflicts. I really want to be close and so I'm terrified that I'm missing out on something. I can't ask or it would be like I was inviting myself. When my grandmother was alive they always did get together at Labor Day and we always missed out except once. I fear this all the time, especially holiday weekends.

My cousin lives with her boyfriend in his house. My husband and I came to visit. We stayed downstairs they were upstairs. I could hear them doing it for a couple hours. Mainly him grunting moaning yelling and my cousin giggling you could also hear the bed. Breakfast was uncomfortable to say the least, waffles were good though

She's been with my son for a couple years now and they have a daughter. Whenever I see her it's only really when her and my son are bringing my granddaughter over to see me for a bit or at the occasional family gathering. But I want to have a friendship and a bond with her. I invited her to my hen party and a girls night in that I had at my house and she said She couldn't come to either. She came to my wedding but didn't come to the after party, I gave her the benefit of the doubt though as she was 7 months pregnant at the time. I even asked if she wanted to go for food the other day and she said she couldn't. She's always polite and friendly to me whenever I see her but I get the feeling that she's just not interested in having an actual friendship or proper relationship with me. Maybe I'm not her sort of person, I am quite a lot to be around sometimes I guess due to my disability from alcohol abuse. Should I just respect that she doesn't want to have a proper relationship with me. As I say I only see her and speak to her when her son and my granddaughter are there too.

I am a doctor, I have a fiancee....and two older sibblings with their own wives and families. Being the last child, AND a doctor, the lion's share of my Mom's daily care falls onto me. It often interferes with my own relationship. Some nights I stay up and wonder to myself if it's worth it. What if one day my fiancee gets fed up and decides that she wants a man who is unburdened by sick parents. What if I have to skip out on opportunities to specialize, because I am caring for my mother. Will it be worth it ? I dunno God, I dunno. I posted this in another forum, and apparently most women don't like the idea of a husband who's time is consumed caring for an ailing parent....so I guess my relationship is doomed...cuz my Mom is only gonna get worse with time. I am only at the START of my career....so I have not built up a cadre of nurses who I can trust yet. I want to START my life ...my older sibbling have all started their families already. We have tried hired help already but...our Mom chased them out.

Growing up my parents never hugged me or said they loved me and they always fed me canned spaghetti ramen noodles. While they cooked themselves steak and other stuff. They always brought bedroom furniture for their room and living room furniture and me and siblings had to sleep on the floor with a thin sheet. Today as in the present I still am very uncomfortable hugging people I don't like hugging and I don't feel comfortable letting people in. I am 22 and still a virgin I know that's still young but I'm afraid I'll never experience that because I can't bring myself up to letting someone that close to me. I'm very lonely but at the same time I can't create lasting relationships with others whether it be sexual or just being friends

Ok like I get jealous of other girls with self confidence. Like when I was 14 I became slightly overweight and my mom just insults me and make fun of me, and let say I was getting lower grades and I was not sociable, and in addition I use to watch bad things but now I stop. I lost weight and I'm getting better grades and I stop my bad habits, but just today my mom was reminding me about my watching bad videos in the past I started fighting with her. I'm 19 now but I feel mad I use to be nervous in past, I just want to enjoy life but my mom always insulting me.

I'm a 17 year old girl but growling up my parents treated me differently than my younger sisters and they never called about my achievements. - my younger sisters 13 and 10 are allowed at sleep overs while I was not. ( btw I was always a good kid I never drank or smoked or did any drugs.) -my parents always shamed me for my weight and appearances. While they always called my sisters beautiful just the way the are. - They let get away with stuff I was never allowed to such as coming home late.( I never proved myself untrustworthy and usually kept to myself at home while my 13 year old sister snuck an older guy over to the house multiple times) -my my parents calls me a fat pig or and ugly cow which is ironic I'm the skinniest out of the family and I only weigh 83 pounds.(I'm 4 foot 10) -on the other my 13 year old sister would make fun of my petite frame and call herself a "thicc Queen". -none of my parents even bothered to attend my orchestra concerts or my swim meets or actually put any effort into me. I always worked my butt off and took a lot of honors and ap classes in school yet I'm still considered lazy to them. Even though I get straight As. I just don't know what to do anymore and I never feel good enough.

I guess it takes time to just learn how to accept them as they are and try to see the good in them and also dont expect much from them obviously. I got past that stage of learning not to expect anythng from them. Now its learning to deal with them without getting too irritated or caring much. How else can you really deal with a narcissistic parent? Care way less.